Randi Zuckerberg once wrote about how the entrepreneur's dilemma is that you can only choose three among these five life pillars: Maintaining friendships, building a great company, spending time with family, staying fit and getting sleep.
The entrepreneur's dilemma:— Randi Zuckerberg (@randizuckerberg) December 9, 2011
Maintaining friendships. Building a great company. Spending time w/family. Staying fit. Getting sleep.
It's not an exact science, but you don't have to be an entrepreneur to relate to the situation——we're all just trying to find proper work-life balance here. That said, it's totally understandable to put something on the backburner for a while, but remember that what you leave behind will always catch up with you eventually. So to make sure you don't neglect the important stuff, here are some problems that could signify that's it's time for a major life change:
1. You've been feeling caged in and restricted by where you live.
It could be a need for more alone time in a house with four other siblings or maybe the three hours you spend going back and forth your office is starting to weigh you down. Either way, you're craving for more independence and a decent eight-hours of sleep every night.
TRY: Moving to a place closer to work.
If you find that living in an inconvenient location is getting in the way of your growth as an individual, then it's time to prioritize your needs. With a few lifestyle tweaks and a willingness to take on new challenges, you'll be able to find a place within your budget. Remember, getting married isn't the only reason to move out. Living alone and away from home is a great way to see what you're capable of—just remember to visit your folks and give them a call from time to time.
2. You've been constantly tired, moody, and lethargic.
It's one thing to feel exhausted after a long day. But if you've fallen into the pattern of waking up tired, going to work cranky and snapping at strangers and officemates, then you might want to change up your routine.
TRY: Signing up for a fitness class and embracing a healthy lifestyle
Many people think that working out and eating right are mostly for weight loss, when in fact, exercise can totally improve your quality of life on the daily. It improves your sleep patterns, elevates your mood, and pushes you to be even more productive at work.
3. You're feeling restless with your relationship, but you're not quite ready for marriage just yet.
You've been together for years and you're getting tired of your usual routine of catching movies every Saturday and going on rushed dates amid busy work weeks. But when people ask you about wedding plans, you shy away from the conversation because you just know you're not quite there yet.
TRY: Traveling or moving in together
It's important for your relationship to mature as you get older, but how will that happen if you're stuck doing the same things all the time? By taking long trips alone or even fully moving in with your partner, you get the chance to truly test how well you work together as a couple. Going on romantic dates will always be fun, but to take on tasks like booking tickets and catching buses for cross-country road trips or painting a newly-renovated kitchen without the help of pros will really test how you take on challenges together.
4. You feel detached from your friends.
You find that your conversations aren't as interesting as they used to be and you're all stuck in the past in some way. You don't hate them or have any issues per se, but it just seems that your group is growing apart.
TRY: Joining an interest group.
You don't need to ditch your barkada for an entirely new one. You just need to meet more people with the same goals! Picking up a new hobby is already exciting as it is, but adding a social component to it is a different journey all together. Chances are, this growing passion will lead to even more milestones. (And you can invite your old friends to come and join you so you guys can have a new bonding activity, too!)
5. You stress about your finances, despite having a regular salary.
Your responsibilities are getting bigger and your lifestyle is starting to demand for more. Your budget used to work for you but you're also at a point where you want to enjoy your money.
TRY: Asking for a raise or exploring new career opportunities
You've been working hard since your twenties, when are you going to reap the benefits? If you know what you deserve, then don't be afraid to ask. At the end of the day, you work to live, not the other way around.
6. Your days are getting too repetitive, and your passion for your work isn't enough to keep you fulfilled.
You love your job and when people ask you what's wrong, you struggle to find an answer. On paper, everything is going as planned, but you can't help but feel like something's missing.
You don't need to wait until you're burnt out to go on a vacation. Sometimes, it's not your life but your perspective that needs to get updated. Explore a new destination and do more than just the touristy stuff. Seek out new opportunities and really step out of your comfort zone. You don't even need to go abroad, you just need to go somewhere new that'll stimulate your senses. You'll never know what's out there until you actually see for yourself.