Should I forget about friends who forget about me or suddenly disappears?

[airish_2]

Yung friend ko nung highschool biglang nagparamdam     nung collee may communication pa kami tapos biglang nawala. Natuwa naman ako dahil nagreach out siya naguguilty tuloy ako kasi sobrang asar ko ng mawala siya then iba na set of friends niya.

[O R E O O]

If you don't see effort, forget but if you see at least inch of an effort give them chance baka busy lang talaga lalo na kapag may mga sariling pamilya na. I noticed this sa mga friends kong may mga families na while I am still single, they forgot me na literal. First priority na kasi nila family kaysa friendship.

[xtine]

Hello TS, i hope you are feeling better now since its been years ago. 

I was the same like you in the past.  However, as I grow older (mature - i guess), i became not so reliant on "Best friend" notion anymore.  I know my BFFs are with me since college and starting work stage, but later in life, you will feel that you like to spend with other people and you don't want to limit yourself with just a handful of people.

I had a "best friend" who was very clingy - complained that I never replied to her messages or asking me where my whereabouts were.  Then i realized that I am too suffocated that I had to tell her that may I grew the "best friend" situation already.  Nowadays, i don't put emotions on anybody, if they don't answer my messages right away.   Its okay, coz i am also the same.  Now nobody gets angry with me if my answers are bit delayed (i am not on my phone all the time).  But when we have dinners or get together - we are closer than ever.

What I am trying to say is that don't expect to much from people, coz honestly a lot of people are also working on being happy being with themselves - no dependency on other people.  Be more open to other people and don't put them in pedestal.  They are still your friends, but don't too suffocating that they should "value" friendship. 

Nowadays, its better not to label friendships (or put levels).  Even if you guys talk just around twice in a year, but when you see each other, you will still have the same closeness, i bet.