Kaya mo bang walang katulong/driver (househelp)

[imeego]

Honestly no kahit sahm ako... I have 2 kids, 4 yr old boy and 1 yr old girl, and di ko maimagine na wala maski isang helper.. Actually kaya ko gawin lahat ng chores but, di ko pwedeng iwanan mga kids ko na walang nakabantay, kahit sa school di kami kampante ng husband ko na walang yaya na sasama sa little boy ko..plus, my husband works 7 days a week at madalas 9 pm na nakakauwi so walang pwedeng tumulong..our house is medyo big pa kaya problema din ang paglilinis..so my answer is no talaga lol

[lalawhoopsy]

Ang sakit sa katawan lalo na paglinis ng banyo. ang hirap maging solo na all around may anak pa ako mag aaral sa pasukan. Wala man lang maglinis ng bahay habang asikasohin ko sana anak ko. Pag napapagod ako ang lamig ng pawis ko saka sumusumpong ulcer ko .

[bagaholic_chewy]

Nung kami pa lang ni husband, wala kami helper. Kaya ko maglaba at maghugas at magluto. Since mura lang magpa-laundry sa Pinas, nagpapalaundry kami sa labas. When we were based abroad, ako nagla-laundry.

Pero yung plantsa at linis, di ko talaga kaya,  so we get part-timers for that. Here sa Pinas, my kuya's helper used to go to us every 2 weeks, during her dayoff to clean and plantsa. When we lived abroad, me maid services kami tinatawagan para pumunta sa amin 2-3x a month.

But since nabuntis ako, and now na meron na baby, me helpers na kami. When we travel, when we go out of town, hotel staycation or if usual weekend lakad like pedia visits, etc, minsan kaming 3 lang ni hubby and baby. Kaya naman, pero super-pagod lalo't lumilikot na si baby. Laking ginhawa na meron kami assistants in doing chores, in running errands and in taking care of the baby.

As for driver, kaya na walang driver. Si hubby "driver" namin. If wala si hubby, or need ang additional sasakyan, we borrow my in-laws' driver. Tsaka me Uber or Grab naman, if may personal errands. Tho mag-aaral ako mag-drive soon. Sayang din kasi ang extra sasakyan, walang gumagamit.

[mommyxthree]

mag 5 months na kami walang helper/maid. hirap maghanap! pero we get by.. di laging maayos ang bahay. tulong tulong. i get tips from the internet on organizing and cleaning. it helps to have a check list too

[j.adore]

There was never a need for a driver because we all know how to drive saka we like control over the wheel plus taking care of our own cars.

We used to have maids growing up but got tired because of problems (yung mga ok had to leave then the rest that followed cannot compare).
So we learned to help each other.

Now that I'm married, we chose a small place that we can manage. Every 6 months though kuha ng helper for general cleaning. Meron cleaning business yung half day lang or per hour.

My condition for my husband if he wants to buy a big house is kailangan madami maid kasi hindi na kaya maintain kung wala.

[sugardrop]

Nope. My back hinders me from doing a lot of household work. Even washing the dishes, sumasakit likod ko pag medyo naka-bend ng konti. Even pagwawalis. Need talaga ang helper for us.

[Cheesecak3]

Kaya ko naman na walang driver kasi mas gusto ko naman na ako magdrive pero hindi ko kaya na walang helper kasi hindi ako marunong magluto. I can clean the house and take care of the baby but with my business, hindi ko na maasikaso lahat.

[grace08]

hay naku. hirap talaga humanap ng maid. hirap din ng may maid lalo na pag pasaway. laging  magulo house namin kasi wala na naman maid.   i have 15  , 10, 10, 8 and 7 yrs old kiddos. ..presently pregnant buti na nga lang yung ibang kids ko nagsasaing na and konting linis linis. i invested pa din sa automatic wm, dryer and dishwasher.  next target ko is robot na naglilinis ... wishing....  nakakahiya langbpag may bisita kasi ang gulo ng bahay. hanggang 3rd floor pa naman . di na kaya ng powers namin. hopefully may dumating bago ako ma cs ng october....

