Falling for a much Older Guy!

[Marine]

^^sis, hindi kami ok right now.. and i don't know if magiging ok pa kami.. almost 3weeks na kaming walang communication - text, emails, fb/ym msgs.. wala talaga.. may ginawa kasi ako.. i made an fb account using his name, personal infos.. etc. then profile pic is picture naming 2.. then gumawa din ako ng album na puro pics naming together.. then i invited lahat ng mga nakukwento niyang friends niya, family niya etc.. one of my way "sana" para malaman yung totoo.. may mga nag-approve na family and friends nya.. hinihintay ko ngang may mag message sa akin at magtanong about us, pero wala naman... then on that day rin, nagmessage siya sa account na ginawa ko.. he told me "to stop what i'm doing before it gets out of hand", then after that nag-post siya ng status sa account niya telling na "don't accept other request kasi yun lang ang account niya and he is sorry for the inconvenient"..

weird thing is, hindi niya ako tinetext or tinatawagan about that.. ako na nga uli ang nag-ask sa kanya na mag-usap kami once and for all para magkaliwanagan na.. pero ayaw niya..

sabi na nga rin ng mga friends ko, sa ginawa niya, para na rin niyang inamin na meron talaga.. wife or fiance or gf or kung sino man.. kasi sa status niya, itinanggi na niya ako dun eh..

mahirap kasi everyday ko siya nakikita.. same company kasi kami.. same floor.. sobrang lapit pa ng room nya sa pwesto ko.. pero i'm ok naman. dina-divert ko na lang mind ko sa ibang bagay para hindi ako masyadong mag-focus sa situation namin...

[queendi]

^awwww!

Somethin's not right nga sis. And I know kung gaano kahirap ang situation na yan. Kinaya ko, kakayanin mo rin. Halos mabaliw na ako dati, pero hindi ko ipinahalata kahit na kanino lalo na sa kanya.

[phoebe1811]

yun nga mga sis "older guy" marami na silang experience & they know those loopholes...
they know to make palusot regarding things. e ang girls pa naman basta mabigyan lang ng promises & madaan sa mga sweet nothings eh bumibigay (not all naman pero usually).
we must be more skeptic if we feel something aint right then there is. 

[ullala]

I recently heard Taylor Swift's song called Dear John and I couldn't help but relate to that song. I feel that because of the additional years that he had on me I was at a super disadvantageous position in our relationship.

There were times when I ignored my instincts just to please him or not to cause a fuss. Don't make the same mistake. Old men know how to play mind games if they are powerful and influential in their professional careers and they will no doubt use it to get the girls they want.

[littlekinselle]

I recently heard Taylor Swift's song called Dear John and I couldn't help but relate to that song. I feel that because of the additional years that he had on me I was at a super disadvantageous position in our relationship.

There were times when I ignored my instincts just to please him or not to cause a fuss. Don't make the same mistake. Old men know how to play mind games if they are powerful and influential in their professional careers and they will no doubt use it to get the girls they want.

Indeed...They're very domineering, but some old men thinks like a child but not all..

[katrinac]

marine - oh no sis, virtual hugs for you.

let me share you my own version. pero dati pa to, bago kami ikasal ni hubby. (sorry sa long read)

i was a college student that time. naging instructor namin sya sa NSTP. kinuha nya number ko from my classmate. age gap namin 11 years too sis. yung una, super okay kami. pakilala nya single sya. pero there was a time na sinasabi nya, na since he's too busy, there might be times na di sya makakapag text sakin. every weekends yun. come new year, (forgot na kung anong taon yun) may nag text sakin na babae, only to find out na married na pala sya. napag dugtong dugtong ko lahat yung times na di sya nagpaparamdam sakin. and just like you, may times pa na more than a week sya di mag paparamdam. and eto pa ang malupit, gusto lang nya is sa Alabang lang kami mamamasyal. kasi from QC ang family nya. syempre, todo alibi si guy, nahuli na todo deny pa sya. sabi nya, kesyo hiwalay na daw sya sa wife nya. matagal na daw sila separated. yada yada. habol lang daw nya anak nya. out of curiousity, sige, pumayag ako, dahil all the while akala ko hiwalay na talaga sila. O well, daming namamatay sa akala talaga sis. just like you, gumawa ako ng sarili kong account, but i pretended to be someone else. hehe. i nadd ko yung wife nya, only to find out again, na di pala talaga sila hiwalay! na super happy sila (now i don't know kung bakit pa nakikipag relasyon tong si guy sakin) ang mali ko lang, bakit ko pa tinuloy diba? lesson learned talaga. that was the biggest mistake na nagawa ko. so the moment na nakita ko yun, di na ako nakipag kita. up to now, nag memessage sya sakin, pero binlock ko na sya. pero last words ko sa kanya, ayusin na nya buhay nya. he has a beautiful family and wag nya kako sirain yun.

Alam ni hubby yung nanyari sakin dati, pero past is past na nga. pero halos manlumo sya nung nalaman nya yun. but then, i am super happy na nakawala ako sa ganon na relationship. i don't consider it as a happy relationship, and di rin naman kami madalas magkasama. dahil para sya bula, na biglang nawawala.

If  i were you sis, investigate ng maigi. give him reasons to prove you na single talaga sya. yung part palang na nagalit sya sayo sis sa pag invite and pag gawa ng account, may mali na dyan sis.

[ohcmon]

I'm kinda dating this guy who's 20 years my senior. Single, never married, no kids... Busy masyado sa job kaya single pa rin and he always says na hindi raw hinahanap 'yung someone to spend the rest of his life with, dumarating daw.

