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Title: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on December 27, 2012, 02:53:08 am
Hello fellow GTalkers,

First of all, I was inspired to write my situation when I came across the thread about being attached to someone whom you have casual sex with...

Mine is somewhat similar in a totally different situation so I hope that you will bear with me... because I will consider all your reactions very important...

She just turned 18 this year when she was introduced to me by a business partner. She was out of school, a high school graduate and works as a PSP (Personal Service Provider) or should we say a part time sex worker. She started this trade when she was 14...

Initially, I wanted to refer her to our clients since I was not interested to avail of her services, so I recommended her to 2 of my clients. But they found her too young and unappealing so they just gave her fare money but did not "use" her. Although I found her a bit charming. So I ended up doing the deed with her instead. I thought that was it and I would never see her again. Instead she kept on texting me asking to meet me again.

To cut the story short... I made a commitment to myself and to her to send her to college and make something out of her life. I did this with the help of my friends and classmates. She enrolled this year and she stays with me during school days. She lives in Montalban and her school is in Manila.

Her sponsors send her money for her tuition and other school needs including allowances. I serve as her guardian. But what the sponsors don't know is that we engage in casual sex regularly.

And they also don't know that she still engages in the trade. There a  couple of men who want to be their exclusive guests and showers her with cash and gifts. Aside from these she still looks out for other guests.

Honestly, I feel very, very sad. She tells me all these things without even thinking how I would feel. Whenever her boyfriends call her up on her mobile she would let me listen and get amused to see my reaction. What is surprising is, she tells these guys that she lives with her Tita. In other words, I know all about her guests and "bfs" but they know nothing of me.

I love this girl dearly maybe that is the reason why I get jealous and hurt every time I know she would meet someone else.

Now every time I would confront her about her activities and her lack of focus on her studies, she would always threaten to stop and leave me. So I just try to be patient and understand the situation. I do not like to discontinue our educational support on her because I am committed to see her through college no matter what.  Right now she is on her 2nd sem of 1st year college.

I do not like to say I am confused on whether to continue supporting her or not... I just want to get your advice to make her realize the effort I and my friends are doing to her...

Anything you say will be welcome... if you have questions I would be more than willing to answer them... I just need your help...

Thank you...






 
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: love_Lauren on December 27, 2012, 11:05:28 am
lucky girl...but doesnt recognize it. Or maybe, plainly out of immaturity.

am not sure of your true intention when you decided to help her out (was it out of pity? were you challenged? were you hoping that you can transform her completely?)...at the course of this "good samaritan" act that you are doin..did you laid out all the cards to her? yours and her expectations?  limitations? did you ask anything in return? your set-up? or did you just went on without discussing this issues and hoped for the moon and stars to figure them out for you both...

clearly, it was NEVER her intention to finish school (threatening you to stop when you argue??) it was only your hopeful eye that sees that. RICH_LONER if you continue to do this to yourself and her, you are not only wearing yourself out but putting your relationship to a massive heart attack.

Tell her straight what you feel and what you think and discuss your arrangements. Now, if she insists on doing it her way...then show her the nearest door. Kundi matakot yan at sumunod sayo...***wicked laugh***

girls her age...have to play tough and firm when you want to teach her well. otherwise, ikaw sisindakin nyan and waits who folds first... :o

for now, dont stress yourself too much and have fun...next year na lang ulit yang worries mo ;)

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: teejiko on December 27, 2012, 12:06:55 pm
^Agree.

It would still be best if you could talk to her and tell her everything. She seemed like she knows how you feel about her kaya malakas ang loob.

I hope she gets to see through all you efforts but with her age, chances are pretty slim (IMO).

Next year mo na nga siya problemahin hehe enjoy the remaining days of 2012 :)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on December 27, 2012, 12:32:35 pm
Thank you so much love_Lauren and teejiko for your thoughts... in times like these I really need some enlightenment...

Well I wanted her to go back to school because I believe that it would give her some kind of hope to make her family's lives better. No one in her family finished college. And for some reason, I felt that I love her despite of what she does. Maybe it was pity I don't know.

Sa sobrang support ko nga sa kanya, hatid sundo sa school... pati paglaba ng uniform at ibang damit nya ako parin... Tama kayo na maybe she knows that I love her so much that is why malakas ang loob na mag brat... E pero sinasabi namn nya na marami rin naman gusto na mag sponsor sa kanya...

Well ang arrangement namin ay... sagot namin ang lahat ng gastos niya sa school... in return, she attends her classes regularly and pass all the subjects (minsan tamad pumasok), she stays with me so I can monitor her school work plus it prevents her from accepting guests...

Dun sya naiinis dahil di sya maka-walk dahil sa akin.... E wala naman raw akong binibigay na pera para sa family niya... which in a way I really don't...

Anyway... thank you again for your advices... I will try to keep sane through the remainder of the year  ;D... Right now she is spending her vacation in Montalban... as usual doing what she does...
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: PinKisH_23 on December 27, 2012, 12:59:57 pm
Wow. She's lucky. Di lahat ng girl sa ganyang situation gets the same offers (as if may alam ako). Pero ha, check yourself kung ano ba talaga nararamdaman mo. Like what they said baka "challenged" ka lang sa situation. Marami ka kasing kaagaw. She has a point, kailangan ng family nya ang pera, unless gusto mo talagang maging sugar daddy to the highest level, you can probably keep her in one roof and support her family, baka sakaling mapirmi na sya sayo at maging diligent sya sa school.

Mahaba habang panahon pa ang iintayin mo para makatapos sya, you will never know kung iiwan nya talaga ang trabaho nya after school. Mag isip isip ka lang at wag kang masyadong magpapahook, ikaw lang ang masasaktan.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: love_Lauren on December 27, 2012, 01:11:22 pm
honestly, i dont see her finishing college kasi wala yung "drive" to pursue higher dreams. Parang napipilitan just because she gets the comfort of living with you in a better place + perks + free school + free playmate + a whole lot more. Her reason of you not giving allowance to his family is a little absurd...i mean, you are giving her the chance to provide a better life for her family when she finishes college and not just some temporary relief that goes well with her lifestyle now. Ayaw pa nya [textspeak!]?? Demand some more?? Oh my greedy...sorry but that's too much.

You can better send off somebody else in school more deserving than her and not stabbed by your own prodigy...

the simple arrangement of you paying for everything and all she have to do is attend school regularly does not hold much water really. At least give some grounding rules and if she breaks them...palitan. Thats too expensive for a toy ah..(ooppss..sorry!)

katakot pa nyan, if she gets sick without you knowing then pati ikaw gets infected.

RICH_LONER i'll pray for your divine guidance.. :)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 27, 2012, 02:42:18 pm
Oh wow, a modern Magdalena! ha!ha! She's lucky to have you ha.
But if i we're you, i will leave na this girl. Do you see her ba as pang short-time or long time? the way i see it, nag gagamitan lang kayong 2. Maybe you think you love her kasi you cannot have her exclusively.
mukhang wala namang patutunguhan ang realationship nyo. In reality, she's still a minor and you're a sugar daddy.  Anong klaseng pamilya ba ang meron sya? at tinotolerate nila yan? Now, if i'm a guy with a good head on my shoulder, why will i want to be part of that family.

