How to deal with this pain alone?

[piatos]

sobrang hirap talaga..ang sabi nga ng pinsan ko dati lahat ng tao dumadaan sa ganyan...darating din yung time na mapapagod kana at marerealize mo na tama na.. im really happy right now 1 year na akong single..Masaya naman ako dami kong crush at nageenjoy ako sa work ko  ...Thanks sa lahat ng umintindi ng ka OAhan ko hehe

[kittypaw]

Bakit ang hirap mag let go at mag move on sa taong halos 12 yrs. mong nakasama? It's been 1year since I found out  na may kabit sya sa ibang bansang pinagtatrabahuan nya.. pumunta sya dun para magtrabaho para sa pamilya namin. We have 2 kids......

Ive been in a long relationship too more than your years and got cheated on too, what i did to move on? I just keep on being angry and i always think  na im much better than them, i dont do the forgive them cliche' i just make sure that it doesnt consume me and never wait na he will come back, coz i did and mas masasaktan kalang, i can say na just after a month of not seeing each other doble yung peace na naramdaman ko, i learned to control my thoughts and feelings and even if i think about all the terrible things na ginawa niya i still move on to my day i dont let it consume me kasi ako din ang talo, im a more better person now kaya i do all the things that i havent done before.. that will make me happy ie; working out, tama nga sila happiness is a choice it doesnt have to be always because of another person.. its just around us.

And dont ever think na ay wala ng magkakagusto saken or wala ka ng mahahanap na iba, ITs weird pero thats how the world works theres always someone for each and everyone of us, You just have to be out there.

[miss_isla]

I was in a long relationship too. Almost 12 years. I was cheated on, emotionally and physically hurt. But i chose to forgive him, to prevent the pain from destroying my heart. Minsan nag uusap pa din kami because we have a kid, pero when talk, minsan bumabalik pa rin lahat ng galit at sakit, so as much as possible I avoid talking to him and avoid the things that will remind me of him. He's still with the other girl, i'm single and genuinely happy.

[hot_pink]

Bakit nga kaya ganun 'no? Nagmahal naman tayo ng tama, hindi nag-antay ng kapalit, umintindi ng todo pero sa huli tayo pa rin ang niloko at pinagpalit sa iba... Ang sakit sakit...

[hawhaw]

he just left me yesterday, 9 yrs and 9 mos.. masakit pala..

[piatos]

^ganyan din friend ko 9 years din sila... college pa lang sila bf na niya tapos pinagpalit sa kaibigan niya lol...inalok pa siya na pagsabayin sila grrrr....nung kiniwento niya yun nasaktan talaga ako paano pa kaya siya...ngayon may bf na siya after 1 year..Yung ex naman niya ang bitter sabi ba naman ng alien..Kung magkahiwalay kami ng gf ko hindi na kita babalikan kasi nagbf ka....ang sarap sunugin ng bahay nila. nakakaloka!!! Gsto siyang bugbugin nung new bf niya hahahaha..sana nga magabot para magulpi e hehe..tuwa ko lang talaga 

[Filipinasadhart]

how nga ba? actually it is very hard to deal alone the pain. Lalo na itatanong mo sa sarili mo heartaches na naman bakit ba nangyayari toh? mabait naman ako. wala naman ako tinatapakan tao
Nagingat naman ako pero bakit ganun  another heartaches naman. Sobra na ata toh.

minahal ko nnman yun sarili ko. at naging extra careful naman ako. pero baki ganito. Gusto ko lang naman sumaya.

[sugardrop]

^
You don't need to be with a man to find happiness, sis.

It's hard to deal with pain alone, I agree. But I do believe that emotional pain lasts for only 12 minutes. Anything longer than that is self-inflicted. Keep yourself busy, get a pet, spend more time with your family and friends. Through that, you'll realize that you're totally not alone in dealing with the pan.

[redhead69]

We broke up like recently a week or two ago? Di na siya ganon kasakit kasi nung august nagbreak din kami due to may iba siyang girl not exactly like dating. Something flirting.He's asking advices daw dahil sa problem namin last year(December) First of all i didnt find the girl na pagkukuhaan ng advices. I asked him aside sa "Advices" what caught ur attention to this girl (b**** lol) And what he told me "her boobies" and he asked him out for dinner so at first i feel bad about myself. Second thing im thinking is atleast he's honest enough to tell me. We broke up dahil i cant trust him anymore. Marami pa kong nalaman afterwards about everything. And after we broke up. Di ako umiyak, or nagmukmok. Naging sad, yes but im strong enough to face everything. Before we broke up. (2hours ago) Umattend ako ng mass sa may Trinoma alone. That was saturday. I asked God "God kahit masaktan ako basta please guide me to the right path and the right ways. Tatanggapin ko kahit gaano kasakit as long as ikakabuti ko ito" Then what happened after that we broke up. we met at starbucks trinoma and after that he left me. I cried alittle and feel sad about everything thinking if i should go to his place to ask forgiveness but di ko ginawa.

Inshort after these things happen what i did is : Sinasatisfy ko sarili ko from shopping, pampaganda, parties, spending time with my friends, and my ex (before him) na dindate ako pero i can see that he changed but still thinking who knows kami pala talaga (actually the recent ex sinulot lang ako sa ex ko bago sakanya kasi mas maeffort to. Pero nabulag ako) What i learned from this relationship na sulutan? Di ko gngeneralize ha pero this is based lang sa naexperience ko. " Kung pano ka niya sinulot ganon rin siya manunulot ng ibang babae or mangfflirt ng ibang babae kung paano naging kayo. Remember na nakuha ka nga niya that way so naboost confidence niya na he can still get some other girls."

* di lang isa fnflirt niya ( tanggap ko if flirt lang e pero he even ask the girl out, sabi friend pero di siya nagpapaalam sa akin. Di sa gusto ko makasakal or something pero im his girlfriend *not anymore!* i have the right to know *not anymore!*

Sorry for my post. sobrang haba.

Suggestion para magkadeal ng pain ALONE
-spend something worthwhile. Like ur hobbies, school/work, pampaganda o pampagwapo mo. Or something na will make you busy. Love and take care of urself first para matuto ka mabuti mahalin ng mas mabuti ang ibang tao.

[cloverpitt]

I'm facing the same problem now. Ang masakit may anak kami ng ex bf ko, hindi kami kasal. Nagising na lang daw sya isang araw na hindi nya na ako mahal. Pero ang anak naman daw namin hindi nya pababayaan, tuloy pa rin support nya. Hindi kami nag live in, nasaktan lang ako kasi ganun ganun na lang ang lahat. Ang sakit sobra I dont know how to deal with the situation. Hindi ako makaiyak kasi itinatago ko sa amin ayoko makita nila maga mata ko.