May Tiwala ako sayo, Pero sa mga kasama mo WALA!!! (Mrs. to Mr.)

[rannamaldita]

May Tiwala ako sayo, Pero sa mga kasama mo WALA!!!

Tama bang sabihin sa Asawa mo yung ganitong line?

Alam mong matino at hindi gagawa ng mali ang asawa mo, pero ng dahil sa mga nakakahalubilo nakakagawa sya ng mga bagay na alam mong hindi nya gawain.
(eg: pambabae, pagsusugal, paglalasing, etc.)

Ibig sabihin ba nito May tiwala ka talaga sa asawa mo?
O wala ka talagang tiwala kaya naiisip mong makakagawa sya ng mali?

Sa palagay nyo ano ang maiisip ng mga Asawa ninyo kung sasabihan mo sila ng ganito?
Makakabuti ba o makakasama?


Thanks in advance sa mga magaadvice.
 

[Girltalker2]

TS, I suppose ayaw mo magsugal, maglasin at mambabae ang asawa mo.  Bakit hindi nyo nalang pag usapan, kesa pag bawalan mo sya tapos you need to come up with a reason na kasi wala kang tiwala sa mga kasama nya.

Pag usapan ninyo na hindi tama ang mambabae, sumugal or maglasing, and hopefully he agrees with it.  If not, dito ka medyo magkakaproblema, kasi ibig sabihin, iba ang set ng values ninyo and somehow one has to give in.

[aquacharly]

IMO, useless sabihin yan sa husband -- in that context:  others' vices.

When a husband goes along with others' vices -- CHOICE nya yon, que may tiwala  ka or not.

[mooncake and leaves]

possible that your husband will read that line as you don't trust his judgment. na he can't think for himself. also, it's always tricky when you criticize someone's circle. they can take it too personally, as if you're dissing family.

however, if you really don't trust his friends, you should voice your concerns. tell him straight, once and with as much composure as you can muster. because it is a fact that if your husband is surrounded by people with questionable life choices, there's a chance he'll follow suit. the things na hindi niya maiisip gawin on his own, magkakalakas siya ng loob to pursue if the people around him are doing the same or worse. when they get together and majority is alangan ang ugali, they will exist in a bubble. the standard of acceptable behavior, lowered. for example, that gruesome case of a sorority pledge in manila before, wherein she was raped by 30 frat members. sa 30 na yun, walang nakunsensya. walang nagsabi na, this is f*cked up. that's because individual thought is oftentimes swallowed by the group.

maybe you can try a compromise. instead of saying flat out na he can't hang out with his friends, after their night out, suggest a follow-up get-together with the families or with the wives. or kung gusto nila mag-inuman, puwede naman sa bahay. sometimes a simple reminder na their respective families exist and you all know each other is enough para mahimasmasan mga yan. sometimes.

[quinone]

i do not know if it is right or wrong to say that, pero ako i let my husband go with whomever he wants kasi i trust his judgement. kahit ayaw ko yung certain friend na yun, ok lang kasi i know him na siya yung tipong kapag may alam na mali like may ayaw siya na gawin or pag-usapan or what aalis siya dun, iiwanan niya sila.

hindi siya nagpapa-peer pressure. hindi siya nahihiya magsabi sa mga kasama niya kapag may ayaw siya. hindi siya nahihirapan tumanggi.

[princessrio]

nasa asawa mo yan.. kung magpapatangay sya sa bisyo ng mga tinatawag nyang kaibigan. so kung magloko sya, maging manginginom, etc. it will be his choice, not his friends.

i remember yung kuwento ng asawa ko. we were in a long-distance relationship back then. few months before our wedding, yung isang kasamahan nya, pilit na pinapaligawan sa kanya yung isang sales lady. kuntodo pilit si friend sa asawa ko. ayaw naman ng asawa ko and told his friend na ikakasal na sya. ang sagot ni friend ay "ikakasal lang naman pala e. saka malayo naman kayo ng magiging misis mo." ay naku, kinalimutan ng asawa ko na kaibigan nya yun. kung mag-usap man sila, sige sa usap pero hanggang dun na lang. hindi na sya sumasama dun. katwiran ng asawa ko, mapapahamak lang sya, bad influence at hindi nya maituturing na kaibigan.