Parents always have the best intentions for their children, but constantly texting to ask about who they're with, or jumping in to solve a problem that their teens can fix on their own may be detrimental in the long run, according to several studies on NBC News.
Overparenting, which has been dubbed as "helicopter parenting," is described as the constant hovering and extreme attention parents give their children. Although it may seem like a good thing at first, many studies have found that this may disrupt children's innate ability to cope with challenges. At its worst, helicopter parenting may case depression in teens and young adults, as they may end up feeling incompetent.
Chris Segrin, a University of Arizona professor, says, "The paradox of this form of parenting is that, despite seemingly good intentions, the preliminary evidence indicates that it is not associated with adaptive outcomes for young adults and may indeed be linked with traits that could hinder the child’s success."
Interviewing more than 1,000 college students and their parents, Segrin found out that many are constantly in touch with their mothers and fathers by text or phone every day, and most of the messages were composed of conversations starting with "how do I,""will you," and "can you," proving that these young adults still rely on other people to solve their problems for them. Instead of intervening with their adult children's lives, Segrin suggests that it's better to teach them how to be responsible and how to face the consequences of their actions.
When the going gets tough, it's better to let them figure things out, but you should also let their kids know that in spite of their freedom, you’re still around to give good advice.
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