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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #680 on: December 07, 2019, 05:19:26 pm »
Norm na ba talaga ngayon sa relationship na sex at maging pregnant muna as prerequisite for marriage. Sorry for the dumb question? Palagay ko lang wala kasi tumatagal sakin haha kasi hindi ako nakikipag sex sa mga naging bf ko. Hindi naman ako boring, pero pag dating don gusto ko kasi papakasalan ako dahil mahal ako. Most of my friends got married when they found out their pregnant, I don't want to follow their example. Pero sa mundo ngayon, parang yan na ang trend. Alam ko meron parin lalaki nakakapag intay, pero totoo pa ba ito?


Kaya mo yan girl. I salute you. And I encourage you to stay pure before marriage :)

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #681 on: December 19, 2019, 09:31:02 pm »
Ano ang normally namimiss ng guys/bf sa girls/gf?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #682 on: January 07, 2020, 12:35:03 am »
Ano ang normally namimiss ng guys/bf sa girls/gf?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #683 on: January 29, 2020, 08:24:16 pm »
What is the right reaction when your bf seems distant to you?
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #684 on: February 01, 2020, 10:57:05 am »
Ano ang normally namimiss ng guys/bf sa girls/gf?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #685 on: February 05, 2020, 10:23:37 am »
Hello! I'd like to ask for your advice. I'm dating this guy I met from a dating app. He seems to be a nice guy. The problem is, I found out na may mutual friend kami. Close friend niya yung isang guy na nameet ko din from the dating app. Nakwento ko din sa kanya na I met his friend thru the app. Tinanong nya ko what happened, sabi ko walang spark between me and his friend. But I didnt tell him na I slept with his friend. Pero once lang. Then after the did, it's like nothing happened. Hindi din nnag push through yung relationship. Help! I feel like Im beginning to like this new guy kaso naguguilty ako na Im hiding something from him. Should I tell him? Natatakot naman ako na he might get turned off.

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« Reply #686 on: February 05, 2020, 10:48:17 am »
^Tell him the truth kung magtatanong siya. Pero kung di naman siya magtatanong wag mo na sabihin, parang nasa early stage pa lang naman kayo ng dating. Be careful na lang din at wag basta magtitiwala kay new guy kasi baka di mo alam next time ikaw na pulutan sa kwentuhan nilang dalawa.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #687 on: February 05, 2020, 11:01:26 am »
^^ Mas mabuti huwag na lang wala rin namang maitutulong yun sa inyo kung seryoso ka talaga sa lalaki, though i'm sure at the back of his mind pwedeng may nangyari nga between you and his close friend - at sure din ako na ayaw niya talagang malaman. Ang problema na lang is paano kung yung close friend niya pala nagkwento/magkwento sa kanya. Ingatan ang puso ha, teka may nangyayari na rin ba sa inyo ni new guy?
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« Reply #688 on: February 05, 2020, 11:38:46 am »
^^ Mas mabuti huwag na lang wala rin namang maitutulong yun sa inyo kung seryoso ka talaga sa lalaki, though i'm sure at the back of his mind pwedeng may nangyari nga between you and his close friend - at sure din ako na ayaw niya talagang malaman. Ang problema na lang is paano kung yung close friend niya pala nagkwento/magkwento sa kanya. Ingatan ang puso ha, teka may nangyayari na rin ba sa inyo ni new guy?
Wala pa naman nangyayari sa min ng new guy. We've been going out on wholesome dates. He seems to be a gentleman. Nag ask siya sakin thru text kung bakit di natuloy with his friend, and nag sorry din siya for asking. Sabi lang nya baka daw kasi nagiging epal siya between me and his friend. eh sabi ko wala naman kami nung friend nya. walang spark pareho. Yung friend nya sakin and ako sa friend nya. Ayun. Nasa early stage pa nga lang kami ng dating but if ever it goes serious, di ko ba dapat yun sabihin sa kanya? Ang awkard kasi eh. Yung friend nya nirecruit ako before to be part of some sort of parang 'networking' so magkateam kami and we still see each other during meetings. Pero nothing romantic talaga. PAg naguusap kami lagi regarding the business na lang.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #689 on: February 05, 2020, 11:52:57 am »
^Well kung totoong serious siya importante pa ba yun? Past is past. Wala pa naman siya sa buhay mo nun. For me lang, kung itatanong ni new guy better tell him the truth but be ready for the consequence. If hindi naman niya itatanong then I guess hindi na importante ang past sa kanya. Pero if feeling mo di ka matatahimik then it is up to you to decide kung dapat or hindi mo ba dapat sabihin. Just make sure na anuman ang result wala kang pagsisisihan.
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« Reply #690 on: February 05, 2020, 07:08:41 pm »
True sis. thanks sa advice  :) ;)
^Well kung totoong serious siya importante pa ba yun? Past is past. Wala pa naman siya sa buhay mo nun. For me lang, kung itatanong ni new guy better tell him the truth but be ready for the consequence. If hindi naman niya itatanong then I guess hindi na importante ang past sa kanya. Pero if feeling mo di ka matatahimik then it is up to you to decide kung dapat or hindi mo ba dapat sabihin. Just make sure na anuman ang result wala kang pagsisisihan.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #691 on: July 25, 2020, 03:07:28 am »
@moonandstars, anong dating app yan?  curious lang baka makita ko si hubs dyan LOL!
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #692 on: August 17, 2020, 06:39:46 am »
Hi Guys! i'd like to ask for your advice.

