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Health & Wellness => Living Well => Topic started by: hedonista on August 21, 2017, 10:41:42 pm

Title: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: hedonista on August 21, 2017, 10:41:42 pm
As I age, lumiit na circle ko.
Bilang talaga yung masasabi ko na totoong kaibigan.

I kept 1 true friend na officemate ko dati 10 years ago. We communicate via skype and see each other parang every 3 years na lang. busy sa work and family life. Siguro less than 5 yung totoong totoo na alam ko maaasahan sa hirap at saya. :) I am still very thankful.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: yellowminion on August 22, 2017, 11:19:17 am
I have 1 from high school. Though I have some close friends from college na I know will be there for me if ever I need them, this high school best friend knows almost everything about me and my secrets. We keep in touch lagi by calls and chats on messenger kasi she is based overseas so annually lang kami nagkikita.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: tealover on December 09, 2017, 05:56:54 pm
i'm either really depress at the moment, or i don't think i have any true friends.  The ones I have are from way back, and we just met recently.  It's just sad how everyone's so caught up with each others lives online wey fail to really get together and bond like we used to.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore on December 09, 2017, 07:36:46 pm
I have A LOT of friends, circles, cliques from different parts of my life, iba mga kapitbahay/kababata/Elementary/HS/College/Colleagues from BPO/housemates abroad/Colleagues abroad. Isa din perks ng social media is yung connection with each other, as much as you can, you can stay in touch maski pa OFW na kami mag-asawa.

Just recently I found new friends here sa GT from a thread, lumipat kami ng Viber and FB.  :D

I believe it's healthy to meet new people as you mature and progress in life, but it's also essential to keep these few gems in your life as long as you can.

Yung TRUE good friends na constant talaga na tipong ride or die kami, maski saang lupalop mapunta, I know they have my back I think I have less than 10. I have 4 best friends, whom I have constant communication with; 2 from HS, 1 from College, 1 Cousin, my Husband, 1 dito sa abroad Colleague/friend, and some 4 or 5 na I consider close din pero bihira makausap pero once naman magkita its as if nothing's changed like yung 1 bff ko from BPO.  :) :) :)
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: hushush on January 28, 2018, 08:55:05 am
Ako isa lang talaga. Tried and tested. We've been friends since 2001. Naging close dahil  sa anime. Then nagkataon na fanatic din ng anime and talented artist. Tinuruan nya ako how to draw anime faces. Natuto ako at nakapagdesign ng sarili kong anime characters dahil sa kanya... Pero mahirap magdrowing lalo na kung pasmado kamay mo haha! Now pareho na kami may anak. Tulungan kami lagi sa lahat including finances.. From being OJTs to contractual to regular employees. Nauna lang ako magresign to due my kiddos.
We still keep in touch sa fb chat kahit once a year lang kami magkita parang malapit lang kami. Kasi sa office kahit magkatabi lang kami ng cubicle e sa chat lang din kami nakakapag-usap due to busy sked sa work. hehe..we uswd to talk alot sa chat then kapag nagkakasabay sa pantrt magcoffee break, wala kami mapag-usapan masyado hahaha!! :D

Sa ngayon, malapit na sya magmigrate. Nalulungkot ako na mawawalan na ako ng longtime good and best friend. I mean she's really the best friend ive met in my whole life. I dont claim her as my bestfriend. I dont call her that. Ever..i just act like one to her and she acts like a bff din to me..weve been thru thick and thin. We have totally 2 different personalities. She's one of the bravest and most independent woman ive ever met. I look up to her kahit na dami nya pinoproblema , she stays strong and courageous. We also have different religious beliefs pero di kami nag-aaway pag nagdedabate kami. Healthy debate lang. Palitan ng kuro-kuro. We respect each other very well kahit na minsan gusto ko na syang tuktukan sa mga desisyon nya sa buhay nya. Keri naman nya lahat and im so proud of her. Ngayon matutupad na pangarap nya to live a better life.. Im so happy for her that i became part of it kahit papano natulungan ko sya sa docs nya. kaya masayang-masaya na din ako para sa kanya. :)
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: Pinklet on February 05, 2018, 01:49:12 pm
I only have 2 real and true best of friends. Anti-social kase ako.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: marcee7 on February 05, 2018, 03:04:47 pm
5 real friends.  :) :)

