How to deal with "feeling dalaga" daughter?

[Kady_14]

^ ay Oo.

My daughter uses my Olay toner, lotion and body scrubs. Kulang na lang mag-make up siya and sanitary pads.

Akala ko nun una yung maid ang gumagamit kasi nauubos. Nahuli ko siya habang nanunuod kami ng tv ng totoner habang nanunuod ng tv. 

[quinone]

^bakit di mo siya dalin sa derma kahit one time lang para at least yun doc magsabi sa kanya what she can and can't use sa face at skin niya kasi she is so young. at that age sa totoo lang ang gaganda ng skin ng mga kids. yung iba talagang rosy cheeks pa tapos napaka healthy ng hair.

johnsons baby lotion pwede pa siguro sa kanya pero diba yung mga pang edad natin may pang peel na yan sa ingredients...medyo nakakatakot naman.

[Happy Mom]

makikisali lang mga sis 

kala ko daughter ko lang ang nasobrahan nag kaartehan. we're working abroad kasi ni hubby at sya nasa mga parents ko. nuknukan din ng arte. she'll be turning 7 next month but since she was 2 years old ata e alam nya na ang make up & nail polish. nung maliit kasi sya up to 3 years old kasama nya rin yung younger sister ko. so kung ano nakikita nya sa tita nya, gusto nya gayahin. every time nag aayos si sister before going to work, naka bantay sya. after mag ayos ni sister kailangan sya naman ayusan dahil kung hindi, hindi maka alis si tita nya at nagkakagulo sa pag iyak nya. kahit napapagalitan sya dun sa tito nya at sinasabihan syang hindi para sa baby yun, wala pa rin ipipilit ang sa kanya. at nung medyo lumaki na around 4 or 5, pag me nakikita sya sa tokador ng mga make up hayun sya mag isa nag lalagay. now pag, nag babakasyon sa min, sa kin pa nag papabili ng lipgloss. binubulong lang kasi mapapaglitan sya ke hubby. ako naman binibilhan ko kesa yun lipstik ni lola nya ang ginagamit nya e napaka pula nun

last year na punta nila sa min, me napansin ako na white around her mouth. so nung umuwi ako ng pinas, dinala ko sa derma, hayun binawalan sya. sabi sa kanya baby pa sya at di pa pwede yun ginagawa nya like pag make up at lipstick. hindi sya maka oo sa derma. she stopped for a while sa pag lipstick at pag nenok ng make up. pero ngayon hayun na naman at nangengelam na naman.

meron din syang sariling bag pag umaalis kami. andun yun brush nya, lipgloss, salamin at kung anik anik pa.

one time muntik pa mapalo, kasi pag galing sa school. i think she's in KG2 that time, meron daw me crush sa kanya. narining ni brother ko, hayun, napagalitan. medyo maselan kasi brother ko kahit dun sa 2 boys nya.

kahit pag kausap ni hubby lagi sinasabi ni hubby na baby pa sya, kaya hayun ayaw nya kausap si hubby

[snowberry]

Wow, nakakagulat mga stories nyo about your kid daughters. Maaga nga na gusto nilang magdalaga.

I have 2 grown up daughters, magkasunod lang age nila. I remember, they  passed that age where they played with make ups and high heels. Pero, it was just really a play for them because hindi naman sila lumalabas ng bahay with lipstick or gloss when they are in that age. In fact, mahiyain sila pareho and didn't even want to wear sleeveless or spaghetti strapped dress kahit sa JS Prom nila .

I remember din na sa handbook ng school nila during elementary and high school, bawal mag lipstick or mag nail polish and mag color ng hair ( pati sa college- all girls school) .

I think it's because  of peer pressure din or  baka nakikita  nila sa classmates nila and they thought it's pretty so ginagaya nila.

It was already in her college year when my eldest daughter asked na magpapa rebond siya, so go lang ako at sinamahan ko pa.  Now, medyo maarte na sila    . Pero ,pinagsasabihan din namin if we think they are wearing inappropriate attire ( ex. sobrang maigsing shorts) . I also call their attention whenever I hear them using kainis na gay speak and nakikinig naman sila. Hahha, medyo conservative lang .

Siguro, it's also because of too much exposure sa advertisement ng mga products na pampaganda,pampaputi etc. kaya ang mga bata ngayon mas "maarte".

[kikay9599]

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My eldest is already 13 years old. I remember when she was just the same age as your daughter, I think 8 or 9 years old, sobrang arte din. Nagtatalo kami sa issuot nyang damit. May kikay kit pa siya laging bitbit. Hindi pwdeng hindi ko siya ibibili ng latest Total Girl Mag. Dapat up to date siya with the latest trends, mapa kikay toys, clothes and shoes. Being a daddy's girl and first apo on my hubby's side, ayan spoiled tuloy.

Pero now that she's officially a teen, I can say na nagmellow na siya. Un tamang arte na lang ba for her age.

I guess for sis TS, your daughter is just going through a phase plus influence na din ng environment and media, guide and remind her na lang often. Another reason could be is the upcoming addition to your family. She sees the baby siguro as a threat. 
Our bunso is just 16 months old. Imagine, my daughter got used for 12 years na she's the center of attention, then came along our son. Hubby and I prepared her, we tagged her along on my pre natal check ups, specially during ultrasound and fetal monitoring. We were worried kasi na baka dedmahin niya si baby pero we under estimated her. She was very excited when our son was born. In fact, kaya na niya mag alaga ngayon kay baby. I guess, it helped her become mature.

Hay naku sis, napahaba na storya ko. I hope things will turn out well when the baby comes out. Konting heart to heart talk lang kay dalaginding. I'm sure your kids will be fine.    

[yanmae]

hehe ang cute naman.. for me hayaan nyo nalang  ienjoy yung stage na yan as long di naman nakakasama or wala silang nasasaktang ibang tao okay lang yun. napagdaanan ko din yan kaso si mother d nya type yung ganun panay saway sabay sabi ng negative kaya ang mahiyain ko tuloy nag sink in yung mga nega comments. makiride nalang kayo mga sis basta hindi lang nagmamaldita si daughter keri lang yan