[lalawhoopsy]

Mas okay na din tiyagaan na lang bahala na si Batman. Masikip din kasi bahay namin hirap ng sa sala siya lagi natutulog pag nakahiga na siya di na kami maka kilos masyado sa labas ng kwarto. Okay na din nakatipid ng halos 6.5k sa isang buwan akin na lang yon pambili ng luho ko belat hehe.

[mommyxthree]

I wish my Roomba na dito. Malaking tulong ang automatic vacuum cleaner!
Sa ngayon, magulo din ang house namin pero ayoko ng isipin yon. Basta pa isa isa ang house work para di ma stress out. Ang lunch and dinner, yung madali lang lutuin.

[teal_rayy]

Same tyo ng worries ang hirap makahanap ng helper nowadays Madami na akong nainterview sadly failed to meet my expectations. I have to go back to school next june wala pa din kaming helper. Ang hirap lalo na ang dami kong dogs. Kailangan ko matiyaga sa bata at mahilig sa aso..

Goodluck with that    That would be a very rare combination.  Puro tamad mga maids ngayon pero for sure may makikita ka rin pero talagang referral ang pinakamaayos.

[j.adore]

In our experience, it doesn't matter if referral or not

[twelvth_goddess]

mag 5 months na kami walang helper/maid. hirap maghanap! pero we get by.. di laging maayos ang bahay. tulong tulong. i get tips from the internet on organizing and cleaning. it helps to have a check list too

More than 1 year na kameng walang yaya and we are both working parents. In fairness buhay pa naman kame I agree, kelangan tulong tulong. My 4-year old daughter can do small chores and can clean up after herself. She knows I get upset when there's mess. Mabilis pati ako kumilos. Ayoko na ng maid, magastos na, nasstress pako. Pampagulo pa ng schedule and routine ko na naiayos ko na over time.

[lalawhoopsy]

paano ba yun isang downside na wala kang helper is yung pag gusto namin ng quality time ng asawa ko. mula nung pinanganak ang daughter ko year 2011, 3x lang kami nakapag date ng di kasama anak namin. at nangyari yon nito lang Dec 2014-Feb this year. Sayang kasi wala na kami hh di naman kami makaalis. akala ko noon matutuloy na ang dream ko makapag family outing kami kasi after 2 years bumalik yung hh ko pero ayun nabuntis nitong March kaya halos 1 month ng wala..

nakakaya ko naman chores,minsan lang pag nakakakita ako pics ng family outing nalulungkot ako kasi naka plano na kami this Summer. Ayaw naman namin muna kuha kapalit dahil sa sala lang ang tulugan niya, unlike ng nabuntis kong hh matagal na namin kilala. kung sa iba panibagong adjustment na naman lalo na mag aral na sa pasukan yung bata. parang wala na kaming quality time ng partner ko,never na nagkaroon. ikakasal pa naman kami civil wed wala taga bantay. kaya di na ako nagpa book sa kung saan saan, dito lang sa clubhouse yung ceremony kasi wala bantay yung bata. napakiusapan ko hh ko na pag kinuha ang mga gamit niya dito sa araw mismo ng civil wed para mabantayan naman yung bata...

[icee_star]

when we're abroad, wala kaming helper, ni hindi rin naming in-attempt kumuha. Mother ko lang ang naging help ko sa lahat ng bagay. Mula sa pag-aalaga ng kids ko, pagluluto, minsan sa paglinis ng bahay at paglalaba. Sobrang thankful ko dahil nandyan ang mother ko.

Now that we're in Pinas, sobrang hirap pa rin humanap ng helper. We're actively looking for one for 1 year already pero waley pa rin. Meron nakuha before kaso after a week lumayas na. Ka-stress lang. So ayun, still my mom is helping us, mas kampante pa ako dahil alam kong mas naalagaan ang mga babies ko. Kaya lang I need to clean the house, cook for the family, do the laundry and everything else pag may free time.

I can say KAYA naman mabuhay ng walang househelp, but sana if may makukuhang matino, eh mas maganda.

[brendzy]

Nung nsa pinas pa kami, although wala pa kami anak, my mom used to visit me 1-2 times a week and do the laundry kasi pang night shift ako sa work, while hubby is in abroad. Ngayong nasa abroad na kami pareho ni hubby, ako na lahat, laba, luto, linis. Ok lang naman kasi maliit lang yung flat naming, pero mahirap talaga before yung paglalaba, di ko talaga keri. kapag naglaba ako, plastado nako afterwards hahaha.

