Child Support Thread

[marose17]

^ Yes, there are supervising lawyers/professors who can notarize the agreement for support.  You will however be counseled/advised by senior law students.  Don't worry though, most of the time, they're better than other lawyers kasi mas fresh pa sa kanila ang Family Code provisions than someone practicing in another field of law.

In case both of you agree on a certain amount, there is no need to draw up a demand letter.  What you will need is a formal agreement stipulating the amount of support that your ex-husband will give.  Make sure there's room for flexibility - insert a clause providing for a review, say, every 5 years, because your financial circumstances may change.

You know, notarization just makes the document a public document.  Notarizing the agreement will not prevent the father from later reneging on his obligation.  Also, you can always file an action for support later in court whether or not your agreement is notarized.

[llijenna]

hi sisses,

anybody who can send me the demand letter sample.. TIA

[mcenyll]

iba naman ang case ko, my hubby impregnated a girl before kami nag-asawa.  He did not marry her but they agreed na magbibigay ng sustento ang asawa ko sa anak nila.

magkano ba dapat ibigay na sustento? nasa province nakatira ang bata at 4 years old pa lang.

with regards to our finances, mas malaki ang kita ko tapos yung sa sideline namin ako bale ang gumagawa although tumutulong naman si hubby. yung kita nya super kulang sa family namin, we have 2 kids na pala.

yung net pay ni hubby sa isang kinsena ay 4k lang halos. ayoko naman na abonado ako palagi sa mga gastusin namin sa bahay, masakit sa ego ko.

Can you give me your insight on this? tia

[ayrise]

^ sis marose17

super thanks for your reply! after our verbal agreement then i will arrange the formal document, i'll follow your advice.

sabi ren dun sa blog na nabasa ko do not state an amount rather .. percentage ng salary niya since yun nga tumataas ang gastus at most likely pataas naman ang salary niya..

i'll update this thread once i go through the process,, sana lang maging amicable ang settlement.. thanks again!

sis mcenyll

medyo complicated situation mo, kasi dapat hubby mo lang ang gagastus for his other kid, kaso paano yan if mababa salary niya, according to my research depende sa finances ng father ang child support ng bata.

i suggest you talk about this to your hubby and then let him figure out a way na he can provide for all the people he is responsible with.

[rhed]

can we ask for financial support from a 17 yrs old father? wala na siya work (he used to work sa fastfood) mag-18 pa lang siya sa july.. yung father niya ang ok ang work. my neice(the mother) is 18 yrs old last feb naman.

alam ko kasi kahit mag file kami ng financial support wala kami makukuha e.

btw,hindi namin ipapahiram ang baby pwede dalaw lang siguro next year kasi sinaktan niya neice ko physically and nahuli namin siya may kasama 2 girls,1 gay,with marijuana.

thanks

[pritishina]

hi sissies,
 i hope me makatulong sakin here,,ganto kasi un.. naghiwalay kami ng ama ng anak ko ,and after that wala na..d na sya ngbigay ng support and d narin ngparamdam o kmustahin manlang yung bata.its been a year now.kaya ko naman suportahan [textspeak!] anak ko. kaya lang d naman pwede nasa puder lang kami lagi ng magulang ko. habang sya nagpapakasarap. ive heard about this chid support.. pano ko ba uumpisahan para makakuha ako ng suporta s kanya?sana me makatulong sakin dahil gsto ko na umpishan,ng sya naman mahirapan. salamt at im waiting for your reply sissies..thanks

[marose17]

^ Sis, consult a lawyer.  If you want free legal advice, go to the Office of Legal Aid in UP - Mondays to Saturdays, open sila; or to the IBP Legal Aid Office.

Mag-research ka rin sa net. Start by searching for the Family Code provisions on Support.  Good luck!

[pritishina]

^ Sis, consult a lawyer.  If you want free legal advice, go to the Office of Legal Aid in UP - Mondays to Saturdays, open sila; or to the IBP Legal Aid Office.

Mag-research ka rin sa net. Start by searching for the Family Code provisions on Support.  Good luck!

Thank you sis. but do u have any idea kung magkano magagastos ko kung sakaling lumapit ako sa lawyer? sabi nila sa umpisa mgbbgay muna ng demand letter sa father nung bata and pag wala pa syang ginawa dun na daw talga ako umapela sa court..

[Mrs. Chobs]

Hi! I'm just new here and I need some advice regarding child support.

I have a six year old daughter. Her father and I aren't married. We were living together before but things did not work out. I worked abroad; left my daughter with him because her school was near their house. My mom gets her during weekends though. I got married and now I'm back here in Manila. My daughter is staying with me now. She'll be in 1st grade this coming school year. My husband and I thought that its a really good deal that he pays for her school tuition and we'll take care of the rest (like school bus, books, uniforms, medical needs, etc) but he insisted that we pay everything equally. I am currently unemployed and as much as possible I don't want to burden my husband with this since he's not the father, though he's nice enough to support her.