Wala ka na bang ibang choice kung hindi sya? parang pinababa mo na bro ang pagtingin mo sa sarili mo.
Take care of yourself bro and use protection, hindi mo naman alma ang background ng iba nyang sponsors.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: schumine on December 27, 2012, 02:53:13 pm
hmm..  she's a very very lucky girl.  ;) Akala ko sa book lang nangyayari ang ganito. Meron pala talaga in real. Well, base sa nabasa ko sa book, there is 1 guy nagmalasakit sa girl (early 20's). Pinag aral para umayos ang buhay, ang set up magkasama sa iisang bahay, nagsesex at yeah hatid sundo ni guy si girl . :) pero still si girl gawain parin yung nakasanayan nya. so si guy, confused. nagseselos ba siya? mahal na ba niya si girl? to make the story short.. in the end ni let go ni guy si girl, hinayaan gawin kung ano yung gusto.so, na realize ni girl mahal niya pala si guy after all ng ginawa ni guy sa kanya, so happy ending.  :)

Well, ang mabibigay na advice ko sayo for now is always pray leave it to him. tama sila, enjoy the remaining days of 2012. Next year mo na problemahin. hehe. Kita kits here on 2013. LOL

btw, OT: how old are you RICH_LONER?

HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS!! ;)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 27, 2012, 02:54:08 pm
Alam mo bro kung malinis talaga ang intention mo sa kanya, wala dapat kapalit yung pagapapa-aral mo sa kanya. no sex na  involve dapat. You are nothing but a customer also kasi kinukuhanan mo pa din sya ng sex. Kaya she also doen't see that you are doing her a favor sa pag papa-aral mo. Hay, ginagamit mo din sya, a sex toy, that's why wala din syang high regard for you. Wala kang pinag kaiba sa iba nyang kliyente. Don't get mad at what i'm saying, im just being honest at yun naman talaga ang hinihingi mo.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 27, 2012, 02:55:30 pm
Are you ugly bro at wala ibang prospects that'ts why nagsettle ka na lang sa kanya??!!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: schumine on December 27, 2012, 03:10:22 pm
^
hihi napa smile ako sa comment mo sis. :)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: teejiko on December 27, 2012, 03:26:27 pm
^^Nabigla ako dun hehe. A good smack in the head may wake him up  ;D

Anyway, there must be something about the girl pero syempre you have to know your boundaries kasi ikaw din naman ang masasaktan in the end. If I'm a guy and ganyan ginagawa sakin, I wouldn't waste my time on her. Tutal sabi niya maraming gusto mag-sponsor sa kanya, let her be. I don't think it's your loss kapag nawala siya sa buhay mo, but definitely hers.

Happy new year!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 27, 2012, 03:35:09 pm
Ay medyo harsh ba mga sis???? Sorry po, sabi naman ni TS, welcome daw ang any questions. And i'm too old naman to sugarcoat pa may questions.he!he!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: teejiko on December 27, 2012, 03:44:44 pm
^hinde naman, tama lang sis hehe. Para matauhan si TS  ;D
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: shalikah on December 27, 2012, 03:49:45 pm
As expected pag si K-heart ang nagadvice/ask. Deretso. Brutally honest kaya nice ang mga comment nya.


Anyways, ang ganda ng lola mo. Pero yup mas madaming bata ang deserving sa free education kesa sakanya. At hindi ka naman [textspeak!] ganun kapangit para maging desperado. Lika papakilala kita sa friend ko. hahaha  ;D
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: abbina on December 27, 2012, 03:51:10 pm
Napakainteresting ng thread na 'to.

Kala ko sa teleserye or books lang to nangyayari. Nwei, kung ako si guy, I'll stop na. Ilang months na rin naman and mukang di naman pursigido si girl na magbago and magtapos ng studies nya e.

Sobrang agree ako sa sinasabi ng mga sisses natin dito.  :)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: schumine on December 27, 2012, 03:56:36 pm
^
true. nabasa ko na yung ganito sa book..  ;)

@k_heart: di naman. ayos yan! tee hee!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on December 27, 2012, 08:30:48 pm
Hello again,

I have read each and every reply you have posted and I appreciate each one. I will just react to them randomly. Again, I hope you will bear with me because I need your "company" right now. Also, I am posting this right now, so I will have an idea how to talk to her when she comes back for the resumption of classes. Although I do not have any idea if she is going to visit me this holidays.

To give you a little background about myself, I am in my 40s, a former teacher now a struggling micro entrepreneur. I have 2 kids but they are with their mom. I see my kids regularly but I live alone. My house also serves as my office.

I already introduced Ms. El (the PSP) to my kids and to most of my family members. I did this so that she will feel belonged and that she will be inspired more to do her best in school since my 2 kids are both scholars and of course we have a decent family. Totally the opposite of her family who have been relocated to the mountains of San Mateo because of Ondoy. They used to live in Marikina.

A little background of Ms. El. She went to a public high school in Marikina.  According to her, she was invited to become a PSP after she lost her virginity at the age of 14. Most of her classmates were into it.

I met her after she turned 18, introduced by a business partner.

I don't know how it came to me that I suddenly loved her and decided to do something to send her back to school and make it my personal mission. Not only for her but for her family. I have a feeling that they know what she does but they are just being silent about it because they get some form of material reward.

Why am I doing this? Well, it is for me a legacy of sorts. I have been a sponsor to students I do not know personally. I am not religious but I pray a lot. I am not a very good person. I am human. I want to do things some may not care to do or feel. And this is a very good opportunity to do something to someone which might be impossible or simply ridiculous to others. Like sending Ms. El, a delinquent student and girl of the world, back to school. An opportunity which others deserve more. I always tell Ms. El, nothing is impossible. And everybody deserves a chance to an education. I tell myself that nobody can change overnight. But I pray to the Lord to make the transformation a little faster.

I am hoping and praying that after she graduates she will become an inspiration to ladies like her. Become a role model.

Yes, I admit, sex was the initial reason why I wanted to see her as often as possible and that sending her back to school would be a great plan. But now sex has taken the backseat, I just want her to realize the value of education and the efforts me and my friends are putting into it.

If I leave her, for me it is like saying that they should be treated as low life and that they should be contented with what they do.

One more thing, I am hoping that after school she can work for my business and by that time we have already sponsored a few girls with the same plight.

Again, thank you, there is so much to say. And I want to say everything in my heart and mind so I can feel and think clearly the next time I see her. I am hoping she values the opportunity.

