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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #700 on: June 06, 2021, 04:09:31 pm »
@TomHansen Thank you po for the  response  and insights. Sabi ng friend ko huwag muna e block and she asked me to tell her again if mag ask na naman ulit ng ganun ang guy, So far he didn't open it up but minsan he messages me nonesense stuff like sending a dot lang sa messenger and there was one time he asked me  if umu ulan ba sa place ko? eh pareho naman kami na nasa  Region 7   ::)  ::)  at hindi ganun kalayo place namin. Na turn off talaga ako sa attitude niya ever since he talked that way to me. 
Before I was so happy to hear they were dating again, he used to be my besties  highschool BF then they broke up months when she started college  (met her in college)  until they get back again after a decade. I just felt so sad for her  at na disrespect siya ng ganito, she doesn't deserve this.
She's really bothered talaga and told me bakit daw of all people ako pa?    mi-nesage ng ex bf niya?  if he wants s@x   he could've asked someone else, bakit daw bff pa niya?   :'(  :'( :( 
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #701 on: June 08, 2021, 10:53:06 pm »
^ Oks sana magbago at di na niya lang ulitin. Yung mga iniisip mo tungkol sa bakit ikaw pa siguro siya lang nakakaalam nun at sabi ko nga baka hindi rin lang naman ikaw ang ginaganun niya. Honest question, nacucurious ka lang ba sa attitude niya or kahit papaano na-eenjoy mo rin sa attention niya?
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #702 on: June 10, 2021, 01:50:20 am »


^ Oks sana magbago at di na niya lang ulitin.

^@TomHansen - Hindi ko alam if magbago pa kaya yun baka matagal pa or sa ibang babae na hehe,  Hindi rin alam ng friend ko paano daw e call ang attention nung ex niya.  Basta daw someday kausapin niya for closure.

Yung mga iniisip mo tungkol sa bakit ikaw pa siguro siya lang nakakaalam nun at sabi ko nga baka hindi rin lang naman ikaw ang ginaganun niya. Honest question, nacucurious ka lang ba sa attitude niya or kahit papaano na-eenjoy mo rin sa attention niya?

Yung friend ko po nag sabi nun sa akin "Bakit daw of all ako pa?" na triggered  kasi  siya eh hindi naman ako basta acquainted lang , BFF niya ako.  At agree ako na for sure hindi lang ako ang gina ganun niya eh ngayon pa ba ? na para na siyang nakawala after ilang years being in a relationship.

No!  I don't enjoy the treatment  and I'm glad na hindi na siya nag me message ng ilang days,  kasi iba po tungo niya sa akin ever since he texted me.  It seems like ang baba ng pagtingin niya  with  the way he texts.  Words like  "Tingin ko sa yo hindi ka naman  wholesome "  Made me feel bad, And when I told him I was shocked bakit ganyan yung questions niya sa akin  , he just replied Weeehhh ? That was like wow  he acted like a real Jerk  :o    :o   :o 

 Before kasi I admire them as a couple and I really thought he was the one  for my friend.
 Like I said happy ako before nung nagka balikan sila since 2015 and  after years of being separated since early 2000's. 
 But after he acted like a jerk , 360 degrees nag iba na rin tingin ko sa kanya from admiring him to hating him. he doesn't really know me that much and he's quick to judge.  Everyone deserves respect, Regardless ano pa nalaman niya sa past ko or anyone ,  May it be if I slept around, I was promiscuous , a pornstar or  what Respect lang sana.   
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #703 on: June 12, 2021, 09:55:06 pm »
^ nacurious lang ako kasi kung ibang tao yan once landiin ng ganyan automatic block na agad e. Anyway sana di ka na lang imsg uli lalo mga ganyan. :)
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #704 on: June 16, 2021, 01:53:21 am »
^@Tomhansen Don't worry hindi  ako papatol,  Akala ko kasi nung una na hack kaya hindi ko muna na block.  My friend actually asked me to block him initially  but then ilang minutes sa convo namin  sabi niya huwag muna e block baka mag message daw and I  tell her right away.  Good thing hindi na nag message yung guy sa akin.  Mas takot ako if mag balikan sila , Hopefully hindi na after what he has done to me.
Before the month would end , plan rin namin magkita ng bestie ko , hopefully we can talk.     ;) :)
Thank you for your opinion po sir @TomHansen.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #705 on: August 24, 2021, 11:56:21 am »
Pwede ba talaga na random girls messaging my bf and he'll say na wala lang yun? One time 2 girls nagmessage sa kanya on the same day and he said those two messaged him first? And this happened on the first week we moved in together ha. Tapos meron din sa telegram and he is not visible to nearby people ha but he said the girl messaged him first. He's saying may glitches lang sa phone niya. And he'll get super angry over it.

Am i being paranoid and assuming, and  be as  what he is saying na i'm looking for reasons na magbreak kami at gusto ko daw ba talaga magbreak kami over something online na wala naman daw talaga siyang ginagaawng ma asmam  or  just really being stupid even if the truth is actually shouting at my face already?
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #706 on: August 25, 2021, 07:00:23 pm »
^ hindi naman ata pwede yung bigla na lang may magmemessage sa'yo nang hindi mo inoopen sarili mo para macontact ng ibang tao. Malamang may mga groups siya na sinalihan dati at yung biglaan messages are normal na for him - naging isyu lang dahil nakita mo nung nagsama na kayo. Di na uso glitches na dahilan kaya may random na nagmessage sa iyo, pwedeng nasabi niya lang yun dahil wala siyang ibang maidahilan na hindi mo ikakagalit. Yung galit naman niya is probably just a defense mechanism, may ginawa man siyang mali or wala talaga.

