What should i do -_-''

[tabbru]

@ sissies chiqmom and pretty-ava: ayan na-edit ko... nawala pala yung first part ng mahabang litanya ko hehe...

@ princesskitty: I can really be brutally frank at times. Sorry talaga ha.

[Pretty_ava]

^sis, isip bata pa si TS eh based dun sa mga posts nya.

anyway, may deperensya ka talaga pag mali na nga ang partner mo tapos jina justify mo pa yung mga mali nya, kesyo bakit nya nagawa yun so on....

To TS, sis get out of the relationship, tama si Tabbru, kung nagawa nya sa naanakan nung bf mo dat na iwan sila, take note ha, may responsibilidad sya dun dahil may anak sila, pwede din mangyari sa iyo yun.

saka sis, diba, as a mother, dapat may simpatya ka sa anak ng bf mo sa ex gf nya, kasi kawawa ang bata, walang suporta coming from your bf, napaka iresponsable ng bf mo,,  and sis, wag ka na magkandarapa sa bf mo kasi he's not worth it,

[yezzi]

If I may sa TS, I need advice din po.

I'll try to make this short.

Hubby and I been together for almost 10years. 8years bf-gf 2years married. We have 2 beautiful kids   to start with. Hubby and I are not talking as of the moment in any other communication (he stays in diffent place coz of work he goes home every week) I told him not to go home this weekend as well as don't send me a sms until walang good news. Yesterday while magkatext kame sinabihan ko siya ng masakit na words like na nagsisisi ako kung bakit ko siya pinakasalan, which I must say a half truth. I'm sick of tired na kasi sa "walang magagawa" niya. He's the type of person kasi na pag wala na hindi na gumagawa ng way like sa issue namin he's applying sa other company for greener pasture since ang hirap ng buhay ngayon 2 pa kids namin. Ok naman sa pinag-applyan nya tanggap nasiya he's just waiting sa Job Offer which is 1 month narin (matagal talaga processing sa company) As of his last salary hindi kasya sa amin naubos narin kasi savings namin ang the only money we have is his salary. I'm trying to convince him na mag apply sa mga pinag wwork ng batchmate nya which offers good salary in abroad. And now sinabi ko na kulang yung pera ang sagot nya lang sa akin is walang magagawa, pagkasyahin nalang mabuti. (2 kids pinapagatas namin at diaper what i'm expecting na isasagot nya is subukan nyang gumawa ng paraan.)

I confronted him re sa atittude nya na yun sinabi ko narin lahat ng ayaw ko even before we got married tuwing nag aaway kame or nagagalit ako sa kanya. He knows his mistake aminado naman siya kaya lang hindi nya mabago. Lagi ako nakikiusap sa kanya na hindi na pwede ang ganun since may mga bata na, still no avail ;(.

Mabait naman hubby ko, very loving sakin esp sa mga kids, he would sacrifice what he have for us but kung anong meron lang siya (you know what I mean?) like if he would rather not go with his friends basta makauwi lang sa amin tuwing weekends. But the thing is may kulang. O siguro pagod narin ako kakasabi sa ugali nya. Or even if we're making love may times na ok lang, may times na hindi natatapos  may times na contented. I'm saying this it may be one of the reason kaya ganito marriage namin.

I love my husband pero hindi na dati, these few weeks I never said I love him pag magkasama kame, sa text naman all of his text may i love you sa end. I replied but with out i love you too's. I don't feel like saying it kasi.

I know our issue is money and his atittude....i really don't know what to do :?

[ysa.belle]

^sa tingin ko (correct me nalang ha yeaai), na ang ayaw mong ugali ng asawa mo is yung kung anong meron is pagkakasyahin nalang. gusto mo yung gagawa siya ng way para madagdagan ang meron? right?

[yezzi]

^yup sis kasi meron naman talang way, hindi naman para sa amin yun or sa akin kung hindi para sa mga bata.

[yndy]

^ sis if i may ask.. nagwowork ka din ba? or si hubby lang?

[prettykhae]

@ sis PrincessKitty: ngayon ko lang nakita pics nyo ng girl na un. mas maganda ka pa rin kesa un girl na un. maputi lang sya...ay nako, nabulag ata asawa mo dun a? kahit matagal na kayo, iwan mo na yan sis, you deserve to be happy! ur still young!