PS. Mas straightforward ang reply ok. Pero kung may life changing advise mas ok. Overall all replies are appreciated. 
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Shadow Angel on December 27, 2012, 10:20:49 pm
She started what 14...tsk too young and expecting her to stop? i don't think so... She likes it the way it is i mean having sex aside from her partner considering what she gets from you are already enough...she should be thankful having someone like you so willing.. I dont know a sex addict or what... Its a rare oppurtunity to change her life but here she is still PSP... Don't expect she will love you in return (if love and not lust or challenge) well goodluck.... Think wisely  ;)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: jtansanco on December 27, 2012, 10:50:49 pm
IMO, she's just using you. She started at 14 and she's now 18. She knows the trade well by now and she's using guys to her advantage knowing she's young. Girls at that age will not think of settling down especially knowing that she's a PSP. In the first place, she became a PSP because she had no money. In her mind, money is the only thing she cares about, not love. I have seen guys like you (in other forums and in real life) and it's not worth it.

That's the path she chose. You deserve better. I think the only reason why you say you love her is because she lives with you. In short, she's the only girl you see in your world because she's there every single day.

My advice - get out of your situation while she's still in 1st year. Girls in that trade will only realize your worth when they reach at least 25 - the age when they realize they can't charge much anymore because there are loads of other younger women in the trade.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 27, 2012, 11:21:51 pm
Oh, TS,you are so much older than us here. We ahould be getting advises from you and not the otehr way around. he!he!
I think at you're age, you're more  than old enough to distinguish love from lust. We should call you tito or kuya and the girl should call you Dad! how old are your kids? girls?boys?
Yes,i think younare lonely, looking for a comapanion. Ano napag uusapan nyong 2??? Do you want to play the hero to her? although, i don't think she's looking for one.
Mid-life crisis?
I'm just typing what i'm thinking at the moment.
You are the typical client of girls like her. Kaya nagta thrive ang mga kagaya nya.
You want to help her pero you are also using her. You must be man enough to be a good role model. Kaya hindi sya makikinig sa yo kasi ginagamit mo din sya.
Based from your posts,wala ka ding pinagkaiba sa iba nyang kliyente. Cash lang yung sa iba, sa yo naman ay ex-deal. Syempre,in any kind of business, cash is still the best.
You cannot change her as  of now. Mukhang mas masaya (based pa rin sa posts mo) sya talaga sa ginagawa nya. Easy money.

Dahil ba nawala na ang virginity,reason na para maging pokpok??? Naku,eh di overwhelming na sana ang dami ng pokpok sa Pinas.

Mukhang maganda ang intention mo, pero looking at a distance, parang kinasangkapan mo lang for free sex sa minor, she's a teener therefore still a minor kahit 18 na sya.

Paano ka nya makikitang savior nya at malinis ang intention, eh nakipag sex ka na nga ng ilang beses sa kanya.

Ano ba ang naka -attract sa yo sa kagaya nya? a sounding board na hindi sumasagot pabalik? Yung pagiging bata nya, given na yun na maatract yung mga nasa age mo.

So you are still legally married??? Inisip mo din ba ang effect nya sa mga kids mo? you should be thinking more of your kids than this girl.  or gather your thoughts, reflect. Use your brain and not the other brain.

puro girls ang kids namin and i will be very uncomfortable,make that very afraid, to be exposed sa guys like you.

Kasi based also sa posts mo, normal lang sa inyo ang maghire ng mga escort girls. Arghhhhh! bakit nagha hire ang group nyo ng mga escort girls? bakit parang normal  lang? I'm now speaking as a very bothered mommy.


Kasi walang sense yung gusto mo, hindi nag ja-jibe yung guso mong tumulong sa mga ginawa mo.
You want to girls like her to finish education pero hina hire nyo naman sila as escort girls? Nasaan ang logic?

Kaya hindi rin makita ng girl yung logic mo kasi opposite sa ginawa mo na at sinasabi mo bro eh.

She's really young but old to the ways of men. Hindi yan papatali. as of now, Wala akong nakikitang future sa inyong 2.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 28, 2012, 12:52:22 am
^If your son introduced a girl ( and that girl for example is also a sex worker) and told you that he is going to marry her. Iaaccept mo ba? Yung honest answer as a parent.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: zee87 on December 28, 2012, 12:53:35 am
Pasali nga. :P
Mas marami pong mas deserving ng tulong nyo sir.
Mas maraming bata ang gustong magtapos ng pag aaral.
Bakit mo naman ipipilit ang gusto mo sa taong di mo nga sigurado kung gusto ngang makatapos.

1st, stop having sex with her.
2nd, let her choose kung gusto nya mag aral or magPSP na lang. isa lang dapat.
3rd, if she decides to continue with her 'work' let her go.. find another one na mas deserving ng tulong mo at ng mga friends mo.

I know feeling mo nakakachallenge na maconvince siya na mag-aral na lang, pero sir, sayang naman ang panahon at pera. Kung gusto mo talagang makatulong, hanap ka na ng iba. Sa age nya ngayon, mukhang di mo siya macoconvince na magstop lalo na kung malaki ang kita nya jan.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 28, 2012, 12:56:33 am
Actually kaya inopen ko ang thread na ito, akala ko yung isa sa relationship ay in love literally sa mga games sa PSP at halos 24 hours kadikit si PSP. Yung sobrang adik maglaro. Ibang PSP pala.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: k_heart on December 28, 2012, 01:07:56 am
Yes bro, i believe naman that  everyone can change. Pero yung change kasi is a commitment and pag wala yun sa puso nung may katawan,kahit anong push ng everyone around her or him, it will not happen. saka, merong mabilis, pero meron ding napakahirap iconvinced na magbago.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: mooncake and leaves on December 28, 2012, 02:11:34 am
I say run. Actually, I think both of you should run far, far away from each other. She's 18 and a hooker, for crying out loud. Your charity work or whatever you want to call it does not change the fact that this situation is effing nuts. Maybe you're having an early midlife crisis, I don't know but whatever it is, you don't invest on/marry/live with a midlife crisis. Sorry. I'd listen to k_heart too since she summed it all up.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Shadow Angel on December 28, 2012, 04:51:11 am
@k_heart
Hahaha sis same tayo akala ko ako lang nag isip nun sabi ko pa nga while opening it sobrang immature naman ng ganun till nabasa ko meaning ng PSP naiisip ko sobrang huli na ba talaga ako sa trade ngaun iba na pala tawag sa mga escort parang ISP lang (internet service provider) service provider talaga hehe sabagay pag nag uusap siguro sila "pre pahiram naman ng psp mo  or pre maybago ako psp gusto mo bang hiramin" kaloka iba pala meaning sa kanila...
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: crazycoolchic19 on December 28, 2012, 07:55:40 am
Nakakarelate lang ako sa story mo TS not for me but for my 2nd cousin...sad to say shes a PSP,she met an old man online,and to my surprise i know the guy online in forum.close kami sa forum , close kami sa ym, we talked everyday.hes 60 yrs.old living in california, this old man sya nagkwento sakin may type syang girl and im so shock dahil 2nd cousin ko nga.they become close the old man fell in love, sending her money every month., tumigil si girl sa pag pi-psp, napakalaki binibigay ng old man for a month sa buong family pino provide nya,mother, bros, and for her baby.btw the girl is only 18,
At first sabi ni old man tinutulungan nya dahil naaawa sya, hearing the sad stories of my cousin breaks his heart at naniwala ako na meron syang malaking puso to this girl, gusto nyang baguhin , but as time goes by..nalaman ko na lang na sila na, umuwi ang old man sa Pinas, Nagalit ako sa old man dahil ayoko i tolerate ang ganyan, kahit hinde kami close ng cousin ko ayoko ma involve sya sa married man, sex kapalit ng pera para matigil sya sa pag PPSP , para ma provide nya needs ng mother nyang jobless, mga kapatid nyang jobless at para sa anak nya na tinakbuhan ng responsibilidad ng nakabuntis sa kanya. 

