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Title: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on December 01, 2009, 04:32:53 pm
let us tackle anything and everything about child support.

For people na nakasampa na ng ganitong kaso, can you share the experience? And for those who would like to inquire, just post the queries here. TIA!  ;D

saan ba magsisimula?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gracey9347 on December 29, 2009, 12:56:22 am
who is legible to file for child support? documents needed? etc... thanks in advance...
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 07, 2010, 12:59:44 am
The concerned party, I think. Better seek your legal counsel about this. The child is illegit ba?

Pero ako kasi I didnt demand from the father so that wala sila masusumbat sakin even if they have an obligation to my kids. Para sakin waste of time and money nalang kung gagawin ko pa yun.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gracey9347 on January 09, 2010, 12:29:11 am
we're married....i can provide for my baby gusto ko lang maobliga immature nyang ama....and i told him also if he wants to see the baby mag file sha petition for vivitaion rights if there is such a thing...
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ladyspyde on January 09, 2010, 08:14:49 pm
yes, he can file for a visitation rights if he really wants to see the child. pero it would be better kung pag usapan nlng yan.he is still the father of ur kids. ;)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: virgogirl98 on January 11, 2010, 10:27:29 am
ako naman, gumawa kami ng kasulatan ng husband ko kaharap ng abogado na katunayan na magbibigay sya ng child support buwan buwan. mukhang ginawa lang nya to para makaalis sya eh. seafarer kasi sya, eh nag-file kasi ako ng kaso sa kanya ng ra9262(violation against women and children) dahil sa pag-abandona nya sa amin. napilitan sya makipag-usap sa akin kasi di sya papaalisin ng agency kung di makipag-cooperate sa akin. so inurong ko na yung demanda kasi kala ko this time magtitino na sya. akala ko ok na...

nakaalis sya last oct.2009. nagpadala ng isang beses for nov., late at kulang pa! then, dec.2009 and jan.2010 wala pa padala hanggang ngayon! ni isang text o tawag wala akong nareceive. di nga tumawag kahit man lang batiin yung anak nya last christmas and new year eh! nakukunsumi na naman ako!

eh sabi sa akin ng abogado kung di daw tuparin ng asawa ko yung nakalagay sa kasunduan namin, bumalik daw ako sa kanya then sya na daw bahala. sisiguraduhin daw nya na ipapa-hold departure yung asawa ko once makauwi dito at isusulong uli yung demanda ko sa kanya dati. kaya nagtext ako sa kanya at binigyan ko ng ultimatum, na kapag di pa nagpadala this feb. mapipilitan akong sampahan uli sya ng kaso na ra9262.

di ko alam bat naging ganyan ka-iresponsable ang asawa ko. 2 years na syang ganyan sa akin. walang pinapadala kaya ako nagkabaon baon sa utang ngayon! pati anak namin ko lang din lahat!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 13, 2010, 03:02:12 pm
Sis, I think its better kung paguusapan nio muna yung about sa visitation rights nung father pero kung hindi talaga kayo magkakasundo about saka nio dalin sa court.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: greyzie on January 15, 2010, 01:12:48 pm
if annulled na yun marriage, can the mother still file for child support? tapos may habol rin ba mga kids sa properties ng father na minana niya sa magulang? my sister wants nothing to do with her ex-hubby na (sobrang batugan!) but i told her to try... para may masabi siyang maganda sa mga kids niya regarding their father... na pinaglaanan sila kahit papano.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 16, 2010, 08:46:28 am
Yes meron pa. Legitimate pa din naman yung kids eh even annulled na yung marriage ng parents nila. It does not change their status. Kung yung illegitimate nga meron habol sa father what more yung legitimate diba? :D
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 16, 2010, 11:38:29 pm
Is there such as percentage of child support?

Recently we separated and soon he is going back to his work (Seafarer din ito...) and I need to know whats the right amount that he should provide to his son. Para pag hindi yon ang natanggap ko, pwede ko siyang kasuhan.

Ayokong humingi sa kanya pero kailangan ang maibigay ang para sa anak ko.

And do you know any support group for women lalo na yung mga violation against women and children? Yung tutulong sayo for legal advise?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 17, 2010, 12:16:02 am
^ I'm not sure about the percentage eh. Based on what I've read kasi pag illegitimate (since this is my concern cos my kids are illegitimate) it should be 50% of all the total expenses nun child yung ibibigay ng father. Pag legitimate I dont know. Parang it depends on the financial capacity ng father? Kasi from what I;ve heard parang ganun.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 22, 2010, 02:40:16 pm
Good day! I just got a text from my husband (finally!) that he wanted na 50/50 kasi sa tuition fee ng son namin. How about the other payables? Do I have right to do that? Before kasi, he pays for our son, the bills and etc. while my money is spent for the family's leisure.

What happened now is, we decided to separate (annulment on the way but still seeking advice on how does it go...) and he texted me that he wanted my mother to receive the allotment (I dont know why?) and 50/50 kami sa tuition ng son namin.

I told him Im okay with it basta hindi na magaabono ang mom ko since I do that all the time. Sa 50/50 naman, I wanted to ask him, kasama na payables ng yaya etc?

I wanna seek advice to you guys,the proper way to do this. He said, hindi naman daw niya pababayaan ang bata. Naisip ko, I can put it in writing para safe ako pag hindi na siya nagbigay.

Thanks.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 22, 2010, 04:40:32 pm
In any case, if we make a contract and have it notarized, if ever hindi niya sundin yon, pwede ko ban gamitin yung contract na yon? thanks.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 23, 2010, 04:14:54 pm
@kikaygimikera I would be seeing my lawyer this week I'll ask him about it, mejo related yan dun sa business ko with my lawyer pag nagkita kami.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 23, 2010, 08:25:53 pm
Thanks kneekee. Update me ha. Aalis na kasi si hubby 2nd week ng Feb.

I told him na me and my family ae going to change location (lipat ng other condo) and I have to move out of our stuff. Before kasi may house kami malapit sa kanila, so mga gamit sa house yon. He said, he just wants the computer and I can have the rest. Ngayon, I am selling everything para we can buy new things for my new place/pad.

I told him he should come and sign an agreement na he is still going to support his son. Sabi niya sa text, "hindi ko naman pababayaan anak natin eh". Eh parang naisip ko, it needs to be in writing talaga. Tama ba? O segurista lang ako?

Re. Annulment namin, I dont know whom to go, where to start. Ang alam ko lang I got married 20 years old, siya 22 sa Manila City hall. The dates and addresses is discrepant. Jan 19 ang date, pero it says Feb 19. Address is in Manila City hall pero nakalagay  San Juan.

Anyway, off topic nako.

Sis let me know ha. I want it to be very clear kasi. Sana may mga sisters dito na may child support agreement na din. Please share. Thanks!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 23, 2010, 08:45:30 pm
Better talaga if there's a written agreement sis. Ang hirap eh. Partly problem ko din yung about sa child support, kaso parang ayoko na even right ng kids ko even if illegit sila na magkaron ng support from their father, kasi may times na sinusumbat nia yung naibigay nia, pero its part of his obligation, saka parang ang laki ng binibigay nia ha.

I want a contract with regards to his visitation rights to my kids. Mashado kasi sila (his family) umaabuso lagi ako nagcocompromise, hindi sila marunong sumunod sa usapan.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 24, 2010, 02:04:08 pm
sis Kikaygimikera, You have to options with regards to the written agreement. #1 you and ex-hubby may talk things over first, then put into writing what you have agreed on, sign on the agreement and have it notarized by the lawyer. #2 Go straight to your lawyer and state what you want to be written on the agreement, have your ex-hubby sign it then have it notarized with the lawyer.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: moonie on January 24, 2010, 06:57:01 pm
Meron talagang mga babae na hindi naiintindihan ang concept ng child support.  Mothers who run after the fathers of their children demanding support is not about women clinging to the fathers of their children hoping to rekindle the romance.  It's about mothers fighting for the right of their children to a decent life.  It's about requiring fathers to fulfill their responsibilities to theire children.  Child support is a moral and legal obligation to the child regardless of whether the father gets along with the mother of the child or not.

Kaya nakakairita ang mga columns na ito sa PDI-- the columnist clearly got it all wrong:
http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20091227-244087/Should-she-demand-child-support-from-an-ex-boyfriend
http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20100110-246423/Should-a-woman-ask-for-financial-support-from-the-father-of-their-lovechild
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 24, 2010, 10:16:04 pm
I agree sis moonie. Kasi right ng child to receive support from their father, on the other hand obligation ng father yun to the child.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 25, 2010, 12:03:54 am
@kneekee - Thanks. I'll try to talk to him. Mukhang malabo kaming magusap ng maayos.

@ moonie - sa akin, akala naman nila habol ko lang pera. They did not realize it is my sons right. Kapa diba.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 25, 2010, 01:27:37 am
^ Sis you can ask the lawyer to mediate between the two of you din.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 27, 2010, 01:57:30 pm
Good pm Kneekee and to everyone!

Meron bang girltalker na lawyer who can help me? Kasi the father of my son is going to visit this Friday night. He will get our son for a 3 day weekend trip. I told him its fine with me and sabi ko sa text message, na dont forget about the yayas salary. He replied "hindi naman na ako diyan, ang alam ko gastos ko lang ang pagkain at school at ibang pangangailangan niya."

Eh kasama naman sa ibang pangangailangan ng anak namin ang yaya, diba? Ang reply ko, "hindi na kita pipilitin kung ayaw mo."

Gusto ko sana i clear na i have the right as a wife (as of the moment) and as a mother of my son re. this. He does not know the reason I am having our marriage petition na void and null is because of this.

Meron bang pwedeng mag assist sa akin sa friday night re. this. Gusto ko kasi in writing and sana may mag mediate between the two of us.

I have no means of paying right now, I recently paid all of my recent salary sa mga gastusin because I am no longer fully supported. I can pay naman sa next pay day. Please let me know thanks!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 30, 2010, 03:38:04 pm
Sis kikaygimikera? what happened? sorry now lang ulit nag GT
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on January 31, 2010, 03:34:15 am
Good am! :)

Hmmm, what happened, ang haba sis.

Friday:

1. I finally caught him. :) Thru his post paid line bill na nakapangalan sa akin. :) I talked to him about it and of course, denied it. :P I was actually wanted him to cooperate kasi baka pwede ko na yung ground ng annulment in case, you know - may marriage license pala kami na existing.

2. I made the agreement in writing. ALL CONSIDERATIONS. Sis, ang sweldo 60k a month. Ang hinihingi ko ay 8k/month for this 2010. WOW. AYAW! DAHIL di daw niya babayaran ang yaya. LOL! So 4k a month lang ang ibibigay? Well, I threatened him I file sa POEA about it, and will file a criminal case against him.

3. He signed. While I do all the talking, na tignan niya salamin niya bago siya mambabae... :P Im so mean!

4. Okay na. Hes texting na bawas 4k raw. Pero sorry non negotiable ang sabi ko. :)

alls good. Kapag 6 months no 8k this 2010 eh lagot siya. Ipapakulong ko talaga siya or korte kami magkikita.

5. I texted the other girl. I told her, goodluck to them and hindi ko naman siya aawayin dahil buong buo kong ibibigay ang asawa ko. ;)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on January 31, 2010, 11:49:16 am
Grabe naman sis. Why is he using the postpaid line under your name? tss.

8K lang di pa niya maibigay?eh 60K/ month naman pala salary niya. Ok lang sana kung hindi nagkakasya sa kanya yung salary niya. Bukod sa sarili niya may iba pa ba sha ginagastusan?

Know what, my auntie demanded that her ex-husband pay for everything that her children needs kasi wala naman ibang pinagkakagastusan si ex. saka the fact na anak niya yun and obligation as father to give the needs.

Have the documents notarize na sis. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: moonie on January 31, 2010, 04:30:07 pm
^^8K lang ayaw pa ibigay.  Actually, kahit walang kasulatan, pwede mo siyang habulin and for a larger share of his income.  Kaso kailangan mong pumunta ng korte and all that.  The amount given for child support depends on the financial capacity e at hindi nagiging pinal ang desisyon ng korte.  Ibig sabihin kung lumaki ang pangangailangan ng anak o lumaki ang capacity ng tatay, pwede ulit hingin sa korte na dagdagan yung amount.   

Maganda na may alas ka at pwede mo siyang takutin.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on February 01, 2010, 01:32:08 am
meron dun last page di niya pinirmahan kasi ayusin ko raw re. the dates ng arrangement of my kid every christmas and new year kaya di pa pwede ipanotarize.

Haaay.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gracey9347 on February 04, 2010, 09:57:25 pm
please HELP!!! can anyone please send me a sample of a demand letter for child support....i think this is step one muna...THANKS in advance...my e-mail add is gracey9347@yahoo.com
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on February 05, 2010, 07:56:17 am
êmailed you sis.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on February 06, 2010, 08:43:46 am
^pa-email din sis!hihi

i thought demand letters are supposed to be given by the lawyer? binigyan na namin neto dati yung ex-husband ko but i wasnt comfortable with the lawyer so d ko napagpatuloy yung kaso.

now, im starting again. tama kayo, hindi ito because of the "money" but this is the right of our kids. i dont want to become weak when it concerns my kiddos. saka gusto ko pasahan ng obligation yung asawa ko, para ba kasing ang dali para sa kanya na mangiwan or even kalimutan kami.  ::)

i asked him to meet me this afternoon, we'll talk about the support.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on February 06, 2010, 11:40:35 am
Alam ko nga din demand letters are issued by the lawyers.

In my situation, indirect communication kami ni SD and his family. Ayoko na makipagusap sa kanila. Nasasayangan ako sa panahon if kakausapin ko sila kaya lagi ako may mediator.

Sis, kikaygimikera, what about the arrangement during Christmas and New Year? Ako its either a day before or after those said holidays lang yung kids pwede mahiram ni SD. Basta yung Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve sakin sila. May family naman sha eh. My kids are my everything.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gracey9347 on February 07, 2010, 12:23:36 am
yup indeed, demand letter is issued by a lawyer...send sa HR ng work ng irresponsible na nilalang... :P sa house na tinutuluyan nya....pwede nga din sa kaibigan basta send as many as possible daw...para alang lusot na di natanggap.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on February 07, 2010, 04:31:10 am
Christmas Eve and New Years Eve sa amin yung bata. Umangal siya run kaya di niya pinirmahan. Pero Di parin ko papayag talaga.

What happened to you mga sis? Ako basta pag hindi ako nakakuha ng sustento by the end of Feb and March kakasuhan ko na agad siya at ang manning agency niya. His family runs the business kasi and mother in law ko ang naghahandle ng payroll.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on February 27, 2010, 01:24:42 pm
hi mga sis .. i just recently separated with my husband pero verbal pa lang separation namen .. im planning on doing the demand letter for child support then have it notarized by a lawyer just in case.. now pwede ko ba gawin yun kahit na hindi pa kame annulled or legally separated? tia!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: RRRR77 on March 13, 2010, 10:34:41 pm
demand letter - a complainant can do this if she does not have a lawyer yet.

petition for support / custody - never ending. no finality. if there's an issue, either of the parties can go to court.

ayrise, you can have a child support agreement even if your not annulled or legally separated yet.

there's a law that you can automatically deduct the child support from her salary.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: virgogirl98 on March 21, 2010, 12:50:39 am
eto ang pinoproblema ko hanggang ngayon. yung magaling ko kasing asawa nagtatago na at di na nagpapadala ng financial support sa aming mag-ina! habang nasa barko sya last year, nag-file ako ng kaso na ra9262 against sa kanya. then umuwi sya at nagtago. ang ginawa ko dinala ko mismo yung copy ng kasong ni-file ko sa agency nya mismo, ayun napilitan makipagkita sa akin kasi di sya paalisin ng agency kapag di nakipag-settle sa akin. kaya nagpunta kami sa pao at gumawa ng kasulatan na magpapadala sya buwan-buwan. kaso nga lang, after kong iurong ang demanda at makaalis sya last oct., 1 buwan lang nagpadala at naglaho na naman parang bula!

kaya ngayon pupunta na ulit ako sa pao na gumawa ng kasulatan namin at irereklamo ko ulit sya. sabi kasi ng pao bumalik lang ako sa kanya at tutulungan nya akong makasuhan ulit ang asawa ko at ma-i-issue-han sya ng hold departure order once na bumalik sya dito, para magtanda at di na ulit makaalis. this time di na ako papaareglo. kelangan kasi talaga yung sweldo nya direkta na sa bank account ko eh kasi pag hindi at sa kanya bumabagsak ang sweldo sya, di na sya nakakaalala talaga na may anak sya dito!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ofw on March 21, 2010, 07:00:06 pm
Good am! :)

Hmmm, what happened, ang haba sis.

Friday:

1. I finally caught him. :) Thru his post paid line bill na nakapangalan sa akin. :) I talked to him about it and of course, denied it. :P I was actually wanted him to cooperate kasi baka pwede ko na yung ground ng annulment in case, you know - may marriage license pala kami na existing.

