Something's Not Right

[Girltalker2]

If your evidences are not enough, look for more. Don't show him that you're doubting him too much, tendency is for him to be more careful. Observe mo yung text messages and calls sa phone nya. I know it's not appropriate but times like that, be more aware on what's happening. Mahuhuli at mahuhuli mo yan 

So kung mahuli mo man, like before, then what? Kung wala karin naman gagawin at di naman willing si hubby to change his ways, he will hide as much things as he can while you exert all your effort to investigate. Lalo lang kayo mag aaway.

[jesusadusa]

TS, I think the concern on being proud of the family via FB/friends is just a side-effect of all the other problems.. You don't need to wait for something drastic like magkaroon ng kabit to address the issues.

Mahirap lang diyan eh parang matagal na yung mga problema tama ba? Mukhang naging habit na ng husband mo..

tahimik lang akong tao.  in the past kapag nag aaway kami i would leave the house.  ang problema siguro sa relationship namin walang apologies, walang forgiveness.  and worse, no remorse on his part.  i was so stupid for letting him get away with all those hurtful things that he has done.  kaya heto umabuso na 

[books_mags]

If i were in your situation, ititigil ko muna pangungulit kay hubby.  Tama ang mga ibang nag comment na wala ka rin naman magagawa kung nambababae siya.  Yes you can start a fight pero most likely no resolution if he is not yet willing to change.
Try to focus on your yourself and your kids for now.  Prettify and take up a new hobby or enroll if something new - cooking, baking, dress making, etc.  this will help u find your happiness again without depending on him.  Kung bukas mauntog siya at magpakabait, e d good. Ir if umamin na may other woman, at least u won't be too lost dahil na prepare mo na sarili mo.

[Janelc]

If your evidences are not enough, look for more. Don't show him that you're doubting him too much, tendency is for him to be more careful. Observe mo yung text messages and calls sa phone nya. I know it's not appropriate but times like that, be more aware on what's happening. Mahuhuli at mahuhuli mo yan 

I was exactly doing this before hanap ako ng hanap ng evidence kung tuloy pa rin sila ni kabitch. I was snooping around sa cel, car, wallet, bank statements etc. but then I thought I was better than this.  This is not the kind of relationship that I want so kinausap ko si hubby sinabi kong yung nararamdaman ko and we both agreed na no more lies and secrets.  Nangako siyang tapos na talaga so I thought I'd give him the benefit of the doubt of course nandun pa rin yung duda di naman nawawala yun eh. So far wala pa naman akong nararamdamang kakaiba. Fingers crossed

[jesusadusa]

sa totoo lang i still can't get over the facetbook profile pic issue.  it is really bothering me that much. i believe na kung ano man ang rason nya  will unlock the mystery behind it.  baka parang opening a pandora's box?  but i think i am prepared to know kung ano yung katotohanan.  ang problema lang kasi eh i can't engage him in a mature civil discussion.  laging nagtataas ng boses at nagagalit when confronted.  kahit anong lumanay ng approach ko once na pagtaasan na ako ng boses natataranta na ako. 

since deactivated ang fb account nya he tried to communicate thru ym.  susko, sino pa ba gumagamit ng ym ngayon?  yung exchange of messages namin, well sa part ko, was simply to inform him about our daughter's school requirement.  tapos nagkwento na sya ng kung ano ano pinag gagagawa nya dun na para bang as if walang nangyari.  ano yun?  deadmahin ko muna.  nanggagalaiti na ako sa galit eh sya parang life goes on pa rin ang drama.

i will try to inquire sa isang call center job na malapit lang dito sa amin.  but i've read somewhere about this Uber driving job and interesado ako.  seryoso, parang exciting yata for me yung maging driver ng Uber 

[Girltalker2]

^ good luck TS. Feel free to update, if ever natuto na hubby mo tumino.

[jesusadusa]

update:  hubby and i were able to talk. unang na resolve, nag activate na sya ng facebook account.  after a week pinag usapan na namin yung issue ng pagpapadala nya ng pera sa mga kamag anak.  it was a long discussion.  hirap na hirap sya maintindihan yung issue, na hindi naman yung pera ang issue dun but yung pagpapadala nya ng pera sa iba without my knowledge.  so he finally understood kung ano ang kinasasama ng loob ko.  after that he changed his profile picture and cover pic.  picture na namin yung nilagay nya. 


i went to Convergys, nag apply ako trabaho.  ang bilis ng process. after ng interview pinag exam kaagad ako.  after the exam job offer na.  nagulat ako, i wasn't prepared to really get back to work.  sabi ko babalik na lang ako.  i asked my youngest daughter's permission, di nya ako pinayagan.  nag dramahan kaming mag ina.  ang ending, di ko na pinatulan yung trabaho.  masyadong magulo ang schedule.  mahihirapan ako mag adjust dahil shifting sked. 

now i am eyeing an online english teaching job.  nasa orientation na ako when my internet suddenly decided na magluko.  wow, talk about the universe conspiring...hahaha!  naghahanap na ako ngayon ng matinong internet provider.  saka ko babalikan yung online teaching job.

ang funny lang, sabi ni hubby nung naghahanap ako trabaho "kulang  ba yung pinapadala kong pera sa inyo at gusto mo pa magtrabaho?  ano na lang sasabihin ng friends mo, na kulang sustento ko sa inyo?"  wala lang, sarili pa rin ang iniisip nya

[Girltalker2]

TS, that's really good na nakapag usap kayo. 

Ang sagot sa tanong nya: gusto ko makatulong. Para puede ka na mag retire ng maaga para lagi tayo magkasama. Minsan gusto ka namin i-surprise ng anak mo eh kulang na-save ko... etc etc

[jesusadusa]

i went to confession two weeks ago.  may halong counselling yung confession.  i told the priest about my husband's chat activities, na merong SOC na nangyayari.  muntik na ako tumambling when the priest said "baka naughty naughty lang yung chat ng husband mo.  wala naman talagang nangyari"  OMG  hindi na ako babalik dun para mangumpisal.

[mikaelavhan]

^kaloka naman yung term ni father sis" baka naughty naughty lang"