praying for your partner in life

[smiles_alwayz]

 

very inspiring naman yung kay lucy torres... parang si princess kate of cambridge (prince william)

ewan ko lang kung may panata din si princess kate hehe... pero pareho nila nakuha yung taong gusto nila...

sana ako din.... sana tayo din...

[oshiawase]

is it ok to ask God for signs too?

I have the same question! And I would really appreciate everyone's opinion here.

I have "encountered" a guy online. I say "encounter" but that does not mean we actually talked to each other. It's a bit more complicated. Anyway, he is African. I started reading his articles etc. and as I read, I realize we share the same belief systems...as if he is literally taking the words out of my mouth. I started reading more and more and actually felt amazed at how similar our thoughts are.

At that time, I was personally undergoing a stressful and depressing phase in my life. I kid you not but at some point, when I saw a picture of him, I started crying...because I felt that I "like" this person but I know I cannot end up with this person because we are continents apart (and so what are the chances of me meeting him right?)

Anyway. Months passed and I still have the feeling. It feels stupid because I do not know him. And this is not like the celebrity crushes I've had (by the way, he is not a celebrity, just a small-time writer).

And in the midst of confusion and crying and stress, I asked God for a sign...A sign that if I am meant to have a shot (a 1 over a billion) with this person, send me a sign. The sign I asked for was when someone, or somewhere, I will encounter "Africa" but NOT online (coz that would be too easy) within the week.

I thought the person who will fulfill this sign was my father because he travels a lot and would often talk about his travels to me. But my father and I live in different houses and in that week, I chose not to visit him (for personal reasons). Last day of the week and I was already hopeless that the word "Africa" would show up. I spent the last day with friends in a birthday party. My friends informed us he would be traveling to Hawaii soon. I told him he should try traveling alone as it helps boost confidence. The conversation somehow led to a discussion of advantages of traveling alone.

We were sharing stories and travel tips and all. And it was my friend's turn to share his "solo travel" story but he could not come up with any because he said he prefer traveling with groups. So we next turned to a different topic (politics). And in the middle of discussion, that friend said, "Africa! I traveled to Africa alone!"

That sent chills down my spine. And I had goosebumps everywhere.

Africa. "He said Africa".

There's the sign. Now I still do not know whether I should believe the sign and where I should act on it. I mean, he is continents away. And for all I know, he has a girlfriend. And it is quite strange for someone whom he does not even know to just send him a message right? Do I tell him, "hey! I asked for a sign and God said I can have a significant shot at you!"

I am so confused. I feel hurt. I have stopped reading his articles because I do not want to get in too deep.

Any advice?

[mindiegirl]

^ Hi sis! Nakaka amaze naman yung story na ni-share mo! It's kind of complicated nga yung situation mo. Ako personally naniniwala naman ako sa signs talaga. Pero sa sitiuation mo, imo, you should consider na madaming factors pwedeng naka affect sa pagka gusto mo sa kanya and sa kakaibang connection na napi feel mo for him. Pwedeng longing to have a partner, age, peer and family pressure, mga nababasa mo na articles in your everyday life and so on. Diba minsan kasi na aapply or even nangyayari talaga sa buhay natin when we constantly think about it. Mind is very powerful sabi nga. The thing that cant be denied is the chemistry that you felt toward that guy and I believe hindi naman imposible na makilala mo sya someday. Nothing is impossible with God. Pero you have to wait patiently sis. Having witnessed the sign you asked for is not enough for you to make the move. As you've said, masho shock talaga kahit sino. Hehe. Maybe this incident was used by God to show you that your "dream guy" really exist! That meron talagang ganong tao na connect na connect sayo and you are on the right track not to settle for just the "pwede na" type. Its possible that he is already the one or you will meet someone na kapareho nya. You just have to wait on God. 

[oshiawase]

@mindiegirl, thank you for the response! Amazing yes,  but more confusing and sad at the same time. Sometimes I feel like this is a phase.  And that all the crying and prayers are just a phase I can soon forget once I start getting busy in my career.  Not to mention the fact that he has a girlfriend and that I am a 20 something unaccomplished woman who has nothing to show for.  I haven't sent him any message although there have been countless of times I am on the message box but I would always cancel the message because going back,  I have nothing to show for.  I always pray to God (and I am not a prayerful person,  mind you)  that if ever I meet the one,  I myself is already accomplished person who can inspire him to be better and better everyday.  At this point,  I cannot do that to anyone,  not to him.  But at the same time I feel like I have to send the message (pikit-mata)  just so I can let the Universe know what/who I desire and yet because I don't believe in "manifesting desires",  I end up not sending any. 

Maybe you're right.  That this is just God telling me not to lose hope because someone exists who have the same thoughts and beliefs as mine.  Maybe this is just God telling me not to lose hope. 

Maybe you're right!  Thank you!

[young_maiden]

I stopped praying for a partner in life. Pakiramdam ko si God mismo ayaw na makinig.

[Filipinasadhart]

I stopped praying for a partner in life. Pakiramdam ko si God mismo ayaw na makinig.

Me too, napagod na din ako.  Kaya i need to accept na alone ako.

[mariamanolo]

Sis, maybe because you are doubting God and your faith isn't strong enough. Stay strong!

[hisana]

Minsan naiisip ko why some prayers go unanswered (be it praying for your partner or something else). Is it because of lack of faith or baka God has other plans for us?

[mariamanolo]

God definitely has a plan for us. kaya we need to prepare ourselves para sa plan nya para sa atin. maybe we are asking for the wrong question, or maybe we dictate God what we want. kaya ask yourself if are you the obedient child din

[kvan]

I am in that situation...kind of. But I also learned being, married before, that being single is also a blessing. There's perks and benefits. I am more contented and happy when I left my ex. So, along with that prayers, isama na rin yung acceptance of whatever His will is. 

I am attending a Single Purpose class in my church dahil gusto ng friend ko samahan sya. Ako yung nagpapatuloy, sya ang nag-give up agad. Eh sya nga yung single talaga...lol! Kalurkey!

[amethyst028]

Pray for a partner pero dapat take action din. Like get out there, date, be more outgoing, etc. Tsaka grab every opoortunity hindi yung parati lang naka kulong sa bahay nag binge watch ng mga series ayaw mag effort maki socailize. Sorry pero totoo naman.

Ako the year i met my fiance lahat ng invitation from guys who ask me out umo oo ako kahit hindi sila yung usual guy i woud go for. I end up enjoying myself pero si fiance siya talaga yung nasa date pa lang nag sched na ng kasunod parating ganon so hindi na ako nagka chance na may ma meet na iba pa. Halos lahat ng weekend ko na book na niya.

My tip is just be present in the date. As in make sure to have a good time without really putting pressure on yourself or your date kung saan yun pupunta. ok lang to ask God for what you want but make sure you are also taking action kasi hindi naman mahuhulog sa bubong niyo ang right guy.

I never pray to ask for anything, my prayer is always to thank the Lord for all my blessings big or small and i always say I cannot ask for more. I do not have everything, i am just living my life not looking at what is missing but making the most out of what i already have. Kahit nung single pa ako ganyan na talaga ako mag isip kung ano meron nagpapasalamat ako.