I had a relationship with this guy for almost 6 years, we separated for 3 years, then got back together last year. We had a child together.

And then late last year, we broke up again. He said its not really working out between us. That hindi talaga kami magkasundo... only to find out that he has never moved on from what happened between us when we separated. He never forgave me for the decisions i made, which are valid naman. The decisions i made entails the future of our child. So tinanggap ko yun. Then i found out he started seeing someone else. I asked him about it, but i never got a direct confirmation from him. All he said was "gusto daw niya maging masaya sa natitirang buhay niya", he is not ill or anything. He told me over and over na pasakit at pabigat na lang daw ako sa buhay niya, and that he does not love me anymore.

And then recently, i found his newly created IG account. Nagulat ako kase it was in Public mode, and there are pics of him and this girl. I was deeply hurt, first because we got back together a year ago. And i know nung panahon na nagbalikan kami, minahal niya ako talaga. And we broke up less than 6 months ago!

Parang naisip ko, can he really fall in love with someone else that easily? I get it, he is lonely. Pero para maipagpalit niya ako ng ganun kabilis at ganun kadali?
What also annoys me is that he does not make an effort to even talk to his son. Parang mas pinipili niya that girl instead of his own flesh and blood. I am trying to move on with my son now. And its really haaaaaard.

Guys, please help! Advice pleaseeeeee!

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #693 on: August 25, 2020, 04:44:37 am »
You guys broke up. that's it. move on. Hinde nya pinipili ang girl over his son, magkaiba yun. Either iniiwasan ka nya or talagang irresponsible lang sya. I will not choose any girl even my mom for my son/daughter. No point in dwelling about how fast ka pinagpalit masasaktan ka lang wala namang magbabago.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #694 on: September 02, 2020, 05:26:55 pm »
siguro let him be na lang. baka iba na talaga ang gusto nyang buhay.
if he can support your kid financially better.

baka it's the end na rin ng love story nyo.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #695 on: September 03, 2020, 01:46:26 pm »
^^ Mas maganda siguro na ngayon wala na sa buhay niyo si ex mo kasi based sa mga previous posts mo wala naman siyang naibibigay na maganda sa buhay niyo ng anak mo - I mean kung wala naman siyang silbi bakit kailangan pang isama sa buhay niyo, hindi kailangan na anak ang ganyang klaseng father ang kailangan niya parent and for now ikaw na muna ang gumanap ng roles na yun. Him having a relationship shouldn't be an issue since you guys already broke up, wag mo nang isipin the who/what/why/how/when in their relationship kasi kahit ano naman ang sagot sakit lang naman ang makukuha mo.