Naaawa sya pero ano ginagawa nya sa bata lalo lang nya nilulublob sa kasalanan, ang pagtulong dapat taos sa puso walang hinihiling kapalit, hinde nagnanasa.kung talagang he care for this girl dapat hinde easy money binibigay nya.,gusto nyang pag aralin si girl pero ayaw daw, the girl is happy go lucky.nakuntento sa pagpapadala ng pera para sa needs and wants ng buong pamilya nya.

Naaawa ako sa cousin ko dahil sa ganung tao sya napunta , naggagamitan lang sila...wala ako magagawa sa kanila, sinasabi ni old man hinde nakuntento sa kanya bukod sa kanya meron pang bf..at nung nagaway sila hinde sya nagpadala ng pera bumalik si girl sa pag pi-psp.


Ang bottom line dito,

Kung tutulong ka wala dapat kapalit.taos sa puso mo, malinis kunsensya mo.,una palang dapat alam mo san ka lulugar dahil kung mahina ka sa temptasyon bibigay ka! Pano makikinig sayo yung girl kung ikaw mismo ay nagnanasa, ginamit mo rin sya kapalit ng pagtulong., at pare pareho lang lang tingin sa inyo ng girl mga customer nya., siguro kung hinde ka nag take advantage sa kanya baka makinig pa sayo si girl, at magbago pa pananaw nya sa buhay nya, na meron palang mga kagaya mo  parin sa panahon na ito., baka thru you ma inspire pa sya.

Kung gusto mo talaga sya magbago, baguhin mo muna sarile mo, tanggalin mo masama mong motibo sa kanya.




Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: showermist on December 28, 2012, 07:57:09 am
TS, like what Zee87 said, a lot of people are more deserving of the help you and your partners are extending. If she really values you and your partners sending her to school (education) then itigil na niya yung pagpopokpok nya. Sorry, there's just no word to replace that.

Dumating din sa buhay ko (ng pamilya ko) ang naghirap kami ng husto but never did I nor my siblings resort to pagpopokpok. I strived hard for my family--nangutang ako sa mga kakilala at kamag anak ko para makapag abroad ako. So kung anuman ang meron ako ngayon, I value it because I worked really hard for what I have. Why am I telling you this? Para maimulat sa iyo na hindi naman pinapahalagahan ni Daisy (daisyotso) ang ginagawa nyo sa para sa kaniya. Mas importante para sa kanya ang quick money.

Run. Run fast away from her.

Ginawa mo syang misyon? Sus, paalisin mo sya sa bahay mo, pay na lang her rent if that will give you peace of mind.  Kung kaya mo, iwasan mo na asy atotally. At itigil mo na ang pakikipagsex sa kanya. Anong malay pala nun sa sex education eh katorse lang sya when she engaged in sex--baka kung ano pa ang maipasa nyang sakit sa iyo hehe.

Pag nalaman ng mga anak mo yan, they'll lose their respect sa iyo malamang. O mabawasan respeto nila sa iyo. Because I do kung ikaw ang tatay ko.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: candi on December 28, 2012, 09:15:07 am
Is it ok for you if your son will hire a psp as well? And pano nga if your son and that psp fell in love with each other, ok sayo? Or baka di mo alam may nangyayari na din pala sa kanila? Pano kung ma-inspire yung daughter mo to be a psp like her din? You should be thinking about the future of your kids before thinking about the future of others whether they deserve it or not. If you can't act like a mature man then please at least act like a responsible father.

And for your New Year's resolution, why not engage to some religious activities? I think you need spiritual guidance kuya. :)
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Post by: rich_loner on December 28, 2012, 09:58:12 am
Good day everyone...

Censya na, I noticed that some of you call me TS... ano yung TS?

Goin back...

I am not defending the PSPs but the only difference to some of the ladies in this world and even to some GTS is that they get paid for what they do. Some of us have had multiple partners, fubus and one night stands too before they settled down...

And I have this philosophy... di na baleng di nauna basta ako ang huli...

I also won a school debate before defending non virgins and prostitutes if they have the right to be loved... but that was in college...

I do not mind my son falling in love with a PSP... PSPs, I consider are just victims of circumstances... However, I would be concerned if my daughter thought about it...

Yes, I am going to stop the sex stuff... thanks to all of you...

But my question now is... if she stops... or I decide to discontinue her educational scholarship... what happens to the money that was "invested" on her?... Shall we impose the contract that we "ask" her to sign? Or is it gone with the wind?... 

Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: schumine on December 28, 2012, 10:04:07 am
IMO.

Everyone deserves a 2nd chance. Yes, shes at very young age when she start as PSP. Minsan tayong mga tao ang isip natin eh ganito:

1. Bakit kinailangan niya mag pokpok/PSP ang dami naman ibang trabaho diyan.
2. Hindi magandang impluwensya sa mga kabataan (esp. girls at their young age)
3. Kapag hirap sa buhay PSP/ or any easy money agad ang solusyon?
4. Hindi man lang ba tinuruan ng magulang ng tama.
5. Hindi maka diyos.
6. Walang pakialam ang importante eh kumita ng libo libong pera.
7. etc etc etc.

Yes, tama kayo na malamang "the girl is just using this good samaritan guy" gawain na niya yun e. How can we confirm that? Hindi naman natin alam kung ano ang nilalaman ng utak o puso ng bawat isa satin. Dahil ba sa klase ng trabaho niya?

Yes, tama kayo "the samaritan guy is helping this girl in exchange of sex" so, what do we expect? "lalake yan" at alam natin lahat ang lalake kapag ang palay na ang lumapit, tutukain na yan. Still, choice ng guy to sex the girl or not.

Madalas ang swerte ni Pedro hindi swerte ni Juan. Maaaring si girl, nahikayat na pumasok as PSP dahil ito na lang ang paraan na nakita niya.


oooopps.. I need to post this 1 muna.. to be continue.. aattend lang muna po ako conference meeting..


Have a nice day everyone!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: schumine on December 28, 2012, 10:06:49 am
Good day everyone...

Censya na, I noticed that some of you call me TS... ano yung TS?


