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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #520 on: November 26, 2018, 12:39:47 am »
A week ago I borrowed my husband?s usb (recently married kami and just bought a condo, so naglilipat kami ng gamit). I saw he still has pictures of his ex. I never really minded it kasi I thought this was saved way before they separated (the ex cheated on him and they broke up 2013). However, I noticed that the files were transferred May 2018 lang and was created Nov 2016. So recently lang nagalaw yung files.

I am torn apart kasi as a wife, I felt like he was keeping memories from his previous relationship. I know, hindi na mabubura yung nakaraan nila pero I just don?t understand why would he bothers to save it considering he hated the way she cheated on him. And the files includes A LOT of selfies nung ex. I told him about it and he was really surprised. He told me he will erase it and said sorry a couple of times. When I ask him why does he still keep souvenirs from his ex, and if he still loves her, he replied ?Wala na yun.? So ako sabi ko kung wala na yun bakit mo sinave yung pictures niya? Hindi siya nakasagot. It?s been a week na since I confronted him about it, and I let it passed na lang.  However, there are times nacucurious ako as to why he still kept those pictures and even modified it (makikita kasi sa history ng files kung kelan namodify ito) even this year. Ako kasi when my ex and I broke, I erased everything that reminded of him up to the last message he sent me on my email.
Does he still have feelings with his ex or is my husband just a sentimental fool?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #521 on: November 26, 2018, 01:02:44 am »
^Baka sentimental lang sis. Trust me, hindi siya ang nag-iisang lalake na nagtago ng photos ng ex niya. Yan din reklamo ng mga girl friends ko sa bf nila. Pero bilang respeto sayo since mag-asawa na kayo sana idelete niya na nga.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #522 on: November 26, 2018, 09:33:12 am »
^^ sis yung folder ba ng mga pics is halo halo with other subjects or puro pics lang talaga ng ex niya? baka kasi nagback-up lang siya ng files from old phone/usb and alam mo naman mga lalaki di mahilig mag-organise di na iisa isahin mga files para magdelete. Or maybe he was saving it lang as a remembrance ng past niya not necessarily ng girl lang, something he can look back to pagtanda at wala siyang intention na saktan ka.

ang mahalaga is napagusapan niyo at nagsorry na siya, dun niya lang siguro narealized na mali for you ang ginawa niya nung naconfront mo siya and this will also serve as a lesson for him na.. :) 
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #523 on: November 26, 2018, 11:44:09 am »
The main folder have sub-folders inside. One folder named ?Bebe?  (I bet this is his endearment to her) contained all of their selfies together as well as selfies of the ex. Most of the pictures were downloaded from FB. The other sub-folders contain mix pictures of his ex and him as well as a little bit of their barkada on it. So it was mainly handpicked plus organized and not randomly copied.

His demeanor for the last few days were very far from his usual self. I see guilt in his eyes- don?t know if it stems from the fact that he kept pictures of his ex or because he still harbors feelings for her. By the way, this ex was his most serious relationship. It ended only because the girl cheated on him. He used to tell me that before, he called it quits, he had an inkling she was having an affair and so it wasn?t really that hard for him to severe the relationship- something I instantly believed when he courted me. However, seeing those pictures I might have been to naive to believe.

Furthermore, he doesn?t like taking selfies with me. As in napipilitan lang. Tapos andami nilang selfies together na sobrang sweet. So in a way nalubgkot ako- momentarily jealous siguro.

However, I?? not making any fuss about it. In fact, after we talked, I never mentioned it to him anymore. However, when I?m not busy, my mind keeps coming back from the same issue. Wondering why he made an effort to keep those photos. However, I know, this is just the curious side of me. I will eventually  move on from it. Hopefully never think about it again. I just want to know the POVs of guys here just to answer this lingering question in my head.
« Last Edit: November 26, 2018, 01:30:09 pm by HAYLEELOVE »

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #524 on: November 27, 2018, 03:18:34 pm »
Ano ang mas magandang gawin sa lalaking sunud sunod ang kasinungalingan? Though im fed up. Iwan nalang bigla and change my number o iwasan ko lang and keep my lines open? Suko nako makipagusap. Wala nadin naman akong paniniwalaan. I just want him to feel na hindi sya kawalan na sa akin.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #525 on: November 27, 2018, 03:33:41 pm »
^ kausapin mo si guy at sabihin mo ayaw mo na at wala na syang aasahan pa sayo. no need to change your number. block mo lang yung number nya.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #526 on: November 27, 2018, 07:35:12 pm »
^ I don?t think it?s necessary  to talk to him. Tutal sinungaling naman sya, walang respect sa yo, there?s no point to treat him like an equal.
Bastos sya so deserve lang nya na ma dedma din.
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« Reply #527 on: November 27, 2018, 07:50:21 pm »
^Baka sentimental lang sis. Trust me, hindi siya ang nag-iisang lalake na nagtago ng photos ng ex niya. Yan din reklamo ng mga girl friends ko sa bf nila. Pero bilang respeto sayo since mag-asawa na kayo sana idelete niya na nga.