2. I made the agreement in writing. ALL CONSIDERATIONS. Sis, ang sweldo 60k a month. Ang hinihingi ko ay 8k/month for this 2010. WOW. AYAW! DAHIL di daw niya babayaran ang yaya. LOL! So 4k a month lang ang ibibigay? Well, I threatened him I file sa POEA about it, and will file a criminal case against him.

3. He signed. While I do all the talking, na tignan niya salamin niya bago siya mambabae... :P Im so mean!

4. Okay na. Hes texting na bawas 4k raw. Pero sorry non negotiable ang sabi ko. :)

alls good. Kapag 6 months no 8k this 2010 eh lagot siya. Ipapakulong ko talaga siya or korte kami magkikita.

5. I texted the other girl. I told her, goodluck to them and hindi ko naman siya aawayin dahil buong buo kong ibibigay ang asawa ko. ;)

________
SIS punta kana sa POEA ang alam ko 70% ng salary dapat ang naiiwalan or support sa family(remitance).
grabe naman ang hubby mo 8k lang ayaw pa e anak naman niya ang dapat supportaan ano mabibili mo ngayon sa 4k na gusto niyang ibigay dapat pakita mo sa kanya ang computation ng monthly expenses mo.dami talaga ngayon na irresponsible na mga tatay gumawa ng bata tapos ayaw supportaan
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on April 01, 2010, 10:28:18 pm
sis .. anybody can send me child support letter format?? paano niyo ba ginawa ito? im coming back to manila this april gusto ko sana ifinalize na yung letter .. sabi nila a private lawyer cost so much .. so i really dont know what to do.. maybe gagatusan ko un lawyer pero pwede bang ipanotarize na lang yung letter from any attorney? and not really hire an attorney since wala pa naman case .

please PM me po for the child support letter.. pls plss .. need it badly .. TIA!!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: marose17 on April 01, 2010, 10:35:46 pm
^ You can go to UP Office of Legal Aid or IBP's Legal Aid office for assistance in drafting a demand letter.  In my opinion though, mas effective at mas may panakot na effect if the letter comes from a lawyer rather than yourself.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on April 01, 2010, 10:41:49 pm
^

sis if in case maguusap kami then mag aagree kami verbally how much he can give to my child.. then i can go to UP office of Legal Aid .. ask for help in drafting a Demand Letter.. then have it notarize?

Can the UP office of Legal Aid notarize it themselves? and since "Demand" letter siya .. is this the same as an agreement letter stating the amount he should give to the child?

kasi baka parang "demand" meaning your filing a case na agad .. he is still doing his duties as a father pa naman so wala pa ako problema .. i just want to be two stepa ahead of the situation .. kung sakali dumating un time na kalimutan na ren niya pati anak namen ..

im posting this BLOG .. for single mommies out there .. madami ren ako natutunan on how to File Child Support Case ..

http://www.jackieacosta.com/

Thanks sa reply sis!! ** hugs **
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: marose17 on April 01, 2010, 10:50:26 pm
^ Yes, there are supervising lawyers/professors who can notarize the agreement for support.  You will however be counseled/advised by senior law students.  Don't worry though, most of the time, they're better than other lawyers kasi mas fresh pa sa kanila ang Family Code provisions than someone practicing in another field of law. :)

In case both of you agree on a certain amount, there is no need to draw up a demand letter.  What you will need is a formal agreement stipulating the amount of support that your ex-husband will give.  Make sure there's room for flexibility - insert a clause providing for a review, say, every 5 years, because your financial circumstances may change.

You know, notarization just makes the document a public document.  Notarizing the agreement will not prevent the father from later reneging on his obligation.  Also, you can always file an action for support later in court whether or not your agreement is notarized.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: llijenna on April 01, 2010, 11:28:13 pm
hi sisses,

anybody who can send me the demand letter sample.. TIA
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mcenyll on April 05, 2010, 04:44:21 pm
iba naman ang case ko, my hubby impregnated a girl before kami nag-asawa.  He did not marry her but they agreed na magbibigay ng sustento ang asawa ko sa anak nila.

magkano ba dapat ibigay na sustento? nasa province nakatira ang bata at 4 years old pa lang.

with regards to our finances, mas malaki ang kita ko tapos yung sa sideline namin ako bale ang gumagawa although tumutulong naman si hubby. yung kita nya super kulang sa family namin, we have 2 kids na pala.

yung net pay ni hubby sa isang kinsena ay 4k lang halos. ayoko naman na abonado ako palagi sa mga gastusin namin sa bahay, masakit sa ego ko.

Can you give me your insight on this? tia
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on April 07, 2010, 12:09:28 pm
^ sis marose17

super thanks for your reply! after our verbal agreement then i will arrange the formal document, i'll follow your advice.

sabi ren dun sa blog na nabasa ko do not state an amount rather .. percentage ng salary niya since yun nga tumataas ang gastus at most likely pataas naman ang salary niya..

i'll update this thread once i go through the process,, sana lang maging amicable ang settlement.. thanks again!

sis mcenyll

medyo complicated situation mo, kasi dapat hubby mo lang ang gagastus for his other kid, kaso paano yan if mababa salary niya, according to my research depende sa finances ng father ang child support ng bata.

i suggest you talk about this to your hubby and then let him figure out a way na he can provide for all the people he is responsible with.



Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: rhed on April 12, 2010, 11:19:49 am
can we ask for financial support from a 17 yrs old father? wala na siya work (he used to work sa fastfood) mag-18 pa lang siya sa july.. yung father niya ang ok ang work. my neice(the mother) is 18 yrs old last feb naman.

alam ko kasi kahit mag file kami ng financial support wala kami makukuha e.

btw,hindi namin ipapahiram ang baby pwede dalaw lang siguro next year kasi sinaktan niya neice ko physically and nahuli namin siya may kasama 2 girls,1 gay,with marijuana.

thanks
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: pritishina on April 13, 2010, 11:05:43 pm
hi sissies,
 i hope me makatulong sakin here,,ganto kasi un.. naghiwalay kami ng ama ng anak ko ,and after that wala na..d na sya ngbigay ng support and d narin ngparamdam o kmustahin manlang yung bata.its been a year now.kaya ko naman suportahan [textspeak!] anak ko. kaya lang d naman pwede nasa puder lang kami lagi ng magulang ko. habang sya nagpapakasarap. ive heard about this chid support.. pano ko ba uumpisahan para makakuha ako ng suporta s kanya?sana me makatulong sakin dahil gsto ko na umpishan,ng sya naman mahirapan. salamt at im waiting for your reply sissies..thanks
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: marose17 on April 14, 2010, 08:25:23 am
^ Sis, consult a lawyer.  If you want free legal advice, go to the Office of Legal Aid in UP - Mondays to Saturdays, open sila; or to the IBP Legal Aid Office.

Mag-research ka rin sa net. Start by searching for the Family Code provisions on Support.  Good luck!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: pritishina on April 14, 2010, 10:28:55 am
^ Sis, consult a lawyer.  If you want free legal advice, go to the Office of Legal Aid in UP - Mondays to Saturdays, open sila; or to the IBP Legal Aid Office.

Mag-research ka rin sa net. Start by searching for the Family Code provisions on Support.  Good luck!


Thank you sis. but do u have any idea kung magkano magagastos ko kung sakaling lumapit ako sa lawyer? sabi nila sa umpisa mgbbgay muna ng demand letter sa father nung bata and pag wala pa syang ginawa dun na daw talga ako umapela sa court..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Mrs. Chobs on May 05, 2010, 03:29:26 pm
Hi! I'm just new here and I need some advice regarding child support.

I have a six year old daughter. Her father and I aren't married. We were living together before but things did not work out. I worked abroad; left my daughter with him because her school was near their house. My mom gets her during weekends though. I got married and now I'm back here in Manila. My daughter is staying with me now. She'll be in 1st grade this coming school year. My husband and I thought that its a really good deal that he pays for her school tuition and we'll take care of the rest (like school bus, books, uniforms, medical needs, etc) but he insisted that we pay everything equally. I am currently unemployed and as much as possible I don't want to burden my husband with this since he's not the father, though he's nice enough to support her.

I had a conversation with a friend who's in the same situation. She told me that its the father's obligation to give financial support to his child.  She advised me to let a lawyer handle it. I'm actually considering, but before that what should I do first and how do I talk to him in a civil manner?

Hope to hear from anyone of you.

Thanks.



Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on May 05, 2010, 11:28:38 pm
^ sis pritishina ..

have you tried talking to the father of your child in a civil manner? sa tingin ko kasi try to work it out first with the father then saka ka magfile ng child support under RA 9262 Violence against womens act..  im now lawyer ,, and i havent consulted any lawyer as of now kasi we were able to arrange a settlement by talking kasi we are still in "ok" terms.. though im preparing for the ugly despite that may come .. 

i think most lawyer would actually ask you to try to settle it first before filing a complaint .. kumbaga this would be your last option .. para masabi mo binigyan mo na siya ng chance magpakatao .. at least you can justify why you filed this .. kasi as far i feel, this can be really ugly ..

try searching sa net .. madae info and just like what sis marose17 said, try going to the IBP legal aid office for advice.

^ Mrs. Chobs,

hmmm .. mahirap kasi mag advice on how you can talk "human" to your ex .. in my case, i laid all my cards. i told him na its should be his responsibility etc etc. and i tried to talk to him as nice as i can without nagging or anything ..

i think talking things over would be the first step, this can be tiring and can also test your patience, but like what i said above.. do this first before filing the child support kasi pwede siyang criminal case under RA 9262 Violence against women .. so its really really messy saka stressfull . pero kung wala talaga at hindi makukuha sa maboteng usapang ;) .. then seek advice of a lawyer ..  sis marose17 posted it already so just backread ;)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mcenyll on May 06, 2010, 12:58:17 pm

sis mcenyll

medyo complicated situation mo, kasi dapat hubby mo lang ang gagastus for his other kid, kaso paano yan if mababa salary niya, according to my research depende sa finances ng father ang child support ng bata.

i suggest you talk about this to your hubby and then let him figure out a way na he can provide for all the people he is responsible with.



yun talaga ang mahirap sis kasi sa needs pa lang ng mga bata, hindi pa kasali yung sa bahay at yaya, kulang na eh..tapos pag hindi sya nakapagpadala, nagti-text yung nanay na sasampahan nya ng kaso yung asawa ko..minsan nga naiinis na ako kasi ba naman bakit kelangan pati kami ng mga anak ko kelangan magsakripisyo.

nag-ask nga hubby ko na i-enrol ko daw sa bpi ko ang account nung girl para online na lang ang transaction para padala ng pera, eh ayoko nga, sakit masyado sa bangs yun ah.. :D

naiisip ko nga minsan na papano ko maprotektahan yung properties na na-acquire ko ng sarili ko although during the time na may asawa na ako, eh sa wala naman kaming pre-nup ni hubby. baka maghabol yung ina, sarili ko namang pundar yun para sa mga anak ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on May 06, 2010, 04:29:51 pm
^mcenyll

hay mahirap talaga sis, kaya nga sis talagang important ang pre-nup. kasi conjugal na yung properties niyo since kasal na kayo .. kasal kayo hindi ba? eh sa batas ngayon may rights na ang illegitimate child pagdating sa mana.  but as i say im no lawyer .. so advice ko sa iyo as soon as possible consult a lawyer to protect yourself and your kids .. kasi we can never tell hindi ba?

ako nga i have an insurance, gusto ko na  ayusin na ang daughter ko ang sole beneficiary .. kaso kung sakali mawala ako at minor pa siya mapupunta sa ex husband ko yung money .. so dapat mag appoint ako ng legal guardian ng bata.. ang daming legalities and paper involve pero hindi natin masasabi hindi ba?

in good terms kasi kme ng ex hubby ko so minsan when i talk "legal" to him parang ang hirap kasi lumalabas na defensive ako at ang sama sama niya .. pero lagi ko nga sinasabi .. pinoprotektahan ko lang ang sarili ko at karapatan ng anak ko..  kasi kahit anung bait ng tao pagdating sa pera at kagipitan nawawala ang morals.

better let your husband realize na its his responsibility .. at ganun talaga.. he fathered a child .. so pwede talaga siya kasuhan under RA 9262 Violence against women... i understand the mother of that child .. kasi yan din ang fear ko kapag nagkafamily na yung husband ko .. the father should realize that he has a lot of responsibility .. at dahil diyan kailangan doble kayod .. kumita ng malaki .. hindi mo dapat responsibilidad na magbigay ng pera dun sa anak niya..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mcenyll on May 06, 2010, 04:51:32 pm
^minsan talaga sinasabihan ko na sya pero naaawa din naman ako sa kanya. pag mabait ako, bibigyan ko sya from our budget para sa anak nya..minsan hinihintay ko na manghingi sya kasi nga nag-text na yung kapatid ng girl na nagbabantay sa bata. minsan nga naiisip ko na gumagawa na lang ng estorya na kesyo may sakit ang bata para lang makahingi ng pera.

ang kinababahala ko lang, baka yung kita namin sa negosyo na si hubby ang nangongolekta baka kupitan para ipadala dun...pag ma-prove ko yan, lagot talaga sya sa akin..usapan kasi namin na pagdating sa bagay na yan, dadaan lahat sa akin.

pero hindi naman talaga ganun ka-grabe yung situation namin...minsan lang talaga nakakainis. at in a way, I understand naman yung side ng girl.

nagti-text pa nga sya minsan sa mga in-laws ko tapos minsan nag-uusap asawa ko at yung bata...keber na lang ako..pero pag may topak ako...ayun...ang sa akin lang...hwag silang aapak sa pamamahay ko...lol

sensitive din naman mga inlaws ko, minsan last 2006, kapapanganak ko pa lang..nag-meet yung in-laws ko at yung girl dala yung anak sa jolibee..hindi nila dinala sa bahay kasi andun ako...pero nung malaman ko super galit talaga ako kasi feeling ko they went behind my back..buti na lang hindi sumipot si hubby sa meeting place nila. minsan din dinala nila yung bata at yung girl sa bahay ng auntie ni hubby-- ng malaman ko, super galit din ako kasi bakit kelangan ipa-meet sa relatives yung anak nya sa labas at nung girl...

pero looking back, medyo OA na ako...sensitive lang talaga ako pagdating sa bagay na yan. ;D

pero minsan pag mabait ako, nagpapadala ako ng toy sa bata ng kusa.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on May 06, 2010, 05:02:16 pm
^ naintindihan kita .. ang hirap talaga harapin niyan .. para bang multo na gusto mo na lang iwasan lagi hindi ba?

meron ba silang agreement na a certain amount or percentage ng salary ang monthly ibibgay sa bata? .. tapos when it comes to extra like medical bills.. school fees etc .. dapat hingi kayo ng proof like letters from school or receipt para sure ka na may expenses talaga na ganun .. sabihin na nila makwenta ka pero you have to be sure na para sa bata nga yun at hindi para kanino lang .. mahirap nang maabuso hindi ba?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mcenyll on May 07, 2010, 01:16:06 pm
sa ngayon 4 yrs old pa lang ang baby...pero yung deposit slips, pinapaipon ko kay hubby in case..dati nagdi-demand ang girl..nung wala pa kaming baby, okay lang sa akin..kalaunan hindi na ako pumayag kasi nga abonado na ako masyado sa gastusin sa bahay kasi parang ang laki na ng portion ng kita ni hubby ang pinapadala sa kanila. so ang sa akin lang, kung gusto talaga ng girl na mag-dictate ng amount, file na lang sya sa court para makita talaga ano ang capacity ni hubby. pero yung bata naman karga sa philhealth ni hubby tapos acknowledge din nya yung paternity sa birth certificate.

pag naospital ang baby, nagpapadala naman kami. hindi na ako nagdi-demand ng proof kasi medyo reasonable naman ang amount. 
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: dloliver on May 13, 2010, 02:31:44 pm
Hi! Im a new member here and I saw this thread while looking for child support demand letter format.

Could you please send me a copy of a child support demand letter? I badly need it. Thanks in advance!

ragnarockers_88@yahoo.com
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ayrise on May 13, 2010, 04:19:37 pm
^ sis bawal magpost ng email address . anyway nobody seems to have the copy of the demand letter. i have been asking for one  also. better seek a lawyer and backread on this thread madami ka matutunan.  The free legal advice lawyers are posted on this thread.

thanks!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on May 13, 2010, 06:28:18 pm
iba naman ang case ko, my hubby impregnated a girl before kami nag-asawa.  He did not marry her but they agreed na magbibigay ng sustento ang asawa ko sa anak nila.

magkano ba dapat ibigay na sustento? nasa province nakatira ang bata at 4 years old pa lang.

with regards to our finances, mas malaki ang kita ko tapos yung sa sideline namin ako bale ang gumagawa although tumutulong naman si hubby. yung kita nya super kulang sa family namin, we have 2 kids na pala.

yung net pay ni hubby sa isang kinsena ay 4k lang halos. ayoko naman na abonado ako palagi sa mga gastusin namin sa bahay, masakit sa ego ko.