I guess TS means Thread Starter :)

Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Shadow Angel on December 28, 2012, 10:17:52 am
Tamaa ts means thread starter
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on December 28, 2012, 10:18:14 am
I guess TS means Thread Starter :)



Thank you...
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: freelancer_babe on December 28, 2012, 10:39:25 am
Interesting thread! Been following updates here.

TS = Thread starter/Topic starter.

You really do think and see things differently!

Ako naman, contrary to what some girls had said, I'd rather see the girl finish school no matter what.  Baka kasi dumating ang panahon na magustuhan ng girl na ayusin ang buhay nya sooner or later. The education she would get might help. As in "might"... there's no guarantee as she looks like she prefers to stay in the PSP profession for the present. Pero malay natin after na ng graduation ayawan na nya ang PSP work. But that's - "Malay lang natin". Pray for a miracle it will happen.

What I fear most is that, kung sakaling magdecide siya na magtagal sa PSP profession for many years, baka mabale-wala rin ang natapos nya. Ano ang sasagutin nya sa mga employers na inaapplyan nya for the huge gap of years - alangan namang sabihin nya na PSP ang work nya? Worse is, if employers are interested in hiring her tapos gagawa sila ng background investigation and finds out her past?

Kung yung ibang tao na "disente" sa opisina nakakasuhan ng immorality kapag nahuli sila then what more pa doon sa tulad nya na may successful sexual work history.

She's already "damaged" - at a tender young age pa. But I am not also saying na wala nang pag-asa sa girl because of a successful sexual career that she has started. I think you will need more help than what the girls here in GT would say. Have you considered getting a psychologist for the kid? You may have changed into a better man, but I think you will get to have a hard time convincing the girl to leave the dirty profession, especially na may nangyari sa inyo. Better leave that to professionals who can understand your situation. A huge change of mindset is needed.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: showermist on December 28, 2012, 12:35:59 pm


But my question now is... if she stops... or I decide to discontinue her educational scholarship... what happens to the money that was "invested" on her?... Shall we impose the contract that we "ask" her to sign? Or is it gone with the wind?...

You can talk to her kung ano ang desisyon mo, ninyong sumusuporta sa kanya. You can continue supporting her pag aaral kung nakikita mo naman na nagpupursige sya. Pero ilimit mo yung years. Or kung bumagsak sa ilang subject, then stop. Even those nagbibigay ng scholarship may mga ganyang kondisyon.

Hmn, so what if it's gone with the wind? Did you really lose something? Nada. Sinuportahan mo sya in exchange also for sex.

I am not going to be hypocrite, I judge the PSP girl not because she's hirap, maagang namulat sa ganyang kalakaran--but of how she dealt  of that certain circumstance na dumaan sa kanya.



Everyone deserves a 2nd chance. Yes, shes at very young age when she start as PSP. Minsan tayong mga tao ang isip natin eh ganito:

1. Bakit kinailangan niya mag pokpok/PSP ang dami naman ibang trabaho diyan.
2. Hindi magandang impluwensya sa mga kabataan (esp. girls at their young age)
3. Kapag hirap sa buhay PSP/ or any easy money agad ang solusyon?
4. Hindi man lang ba tinuruan ng magulang ng tama.
5. Hindi maka diyos.
6. Walang pakialam ang importante eh kumita ng libo libong pera.
7. etc etc etc.

Yes, tama kayo na malamang "the girl is just using this good samaritan guy" gawain na niya yun e. How can we confirm that? Hindi naman natin alam kung ano ang nilalaman ng utak o puso ng bawat isa satin. Dahil ba sa klase ng trabaho niya?

Yes, tama kayo "the samaritan guy is helping this girl in exchange of sex" so, what do we expect? "lalake yan" at alam natin lahat ang lalake kapag ang palay na ang lumapit, tutukain na yan. Still, choice ng guy to sex the girl or not.

Madalas ang swerte ni Pedro hindi swerte ni Juan. Maaaring si girl, nahikayat na pumasok as PSP dahil ito na lang ang paraan na nakita niya.


But she was given a chance na baguhin ang buhay niya---TS and some of his business partners are supporting her, pero nagbago ba? Di ba patuloy pa rin nyang ginagawa? Does TS need to wait for PSP girl na mauntog ang ulo at totally baguhin nag buhay niya?

Kung ako lang, I am not going to waste money on her dahil mas marami pang mas deserving at mas magpupursige sa tulong na kaya kong ibigay.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: shalikah on December 28, 2012, 12:41:46 pm
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2. Kung mag stop siya... the sponsors have already spent a considerable amount of money for her... and some of them are my future business partners... and they have high hopes for her (by the way most of her sponsors are from abroad) for me it would mean that I cannot finish what I started... So it is tantamount to returning their investments... nakakahiya naman kung biglang tumigil ang scholar namin tapos parang kulang yung effort na ginawa ko... at may plano pa kami to have more scholars in the same plight...


Tryin' to sugarcoat things?!

Of course, as a sponsor it's normal to have high hopes for the kids na pinagaaral natin. I am a sponsor myself kaya alam ko how it feels. It's normal to be disappointed kung hindi sila makatapos or hindi maging successful yun pagsponsor natin sa kanila. But let's be realistic about it. Hindi lahat ng effort natin may reward. Hindi lahat ng gusto natin mangyayari. Sponsoring the kids is our choice, our decision. We know the risk yet we still push through it. The reason is simply because we just want to help. At the end of the day maging successful o hindi ang bata, we can say we help. That we did our part. It's not about the money we wasted as we did it in the hope to have something good out of the investment we made. It's not about world vision or YOU failing to finish what you've started. It's about the person we sponsor.

Sa totoo lang you start off on the wrong foot kaya ganun na lang kalaki ang takot mo to fail her sponsor. As schumine said, "the samaritan guy is helping this girl in exchange of sex". If ako yun sponsor nya sa abroad at nalaman ko ang pinaggagawa mo eh magagalit talaga ako at goodbye na sa pagiging future business partner natin.

Anyways, if I were you I'd be totally honest (oh well not totally honest) to the kid sponsors na she's not being on her best right now and you are giving her last chance to make things right. Give her another semester to prove her worth. Make sure you clarify it to the kid as well, that this is her last chance at magtino na siya. And PLEASE STOP DOING IT WITH HER.

This is the best solution I can think of as of now. It is fair to both party after all we as sponsor should be informed at decide for ourselves as well if we want to continue supporting her or not.

Another thing, worst comes to worst I can see your name na nakakaladkad sa eskandalo. Make sure to do the right thing from now on.

BTW,  http://news.yahoo.com/manila-slum-emerges-unlikely-ballerina-054810130.html
as the news said...

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For Jamil Montebon, another Project Ballet's beneficiary, the scholarship was a life saver.
 
The troubled 18-year-old has left his broken family in a violent slum community not far from Aroma.
 
He became a ballet scholar at 13 but then dropped out of high school and ballet last year after a fight with his mother. During his time off from ballet and school, he collected garbage and worked in a junk shop. At night he would go drinking with other kids who often clashed with rival gangs, then sleep in a church where he got one free meal a week.
 
