He is not helping me to move on....

[sweetgirl]

We broke-up for a month now.. Let me share the whole story at least you have a background of us. He was introduced by a common friend. What i did not know is nanligaw sya s common friend namn at the same time nanliligaw sya skin and only him and our common friend knew about it. Then when i found out syempre nagalit ako. I Also found out n may nangyari s knila nun friend ko. Still he insisted n manligaw and i fell in-love at sinagot ko siya. And he did stop nman panliligaw s commn friend namn. But then again may pumasok n girl s buhay nya. Ngaway kme and still nilayuaan nya un girl. This is the 2nd time n may 3rd party samin. He did his part well at naibalik nya tiwala ko s knya. We are happy after that. Then came another girl again. So meaning si girl a which is our common friend, si girl b n aftr ko malaman bumawi nman sya ng bongga at naayos namin then came girl c. Na gumawa sya ng fb account for that girl. Sobra ko naiins at hiniwalayan ko n.  also found out n si girl c has a bf. si bf ko or rather x ko is a kabit din ni girl c. Si ex try na ko balkan. He is saying n [textspeak!] nman dw un girl n un. Sabi ko alisin nya s buhay bya un dahl i have evidence nman n sila talaga like s fb un comment ni girl c. Ska frm his friends n rin n sila ni girl c at may bf n iba si girl c. I told him n hndi ako naniniwala n [textspeak!] sila girl c. I know how stupid it is n balikan sya. Mahal ko prin sya pero ang pumipigil lag skn n balkan sya is [textspeak!] girl c. Ang hirap p [textspeak!] madalas sya tumatwag skin and even his sister dn gusto mkipagkita skin. His family knows me. What i wnt is either he leaves me alone or be with me and only me. Ang hirap mg mve-on kun madalas sya tumwag skin. I am confused dn s actions nya. [textspeak!] he is not wiling to let go of the girl but he never stops bothering me and saying n hindi sila nun girl that he wnts me back. Stupid me,,,,,

[maye2k]

Change your phone number sis, cut any communication access with him. Go move on by simply keeping yourself busy with other stuff. It's yourself can only make this happen. Don't let this person dominate your decision, just because you love him you'd already allow him to hurt you all over again? That's totally bull***t. IMO, it's emotional torture sis, try to control yourself and soon once you'll realize it, you'll just laugh at it. He's not worth it, unless you're willing to try and try all over again till ikaw na din magsasabing suko ka na .

[piatos]

sis, dont entertain your ex.. Iwas ka na muna hanggang mawala na feelings mo.. Sa una lang yan mahirap pero pag nasanay ka na parang wala kang pinagdaanan  I hope makayanan mo na iwasan na siya.  Love yourself first sis yan ang una kong natutunan after my breakup with my ex.  Dont forget to pray din sis.

[paper_doll]

Typical kind of playboy. Not worth it. Don't be deceived by his lies again. Simple lang, ignore his existence.

[pret_ty68]

Mga ganyang lalaki gusto nila palaging may reserba. Ginagawa nya yan para kung sakaling magkalabuan sila nung isa may mapupuntahan sila dahil ayaw nilang mabakante.

[aquacharly]

SWEETGIRL --  sa dami ng Cast of Characters sa side ng guy na yan --  IF I were you, hindi ko iisipin na BF ko sya, na naging "kami".  Mas isipin ko pang, 1 of many akong Spare Tires.

And that "common friend" of yours -- na nakipag moromoro sa pagloko sa yo  -- she sure is "common"; and I don't mean that as in a "shared friend".   

Hmmmm, IF I were you --  I'd get a real BF & real friends. 
This all is a waste of time , emotions & words on your part -- IMO, but then, what do I know anyway? .

[jaemi33]

I'm sorry to say this but he is a total douch*bag. Not worth your time at all. I didnt even finish your whole post sis. Ang gulo kasi! lol and just by reading half of it at ang daming nag popopped out na girl A, B, C and etc., obviously this is just going to be a cycle.

Cheating is choice and not a mistake! Please move on unless you want to be forever his choice of cheating diba. Love youserlf more.

[sweetgirl]

Thanks mga sisses...i am trying to move on. Pero ewan ko b... Hirap [textspeak!] sya ang first ko sa ganun. Kaya sobra hirap sakin. Un sister din nya super [textspeak!] at tawag skin. Mega tanng sakin and gusto makipgbonding skin, naman oh. Alam ng relatives nya na [textspeak!] n kme pero yung sister nya tumatawag prin skin. And she is asking if kung magbabago brother nya tatangapin ko prin b? They like me daw for him.  Sabi nya galit un mommy nila [textspeak!] si si ex nagloko.

