How do you turn down someone who wants to be a Ninang at your wedding?

[NMandap]

Hello ladies, how do I politely turn down someone who volunteered to be a ninang at my wedding without hurting her feelings? I have already listed down some of our prospect ninongs & ninangs and the lady isn't even included in our wedding guest list. Any insights?

[reese17]

Hey NMandap, just curious - any reason why you're uncomfortable with this lady offering to be your ninang?

[aquacharly]

How can she be so comfortable as to present herself as a Ninang, and not even consider the possibility of not being invited?  Ganon sya ka confident she is on the guest list. 

Someone's pushy kab1tch?
A family feud?
A boss/employer of yours?
Someone with a proven track record of showing up at weddings as creatively styled as Tessa Prieto -- and stealing all the attention from the bride?

Just smile, and don't discuss it.
But if you do not invite her -- you will surely gain an enemy.

[ece]

natawa naman ako sa Tessa Prieto sis! hahaha!

pwede bang iadd din naten sa question yung mga nag vovolunteer na gawing abay/ flower girl/ ring bearer mga anak nila? madami na din kasi na ganun. gusto ko sana yung malalapit lang talaga sakin ang kasama sa entourage. 

[sparklingjewel]

I would probably have avoided the topic or said we haven't discussed it yet. And then not notify her EVER. Hahaha but we don't have this problem. More of there are people i want to include but have not yet talked to..

[mindiegirl]

I have the same dilemma! She's my former boss. I have no plans of inviting her as well sa wedding day. I don't know why there are people who volunteers themselves. Pansin ko ang gumagawa lang nito yung hindi mo talaga ka close. I just didn't answer her whenever she's asking. 

[corpse_bride]

My mom made an initial list of ninongs & ninangs from our side. Naloka ako, may kasama na daughter & son-in-law nung ninong & ninang nila nung kasal. & I forgot to consider one of her siblings. Gasgas na ninang na kasi yung eldest sister (our favorite aunt,ssshhhh) nila. So I just settled with the aunt she listed down. Pinaglaban ko talaga not to get yun anak ng ninong nila coz most we do when we see each other is smile, beso, "kamusta, achi?" & smile end of routine.

If you could avoid the person, avoid them nalang! Haha! If you'll invite them then decline with a white lie, I guess? Like you've reached the max of PSs (which is true for our church).

Side kwento lang. I joined an org to support another best friend. We (best friend, fiancé & other friends) were at an event for the org tapos he was telling everyone (na nuon ko lang nakilala) that I'm getting married. Then he was like "Eto si Tita pwedeng ninang to. Diba, Tita?" In my head I was like dude! Baka ano isipin niyan samin. Kumukuha ng ninang na hindi kakilala para may malagay na mayaman sa invite. Awkward. 

[mindiegirl]

Naloka naman ako kay friend mo sis. Haha! Baka well-meaning gesture lang naman but still AWKWARD!

I bet I can think of so many reasons for the sake of not getting her. Right now may bad blood between her and an officemate so hindi sya makapunta sa office naming. Kaya di kami nagkikita. Will definitely not entertain any volunteer acts from her. HAHA! Hopefully di sya magtampo talaga.

[corpse_bride]

Uh oh. Kaya pala. Sana nga hindi. But insistent ba siya? Or once lang like "Ay, ikakasal ka na? Ninang ako ah" just like other people are like "Oi ring bearer/flower girl si junjun/baby ah."

[shygirlme]

Hahaha! Nakakaloka naman yung mga kwento nyo mga sis. Basta kami nag stick sa Ninongs and Ninangs na alam namin kahit after the wedding andyan for us! Yun father in law ko gusto iprisinta yung boss nya na sikat. Kahit mga manager sa office nila na mayayaman gusto nya ipakuha samin. Tanggi kami ng husband ko. Hindi kasi kami after the money eh. Aminin natin yung iba ganon di ba? Talagang close samin mga kinuha namin.

[corpse_bride]

Ay sinabi mo pa sis. Di ko mabilang dami ng invitation nakuha namin na may Lucio Tan pero walang anino ni Lucio Tan na dumadating. Pero pansin ko pag-politiko ilagay mo yun dumadating sa church.

[mindiegirl]

She's annoyingly insistent sis! the first time she mentioned, deadma talaga ko. Divert ang usapan, mga ganong style. But then, napapadalas ang pag mention, to the point na she's waiting for my answer na ay "yes ma'am ill get you". haha! Pero, no, hindi nya yun maririnig from me. Kahit pa sabihin nilang masama tumanggi sa nagvovolunteer. Ill just tell them, di ko alam kasabihan na yan. Fortunately, di nga kami nagkikita ngayon so less stress ako.

On those people na mahilig i-volunteer anak, or sarili nila, I don't know how they do that, honestly. And like what I've mentioned on my post back up, sila yung hindi mo naman talaga ka-close, pero pag ikakasal ka, hala gustong-gusto umabay.. hehe

Yes, stick sa goal na magiging second parents talaga kukuhanin. Thanks sisses!

[shygirlme]

^korek ka dyan sis. May isa kami Ninong nung sinabi ko kunin ko sya Ninong tumanggi. Kasi wala naman daw sya pera. Sabi ko kahit po di ka magpakimkim. Importante makapunta sya. Medyo may problema din kasi sa pera yun nung una di daw sya makakadating pero touched ako nakapunta sya. Nahihiya nga din ako kasi gumastos pa sya sa susuotin nya eh.

[mindiegirl]

Aww, congrats sis on having a wonderful and trusted set of PS. 

[Fowler60]

These day we?re lots of us are less religious, so godparenting can be more of a secular role, but you?re still supposed to be around for babysitting and days out when they?re small visit official website, and advice giving when they?re older.

[lilycollins]

Let her know that you appreciate her interest bitlife in being a ninang, but you have already finalized your list of ninongs and ninangs. Explain that you have a limited number of slots and that you had to make some tough choices.