You want to read a book by the beach, and he wants to get on that banana boat. You are all for a romantic candlelit dinner, and he’s happy enough with the street food that the place has to offer. You so want to watch the sunrise, and all he’s up for is the sunset. Sounds like a vacation made in hell, doesn’t it? Here’s FN’s guide to dealing with having a different travel style from your significant other, and in the end, finding peace while on vacation.
PERPETUAL PUNCTUALITY VS. TERMINAL TARDINESS
Naturally, one of you is more punctual than the other, and the only way to make sure that he’s on time when you are is to be his alarm clock, particularly for the more important things like a flight or a reservation. At the same time, realize that there are some things you can let slide. Like if you talked about dinner at seven but he found himself napping 15 minutes before that, or if you talked about watching the sunrise but he had a much later night watching cable TV than you did. In other words, use your punctuality card while on vacation, but do so sparingly. You don’t want to come off as a time keeper, after all.
AMBITIOUS ADVENTURING VS. LAID-BACK LOAFING
He has planned this trip for months and has his eyes set on certain activities. You get to your destination, and all you want to do is get a drink and chill. What to do? Show him how fantastic just relaxing with the view can be, and find him some magazines to browse through or an activity he can do where you’ve found the most comfy seat for reading. Then look at his itinerary and choose the activities you also really want to do, then start from there. Swap one of his activities with one of yours, and the vacation will satisfy both of you separately and together.
SPONTANEOUS SPENDING VS. TIGHTWAD TOURISM
You want to spend as little as possible on this vacation; he wants to treat himself to the best vacation ever. The compromise? Look at the itinerary and take on the cheaper activities and expenses. If he wants to do that expensive tour, let him pay for it, then treat him to some food after the tiring itinerary. He wants to eat in that high-end restaurant? Go and have that meal with him, then volunteer to spend on after-dinner drinks or coffee where you can afford it. The fact is, if he’s willing to spend on you both, then what is there to complain about?
Surviving clashing travel styles is really about accepting that the vacation isn’t just yours, but your partner’s as well. In the end, what you need to remember is that the art of compromising goes way beyond the vacations you spend together, because keeping the peace is an everyday thing.
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