Would you give up your career for love?

[fall2pieces]

Sisses, are you willing to give up your career for love?

You have a great career, either nagsisimula pa lang or established na kayo.. then love came along and something made you choose between career or love.

Like, settling down, having a kid and starting a family, what if he wants you to stay at home for the kids are you willing to do it? Let's say that BF has enough income to support you and your family. Would you do it? Would you leave the corporate world & dedicate your time with your family?

[Girltalker2]

No

Dapat gusto ko at di dahil gusto nya. And even he has enough, I would still want to do something on my own.

If he loves me, he will look after my well being. Not everybody else's (himself, household, kids etc) except me.

[kvandenhaak]

I stopped working to take care of my son. I am back to work now. So, the answer is yes.

[simang]

Sisses, are you willing to give up your career for love?

You have a great career, either nagsisimula pa lang or established na kayo.. then love came along and something made you choose between career or love.

Like, settling down, having a kid and starting a family, what if he wants you to stay at home for the kids are you willing to do it? Let's say that BF has enough income to support you and your family. Would you do it? Would you leave the corporate world & dedicate your time with your family?

Akala ko di ko kaya to gawin, but I did. I gave up my career for my family.

Dream job ko yun, had it when I was 22. Eventually I got burned out (after almost 6 years of being in that field) and when I got pregnant I sort of had an excuse to quit. It was my decision. Medyo naguilty nga ako na nagdecide ako without asking my husband, nung sinabi ko sa kanya he said mukhan desidido naman na ako talaga (madami na ko kinukwento sa kanya na ayoko na muna magwork) so he supported me all the way. Ngayon I work from home and am a full time mom and I wouldn't have it any other way. Ako ang unang nakakita ng lahat ng milestones ng anak ko, minsan naiisip what if I didn't quit and ibang tao ang mag aalaga sa anak ko, parang hindi ko kaya. Di ko maimagine yung ikukwento lang sa akin kung anong ginawa nya buong araw because I wasn't there to witness it. Naiiyak ako while writing this hehe

[Girltalker2]

I stopped working to take care of my son. I am back to work now. So, the answer is yes.

If the question is kung nagawa ko na for my love for my partner. The answer is yes. And I regretted it big time. So answer ko No parin

So the first time I was in this dilemma, I was 25 working abroad with my ideal job. Resigned and packed up my bags to get married in Pinas. When I had my first born, cannot find a yaya I can trust, so I wanted to resign. My ex wouldn't let me sayang daw if I resign. So I guess I WAS willing to give it up. But then my ex ayaw and in hindsight, I'm now thankful for that.

Since I was cheated on, mas madali makipag hiwalay if you have a career. Pero bakit mo naman iisipin na puede kayo maghiwalay, if you're in a serious relationship (i.e. Good marriage), I think there should be no issues in giving everything up for the family. But if one has experienced being cheated by the husband or abused, Baka yes done it in the past but No in case ma encounter sa future?

[mysterioza_me]

No, hindi ko kaya. Dating desk officer ang daddy ko, palaging may reklamo ng women abuse, yung iba naoospital sa tindi ng bugbog pero di nila mahiwalayan asawa nila, ayaw nila magdemanda kasi paano na daw mga anak nila kung papakulong niya mister niya. Kay mister lang sila nakaasa, magtiis na lang daw para sa mga bata. Nakaka-trauma din yung na-witness ko na pambubogbog ng kapitbahay namin sa misis niya. Hinampas niya ng kawali misis niya sa ulo kaya yung babae halos nabaliw-baliw after nun. Kapapanganak pa lang din niya nung time na yun. Stay at home mom din siya. Hindi din mahiwalayan si mister kasi paano na silang mag-iina.

Naisip ko siguro kung itong mga babae na ito may maayos na hanapbuhay hindi sila magtitiis sa pang-aabuso.

[mysterioza_me]

No, hindi ko kaya. Dating desk officer ang daddy ko, palaging may reklamo ng women abuse, yung iba naoospital sa tindi ng bugbog pero di nila mahiwalayan asawa nila, ayaw nila magdemanda kasi paano na daw mga anak nila kung papakulong niya mister niya. Kay mister lang sila nakaasa, magtiis na lang daw para sa mga bata. Nakaka-trauma din yung na-witness ko na pambubogbog ng kapitbahay namin sa misis niya. Hinampas niya ng kawali misis niya sa ulo kaya yung babae halos nabaliw-baliw after nun. Kapapanganak pa lang din niya nung time na yun. Stay at home mom din siya. Hindi din mahiwalayan si mister kasi paano na silang mag-iina.

Naisip ko siguro kung itong mga babae na ito may maayos na hanapbuhay hindi sila magtitiis sa pang-aabuso.

[DeathToMondays]

Only for my child/ren, not for any man.

[kaythrielle]

That's what i wanted and that's what i did.

I had a great job abroad, but when i learned i was pregnant with our first baby, i decided to go back to philippines. I couldn't imagine leaving my baby after giving birth (my boss was very kind & considerate enough to even give me 6months maternity leave). I chose family over career.

It's all worth it naman.
I got to be there on all my kids' milestones, and my husband, aside from being a great provider & head of the family, ay tumutulong din sa housechores especially nung maliliit pa nga bata (at wala kaming yaya).

Kaya din siguro i don't mind even if i gave up my career for them, it's because of my husband and kids, they appreciate what i'm doing for them.

[kccllj]

No  I don't think we need to compromise our career for love. In my case, my partner allowed me to work abroad para naman daw maexplore ko ang potentials ko and he understands it naman.

[fall2pieces]

I'm willing to give up my career for love pero siguro not for good, I would still go back to work if kaya ko na, like if malalaki na yung anak ko.  Pero hindi na siguro yung 9 to 5 na job. Yung may pagkakaabalahan ako aside from family like business or a job that would still allow me to have time for my kids. 

[Shadow Angel]

I did, I have good career and good paying job sa pinas kahit gusto ko sa pinas na lang kami no choice but to follow my husband here abroad.

[joeygurrl19]

probably not. im not in that situation pa naman. but, i don't want to fully dependent on someone for security and other possible reasons. we can never say ano pwede mangyari sa future. but if i have kids i will most likely consider. i don't want to miss out on the milestones in life.

[avitot]

No,

baka in the long run hanap hanapin ko yung accomplishments ko para sa self ko and jan papasok yung regrets. it has to come from you,  ikaw mas nakaka alam sa sarili mo if kaya mo na ba ipagpalit yung career na pinaghirapan mo just because bubuo ka ng family.  parang mawawalan ka naman ng self worth non if sunod nalang sa decision ni hubby, di kaya?

[kvandenhaak]

^Why do we equate being a stay-home mom with being sunud-sunuran sa husband?

[Shadow Angel]

For me naman dahil now na house wife ako mas dun na feel ang self worth ko. Kasi ginagawa mo lahat ng bagay for you family hindi man ako nakakatanggap ng sweldo/pera sa huli na fefeel ko pa rin ang self fulfillment lalo na kapag alam mo ikaw lang aasahan. Financial decisions ot kahit ano pang decisions kasama ako sa lahat ng bagay hindi pwede hindi just because hindi ako nagwowork ngayon hahayaan ko na maitsupwera ako. Kaya nga kayo family, mag asawa partner sa lahat ng bagay.

[shinies]

Hindi.. At buti na lang yun din gusto ng mister ko