Clinginess has a pretty negative connotation of not giving your partner any space, so we're running with that. But some people are really just clingy, and sometimes the clinginess is understandable, if not justifiable. (To all you clingy people out there, this doesn't mean you can always use these cards and not annoy your S.O.!)
1. When you and your guy haven't seen each other in a while.
LDRs or one of you taking more than a week's worth of vacation is going to make you miss him a lot, especially when you don't have a lot of friends to talk to about really personal things and you're having a rough time back home and going through a crisis. There's no doubt you'll be messaging him in
2. When you and your guy just fought and you want to make sure you guys will be okay, that you guys are just upset and won't break up.
Guys generally want to be alone in a cave during an argument. Sometimes it's to think about the issue, other times it's to NOT think about it. Most of the time it's so that they won't lash out at you and hurt you and himself more. On your end, though, you want to fix things NOW and be okay NOW, and that means having to talk things out NOW. In this case, you guys are expressing what's best for the relationship in different ways. It might help to be more patient, of course, and to respect him when he's not ready to talk yet. People need to cool down, and that includes you too.
3. You just made up after a big fight and want to relish the closeness you thought you nearly lost for good.
Being clingy and extra affectionate is only natural in this situation,
4. You haven't had couple time in a while.
So those times you've been seeing your guy, it's with his friends or his family, or with your friends and your family. So obviously you guys can't do heavy PDA or just talk about your personal lives. That's going to make you seek him out more even if he's already
5. You feel like he doesn't have time for you.
Busy guy? Of
6. When you feel that the relationship is threatened by someone.
Is there someone who's spending a little too much time and attention on your guy?
7. When your guy is the first person you've ever been with.
No longer single since birth thanks to this guy you're dating for a month now? GREAT. What a way to show how in love and happy you are by showering your guy with every bit of affection every minute of your life. Hey, you've been saving that love (and lust) for more than two decades.
8. You've been cheated on before.
This is hella damaging and traumatic, and trust issues can surface from here. And once you have trust issues, you'll have a difficult and long time getting over them. (But you can!) In the meantime, you're doubting every word and move of your guy and always seeking validation (but each validation he offers you won't feel enough). You're constantly checking up on him to make sure he won't be like your ex and cheat on you too. You want to spend as much time with him as
9. Your guy has cheated in the past.
I'm not quite sure if this is worse than #8, but the effect on you can be the same, especially if the cheating was done only recently. How do you know he won't do the same to you, right? Sure he might tell you he loves you, only you, but
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