What?s wrong with these people?
It?s not normal to do that, have ex gf pics with you while you?re in a gf/bf relationship, or moreso May asawa na. If they?re not willing to let go, eh di pa dapat sila mag gf or mag asawa.

For me Pag sakin nangyari iyan, totally unacceptable. Lokohin nya lelang nya.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #528 on: November 28, 2018, 07:26:25 am »
^Ay totally agree. Pagsinungaling wag ng kausapin.

Di pa naman nangyari sa akin na may nakita akong pic ng ex niya ang naging bf ko. Maski kapatid kong lalake may pics pa pala ng ex niya e, naka-album pa. Nalaman ko from my ex-bf na yung pics namin and loveletters tinatago pa niya - nakakatawa lang daw tingnan and basahin paminsan-minsan (7yrs din kami). Sana lang itinapon niya na yun.

Sa case naman ng friend ko nakita niya sa Facebook ng bf niya may mga photos pa si bf and ex-gf. Sabi ni bf idi-delete daw niya. Nung maisip ni friend na magvisit sa account ni bf di na niya nakikita yung album and post na may kinalaman kay ex-gf. Kaso lang nung minsan naiwan ata ni bf ang cp niya at inaccess ni friend ang Fb account ni bf gamit ang cp ni bf so dun nabuko ni friend na pinalitan lang pala ni bf ang privacy settings ng album and post. Naka-ONLY ME ang setting kaya pala di na nakikita ng iba at bf lang ni friend pwede makakita. 3rd time na daw yun na pinag-awayan nila kasi di naman dinidelete. Kung binura na ba after ng 3rd away nila di ko alam. Di na ako nagtanong. Pero until now sila pa din naman.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #529 on: November 28, 2018, 08:29:09 am »
^ something is wrong with them.
Parang sarili din nila niloloko nila. If talagang ex na nila, no point keeping pics.
Just proves theirunfaithfulness to their partner.
Naawa naman ako sa friend mo.

Feeling ko these issues di naman Kelangan mag away. It?s why and the reason cannot be just nothing. But action speaks louder than words. Di lang iyang bf unfaithful, sinungaling din.

Ka I?mbyerna ganyang Bf. Di dapat tinitolerate unless you want a miserable life for yourself.rna

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #530 on: November 28, 2018, 09:48:58 am »
^ I don?t think it?s necessary  to talk to him. Tutal sinungaling naman sya, walang respect sa yo, there?s no point to treat him like an equal.
Bastos sya so deserve lang nya na ma dedma din.

^thank you sis. nung nakaraang araw nag seself pity pa ako. kaso ang saya din pala ng feeling na kaya ko na dedmahin sya. tama ka. wag ng usap kailangan kong matutunan maging strong at controlin ang sarili ko na tama na talaga. di marunong rumespeto e. salamat.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #531 on: November 28, 2018, 10:27:28 am »
^^Unfaithful naman talaga si guy. May iba pang issues bukod dyan sa mga photos ng ex. Pero matiyaga si girl e. Maski guy friends namin pinagsabihan na siya pero kahit anong sabi dinidepensahan niya lang. Sana nalang di na umulit si guy sa paggawa ng kababalaghan.

^Tama yan sis. Dedmahin mo lang. Pagkinausap mo pa yan di malayo na mahulog ka na naman sa kasinungalingan.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #532 on: November 28, 2018, 12:38:58 pm »
pag hindi mo kinausap at dinedma mo hindi ibig sabihin nun tatantanan ka na nung lalake, bf mo pa rin yun hanggat hindi kayo nag bibreak. kaya mo sya kakausapin hindi para magtino na sya kundi para ipaalam mo lang na ayaw mo na makipag communicate sya kanya. anyway, nasasayo pa rin yan, diskarte mo yan. option lang naman ito.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #533 on: November 28, 2018, 02:41:57 pm »
pag hindi mo kinausap at dinedma mo hindi ibig sabihin nun tatantanan ka na nung lalake, bf mo pa rin yun hanggat hindi kayo nag bibreak. kaya mo sya kakausapin hindi para magtino na sya kundi para ipaalam mo lang na ayaw mo na makipag communicate sya kanya. anyway, nasasayo pa rin yan, diskarte mo yan. option lang naman ito.