I had a conversation with a friend who's in the same situation. She told me that its the father's obligation to give financial support to his child.  She advised me to let a lawyer handle it. I'm actually considering, but before that what should I do first and how do I talk to him in a civil manner?

Hope to hear from anyone of you.

Thanks.

[ayrise]

^ sis pritishina ..

have you tried talking to the father of your child in a civil manner? sa tingin ko kasi try to work it out first with the father then saka ka magfile ng child support under RA 9262 Violence against womens act..  im now lawyer ,, and i havent consulted any lawyer as of now kasi we were able to arrange a settlement by talking kasi we are still in "ok" terms.. though im preparing for the ugly despite that may come .. 

i think most lawyer would actually ask you to try to settle it first before filing a complaint .. kumbaga this would be your last option .. para masabi mo binigyan mo na siya ng chance magpakatao .. at least you can justify why you filed this .. kasi as far i feel, this can be really ugly ..

try searching sa net .. madae info and just like what sis marose17 said, try going to the IBP legal aid office for advice.

^ Mrs. Chobs,

hmmm .. mahirap kasi mag advice on how you can talk "human" to your ex .. in my case, i laid all my cards. i told him na its should be his responsibility etc etc. and i tried to talk to him as nice as i can without nagging or anything ..

i think talking things over would be the first step, this can be tiring and can also test your patience, but like what i said above.. do this first before filing the child support kasi pwede siyang criminal case under RA 9262 Violence against women .. so its really really messy saka stressfull . pero kung wala talaga at hindi makukuha sa maboteng usapang .. then seek advice of a lawyer ..  sis marose17 posted it already so just backread

[mcenyll]

sis mcenyll

medyo complicated situation mo, kasi dapat hubby mo lang ang gagastus for his other kid, kaso paano yan if mababa salary niya, according to my research depende sa finances ng father ang child support ng bata.

i suggest you talk about this to your hubby and then let him figure out a way na he can provide for all the people he is responsible with.

yun talaga ang mahirap sis kasi sa needs pa lang ng mga bata, hindi pa kasali yung sa bahay at yaya, kulang na eh..tapos pag hindi sya nakapagpadala, nagti-text yung nanay na sasampahan nya ng kaso yung asawa ko..minsan nga naiinis na ako kasi ba naman bakit kelangan pati kami ng mga anak ko kelangan magsakripisyo.

nag-ask nga hubby ko na i-enrol ko daw sa bpi ko ang account nung girl para online na lang ang transaction para padala ng pera, eh ayoko nga, sakit masyado sa bangs yun ah..

naiisip ko nga minsan na papano ko maprotektahan yung properties na na-acquire ko ng sarili ko although during the time na may asawa na ako, eh sa wala naman kaming pre-nup ni hubby. baka maghabol yung ina, sarili ko namang pundar yun para sa mga anak ko.

[ayrise]

^mcenyll

hay mahirap talaga sis, kaya nga sis talagang important ang pre-nup. kasi conjugal na yung properties niyo since kasal na kayo .. kasal kayo hindi ba? eh sa batas ngayon may rights na ang illegitimate child pagdating sa mana.  but as i say im no lawyer .. so advice ko sa iyo as soon as possible consult a lawyer to protect yourself and your kids .. kasi we can never tell hindi ba?

ako nga i have an insurance, gusto ko na  ayusin na ang daughter ko ang sole beneficiary .. kaso kung sakali mawala ako at minor pa siya mapupunta sa ex husband ko yung money .. so dapat mag appoint ako ng legal guardian ng bata.. ang daming legalities and paper involve pero hindi natin masasabi hindi ba?

in good terms kasi kme ng ex hubby ko so minsan when i talk "legal" to him parang ang hirap kasi lumalabas na defensive ako at ang sama sama niya .. pero lagi ko nga sinasabi .. pinoprotektahan ko lang ang sarili ko at karapatan ng anak ko..  kasi kahit anung bait ng tao pagdating sa pera at kagipitan nawawala ang morals.

better let your husband realize na its his responsibility .. at ganun talaga.. he fathered a child .. so pwede talaga siya kasuhan under RA 9262 Violence against women... i understand the mother of that child .. kasi yan din ang fear ko kapag nagkafamily na yung husband ko .. the father should realize that he has a lot of responsibility .. at dahil diyan kailangan doble kayod .. kumita ng malaki .. hindi mo dapat responsibilidad na magbigay ng pera dun sa anak niya..