He was later accepted back into the program, which demands that children keep good grades and stay out of trouble. After shaping up, he moved into Ballet Manila's dormitory.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: quinone on December 28, 2012, 02:18:16 pm
But my question now is... if she stops... or I decide to discontinue her educational scholarship... what happens to the money that was "invested" on her?... Shall we impose the contract that we "ask" her to sign? Or is it gone with the wind?...

lahat ng investments may risk. wag mo na i-impose yung contract na yan at baka imbes na ikaw hahabol sa kanya for breach of contract, e ikaw ang hahabulin ng Gabriela at DSWD.

sana wag ka magalit, i just want to be frank. obviously, you are not busy enough sa business mo. find decent investments/business opportunities elsewhere. at ang inii-sponsoran e yung mga tunay na gustong mag-aral at hopeful sa future nila.

her being your "investment" is one big SHAM! you took her in at nag-isip ka ng way to keep her with you masquerading it/her as an investment. alam mo kung bakit siya text ng text sayo before? kase parasites unconsciously know their hosts very well.

alam mo, yung mga babae na lumaki sa ganyan...ang hirap baguhin niyan. they do not see the value na meron sila, and given that lalung walang halaga sa kanya ang lahat ng efforts mo na yan. may friend ako may ex.GF na PSP (break na sila), akala ng friend ko mababago niya yung babae na yun. ang mga tao ang kaya lang nilang baguhin ay sarili nila, hindi ibang tao. you clearly want to save her/be her hero, katulad ng sabi ng isang poster.

buti sana kung iba na yung mindset ng GF mo, kaso hindi e naka PSP-mode siya, hindi student-with-a-bright-future mode.

you know, may mga naikukwento sa akin ang friends ko na they know of men na pumapatol sa mga PSP. i hate to say it, pero kapag pinag-uusapan namin it turns out na ang conclusion namin is low ang self-esteem ng mga lalaking ito.

huwag ka nang mag-intay ng ugly turning point sa buhay ninyong dalawa. stop being co-dependents of each other. ikaw binibigyan mo siya ng money, siya binibigyan ka niya ng self-esteem. PEACE!
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: schumine on December 28, 2012, 03:06:42 pm
Continuation of my last post.

TS, Don't stress yourself too much, but its always nice to lend a hand. Observe the girl, if you think you can't see any changes from her, maybe thats the time you decide. People aren't always what you want them to be. Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, in your case you did your part you give her a chance to change for the better.Then its all up to her.

Yes, tama sila na maraming mas deserving. But thats your choice. ;) Maybe, better din if you talk to her seriously, ano ba talaga gusto niya, maging PSP for life? If yes, then alam mo na what to do. If not at gusto niya mabago buhay niya, maging maayos, then set  the rules. And please 'no sex" :)
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: iloveshoes88 on December 28, 2012, 04:01:03 pm
Nothing wrong with helping her finish her studies but she should work for it, since you have business partners and you yourself may mga negosyo, you should hire her, she should earn whatever she's getting, I think the reason why she's being a brat is because she can get money from you easily, at the end of the day kahit mapagtapos niyo siya kung hindi naman niya naiintindihan ang value ng education at yung tulong na binigay niyo sa kanya, wala ding mangyayari because she's used to getting easy money baka hindi rin yan magtrabaho after college, baka mag-asawa nalang yan not out of love but out of the things that she can get out of the guy.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: iloveshoes88 on December 28, 2012, 04:04:19 pm
I also don't think she should be staying with you, she should live with her family. If you give her work at hindi siya magseryoso sa studies niya, then that's her already, she worked for her tuition anyway and sarili niya na ang niloloko niya dito at hindi ikaw. Don't treat her as a little kid. Talk to her - adult to an adult.

Also sorry ha but what happens to her kung nawala ka, remember what we're targeting is that she learn to be independent without having to be a PSP, if you just give her everything hindi siya matututo, baka pagtanda niyan naggaganyan pa din siya.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on December 28, 2012, 05:50:34 pm
Hello...

I am so grateful to all of you who are sharing your thoughts on my current situation...

Right now I am just curious why would Gabriella or DSWD ran after me (us) if the contract was patterned after a Philippine Science High School contract for its scholars? And she is already 18. But it does not mean we are really going to impose it on her.

Also, right now, it is a bit inconvenient for her to stay with her parents during school days since the school is in Manila while their house is in Montalban.

As of now, I will just talk to her (not in a confrontational manner and it is not my style) and ask her on her plans. I will try to convince her to continue her studies until she graduates.

No more sex and try to gain respect from her. And also to show sincerity my sincerity.

Her education continues even if she continues being a PSP hoping later on she realizes that she has to  change for the better even if it takes a while.

I will not run away from her since it might mean abandonment and it might become a precedent to future situations with other people.

Please continue giving your comments.

You have mad my heavy burden lighter everytime I see a reply/ies.

Thanks.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: akthung on December 28, 2012, 10:14:04 pm
Threadstarter,

My POV naman is this:

Try your best to make her finish her degree. As a decent human being, that will be your biggest contribution to her life. sa ibang bansa nga Karapatan ang education. You will not regret it. Nasa kanya na yun kung gagamitin niya yung degree niya later o hindi.

I had a close friend once na PSP pala, its the money that blinds, kaya they keep on doing it. kasi they want a certain lifestyle and they would like to keep it that way. Kapag hindi na sila attractive then baka mag-isip isip na yan.

now kung magwala siya at hindi na pumasok, well, i guess you'll have to tow the line somewhere. walang magagawa kung ayaw na niya mag aral. this is the reason why scholarships are granted after intensive screenings. kung ganito ang mangyayari, nagawa mo na lahat bro. by that time, if ever it happens, im sure malinis na consensya mo.

kung sincere ka sa pagpapaaral ng tao, better find someone else na lang to give support. malay mo you find someone deserving and that person will eventually help people when he grows up.

now bro, kung umaasa ka na she'll one day love you back, well, it will always be up to her. but she's young and may change her mind later.

if you really love her, you must let her go. give her the opportunity to soar higher (degree).  but you can't be the savior, the catcher in the rye, marami pa diyan mas may kailangan ng tulong. and who knows you might see someone who'll make your heart tick again.

re: falling in love with a PSP,

well tao lang naman tayo. Sa ibang bansa nga, lalo na first world countries, a lot of girls earn their college money through being a PSP, stripper, and other exotic activities. in fact  50-60% of the rosters of some brothels are students. sa pinas kasi, apektado pa tayo ng mentality na namana sa panahon ng mga kastila. yung paputian ng budhi.
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Post by: laey on December 31, 2012, 03:44:38 am
At sa tagal ko nang di nagpopost dito, napapost na ko ngayon dahil naintriga ako sa issue mo.  8)
Medyo hard to believe kase, parang pangtelenovela lang - masyadong kumplikado.