Can you give me your insight on this? tia


The amount to be given to the child as support would depend on how much your hubby earns sis. Alam ko ganun e, kung ano lang yung kaya ni hubby. In his case, maliit lang kita niya it would be unfair pag nagdemand ng malaki yung girl
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mcenyll on May 15, 2010, 06:57:15 am
^thank sis.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kneekee on May 23, 2010, 09:23:53 pm

Thank you sis. but do u have any idea kung magkano magagastos ko kung sakaling lumapit ako sa lawyer? sabi nila sa umpisa mgbbgay muna ng demand letter sa father nung bata and pag wala pa syang ginawa dun na daw talga ako umapela sa court..

ganun nga sis. Yung fee naman would depend sa lawyer. If super galing niya then most likely mahal ang singil. Pero there are others naman na magagaling pero hindi ganun kalaki maningil. Alam ko yung demand letter may bayad din yun e.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread 1
Post by: gorgeousmama on November 21, 2010, 01:16:13 am

any update on those who filed for child support? :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on December 02, 2010, 05:49:15 am
May child support agreement na kami ni ex hubby and yet hindi niya ito sinusunod on a monthly basis. Pahirapan pa ren mag "beg" sa kanya. Gusto ko sana may lawyer na between the two of us. Mga magkano ba aabutin neto? Umaabot ba sa 10k?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: longing on December 03, 2010, 12:11:45 pm
I'm on the process of demanding for child and spousal support. 

He left us two months ago, nagde deposit naman sya for the past 3 pay days, however, the amount he gives is not enough for us, it's only 16% of his Net.  Nag send na ako sa kanya ng letter cc their baranggay and our baranggay via registered mail.

I invited him to talk personally but looks like ayaw nya coz may idea siya of how much I will demand (50% of his Net). If hindi siya sumagot within 10 calendar days as per my letter, I will file it in court na.  I'm just lucky na I have lawyer friends who can represent me in court, so bawas na siya sa stress ko. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gorgeousmama on December 04, 2010, 11:18:08 am


^ sis lucky for you, in case of my friend her lawyer told her that  since her husband is supporting them, just like your situtation, insufficient, for their basic needs,, so their prayer will be for "additional support", hwever accg. to the lawyer smetimes the respondent will not give in to the demands easily thus the downside is he will prolong the case.. or if lucky he will bargain up to the extent that both of you has to : compromise..

good luck...  :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gorgeousmama on December 04, 2010, 11:24:48 am
May child support agreement na kami ni ex hubby and yet hindi niya ito sinusunod on a monthly basis. Pahirapan pa ren mag "beg" sa kanya. Gusto ko sana may lawyer na between the two of us. Mga magkano ba aabutin neto? Umaabot ba sa 10k?

it all depends on the lawyer sis, my friend who was referred by another friend has paid 15k for the acceptance fee alone and 3k for appearance fee, but actually the AF daw for these will cost you 3ok-50k,,

before i have a judge friend who gave it for 10k lang coz, friend ko yun wife, but diif. legal case yun sakin.. :)
 before
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: longing on December 07, 2010, 08:26:10 am
@gorgeousmama, it's ok lang naman sa akin. either he prolongs it or we end up sa compromise. what i want lang is "magulo" ang buhay nya ng konti. hahaha. i'm tired na ako na ang stressed lagi, i have to share stress sa kanya. not yung happy happy na lang siya lagi with his kabitchy. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on December 07, 2010, 05:25:41 pm
Buti pa kayo sis may pera. Haaay ang hirap ng case ko wala akong pera pang file kaya sinabihan ako sa email ni exhusband na "Sige mag file ka ng magfile, tignan naten kung kaya mo. Diba mayaman ka naman? Dapat nag Law ka na lang para sumikat ka..."

grabe. alam niya kasing wala akong capacidad para magfile. :(
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gorgeousmama on December 07, 2010, 07:25:54 pm
Buti pa kayo sis may pera. Haaay ang hirap ng case ko wala akong pera pang file kaya sinabihan ako sa email ni exhusband na "Sige mag file ka ng magfile, tignan naten kung kaya mo. Diba mayaman ka naman? Dapat nag Law ka na lang para sumikat ka..."

grabe. alam niya kasing wala akong capacidad para magfile. :(

haayy sis i wish i could help you  with that...
ng try ka na ba sa mga PAO?

kasi from what i heard you will go first sa womens desk where you reside, you will file a criminal case,   VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN'S AND CHILDREN    Walang bayad ang filing fee then afterwards saka ka mg hire ng lawyer,,yun sa PAO
KAhit panu you make the ist move, baka kahit panu mawindang mo sya..



offtopic 2 but wanna share this with you,, it might help

 i remember my niece was enrolled in A1 driving school when acccidentally she sideswiped a jeep, the stupid operator upon the instruction of the police, sued  my niece  instead ,mybe because they thought that she's a rich kid coz her surname was known to be well off in the town and she's studying in st. scholastica, at that time, my sis knew that the A1 SHOULD BE THE one responsible, so she refused to hire a lawyer they attended the hearing w/o a lawyer then when she was about to be inquest, my sis was coaching her, learning that no one is representing my niece  the fiscal automatically assigned a PAO lawyer then this lawyer wrote the A1, the AI COMPLIED AND PAID THE DAMAGES..,

i would suggest that you pray and ask GOD'S  guidance before making the step, i believe IF its GOD'S WILL, YOU will be guided to the right people...that will help and assist you.. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on December 10, 2010, 03:14:32 am
Hindi pa. Hindi ko nga alam yon. Ive heard of it and a lot of people are telling me to file sa PAO pero what scares me now kasi may kaya sila at maipluwensha baka gumawa at magfile si ex dahil ako may boyfriend na ako ngayon. Gusto ko na lang mag move on at sabi ko sa sarili ko, hahayaan ko na lang sila ng kabit niya magsama, wag na lang niya ako guguluhin at kunin ang anak ko... So far di na nga nya nakikita yung anak namin. Ayokong makisama siya sa kabit ng asawa ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: phurple0515 on January 04, 2011, 10:41:24 am
Question: Until what age pwede humingi ng Child support sa Husband?  Lifetime na ba ito or there is a limit din?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gorgeousmama on January 05, 2011, 12:36:21 am
Question: Until what age pwede humingi ng Child support sa Husband?  Lifetime na ba ito or there is a limit din?

first and foremost sis it depends on the capacity of your husband, the court will decide depending on the father's income AND HIS FINANCIAL CAPABILITY and the needs of the child..

it will depends on the father if he is willing, but UNDER the law me  limit
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gorgeousmama on January 05, 2011, 12:43:58 am
Hindi pa. Hindi ko nga alam yon. Ive heard of it and a lot of people are telling me to file sa PAO pero what scares me now kasi may kaya sila at maipluwensha baka gumawa at magfile si ex dahil ako may boyfriend na ako ngayon. Gusto ko na lang mag move on at sabi ko sa sarili ko, hahayaan ko na lang sila ng kabit niya magsama, wag na lang niya ako guguluhin at kunin ang anak ko... So far di na nga nya nakikita yung anak namin. Ayokong makisama siya sa kabit ng asawa ko.


sis your'e right MOVE ON  ka na lang, anyways you have a bf na, kasi if you wikll pursue the support case ,it will be more complicated your bf will be use against you, double standard
ang batas and besides your child is with you naman

so try to make it on your own, let karma take its course,
for the meantime enjoy your son and your family,,,
that way di ka pa ma stress, :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: phurple0515 on January 05, 2011, 05:20:36 am
^^ thanks sis gorgeousmama.  :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: høtlipz on February 11, 2011, 02:58:13 pm
sana may sumagot sakin.

me and my ex is not married. yung daughter ko is 3 y.o now. before when i was pregnant,  nagpapadala siya ng money though minsan pumapalya talaga. nung nanganak ako, CS kasi ako so mejo malaki talaga nagastos namin sa hospital, i remember 14k lang binigay nya kasama na dun yung mga gamit ng anak ko. then nung nanganak na ako siguro mga 1st 3 months nagpapadala siya pang gatas and diaper, tapos natigil kasi may nanira sakin. tapos nakapag-usap nanaman kami na sustentuhan niya yung bata tapos natigil nanaman kasi gusto ng family niya ipa-DNA test. gusto kong basagin mukha nung ex ko kasi sobrang kamukhang kamukha niya anak ko tatapos sasabihin nila na ipa-dna? grabe. wala nga siyang pangsustento ng maayos sa anak ko makukuha ba nila ipa-dna? nanggigigil talaga ako dun sa dad ng anak ko sobra. pag nireremind ko siya, siya pa ang galit. kapal ng mukha sobra! bakla siya. gusto ko sana mag-file ng legal action against him hindi ko lang alam kung valid kasi hindi kami kasal. sana may makatulong sakin dito. please let me know.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: moonie on February 11, 2011, 09:42:03 pm
Pwede mong habulin for support. Pa-DNA test niya para wala nang pagdududa kung siya ang kailangan magbigay ng suporta sa bata.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mihaihere on February 19, 2011, 11:49:39 pm
sis nakasign ba na sha ang father nung bata? kung oo, you can file for support. at kung hindi takutin mo ng criminal case base on RA 9262

sadly asking support from a man is like asking him to cut his penis off :(
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: singlemommie on May 04, 2011, 06:08:44 pm
please HELP!!! can anyone please send me a sample of a demand letter for child support.

thanks much  :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Hesterliness on May 11, 2011, 12:09:53 am
Anyone of you who knows what to do if ur husband is earning well and does not declare his real earnings to avoid paying taxes and avoiding responsibilities?I do and a lot of us do. :(
First,my husband whom I left 3 years ago is a solid liar and mandarambong.We had two kids,the eldest is with me and my son who is 9 yrs old comes to my apartment depending to his daddy's mood swing.Sometimes he brings my son to me specially if he has a date with her gf(doesn't matter anyway)so I could babysit him.He still lives with his mother along with his nephew and stepfather.Nobody is actually taking care of my son so he learned to take care of himself alone which I am so guilty of.My misery is that I know that letting my son living with them is like another "monster" in the making because of the people around him.They are all crazy,disrespectful,lacks  education,blabbermouth and hopeless so even if I try to correct my son when I see "those people's" attitude in him makes me unworthy of a mother because I couldn't take him out on that jungle.The reason for this is that I can not afford to get him from his father.
I believe that Child support is only a paper and a law that doesn't work for us pinoy.Paying around 15 to 20K for child support agreement which will only be valid for a certain period of time because of the uprising prices of the children's necessities is like flushing money in the toilet.If husband ignores his monthly support then you have to spend another thousand of peso for filing another complain.Hopeless,endless,tiring,isn't it?If I take my son with me I perfectly assumed that he will be good on providing from the start and nothing to the next month.What shall we do to this irresponsible "clueless to Karma" people?Are they generally evil?
I miss my son everyday and it pricks my heart when I see and smell him dirty.I feel like a sinking boat when he talks like "them".His mind can not comprehend yet what tuition fee I was talking about when I am trying to explain why I couldn't get him from her ferocious nagging Lola and Daddy who is so focused to her very much immature gf.I do not know what to say and do when he ask me if he could stay like her Ate because he doesn't want to go back to my inlaws.
It's summer and my son is with me,he never mind of calling his father because he doesn't miss him.I am afraid that his daddy had a plan of giving all the responsibilities to me because my daughter said that her Lola notices that the gf is pregnant.Husband is always telling alibis that he couldn't send our son to school because he had lots of expenses this year and he is helping her gf.He is asking me if Icould take both of the kids and support them as well without his help.Can he hear his self?Of course not.Natuluyan na sa pagka buwang.
I feel so helpless na talaga..The bonus part is kapag bilog ang buwan tumatawag para mambwisit,scary but true walang palya yan.He kept talking 3 hrs staight pag binabaan mo sa celfone tatawag pa rin endlessly.Nun magkasama pa kami kahit hanggan umaga!My goodness talaga..ang sakit sakit sa panga este sa dibdib.Panu va eetoh :'(
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mfs0220 on May 27, 2011, 10:44:11 am
any ideas on how i will be able to file a demand letter for a child support for an ofw ex-husband in POEA or OWWA? Any NGO's who gives assistance to women for free? I don't know kasi where to start, my ex-husband is here in the Philippines for a vacation but will be leaving again 1st week of June. Thanks...
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: wandergirlC on May 31, 2011, 04:36:51 am
^ sis if you're within Metro Manila, go to UP Office of Legal Aid in Diliman. :) Pwede ka din patulong sa PAO, meron ding free legal assitance ang IBP (Julia Vargas in Ortigas ang office) and San Sebastian College of Law.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: hotmom on June 16, 2011, 08:14:22 pm
i need help too how can i claim a child support my ex is in the states we got 2 kids together where can i ask for help and pls do share po ng sample for demand of child support i might try to mail nlang the company where he working in the states...by the way hes american..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on June 16, 2011, 09:15:16 pm
^sis demand letters are supposed to be given by attorneys.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: cool_chique on June 21, 2011, 11:56:32 am
i'm so confused these past weeks
i filed ra 9262 to my korean ex through PAO. we are not married. naghiwalay kami late last year and since then wala talaga siyang sustento so may mga nagadvise sa father ko na ilapit ko nga daw sa PAO. So i did. support ang habol ko pero since korean siya, sabi ng lawyer criminal case 9262 ang ifile muna namin para pwede siyang ihold. kasi pag support case lang, pwede siya umalis ng bansa.

hinihintay ang decision ng fiscal kung iaakyat sa korte yung kaso. while waiting for this, nagfile na ulit kami ng lawyer sa PAO ng child support. what i didn't know kelangan ko pala kumuha ng documents ng income niya. eh ILLEGAL ALIEN siya dito. ilang years na pagsasama namin, wala akong nakitang payslip. ang employer niya dito ay korean din at galit sakin dahil nadadamay daw business niya sa kaso namin. so wala talaga ako makuhang solid proof na may income siya. what i know is meron siya not less than 30k income based on our expenses before. ngayon, DINEDENY NIYA NA MAY INCOME siya at ang pwede lang niya ibigay ay 5K a month which is sabi ng lawyer ko, pwede pang ilaban ng lawyer niya!

ngayon super naguguluhan ako kung itutuloy ang mga kaso o magkanya-kanya na lang kami. kasi super stressful. parang wala na ngang katapusan. Ngayon, kaya kong buhayin anak ko pero once magaral na siya baka next year, grabe, ang laki ng expenses! sabi ng lawyer ko, better ituloy ang cases para ngayon palang maghabol nako kesa pag tumagal pa, di na alam kung san siya hahanapin. ON THE OTHER HAND, parang gusto ko ng less complicated na buhay. since kaya naman niyang walang communication sa anak ko, e kung ituloy tuloy ko nalang kaya. at least hindi sobrang confused ng anak ko habang lumalaki na 2 magkahiwalay na parent ang nagpapalaki sakanya? ipaliwanag ko nalang na mahal siya ng tatay niya pero talagang nagkahiwalay na kami?

o IPADEPORT nalang kaya namin since illegal alien siya dito???
sooooo confused....
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jacky071087 on August 20, 2011, 07:40:44 am
I just want to seek advice from you regarding my situation on what would be the best move or decision to make.

 

I’m currently 5 months pregnant and the father of my baby is one of my officemates. He is married and has 3 kids. We had an extramarital affair. I am single, with 2 kids. He knows I am pregnant and we have talked about it. I told him I only need financial support for my baby since I am also supporting my parents, siblings and my 2 kids. He promised he will take care of my delivery. I told him the estimated cost of CS delivery would be around 50k and he agreed. We had a good relationship except when we had debates and discussions about the support after I give birth. I told him I’m not even demanding for a fixed amount every month and any amount will do because I know he also has his own kids. He doesn’t want to talk to me about it and we started having fights, which in turn greatly affected me emotionally. An incident happened that I had vaginal bleeding and it happened while I was at work. I was on leave for a few days and when I came back, our bosses have learned about my situation. He doesn’t reply to my text messages anymore and even if we see each other everyday at work, it was as if, he didn’t know me. I explained our situation to my bosses and told them what I really needed.

 

Last month, we talked closed doors, with 3 of our bosses as witnesses. I clearly told him what I want but he insisted that he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore. He just said he will ask someone to deposit the money for my delivery but he can’t say directly that he will give support after that. He said “Pwede naman pero ayaw ko ng may communication satin.”.  He even threatened me that if I text or call him, he wont give anything. He said I could give him the child after birth and he would find someone who could take care of the child but I wont see my child anymore. I told him that would not happen because I choose to take care of my child. After our 1 hour of talk, I still didn’t get any assurance from him. One of our bosses recommended having any memorandum of agreement or any written proof that he will agree on giving support but he doesn’t want to. I also told him about me thinking of getting an Affidavit for the child support but he said he wont sign anything. I recorded our conversation, just in case.

 

The last time we talked was when I asked how much he would give for the delivery. We only talked thru chat in our office. He said he doesn’t know how much he could give. I gave him my bank account number. He said he doesn’t want to know or hear anything about me anymore.