[mcenyll]

^minsan talaga sinasabihan ko na sya pero naaawa din naman ako sa kanya. pag mabait ako, bibigyan ko sya from our budget para sa anak nya..minsan hinihintay ko na manghingi sya kasi nga nag-text na yung kapatid ng girl na nagbabantay sa bata. minsan nga naiisip ko na gumagawa na lang ng estorya na kesyo may sakit ang bata para lang makahingi ng pera.

ang kinababahala ko lang, baka yung kita namin sa negosyo na si hubby ang nangongolekta baka kupitan para ipadala dun...pag ma-prove ko yan, lagot talaga sya sa akin..usapan kasi namin na pagdating sa bagay na yan, dadaan lahat sa akin.

pero hindi naman talaga ganun ka-grabe yung situation namin...minsan lang talaga nakakainis. at in a way, I understand naman yung side ng girl.

nagti-text pa nga sya minsan sa mga in-laws ko tapos minsan nag-uusap asawa ko at yung bata...keber na lang ako..pero pag may topak ako...ayun...ang sa akin lang...hwag silang aapak sa pamamahay ko...lol

sensitive din naman mga inlaws ko, minsan last 2006, kapapanganak ko pa lang..nag-meet yung in-laws ko at yung girl dala yung anak sa jolibee..hindi nila dinala sa bahay kasi andun ako...pero nung malaman ko super galit talaga ako kasi feeling ko they went behind my back..buti na lang hindi sumipot si hubby sa meeting place nila. minsan din dinala nila yung bata at yung girl sa bahay ng auntie ni hubby-- ng malaman ko, super galit din ako kasi bakit kelangan ipa-meet sa relatives yung anak nya sa labas at nung girl...

pero looking back, medyo OA na ako...sensitive lang talaga ako pagdating sa bagay na yan.

pero minsan pag mabait ako, nagpapadala ako ng toy sa bata ng kusa.

[ayrise]

^ naintindihan kita .. ang hirap talaga harapin niyan .. para bang multo na gusto mo na lang iwasan lagi hindi ba?

meron ba silang agreement na a certain amount or percentage ng salary ang monthly ibibgay sa bata? .. tapos when it comes to extra like medical bills.. school fees etc .. dapat hingi kayo ng proof like letters from school or receipt para sure ka na may expenses talaga na ganun .. sabihin na nila makwenta ka pero you have to be sure na para sa bata nga yun at hindi para kanino lang .. mahirap nang maabuso hindi ba?

[mcenyll]

sa ngayon 4 yrs old pa lang ang baby...pero yung deposit slips, pinapaipon ko kay hubby in case..dati nagdi-demand ang girl..nung wala pa kaming baby, okay lang sa akin..kalaunan hindi na ako pumayag kasi nga abonado na ako masyado sa gastusin sa bahay kasi parang ang laki na ng portion ng kita ni hubby ang pinapadala sa kanila. so ang sa akin lang, kung gusto talaga ng girl na mag-dictate ng amount, file na lang sya sa court para makita talaga ano ang capacity ni hubby. pero yung bata naman karga sa philhealth ni hubby tapos acknowledge din nya yung paternity sa birth certificate.

pag naospital ang baby, nagpapadala naman kami. hindi na ako nagdi-demand ng proof kasi medyo reasonable naman ang amount. 

[dloliver]

Hi! Im a new member here and I saw this thread while looking for child support demand letter format.

Could you please send me a copy of a child support demand letter? I badly need it. Thanks in advance!

ragnarockers_88@yahoo.com

[ayrise]

^ sis bawal magpost ng email address . anyway nobody seems to have the copy of the demand letter. i have been asking for one  also. better seek a lawyer and backread on this thread madami ka matutunan.  The free legal advice lawyers are posted on this thread.

thanks!

[kneekee]

iba naman ang case ko, my hubby impregnated a girl before kami nag-asawa.  He did not marry her but they agreed na magbibigay ng sustento ang asawa ko sa anak nila.

magkano ba dapat ibigay na sustento? nasa province nakatira ang bata at 4 years old pa lang.

with regards to our finances, mas malaki ang kita ko tapos yung sa sideline namin ako bale ang gumagawa although tumutulong naman si hubby. yung kita nya super kulang sa family namin, we have 2 kids na pala.

yung net pay ni hubby sa isang kinsena ay 4k lang halos. ayoko naman na abonado ako palagi sa mga gastusin namin sa bahay, masakit sa ego ko.

Can you give me your insight on this? tia

The amount to be given to the child as support would depend on how much your hubby earns sis. Alam ko ganun e, kung ano lang yung kaya ni hubby. In his case, maliit lang kita niya it would be unfair pag nagdemand ng malaki yung girl

[mcenyll]

^thank sis.

[kneekee]

Thank you sis. but do u have any idea kung magkano magagastos ko kung sakaling lumapit ako sa lawyer? sabi nila sa umpisa mgbbgay muna ng demand letter sa father nung bata and pag wala pa syang ginawa dun na daw talga ako umapela sa court..

ganun nga sis. Yung fee naman would depend sa lawyer. If super galing niya then most likely mahal ang singil. Pero there are others naman na magagaling pero hindi ganun kalaki maningil. Alam ko yung demand letter may bayad din yun e.