I know madaling sabihin dahil wala kami sa situation mo pero I think parang chess ito yung best move mo, protect your kid and focus sa life niyo without him.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #696 on: April 30, 2021, 01:22:05 pm »
Hello All! Kapag ba may misunderstanding or away kayo ng partner nyo, usually ba tumatagal yun ng 3 days to a week or red flag na pag ganon katagal? Sana po may sumagot. Salamat!

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« Reply #697 on: April 30, 2021, 03:40:03 pm »
Hindi dapat, masyadong matagal ang 3 days unless sobrang bigat ang dahilan ng pinag-awayan(like cheating) na kailangang ng mahigit 3days na comtemplating sa nangyari. Kung mababaw lang dahilan at tumagal ng ganyan red flag yan sa iba dahil may ibang tao na ginagamit ang away para gumawa ng kalokohan nila
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« Reply #698 on: June 05, 2021, 05:04:33 am »
 Hello may question lang ako kasi I'm confused sa actions ng bf ng bestie ko.  Me and my best friend's boyfriend work in the same building but different company.  Suddenly I received a DM from him last April. That month sila bumalik ng office  so napansin niya  wala na kami sa office  sa ground floor, Yung office pala nila  sa upper floor.  We transferred to our warehouse instead last February because of the pandemic.  I informed him that  then he asked me if hindi ba daw ako lumalabas so I told him minsan lang ako mag office , like end of the month and WFH na mostly.
 
 Anyways so we exchanged messages about how working at home and office is different suddenly he teased me na so hindi na pala ako nakaka date or na diligan kasi hindi ako lumalabas.  I'm  a single mom  pala  and for years na wala akong naging boyfriend after my son's father.    At first it was just nothing lang kasi he was always a joker but he sends me some sex videos and suddenly delete it, I find it weird kasi why would he send that to me I asked him what was that. Sabi niya  yun yung student  na  taga Davao na nag viral daw . So I tried to change the subject and  told him I haven't met my bestie na which is his GF, he replied sila din daw matagal na hindi nagkikita, So  sabi ko kailan kayo last nag meet?  He just said SECRET so after he replied I just gave a thumbs up and no  message na from him at  hindi na rin ako nag bother mag ask if may problem sila that time kasi private yun.

 Then This Sunday  lang he messaged me  telling me open na daw yung kainan near our building that we went last 2019 that time  nag treat ako sa kanilang 2  kasi post birthday celebration ko.  Minsan kasi we three go out or he'll catch up whenever me and my friend would hang out  or  me and my bestie would  end our dinner with coffee then he follows na. May one time rin  pumunta sila sa birthday ko sa bahay ,dinala niya that day  si BF kasi day off nila both. So I met him countless times na  and known him for years since they started dating in 2015.
  Suddenly he teased me mag  libre daw ako dun sa place when we last dined out before pandemic  , so sabi ko naman bakit ako mag libre?  dapat ikaw kasi mas malaki sweldo mo or hati kayo ni GF.   Then he teased me again if  ibang lalaki  daw nag ask sa akin malamang go daw ako,

 Eh sabi ko naman hindi ako mang li libre noh konting lang sweldo ko ngayon kasi hindi work everyday skeletal pa kami sa office.  Anyways until napunta yung topic namin  about food and  he needs a sugar mommy  ( I'm confused if he meant Single Mom or Sugar Mommy)   
He needs someone to  cook for him kasi mas masarap daw magluto ang sugar mommy kasi home cooked meals and masarap magdala, So I was kinda bothered na sa part na masarap magdala.  So sabi ko bakit ka pa mag hahanap eh andyan naman GF niya.   He replied SECRET     :o  ::)

  Then he asked me if Ako ba daw masarap magluto?  I answered him  kain lang alam ko eh,  then he followed it up with Ikaw Masarap ka kumain?   I thought it was just an innocent  question lang so I replied naman Oo depende sa food. Eh nag iba nag tono niya when he told me , E lilibre kita pero Ako kainin mo!  Diba masarap ka kumain?   I was taken aback sa questions nya . I told him bakit  bakit ganun tungo niya sa  akin  eh friend ako ng GF niya ? I even  asked him "Don't you find it weird you're trying to hookup with me?"   Hindi daw kasi parang exciting daw yun  And feel niya  magaling ako in bed and  performer. Magaling ka ba mag B J ? He asked me!    I was definitely shocked cause I thought he was a good guy ,never kasi siya naging bastos sa akin, sabi ko sa kanya akala ko naman good boy ka ? He didn't respond to that . Bakit kaya naging ganun siya?   
 