 

Right now, I’ve heard that he has a plan to resign and he is absent almost every other day. If he would resign, I know he still would earn from being a photographer. We don’t talk anymore and he also has changed his mobile number so I can’t contact him anymore. Im just worried that I will not get anything even for the delivery. I know where he lives but I don’t want to make any wrong move or even go there just to beg for money. I know his wife and family doesn’t know anything about it yet and I told him I won’t make any scandal.

 

What I really want to happen is to get an assurance that he would support my child in anyway. If he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore, that would be fine as long as he finds a way to give the support. I am planning to take actions after I give birth to avoid stress but not seeing him around and having zero communication worries me a lot.

 

Thank you in advance for any advice that you can give.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: iam_miel on August 24, 2011, 12:38:59 am
the situation isnt about me, but Im concerned about this person...

my chinese ex got his former filipina gf pregnant (his ex before me) & was "blackmailed" into dealing with her in secrecy since napikot lang daw sya & his family might disown him if they find out na nakabuntis sya..It happened months after they had already broken up..He supported her financially, 1.5k per week but stopped sending her money on her 7th month..Since hindi na nya mahagilap si ex, the girl decided to talk to my ex's mom na lang..She told his mom everything, mag-ex na sila pero may nangyayari pa din, na nabuntis sya at gusto daw ni ex na isekreto to protect his family & she agreed provided he'll take care of her & the baby financially..May kaya sila ex, mayaman nga actually (business and stock holder ng hotel sa Binondo), but his mom only agreed to give her 50k for "humanitarian purposes"..The mom said na since si girl daw ay ex-gf na ni ex, hindi daw nila kikilalanin yung bata..Caesarian delivery yung girl & kinulang yung pambayad sa hospital so she asked ex's mom again for money..The mom gave her additional 20k & said last na daw yun, they wont give anymore..They asked the girl to sign an agreement na once she receives the 20k hindi na sya maghahabol for the baby kahit kailan..The girl signed naman to get the baby out of the hospital & kept her word..Hindi na sya nagparamdam dun sa family ng ex ko..

Meron bang laban si girl against my ex's family kung gusto nya maghabol for their child? Honestly, kawawa si girl dahil pobre lang sila, habang yung family naman ni ex nagpapakasawa sa pera..What can she do? I would really wanna help her..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: alright777 on August 30, 2011, 02:21:18 am
I just want to seek advice from you regarding my situation on what would be the best move or decision to make.

 

I’m currently 5 months pregnant and the father of my baby is one of my officemates. He is married and has 3 kids. We had an extramarital affair. I am single, with 2 kids. He knows I am pregnant and we have talked about it. I told him I only need financial support for my baby since I am also supporting my parents, siblings and my 2 kids. He promised he will take care of my delivery. I told him the estimated cost of CS delivery would be around 50k and he agreed. We had a good relationship except when we had debates and discussions about the support after I give birth. I told him I’m not even demanding for a fixed amount every month and any amount will do because I know he also has his own kids. He doesn’t want to talk to me about it and we started having fights, which in turn greatly affected me emotionally. An incident happened that I had vaginal bleeding and it happened while I was at work. I was on leave for a few days and when I came back, our bosses have learned about my situation. He doesn’t reply to my text messages anymore and even if we see each other everyday at work, it was as if, he didn’t know me. I explained our situation to my bosses and told them what I really needed.

 

Last month, we talked closed doors, with 3 of our bosses as witnesses. I clearly told him what I want but he insisted that he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore. He just said he will ask someone to deposit the money for my delivery but he can’t say directly that he will give support after that. He said “Pwede naman pero ayaw ko ng may communication satin.”.  He even threatened me that if I text or call him, he wont give anything. He said I could give him the child after birth and he would find someone who could take care of the child but I wont see my child anymore. I told him that would not happen because I choose to take care of my child. After our 1 hour of talk, I still didn’t get any assurance from him. One of our bosses recommended having any memorandum of agreement or any written proof that he will agree on giving support but he doesn’t want to. I also told him about me thinking of getting an Affidavit for the child support but he said he wont sign anything. I recorded our conversation, just in case.

 

The last time we talked was when I asked how much he would give for the delivery. We only talked thru chat in our office. He said he doesn’t know how much he could give. I gave him my bank account number. He said he doesn’t want to know or hear anything about me anymore.

 

Right now, I’ve heard that he has a plan to resign and he is absent almost every other day. If he would resign, I know he still would earn from being a photographer. We don’t talk anymore and he also has changed his mobile number so I can’t contact him anymore. Im just worried that I will not get anything even for the delivery. I know where he lives but I don’t want to make any wrong move or even go there just to beg for money. I know his wife and family doesn’t know anything about it yet and I told him I won’t make any scandal.

 

What I really want to happen is to get an assurance that he would support my child in anyway. If he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore, that would be fine as long as he finds a way to give the support. I am planning to take actions after I give birth to avoid stress but not seeing him around and having zero communication worries me a lot.

 

Thank you in advance for any advice that you can give.

I feel sorry for you. Sana wag kang ma-offend ha. Pero mali kasi yung ginawa niyo, Since alam mo na pamilyado yung lalake sana di mo na lang siya pinatulan. Ngayon tuloy, problemado ka. :( Sorry sis pero medyo mainit ulo ko sa mga ganyan. Sana maayos mo problema mo. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: peaceinsolitude on October 11, 2011, 06:35:09 am
How much can an ex-girlfriend ask for child support. Alam naman niya na may asawa at anak ang nakabuntis sa kanya though separated?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Hesterliness on October 12, 2011, 08:53:12 pm
File a case against him.Support yourself with documents proving he is the father.This kind of scenario are not surprising since this guy only "did" it for fun.Asking for financial support is like cutting their neck alive so if telling his family about you will pressure him then do so.This is no longer about your mistakes but about your unborn child who is being unwanted by his own father.Just fight for your child's right.He'll do everything to get rid of you and it's your job to make him f***!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: hotmom on October 26, 2011, 04:58:34 pm
can anyone please send me a sample of a demand letter for child support. my ex is american he has 2 kids with me i dont know where to ask some help since im in the province ...

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: NyLyM_nAyR on November 01, 2011, 12:21:23 pm
Help naman mga sis ..my husband is in Canada pero may GF na siya dun..nagpapadala naman siya kaso kulang minsan ako pa nangungulit sa kanya..tapos sinasabihan pa ako ng buwisit daw ako pag pinapaalala ko obligation niya. I want everything to be legal sana para di ko na kelangang mag beg.. Minsan kase sasabihin niya, uy puwede bang ganito muna kase bumili ako ng kotse, bumili ako ng ganito, nasira yung ganito and all..panu ba un? help me naman mga sis...TIA
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: lulay23 on November 02, 2011, 12:22:07 pm
dear all..

need some advice...i dont know how to start it..my ex hubby are already separated for almost 2 years now...may kinakasama na cia..[textspeak!] girl kung bakit kame naghiwalay and to top it all..nag anak pa cia dun..so for the start na naghiwalay kame..wala sia binigay na support...how do i go about it..gusto ko problemahin nya di [textspeak!] support for my daughter..hindi un puro sa isang anak lang nya sa labas..we are still married..

thanks for all the help
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: peaceinsolitude on February 17, 2012, 11:10:25 am
Mga sis pahelp. How long can child support court cases and battles last? And how much ang pwedeng magastos?  I know that an illegitimate child if named sa Dad dapat may sign sa birth cert. Pano if wala? Would it make it longer?

I know that a child wheter illegit has rights pero may panananagutan ba ang father ng chilld sa exgf niya?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on February 17, 2012, 12:19:23 pm
^^same case tayo sis although he never got the girl pregnant and they're not together anymore. first step is, go to your attorney.

some think na mas gugulo if may intervention ng attorney but this is not always the case. actually naging mas maayos pa kami ng husband ko (we're not together) after the demand for child support. he gets to visit the kids and the kids get to have their rights protected.

sa baranggay pa lang naayos na namin. my attorney told me na before court, sa baranggay muna. my attorney send him a demand letter first. tapos noong hindi nagreply, sa baranggay na kami. sa last summon, nagappear sya. yung first two, hindi sumipot.

i'm glad din na naayos namin sa baranggay pa lang kasi kung hindi i will really push the case sa court.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: hotmom on March 09, 2012, 07:18:18 pm
okay lang ba if i write the US consular about askin just child support since american dad ng mga kids ko wala na kasi akong other ways and im totally broke no support for 2 yrs and i really need a financial help from thier dad and i cant afford to pay for the atty..kaya ill try to write them  nalang ..pwede kaya iyon? pls help me and give me some input mga sis..pa email naman kahit draft lang ng demand letter i have no idea kasi....
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: spacemonkey on March 14, 2012, 05:46:11 am
our family is going through this problem right now... and maybe this is more of a rant, but i do need some advice.


my younger brother is still in school, he's training to be a pilot, so he still doesn't have a job.

him and his wife have separated because she'd go out every so often with her friends and leave us with the baby. she's still in college, which my dad paid for, and her allowance would also come from my dad.

her and her family, who are not that well off in the first place, never had to spend for anything, until on their baby's first birthday, she blew up and asked for separation from my brother --- then ran off with the baby.

it wasn't until they ran out of money to take care of her did they return her to us. they're not well off, she doesn't have a decent job, or even a stable place to stay in manila... since she left our house, she stayed with her friends, going from house to house. never even bothered to visit her baby during holidays with us.

i think when she finally realized she needed us (for money) she started being all sweet to my brother and asking for help for allowances, and other things. my brother is a good guy, so he gave her money a couple of times, only to find out she's been using it to party and go drinking with her friends.

and whenever she'd pickup the baby to bring to her parents (bataan), my brother would go with them, take care of transportation, buy milk, buy diapers, and give her more than enough money for the baby, even when all is provided for.

it was good at first, until my brother noticed that whenever he'd send them money, she'd stop replying to him on how the baby is, and would ignore him all over again. only if she needed money (for school allowance and "for the baby") would she contact him again.

also, whenever we'd get the baby, we'd find out shes been buying the cheap brand of diapers for her.

so, just last month, she comes over our house, with no warning, saying that shes taking the baby to bataan. shes been a biitch to my brother all week long, and then while they were about to leave, she asks -- no, demands my brother for money... we said no.

but eventually i caved in and gave her just enough to take the bus home. we swore never to give her money again. BTW, she brought with her the baby's milk and diapers we bought, which was supposed to stay at our house.

then after two weeks, her and her mom sent my brother dozens of texts asking for more money for the baby. my mom just wanted it to be over, so they send money... after a week, they bug my brother again, saying the baby ran out of milk and diapers, which is weird because we sent more than enough money.

we just feel so used. we love the baby so much, and spoil her and give her everything when shes with us, but my brother's ex and her family are NOT contributing anything, and what we want, since the girl wanted to be a single mom, is for her to take some responsibility --- pero wala talaga eh.

is it so bad if we stop giving money? we'd help, if they needed milk, we'll buy milk. if they run out of diapers, we'll send diapers, clothes, new toys, we'd give it to her if she needs it...

but money --- i think we've had enough.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Maldita AKO on March 17, 2012, 07:44:20 am
Hi good morning sissies

what if nabuntis ni guy si girl then ayaw aukin yung responsibilities sa baby, pwde ba masampahan ng kaso yung guy?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: cool_chique on April 15, 2012, 01:09:51 am
dear all..

need some advice...i dont know how to start it..my ex hubby are already separated for almost 2 years now...may kinakasama na cia..[textspeak!] girl kung bakit kame naghiwalay and to top it all..nag anak pa cia dun..so for the start na naghiwalay kame..wala sia binigay na support...how do i go about it..gusto ko problemahin nya di [textspeak!] support for my daughter..hindi un puro sa isang anak lang nya sa labas..we are still married..

thanks for all the help

Sis lamang ka kasi hindi lang anak mo ang pwde mong hingan ng support. Pati ikaw pwede kasi legal wife ka. Basta kumpleto ka ng documents- marriage certificate, birth certificate na may pirma ng asawa mo (acknowledgement, very important). Go to PAO or any lawyer
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: cool_chique on April 15, 2012, 01:25:48 am
How much can an ex-girlfriend ask for child support. Alam naman niya na may asawa at anak ang nakabuntis sa kanya though separated?
Sis you need a document to support that he is the father -birth cert with his signature. You can ask depending how much your baby needs monthly then you can round that up. What is important is that you have proof that he can support your child (example his payslips, business registration,etc). Anything that can prove that he has income. Without this,he can say that he has no job and therefore cannot give support. If you are not married, only your child can ask for support.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jenybasti on April 16, 2012, 07:03:30 am
what if nasa abroad tatay ng mga anak ko?di din kami kasal pero nakapirma sya sa birthcertificate.ano ba dapat gawin?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: crazylove on June 01, 2012, 10:33:15 am
 :) hi mga sis!                     
    may ganitong thread pala..dapat pala sister ko ang nagbabasa nito para makapag-share din dito..anyway, ok naman yung agreement nila ng ex-husband(annulled na sila)..may mga documents silang pinirmahan pareho, nakalagay doon kung magkano monthly ang ibibigay, at yung sa tuition ng bata 50/50 sila..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: crazylove on June 01, 2012, 10:42:26 am
first and foremost sis it depends on the capacity of your husband, the court will decide depending on the father's income AND HIS FINANCIAL CAPABILITY and the needs of the child..

it will depends on the father if he is willing, but UNDER the law me  limit

^^tama ka sis, ang alam ko may limit nga siya..tinago ko yung nabasa ko na column at papakita ko sana sa sister ko..kilalang atty. yung nagsulat doon, di ko na po babanggitin baka po bawal..
       
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: dyeniramos on June 23, 2012, 03:22:56 pm
êmailed you sis.

Hi! pa join sa topic. I too have problems regarding child support. Can you also help me by emailing me a sample. Really appreciate your help on this sis.

thanks.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: lilibethcat on July 05, 2012, 12:57:40 pm
Hi Sisses, nagfile din ako ng for child support.   Pero nagbigay sya ng power of attorney sa abogado nya para he does not have to appear or be cross-examined.  Im asking for half of his salary pero he wants to lower the amount.  Tapos ako ngayon ang gusto i-cross examine ng abogado nya in 2 weeks.  Kabwisit!!!  Wala sya dito ngayon, nagbabakasyon kasama ng kalukadidang nya sa ibang bansa, ang kapal talaga ng mukha!  Naiiyak ako minsan bakit ba ang malas ko naman sa napangasawa ko.  Feeling ko pinapatagal nya process until he gets the chance to leave the country for good eh.  Pwede ba ipa-hold order sya para di na makalabas next time?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chinie on July 13, 2012, 05:13:48 am
Hi Sisses! My brother's case is different. He is already separated from his wife and they have a daughter. Not legally separated though but they were not living together for 2 years na. He continues to support the child. He buys milk and diapers every payday to last for 2 weeks. Inaabot nya dun sa nanay. Walang palya. Ang nakakainis dito hindi naman pinapahiram sa kanya yung bata. HIndi nya nailalabas man lang. Andaming kundisyon kesyo dapat kasama sya eh hindi naman sila sabay nga restday. Gusto ng brother ko kahit man lang weekend eh makasama naman nya yung bata kahit once a week lang. Tapos nagyon mas sobra makademand kulang daw yung binibigay eh hindi rin naman malaki sweldo ng brother ko sakto lang and he's renting on his own so sakto lang talaga. 50/50 din sila sa tuition. My brother sends na lang the money thru wire transfer kasi ayaw nya makita pagmumuka nung nanay since ayaw naman ipakita yung anak nya. Ngayon nagsend pa daw sya ng demand letter, yung kapatid ko naman nakikipagmatigasan na din kasi bakit sya magbibigay eh ayaw naman ipahiram sa kanya. Sobrang nakakainis kasi kami gusto din namin makita pamangkin namin pero hindi pwede. Ang kapal! Sorry ha pero sobrang kapal talaga..I noticed puro side ng mothers andito pero ano ba dapat gawin dito? Sobrang unfair kasi. Hindi naman nagkukulang sa sustento. Tapos eto pa nalaman namin na andami nakaplano na bakasyon neto ni ate so kaya siguro para wala na syang gastusin sa anak nila. Kung makapagsabi sya ng gastos parang hindi nya anak yung pinapakain nya. Ok lang namin samin na samin na lang yung bata. Ano ba pwede ifile or para magkaron sila ng compromise. Ang lakas kasi ng loob nya kasi nasa kanya yung bata. Help naman mga sis..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: L.B. on July 19, 2012, 12:20:07 pm
^ aww! bakit ganyan naman yung gurl, rights naman ng father na makita ang anak kahit na hiwalay na sila. bakit niya ipagdadamot since nagbibigay naman bro mo, unfair nga yun!
^dapat mag-usap sila nung gurl kung pano set-up nila sa bata, or pwede rin siguro na gawa sila ng agreement. kung ayaw talaga ng gurl, abay kuha ng kayo ng legal adviser/ attorney kaya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chinie on July 20, 2012, 12:55:39 am
^feeling ko kasi hindi pa sya nakakamove on..me girlfriend na kasi yung kapatid ko now..yun ang ginagamit nya para makaganti siguro..gusto na lang ng kapatid ko maging maayos sila para sa bata pero hindi na ata talaga magkakabalikan. Mga bata pa kasi tong mga to, masyado lang nagpadalos dalos  >:(. Yung girl pa nagfile ng demand parang hindi nagsusutento. Question is pwede bang mabago yung mga nakalagay dun para maging fair naman? Nakalagay kasi dun puro kundisyon nung girl.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on July 20, 2012, 09:43:52 am
^that's just her demand, now its up to your brother na linisin sarili nya from all the accusations.

