do you read your hubby's text messages?

[tashasabs]

^Nag-aaral ka pa rin pala. How old are you kung okay lang itanong saka anong course mo? 

[ayami]

^ 22 na ko, yung husband ko 23, BA Public Administration course sa UP Diliman (na initially Engineering ako pero bumagsak ako so up to now aral pa rin plus nahinto dahil nagbaby hehe)

[tashasabs]

^Bata ka pa rin pala sis. Ako naman turning 21, si husband turning 23. Three kids na tapos buntis ako sa fourth (and last) baby namin. Si husband sa UST, BS Pharmacy, graduating next year. Ako naman saka na mag-aaral kapag mga 23 years old na ko. BSE English naman yung akin. 

[jobelle1984]

ALWAYS...i don't know why.i know that it's wrong but what should i do...i used to it...haha

[manang02]

^ ang sad naman nyan sis. 

I am also doing it with my current bf. Pero di madalas, pag naramdaman ko lang na may something.
Just like yesterday, we're on a trip, daming beses ko napansin na laging nagte-text which is very unusual sa kanya. Tapos one time, maliligo sya kasama ba naman ang phone. Tinanong ko pero nag-alibi lang. Kaya nung nakatulog sya, ni-check ko at yun me something nga.

And now I'm sad, torn and broken-hearted. Pero I have to be happy in front of him kahit deep inside I'm already furious and want to confront him. Malalaman kasi nya ni-check ko yung phone nya, eh hate nya yun. Kaya ngayon, intay intay muna ako ng right time to vent it all out. haay hirap!!

[beatrize zuri]

sometimes,. minsan wala kong pakialam sa phone niya kasi alam ko naman wala siyang tinatago sakin, madalas ako pa nag rereply ng mga text sa kanya kasi tamad din magtext yon.
 
babyphat- grabe naman husband mo, naitago niya yon ng ganon katagal? kamusta naman yung pakikitungo niya sayo sis? ang hirap talaga pag infidelity ang issue, hirap ibalik ang tiwala. 

[galexy]

yes i do read his [textspeak!] msgs sometimes. just checking baka may katextmate na hubby ko na hindi ko alam. mabuti nang malaman habang maaga pa, yung hndi pa masyadong marunong magtago.

[maybelleslife]

unauthorized reading? very seldom. only if the i sense something unusual (not really third party, kahit issues ng family nya) but 99% of the time, I don't touch his phone unless he asks me to read something or whatever. I respect his "privacy" as much as I want him to respect mine too.

What I don't know won't hurt me.

[rae]

^ amen to that.

I think that's why I dont read his phone too. I want my privacy respected, and wala naman akong kalokohan.

Gusto ko lang na kahit magkasama kami, we still remain individuals.

Kaya I'm comfortable not reading his texts. We dont share passwords din, of email accounts and social networking accounts.

Siguro wala din naman akong nakikitang tell-tale signs na kelangan kong magresort to checking his messages. Until then, ill leave his phone alone.

[maybelleslife]

^ same here sis. Though he tells me his passwords sa email and social network but I don't see a reason why I would pry on his "personal" space.

so yung phone namin dalawa nakalatag lang yan sa house and no one will pick it up and read messages. even phone calls, bihira lang that i will ask him who called and why.

[ilykeee]

We have two sets of number. Smart & Sun for me and Globe & Sun for him. Usapan namin yung sun number namin gagamitin lang namin para sa paguusap namin dalawa and yung isang sim ang alam ng mga tao na number nmin. Eto napag usapan namin nung mag bf/gf palang para anyone na magttext sa sun nmin ay for sure hinde namin kilala. Sa ngaun mag-asawa na kami hinde na namin nagagamit ang sun madalas kasi lagi naman kami magkasama so ginagamit narin namin ngayon pag nakikipag-usap sa iba. May access naman ako sa fone nya at sa fone ko rin may access sya. Hinde naman dumarating sa point na gusto namin maghalungkat ng message from other people sa fone kasi open naman kami sa isat isa. Sya rin pinagpapareply ko minsan sa fone ko pag may ginagawa ako at gnun rin sya.

[imbisibol_]

not at all.  i have better things to do with my time.  i also know his passwords to his email and facebook accounts, but i don't go into those as well.  something must be wrong with me.. 

[i_v_y]

yes i do. dati hindi to issue sa kanya. pero since nambabae sia, naging issue na sa kanya. lalo na sa phone ko sia nahuhuli.

now, yung phone nia, hindi ko na talaga makita na hindi nia hawak. pag hindi nia hawak like pag tulog sia, it is nowhere in sight. dati nasa tabi lang ng kama, sa baba ng kama, sa ilalim ng unan. ngayon, wala na akong clue kung nasaan.

[whitelady17]

sis Ivy, try mo kya i pa ring kapag matutulog na kayo para magka idea ka kung saan nakatago.. suggestion lang naman

[Ms_Candy]

yes, ok lang naman kay hubby eh, saka iisa lang din number gamit namen.. mas madalas ako pa may hawak ng fone 

[i_v_y]

sis Ivy, try mo kya i pa ring kapag matutulog na kayo para magka idea ka kung saan nakatago.. suggestion lang naman

sis naisip ko na yan pero alam ko naka silent yun. kasi kahit andito sia sa bahay, at katabi ko, nagtetext sia pero never ako naka dinig ng nagring or may tumunog ang phone nia. kapag nag miss call ako sa kanya at nakita nia, masyadong obvious talagang hinahanap ko.

[agape]

^Ivy, me history na pala sya ng pambababae. So i guess it's safe to conclude na meron nga. What do you plan to do once you get a hold of his celfon ba?

[imbisibol_]

^ my unsolicited advice:

1.  if you have access to his phone statements, review for suspect text message exchange patterns.  look out for volume of messages, speed of replies, and time of day. 

2.  once you've pinpointed a probable phone number whose owner is the one your husband is playing with, note it down.

3.  the next time you can borrow/steal your husband's cellphone for a moment, look for that number in the address book.  it will of course have a name associated with it.  change the phone number for that name to your phone number.  this way, if any, you'll get the text messages your husband sends out.  you can even reply back to further bait him.

4.  if you find a smoking gun, be ready to accept it and act accordingly.

good luck. 

[i_v_y]

^^ hi sis thanks for the tips.

i have already done these.  believe me. since sa phone ko sia nahuhuli, talagang nagiging maingat na sia na hindi na nia iniiwan ang phone nia unattended.

dati nga pinalitan ko pa yung name ng babae sa phone nia ng "huli ka!"

[mamapeew]

^^ i like your tips. Unfortunately, numbers for sent or received msgs do not reflect on the monthly statement & in my case, my hubby's phone has a passcode since accdg to him, he has messages from work that are very confidential.

It doesn't bother me before but there are times when i worry.