Have you cheated on your partner?

[Ms. Undecided]

Credit to sis Simon_says

May thread na 'to dito pero super tagal na kaya gumawa nalang ako ng bago

I will copy nalang din all the queries

Have you ever cheated on bf or hubby ever?
- Present bf ko (almost 4 years na kami) YES.

What were the circumstances that led you to doing that? Reasons?
- Actually, college ako nun graduating when I met this guy sa isang online game (IDate). At first, kinukulit ko lang siya kasi suplado eh, na-challenge ako, hahaha. Hanggang sa nagkakuhaan kami ng fb profile then nagkahingian ng number per super suplado talaga siya. Tapos wala pang one month, may nagchat sakin na guy (siya si present) nanligaw siya sakin, sinagot ko siya. At first, laro laro lang pero naging super comfortable ako sa kanya. kaso napamahal na ko dun sa isa. Naging M.U kami nung isang guy kahit may bf ako. 8 months after ako mahuli ni bf. Hindi ko na inulit. Tinigilan ko na.

Did you regret it?
- YES

Did you confess it to your partner?
- Nahuli niya ko eh. Then sinabi ko na lahat lahat na mas una ko nakilala si guy #1 bago siya.

What was his reaction?
- He cried. Nasa bahay kami nun. Sabi niya sakin, "Pinagmamalaki pa naman kita kay mama". Grabe sobrang nanlumo ako

Did he forgive you? Are you still together? What did it do to your relationship?
- Yeah. Mabilis niya ko napatawad. Nung nahuli na niya ako, naging bantay sarado ako. He always check my phone, opens my fb account at lagi magtatanong kung saan ako pupunta.

Did he not forgive you? How are you doing now?
- He did. We're fine as of the moment.

What's the best lesson you ever learned from this if there's any?
- Siguro yung lesson na nakuha ko is what goes around, comes around talaga. He cheated on me, emotionally. May post ako dito with regards dun sa emotional cheating niya. Sobrang hirap. Kasi it's been 6 months pero andito parin yung sakit kahit na okay na kami ngayon, kapag naaalala ko, masakit parin.


How about you mga sis? share yours

[naizlabonita]

Sis Undecided, paanong emotional cheating??

He cheated on me and as much as I wanted to cheat on him parang revenge hehe..parang hirap talaga ako. I do believe in Karma kasi.. Minsan I think ano ba nagawa ko sakanya baket he cheated on me.
Anyway, hehe I tried Okcupid and he saw my messages with other boys. No sweet messages naman parang getting to know with other boys lang and I know nabasa nya mga after 1 hour di nya napigilan he said "Mommy I love you kahit na ang dame dame mong kachat sa viber and OKC, TRY try lang naman diba?!" So parang pinakonsensya pa ko. hahaha.

[kvandenhaak]

Subscribing to this thread without judgement. Just wondering what makes people cheat with their partners?

[Ms. Undecided]

Sis Undecided, paanong emotional cheating??

- Kasi there's a girl na close friend niya before sa province then nagkita sila sa isang supermarket. Kinuha niya yung number tas nagkakatext sila. Then pag-uwi niya dito sa Manila, pinaglihiman niya ko. He even insist na cousin niya yun pero walang lihim na di nabubunyag. There's no physical attachment sa kanila coz they are coth committed. Yung girl ang kapal din ng mukha, sinabi ko na tigilan kakareply kay BF pero sige parin. Ayaw daw niya makasira ng relasyon pero ayaw niya tigilan kakareply. Basta marami pang nangyari, hindi siya ganun kababaw. It happened March this year, may post ako dito eh, dito ko nakwento lahat.

Haha napahaba ata xD

[plumpolka]

Have you ever cheated on bf or hubby ever?
- yes na no? i was talking to a guy sa office na alam kong may crush sakin and i started opening up sa mga issues ko sa BF ko so i guess it's a yes pero no physical contact but slighty attracted to him as well.

What were the circumstances that led you to doing that? Reasons?
- i know he's doing something i dont want him doing. malakas talaga kutob ko na he was still talking to his ex whom he has a child with na nasa canada na. i know i cant control him sa ganon but i want him to be open with me na kinausap nya or something kasi i already had a bad experience with him talking to his ex behind my back. yung akala kong anak lang, anak pala ang ginagawa nila ulit.
Did you regret it?
- honestly, no. kasi wala naman nangyari samin e. but i know it's emotional cheating pero sakin, i dont care. you talk to her, i'll have mine. quits langDid you confess it to your partner?- No. alam na nya na may something kasi binigyan ako food ng officemate kong to. and when he asked me his name, d ko sinabi. sa isip ko, ikaw lang ba pwede may sikreto? wag ako.
 
What was his reaction?
- hinamon nya suntukan yung lalaki. my bf is 6' and gym buff, while the guy, mga 5'10 siguro pero with military bckground kasi he's korean. nagalit sya sa guy kasi sabi nya d naman nya magawang magalit sakin kahit alam nya ako parin talaga ang may kasalanan. actually, i still feel no remorse over what happened. i just gave him a dose of his own medicine. sinabi ko na sa kanya noon na wag nya ako pagtataguan at hindi ako natatakot na iwanan at ipagpalit sya if he cant keep his word.


Did he forgive you? Are you still together? What did it do to your relationship?
- yes. pero sabi nya he cant forget what i did sa kanya. i think mas naging open kami ngayon sa relationship namin. he changed. gusto nya ko lagi binibigyan ng attention nya and sabi nya narealize nya na ayaw daw nya ko mawala at mapunta sa iba. after that, he gave me a promise ring na "all in" na daw talaga sya.


Did he not forgive you? How are you doing now?

What's the best lesson you ever learned from this if there's any?
- wala hahaha! ewan ko pa. i did it dahil punong puno na ako sa lakas ng kutob ko na may something na naman sa kanya. ilang beses ko na pinarinig sa kanya na gusto kong malaman if kinakamusta nya ba yung x nya. now, he showed me yung message ng ex nya if nagmemessage pa sa kanya. siguro ang natutunan ko is maniwala sa instinct ko. pag naramamdaman kong may something, siguradong may something. i was able to talk to his mom about my issues with his son as well as his x and nagets naman daw ako ng mom nya. at narealize ko na kaya ko na im not gonna put up with his sh*t. this is his last chance na pagbibigyan ko sya, but after this, narealize ko at narealize din siguro nya na madami pang ibang magkakagusto saking iba, hindi lang sya so kung ayaw nyang iwanan ko sya, magtino sya.

[keejac21]

^parang revenge nga ang dating sis.