They say relationships change between partners when a child comes along, but experts have also said that the one you need to prioritize the most is not your kids, but your relationship or marriage with your significant other. But have you ever wondered whether your husband still feels the same way after years of being together?
Signs your husband is still in love with you
SmartParenting.com.ph asked dads on their parenting community, Smart Parenting Village, for all the ways they show moms how much they love them. Of course, the women couldn’t help but share their experiences, too!
From being more expressive to date nights and surprises, here are five ways to know if your partner is still head-over-heels for you.
1. He takes you out on dates.
According to a recent survey, the younger the couple’s kids are, the longer they go on without a date night. While it’s understandable (babies and toddlers are a lot of work!), relationship experts say spending time just the two of you is just as important.
Dads recognize the hard work that moms do, so one sure way to know he still treasures you is if he wants to be alone with you.
“I ask her out for a date so we can have ‘us’ time because I know she’s always tired putting up everything in our home,” shares Kenneth Culala.
“Siya ang nag-se-set ng movie date namin, which is every night. He prepares for it and buys me my favorite midnight snack!” says Coleen Bangud-Nufable.
“I date her once in a while, iwan ang mga bata. Then, siyempre harutan time ‘pag tulog na ‘yung mga kids para laging may kilig. Hindi dapat nawawala ‘yun sa mag-asawa,” says Marko Aeurst.
“He still dates me. Mas exciting daw po ang ‘us’ time namin kasi isang challenge ang pagtakas sa mga bata,” shares Marnelz Mercado.
2. He surprises you.
Every person shows their love language in different ways. For some men, it’s finding ways to surprise their partners just to see beautiful smiles on their faces.
“Sa asawa ko, sinusurprise niya ako ng small gifts, kahit walang okasyon like plant cuttings (he knows I love plants!), chocolates or cookies,” shares Sweet Tacalan.
“May chocolates pa rin ako from him once in a while, may flowers nung Valentine’s Day, may donuts paminsan-minsan, or he lets me check out what I add to cart!” says Lala Tellano-Viray.
3. He expresses how much he loves you and gives you compliments.
They say men show their love through action and not words, but it always feels good when you hear your partner say “I love you,” or tell you how beautiful and sexy you look (especially when you feel the opposite!). It’s also a reminder that he still has the hots for you many years (and kids) later.
Mom Lala adds that her husband has learned to be more expressive in words since they got married. “I really appreciate the effort because now he says how much he appreciates me verbally — and sometimes I hear him say to other people how proud he is of what I do. Kahit sometimes I feel like a potato, he will always say na I’m beautiful.”
“He always tells me that I’m pretty and sexy, kahit stressed ako and very obvious naman na nag-gain ako ng weight,” shares another mom.
“Yung hugs and sweet kisses niya mas dumami. Parang sobrang saya at inspired siya palagi nung dumating ang 2 boys namin,” says Lara Boado.
“For me, kapag sinasabihan ako na mas gumanda ako at sexy after 2 kids. Kahit na di na ako nakakapag ayos since SAHM ako, maganda padin sa paningin niya,” shares Mik-mik Crisostomo.
4. He takes charge and cares for you.
It doesn’t take much to win a mom over because more than gifts, what she really wants is a partner who will help ease the load and raise the kids. Kapag pinagsisilbihan ka, mahal ka, as they say.
“Since Day 1 na naging mag-asawa kami, he prepares our breakfast and irons my clothes. ‘Pag papasok sa office, hatid at sundo. Never fails to do that. Kakakilig na nakakatuwa,” gushes Mi Kay Coreses.
"He's working from home. 10 p.m. to 6 a.m. work niya, while my kids and I wake up at 9 a.m. ‘Pag gising namin, maayos ang bahay kahit naiwan namin magulo last night. May breakfast na sa table. May coffee na ako. And he always greets us with his loving smile and good morning kiss,” says Maye Sarabia.
“Kahit almost 11 years na kaming mag-asawa at may dalawang anak, minamasahe niya ako sa gabi lalo na pag off-duty siya. Hindi ako marunong magluto kaya bago siya mag-duty, ipagluluto kami ng ulam ng mga anak namin para ipapainit ko na lang.
“Napakatiyaga niya ring maghintay sa akin kapag nasa mall kami. Sinusundan niya lang ako kapag bumibili ako ng damit or shoes. Hindi siya nagrereklamo kahit matagal akong pumili. At saka hinahayaan niya lang ako na mag-add to cart sa Shopee at Lazada,” says Karen Caro.
“Ako pa rin priority ni husband kahit may anak na kami. Pinagluluto niya pa rin ako, hinahanda yung kailangan ko, binibigay yung gusto ko sa abot ng makakaya niya.
“Ako pa rin yung first baby ng asawa ko. Laging sinasabi ng husband ko patama din siguro sa akin na after God sunod ang asawa. Na ang anak darating yung time na magkakaron ng sariling pamilya, kayo dalawa na lang din ng asawa mo ang maiiwan,” shares Tin Sagcal.
5. He gives you ‘ME’ time.
Dads know being a mom can get overwhelming and they understand that as important as date nights are, so is finding the time to be by yourself. If he takes time to be with the kids so you can have some time to catch up on your favorite K-drama, then he loves you, mom!
“’Pag humingi ako ng ‘ME’ time, binibigay niya. I’m a stay-at-home mom, kaya natutuwa ako na minsan siya na mismo ang nagsasabi na lumabas ako at makipagkita sa friends ko, and siya na muna bahala kay baby,” says Jhet Manzano.