Author Topic: Child Support Thread (Read 99095 times)

chiqmom · « **on:** December 01, 2009, 04:32:53 pm »

let us tackle anything and everything about child support.

For people na nakasampa na ng ganitong kaso, can you share the experience? And for those who would like to inquire, just post the queries here. TIA!

saan ba magsisimula?

gracey9347 · « **Reply #1 on:** December 29, 2009, 12:56:22 am »

who is legible to file for child support? documents needed? etc... thanks in advance...

kneekee · « **Reply #2 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:59:44 am »

The concerned party, I think. Better seek your legal counsel about this. The child is illegit ba?

Pero ako kasi I didnt demand from the father so that wala sila masusumbat sakin even if they have an obligation to my kids. Para sakin waste of time and money nalang kung gagawin ko pa yun.

gracey9347 · « **Reply #3 on:** January 09, 2010, 12:29:11 am »

we're married....i can provide for my baby gusto ko lang maobliga immature nyang ama....and i told him also if he wants to see the baby mag file sha petition for vivitaion rights if there is such a thing...

ladyspyde · « **Reply #4 on:** January 09, 2010, 08:14:49 pm »

yes, he can file for a visitation rights if he really wants to see the child. pero it would be better kung pag usapan nlng yan.he is still the father of ur kids.

virgogirl98 · « **Reply #5 on:** January 11, 2010, 10:27:29 am »

ako naman, gumawa kami ng kasulatan ng husband ko kaharap ng abogado na katunayan na magbibigay sya ng child support buwan buwan. mukhang ginawa lang nya to para makaalis sya eh. seafarer kasi sya, eh nag-file kasi ako ng kaso sa kanya ng ra9262(violation against women and children) dahil sa pag-abandona nya sa amin. napilitan sya makipag-usap sa akin kasi di sya papaalisin ng agency kung di makipag-cooperate sa akin. so inurong ko na yung demanda kasi kala ko this time magtitino na sya. akala ko ok na...

nakaalis sya last oct.2009. nagpadala ng isang beses for nov., late at kulang pa! then, dec.2009 and jan.2010 wala pa padala hanggang ngayon! ni isang text o tawag wala akong nareceive. di nga tumawag kahit man lang batiin yung anak nya last christmas and new year eh! nakukunsumi na naman ako!

eh sabi sa akin ng abogado kung di daw tuparin ng asawa ko yung nakalagay sa kasunduan namin, bumalik daw ako sa kanya then sya na daw bahala. sisiguraduhin daw nya na ipapa-hold departure yung asawa ko once makauwi dito at isusulong uli yung demanda ko sa kanya dati. kaya nagtext ako sa kanya at binigyan ko ng ultimatum, na kapag di pa nagpadala this feb. mapipilitan akong sampahan uli sya ng kaso na ra9262.

di ko alam bat naging ganyan ka-iresponsable ang asawa ko. 2 years na syang ganyan sa akin. walang pinapadala kaya ako nagkabaon baon sa utang ngayon! pati anak namin ko lang din lahat!

kneekee · « **Reply #6 on:** January 13, 2010, 03:02:12 pm »

Sis, I think its better kung paguusapan nio muna yung about sa visitation rights nung father pero kung hindi talaga kayo magkakasundo about saka nio dalin sa court.

greyzie · « **Reply #7 on:** January 15, 2010, 01:12:48 pm »

if annulled na yun marriage, can the mother still file for child support? tapos may habol rin ba mga kids sa properties ng father na minana niya sa magulang? my sister wants nothing to do with her ex-hubby na (sobrang batugan!) but i told her to try... para may masabi siyang maganda sa mga kids niya regarding their father... na pinaglaanan sila kahit papano.

kneekee · « **Reply #8 on:** January 16, 2010, 08:46:28 am »

Yes meron pa. Legitimate pa din naman yung kids eh even annulled na yung marriage ng parents nila. It does not change their status. Kung yung illegitimate nga meron habol sa father what more yung legitimate diba?

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #9 on:** January 16, 2010, 11:38:29 pm »

Is there such as percentage of child support?

Recently we separated and soon he is going back to his work (Seafarer din ito...) and I need to know whats the right amount that he should provide to his son. Para pag hindi yon ang natanggap ko, pwede ko siyang kasuhan.

Ayokong humingi sa kanya pero kailangan ang maibigay ang para sa anak ko.

And do you know any support group for women lalo na yung mga violation against women and children? Yung tutulong sayo for legal advise?

kneekee · « **Reply #10 on:** January 17, 2010, 12:16:02 am »

^ I'm not sure about the percentage eh. Based on what I've read kasi pag illegitimate (since this is my concern cos my kids are illegitimate) it should be 50% of all the total expenses nun child yung ibibigay ng father. Pag legitimate I dont know. Parang it depends on the financial capacity ng father? Kasi from what I;ve heard parang ganun.

