DATING GAME IN THE US

[gingerandspice]

Has anybody ever tried dating a non-filipino?

Napansin ko na iba talaga culture nating mga pinoy.. When we are already steady dating someone we tend to talk to them and love to stay connected even random nothingness throughout the day. Dito kasi they would find that very needy and too much to handle. And what I like about pinoys is that when they like someone, usually they only go for one person and they are really persistent. Dito kasi bawal pakipot, if you show that you aren't interested, on to the next na yan!

Does anybody have some tips on dating guys with western culture?

[lunast]

napansin ko din yan dato sis.lol i think sa pakikipot, ibang way lang ang paraan nila nang pagpapakipot.. nagplaplay hard to get lang ang babae pinapakita na in-demand siya sa ibang lalaki, etc. pagka-pinoy, nililigawan ka pa lang minsan, may i love u na. lol dito ang tagal.. most of the time, mag-sex muna kau before madedevelop fully [textspeak!] relationship. nakakalito rin. meron ding kasing casual dating, etc. pero ok lang kasi i enjoy dating here more kasi parang mas madali makilala yung tao ka-relationship mo.. yun nga lang, mas common din ang cheating dito.. in both sexes. ewan ko kung ako lang ha, pero lahat yata ng naka-date ko na americano nagkaroon ng gf na nag-cheat sa kanila. tapos usually cause na yun ng break up nila..even kahit once lang nag-cheat.. hiwalayan na. sa atin, natotolerate pa madalas ang cheating ng other party. pero yun lang observations ko ha.

[akthung]

most of the dating advices in the net are based on western concepts. i guess you'd just need to surf and surf. just make sure that its a western site. and you'll know where dating goes.

[Shadow Angel]

Personally i like foreigner than pinoy. Mas ok ang at mas compatible ako sa kanila. As of now ok kami ni partner wala masyadong drama at madali kausap wala ng mga mind reading effect ayoko kasi nun tipong huhulaan ko pa kung ano iniisp ni guy nakakastress ang ganun. Based on my experience kapag hindi ka ok at alam nya may problema inaayos agad. About sa dating na sayo yan paano madadali ang guy sa gustong mo mangyari for example getting to know muna na hindi naman tipong boring. Sa akin kasi hindi rin about sex pipiliin mo lang talag malalaman mo naman if casual sex lang ang gusto ng guy. My fiance sabi nya willing sya magwait kung kelan ako ready ang gusto nya kasi pareho kami comportable. About beeing needy ok naman kasi based on my exeperience sa chat and date mas sila pa ang nagtataka if no heard from me lalo na si fiance ngayon. Pero siempre iba-iba my friend din ako na foreigner ang bf ang bf naman nya nagsasawa sa pagka needy nya. Well si friend kasi aminado sya na demading sya at hindi nya maalis ang ganun. Tapos lagi rin sya tamang hinala ayaw nya may ibang freinds na girls ang bf nya. Bakit ganun ang ibang pinay ang gusto sa kanila lang iikot ang mundo ng bf nila at ayaw ng may ibang friend na girl ang bf. Oh well magkakaiba tayo ng gusto at ugali. Basta ako iim trying not to be demanding. I give space and me time. Be yourself and be confident.

[akthung]

i think its better to hear stories from people who've been around in another country.

there are also men in other countries, particularly first world countries, who want a 1950s wife. yep. that's what they call it here. baliw na baliw sila sa ipinaghahain sila ng dinner...lalo na nung nakita nila yung isang pinay dito na ipinaghiwa lang yung asawa ng pagkain. short circuit utak nila!

mga puti na babae kasi parang lalaki na din...well, minsan over pa. common din na inaaabusado yung mga puting lalake ng mga babae, at kung ano ano hinihingi...and divorce is nasty and one sided (slowly changing though).

kaya yung mga puti na lalake, naghahanap na lang ng hindi puti, at least nafefeel nila na they're being "served" a better share of things.

tsaka mga westerners, every mental. and mga asyano lalo na pinoy, napaka emotional. masyado ma emote. mga maliliit na bagay pinalalaki at hindi patatalo kung umere

on the other hand naman may mga pinay din na pagkakuha ng citizenship, bigla na lang mag fifile ng divorce.

another point naman is yung clash of cultures. my uncle is married to a white and kitang kita ang differences...lalo na pag way way beyond the glitter and honeymoon period.



pero kanya kanyang bad apples lang siguro yan.

i say...do whatever rocks your boat and hope you dont get the bad apples.