Feeling a surge of emotional hurt after ending a long-term relationship is not new to anyone who has experienced it – and a new study suggests that women suffer more pain post-breakup.
According to researchers from Binghamton University and University College London, “women tend to be more negatively affected by breakups, reporting higher levels of both physical and emotional pain.”
They explain further that it all boils down to how we’re all wired. “Put simply, women are evolved to invest far more in a relationship than men,” says research associate at Binghamton University Craig Morris. “A brief romantic encounter could lead to nine months of pregnancy followed by many years of lactation for an ancestral woman, while the man may have ‘left the scene’ literally minutes after the encounter, with no further biological investment.
He also adds that since women are choosier when it comes to picking a partner and invest more biologically, “the loss of a relationship with a high-quality mate ‘hurts’ more for a woman.”
Although women feel lingering pain, they’re said to fully recover more and emerge stronger compared to the opposite sex. “The man will likely feel the loss deeply and for a very long period of time as it ‘sinks in’ that he must ‘start competing’ all over again to replace what he has lost — or worse still, come to the realization that the loss is irreplaceable,” Morris says.
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