Is he telling the truth? I need your POV Guytalkers and Girltalkers.

[kneekee]

I just want to know how would you know if a guy is telling the truth?

Not that I completely distrust guys, its just that some guys are too secretive that they're able to hide their true emotions. :| Naiinis ako. Especially when he's drunk and says a lot of things that I don't hear when he's sober. And then when I ask him pag sober na siya he would just say that he couldn't remember anything. But may naalala naman talaga siya. Ugh.

[e.viv]

ganyan din papa ko, super tahimik kung sober.
when he's drunk dun siya nagiging mas vocal about everything -- and sometimes it hurt us.
Kasi he never tells us that we're doing something he doesn't like kung sober siya parang everything okay... tapos pagnakainom dun sasabihin na di pala niya gusto yung ginagawa namin.

It was frustrating but now, mas okay na since I learned to ask more questions to know what he really feels. Siyempre in a malambing way lagi... Di pa rin siya outspoken pero when I ask him questions he is honest enough naman kaya nahihint ko if okay or not.

It's my dad and not a boyfriend or husband but similar situation.

Btw, they're telling what they TRULY feel when drunk AND too ashamed to admit that they said that so they LIE to cover it up.

[glamorosa_09]

Is the question about if he's telling the truth na hindi nya maalala yung sinabi nya?

I do not have first hand experience sa pagka lasing, pero as what a guy friend told me before, naaalala nila yung sinabi nila pag sober na sila. It's just that, pag lasing na sila, mas malakas lang yung loob nilang sabihin kung ano man yun.

Most guys are not emotionally open talaga.

[kneekee]

Kaya nagugulo ako sisses, kasi this guy says na mas maniwala ako sa mga sinasabi niya pag sober siya kesa pag lasing siya. parang baliktad diba? Nagresearch ako mas nagsasabi ng totoo pag may alcohol na sa blood (nakainom ) because of less inhibited synapse response ng neurons.

Naalala ko the days when my Dad is still living with us, he hates us sobra for reasons we dont know why, pag sober siya he maririnig mo bubulong bulong lang siya pero pag he's drunk nakuuuu abot abot na hurting words ang maririnig mo from him and talaga mura kung mura.

Eh pano kung sober, pano malalaman if he's telling the truth nga?

[glamorosa_09]

One speaker taught us about eye movement.

If he's looking up and to the left - he's lying, means trying to be creative on something to tell.
If he's looking up and to the right - he's trying to remember something.

Search mo na lang din sa net or experiment on it.

[gab54]

there's US TV na "Lie to Me", very interesting u can learn if one is lying thru body language

[Mr.Punch]

How to tell if the guy is lying?  There are no general rules for that.  It's on a case-to-case basis.  You only only learn to detect patterns through time and by using good judgment.

Yes, alcohol looses one's tongue.  But personally, I myself say a lot of nonsense when I'm drunk.  For example, if I say, "Honey, *hic* alam mo bang *hic* ako si Batman?", that doesn't make it necessarily true, right?  You just need to discern which has a high chance of being true and which doesn't.

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I have to warn you not to get tips from TV shows.  It takes years to learn to properly associate involuntary movements with lying.  (Think along the lines of PhD.) 

[ettevyvi]

How to tell if the guy is lying?  There are no general rules for that.  It's on a case-to-case basis.  You only only learn to detect patterns through time and by using good judgment.

Indeed. My ex was so good in lying na akala ko totoo ang lahat. But oh boy I was wrong. I had the nagging feeling he is lying though. Somehow, his answers are too good to be true. And as they say, if some things are good to be true, it probably is!

[tipC_shoegal]

I can never tell if my man is cheating but what Mr. Punch shared here somewhat rang true to me. Also, I played it by intuition. When I anymore can't really feel the peace from within with the words he's been saying, I decided to confront my doubts and voila, I found out a ton of crap about him.

[baliwsayo]

Tinanong niya ako minsan.. kung naniniwala daw ako na mahal niya ako.. sagot ko, problema niya naman kung nagsisinungaling siya eh.. matakot kako siya kasi sa hell tiyak ang punta niya.  Tawa siya ng tawa. 

[kneekee]

Eh pano pag wala consistency sa sinasabi yung guy when he's drunk? We believe what we want. Kaya ako pinipilit ko paniwalaan yung mga sinabi niya na hindi ko gusto cos I dont really want to expect that this is somethine else. Parang sira lang no? lol

Pero pag sa Dad ko, I always believed what he said when he was drunk.