[jaemi33]

sis, I understand na yung family niya also plays a big part pero diba at the end of the day, yung ex mo naman yung pakikisamahan mo at hindi sila? Ikaw yung masasaktan at hindi sila? And based from your story parang more than 3 chances na yung binigay mo. I know it's hard, trust me lahat naman ata tayo dumaan sa trying to move on period, pero I'm sure everyone will say it's worth it after all the sufferings. Kaya mo yan sis! Use your girl power na nakatago jan sa loob mo! 

[aquacharly]

Darling, do not expect him to help you to move on.  User-friendly sya,  you expect him to put your interest/good before his selfish drive?   Hello, wake  up please.

So -- did I get you right --  that he is the first one you had sex with (and the only one to-date)?
So?
Whoever told you that gifting a guy with your virginity keeps him tied to you? Dear, you swallowed hook-line-and-sinker a huge lying fairy tale.
The reverse: you don't need to tie yourself to the person you had sex with first. hello. Kung hindi ka na happy, hindi ka treated well --  move on.

YOU help yourself move on -- that's the reality.
If you don't want to move on, inspite of all your sufferings --  sige, say that you're waiting for him to help you move-on.   And continue to sound desperate:  by using the excuse his family loves you & misses you -- for clinging on.  You do sound as clinging on desperately, not sounding as if you want to move on. Really, I'm sorry if that stings -- it's just my opinion, after all. 

[sixteen16]

isa lang naman ang solusyon jan.. change your no. kung hindi mo kaya hindi sya replyan.. walang ibang tutulong syo kundi sarili mo.

[piatos]

sis, kung gusto mong pahirapan ang sarili mo go on.  been there, done that I'm telling you pagsisihan mo rin yan.  Ang nasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko nung nakamove on na ako bakit ko yun ginawa? ang tang@ ko naman?! Masakit na nga sa puso sapol pa pride mo.  Isipin mo na lang sis blessings sayo yan ni Yahweh nilayo ka niya sa hindi karapat-dapat.   

Sarili mo lang makakatulong sa iyo.. Huwag u na siyang pansinin..dapat hindi na yan pinagaaksayahan ng panahon cheater eh

[tomatostellar]

ikaw lang makakatulong sa sarili mo to move on.
please lang wag mo na sya bigyan ng chance kahit ano pa ipakita nya, chronic cheater na yan si kuya. youre better off w/o him.

[sweetgirl]

Yes aquacharly, he is the first and the only one i had sex with. Tama kap mga sisses... I am still trying to move on. Mahira pero what can do? I should help myself. I will ignore hos phone calls and i will try to move on. Hopelfully kayanin ko.

[AnJelatine]

Change your phone number sis, cut any communication access with him.

Yan, gawin mo muna yang first step.

"Ang hirap mg mve-on kun madalas sya tumwag skin."

Kung papalitan mo na yung number mo (AS IN NOW NA), hindi ka na niya matatawagan, mababawasan na din yung hirap mo para maka-move-on. Sometimes, all you need to do is take that first step

[CityHunter]

It sickens me that a lot of guys do this to girls nowadays.  Gone were the days when a man makes ligaw to just one and not juggles them.

I would concur with the suggestions here lalo na change your number.  Or you can block him naman.  It is not worth it to get back with someone who has tricked you.  Paano pa kung nagkamali ka to tie the know with him.  Mas painful iyon.  And hindi rin sagot ang live-in ha just to be safe on this kind of future happening.  Girls often end the loser in such.

[sweetgirl]

hi sis, after almost 3 years. i have a bf fr 2 yers na. and this time unlike this guy na super babaero. just happy to update you sisses that replied to my post and helped me. thanks guys.

[iam_me]

help yourself! wag mong hintayin na tulungan ka nyang mag move on , naranasan mo na kung pano ka nya balewalain, mambabae no reason para mag stay. para kasing pag walang available na ibang girl sayo sya , ikaw yung mahal nya pag merong iba dyan ka muna babalikan ka pag tapos na sila ng isa, "reserba" nga and wag mong hayaang maging ganun ka, tama sila cut all the communications na meron kayo mahirap talaga sa una pero need mong gawin yun.

[agape]

Ako naman similar situation. He is so nice to me, it's so mean, but he has a new GF behind my back, hence, he broke up with me so it wouldn't be cheating. This is the second attempt na naging successful na.