"Good friends are like stars. You don't always see them, but you know they're always there."
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: otra_vez on March 24, 2018, 10:08:13 pm
at most 5. i belong/ed to a big barkada and we have fun when we see each other but when it comes to feeling secure and loved, i don't really feel that in a big group. if anything, madalas i feel like we just say we're friends because we've always believed it but wala naman investment talaga of time or effort to truly communicate. so di ko masabi na we're still really good friends.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: foxyhauteur on March 24, 2018, 11:43:44 pm
2.. The older I get the smaller my circle of friends becomes. Either I grow particularly distant or we all do.  :)
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: brandi on March 25, 2018, 02:36:14 pm
Akala ko ako lang ang konti. 😂

2 yung masasabi ko na true friends ko. Hindi ako masyado palakausap o palabati esp with strangers, yung iba kasi talaga naman na ms congeniality. Hindi ako ganoon and I find it TH and feeling close masyado, personally. I have a lot of groups, acquaintances, and I must say na 2 lang talaga yung masasabi ko na totoo.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: glamorosa_09 on April 03, 2018, 02:21:44 am
If I think about it, parang may 2 levels ang true friends ko, soul friends and good friends.

Soul friends ko are people who know all facets of my personality. Syempre for that to happen, we have spent years together. For this, tatlo lang masasabi kong soul friends ko, mom ko, husband ko, isang college friend ko who was my maid-of-honor (occasional na lang kami magkita). Pero sa ngayon, pinaka soul friend ko ang husband ko.

Meron din sana akong isang soul friend na HS friend ko, kaya lang she's abroad, and I'm not into online chats, kaya wala. But if we'll meet in person, I'm pretty sure, time is irrelevant.

Meron din akong friends who are also true friends, pero di level ng soul friends. I enjoy their company and we can talk about a lot of things. We meet regularly, pero once or twice a year lang to catch up. Six for this.


Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: TysLolakins on April 03, 2018, 02:49:47 am
my only friends are the same 5 girls from elem/hs,  we've all been friends since Grade 2 so that's approaching 50 years of friendship na.
but i don't consider anybody a 'true' friend in the sense that i don't share everything about me with another person.  the closest to being my true friend is my husband but i don't like calling him my friend,  it's just weird to me when couples say they each are their spouse's best friends.   again,  that's just me. 
so my answer is '0' true friends, i know, i'm weird that way.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: Cookie_Dough on April 15, 2018, 10:29:30 pm
Napansin ko as I age mas kumakaunti yung kino-consider ko na kaibigan. Yes, I have lots of acquaintances because of my job pero kapag usaping totoong kaibigan I can only think of 2 right now.  Yung alam kong andyan sila no matter what.

Disclaimer: Naalala ko lang yung linya sa kanta ng Carpenters:  "If all my friends have forgotten half their promises they're not unkind...Just hard to find". Naisip ko they are just hard to find kasi preoccupied na din siguro sila ng mga priorities and responsibilities sa buhay but it doesn't mean na masamang tao sila o nakalimot na.  Ako kasi guilty din ako na madalas hindi na din nakakapangumusta dahil nga sa dami din ng kailangang kong pagbuhusan ng pansin muna.  And one last thing, hindi na din ako masyado nagse-share ng mga personal struggles ko.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: AprilGal26 on May 10, 2018, 06:46:14 pm
I have 3 three real friends that I consider. :)
2 were my highschool classmates and 1 from college naman. Sila talaga yung kahit hindi mo makita ng matagal, pero once na nagkita ulit kayo, it seems like no single thing has changed. :)
Love them so much! :)
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: crzysxycl on May 28, 2018, 02:24:00 pm
Dati 2, ngayon 1 nalang. Haha.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: ayami on July 17, 2018, 11:39:51 pm
Nung una akala ko konti lang, pero narealize ko, ang dami pala :)

Yung Elementary school bunch ko-- two of which are friends ko since Grade 1 (2 decades ++ of solid friendship) added with two from early HS (Christian school).