Sis, I have to be honest here, I understand the case of the wife because that's exactly my demands too. I hate to differ pero siguro you can also use my opinion to understand where the girl is coming from. Peace.

Like the wife, my first demand was for the father not to be able to go out with the kids without my presence. Why? Because when umalis sya sa buhay namin, and when he decided to flirt with other girls, I was the one who stood strong for the kids. I was the one who pretended that life was still beautiful despite the aches that their father was giving. I was the one who had to protect the kids from other people's talkings like "yung dad nila nakita ko may kasama iba". I had to explain the painful truth in the most subtle ways just for the kids to still remain positive about life, about their father. 

And when umalis sya, the kids' life started to revolve around me. Ako lahat from simple everyday events to family day sa school. Tapos all of a sudden just because gusto na ng dad umeksena, magbabago lahat yung usual routine namin? No. Hindi sa ayaw ko maging part sya ng life namin because the truth is, I begged too many times for him to at least spare some time with the kids but he was too busy flirting around. So if he wants to be really a dad to his kids, ang sakin lang, take it slowly. Sasama muna ako during the first few meetings para maging at ease naman yung bata. My condition was not to bring the kids sa bahay nila until the time na close na sila ulit as a father. This way, hindi masschock yung bata. 

I hope maayos na ng brother mo ang problem. Its about compromise lang naman. Nagkasundo kami ng husband ko sa ganung setup and I like to believe we're ok now. He's now part of the kids' life, more than before. And I must agree, kelangan sa magasawa may legal intervention para yung mga conflicts maayos. Nung una I thought magaaway lang kami but through legal arrangement, naging friends ulit ki. Good luck.



Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jenybasti on July 21, 2012, 02:36:28 am
ibang usapan din kasi pag nagloko yung lalaki dba..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Marshmallow on July 24, 2012, 01:04:50 am
Ask ko lang.. Ilan percent from sweldo ba dapat ibigay ng lalaki sa bata? Yun cousin ko kasi magpapa annull na sila tapos yun lalaki 12k lang bigay tapos pumapalya pa. Engr. si lalake sa magandang company.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on July 24, 2012, 08:36:06 am
^sa settlement ang dapat daw is 70/30. 70 percent sa bata tapos 30 percent na lang matitira sa kanya. pero pumayag na ako sa 50/50. although i know pineke nya yung document about how much income nya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jenybasti on July 24, 2012, 02:02:02 pm
nasa abroad yung tatay ng mga anak ko.gusto ko lang malaman kung anong legal action dapat kong gawin pag di sya nagpadala??
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Marshmallow on July 24, 2012, 08:03:42 pm
Chiqmom, thank you. Sabihan ko cousin ko about that. Hindi pa naman sila nag start sa annullment. kasi ang lalaki gusto makipaghiwalay. Yun cousin ko nasa Singapore.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: pinklilac on July 24, 2012, 09:19:55 pm
Mga sis pano kung self employed lang si ex at walang fix  income.dati kase parang diniscourage ako ng lawyer na kesyo  di employed si lalake at wala proof of income kaya pede magdahilan na walang kita.
May ganito na bang sitwasyon sa inyo?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on July 25, 2012, 01:47:20 am
Hi all! Can you recommend a lawyer re. my boyfriend's case?

Kasi naghiwalay sila ng ex girlfriend niya 4 years ago and he's been supporting his child naman. Pero sa tingin ko lang naman eh sobra sobra na? Kasi si BF yung nag papaaral (full tuition,books,uniform,miscellaneous, baon kada buwan) and sometimes the ex will text us asking for an amount of money na nakikita ko lang sa Facebook niya na she's using it for her gimmicks.

Sobrang mabait si BF kaya eto naman siya bigay. Katulad ng birthday, the ex wanted a bonggang birthday celebration but clearly they cannot afford it so shes asking BF for money.

Sa totoo lang, yung status ng girl, literal taga squatters area, pati ugali nya squatter din mga sis. Everytime magtetext yun asking for money, may kasamang mga mura "PuT@ naman magbigay ka naman ng pera sa anak mo." As if hindi kami nagbibigay ng pera sa kanya. Nakakasama ng loob. Nagagalit ako pero wala akong magawa.

Gusto ko nang gawing legal, matapos na to. My BFs monthly pay isnt enough for the money shes asking us. Ako palagi ang nasasabit. Im a single parent myself. I work and earn for my son kasi wala akong makuhang support sa dad niya. Hindi nako humingi ng child support kasi what the heck, sasakit lang ulo ko kakahingi, itatrabaho ko na lang.

Nagagalit ako, gusto ko na magkaron ng ending itong paghihingi niya. Nagbibigay naman kami pero clearly it isn't enough.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ivy u. on July 25, 2012, 12:53:22 pm
hi sis kikaygimikera,
   buti nalang sis x-gf niya lang yun kung hindi mas malaki problema..
   parang may nabasa ko somewhere na depende sa net ng bf mo kung magkano lang pwede ibigay sa child. hindi naman siguro pwedeng ipilit ang hindi naman kaya ng bf mo, lalo na kung minimum average lang sahod niya..
  daanin niyo nalang sa legal process, tsaka kausapin niyo narin siguro yung X niya para tahimik nalang kayo pare-pareho..

 :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on July 25, 2012, 05:12:37 pm
Jojo2978: mag 7 years old po this August 4 yung bata. Can you elaborate please? Paanong custody case and sabit na yung support? Gusto ko sana legal na para wala nang kung ano tinatalak yung ex nya.

Ivy u.: oo sis. My bf is supporting a huge amount na hindi na nya kaya. Maliit kuno pero kung itototal mo malaki din. Ako [textspeak!] umaako. Mag gf and bf pa lang kami pero parang asawa lang ako na nagbibigay ng support. I don't know where to start.

Jojo2978 can u pm me for details.?I hope we can meet up.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ivy u. on July 26, 2012, 12:14:45 pm
^ aww! bakit naman ganun sis, abonado kapa. parang di naman yata tama.

share ko lang yung sa pinsan ko(2nd cousin), alam ko nanalo yung case niya about child custody, way back 2003 yata yun so medyo matagal narin. nga pala yung pinsan ko lalake at maganda rin naman yung work niya sa manila..

10 years old na yata yung bata that time..sabi kasi pag-under 7years old pababa sa nanay talaga ang custody pero pag over na sa 7 pwede na ilaban yung custody ng bata. nga pala hindi rin pala kasal yung 2, nabuntis niya nung college pa sila pareho..maayos naman sila nun, may sustento every month, sa school lahat sagot niya. but then, parang hindi daw kuntento si girl. siguro naburyung na si pinsan sa kulit nung babae, nagfile na lang siya ng child custody, tinanong naman daw yung bata kung kanino gusto sumama, eh gusto sa papa niya ayun wala magawa si girl..at least daw sa kanya ang bata control niya mga gastusin.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chinie on July 27, 2012, 06:10:00 am
^that's just her demand, now its up to your brother na linisin sarili nya from all the accusations.

Sis, I have to be honest here, I understand the case of the wife because that's exactly my demands too. I hate to differ pero siguro you can also use my opinion to understand where the girl is coming from. Peace.

Like the wife, my first demand was for the father not to be able to go out with the kids without my presence. Why? Because when umalis sya sa buhay namin, and when he decided to flirt with other girls, I was the one who stood strong for the kids. I was the one who pretended that life was still beautiful despite the aches that their father was giving. I was the one who had to protect the kids from other people's talkings like "yung dad nila nakita ko may kasama iba". I had to explain the painful truth in the most subtle ways just for the kids to still remain positive about life, about their father. 

And when umalis sya, the kids' life started to revolve around me. Ako lahat from simple everyday events to family day sa school. Tapos all of a sudden just because gusto na ng dad umeksena, magbabago lahat yung usual routine namin? No. Hindi sa ayaw ko maging part sya ng life namin because the truth is, I begged too many times for him to at least spare some time with the kids but he was too busy flirting around. So if he wants to be really a dad to his kids, ang sakin lang, take it slowly. Sasama muna ako during the first few meetings para maging at ease naman yung bata. My condition was not to bring the kids sa bahay nila until the time na close na sila ulit as a father. This way, hindi masschock yung bata. 

I hope maayos na ng brother mo ang problem. Its about compromise lang naman. Nagkasundo kami ng husband ko sa ganung setup and I like to believe we're ok now. He's now part of the kids' life, more than before. And I must agree, kelangan sa magasawa may legal intervention para yung mga conflicts maayos. Nung una I thought magaaway lang kami but through legal arrangement, naging friends ulit ki. Good luck.


Thanks for the reply sis..hindi sila naghiwalay because of third party, hindi talaga sila nagkasundo na lang. Yung girl kasi parang late bloomer kung kelan nagkaasawa tsaka natutong gumimik and hindi nagpapaalam na naging cause ng lagi nilang pagaaway. Sana nga maayos na nila and makamove on na din yung girl sobra talagang manggipit eh. Pero pinagpapasensyahan na lang muna ng brother ko yung ex nya and continues to give in to her demands makita lang yung bata. Hinhintay na nga lang nung kapatid ko na dumating na sa age anak nila na pwede na mamili regarding custody. And wala din naman syang extrang money to go thru legalities so super pasensya na nga lang talaga and divine intervention. Sana kasing lawak mo magisip yung ex ng kapatid ko and hindi sarili lang ang iniisip. Kais sa ginagawa nya yung anak din nila nagsusuffer.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: lawyer_mom on September 10, 2012, 01:08:48 pm
for husbands abroad na hindi nagbibigay ng support the easiest way is to file a complaint for RA 9262, you don't need a lawyer for this except for the preparation of the complaint-affidavit. The prosecutor will handle your case. The court will also issue a warrant of arrest against the erring husband. in case of the husband who wants to see their child, the remedy is to file a petition for visitation rights and ask for court supervised visitation
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jenybasti on September 28, 2012, 05:16:38 pm
^ sis san ba makakakuha ng kopya ng affidavit for child support?pwede kaya padala ko sa kanya yun tapos papirmahin ko sya??
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: llijenna on October 10, 2012, 12:40:26 am
Hi ,

Anyone who has an idea if how much lawyers charge for drafting a demand letter?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: loveann on October 15, 2012, 08:55:45 am
HI Sis,
Paano po kung walang work yun ex-husband tapos ang income lang
is yun tricyle business?
Paano po ako makakakuha ng sustento nun? :'( :'(
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Ellis on January 10, 2013, 10:15:09 am
Hi, someone I know needs a sample of a demand letter for child support, can somebody please send me one - (email removed, pls pm me instead)

Thank you very much.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: anonymous09 on March 23, 2013, 08:30:36 am
I need a Letter sample too... Please PM me...
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: lanzyang on March 27, 2013, 10:58:54 am
@kikaygimikera pwede din  pa  send me also demand letter for child support please....lanzyang3845@gmail.com
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: dyeniramos on April 07, 2013, 05:51:53 pm
Hi sis,

Can you recommend a lawyer / mediator that can help me with child support?

I'm also one of those who seek child support from the father of my 3 kids. Good thing is nagbibigay naman kaya lang pahirapan. We've settled in what form and the terms of the child support and everything is documented duly signed by both parties kaso di naman nasusunod. Ngayon sya pa itong may ganang humingi ng dialogue and amend the amount of the child support he gives kasi enough lang daw nakukuha nya sweldo. Malakas ang loob ko na he's lying because we work in the same company and alam ko how much he gets every payday.  Kaya sya hirap because he has 2 kids with his kerida which he also support.

I have not taken any legal actions yet, but i told him that if he wants to discuss the child support I would require a mediator or lawyer who can mediate for us fairly. kasi kung kami kami lang wala nangyayari.

Sana anyone here can recommend. thanks.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: viellemacey on April 16, 2013, 03:51:51 pm
i'm just curious if kahit ba illegitimate child pwede i-ask ng support sa father? kasi my dau is not carrying his name cause he disappear when i'm still pregnant.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikai on April 17, 2013, 07:03:01 pm
i had friends who are single moms.

case 1- child from a one night stand (she got depressed at got drunk at kay friend nag sob story)- she filed for child support- she established the proof of paternity via DNA. kaso paulit ulit kasi pag nag fail yung guy na magbigay (kasi naman lump sum ang demand ng girl).. and also hindi naman kasi sila mag ex bf/gf.. and the guy got married a few months after preggy sya...kasi me real GF naman

sabi daw sa kanya ng lawyer if kaya nya buhayin anak nya medyo mapagod na sya maghabol kasi nga paulit ulit na lang sila nagkikita sa court.. kawawa yung bata..sapilitan lang dahil sa isang gabing kahinaan ng magulang nya..

case 2- mag ex sila tho muntik na sila ikasal kaso nakabuntis ng iba din.. and married the latter... she asked if paano pagmag file sya..

the lawyer advised her proof of paternity kahit daw nasa birth cert, the court will still ask.. then validate if me work at how much income plus income ng girl.. and the expenses ng child...then the court will tell how much support dapat bigay based sa capacity..

if time comes nag fail mag support file ulit ng case..she decided wag na lang kasi me work naman sya at matatahimik pa sila..

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: viellemacey on April 17, 2013, 08:13:34 pm
^much better yung hayaan na nga lang para matahimik.

i just asked kung pwede child support sa case ng anak ko kasi somebody told me ( common friend namin ng dad ni baby ) na guy's family want a dna test para sure sila na tamang tanggapin nila ang baby ko. wow ah! sila pa may gana magganun, buti sana kung court yung nagdemand ng dna test kaya lang hindi eh, sila mismo mga adik sila.
ang say ko naman pagnaprove na sya ang daddy i will file for a child support and a danyos perwisyo amounting to 1M ( enough lang para makabog ang buhay nila ) for having a doubt on my child at para sa paghusga sa kredibilidad ko bilang isang babae at ina. aba sampal kaya sa muka ko yung hingan pa ko ng dna test para mapatunayan na kanya ang baby, hindi kami mahirap para perahan sila at lalong hindi ako pakawala/pokpok para hindi masigurado kung sino ang ama ng anak ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: crazybeautiful_ on May 27, 2013, 04:27:31 am
Help! I would like to ask for child support from my ex who I have a son with.

Back story: I was 16, he was 23. I had NO idea he's already married. Naka pirma sya sa [textspeak!] ng son ko.

So now I'm married. :) Prob is my husband doesn't want to ask anything from him, at first ayoko din naman. Pero now thinking about it, it'll make my life at least a little easier.

So how do I go about it po? Ayoko padala letter sa bahay nila kase pakialamera nanay nya. I want it between me and him lang. I want to ask kahit nako 5k nga lang per month carry na. Para lang pandagdag sa tuition ng bata and swimming lessons.

Does anyone have a draft letter? Okay kaya padala ko sa workplace nya instead?

What cases can I file him in case he does not cooperate?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on May 27, 2013, 09:04:02 am
^^^ criminal case? RAPE  8)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: crazybeautiful_ on May 27, 2013, 02:00:19 pm
^ I was told as well. Statutory rape nga daw. But I don't know how to deliver it in a letter that I am asking for an x amount of money, or else I will file him that. Di ba nya ko pwede balikan ng threat nyan?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: joinme on May 28, 2013, 10:27:42 am
^hi po, sana po may makasagot sakin..

annulled po ako sa x husband ko 2 years ago, bale sa tuition 50/50 kami, sa allowance is 5k a month, yan ang agreement namin..gov't employee sha(police po ito), ang tanong ko lang is pwede kaya na makakuha din anak ko sa mga bonuses(midyear/endyear bonus) niya at allowance? o dapat sa net(sahod) lang talaga niya?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on May 28, 2013, 02:14:49 pm
^^^ yung support will vary, depende kung lumalaki pangangailangan ng bata and kung makakausap mo naman siya and masasabi na dagdagan kasi lumalaki rin gastusin para sa anak ninyo, wala namang problema.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on May 28, 2013, 02:25:06 pm
@crazybeautiful_ kausapin mo na lang through barangay na lang. doon mo sabihin ang hinihingi mo pag nag usap kayo para may witness and may minutes. if doon pa lang ayaw na niya then pag isipan mo na lang next step mo.  kaw nakakaalam kung paano mag isip ex mo, di ko alam kung paano ka niya babalikan sa mga gagawin mo. Good luck.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: joinme on May 29, 2013, 09:45:31 am
^^^ yung support will vary, depende kung lumalaki pangangailangan ng bata and kung makakausap mo naman siya and masasabi na dagdagan kasi lumalaki rin gastusin para sa anak ninyo, wala namang problema.