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #11 on:** January 22, 2010, 02:40:16 pm »

Good day! I just got a text from my husband (finally!) that he wanted na 50/50 kasi sa tuition fee ng son namin. How about the other payables? Do I have right to do that? Before kasi, he pays for our son, the bills and etc. while my money is spent for the family's leisure.

What happened now is, we decided to separate (annulment on the way but still seeking advice on how does it go...) and he texted me that he wanted my mother to receive the allotment (I dont know why?) and 50/50 kami sa tuition ng son namin.

I told him Im okay with it basta hindi na magaabono ang mom ko since I do that all the time. Sa 50/50 naman, I wanted to ask him, kasama na payables ng yaya etc?

I wanna seek advice to you guys,the proper way to do this. He said, hindi naman daw niya pababayaan ang bata. Naisip ko, I can put it in writing para safe ako pag hindi na siya nagbigay.

Thanks.

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #12 on:** January 22, 2010, 04:40:32 pm »

In any case, if we make a contract and have it notarized, if ever hindi niya sundin yon, pwede ko ban gamitin yung contract na yon? thanks.

kneekee · « **Reply #13 on:** January 23, 2010, 04:14:54 pm »

@kikaygimikera I would be seeing my lawyer this week I'll ask him about it, mejo related yan dun sa business ko with my lawyer pag nagkita kami.

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #14 on:** January 23, 2010, 08:25:53 pm »

Thanks kneekee. Update me ha. Aalis na kasi si hubby 2nd week ng Feb.

I told him na me and my family ae going to change location (lipat ng other condo) and I have to move out of our stuff. Before kasi may house kami malapit sa kanila, so mga gamit sa house yon. He said, he just wants the computer and I can have the rest. Ngayon, I am selling everything para we can buy new things for my new place/pad.

I told him he should come and sign an agreement na he is still going to support his son. Sabi niya sa text, "hindi ko naman pababayaan anak natin eh". Eh parang naisip ko, it needs to be in writing talaga. Tama ba? O segurista lang ako?

Re. Annulment namin, I dont know whom to go, where to start. Ang alam ko lang I got married 20 years old, siya 22 sa Manila City hall. The dates and addresses is discrepant. Jan 19 ang date, pero it says Feb 19. Address is in Manila City hall pero nakalagay San Juan.

Anyway, off topic nako.

Sis let me know ha. I want it to be very clear kasi. Sana may mga sisters dito na may child support agreement na din. Please share. Thanks!

kneekee · « **Reply #15 on:** January 23, 2010, 08:45:30 pm »

Better talaga if there's a written agreement sis. Ang hirap eh. Partly problem ko din yung about sa child support, kaso parang ayoko na even right ng kids ko even if illegit sila na magkaron ng support from their father, kasi may times na sinusumbat nia yung naibigay nia, pero its part of his obligation, saka parang ang laki ng binibigay nia ha.

I want a contract with regards to his visitation rights to my kids. Mashado kasi sila (his family) umaabuso lagi ako nagcocompromise, hindi sila marunong sumunod sa usapan.

kneekee · « **Reply #16 on:** January 24, 2010, 02:04:08 pm »

sis Kikaygimikera, You have to options with regards to the written agreement. #1 you and ex-hubby may talk things over first, then put into writing what you have agreed on, sign on the agreement and have it notarized by the lawyer. #2 Go straight to your lawyer and state what you want to be written on the agreement, have your ex-hubby sign it then have it notarized with the lawyer.

moonie · « **Reply #17 on:** January 24, 2010, 06:57:01 pm »

Meron talagang mga babae na hindi naiintindihan ang concept ng child support. Mothers who run after the fathers of their children demanding support is not about women clinging to the fathers of their children hoping to rekindle the romance. It's about mothers fighting for the right of their children to a decent life. It's about requiring fathers to fulfill their responsibilities to theire children. Child support is a moral and legal obligation to the child regardless of whether the father gets along with the mother of the child or not.

Kaya nakakairita ang mga columns na ito sa PDI-- the columnist clearly got it all wrong:
http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20091227-244087/Should-she-demand-child-support-from-an-ex-boyfriend
http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20100110-246423/Should-a-woman-ask-for-financial-support-from-the-father-of-their-lovechild

kneekee · « **Reply #18 on:** January 24, 2010, 10:16:04 pm »

I agree sis moonie. Kasi right ng child to receive support from their father, on the other hand obligation ng father yun to the child.

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #19 on:** January 25, 2010, 12:03:54 am »

@kneekee - Thanks. I'll try to talk to him. Mukhang malabo kaming magusap ng maayos.

@ moonie - sa akin, akala naman nila habol ko lang pera. They did not realize it is my sons right. Kapa diba.

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