Next set ay yung HS classmate turned close friend, and of course my husband <3 2005-present

Another set ay yung college Psych108 fam. 2009-present

Then some online forum friends and coworkers ko.

Natest na rin friendship namin ng mga nabanggit ko. Malalaman mo pala yun pag ikaw na nangailangan or ikaw na nagkaproblema. Things in life like when I got pregnant at 19, my father's death, when I lost my first job, etc... Now with 3 kids, sila pa rin talaga yung nandyan for me. And vice versa.

May constant communication and frequent meetups kami. Almost all of those friends mentioned live in the same city as me haha! Sa mga LDR, once or twice a year rin we get together.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: khaleesiCersei on July 18, 2018, 08:46:48 am
I have 3 set of friends, highschool friends, eto yung pinaka malaking group. college friends 2 lang and work friends, 3. Pero ang pinaka close ko and tested by time talaga are my college friends and work friends hehe. Dami na namin napagdaanan, nag away na din kami pero naging stronger pa. I know sila yung matatakbuhan ko pag may problema
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: red_yesha on July 18, 2018, 09:20:36 am
*Nung Elementary i think 2 lang.
*May mga kagrupo ako nung H.S pero alam naman natin na sa grupo na yun may mas close ka pa or mas kapalagayan ng loob. So 2 lang din
*College, may kagrupo din ako pero 1 lang sakanila ang pinaka bff ko.
*sa Work,3 sila pero lahat resigned na :( ibig sabihin ngayon zero na hahaha.

Malayo man kami ngayon ng mga bff's ko. Alam ko love na love pa rin namin ang isa't isa.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: gab54 on July 21, 2018, 02:59:14 am
parang 1 lang, asawa ko ang bestfriend ko.
as of girl friends, may 4 sila na nakikita ko maybe 5x a year, pero since high school pa
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: curlylass on September 22, 2018, 02:16:17 pm
I have 2, maybe 3 if kasama si bf. Both of them I met nung HS. Di man kami regularly nag-uusap pero once na magkita/mag-usap kami, iba talaga connection. And we really keep our secrets, and I can feel na todo support talaga sila sakin. They also keep me grounded.

Kay bf naman, I truly consider him as one of my truest friend. Kasi sya talaga, kilala na nya ko inside and out, never nya ko jinudge. We've been together for a loooong time na rin. Sya talaga, he tries to correct me if I'm wrong. Sa kanya ako natuto pano magmature.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: nocturnalnerd on November 02, 2018, 10:33:01 pm
5 at least kasam si bf, but I'm kind of introverted, I prefer to be alone as long as I could. But my friends understand, I seldom connect with them and they just got used to it, kapag naman nagbobonding kami, close sa close naman kami.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: domestic diva on November 05, 2018, 08:41:38 am
I think it's normal that as we age, our circle of real friends become smaller.  It doesn't mean you're a bad person. We just grow apart.  Priorities change.  Interests change. Status in life change.  I'd rather be with a friend that will be there for my times of sorrow than one that is only there for the good times. 
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: thatkdramaeonni on January 23, 2019, 02:48:34 pm
^I agree with you sis. People change as we age. Nag iiba priorities, nag iiba ng outlook sa buhay kaya nawawalan din ng friends.

Yung high school friends ko, mid college palang nawalan na ko ng contact with them. Malaki circle of friends ko nun, but since most of them naiwan sa ust and hindi naman walking distance ang up, hindi ako nakakapunta sa mga gatherings. Isama pa na nagworking student ako, hirap magbalance ng time sa school at work. Talagang yung orgmates/batchmates ang naging friends ko.

Among my college friends naman, same, may malaki ring circle kasi yung block namin are close. Kaso after graduation, ang hirap na rin lumabas as a group since magkakaiba ng work sked at locations.

Siguro 4 or 5 college friends ang talagang maituturing kong friends beyond social media. Yung tipong matatawagan ko ng dis oras ng gabi dahil may problema ako. Or kahit ilang buwan kami di magkita kasi may mga pamilya na kami pare pareho, close pa rin kami.

