when is the best time to date after a bad break up

[lulay23]

Question lang:

Is it good to go on a date even you are still nursing a broken heart???

your thoughts on this.. =)

[ysa.belle]

sabi nila if problem mo ang lalaki eh di lalaki rin ang solution...

i dont find that true... kase i would rather "mourn" for the loss of the relationship so that when i enter into a new one eh i can say na okay na talaga ako. alangan naman i would jump into the next relationship pero may hangover pa ako sa old one. unfair on both parties yun.

[coo]

yes you can go on a date.. date palang naman e, hindi ka pa naman papasok sa isang relationship again.. and for sure naman yung nag aya sayo mag date alam na nasa moving on stage ka palang.. and it helps na maka recover ka at maging happy uli..  para makalimutan mo din yung negative things na nagyari sayo.. past na yun.. nasa present ka na.. so iwan mo na lahat ng nasa past.. whats more important is your present.. and plan for your future..  good things will come your way..

[qwrty88]

makipagdate lang ng makipagdate. papilahin sila sis! hahaha. kahit pano madadivert sa iba yung isip naten diba. take it one step at a time. ang first step is to date another guy! haha. landeemuch!

sabi nila if problem mo ang lalaki eh di lalaki rin ang solution...

super like ko! hahaha.

[lulay23]

i guess..one should go on a date pag pakiramdam niya na ok na siya..mahirap naman makipag date na iniiyakan mo [textspeak!] ka date mo because of the hurt sa previous relationhsip..i think pag ready ka na to initiate happy conversation...well, sabe nga nila..dating is fun even it doesn't turn out to be Mr right!!

i like the landee much hehe =)

[ShoesAndTravel]

Hindi ka kasi makaka move on pag nagmukmok ka sa bahay lang. I suggest umalis alis ka.. Kahit date or with friends. It's just a date... Wala naman masama dun... =) Seriously, it helps.

[shiftingsands]

i think it depends kung gaano kasakit yung impact ng break up. if the pain is still strong then let it heal muna before you start seeing other people again.

kasi unfair naman yun sa ka date mo kung while on a date bigla mo maalala ex mo at gusto mo mag breakdown at umiyak or every sentence you utter is about your ex. parang ang pangit naman nun diba. even if it's the other way around, yung ka date mo ang maging ganon turn off diba?

being back in the dating world means you are open to meeting someone special. don't date coz you're afraid to be alone. you're only setting yourself up for more pain. date for all the right reasons.

[jpsv72]

when is the best time to date after a bad break up my answer is right after the break up, so that you could move on, di maganda yung mag mukmok ka lang, still di ka naman na papasok sa bagong relationship diba, date palang, at makikilala mo ang sarili more then you will realize why the past relationship had failed. You will not look like a looser as well kc mostly sa mga lalaki after ng break up inom at hanap ng barkada, dapat mga girls ganun din ang gawin para di naman tayo ma stress.

[krnmprl]

if you're talking about going serious with another person, i think it has to be when you're already rid of all your issues with the previous person. kasi unfair naman db.

example, for my mistake #1, i started dating mistake #2 after only 10 months. I'm on future mistake #3 now, more than 2 years after mistake #2 has ended but i feel i still need more time. to figure things out.

do you ever get this feeling as if you're just repeating yourself. same old. where did you grow up. hows your family like. favorite books, movies, bands. awesome sex, then not so awesome sex. and then the end. and then do it all over again with another person. it gets old sometimes.

i think it's never a question of how much time you need to heal before the next one, but are you at the point where you already gained insights from your previous relationship that will allow you to approach your next relationship differently (like actually trying to make it work)

sori haba ng post. this is my dilemma right now. and i'm awake at 4am thinking about it. 

[daria]

kung date lang naman, even the day after you broke up! hahaha.
pero walang seryosohan ah, companionship lang.

pero kung tingin mo you're still vulnerable that you will make patol whoever shows you gentleness, wag muna..

ako kasi game pagtawanan sarili ko kahit after breakups e. hehe. funny kaya.

[aleiness]

3 months rule. hehe

[sheryllynn]

at least 3-6 months and specially when you are both okay already.

[babyjapnurse01]

IMHO, wala namang certain time span that we are required to follow. once youre ready to date again, then go, kahit a day lang yan after a break-up.

nangyari na sakin before na after the break-up totally nawala yung love and care ko for the person dahil napalitan na ng galit and disgust. so kahit ready na ko mag-date ng iba nun, since wala naman dumating na new guy, mukmok ever padin ako and stayed single haha!

basta para sakin, never ever date someone else hanggat may feelings ka pa for your ex or if you are still hurting from the breakup. kawawa naman yung bago mong idedate kung mafall sya sayo tapos ikaw, on your way to recovery pa lang.

[17arci]

if casual dating lang, kahit 1 day after your break up. if exclusive dating ang hanap mo, better wait until your feelings for your ex have somehow dwindled.

[alltruehealth]

As soon as you're sure you're ready, go for it!
Kasi kung every now and then, naiisip mo pa rin pala makipagbalikan kay ex...
or hopeful ka pa rin na babalik sya sayo.. niloloko mo lang sarili mo..
may napapaasa ka pang iba nang hindi mo sinasadya..
Try not to make things complicated... Step by Step lang...
Break Up, Iyak, Move On, Love Yourself, Then Start Anew.

[OD]

well if youre certain youre not bound to be emotionally vulnerable or if you believe you can handle it well then dont wait till the next day to date another guy. Ok, not in that literal sense like next day but dont sulk and see people the moment the chance arrives. After all, it's just going or hanging out with a person who could potentially mitigate the blues lalo na if you guys will hit it off right away. You know sometimes 2 people can click and cohere instantly and it could help you forget about everything that sucked in a past relationship.

The thing about nasty splits is to avoid being an auteur and make a favorite movie out of past experiences and failed relationships. It is perfectly fine to vet on where you or perhaps both of you were amiss thus the romance petered out, but trying to relive the events that transpired and making rectifications and "re-shooting" the scenes in your mind, interposing those "what-if" scenarios wont get you anywhere but right there in your bed or on your desk staring blankly from afar (with tears welling up on your eyes). Not a pleasant scene, right? You already are aware of where or which aspect in the relationship you and/or your ex became errant, it is best to apply the lessons learned on this new quest. And as mentioned earlier in a post, date for all the right reasons.

[Serena.]

NO. You would not want to hurt him/her, he or she will be a rebound lang if you're still moving on. Wait till your heart is ready for a new partner.



xo