Tingin ko, ikaw talaga ang nag-take advantage - sa girl at sa partner/s mo, aminin.
Siguro nga you truly care for the girl pero sana ikaw na lang nagsponsor.
Naging personal na kase motibo mo kahit kahanga hanga man.
Malas sa negosyo yan. Kung ako partner mo, nagdue diligence muna ako (kung applicable man to dito);D To make sure lang naman na magiging "asset" sya ng lipunan.

If I were you, I'd give her one last chance and If she still took it for granted, I'll just have the b**** to face my partners and say that it failed, and be accountable for the result.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on January 02, 2013, 10:27:03 pm
Thank you again for all your comments and advices...

Sometimes simple things become complicated once ikaw na ang involved... actually hanggang ngayon I am still weighing everything...

Yes, I may just give one chance to end this sem...

However, I am thinking of letting her go and find her own place... problem is we do not have enough funds for the board and lodging...
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: akthung on January 02, 2013, 11:59:26 pm
^bro i think kayang kaya mo yan. mas alam mo yung problema mo kesa sa amin. kailangan mo lang tanggalin ang emotions mo.

sa akin, one angle, pag napatapos mo yan, at least hindi nila masabi na sinamantala mo lang kasi may naibigay ka.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: cruxito on January 03, 2013, 12:21:23 am
TS! to tell you prankly ''NASA DUGO NA YAN''

if you can't stay away with her then you have to live with it! who knows? one of these days you will notice some signs and symptoms! LoL just kiddin'

for me kase if naulit pa ng naulit pa ang isang bagay it means addiction. hahanapin na ng katawan mo yun.

who can help you? - yourself
who can help her? - herself
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Girltalker2 on January 03, 2013, 01:24:20 pm

who can help you? - yourself
who can help her? - herself

I agree.

At this point in your life, you said nasa 40s ka na, you cannot afford more trouble in your life. Una una, you have 2 promising kids.  Ako ang natatakot for you as you have everything to lose samantalang yung babae, she has nothing to lose but everything to gain.  So sige lang.

Secondly, you should be looking for a lifetime partner (if gusto mo pa magkaron ng katuwang sa buhay) or at least making plans for retirement.  You cannot afford someone messing up your finances, etc.
In the case of your magna cum laude son, are you not concerned that one day eh baka i-seduce sya nitong babae at magpabuntis?  Things like these, when I think of all the possibilities, eh nakakatakot. At hindi lang ikaw ang apektado, puede pa madamay ang ibang loved ones mo.

She is indeed complicated. Being pragmatic tells me to avoid people that can cause you trouble.  As it is now, you can cut your losses while early. You can just repay the sponsors, para tapos na. Kesa paabutin mo pa hanggang 4th year college tsaka sya magd drop out.

I am actually bothered by her ways.  At hindi madali baguhin ang pagiging PSP nya kasi iyan na ang nakasanayan nya at nakagisnan. You cannot be a God to her and dictate to her, sino ka ba sa buhay nya?  In your case naman, I think YOU ARE JUST AFRAID TO LEAVE HER AS YOUR CONSCIENCE WILL HAUNT YOU for using her and not being able to help her in return. Helping her somehow makes you feel cleansed from any wrongdoing to a minor. Kasing-edad lang sya ng anak mo. And I would think it must have bothered you in some way that something happens between the 2 of you.

In her case naman, gusto ba nya maging PSP? Or ayaw?  Sa pagkakakwento mo, it seems she is enjoying it?  Contrary to the movies I watch, na most PSP are just forced into the situation.  Kung maiiwasan nya, gagawin ba nya?  Kasi yung fundamentals ng pag-iisip/morals nya ang questionable para sakin -

1) how does she treat all this?  normal lang kasi she wants money?  Ok lang?

2) she and HER FAMILY wants easy money. Sa buong pamilya nya, sya lang ba ang kelangan magtrabaho?  She is only 18, and her family is not her responsibility. But she can help.  She is only accountable to herself. If you are successful to totally overhaul her mindset, it is hard to sustain as she always has this reason - na para sa family nya - who may be thinking na OK lang mag PSP sya basta may pera.

3) and she is threatening to leave you?  then let her.  kung nak-konsyensya ka to leave her, the better solution is to ask her to decide.  Kasi it is a lose-lose situation to force her to study and stop being a PSP (contrary to her will) - as she will end up not happy. Worse, if she is not successful she will blame it all on you. 

4) she is still not mature enough to see things in the long run.  sa pagkakakwento mo, parang laging short term ang perspective nya.

Hindi ba after 1 year na pag-aaral, hindi ba sya nag-iisip na sana she can do good para maka work sya nang mabuti?  Or ang dream ba nya eh maging full pledged playboy bunny?

5) may boyfriend sya, and she sleeps around parin as a PSP?  alam ng bf?  Tapos may "friends" din sya na police inviting her to be part of some crime.  Think of the people around her.  They are trouble. If worse case, knock on wood, ayoko naman isipin, puedeng biktima ka na as it is.  Lalo pa kung masangkot sya sa bad na group na nagd drugs, they can victimize you and your family.  Just think hard about that.



In summary, puede mo mabago ang anyo nya or mabago temporarily na mag-aral sya.  Pero mahirap baguhin ang dreams/aspirations/mindset nya if she will always be surrounded by thoughts na nakagisnan nya - sa pamilya nya, mga bad friends/influences.  She is trouble. Protect yourself, moreso, your kids and loved ones. 

 





Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: shalikah on January 03, 2013, 02:07:28 pm
^

Agree.


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Though my opinion is still give her another chance.

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I remember an ex-friend, hindi ko alam if PSP ba ang matatawag sa kanya. Anyways, popular siya so maraming nanliligaw sa kanya. Some of the guys jinojowa niya and they would give her gifts and all... sabay sabay talaga yun mga lalake. Minsan marami din siyang pera binigyan daw sya ng jowa nya. Mind you she was from a middle class family and during her elem and hs days ay sa catholic university sya nagaral. She gave up college just to party, date, magjowa as it is an easy money. Gusto nya ng cp hihinge sa isang jowa. Gusto nya magshopping, hihinge sa jowa. Oh well... Her family gave up on her na rin at kinut ng mother nya un allowance nya so sa mga jowa nya na lang siya nampepera.

