kung may bro code may sis code ba?

[amethyst028]

like the title says, kung may sis code ano-ano ang mga ito?

paano kung nanligaw sayo yung high school crush ng bestfriend mo? bestfriend is happily married for 11years, you've been friends for more than 21yrs.

scenario: i bumped into my bestfriend's high school crush sa isang event, we exchange numbers then lagi na siya nag te-text. at first i only reply out of being polite and to have updates about him na i can chika to my best friend. he is asking if i'm single now. hindi ko siya type, may ganun kasi akong ugali na pag crush or dine-date ng friends ko repulsive na yung guy for me.

i'm not dating anyone and wala rin ako na me-meet, i'm afraid na baka ma develop ako sa kanya kung lagi kame mag uusap. and what if siya rin magka gusto sakin hindi naman pwede. i haven't told my best friend kasi baka mag selos siya or magalit sakin. in our 21yrs. of friendship never pa kame nag away as in, kahit nag abroad kame na kameng dalawa lang never kame nagka asaran. super kasundo kame na minsan nababasa namin iniisip ng isa't isa.

pero andun din kasi yung thought na 35yrs. old nako, single pa din. what if eto na yung guy for me. i don't want to jump into anything pero minsan di ko maiwasan na maisip yung what if's.

[momentum]

bestfriend is happily married for 11years

Happily married na pala si best friend, so what is wrong if you date her EX-crush?
bakit, crush parin ba niya until now?

that was in highschool pa. and I am sure your best friend has gotten over him.
So I see nothing wrong. Hindi naman niya pagmamay-ari the guy..and she should not get mad at you nor end your friendship just because you're gonna date her EX-crush.

[Girltalker2]

TS, wow naman sis, ang tagal na nun. any mature human being will simply not make a big deal out of it. 

anyway, kung hindi ka comfortable, you can also talk to your best friend and ask her what she thinks about the person (first name na at hindi "crush" nya).  and tell her, parang nagugustuhan ko na sya, do you think I should go out with him?

You are free to date anyone, just make sure the guy is still single. Sabi mo kasi 35yo ka na, so the guy most likely around that age too, and single Pinoy guys at 35 is hard to come by.

[amethyst028]

thanks for the replies mga sis.

actually i feel like may kasalanan ako sa youngest sis niya kasi yung first bf ng sis niya naging bf ko din. nung naligaw sakin nag ask naman ako ng permission kung ok lang entertainin ko. pumayag naman sis niya. 2years na super awkward with her sis and i can't make kwento with my best friend at all. yung ex bf ko na yun never ko na meet nung sila pa.

tapos eto na naman yung ex crush niya. hehe!

he is annuled already wid a child na almost same age as my son. parehong boy anak namin. we talk about failed relationships and parenthood. at this stage in my life hinahanap ko narin kasing guy yung  may anak na. i might have a hard time having kids so might as well look for a guy who's been there done that para iba na lang maging focus.

i know i'm getting ahead of myself pero hindi ko lang talaga maiwasan mag isip minsan. regarding telling my best friend, naduduwag ako kasi never pa kame nagka issue. baka sa ganito pa ka babaw. and also kung maging bf ko yung guy magkakaron ng time na magkikita sila baka awkward.

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, kung best friend mo sya, at sya happily married, while you are not, sana naman maintindihan din nya ang predicament mo makahanap ng katuwang sa buhay, at hindi lang sya lagi naka focus sa sarili nya.

I think para hindi ka ma bother, best is really to talk to her on the issue. bakit naman awkward, hindi naman naging sila di ba?  crush lang nya na matagal na matagal na? hehe

[erza0916]

21 years na kayo best friends diba? Have faith in your friendship. Kung sa tingin mo masisira yun dahil sa highschool excrush nya eh baka hindi talaga kayo best friends.

Just tell her about it as soon as possible. That you've been talking to that guy tutal naman hindi ka pa fully into him. Kung mag negative reaction si bestfriend at least alam mo na and hindi ka na masyado magiinvest kay guy. I don't think na magnenega si bff baka nga mamaya ipush ka pa nya eh. Naging crush nya yun kaya alam nyang ok si guy and if she's happily married na I'm sure she'd want you to be din.

Have faith and be honest. Wala na kayo sa highschool para magtampuhan pa kung crush mo din si crush nya. Besides, CRUSH lang naman nya yun noon. Buti sana kung naging sila. Goodluck!