Scheduling a date

[tigerlili]

Guytalkers, I want to know your insight regarding scheduling a date.  How many days in advance do you tell the girl in advance that you want to go out on a date with her.  Medyo nakakapansin kase ako with the guy I am dating it seems he is the kind that does'nt put much effort into it he'd invite a day before or sometimes within the day only.  He'd text only when he is asking me out.  Most of the time we'd only chat via messaging apps. Very different from what I am used to, usually at least the guys who ask me out before would ask me out 3 days in advance at the minimum.

[dismembered]

Insight regarding scheduling a date? Wala!

Maliban na lang kung sobrang bongga nyan or sobrang layo. Yung tipong need din ipagpaalam sa parents ni Girl. Pero kung kain lang sa labas, tipong hindi naman super bongga na need talaga na RSVP, I guess ok lang naman kung within a day or a day before magsabi. Besides nasa sa iyo naman yan kung ayaw mo pwede ka rin tumanggi anytime.

[j.adore]

Either that guy is busy as hell or you're the last option.

[And1moon]

Either that guy is busy as hell or you're the last option.

 

[dismembered]

Either that guy is busy as hell or you're the last option.

Or baka spontaneous lang din si guy.

[TomHansen]

Either that guy is busy as hell or you're the last option.

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[jtansanco]

Either that guy is busy as hell or you're the last option.

Haha this is spot on. If I have nothing else to do, I'll invite whoever is the last resort to keep me company for that time period.

[tigerlili]

haha. thanks guys. Men really are from Mars. kase with us girls, we don't go out with just anyone, we need to at least "like" the person even just a little bit otherwise any invites from men we are not interested in or advances from them are rejected.

[simang]

^kung newly dating pa lang kayo, agree ako kay j.adore. Last option yan, pag wala sya magawa/makasama, dun ka nya yayayain.

I remember one article I read before na a guy's intent is clearer pag hindi kayo magkasama. When you're out on a date and he's so into you, natural daw yun kasi the guy is enjoying the moment. After the date, that's where you'll know how much he likes you. If walang paramdam after, or walang follow up, and seems aloof, he's probably not that into you.

[tigerlili]

thanks heaps. will keep this in mind!

[commish]

Or baka spontaneous lang din si guy.

spontaneous! this is definitely the perfect answer! we men are spontaneous. unmoderate this genius pls.. lol

[blushberry]

Oh, is this how millennials date?   Times are changing.  I don't know what I'd do if I were still single now.  I'm just too conservative to be invited "spontaneously".

[drharleyquinnmd]

on scheduling a date.
kunwari, nagkkwentuhan lang kayo na gusto ng horror movie tas sakto merong palabas sa cinema, tas nagkayayaan "tara," is that already considered a date? tas nung sumunod, ako naman ang nagyaya manood. date na yung mga ganun?

[glamorosa_09]

Oh, is this how millennials date?   Times are changing.  I don't know what I'd do if I were still single now.  I'm just too conservative to be invited "spontaneously".

When I was single, walang natuloy na spontaneous invites saken... And usually they came from guys from my inner social circle... Guy friends... Hindi mga palekero.

So to add sa mga possible reasons ng spontaneous invites (busy, you're an option, sadyang spontaneous), pwede ring testing the water si guy. Takot sa rejection, kaya pa-simpleng invite muna, "kain tayo dito, libre kita," "panoorin naten toh.." "Kita naman tayo sa ganito, hintayin kita ah," kung papayag ka. Then, they'll probably take it from there. Pero sa umpisa lang dapat yan. When they feel safe enough, dapat nagpaprioritize na sila.

Sa panahon ngayon, kung like niyo naman si guy, then show some interest and say yes. But then again, as time passes by and you start to feel like you're  a spare tire, worse a training wheel, then let go.

[amethyst028]

on scheduling a date.
kunwari, nagkkwentuhan lang kayo na gusto ng horror movie tas sakto merong palabas sa cinema, tas nagkayayaan "tara," is that already considered a date? tas nung sumunod, ako naman ang nagyaya manood. date na yung mga ganun?

It depends baka gusto niyo lang talaga yung movie and have been waiting for it to be shown and gusto niya lang ng kasama manood.

 Ang pag schedule kasi ng date is like ?what are u doing this friday?? Or saturday or whatever day the guy chooses, then he follows it up with ?let?s watch a movie? it doesn?t matter what is showing on that day. Basta ang importante magkasama kayo.

Siguro best is to just go with the flow and not assume anything.