Last time I heard she was pregnant. Tas sabi niya yun guy who is a Japan permanent resident ang nakabuntis sa kanya during yun stay nun guy dito sa Pinas. Sadly, there was this second guy na nagssbi na sya un ama. anyways, both of them are supporting her. The guy from Japan is sending her money every month for child support and is really looking forward for her to live with him in Japan. The second guy hindi ko alm pero nagbibigay din ng money. Iniwan nya yun anak niya sa family niya at yun mother nya ang gumagastos for the kid. Anyways, point is mahirap tangihan ang nakasanayan lalo na kung nasusunod ang luho mo.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: whitebishop on January 07, 2013, 09:05:43 pm
my opinion

-finish what you started. keep sending her to school.
-i think okay lang na nakatira sya sayo while doing her studies.
-stop having sex with her. use your better judgement you have a more mature disposition. kapag nag initiate sya, tell her that you care for her and you don't want it. command respect.
-keep praying for strength so you will overcome the call of lust and let your strength find its way to focusing on helping her finish her studies
-if she asks for it, tell her that you'll appreciate it more if she studies or finish her assignments
-take no business in her business. kung gusto nya iparinig sayo go to your room and lock the door
care about her studies and don't care about her wrongdoing. that is a way to point out what you like and you do not like.
-let her do what she does, keep your focus on the target - to help her graduate
-help her in the most honorable way you can. you are not religious but you know there is God who sees all things and knows all your secrets.
-go back to your family, court your wife again.

P.S.  I am a man too, I have been attracted to girls when I was younger and I am attracted to girls who I see as a problem to solve. I hope your case is not similar.  Don't treat the people in your life as a rubix that you need to solve. you'll end up miserable.

Good luck to your business
Good luck to your commitment
Good luck to finding yourself back to your family... that is where you truly belong.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Observer54 on January 10, 2013, 04:10:59 pm
just let go...
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: argento on January 14, 2013, 01:28:34 pm
wag na tayong maglokohan, you are helping her in exchange for sex pa guardian effect ka pa eh. kaso nakasanayan na niya ang ganun gawain kaya tuloy lang.
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Post by: jtansanco on January 14, 2013, 08:59:33 pm
Dude, I think you should post this in MTC or EOD. Lots of guys there with the same experience as you and I'm sure you'll find the right advice over there. End of the day, she likes money and you like sex.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on January 23, 2013, 08:15:41 am
Hello GTalkers,

In case you are interested to know the latest...

She packed up most her things and left the house... she already tried this before but this time I did not prevent her from leaving...

What happened between January 1 until last week was very confusing and messy. Now I don't know what she plans to do in her life.

I feel bad and relieved at the same time.

It may seem funny and ridiculous but I feel broken hearted.

Again I thank you for all the comments and support you have showed in this thread.

It is reality check time for me. But it is so hard when you live alone...

God bless everyone...
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Shadow Angel on January 23, 2013, 08:20:18 am
You feel alone or takot ka mag isa kaya kahit ganun sya ok lang..buti nakapag isip ka rin at sana mapanindigan.. Try to focus sa ibang bagay para hindi ka matukso.. Madaling sabihin mahirap pero mahirap pa rin gawin kaya try harder.. Goodluck..
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 07, 2013, 05:01:57 pm
Hello GTalkers,

In case you are interested to know the latest...

She packed up most her things and left the house... she already tried this before but this time I did not prevent her from leaving...

What happened between January 1 until last week was very confusing and messy. Now I don't know what she plans to do in her life.

I feel bad and relieved at the same time.

It may seem funny and ridiculous but I feel broken hearted.

Again I thank you for all the comments and support you have showed in this thread.

It is reality check time for me. But it is so hard when you live alone...

God bless everyone...

Just wish her well. Pray to God that she may be guided correctly in life, without you muna. Kasi as of this point in your life, mahirap humanap pa ng sakit ng ulo.  Nabanggit ko na before, nasa 40s ka na at nag-iisa. Yes, it is not easy.  But somehow, I believe you should still look for a life long partner, hindi pa naman huli ang lahat.  You have to find someone suitable and compatible sayo, WISELY.  Hindi yung kahit sino nalang.

I am also separated like you pero I have accepted the fact that I can grow old alone.  However, I am not losing hope na baka makahanap rin ako ng katuwang sa buhay.  But it should never make me desperate, or even lower my standards.  In fact, I have to raise my standards even higher, because kaya nga ako lumabas sa marriage ko because I want a happy and peaceful life.  Eh kung hahanap lang ako ng partner na sakit sa ulo, eh di sana di nako lumabas sa marriage ko, happy pa kids ko. 

You deserve the best, lalo pa kung gusto mong magmahal ng tunay - dapat lang na deserving whoever she is.

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Post by: noturguynxtdoor on March 22, 2013, 08:43:51 am
ayun buti nalang natauhan na si ate ...

wag natin syang husgahan hindi madali yung ginawa nung babae... well lets not just try to judge and justify what she did... sa panahon ngayon pati mga artistang nalalaos ginagawa yan ... pleasure + money who doesnt want that ?

for you TS ... more on lust yan thats how you met and you were just blinded because you felt you will be the messiah but apparently no one is but herself.

akala ko mahaba haba pa ang kwento...

suggestion ko sayo bro is to pray hard ...

i know you arent getting young anymore try to look for someone closer to your age.. am sure there's alot out there but if its sex you want you already know how ...

try to think really what do you want a companion forever or a sex slave ?

kasi if you are into PSP you already know to never give your personal number kasi alam mo once that girl needs you they will text you at ikaw naman sya ang paborito mong ice cream na kahit malayo na pag kumalembang tatakbo ka palabas ng bahay kahit walang tsineles makabili lang ng ice cream.

ang mura ng simcard brader kung gusto mo talaga mag stay dyan sa PSP mode bili ka ng sun 10 pesos lang may load na enough na yun for the deed. tapos itapon mo ...

once is enough two is too much ... yang mga ganyan ibahay mo man yan no strings attach parin yan

at ikaw lalaki ka ang lalake kailangan assurance ... wala kang aasahang assurance sa mga ganyang babae dahil kung mamahalin ka nyan iiwan na nya pati pamilya nya ...


yung mga babaeng ganyan kaya nila ginagawa yan dahil nakukuha nila gusto nila for their family and para sa sarili nila... so kung maiinlove yan ang dami nilang kailangan talikuran ...

pasensya na kung medyo mahaba ang walang sense HAHAHAHA..
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Post by: whitebishop on March 22, 2013, 12:15:29 pm
^very good perspective sir!
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Post by: Fluffyheart on March 24, 2013, 06:41:40 pm
So ayun, kahit anong advice ang nangyari, si girl na din ang nagtakda at nagdesisyon.
Title: Re: In Love With A PSP??? Need your reaction badly...
Post by: rich_loner on April 22, 2013, 06:07:01 pm
Salamat uli mga GTs for all your POVs and advices... na appreciate ko talaga... As of now, she still texts me once in a while pero di ko na muna pinapansin... I just hope that eveything will be well for both of us in the future...
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Post by: praetorius on May 01, 2013, 12:51:21 am
i may be late on this, but just in case na bisitahin ulit ng TS ito, masasabi ko lang:

'been there, done that'

almost got mugged by the 'bouncer' nung in-arrange ko ang 'rescue' sa 'casa' kung saan sila nakatira wherein they only accept foreigners as clients.

at the end of the day, she's in it for money, nothing else. otherwise, she'd forsake EVERYTHING para lang matigil ang cycle of prostitution on her part.

so good luck sa iyo on your decision. maraming babae na karapat-dapat sa atensyon mo :-)
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