[mommyxthree]

kahit walang driver, okay lang. actually, mas gusto ko wala.

regarding sa helper, kung sakit lang sa ulo, wag na. mas ok kahit di ganon kaayos ang bahay.
try to set up a system with the kids and hubby . easier said than done, i know pero kaya natin

[kikayako]

Last year, nagretire yung maid namin na 20 years na sa amin. Nakakalungkot kasi marami siyang kayang gawin ? maglinis ng bahay, magluto, pati magkarpentero kaya niya. May isa pa naman kaming maid. 13 years na sa amin. Sana hindi siya umalis kasi tuwing nagbabakasyon siya eh nahihirapan kami. Yung papa ko hindi marunong pakainin yung aso namin. Puro reklamo pa na akala mo siya napapagod sa mga gawaing bahay eh halos kami ng mama ko ang kumikilos.

Last July naman, nagresign yung driver namin. 13 years yun sa amin. Kinakaya ko naman ng walang driver. Nagga-Grab ako papuntang office pero ang sakit sa bulsa. Minsan mama ko na ang nagbibigay ng pangGrab ko. Financially hindi ko kaya ng walang driver. Hindi ko afford magMRT lalo na papasok kasi ang haba ng pila. Ayaw kong ma-late sa work. Baka may ma-recommend kayo na agency kung saan kami kukuha ng driver. PLEASE HELP, mga sis!

[kaythrielle]

Kaya naman walang katulong, lalo na if the kids are old enough to help and do chores.
We are based abroad our whole family life, since our eldest was 1yr old. And not once eh nakaexperience ako na may kasambahay. SAHM ako the whole time.
It was challenging when i gave birth to our 2nd child. Imagine taking care of a toddler AND a baby, no yayas. Hubby is the one doing most of the chores.

So, yup, we survived naman basta magtulungan. Then as the kids grew older, they were given age-appropriate house chores. Now that they are in their tweens, they can help in the kitchen. They can do simple dishes and make breakfast during weekends, do the laundry (of course washing machine & dryer), fold the clothes. They can also prepare their own snacks na din (grilled cheese, ham& cheese sandwich,etc) unlike when they were younger and say ?mom im hungry? tapos gagawan ko sila ng snacks. Malaki na sila they are able to do it themselves.

Anyway, yup basically learn to delegate responsibilities and your life will be easier mga sis. You will be teaching your child/ren life skills as well. Unfortunately, mahirap ata mangyari dahil na rin sa kultura na nakasanayan. Na dependent sa katulong at binebaby ang anak. No offense meant pero may mga nakita pa ako 5years old na sinusubuan pa. hehe

[simang]

Kaya naman, especially kung lowkey lifestyle lang naman. Also if one partner stays at home full time or malalaki na ang anak.

^I think mas kaya ng walang yaya if nasa 1st world country, haha. Tingin ko lang. Sa Pilipinas kasi if both husband and wives are working, marami na agad considerations --- limited ang day care for the kids, kung meron man, mahal; ubos oras sa traffic to and from work (imagine having to spend 3-5 hours of your day sa daan); sa abroad, most appliances are automatic (dishwasher, washing machine, etc); if you live in Metro Manila, you have to deep clean the house everyday dahil sobrang alikabok; and marami pang iba. Kaya for working couples lalo na if may kids, malaking convenience talaga yung may househelp.

We have a 2yr old, I work from home full time and run a small business. We have a househelp who comes in 3x a week to clean the house and do the laundry, sometimes she cooks also. Sa totoo lang kaya ko ng wala sya, yung days na hindi sya pumapasok okay naman kami. Pero ang pinaka nakocompromise is yung time namin ni husband -- gusto ko kasi talaga sabay kami to go to bed so ayokong may maiiwan akong house chore or kahit anong trabaho pag bed time na. Also, natutukan ko daughter ko since I don't have to think about cleaning or laundry anymore. Yun yung "luxury" na ayaw kong icompromise kaya happy ako na may maasahan kaming kasambahay.