[maye2k]

Sis Princesskitty you have lots of options to consider:

Stick to bf + he provide+never mind about his girl = you and your baby will be provided financially but mentally tortured ka naman.

fight with his girl+stick to bf = ur life will be like  hell

find a job+leave bf = you'll be out from this mess (but I know you won't be totally get over him)

leave bf+fight with his girl = mess

leave bf + move on by giving your focus to your son + find a job = happy life (you deserve to be happy though)

I must agree to one of our sisess here na di lang nabubuhay sa love ang isang relasyon. You need to maintain respect and loyalty for you to stick to a good relationship. Kaya isipin mo mabuti sis if worth pa ba siya sa pagmamahal mo. Wag mo isipin na good provider siya sa inyo at ok lang na mangaliwa siya. Pwera na lang kung at the end eh makakaya ng sikmura mo ang sitwasyon.

Hope everything will end up well to you sis.

[^kaye^]

thank you sis.. pero kami kasi... 7 yrs na bale on and off.. tapos sa lahat ng bf ko siya lang nagmahal sa akin ng ganito.... >_>

@PrincessKitty You keep emphasizing na sa lahat ng naging boyfriend mo siya lang ang nagmahal sa iyo ng ganyan. Baka naman nasasabi mo lang iyan dahil lang umabot kayo ng 7 years. From what I'm reading, hindi pagmamahal yung ginagawa ng boyfriend mo na nag-uuwi ng ibang babae sa bahay nila at kinukunsinti lang ng mga kamag-anak ni boyfriend - unless masochista ka.

Alam ko marami na rin ang nakapag-sabi nito, pero nasubukan mo na bang maghanap ng trabaho? Sinisigurado ko, magbabago ang pananaw mo pag naging financially independent ka na.

@yezzi - same question with the others, do you have a job? 

[shoutingwind]

"sya lang nagmahal sa akin ng ganito" ....

ang weird ng concept mo ng pagmamahal.

[ez4gotten]

@PrincessKitty - find yourself's worth and makikita mo na you deserve someone better. and about naman sa sinasabi mo na your family will not help you, i think di ka naman nila matitiis, esp your mom. yes, totoo na makakarinig ka ng words na maaring d mo magustuhan, but i'm sure at the end of the day, wala pa din silang ibang gugustuhin kundi ang mapaganda ang buhay mo at maging masaya ka. kaya i'm sure they'll help pa din. seek God's help.

@yezzi - kung mabait naman pala ang husband mo you should be thankful pa nga. IMO lang, you're being too hard on him. kung minsan lang talaga may mga lalaking di manghihiram ng pera kahit anong hirap na. ang gusto nila is kung anong meron ay pagkasyahin. may dad's like that, magutom na sya wag lang mangutang. kasi as you said, nag-apply na naman sya ng work and waiting na lang ng JO, ano pa gusto mo gawin nya? gusto mo ba gumawa sya ng paraan para ibigay ang needs mo pero ang way naman pala na yun is kagaya ng way ng bf ni princesskitty? let's always look at the brighter side and appreciate God's blessings. you are lucky at mabait ang asawa mo kahit na kapos kayo sa pera. just help him na lang. find a job (if wala ka work) kung meron naman, find a part-time job, magbenta ka ng avon products, clothes, etc sa office nyo. ang mag-asawa ay nagtutulungan at di nagsisisihan. (ang sakit kayang masabihan na pinagsisisihan mo na nagpakasal ka sa kanya). i hope maayos nyo agad yang prob nyo. just pray! sorry if may nasabi ako that may have hurt you. this is just my point of view.

[sosychill]

@princess kitty. alam mo sis, one thing lang na masasabi ko ha pero this is just an opinion. kung ako kasi nandiyan i would'nt think twice para mag alsa balutan.

kung mahal mo sarili mo iwan mo na siya.

i know letting go would be hard pero time heals all wounds sis kaya naman dont be afraid to let go. you see, isipin mo na lang kung sa kapatid mo nangyare yan, hindi ba yung ipapayo mo eh iwan niya na din yung bf niya?

mag isip kang mabuti.. well, kung iisipin mo yung anak mo na he'll grow up without a dad, and that is so shameful, think again noh, it would be better that way kaysa malaman niya na ganyan.

pinakapanget sa lahat yung ipapaglaban mo yung relasyon na alam mo namang hindi na dapat. bakit pa ba siya manloloko at makikipag-sex doon sa girl kung di niya talaga love yon diba, kung matino siya at may anak kayo, family ang iisipin niya, pero ginawa niya pa din ibig sabihin gusto niya yung babae, mahal niya yun. not unless sinabi niya sayo na pagkakamali lang yon.I saw the piks mukang liberated yung girl, pero kung siya yung nang akit dapat ang bf mo umiwas na agad diba. -----------------sorry for this ha pero this is reality.

those type of guys are not worth it, think think think, follow your heart..

