When do you know if it's time to let go

[joboah1103]

I've been in a relationship for 8 months, he's my first serious relationship. 3 months ago, I found out he's been cheating on me. I forgave him, gave him a second chance. The past 3 months, on and off kami, lagi kaming nagaaway, kasi lagi kong sinusumbat sakanya yung nangyare noon. In short hindi pa din ako at peace sa mga nangyare. Alam kong nafufrustrate na din sya at sinasabi nya na nagbigay ako ng 2nd chance pero lagi kong sinusumbat. I love him, pero nawalan na ako ng trust. I know parang toxic na, di ko din sya malet go. He's planning to propose to me on my birthday which is next month. I'm not sure if ready na ba ako dun. Anyway, di ko alam if tama na bang mag let go?

[TomHansen]

Normal lang na maisumbat mo sa kanya yung cheating niya dahil yun ang kapalit ng ginawa niya. Kausapin mo siya at ipaintindi sa kukote niya na hindi agad yan mawawala sa isip mo, na magkakaroon ka ng mga episodes at imbes na magalit kailangan niyan gumawa ng paraan para ipaaala sa iyo na nagsisisi siya at di niya na uulitin - responsibility niya na suyuin ka imbes na makipag-away. These are the consequences for what he did and he needs to man up and take everything you throw at him for now. Kaya mo siya nasusumbatan dahil di pa enough yung effort niya for his sins.

Tao ka lang at dahil first relationship mo at 3 months ago pa lang ito nangyari siyempre fresh at sobrang masakit pa so tell him na wag mag-expect na maleletgo mo agad yung feeling ng betrayal. And please, 8 months pa lang kayo propose na agad, at honeymoon stage pa lang nagcheat na agad siya. Sana di ka mapressure kung di ka pa sigurado.

 Ang relationship parang baso ng tubig, he did something stup*d kaya natapon kaya kailangan niyan punan uli hanggang sa mapuno.

[warriorheart]

Wouldn't it be better to resolve all the issues first before kayo pumasok sa mas malalim na commitment (e.g. engagement)

[kaythrielle]

So early in the relationship and he is giving you a headache na. What makes you think it will be different once you are married?
Leave while you still can. You deserve someone better, someone who will treat you  well, not like that.