The Ugly Duckling - In Reverse

[baby_chichay]

This is just a curious question.

Have you ever felt at some point that you have gone from being attractive to unattractive? pretty to somewhat not so pretty? the reverse of ugly duckling, something like that?

I don't mean to be rude or anything, just wondering how an individual perceives himself or herself, or another individual for that matter, or how his or her life has changed because of this shift from yeah, being good looking before to not so good looking now.

Possible reasons could include, getting into an accident which greatly affected your physical attributes, losing or gaining too much weight (not saying that gaining or losing weight makes one less attractive, but more on that your appearance might change because of weight changes, developing a  skin condition that's difficult to treat, having a medical condition which affects your appearance generally, being into too much stress that one has neglected his or her own appearance over time, these things.

I wonder what your personal experiences are, how did those around you react to the change/s, how are you dealing with it, how did you change overall from being a lot better looking before than what you look now. Let's share each other's thoughts here.

[aquacharly]

I may be older & less frisky/less trim -- but I do not feel like an Ugly Duckling.
Actually, I perceive myself now as more attractive since I know how to paint my face better, my flirting is better refined (hahaha), I dress better & well, Confidence adds to one's attractiveness. 
Atchaka sa panahon nga yon when every beauty trick can be Googled -- may pangit pa ba?@

At any age, one can be beautiful.  It is a matter of attitude. 
When I was a tween, and surely very attractive to pedophiles -- Hindi naman ako pinapansin ng HS guys.  Eh paki ko sa mga uhugin pang Gradeschoolers?  I made a career of waiting & projecting myself to turn beautiful when I hit my teen years. Haynako, wrong attitude.


Tapos, feel ko, sexy na sexy ako when I hit 15 at liniligawan na ko ng ma boys with cars   Hahaha

I may have lost my teen "freshness " but I do not feel like an Ugly Duckling.
At wala ako intention to turn into one in my old age.
Attitude lang yan, plus staying healthy, and improving your mind, character & personality yan.
Now, if I got stuck on my fixation on teen boys na eto, 30plus na ko with kids --  Aba eh, baka nga perception of self ko Ugly Duckling na ko.

Mariah Carey got engaged to a billionaire, who gave her an engagement ring bigger than that of Elizabeth Taylor's from Burton.  He is only a year or 2 older than her.  Now, that is proof that one need not turn into an Ugly Duckling after adding on years, pounds, & tawdry experiences.  .

[baby_chichay]

^as always sis aquacharly, i love your positive attitude, good vibes lagi. 

for me naman, people can be downright mean to others and to themselves when it comes to how they look, especially if it changed sort of outside the norm. yun bang instead of "improving" or "upgrading" as expected, your physical looks changed and turned for the not so better.

comments like, "hindi ka naman ganyan dati, ano nangyari sayo, bakit ganyan na itsura mo" (especially when you've gained weight, developed adult acne, etc.), i'm sure it hits you and your self-esteem in a way. thinking na there's nothing wrong with you, tapos people, friends, family point out your flaws, or how different you look now compared to before... it stings. and you wonder what the h3ll happened to you, why others perceive you this way now.

i think it happens to everyone, i mean the occasional slip na you somehow neglect yourself, you let yourself go, stress eats you, life gets in the way, and you end up being less pretty or attractive, you know those pangit days. but for me i forgive myself for these slips, and i don't let these derail me.

but we can't deny that not all of us have a positive attitude when it comes to these things. i have a friend, she has hormonal problems, so she gained weight, lost hair and has acne now. she used to be so slim and makinis, the life of the party and was sort of a heartthrob when we were in our twenties, so the dramatic change to her physical looks affected her personality very much. the comments from other people don't help either. i don't see her as different though that much because she's my friend, but we also have other friends who sometimes ask me what happened to her, bakit pinabayaan nya sarili nya, etc. i feel bad and sad for her. i realized people are just mean, noh?

[Project60]

When i got pregnant i got really fat. hangang ngayon fat pa din ako hehe.
Feeling na kung feeling but when I was younger a lot of times i get complimented because of being sexy kaya nung after ko manganak and until now di na ko kasing outgoing ng dati because i dont feel good - i feel na yung pinaka  tatak ko dati, wala na.

Well trying to change that na after 5 years... ngayon nag eexercise na ko instead of sulking. i guess post partum got in the way din kasi plus yung fact na dahil taken ka na iniisip mo you have nothing to prove when in fact narealize ko you owe it to yourself to try to be the best version of yourself. oh well easier said than done! i hope pumayat naman ako kahit di na sexy basta di lang overweight.

[patriciaheart]

Yes, when I was a teen and in college I was very thin, then after having a baby ayun na. Not saying na panget ang mataba but I used to be very thin and proportioned, I know what I am missing. Kasalanan ko rin naman kung bakit ako ganito kasi sa mga habits ko, I can't really be upset for the results of the work I did not do. But this is just a phase and weight is something I can control may mga steps lang talaga akong dapat I take. Hinde na kasing bilis tulad noon pero meron at merong paraan. I hope you feel better sis marami kang karamay haha

[Project60]

sis eto.. mataba pa din ako.. exercise ng exercise pero walang nababawas
haha siguro kasi pag stressed ako kain din ako ng kain.

Oh well. life goes on hahaha.
sa sobrang low self esteem ko di ako umaattend ng mga reunion at silently praying na shucks sana wala akong makasalubong from the past hahaha.
nakakatamad din mag ayos kasi pag alam mong suman ka tignan.
nothing against sa mataba, pero personally kasi di naman ako kagandahan ang lamang ko lang talaga nuon is my body eh ngayon? hahaha.