^hi sis, thank you..sa ngayon kasi may asawa na rin sha at kasal na rin sila..nasabi ko na dati na kung pwede ay hati sila ng anak ko sa bonus niya kaso ayaw niya kasi may pamilya na raw sha..kung diretso kaya ako sa office nila para sa demand ko pwede kaya yun? ang alam ko na net pay niya ngayon ay 15k +. sa tingin tama lang ba yung 5k a month?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: crazybeautiful_ on June 04, 2013, 04:28:06 am
@crazybeautiful_ kausapin mo na lang through barangay na lang. doon mo sabihin ang hinihingi mo pag nag usap kayo para may witness and may minutes. if doon pa lang ayaw na niya then pag isipan mo na lang next step mo.  kaw nakakaalam kung paano mag isip ex mo, di ko alam kung paano ka niya babalikan sa mga gagawin mo. Good luck.

Yun na. When you mentioned na alam ko pano mag isip ex ko, nawalan na ako ng pagasa. Haaayy. Problem dun is his mom is so pakialamera pa. Aurg.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ladyarcher on July 12, 2013, 05:14:55 pm
hi, i also need a draft letter. would any one here give sample?thanks
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: agape on May 28, 2014, 10:36:15 am
How much monthly do you ask for child support?
How do you make it legal or in paper?

Given: unwed mother with 7 yr old illegitimate child, biological father just got married to another with 1 child, who is also a seaman and working abroad.

What does the seaman employment agency can say about this?
What does POEA say about this? I heard that POEA has rules 80% income goes to seaman's legal family automatically. Is this true?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: iam.Arianna on June 07, 2014, 02:21:10 pm
Hello Girltalkers! :)

Eto po pinaka malaking problema ko ilang taon na. May anak po ako lalaki 6yrs.old na sya ngayon.. Nag aaral na rin at grade 1 na sya. Hindi po kamr kasal ng ama nya. Ilang taon na rin po syang hindi na sinusustehtuhan nung ex ko. Masasabe ko pong sobrang iresponsable nung taong yun dahil kinalimutan na nya ang lahat ng responsibilidad nya sa anak namen. :( Ako at ang magulang ko nalang ang bumubuhay sa anak ko pero hirap din kame sa buhay at hindi sapat ang kinikita ko. Pwede ko ba syang kasuhan sa ginawa nyang pag abandona sa anak namen? Hindi po kame kasal pero sakanya naka-apelyido ang bata. Wala rin po pala syang trabaho dahil tamad syang magtrabaho kase nakasandal parin sya sa magulang at mga ate nya hanggang ngayon na 27yrs old na sya. Pero naisip ko na kung oobligahin ko sya na magsustento sa anak nya eh mapilitan syang kumayod para may maisustento sya sa bata. Kaya rin po pala humahabol ako ngayon sa pagsustento sa anak namen dahil ilang years na pong pabalik balik ang sakit ng bata sa tenga nya both ears.. :( at napakamahal po ng nga gamot sa tenga dahil malala narin. Ano po ba ang mga legal na step na gagawen ko? Sana po matulungan nyo ko. Mahirap po talagang maging single mother at masaket sakin na nahihirapan yung anak ko sa saket nya... Maraming salamat po.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: vhina22 on June 19, 2014, 05:12:32 am
Hello Girltalkers! :)

Eto po pinaka malaking problema ko ilang taon na. May anak po ako lalaki 6yrs.old na sya ngayon.. Nag aaral na rin at grade 1 na sya. Hindi po kamr kasal ng ama nya. Ilang taon na rin po syang hindi na sinusustehtuhan nung ex ko. Masasabe ko pong sobrang iresponsable nung taong yun dahil kinalimutan na nya ang lahat ng responsibilidad nya sa anak namen. :( Ako at ang magulang ko nalang ang bumubuhay sa anak ko pero hirap din kame sa buhay at hindi sapat ang kinikita ko. Pwede ko ba syang kasuhan sa ginawa nyang pag abandona sa anak namen? Hindi po kame kasal pero sakanya naka-apelyido ang bata. Wala rin po pala syang trabaho dahil tamad syang magtrabaho kase nakasandal parin sya sa magulang at mga ate nya hanggang ngayon na 27yrs old na sya. Pero naisip ko na kung oobligahin ko sya na magsustento sa anak nya eh mapilitan syang kumayod para may maisustento sya sa bata. Kaya rin po pala humahabol ako ngayon sa pagsustento sa anak namen dahil ilang years na pong pabalik balik ang sakit ng bata sa tenga nya both ears.. :( at napakamahal po ng nga gamot sa tenga dahil malala narin. Ano po ba ang mga legal na step na gagawen ko? Sana po matulungan nyo ko. Mahirap po talagang maging single mother at masaket sakin na nahihirapan yung anak ko sa saket nya... Maraming salamat po.

Nakakainis talaga yung mga lalaking ganyan. napaka-iresponsable.. If i were you, ipakulong mo nalang yan para magtanda. As far as i know, child support kasi depends on the capacity of the person to give support. If he is not working e di wala rin syang mabibigay sayo. The court cant compel him to give you support kasi wala syang source of income. Pero pwede yata sya sa violence against women na case coz he is depriving you of financial support. Yung intent dun is that he is not even trying to find work to give you financial support. Anyways.. you should go to PAO and ask. It's a criminal case so pwede sya makulong. Malay mo once na pinadalhan sya ng demand letter ng lawyer matakot tas tulungan ka kahit pano sa expenses.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on June 19, 2014, 07:56:55 am
^you're right sis pwede sa RA  9262. it will fall under financial abuse. pag walang capacity si lalake magbigay ie. no work or maliit income pwede obligahin ang parents ni lalake mag child support. they cannot say no dahil pwedeng kasuhan ang family nila. but better consult a lawyer regarding this para mas accurate. go to PAO sa city hall iyan kung saan ka nakatira. free lang ang consultation.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: gharz412 on June 27, 2014, 02:59:47 pm
what shall be the first thing that i'll shall do if the father of my son keeps on ignoring him and worst di pa nagbibigay. Ddresto na ba ako sa Lawyer? sa estranged hubby? or sa inlaws ko? wala kasing work si estranged hubby now....  :-[
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: tiggerlily on June 27, 2014, 04:46:21 pm
just curious, what if it's the other way around. like si girl ang umalis para "daw" makapagprovide sya sa anak nya pero turns out walang ipinadala ever. so si guy ang gumastos ng lahat. kapag sa guy ba naiwan ang bata, paano sya hihingi ng sustento? or that never happens?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: cool_chique on July 03, 2014, 02:40:58 am
I have backread already but i can't seem to find the answer. How much would it cost to file a child support case with the help of a private lawyer? NagPAO kasi ako dati so wala gastos pero ikaw talaga magaabang syempre sa availability ng lawyer mo.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: anniegurl on July 03, 2014, 06:32:51 am
i have a 12 year old son. hisfather hasnt provided for his needs for the longest time. We tried to make arrangements before pero sumasakit lang ulo ko so i decided not to stress myself and just let it be. I havent asked for support from him since then. last summer he called me and asked if naka enrol na yung anak ko. I said not yet he then asked for the summary of expenses. So sinend ko sa kanya and he said parang sobra naman daw yung gastos. Parang he was telling me na pinapatungan ko. I just said my piece and stopped talking to him again. Mas peaceful and stress free if he's not involved. It may be hard sisses to raise our kids on our own. Pero it will be super rewarding.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: chiqmom on July 03, 2014, 10:26:09 am
^^sis, child support is now handled by the baranggay so you do not need a lawyer during the first part of your case. its only after hindi maresolve sa baranggay that you can go to the court.

if this can help, i will share the process of what i did:

1. exhaust all means to convince the father to give child support.
2. talked to a lawyer for an advice. he asked for a minimal fee (consultation fee) then an additional charge for the courier service so he can  send the demand letter to the father's address, his family, and some of his closest friends and relatives. this is to ensure na matanggap talaga ng father yung demand letter.
3. the lawyer advised me to bring the case to the father's baranggay.
4. the baranggay captain sent letters to the father, asking him to appear before them
5. we had 3 meetings yata with the father so we can resolve the child support case. first meeting is yung concern lang tinackle then i asked the father to give us a certification to how much exactly he is earning. second meeting dala nya na yun and dala ko na din yung breakdown ng expenses ng mga bata. third meeting, nagkaroon na ng settlement.

sabi ng lawyer ko, only after this can we proceed to the court. the baranggay will issue a certification na hindi naayos yung issue sa level nila, so if ever pwede na kami magproceed sa korte.

but thankfully, naayos din kahit sa baranggay pa lang.  :)

The process was so stressful for me. I talked to several lawyers before (both from PAO and private firms) to the point na they were asking me na whether I want to file a criminal or a civil case. Until I found this lawyer who gave me the easier process of dealing with this case.

I know some would say na why should I stress about the child support case when I can provide for my kids needs naman. I admit, I came to the point na iniisip ko huwag na lang, kung ayaw niya e d ok lang kasi masyado lang stressful. I even thought mas magiging malala away namin if I proceed with the case. Pero the opposite happened. The kids can now feel their father's presence kasi the father also asked for his visitation rights. Mas magaan na din sakin yung gastos, I can provide better things to my kids. Thank God. But specially, better na din yung relationship namin ng father nila. We are friends now. Wala na away, so mas positive na din outlook ko sa buhay.  :)

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: cool_chique on July 03, 2014, 02:25:03 pm
^Thank you sis, this is super helpful! Dati kasi,year 2011 or 2012, pwede direcho sa court. Sa baranggay na pala muna ngayon.

In my case before thru PAO, i filed ra9262 first kasi korean yung daddy ng daughter ko at para mapawatchlist ko (super hassle nito kasi criminal case). Then nung napawatchlist ko na (wala na daw watchlist ngayon), i filed child support case. Medyo mabilis yung child support case, parang after 2 weeks ko magfile, may schedule na kami sa court. Sa 2nd meeting sa court, don ko na sana ibibigay yung bank account ko para don ihuhulog yung inooffer niyang 5k for our 3 or 4 yr old daughter then (dineny niya na may work sya rito). Pero sa 2nd meeting namin, sabi ko iuurong ko na un child support case. Nastress kasi ako sa visitation rights niya. Sabi kasi sakin ng PAO lawyer ko non, pwedeng irequest ng father na walang chaperone pag hihiramin niya kaya natakot naman ako. Sa halagang 5k monthly, kakaba kaba kami non? Kaya i decided not to proceed with the case.

True, super stressful. Pero ngayon, i think kelangan na talaga ng financial support ng daddy niya dahil lumalaki na rin ng needs niya since nasa gradeschool na. Married na rin ngayon si ex kaya i think, he wouldn't mind his visitation rights over my daughter.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: bonita8888 on August 02, 2014, 04:06:40 am
hi mga sissies, my son is 15 yrs. old na puede pa ba ko humingi ng child support sa ex ko? married kami pero may family na sya with 2 sons sa kabit at ganun din naman ako, pahelp naman mga sis tia!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kvan on August 02, 2014, 04:38:52 am
^ I'm not sure about the percentage eh. Based on what I've read kasi pag illegitimate (since this is my concern cos my kids are illegitimate) it should be 50% of all the total expenses nun child yung ibibigay ng father. Pag legitimate I dont know. Parang it depends on the financial capacity ng father? Kasi from what I;ve heard parang ganun.

I just read this thread and I am flabbergasted at the double standard sa batas sa Pilipinas. Kesyo legitimate or hindi, that's not suppose to be the problem of the child.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: thestargazer on August 03, 2014, 11:17:32 pm
I just read this thread and I am flabbergasted at the double standard sa batas sa Pilipinas. Kesyo legitimate or hindi, that's not suppose to be the problem of the child.

sad to say May barrier talaga illegit at legit child....kawawa ang illegit di naman nila kasalanan...Kung ang tatay naman pinabayaan ang anak...good riddance...walang kwentang Tao sya, in short....I mean di kasalanan ng bata sa gulo ng magulang, tsk, tsk....
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on August 04, 2014, 05:01:12 pm
FYI lang Sisses, we are talking of support not inheritance.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: annamarie88 on August 19, 2014, 05:36:56 am
What if nasa 400,000k monthly sweldo ng illegitimate tatay? Magkano kaya dapat nya isustento?

^sa settlement ang dapat daw is 70/30. 70 percent sa bata tapos 30 percent na lang matitira sa kanya. pero pumayag na ako sa 50/50. although i know pineke nya yung document about how much income nya.

Kung 70% sa bata (ng sweldo ni IL father) wala na matitira mejo hehe

Pero this IL father na friend of mine, nako, niloko lang ng babae na may pagkabitc** ang dating kasi kasal na pala sa akala ni IL father na "ex" ng girl, at nagpakasal pa ulit sa friend ko na kawawa.. So ang annulment nila ngayon nakafile na, pero magkano ba dapat ibigay nya? Dapat lahat ng school expenses sa kanya, sabi ko nga bili na lang sya lahat ng needs nung bata, kasi this girl lagi din nagsasabi noon na marami utang nanay nya at sya naman ay walang work din.. So hindi ka sure kung saan gagastusin ng girl yung pera diba? I'm thinking 10k cash malaki na kung sya naman sa lahat, school, medical, yaya, grocery.. Diba?? :) sarap ng buhay ng girl kung sustento lang sya kasi yun talaga plano nya, kilala na gold digger.. Kaya nga sya nagpilit magpabuntis at pakasal kahit kasal na sya sa sa isang ofw ::)

At saka papa dna nya pa din talaga muna yung baby bilang kasal na nga yung demo******* girl..
Ang gulo ng ganitong life.. Sa totoo..

My brother sinustentuhan nya kid nya, tuition and all plus cash na hindi ko matanong hehe pero gusto din ng mom ko pa dna muna and magbigay na lang sya in kind at konting cash, kasi bata pa naman yun, wala pa masyado gastos kasi covered na lahat..

I know a few friends also, hindi na naghahabol sa mga IL fathers ng kids nila, kahit mahirap buhay, kasi hirap nga for example din, pag may asawa na yung girl diba, parang ang gulo, may weekends pa sa daddy.. Hehe ayaw na lang nila ng connection whatsoever, not naman sa dinedeprive ang kids sa ama, sabi nila, they don't need their tatay, even their kids ayaw din naman sa dads nila just because & i would agree, kung kaya ko naman buhayin ko, hindi na ako maghahabol for child support.. Lalo at happily married or happy naman together kahit single mom.. But that's just me..  ;)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on August 19, 2014, 06:01:25 pm
Substantiated siguro dapat yung amount ng support with respect sa demand for it. Example, tuition fee - xxxx, food and clothing, xxxx, etc. Kung may receipt na maprepresent mas maganda.

I don't think na specific percentage ng sweldo ng father ng illegitimate child mapupunta automatically sa bata. Syempre dapat justified.

If in case naman, mas malaki needs ng bata kaysa sa capability ng father, mag adjust pa rin. Example 10k/monthly sweldo ng father, gastos ng bata is 20k, syempre di maibibigay ng father, perhaps mag rule ang court if no agreement will be reached by the parties na tempered ang monthly, like 2 to 3k. Paano masusuportahan ng father ang bata kung wala siya pang sustenance ng sarili niya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kvan on August 19, 2014, 10:30:09 pm
Sa Canada, merong table of income and corresponding amount to simplify things for those who fixed income earner. The parent who receives the child support does not need to provide receipts. And the parent who has physical custody gets tax breaks and gets the child bonus.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: iam.Arianna on September 03, 2014, 09:49:07 pm
Question lang mga sis,

Pwede ba ako humingi ng child support sa tatay ng anak ko kahit wala syang trabaho? Gusto ko sana sya obligahin na talaga na magsustento naman sa anak namen.. 6yrs old na yung bata pero wala naman sya nabibigay kahit magkano simula pa 2yrs old... :( nag aaral na yung ana namen at wala naman din ako trabaho pa ngayon.. sa mga kamag anak lang din kame nakaka hingi ng baon ng bata.. hayy ang hirap kase talaga yung bata ang kawawa sa nangyare.

Yun kase ang dahilan nung ex ko na wala naman syang trabaho kaya wala sya ibibigay. At mga sis, may bisyo pala sya kaya ganun sya kawalang kwentang tatay! :( Yung friend ko kase napa-demanda nya yung ex nya kase hindi nagsusutento pero may work naman kase yung guy na ex ng friend ko. Eh ko yung ex ko walang work, pwede ko kaya sya idemanda? Thanks po sa magrereply!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: anniegurl on September 10, 2014, 11:52:32 pm
ang alam ko sis yung support will be based from the fathers salarykasi they would usually ask kung ano source of income and how much.

Ive given up on child support. mas at peace kami ng son ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ThePurpleCoffer on September 16, 2014, 09:54:27 pm
hi mga sissies, my son is 15 yrs. old na puede pa ba ko humingi ng child support sa ex ko? married kami pero may family na sya with 2 sons sa kabit at ganun din naman ako, pahelp naman mga sis tia!

Hi! Let us know who are obliged to support each other.According to Article 105 of the FC, they are the following:
1. Spouses;
2. Legitimate ascendants & descendants;
3. Parents and their legitimate children, and the legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter;
4. Parents and their illegitimate children, and the legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter;
5. Legitimate brothers and sisters whether full or half‐blood.

