TS, suggestion ko lang as a Sister, move on. This guy is not worth your time.
Kahit pa bumisita iyan sa July, so Long as there's a tinge of doubt sa actions nya, do not get into the trap of falling for someone biglang susulpot or maglalaho na parang bula.
This happened to me before. After separating with my ex hubby (who was my childhood sweetheart), I dated a guy similar to the guy na nabanggit ni TS.
Since I never really dated anyone before, with the exception of ex hubby, I also didn't know anything about all this stuff. I just found myself confused at bakit kung Kelan nagugustuhan ko na sya, tsaka Hindi ko sya mahagilap. Then it dawned on me, Hindi ko iniwan ex ko just to be taken for a ride. I was in fact starting to like him, kasi araw arawin ka ba naman text, calls, etc. Then suddenly nawala. After a couple of weeks, susulpot na naman then mawawala.
What I did initially was gave him a dose of his medicine. If he responded to me after 3 days, I won't respond immediately also and wait for 3 days (if I can last that long). In the end, ako yung isip ng isip, like TS, ano ba nangyayari, does he not like me anymore, losing interest etc.
Hanggang sa napikon ako, I decided I will have to divert my attention. He was already consuming a lot of my time, bago matulog iniisip ko sya, when I wake up wondering if he will call me (as what he said he will but he did not)...
I diverted my attention by dating other men. Focus on my kids and continue to improve on myself. This phenomenon got me curious - why it happens. Research galore ako at the same time I also dated a few guys. There I figured it out, well, I think I did or I do know the answer. Some men are simply jerks while some do not know what they want.
To be in the safe side, I always assume they're jerks. Unless they prove otherwise. I wanted to protect my heart, therefore when I go on a date with a guy, I make sure I won't fall for him that easily. I will judge his character if he is right for me, look through his motives if he is sincere, if he is exclusive dating me and if he is serious to go on to the next step. At the onset of your friendship, maganda if malinaw ang pakay nyo - I'm looking for a Friend na Baka puede maging lifelong partner. This was my objective. So if the guy just wants to play at Hindi Ito ang motive nya, I just move on. But if he is fun to be with, I cherish the friendship but it is likewise clear to him that I'm not his gf, he is not my bf, we are friends, no benefits, I date other men and he is free to do as well, no attachments. I hold back by seeing others also para diverted attention ko, and the best part, I'm learning how different men can be. If they have put their foot down and directly tells me they want a relationship, they want commitment, that's the time I will open my heart and decide if he is the one for me. If wala ako Ma-feel, eh di move on ulit. If may spark, then we talk it out by moving to the next level - from friendship, exclusive dating, commitment, etc. And this is how I decided to love my partner now.
Yes, sabi ng iba, you don't plan love. Kung Sino magpa tibok ng puso mo. Well, I used to say that when I was young. But now having gone through love's ups and downs, I would always promote for every women out there to protect yourself from evil guys, men who prey on your heart so they can boost their ego.
Just remind yourself that you did not go through a past heartache (if u had one) or raised by your parents para lang istorbohin ng isang nilalang na di mo Kaano-ano, just because it entertains him.