 He was never flirty before and was always nice and appropriate when we meet sa hallways.   I asked him if okay lang siya at  sila ng friend ko?  He told me naman the'yre cool and wala silang problema daw.   I just stopped replying to him and  I  messaged my best friend , I first asked her if okay sila ng bf niya why daw ako nag ask ng ganun?  And i told her your bf is asking me some lewd questions,  she informed me they haven't talked in 2 months na  kasi she was tired, she basically GHOSTED  him.  Wala naman daw third party pero she's tired of being the one making effort sa relationship always reaching out  and she reached her limits. I don't really know if there's more to that.   She was  shocked too when I informed her sabi niya hindi naman ganun si BF, strong  daw yun , she'll pray for him instead. Someday she'll talk to him personal  and have closure.
I also asked her if she mentioned anything about me sa BF niya she blurted pala before pero matagal na yun." Okay lang daw ako kahit walang BF kasi minsan may ka S@x naman daw ako"  :( :o   Oh it was just between me and my friend I don't know why she even bothered to tell him that? I don't know if he asked or what?     Kaya siguro  ganun tungo niya sa akin ngayon kasi nalaman niya I used to hookup before   :-[ >:( :(
 And bakit  naging ganun yung treatment niya sa akin Is it because he knew  about that?

 What bothers me is ganito ba talaga ang lalaki ? Why would he try to hookup with his GF's  best friend? Or in denial siya kasi sabi niya okay sila but to my friend wala na . Or  is this his way  to get closer  sa ex Gf niya ? Get attention?  Pride? Revenge perhaps ? Or he's  testing me? 

 I mean if he wants to talk to my friend  why can't he messaged her instead and ask her directlty ?   
  There was a time, years ago He was  so thoughtful and sweet to my friend , He asked me once for  help and  messaged  me  na samahan ko daw siya bumili ng Christmas  gift for her,  Anong  shop ba daw  sa instagram  Where he can buy  some bags for her?   I thought to myself awww how sweet naman,
  But now  It's just sad that when someone I thought who was perfect for my bestie turned out to be  someone different.    :( :(  :(
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #699 on: June 05, 2021, 10:03:54 pm »
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He was never flirty before kasi nga sila pa ng bestfriend mo, and siguro hindi lang rin nagkaroon ng change but deep inside yan talaga ugali niya. Ok lang naman if you think highly of him before pero after nung nag-ask siya tungkol sa matagal ka nang di nadiligan malaking red flag na yun lalo di naman kayo super close friends. Tapos nagsend pa ng scandal, tin-test ka niya nung time na yun.

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I was definitely shocked cause I thought he was a good guy ,never kasi siya naging bastos sa akin, sabi ko sa kanya akala ko naman good boy ka ? He didn't respond to that . Bakit kaya naging ganun siya?   
Ganun siya dahil single na uli and i'm sure marami pa siyang kinakausap na ganyan, parang nakawala sa hawla or parang mangingisda na naghagis ng lambat hoping na may mahuhuli. Sadly he thought isa ka sa mahuhuli so good for you na umiwas ka at sinabi mo sa gf niya.

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And bakit  naging ganun yung treatment niya sa akin Is it because he knew  about that?
No, ganun lang talaga siya. Huwag mong isipin na yung past actions mo ang dahilan and besides personal mo na yun and he should still respect you katulad ng ibang tao.

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What bothers me is ganito ba talaga ang lalaki ? Why would he try to hookup with his GF's  best friend?....
May ganyang mga lalaki at ganyang mga babae, nasa personality ng tao yan hindi sa gender.

Nasa iyo na yan kung ibblock mo or retain dahil sa pinagsamahan nila ng bestfriend mo, just dont be shocked kapag paminsan minsan i-test ka niya uli.

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