So, as per the above-cited enumeration, dapat lang na suportahan ng ex mo yung anak niyo.

Now, ano ba ang inclusions ng support?
---->Support comprises of everything indispensable for:
1. Sustenance
2. Dwelling
3. Clothing
4. Medical attendance
5. Education – includes schooling or training for some profession, trade or vocation, even beyond the age of majority (18 years old)
6. Transportation – includes expenses going to and from school, or to from place of work

Therefor, puwede mong hingin lahat yan sa ex mo sis.

Now, as to the fact na may-asawa na yung ex mo, pwede pa ba?
---> Yes pwede pa. Walang batas na nagsasabing mapuputol ang obligation to support an illegitimate child kung nagpakasal na yung isang illegitimate parent.

Saan naman niya kukunin yung ibibigay niya for support?
---> Depende kung ano ang property regime nila ng asawa niya. In the absence of a stipulation in the marriage settlent or absence of a marriage settlement itself, Absolute community property sila. Therefor,
(a) Exclusive property of the debtor spouse (yung ex mo) shall be liable. (b.) If the exclusive property is insufficient, the community is liable.

Magkano naman ang support na makukuha ng anak niyo?
---->Amount of support shall be in proportion to the resources or means of the giver and to the necessities of the recipient. It shall be increased or reduced proportionately, according to the increase/reduction of necessities of the recipient and the resources of the person obliged.

Hope this helps.  ;)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jamila_19 on October 20, 2014, 12:32:16 pm
Hello mga sissies...

Married ako. pero may problema kami ng husband ko dahil sa may babae siya.

Ang habol ko na lang ngayon eh masustentuhan niya [textspeak!] mga bata.

Puede ba akong mag demand sa knya ng Child Support kahit ang income lang niya eh [textspeak!] nabili niyang Jeepney at binabyahe na lang niya araw araw at kumikita siya ng halos p800 everyday.


may tinatawag na AFFIDAVIT OF CHILD SUPPORT. sabi sa akin ng Auntie ko eh puede na daw ilapit sa Baranggay Hall ito kahit hindi na dumaan sa Abogado...

pls advise. Thanks!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: EYESCREAM on March 07, 2015, 03:12:57 pm
Mga sis, i need advice also. Same situation kami ni sis @mcenyll na nasa page3. Pinagkaiba lang wala pa kaming baby ni hubby. 1yr. palang kami kasal. And last February lang, nalaman ko na may anak pala si hubby sa past ex-gf niya. Hindi sila kasal, age ng bata nasa 5 to 6 years old na. Question lang ako sa rights, alam ko naman na kailangan suportahan ni hubby anak niya, sa province din nakatira yung bata. Pero hindi namam ganun kalaki kita ng asawa ko. May karapatan parin ba ko sa sweldo ni hubby since wala pa kame baby? But i know someday, magkakaroon din kame, kaya magdedemand din ako para sa mga anak ko. Pls help mga sis kung anong pwedeng gawin. Thank you
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: phurple0515 on March 17, 2015, 05:52:50 pm
ok, let's say graduate na ng college yong bata, up to what extent ang pwedeng i-support sa bata, say, wala pa trabaho yong bata.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: L.B. on March 25, 2015, 12:15:08 pm
^sis phurple, sana may sumagot sa tanong mo, interesado rin ako malaman yan..
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: phurple0515 on March 25, 2015, 01:26:18 pm
^ oo nga sis e.  la pa sumasagot :P nasagot na pwedeng me support pa rin while studying.  pano pag after na.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: LGV on March 25, 2015, 03:00:04 pm
Hello girls, gusto ko lang itry magshare sa thread na to baka sakaling may makatulong or makapagbigay ng ibang views.

Here's a short story, I am already married more than a year na and I just gave birth to my 2nd child. My first born was my daughter out of wedlock she's turning 10 na this year. Naghiwalay kame ng dad ya when she was 2 y/o after nun nagsupport ng konti yung lolo nya (dad ng dad nya) mga siguro lets say the first 3 mos lang naman like literally milk and diaper nagstart sa paisa isang buong lata and buong pack ng diaper hanggang sa kumonti ng kumonti nung tumagal sa loob ng 3 mos na yun and need pa ng mom ko magtext o remind. Anyway after that my mom decided na hindi na hihingi since parang joke na din naman yung binibigay nila and anyway dapat naman yung totoong tatay ang may obligasyon hindi yung lolo. Mga after a year bigla nila hineram kasi they have family members who came from the states and gusto makasama daw yung bata so ang set up doon sa kanila nakatira yung bata then ako buibisita mga once or twice a week. It happened for like mga 3-4 mos din siguro so during that time their family provided for the needs. Pero pag may sakit sakin parin since dependent ko sya so ako lahat pag nacoconfine. Medjo sakitin sya during those times so 2x naconfine nung nakastay sa kanila.

Nung huling confinement nya, ako din ang kumuha sa kanya to bring her sa hospital tapos ako din nagbantay walang ni isang dumalaw (even doon sya nakatira ha). Nung ididischarge na sya, someone from their family called me and said na pwede ko na daw iuwi yung bata kasi busy na daw ata mga tao doon at wala na titingin, in a way gusto ko din kasi that time I already have work and kaya ko naman na din isupport yung baby ko. They demanded pa na baka pwedeng ako na magbayad ng huling buwan na sweldo nung yaya na kinuha nila. Oh well para matapos nalang usapan fine. So fast forward nasakin na yung anak ko so for how many years nasakin sya and mom ko nagaalaga pero sobrang bait kasi ng mom ko whenever tatawag sila para heramin yung bata pumapayag si mama since katwiran nya pamilya parin yun nung bata and in a way para makapahinga din sya saglit sa pagaalaga. Ang madalas humeram ng bata yung mga tita/lolo not the bio father ha though yeah nagpaparamdam naman like he calls and may ilang times na dumadalaw sya. Pero monetary support, never. I just remember some instances na nagbigay ng gift and pinakakain sa Jollibee mangilan ngilan beses, thats all.

Ganun kaluwag mom ko after all pumapayag sya na walang binibigay pero naheheram. Kasalanan ko din dahil hinayaan ko. Anyway nangyari na and sa huli talaga pagsisisi. Fast forward ulit, when my daughter is around 6 y/o I met my husband and things happened so fast hanggang sa kinasal kame so in almost 4 years sya na yung tumayong tatay sa panganay ko. Yes theres still communication sa daughter ko and her bio dad hindi ko na mapipigilan bec of social networking/internet though hindi na sila nagkikita for like a year na din its also bec mahilig mangako yung ex ko then hindi sisipot. Inallow na lang din ng husband ko magcommunicate sila kasi katwiran nya naman para hindi isumbat ng bata when time comes. Ang totoo he really want to adopt my daughter since maganda ang work nya and may mga benefits na pwede sya macover kaso the bio dad really doesnt want to cooperate, we already consulted a lawyer gusto ko lang din ng ibang opinion from the experts. Ive talked to my ex already regarding this and Ive explained na this is not just to change the surname but for the welfare of the child especially that I stopped working so hindi ko macover yung bata ng hmo/insurances etc. Eh hindi naman nga kasi sya nagsusupport. So the lawyer gave 2 options lang naman 1. If he cannot support then just sign a document na pumapayag sya na iadopt ni husband but he still have the right to see the kid. 2. If ayaw nya palitan ang surname then he would need to start supporting.

Actually mas gusto ko piliin nya yung first option pero kasi nga nagmamatigas. Hindi lang namin maipatuloy yung case kasi once na nagstart magstart na din yung expenses eh if hindi sya makikipagcooperate tatagal and ofcourse pag tumagal eh di lalaki din ang gastos. Pasensya na napahaba na tong kwento. Baka may iba kayong maadvise na pwedeng gawin since hindi pa namin nabibigyan ng go signal yung lawyer to start the process. Thank you in advance sa magsheshare ng insights :) Baka din may same case dito :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on March 25, 2015, 06:00:43 pm
Sis we ae in the same situation.  ;)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: annamarie88 on March 25, 2015, 06:42:44 pm
Sis LGV, kung ako yan na hindi naman nagbibigay bigay ng suporta, malamang hindi ko na rin ipinahiram ang bata sa start pa lang.. Lalo nakilala mo na yung husband mo now, siguro kung ako ayoko lang ng may connection pa sa daddy ni baby.. Para hindi rin magulo diba saka para hindi awkward kay husband.. For sure kahit konting konti, may nafifeel sya.. Saka tama iaadopt nyo together ni husband baby mo.. Sa Adoption Law kasi kung matagal na sana na hindi nagpapakita ang tatay, okay lang kahit wala na yung permission na paampon anak nya.. Hmmm nako sis takutin mo na lang yan, taasan mo ng hihingiin kunyari na support para pumayag na lang sya.. Pero shempre nasanay na din ata baby mo na anjan daddy nya.. I hope maayos mo yan :) I have a friend kasi na mejo ganyan, pero sya, never lang nya hiningian or kinontak na yung sperm donor ng anak nya, until mga 1-2 yrs old lang.. Iaadopt din nila ng husband nya because of the benefits and all. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: LGV on March 26, 2015, 11:33:01 am
Hi sis kikaygimikera I cant say its nice na pareho tayo kasi it will never be nice to be in this situation haha! I hope we can find the easiest way soon!

Sis annamarie88 Nako sis alam mo kung mababalik ko lang talaga sana hindi ko na pinayagan noon pa. Kaso as what I've said nangyari na and nasa huli talaga ang pagsisisi actually yan ang pinakapinagsisisihan ko. Hindi naman sa nasanay yung bata na anjan daddy nya actually naiinis na nga din sya kasi puro pangako hindi naman nagpapakita eh may utak na yun almost 10 a sya this year eh. Sabi nalang ni husband hayaan muna atleast sya mismo makarealize sa totoong ugali ng tatay nya at hindi na namin kelangan pa manira or magpaliwanag. The best thing I am doing right now I think is hindi ako nahihiyang iadvise mga friends/kakilala ko na may gantong situation na habang maaga pa eh utulin na connection para hindi sila matulad sakin ang bad ko ba haha!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: annamarie88 on March 26, 2015, 12:59:55 pm
^true sis, kahit hindi mo siraan tatay nya, may isip na talaga yung bata and aware naman sya for sure.. :) wag mo muna kaya iadopt si baby mo, try mo lang wait mga 1-2 years tapos wag ka na magpakontak sa kabila. Hahaha para if ever magfile ka na petition for adoption, at least nowhere to be found na yung isa. Hehe

Ayy oo sis, eh kung parang wala rin naman sinusuporta mga ama ng anak nila, aba eh wag na talaga magcommunicate. Diba? Hehe
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: LGV on March 26, 2015, 02:52:00 pm
Pwede yan haha mabilis lang naman ang araw. Hindi ko na rin alam talaga nalilito na din ako chaka naawa ako sa anak ko buti nalang din talaga tinuring syang tunay na anak ng husband ko and even my inlaws so nakabawi sya sa part na yun kahit iniwan sya ng totoo nyang tatay.

Hay nako oo kasi sabi ko sa mga friends ko maganda na yung umpisa palang no connection na kasi you can never tell eh ako hindi ko naman alam na makakapagasawa ako at haharapin ko tong ganito ngayon. So atleast kung una palang eh hindi na nila naisunod sa surname ng guy yung bata atleast wala silang problem na ganito isa pa gastos pa to eh at time consuming diba. Oh well!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: annamarie88 on March 26, 2015, 03:07:22 pm
^surname ba ng biological father ang gamit nya?? Anyway, I think wala naman kaso yun. Mukhang may sufficient basis naman na hindi nagpprovide which may be tantamount to abandonment, in which case, his consent is not necessary.  Read this link. Tagal ko na din naresearch to ;)

http://www.manilatimes.net/adopting-fiancees-child/119000/
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: LGV on March 28, 2015, 01:53:39 pm
Oh this is helpful. Yes sis she's using bi dad's surname. So ibig sabihin ba kahit nagkakausap sila in a way through social networking eh abandoned parin sya since no monetary support at all? Sorry ha just want to make it clear. Sana tama pagkaintind ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: annamarie88 on March 28, 2015, 02:10:50 pm
^i would like to believe so. Hehe Ano din ba sabi ng lawyer mo sis?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: LGV on March 31, 2015, 10:55:03 pm
Well its been around 3 mos na hindi pa kame ulit nagcoconsult pero nung huling meeting ang naalala ko was like mga 5 yrs na talagang wala at all. Hindi ko pa to natatanong pag nagkachance eh itatanong ko din talaga to.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ilbsiri on September 16, 2015, 01:51:19 pm
Sana may maka sagot

how early can I file child support father ng bata ofw sa, no idea kelan uuwi and gaano katagal ang process? parang nabasa ko may hold departure?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: xee on December 06, 2015, 03:53:38 pm
Hi mga sis, kapag yata nagkaka edad na tayo saka tayo lalong nagiisip on how to provide more for our children. I am an ofw and planning to go back to Philippines next year. Recently, my annulment was granted. Separated ako sa ex husband ko ng 10 years, 10 years na din ang anak namin. Since babalik na ako ng Pilipinas, iniisip ko na kung saan ako kukuha ng monthly expenses ko (let's say nakahanap na din ako work sa pinas) Nagbibigay naman ang ex husband ko sa anak ko minsan 3K pero hindi yun buwanan, kung kelan lang maiabot ng family niya. Siguro once or twice lang din siya makita ng anak ko in a year. My bf na din ako.

Ang iniisip ko lang mga sis, too late na ba to ask for child support as it's been 10 years, actually additional support and settlement na may makukuha kami monthly from the ex para hindi ako magiisip kung kelan ba nila uli trip magbigay, mind you, what he is giving is just 5% of his income, depende pa sa mood nya. Ang iniisip ko lang naman ang lagay ng anak ko na magkaron ako ng stable na pagkukuhanan ng expenses niya din dahil I am also a bread winner sa family ko. Thanks in advance mga sis.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on December 08, 2015, 08:07:43 am
in my case naman lately biglang nagparamdam ang dad ng anak ko. willing na daw siya mag support. hwat? parang mushroom lang na biglang susulpot after so many years na todo iwas pag hinihingian ng pera. but i turned down his offer. nasanay na ako na wala siyang support and not now not ever. my son is big na, konting tumbling na lang he'll be an adult na.

all i can say is kung kaya niyo mag isa gawin niyo kasi ang hirap din ng pinipilit mo yung tatay, mukha pa tayong kawawa na humihingi. and kung gusto nila gagawa sila ng paraan, kung ayaw ang daming palusot. sana magkaroon dito ng alimony gaya sa u.s. and kung pwede kusang ikakaltas sa sweldo nila para wala nang palag mga yan.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kikaygimikera on December 14, 2015, 02:32:44 pm
Korek sis. ^ :)

Hayayay! Yung bio dad ng son ko (11 years old) kinasal lang two days ago. Well, best wishes to them (walang halong sarcasm ito ha) and sa family ng girl.

I have given up asking for support or ipaglaban ang rights ng son ko. Sabi ng husband ko tama na. Wag na ipilit. Sayang ang emosyon, ang galit. Lets live in peace. Wag na din ipilit i adopt ang son ko. 7 more years to go free na makapunta ang son ko sa mga countries that requires visa and parental consent. Konting tiis na lang naman.

Merry Christmas sa atin, mga mommies!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on December 18, 2015, 09:11:59 pm
Sorry OT na. What do you mean sis? Pag kumuha ng visa need ng consent pa ng dad kahit andyan na ang mom? My son is adopted by my parents pero sa birth cert lang. Ako pa rin ang kilala niyang mom and ako ang main provider at care giver. We share the same surname and nadala ko na siya sa hk when he was seven. Planning on bringin him to SG next year before mag expire ang passport niya. We have the same surname and magkapatid kame according sa birth cert niya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: blood_siren on January 03, 2016, 06:47:03 pm
mga sis, any of you have draft of an informal demand letter for recognition and support. Yung tipo na you are asking the dad of your kid na pag usapan ang lahat bago ka ma force iakyat sa court proceedings and lahat. I just want an idea sana. thanks
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mysterioza_me on January 04, 2016, 06:06:40 am
Ang hirap talaga sa Pinas walang pangil ang Child Support Law (or kahit anong batas pa). Kung walang maipo-provide ang tatay hindi pwedeng pilitin. Bukod pa dun kahit hindi makapagsustento pwede daw magrequest ng visitation rights ang tatay. Paradise talaga sa mga babaero ang Pilipinas.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: dismembered on January 04, 2016, 05:01:24 pm
^ At hindi lang yan... They are also free para magloko pa at bumuo ng mga susunod pang panganay!
Hindi nila dama ang consequences ng actions nila unlike sa mga naiwan nilang mga mothers. Tsk tsk tsk!
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: Girltalker2 on January 05, 2016, 06:43:02 am
Ang hirap talaga sa Pinas walang pangil ang Child Support Law (or kahit anong batas pa). Kung walang maipo-provide ang tatay hindi pwedeng pilitin. Bukod pa dun kahit hindi makapagsustento pwede daw magrequest ng visitation rights ang tatay. Paradise talaga sa mga babaero ang Pilipinas.