[sosychill]

^yup sis kasi meron naman talang way, hindi naman para sa amin yun or sa akin kung hindi para sa mga bata.

@sis yezzi anung way naman sis? i think your hubby naman is so mabait and doing his best, kaya siguro ganyan kasi di ka contented because of lack of money, ganyan talaga mga guys, sis dont push him too hard, kung nasabi mo na yon sa kanya I believe alam niya na yung dapat gawin. if that would be me, il just support hubby in any way. iyong mga guys kasi mas gusto nilang may marating silang sariling sikap kaysa lagi silang sinasabihan, sobrang ma-pride kasi sila at saka yung ego nila iniingatan nila. gaya nung sabi ni sis ez4gotten. sorry sis ha opinion lang naman toh.

[yezzi]

TO ALL: thank you for your opinion, advice and heads up. I appreciated it. No hard feelings taken re: if I have a job. As of now po wala since hubby told me to take care of our babies, aside na sakin humabol yung eldest namin than her used to be a yaya, we decided na ako nalang mag aalaga plus bawas pa sa expenses.
 
Nasasaktan lang ako sa tuwing dumadating sa point na ganun
pero walang magawa esp sa mga kids. Hindi naman ako nagrereklamo sa buhay ko or problema namin dahil alam ko may mas malala pa sa situation namin. Forever thankful ako kay God. And again thank you po sa mga advice nyo.

Princesskitty: follow their advice, I'll give the same even I posted my concern here. It's really not advisable to post photos here esp other person's photo (may tamang bagay o tamang tao para sa ganyan at baka mademanda kapa) this is a public thread viewed around the world so it's better to keep your privacy for the sake of your kid there's a saying na "wala namang manloloko kung walang magpapaloko" it's not advisable na maging martyr ka or stick to your hubby kung mukha ka ng ..nga, love your self first before others. Dahil kung hindi ipagpapalit ka talaga ng asawa mo kahit kaninong babae, kahit wala pa sa kalingkingan mo. Good luck and God Bless

[CityHunter]

Hi, yezzi.

Mahirap yun situation mo as you need to budget well what little resources you have for the family.  But, I do understand yun situation rin ng husband mo.  As it is not easy for one nowadays to find something that can easily augment one's income - without resorting to illegal means.

What you and your spouse must do is to maintain that open line of communication.  No one is at fault here.  Talagang affected ang marami sa atin with the lousy economy the world is in.  And that may even deteriorate further pa in the near future.

Now, as others have suggested ay think of ways to augment your resources.  Once your hubby sees you doing something simple but helpful ay magkaka-idea rin yun to help out or do something like it.  I opine he's just stumped what to do without risking what few resources he has left.

OT na but this is where those dole-out programs really are wrong.  They are better put to helping folks set up capital for business or learning new skills.

[iristacey]

hi sis yezzi, i suggest na tulungan mo din hubby mo by trying out some small business na pwede ikatulong niya. may it be like mga selling stuffs and mga catalog based items. so that apart from him, may extra income pa kayo. consider also working to help him. yaya means bigger gastos but employment means greater income. i weigh mo. ganun talaga, intindihin mo lang siya. i think you have to be thankful din na loyal ang husband mo. i hope you revive your marriage.

[yezzi]

Hi mga sis, may deal na kame ni Hubs, hopefully maayos at magawa namin aside from that I'm an online seller din naguguluhan din siguro ako lalo na pagdating sa needs ng mga bata, anyways we're okay now, salamat sa advices  nyo. 

[yzabellelove]

hi sis! alam mo, much as I want to give you the best piece of advice to at least help you decide on what to do, mahirap eh. Things are easier said than done. I can outright tell you na dapat ganito, or dapat ganyan, but I don't think it could really help in a positive way. I want to be cautious kasi baka instead na maka-help ako, maka-cause pa ng much confusion for you. All I can say is, it is gonna be a long process kasi we are not just talking about the love you have for each other or the years you have been together. We are talking about TRUST. Siguro the process should start from you. Seek God's guidance and that would surely lead you to the best decision. Wag padalos-dalos. We can no longer take back the things we did and the words we let go kahit hindi natin mean.. There are more to consider aside from what you just see now. Pray ka, sis. The best way to pray is to just listen. Listen to what He has to say. One day you will just find yourself in a state where everything is back to where it was before, or even better:) Take care of your kid and just move forward:) Hayaan mo na din yung girl. It wouldn't do you any good kung papatulan pa.. may mas importanteng bagay na dapat isipin kaysa sa kanya:)

I hope everything will be okay soon:)