Being a single mom has its share of surprising twists and edge-of-your seat turns. But what we perhaps don’t hear enough about is how it can also be a rewarding and fulfilling experience, a testament to a mother’s resilience and self-belief. Here are three simple but powerful tips that can make the journey of being a single mom less of a bumpy ride.
1. LOOK FOR A ROLE MODEL.
If hanging out with your other married or “in a relationship” friends is like rubbing salt into a wound and makes you feel left out out, then it might be a good idea to put a little distance between you and them. It may work better for you to find someone who knows what you’re going through—like other single moms who have had experiences similar to yours and lived to tell about it. Look for someone who is sincerely positive about the experience of living and loving single motherhood. You’ll soon find her positivity rubbing off on you.
2. EMPOWER YOURSELF WITH PRACTICAL INFORMATION.
Educate yourself about your rights and options are s a single mother. Find out what laws (like the Solo Parent Act, for example) exist to protect you and your child. There are a lot of useful and practical laws made specifically for single parents you may not be aware of. Learn as much as you can about the legal system, managing finances, and even psychology or self-motivation. As with anything in life, information is power. And when you are a single mom, information is vital to empowering yourself.
3. PRETTIFY YOURSELF.
You heard it right. Don’t neglect your health or your appearance. Making an effort to look good is not always a nod to vanity. Sure, it’s tempting to just get up from bed and head straight off for work without so much as a look in the mirror, but it won’t help your self-esteem much. The first step to feeling good about yourself is looking good. Look for cost-effective ways to pamper and reward yourself.
There are many kinds of solo moms out there--those who were never married, were once married, are widowed, or are tita mommies who stand as guardians and take care of other people’s children as their own. Even wives of overseas Filipino workers operate as single moms on a day-to-day basis. Whatever the circumstances, these moms are all looking for ways to make certain situations work for rather than against them and to make their own happy even after.
This is why SexAndSensibilities.com will be conducting "Happy Even After," a workshop designed to help single moms get back on their feet again or just cope with the challenges that come with being a solo parent.
The next Happy Even After workshop will be on March 20, 2011, between 2:00 to 5:00 PM at Powerbooks Greenbelt 4. The registration fee of P200 covers refreshments, giveaways and a donation to the Armed Forces of the Philippines HERO Foundation. Please call 0927-307-9608 to reserve a slot.
“Happy Even After” is supported by Myra-E, Nivea Sunblock, Del Monte Fruit Juice, P&G Salon Professionals (makes of Wella and Clairol), and Powerbooks, the official workshop venue.
(Photo by Michelle and Gary Roxas, courtesy of SexAndSensibilities.com)