My BF's barkada are cheaters, does that mean he will soon cheat as well?

[HAYLEELOVE]

Re: jokes

Okay ako with green jokes and in fact, I also participate in some, especially with my husband. Pero yung mentality na women are mababa, that's a no-no for me. And I guess, may pagka-ganun yata yung dating ng convo nila, that is why TS is bothered.

Yes. I am bothered about his friends mentality on women. Medyo bastos kasi yung ibang convo, I won't write it here anymore. Yung mas hindi brutal na lang sa kanilang messages like this: Yung si barkada #1, just recently lang nagpabinyag ng anak. And malamanlaman ko lang nagkaroon pa siya ng STD sa kakababae niya. Tapos now, meron na naman. According sa convo nila, "malinis daw yung girl." Nagsend pa ng mga convo nila nung kabit, nagIIloveyouhan sa isa't isa. Then nakakainis pa lagi sinasabi dun "mambabae tayo!" Hinikayat pa yung isang friend nila na may pinsan yung girl kung gusto daw niya tikman. Nagsend pa ng pic nung pinsan kasama nung babae.  Nagreply naman si barkada #2 ng picture na may kasamang babae din saying "kayo lang ba ang meron? Syempre ako din!"

And then was worst is barkada #3. Etong guy na ito just last month nagkaroon ng issue about his wife who is working abroad. Pinagbintangan niya ang wife niya na may affair doon. Brinodcast pa sa FB so natural nasira ang reputation ng wife. Si bf nga sobrang nagalit din sa wife (kakilala niya kasi) saying to me na ang landi niya. Then nalaman nung barkada #3 na parang siniraan lang pala ng isang kaibigan si wife and hindi totoo yung affair. So nagkabalikan ulit. Awang awa ako sa wife syempre. Ang alam ng lahat, nangaliwa siya. And then mabasabasa ko lang na nambabae din pala siya. Sobang inis ako, to think kung magjudge siya sa wife niya basing from his FB posts, ang dumi dumi ng asawa niya, and all of a sudden, nagsesend siya ng mga pictures ng mga babae niya sa mga barkada niya! Sent pictures with caption, "bakit kayo lang ba? Kagabi lang yan."
 
Sample lang yan. Sobrang daming kalokohan dun, hindi ko na mailalagay dito dahil hahaba na ito ng masyado.

Out of topic: I feel for the wives and gfs. Wala silang kamalay malay naglalaro ang mga asawa nila. Nakakaiyak na nakakainis.

PERO, nakakalakas kasi ng loob kung may "support group" na ok lang mambabae.. Bad influence sila hindi maganda yan lalo kung kasal na kayo.
Sample, kasal na kayo, nag-away kayo o kaya merong problema, imbis na tulungan nila umayos baka sabihin pa "hanap ka na lang iba", "iraos mo lang yan sa iba", etc.
Possible risk yan kung kayo magkatuluyan at diyan siya tatakbo pag may pinagdadaanan kayo.

Meron ba siyang ibang group of friends na matino at responsable naman? O yan na talaga?

My point ka diyan sis. Kasi if you based it from the convo, may pattern sila. If one initiates, susunod yung iba. Magsesendan na sila ng mga pictures that depict their extra sinful activities.
Meron siyang ibang circle of friends na matitino. But these guys kasi yung parang original group niya and malimit niyang kainuman kapag asa province siya.

Anyway, appreciate it ladies. For now, kumalma na rin utak ko. I will talk to him about this, pero not now. By the way, we both are ok with knowing each other's passwords. Minsan din, kung meron siyang question about my messages, he talks to me about it. Like kung may pinagseselosan siya na nagmemesage sa akin. We discuss it naman. However, ako lang kasi yung medyo hindi nakekealam sa message niya. This time siguro, iba. Lahat naman nakukuha sa open communication.

Depende if strong ang personality ng bf un tipong hindi madaling maimplwensyahan ng kahit na sino friends or family. May sariling disisyon sa buhay. Pero kung si bf madaling mahikayat dyan ka medyo magworry. Sa situation ng bf mo mas mataas nga lang percentage ng temptation kasi naka paligid sa kanya ganun ang gawain. Naniniwala rin ako na kung gusto magcheat magchecheat kahit ano pang higpit at bantay mo.