In fairness, I don't feel the gap at all. Medyo bothered lang ako kasi I'm a fresh grad and he's established na in his field, only child siya and mom niya nalang alive so kahit papano iniisip ko rin sasabihin ng mom niya about me.

[Huntress Krystle]

Dati, gusto ko yung asa age range ko or even younger than me (wag lang lalampas ng 3 yrs.). But now na mas nagma-mature na ako, yung older guy na ang hinahanap ko. Naghahanap din kasi ako ng mga qualities ng isang dad na hindi ko naranasan nung youth ko. Gusto ko yung mas matanda at mature sakin.

[yha_chun24]

i'm attracted to this guy, foreigner actually, 18 years older than me pero di halata naman sa looks nya.. i never thought na magiging ganun yung feeling ko lalo na before tingin ko sa mga foreigners eh masyadong seryoso..but he's different..napakajolly nya, yung outlook nya sa life di matatawaran, he never failed to make me happy kahit sa mga simple messages lang nya.

but these past few days, exactly a week now, bigla di sya nagpaparamdan.. i'm almost falling for him.. napaisip tuloy ako, ang hirap pala ng ganito, yung tipong kelangan mo maging mature para maintindihan yung mga bagay like yung pagiging busy ng isang tao at intindihin na yung time nya is hindi lang para sayo

[littlekinselle]

my bf  are 10 yrs older than me.. well sana siya na nga, before he courting me he told me everything about his past. nag sabi na siya sa past niya he's separated before wala siya anak their marriage lasted  4 months then when his ex-wife went to Dubai dun nag start ang infidelity ng girl. Anyways the first thing I admire his wits and he never fails me to make me laugh then he's a father figure ba haha matagal ko kasi di nakasama papa ko  kaya siguro I feel so secured every time I'm with him. Tapos ang Spoiled ko pa sakanya haha..  hayy I Miss him na makauwi na sana ako sa PH 

[imyourangel]

I really prefer older guys (but not older than 10 years siguro). They are very mature, masarap at may sense kausap.

Yun lang, tapos na ako sa phase na ito. My heart just got broken. Lol. Anyway it's my fault, I still pursued him even though he has a stable girlfriend (before, wife now).

[pretty_in_white]

Ingat lang with older men, maraming mahilig manloko diyan.  Alamin niya yung friends, and work place.  Best way to check talaga is through Facebook, doon mo makikita.

[ohcmon]

napaisip tuloy ako, ang hirap pala ng ganito, yung tipong kelangan mo maging mature para maintindihan yung mga bagay like yung pagiging busy ng isang tao at intindihin na yung time nya is hindi lang para sayo

This is so true! The guy I mentioned in my previous post, super dalang magtext. Like in a day, swerte na kung aabot ng 10. Medyo nakakapanibago kasi the guys I used to date, text talaga to the max but not him.

[yha_chun24]

sis ohcmon, ang  hirap noh?pag iyong before nasanay ka na inuulan ka ng messages ng mga previous guys na naging involved sayo taz all of a sudden eto ka ngayun, pinipilit intindihin yung isang taong gusto mo na kung bakit di sya nagpaparamdam, yung tipong ikaw na ang nagiisip ng dahilan kung bakit ganun and yung dahilan na un is valid  ganun siguro talaga pag older and mature na ang isang guy, yung mga priorities nya sa life di nya kinakalimutan unlike pag younger, may tendency pa na masyado syang attached sayo at isantabi ang ibang mga bagay-bagay..

[iwannabeasupermodel]

the down side is that di ba men have shorter life span than women, then you'd choose an older man, so...   

[i_v_y]

This may shock you. I had a boyfriend who was 23 years older. I was 20 and he was 43 then. We had so much fun together, I never felt the disparity between us. He was not the DOM type of guy. He looked very and still looks young for his age (now he is 55). Tipong Vic Sotto sia. He could make any woman fall in love with him. He is a real cassanova. He was my first love and he never treated me na bata ako. He would take me to social functions and would let me talk to mature people by myself. At his age, he had mastered the art of romance and he swept me off my feet. Spontaneous kami and we loved the same stuff. Sabi nia he liked that I was smart and that he could actually have whatever conversation with me.

The deal breaker? He is a womanizer. We lasted for about 5 years on and off. But hinahanap hanap ko pa din sia until now. Tama yung sinabi nia sa akin noon, "after me, like lou rawls said,  you will never find another love like mine"...  Parang sumpa kasi totoo.

[Serena.]

Im also attracted to older guys. 5 years max for me. beyond that bye-bye lol

because they're matured and a good investment to share my life with.
because im too mature for my age
and because they love girls unconditionally (not all, but most)



xxx

[sweetpreppy]

For some people, age doesn't matter, but for some, it really does. for me, we all have different perceptions, as long as your happy with what you're doing then go.

[pooka08]

that's what i told myself back then, +4 max lang and ideal ko yun. But minsan kasi, hindi mo naman masabi. it just happens. if nagclick kayo, if he makes you happy, if he makes you a better version of yourself. Complement kung baga. Kahit 10 years pa ang gap. Love can exist bet. them. mas masarap kausap ang mature person and yung hindi na nagdodota, binge drink, etc. Older men kasi can show you the world. He's well established in his career and his life, and they are a lot better in communicating. The way he handles jealousy and other issues, napagdaan na din kasi nila yun. Dami na niyang experiences eh. (which, is a drawback sometimes, sa dami niyang experience, okay sana if you shared it with him - mga "the Firsts" bec. sometimes since na-experience na niya, say parasailing, iba na kesa, basta you get the gist )

[yengyeng]

Ako rin naman i prefer older men. yung ex ko, 6 years gap. yun nga lang, isip bata pa sakin.. kainis.