Kung ang pagbabasehan mo pa lang sa ngayon is yung messages for me mababaw pa siya para masira ang relationship niyo. Pero para sakin napupunta lang naman sa "paranoid level" ang isang tao kapag hindi gumagawa ng maayos na paraan yung partner niya para iclear yung sarili niya at magagawa niya lang yung kung maayos niyang ipaliwanag sarili niya at hindi yung magagalit rin.

Mukha bang close sila based sa messages?



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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #707 on: August 26, 2021, 09:56:13 am »
^thank you very much for replying. gulong gulo na kasi utak ko tsaka ang bigat bigat na ng puso ko. eversince then parang i cant fully trust him anymore. i will always check his phone, he assents to it naman pero siyempre sinasabi niya na i dont trust him etc.

Yes probably nga he has joined groups before when we were not yet in a relationship and these girls probably messaged him first. that one time na those two girls messaged him i saw a he took a selfie, my paranoid self was thinking then na maybe he sent them those selfie etc. So iniisip ko baka he sent those then just deleted the message trend tapos nung andun na ako sa bahay nagmesssage ulit tapos ayun na nga.

Inexplain naman niya sa akin ng maayos, pero siyempre nagalit at nagselos na ako, i wasn't accepting his explanation daw, bakit daw ayaw ko maniwala sa kanya. Tapos he said na if he's really chatting up and flirting with girls dapat daw continuous na may kachat siya. Kasi siyempre we're together now, he has no work currently and there'll be times na wala din akong work on a certain day so we'll be together the entire day, pero wala naman daw ako nakikita na kachat niya. There was also one time nga na we are together the entire day, hindi niya hinahawakan phone niya, no one texting him, tapos  the next day ng morning may nagmessage sa kanya. Siyempre galit galit na naman ako, tapos sabi niya, buong araw daw kami magkasama, wala daw siyang ginagawang masama, there was just another random girl messaging him.

Yung mga messages are just "hi". Yung 2 girls na nagmessage sa kanya ang messages are "alam mo na para may pang VC" and "bakit po?". Oh di ba, parang may something talaga.

Now my current dilemma is he bought a motorcycle, siyempre eversince the incidence of these random messages, i cant fully trust him, i get so paranoid over it. as in i'm seriously thinking of just breaking up, parang hindi ko kakayanin na laging ganito yung nararamdaman ko.

During the earlier time of our dating, he told me na siya daw isa sa pinakafaithful na taong makikilala ko. na hindi daw kasi niya talaga kayang magcheat (siguro kasi he was cheated on before kaya alam niya feeling). mahal na mahal daw niya ako. should i hold onto those words? pero di ko na talaga alam gagawin. aminado ako may problem din ako but idk if i can bear it to continue feeling like this, parang di ko na siya mapagkakatiwalaan. idk if this distrust is misplaced ba or tama lang ba.

eversince nagmove in na kami together, i was pretty much his world, medyo magulo din kasi buhay niya. He gave up his family (hindi na rin siya gusto dun matagal na but now that we're together wala na talaga siya babalikan dun and they're not expecting him to come back), gave up his supposed career na seafarer. he's introvert though for some reason he has a way with girls, dami na rin niya nakarelationship and naka-sex. natatakot ako na baka pag lumaki na yung mundo niya and i'll be dispensable. see idk, may mali din sa akin. is it wrong of me to feel this way?
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #708 on: August 27, 2021, 02:34:50 pm »
^ I undestand since isa rin akong seloso lol.. Ang mahirap kasi sa ganyan, unless pilitin mong kontrolin sarili mo sa pagiisip hindi ka talaga mauubusan ng kwento sa kung anong cheating mga ginagawa niya. Kailangan sabihan mo rin sarili mo kung ano "lang" ba ang evidences na meron ka at kung enough na ba para iaccuse ang bf mo. Mas nagiging mahirap kasi kung yung sariling scenarios mo sa isip mo ang mismong nakakasakit sa iyo at hindi yung bf mo.

Sabihan mo na rin na iblock yung mga nagmemessage sa kanya na di niya naman personally kilala at leave groups kung saan nanggagaling mga yun para tapos agad yung source ng problema. Accept mo rin na totoo naman na possible yung sinasabi niya na hindi siya nakikipagchat at bigla lang may random na magmemessage sa kanya, maybe curios/attracted lang yung mga girls sa kanya but it doesn't mean may kasalanan siya on his part. I judge mo lang si bf sa actions niya at hindi sa actions nung mga babae.

Sa totoo lang I think you need more evidence para mapatunayang nagccheat nga siya PERO kung walang ginagawa si bf para tumigil yung mga random messages then nasa iyo na yan kung kaya mong itolerate. Pwede mo siyang iwanan nagccheat man siya o hindi kung hindi mo na kaya yung feelings at wala ka nang peace of mind.

Dun naman sa sinasabi niya dati na never siyang magccheat, yes because he probably meant it naman. But people change, kaya nga maraming naghihiwalay na mag-asawa kahit nangako pa sila ng till death do us part kapag kinakasal.. Marami ring mababait at loyal na tao ang nagkamali so as much as masarap recall yung sinabi niya nuon kailangang grounded ka pa rin sa kung ano mga nangyayari ngayon.

Take your time, hindi mo kailangang ipreassure sarili mo na  gumawa ng decisions agad. Remember, mahirap maghold ng relationship, impossibleng walang darating na problema so ito baka bump lang ito sa relationship niyo and after a few days mahimasmasan maayos niyo rin agad.


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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #709 on: November 22, 2021, 10:09:26 am »
Hello mga ka-GT, itatanong ko lang kung ang mga lalaki marunong mag read between the lines o kailangan ipaalam mo sa kanila straight to the point?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #710 on: November 24, 2021, 07:12:03 am »
^get straight to the point
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