We are good. He loves me and I love him. I know naman that in the end, it will be his decision and doing. I just hope and pray lang that he won't be influenced with his friends' lifestyle in the near future.

Haay. Praying for the poor wives and gf of these men.

[Shadow Angel]

^ay grabe naman about dun sa friend nasa abroad ang wife gawain nya sa asawa ibibintang double standard pag sila ok lang pag un partner mortal sin na? Besides big no no sa akin na magpost ka ng marital problems sa socmed bukod sa wala naman maidudulot na mabuti ang mangyayari pagnagkaayos kayo un alam ng mga tao about sa away nyo di na mawawala.

[Andi Venice]

I am with a barkada na puro lalaki as in dalawa lang kaming babae sa group namin, we have been friends since gradeschool. One of my barkada talaga is suuuper babaero pero siya lang naman yun ganun. The rest of them suuper loyal with their partners. Believe me, alam kong loyal sila. If he is really serious with you he wil be loyal and honest to you, swerte mo binigay sayo password ng FB nya. Nasa friends narin yan ng BF mo kung gusto nila ipush yung gagawin kalokhan nyan eh. Try to befriend them first. 

[kutitapkiss]

hmmm. ang unang masasabi ko jan eh, ang hirap nyan. (very helpful, i know lol)

hindi kasi ako naniniwala sa kasabihang tell me who your friends are, and i'll tell you who you are eh. hindi mo pwedeng ijudge ang buong pagkatao ng isang tao base sa mga kaibigan nya. tho, meron at meron silang mga common interests and similarities. but not the totality. ang mahirap lang jan, yung influence factor. now, ikaw ang nakakakilala sa bf mo. madali ba sha maimpluwensyahan or mayaya?

if i were you, i'll just keep a close eye on my bf and my friends. mag ssnoop lang ako lagi. i'm not gonna confront, baka mawalan pa ko ng access sa fb ni bf eh ahahaha. importante and trust, wag mong hayaang mawala yung trust mo sa bf mo lalo na kung nakikita mo naman sa wala naman shang ginagawa (pa), but then again, wag masyadong kampante. our instinct is our friend, my dear. pag nagpparamdam na sayo, pakinggan mo lang.

dun naman sa on how they see women, wala ka na magagawa jan. kung ganun kababa ang tingin nila sa babae yaan mo sila (the friends). pero ako pag may mga ganyang double standards ang bf ko, i make sure na i'll make him realize na mali yung pananaw nya, in a nice, sensible and civil way. narrealize naman nya na in the end oo nga hindi dapat ganun

[AngelCol]

If he really loves, he would not ever think about cheating!

[Girltalker2]

^ i think that?s not the issue of this thread. The issue of ts? bf can be influenced by his philandering friends.

TS kumusta ka na
I hope all is well with you and your bf.

if i were you, i'll just keep a close eye on my bf and my friends. mag ssnoop lang ako lagi. i'm not gonna confront, baka mawalan pa ko ng access sa fb ni bf eh ahahaha. importante and trust, wag mong hayaang mawala yung trust mo sa bf mo lalo na kung nakikita mo naman sa wala naman shang ginagawa (pa), but then again, wag masyadong kampante. our instinct is our friend, my dear. pag nagpparamdam na sayo, pakinggan mo lang.

This is so contradicting. One minute you suggest magcheck but another minute magtrust.

The fact that your are snooping around and has the intent to do so as you want access to FB, then it boils down to - you CANNOT trust your bf.

If you can?t trust him, why be in a stressful relationship. Tatanda ka lang ng maaga, then all the more he has reasons to stray (?!).

[drinveilside]

Guys are insecure the fact you know his password you should already have a sense that not all birds that flock together have the same feathers jokes aside i am guy and i would only give you my fb password if we had fidelity issues in the past

Cheaters will always say no and will always try to find away to get away with cheating men are men when we talk about girls things get dirty but your bf just gave you security why are you bothered ?

[JDizon]

There is always that chance that your bf will cheat if he is surrounded by men who do   Even if you have his password, he must have other accounts, you never know.