the best reaction is no reaction

[minikeyklush]

Hi GTalkers

Just want to know your POV's about the importance of silence after a "break up"

This "break up" means any situation in which the person
-Makes it clear that he is no longer interested in pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship with you
-Fading out after sex or a few dates
-Explicitly ending a long term relationship.

[graezieylicious]

For me the silence means a lot, i want to be silent after the breakup because of the ff:

-I am evaluating the situation
-I need to accept the situation that we are over
-Keeping my dignity intact
-Busy inventing and improving myself
-Enjoying my life

Hope this helps!

[amethyst028]

silence is golden. it will make him wonder bakit hindi mo siya hinahabol. guys usually expect girls to pursue them or ask for closure etc. kung deadma ka lang he will think na hindi mo pala siya ganoon ka mahal or hindi siya ganoon ka special kasii hindi ka naghabol.

in my experience ako lagi ang nakikipag break or nag di-disappear and it's best kung hindi ako kulitin ng guy once tapos na. mahirap kasi yung kinukulit ka pa or magmakaawa pa sayo. luluhod pa sa harap mo. or mag a-ask ng closure. ang ending you will have to lie para huwag sila masaktan pero lalo mo lang sila sinasaktan with your lies.

if the guy ended it, respect his wishes. masakit pero ganon talaga ayaw niya na e. i know it sounds heartless pero it is what it is. if it's the other way around i'm sure you will want him to respect you too kung ikaw na ang may ayaw.

[antithesisofbarbie]

for me silence means
1)madami ako gusto sabihin pero hindi ko na sasabihin dahil una - what's the point...
2) hulaan mo iniisip ko at gagawin ko
3) wala akong ibibigay sayo na reaction gaya ng ineexpect mo saakin.
4) acceptance
5) I dont care

[Frozen Toes]

In my opinion, choosing silence is a sign of class and higher intelligence, because it requires so much will power and self-restraint. No words are necessary or appropriate when it's over. Closure is a myth.

Also, let's try to shut up about it on social media (unless we're using an anonymous blog). We are not in a circus. Let's keep private things private.

[gc.garcia]

silence is golden. it will make him wonder bakit hindi mo siya hinahabol. guys usually expect girls to pursue them or ask for closure etc. kung deadma ka lang he will think na hindi mo pala siya ganoon ka mahal or hindi siya ganoon ka special kasii hindi ka naghabol.

I believe this is true sis...

I think this is one of the reasons why my ex from way back 6 years ago still sends random messages up to this day. He's professed once that I was the exception and the one he could never forget (this was years after we had parted ways na). Huge ego booster on my part of course But kidding aside, I think you leave your mark when you never begged nor chased after the guy who left you hanging and broke your heart. I think its because it makes men naturally wonder talaga why you are not chasing after them.

Personally though, I believe you should never subject yourself into begging or chasing after someone who doesn't love you. You deserve better. You deserve someone who's going to love you no matter what

[piatos]

silence for me means

- love yourself
- you're not the only fish in the sea
- acceptance
- keep your head up
- you're worthy

[stronger]

Sa ngayon my ex boyfriend for more than 3 yrs. call it quit. at first gusto ko siyang kausapin para magmakaawa, tanungin ng maraming bakit at umiyak ng umiyak pero habang kausap ko siya sa phone napi feel kong ayaw niya na talaga, di niya na masagot yung tanong ko kung mahal nya pa ko, so after namin mag usap sa phone and mag text ng simpleng goodbye he never heard any words from me;

silence for me is:

-too painful
-no exact words can explain how i feel
-i'm starting to move on and forgetting him
-using my pride
-there's no point to react
-accepting that it's over

[princessette]

silence for me is

1)control - bec once i break my silence there  are too many things to say that will hurt us both
2)moving on - the more i ignore you the better and faster I can get on with my life

[misslovelyjoy]

Fresh from break-up. Silence means:

1. I'm letting you go.
2. Accepting the fact that we're over.
3. Starting to ignore you and not care anymore.
4. Moving forward with my life without you.

[ohmygorjosh]

In my opinion, choosing silence is a sign of class and higher intelligence, because it requires so much will power and self-restraint. No words are necessary or appropriate when it's over. Closure is a myth.

Also, let's try to shut up about it on social media (unless we're using an anonymous blog). We are not in a circus. Let's keep private things private.

i couldn't agree more. thanks sis. this is what I need now. we just broke up a little while ago and we have been talking via text or chat at sa away lang palage napupunta. kailangan ko na talaga manahimik. pray and try to be a better person. focus on my life.

[lonely_dad]

ganito din ginawa ko, for the first time sa tagal namin para akong natanggalan ng tali sa leeg 

[iam_me]

silence after a breakup

- sobrang sakit kaya mas ok kung manahimik na lang kesa madagdagan pa yung sakit
-di masyadong nag si sink in yung mga nangyari