how would you feel if mas close sa iba ang nanay mo?

[shinta]

i don't exactly have the greatest relationship with my mother, especially nung teenager ako. may step-siblings kasi ako at sila lagi yung pinagmumulan ng tension between us. but we're okay now. pero madalas feeling ko mas close siya dun sa step-sister ko or even dun sa mga pamangkin ko than with me.

alam ko madami silang sikreto. madaming beses ko na silang naririnig na nag-uusap ng pabulong tapos pagpalapit na ako, bigla na lang silang tatahamik. even yung mga problema namin sa family, mas nai--sha-share ng nanay ko sa pamangkin ko kesa sakin. nakakasama talaga ng loob.

[aquacharly]

Getz kita, of course her greater closeness to others is disappointing.   But the thing is -- relationships are built on both sides.  Love begets love, sabi.  If you show openness, patience and undertanding -- you will get to be just as close to your mom as  the others are now.  Make the First small step then -- she will surely respond.  It will take time, of course -- but you must stay positive and leave in The Past what  does not work. 

[shinta]

^thanks sis aquacharly honestly, parang napakahirap gawin nung suggestion mo. di kasi ako lumaking open sa kanya. we can talk about mother-daughter stuff, but not "friends" stuff. i guess na-trauma ako. the few times that i tried kasi nung bata pa ako, ako pa napagalitan at nasisi.

having step-siblings made it worse kasi i was frequently compared to them. me, being on the bad side tapos sila yung laging mabait, maganda, etc. kaya sobrang sensitive ako pagdating sa kanila. i have accepted their presence in our family, but i haven't learned how to treat them as part of the family. minsan nga nasabi ko sa nanay ko that i see them as kaagaw rather than kapamilya.

but i will try, slowly as you suggested. i guess it will help na magiging mommy na din ako para mas maging close kami. ang pinaka-ayoko lang talaga is yung maririnig mo silang nag-uusap tapos biglang tatahimik pag palapit na ako. nakaka-praning. naiisip ko nga ngayon, when i have my own child, i won't ever make her/him feel alienated kasi it's not a good feeling talaga, esp when it comes from your own mother.

thanks again sis 

[shatz]

i love it when sis aquacharly gives her opinion,.. =)