Friendly din ako sa officemates ko ngayon, but I learned na minsan mahirap makipagkaibigan sa work because of politics. Nabackstab na kasi ako before sa dating work ko kaya I have trust issues sa office friends. But my officemates now are nice. I hope for keeps din sila.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: phurple0515 on January 24, 2019, 05:03:23 pm
Just like the previous posts, nagkaron na rin ng mga iba ibang priorities kasi mga friends ko dati.  I have many acquiantances, friends (mga kasama sa lakaran), pero yong talagang all out true friends, ngayon, I just consider hubby as my true friend, and my sister.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: mei-mei on January 25, 2019, 04:58:54 pm
Napansin ko as I age mas kumakaunti yung kino-consider ko na kaibigan. Yes, I have lots of acquaintances because of my job pero kapag usaping totoong kaibigan I can only think of 2 right now.  Yung alam kong andyan sila no matter what.

Disclaimer: Naalala ko lang yung linya sa kanta ng Carpenters:  "If all my friends have forgotten half their promises they're not unkind...Just hard to find". Naisip ko they are just hard to find kasi preoccupied na din siguro sila ng mga priorities and responsibilities sa buhay but it doesn't mean na masamang tao sila o nakalimot na.  Ako kasi guilty din ako na madalas hindi na din nakakapangumusta dahil nga sa dami din ng kailangang kong pagbuhusan ng pansin muna.  And one last thing, hindi na din ako masyado nagse-share ng mga personal struggles ko.

Thank you for above disclaimer. I like it a lot. I feel the same way.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: three8one on January 27, 2019, 01:33:35 pm
sa ngayon asawa ko na lang talaga ang matatawag kong bes prend ko. paglaki ng anak ko tropahin ko para dalawa na sila..
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: candacena on February 27, 2019, 11:00:29 pm
2, and theyre my sisters. haha Introvert/antisocial kasi ako. tsaka hindi ko na kaclose masyado yung highschool friends ko. nagbago na sila. lalo na yung isa. siguro magkakaron ulit pag nagkabf na ko or asawa haha.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: kolinetongue on May 12, 2019, 04:28:12 pm
3 na lang.
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: FayeP on May 20, 2019, 07:58:13 am
3 lang yung masasabi kong tunay na tunay...
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: AsunaYuuki on May 20, 2019, 01:55:54 pm
I grew up attending a Christian church kaya madami dami pa naman akong friends na talagang tested na all these years. Sila yung malalapitan through thick and thin kaya I'm very thankful kay God for blessing me with such quality and nurturing friendship.

Meron din akong best friend na since elementary until now, strong pa din yung bond :)
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: sima on June 14, 2019, 09:08:16 am
...I have many acquiantances, friends (mga kasama sa lakaran), pero yong talagang all out true friends, ngayon, I just consider hubby as my true friend, and my sister.

YES to this!  Add ko lang since my kids are all grown-up, I consider them as my friends too!
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: missyuko on June 29, 2019, 07:25:00 pm
same here sis, as I age kumokonti na ang circle of friends ko, either sa different career plans namin at priorities kaya wala ng time, sa recent work ko 2 siguro then 5 naman sa HS barkada ko pero 3 years ko na sila hindi nakaka usap dahil nag hiatus ako sa main social media accounts ko dahil na depressed ako at naging busy sa work. pero ngayun nakaka pag communicate pa din kami via GC yun nga lang, I'm having some trouble gettin' into must of their topics kase 3 years akong nag disappear at drawing sa mga gala nila. hindi ko naman masabi mga pinag daanan ko nun, pero I guess it takes time para maka pag adjust lahat
Title: Re: Ilan ang masasabi nyong TRUE FRIENDS nyo?
Post by: megansmomma on August 22, 2019, 12:57:05 pm
napa count ako haha so I am proud to have less than 10 REALEST TRUEST FRIENDS FOR LIFE yung mga highschool and college friends ko kasi, yung everyday mo kasama... nagbago na sila.. but I am hella proud of the circle that I am in.. :) i can act naturally, they don't care how weird I can get.. or if how deep s*** my situation is.. I am beyond blessed of having them.. too bad, they will never see this :D