^Thank you. Bigyan ko padin muna ng time sarili ko. Baka magsisi ako sa mga sasabihin ko sa galit ko sa kanya. Paulit ulit kasi nagsisinungaling masyado. Nakakasawa na kaya tinitiis ko. Pakiramdam nya masyado privilege sya. Thank you. :)

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #534 on: November 28, 2018, 05:07:02 pm »
RE: keeping photos of ex... meron din ako pics ng ex ko sa hard drive ko. memories ko yun e. i dont like people dictating me na idelete ko yun lalo na jowa ko lang naman. i still have my own stuff despite being in a relationship. sakin kasi pictures are just pictures unless may ginagawa sya about dun like fantasizing na sila pa or what. pero kung wala naman, let it be. nakita din ng then-bf ko yung mga pics na yun nung naiwan ko HD ko sa house nila. I think nabother sya kasi sabi nya nakita nya pero i want to give him credit for being mature na hindi nya ako inaway dahil dun. hahaha.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #535 on: November 28, 2018, 06:39:18 pm »
pag hindi mo kinausap at dinedma mo hindi ibig sabihin nun tatantanan ka na nung lalake, bf mo pa rin yun hanggat hindi kayo nag bibreak. kaya mo sya kakausapin hindi para magtino na sya kundi para ipaalam mo lang na ayaw mo na makipag communicate sya kanya. anyway, nasasayo pa rin yan, diskarte mo yan. option lang naman ito.


May point ka, Pero a simple text lang na g*g* ka, lokohin mo lelang mo. Wala na tayo sinungaling ka.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #536 on: November 28, 2018, 10:38:29 pm »
I still have may ex photos on my harddrive college sweetheart kami.. Nakakahinayang kasi idelete It feels like I was erasing all may college memories, we also do everything together din kasi. But if my future bf feel comfortable about it (depende padin  :P
) maybe I will remove it nalang if super love ko na talaga sya  :P :-[

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #537 on: November 29, 2018, 08:20:33 am »
The main folder have sub-folders inside. One folder named ?Bebe?  (I bet this is his endearment to her) contained all of their selfies together as well as selfies of the ex. Most of the pictures were downloaded from FB. The other sub-folders contain mix pictures of his ex and him as well as a little bit of their barkada on it. So it was mainly handpicked plus organized and not randomly copied.

His demeanor for the last few days were very far from his usual self. I see guilt in his eyes- don?t know if it stems from the fact that he kept pictures of his ex or because he still harbors feelings for her. By the way, this ex was his most serious relationship. It ended only because the girl cheated on him. He used to tell me that before, he called it quits, he had an inkling she was having an affair and so it wasn?t really that hard for him to severe the relationship- something I instantly believed when he courted me. However, seeing those pictures I might have been to naive to believe.

Furthermore, he doesn?t like taking selfies with me. As in napipilitan lang. Tapos andami nilang selfies together na sobrang sweet. So in a way nalubgkot ako- momentarily jealous siguro.

However, I?? not making any fuss about it. In fact, after we talked, I never mentioned it to him anymore. However, when I?m not busy, my mind keeps coming back from the same issue. Wondering why he made an effort to keep those photos. However, I know, this is just the curious side of me. I will eventually  move on from it. Hopefully never think about it again. I just want to know the POVs of guys here just to answer this lingering question in my head.


I look at it in a different way taking selfies and uploading them and people may see you are happy but you are not in reality ... selfies doesnt define your relationship hell my wife doesnt have a picture of me on her page and her facebook doesnt have pictures of our kids.

and atleast he doesnt do the same things to you ... now as for keeping em and as you check he is still browsing them maybe its just a reminder how painful it is .. people forgive but sometimes its hard to forget specially the pain he has been through . having you and marrying you would eventually help him heal that pain for now you just have to suck it up .

sorry dont mean to be harsh on my comments i wish you the best...

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #538 on: December 04, 2018, 04:56:42 pm »
Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #539 on: December 04, 2018, 10:56:13 pm »
^Siguro keep him at arm's reach but don't commit.
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