Kung mag file ka man ng child support, malabo pa ang assurance na ma implement yung court order. Assuming, mahanap mo yung tatay hehe Usually kung ayaw magsustento, they can easily get away with it.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mysterioza_me on January 05, 2016, 11:05:44 am
^oo ang daya dito sa pinas, hindi pwede obligahin ang tatay na magsustento. Di man lang naisip na di naman pwede gawin ng babae mag-isa ang bata
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ivy u. on January 26, 2016, 04:52:59 pm
^true ba mga sis hanggang 21 years old lang pwede suporta sa bata? sabi kasi yan ng kakilala ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on January 27, 2016, 09:48:40 am
^^^ IMO, that is not always the case. It will still depend on the surrounding circumstances. For example, yung mga special child, di naman kahit naman 21 above I think pwede pa rin naman mag ask ng support. Another instance is yung mga nag pupursue ng further studies pwede nila obligahin na supurtahan sila especially if capable naman magbigay ng support.

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on January 27, 2016, 10:05:40 am
mga sis what about sa case ng pamangkin ko na kaka 16yo lang and she is now pregnant, by the looks of it mga 3-4months na although she said 2months. paano kung ayaw magsupport yung parents ng lalakeng nakabuntis? puwede ba ito kasuhin sa DSWD or something?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on January 27, 2016, 11:28:00 am
^pag ayaw mag support ng biological father pwede habulin ang parents ng lalake. sila ang hingian ng child support. nasa batas yun.

go to the barangay and mag child support case ata (ask niyo na lang dun). what they will do is summon the father of the child. pag hindi sumipot pwede damputin and ikulong. may proseso iyan ask niyo na lang sa barangay. p500 ata ang fee.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on January 27, 2016, 12:33:58 pm
^thanks sis.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: jojo2978 on January 27, 2016, 05:17:08 pm
^pag ayaw mag support ng biological father pwede habulin ang parents ng lalake. sila ang hingian ng child support. nasa batas yun.

go to the barangay and mag child support case ata (ask niyo na lang dun). what they will do is summon the father of the child. pag hindi sumipot pwede damputin and ikulong. may proseso iyan ask niyo na lang sa barangay. p500 ata ang fee.

Sorry, Sis. Doubful ako dito. Support is a civil case. Baka sakali yung jurisdiction ng Brgy. is to try to mediate or settle the issues among the parties. Yung kulong impossible talaga yun na magawa ng Brgy. Minor pa nga yung 16 years old. Unless siguro mapasok sa Violence against Women but.. minor pa talaga yung guy.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on January 28, 2016, 06:30:01 am
thanks sis sa mga advice. nasabi na ni pamangkin sino yung lalake and alam na DAW ng parents ng guy but of course we still have to talk to them directly para sure. but sabi ni pamangkin nag move na daw sila (bf and parents) sa Bulacan..makes things more complicated.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on January 28, 2016, 07:50:37 pm
^^yan ang sabi ng lawyer. First step sa barangay kasi nga mediate muna pag hindi pinansin tsaka mag file ng case. Criminal case yan RA9262 falls under financial abuse ang hindi pagbibigay ng child support. I know it very well kasi muntik ko na gawin yan sa father ng anak ko.

^mahirap talaga ang ganyan sis. Better consult a lawyer. Pag minor yung parents ang obligahin mag child support.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: xee on January 31, 2016, 10:13:11 pm
What about if ikaw mismo ang ofw and then ikaw din hihingi ng child support sa ex husband mo na nasa pinas? Dadaan pa ng barangay? Or pwede na diretso na lang sa written notices? Wala na din naman kasi ako balak makita yun dahil its been 9 years na since na last I saw my ex and gusto ko lang siguraduhin na continuous pa din ang child support niya sa anak namin
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: ivy u. on February 01, 2016, 12:05:04 pm
^^^ IMO, that is not always the case. It will still depend on the surrounding circumstances. For example, yung mga special child, di naman kahit naman 21 above I think pwede pa rin naman mag ask ng support. Another instance is yung mga nag pupursue ng further studies pwede nila obligahin na supurtahan sila especially if capable naman magbigay ng support.

sis, pag special child daw lifetime ang support?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: phurple0515 on February 02, 2016, 10:54:14 am
^true ba mga sis hanggang 21 years old lang pwede suporta sa bata? sabi kasi yan ng kakilala ko.

I am also wondering about the same thing.  I know someone who is still supporting the child kasi nag-aaral ng college pero graduating na (supported monthly allowance and tuition fee).  So in this case, let's say after graduation, pano ang support, plus what if nagka-work na yong bata?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on February 03, 2016, 09:16:30 am
^pag nasa legal age na yung bata at not special child meaning they can ask for child support themselves maybe pwede sila mismo humingi sa father nila. pero wala na atang legal action na pwedeng gawin dito kasi malaki na pwede na magbanat ng buto. or maybe pwede pa but to be sure consult a lawyer. PAO is free para sa mga ayaw gumastos. yun lang madalas daw mahaba ang pila diyan.

the child support pertains only to minors, to those who cannot fend for themselves yet to survive. just like sa tax deduction. pwede mo lang include ang children below 21 as your dependents unless they are special children then lifetime siya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: xee on February 03, 2016, 11:38:39 pm
I'm actively looking for a lawyer who specializes in family matters particularly child support, pa refer naman mga sis dun sa recommended lawyer na nakapag help na din sa inyo, thank you
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: phurple0515 on February 04, 2016, 10:18:00 am
^^ thanks for that sis :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: katniss on April 14, 2016, 02:41:56 pm
Hello! Just found this thread. Here is our case:

My mother and father got separated 7 years ago. The sustento was okay though kulang and pabitin-bitin para sa dalawa pa naming minor na kapatid. Now lang namin naisipan mag-file kasi college na sila at hindi na namin kaya ang gastusin. Although may work naman na kaming tatlong anak nya pa, pero responsibility and obligation pa rin ng father ko yung mga siblings ko na minor pa. My father has a high-paying job, btw. So nakakaasar lang na sobrang sagana sila ng kabit nya with his kids doon. Tapos kami, laging kapos and nagtutulong-tulong sa gastusin.

Sabi demand letter daw ang unang kelangang isend sa office at sa home address. Kapag nag-send ba ng demand letter sa office, pwede ba yung masettle agad na may part ng sweldo nya na mapupunta para sa 2 minor siblings ko and for my mother (since legally married naman sila at di pa nagpapa-annul). Pwede bang yung kumpanya ang mag-ayos nun or kelangan talagang me cooperation pa yung father ko?

Thank you.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: keejac21 on April 14, 2016, 03:22:00 pm
sis katniss.. I heard similar cases like yours.. yung magpapatulong dun sa office ng father para magbigay siya ng support sa legal family. Usually sa mga seaman may mga ganitong situations.

I think sis di nila pwede maforce si father na I-allocate yung portion ng sahod niya without his consent. Ang pinaka matutulong nila is to set up a dialogue between your mother and father para makapag discuss. Depending on the nature of your father's job, I know there are certain government agencies na pwedeng makapag mediate about this.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: katniss on April 14, 2016, 04:10:05 pm
^thanks a lot sis sa inputs. at least may idea na ko. :)
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on April 15, 2016, 12:07:31 am
share ko lang. i grew up in a home na mom ko ang bread winnner. dad ko nagbibigay samin ng money pag feel niya lang. my dad was stay at home while my mom works. so eversince i was a kid naka tanim na sa utak ko na kailangan ko mag banat ng buto at hindi ako pwede umasa sa lalake para buhayin ako or that i cannot expect financial help kasi minsan walang magbibigay.

10yrs. na ako single parent, when my son was younger waley financial support ang dad niya. we're still together that time pero ayaw mag bigay ng money. lagi namin pinag aawayan pero ayaw talaga. sobrang walang silbi kahit mag alaga ng bata hindi rin maasahan. when we broke up of course hindi na ako nag expect ng financial support. he would try to contact me mag o-offer ng pera in exchange for contact with my son pero i would decline. knowing his personality malamang papalya ang pagbibigay niya. pahirapan pa pag hihingian ng pera yun. gusto 1500-3k a month. hiyang hiya ako sa laki ng pera na ibibigay.

my son is growing and his needs are also growing. financially there are times na mahirap pa rin pero mas gusto ko kayanin mag isa kesa naman parang pulubi na lagi na lang nangungulit ng pera sa kanya. what i do na lang is mag isip ng ways to increase my income. damihan ang sideline and mag tipid.

kesa ubusin ang energy at oras sa kaka kulit sa kanila isip na lang tayo ng way para mas lumaki ang income natin. i know unfair kasi napaka swerte naman ng mga tatay na yan. pero ganon din naman kahit kulit kulitin sila kung ayaw nila magbigay wala naman tayo magagawa. dagdag wrinkles lang yan sa atin. sira ang aura.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on April 15, 2016, 07:05:58 am
my son is growing and his needs are also growing. financially there are times na mahirap pa rin pero mas gusto ko kayanin mag isa kesa naman parang pulubi na lagi na lang nangungulit ng pera sa kanya. what i do na lang is mag isip ng ways to increase my income. damihan ang sideline and mag tipid.

Agree 100% on this. hindi rin kasi ako yung tipong tao na nghihingi ng sustento kasi bukod sa responsibility rin naman niya daughter namin, eh he uses it as a leverage din to control me. tuwing mag aaway kami before laging hand in hand yung pagputol niya ng support sa daughter ko. years siya ganun and I had enough. I never gave him any reason naman not to trust me with money, ako pa nga ang mas matipid kesa sa kanya na panay labas and buy unnecessary stuff. sadyang marupok lang talaga siya sa pera niya kahit sa mother niya. kaya sariling sikap nalang talaga
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: young_maiden on April 15, 2016, 09:54:05 am
Nalulungkot ako sa mga stories na iyong tatay ayaw magbigay ng suporta sa anak na naiwan niya sa wife niya. Anong klaseng lalaki mga iyan? Dapat sa mga ganyan hindi tinatawag na tatay. Hindi sapat na sperm cell lang ng lalaki ang nakabuo sa bata. Dapat nagpakatatay din siya. Dapat naging hands on siya sa pagpapalaki ng anak niya. Palpak na nga bilang asawa, palpak pa bilang tatay.

Ang dami kong kakilalang ganyan dito sa Pilipinas. Pag hiwalay na sa gf o misis na naanakan, pati anak hihiwalayan na din niya. Walang ibibigay kahit piso. Kahit tawag o text wala. Makarma sana mga tatay na ayaw harapin responsibilidad nila sa bata.

Iyong pinsan ko nga sa Canada hands on pa rin sa mga anak niya sa misis niya kahit hiwalay na sila. Kahit may anak na siya sa kabit niya, hindi pa rin niya pinabayaan 2 anak niya sa wife niya. Hindi lang financial support ang binibigay niya. Salitan pa sila ng wife niya mag-alaga sa mga bata. Tuwing may family occasions, magkasama sila at wala si kabit. May court order din kasi siya na nirerequire siya sustentuhan mga anak niya sa misis niya. Pero kasi sa Canada naman iyon. I think mas well-implemented ang child support law doon kaysa dito. Kung dito nangyari iyon, ewan ko lang kung magagawa pa ng pinsan ko magpakatatay sa mga anak niya sa misis niya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: keejac21 on April 15, 2016, 10:02:32 am
I agree with you mga sis. Mas masarap pa sa pakiramdam na mapalaki natin yung mga anak natin sana without child support. But it is a big challenge and sacrifice sa part natin. Nakakaiyak nga minsan sa dami ng bayarin pag naiisip mo.  :'(

Im thankful yung father ng anak ko nagbibigay ng monthly allowance to our son and he also pays for his school tuition. Plus he also buys him clothes and shoes pag nasa vacation siya (he works overseas).
So I let my son stay with him for a number of days every week para makapag bond din sila.

Before everything was pleasant, we had issues din in terms of how much he should give as support. Nagcompute pa kami sa papel kasi siempre hindi naman pwede wala akong share sa expenses ng bata because I have a job too. I just told him kung ano yung maluwag sa dibdib mo, yun na lang ibigay mo.
Kasi for me, alam din naman niya kung ano ano yung gastos ng anak namin. And he earns really really well. Consistent naman siya so far.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on April 15, 2016, 11:51:36 am
Iyong pinsan ko nga sa Canada hands on pa rin sa mga anak niya sa misis niya kahit hiwalay na sila. Kahit may anak na siya sa kabit niya, hindi pa rin niya pinabayaan 2 anak niya sa wife niya. Hindi lang financial support ang binibigay niya. Salitan pa sila ng wife niya mag-alaga sa mga bata. Tuwing may family occasions, magkasama sila at wala si kabit. May court order din kasi siya na nirerequire siya sustentuhan mga anak niya sa misis niya. Pero kasi sa Canada naman iyon. I think mas well-implemented ang child support law doon kaysa dito. Kung dito nangyari iyon, ewan ko lang kung magagawa pa ng pinsan ko magpakatatay sa mga anak niya sa misis niya.

iyan sinabi ko sa mistress thread na sana maimplement dito ng matindi sa Pilipinas. kung ayaw na ng husband sa wife or nagkatuluyan na sila ng mistress, kelangan parin magpakakatay siya sa anak niya kay wife. and yes dahil nasa Canada siya, WALA siyang choice because strict talaga sa child support. tayo meron tayong child support dito pero NGA NGA ka nalang, kahit mag file ka pa niyan USELESS lang. I should know because nung buhay pa SIL ko nag file sila ni mama para magsupport kuya ko sa 3 anak niya, sumama na kasi sa kabit. pero until now na SIL passed away na, walang ngyari. Bulok talaga dito
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: katniss on April 15, 2016, 03:41:18 pm
^this made me think if we should file pa or pagtulungan na lang naming magkakapatid yung two minors pa namin na studying. kasi ayun nga iniisip ko rin yung effort, stress, at magagastos kung magfifile pa kami ng child support.

anong nangyari dun sa SIL mo sis,? if you dont mind. umabot ba sila sa korte?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on April 15, 2016, 10:05:48 pm
kung willing naman ang father mag bigay ng child support, he is responsible and cosistent then good diba. kaya lang may mga tatay talaga na walang kwenta. na kahit sarili nila hirap sila buhayin paano pa kaya sila magbibigay?

file a case RA9262 under violence against women and children covered dito ang financial abuse pag hindi nagbigay. but yun nga gagastos rin ng lawyer, mag ko-korte kayo. if he will settle kung ano lang din yung capacity niya ibigay yun lang din ma receive ng anak mo. and there are no guarantees pa na tuloy tuloy kasi baka pumalya siya maiinis ka lang ng kaka kulit.

sa akin kasi i like the freedom of raising my child by myself. ayoko kasi na maki alam pa yung tatay niya. i don't want any form of communication with him baka ma high blood lang ako. feeling entitled kasi ang mokong na yun.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: sarsingkit on April 15, 2016, 11:42:42 pm
I don't want to sound like a brag that I live in the first world country but yes, in Canada ganyan ang batas. Kaya takot lang ng mga tao sa Divorce. Financially stressful kasi ang Divorce especially for guys. May guy friend is divorced sa wife nya. They have four kids, automatically deducted sa sweldo nya ang child support. Child support is until 18 years of age ng bata. Kung gusto pa magaral ng college ng bata, tuloy pa rin ang support sa bata until makagraduate.

My sister kasi is a single mom, the first year lang nagbigay ng sustento and then naglaho na.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kvan on April 16, 2016, 12:52:19 am
^I have a son and my ex agreed to give financial support kahit walang court order kasi alam nyang wala syang ka chance chance to challenge the law. However, pag hindi sya nagbigay hindi ko naman na kinukulit. But that's what we need in the Philippines. A law that requires the father to give child support.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: amethyst028 on April 18, 2016, 12:52:08 pm
^sana nga magkaroon ng bata para diyan. maybe compared to other countries hindi pa kasi ganoon ka dami or ka aware ang mga tao sa situation ng mga single parents.

as for me kahit meron ganyang law ayoko pa rin ng pera niya. i will raise my son by myself kahit magkanda kuba kuba ako sa pag work. iba kasi ugali ng ex ko. pag nagibay ng pera feeling niya property nya kame kahit ang liit naman ng binigay. so no way. binuhay ko na anak ko for the past 10yrs. na ako lang what's 10 more years. keribels na iyan. 


Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: kvan on April 18, 2016, 08:35:39 pm
^The law is a double edge-sword though. Kasi the Father can take you to court and ask for his right to see his son. So, ayaw mo man tanggapin ang pera nya, the law will require you to schedule a time for your son to see his dad.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 19, 2016, 05:56:08 am
^true yan, que magsustento ang tatay o hindi pwede siyang magdemand ng visitation rights :'(
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on April 19, 2016, 07:48:07 am
^this made me think if we should file pa or pagtulungan na lang naming magkakapatid yung two minors pa namin na studying. kasi ayun nga iniisip ko rin yung effort, stress, at magagastos kung magfifile pa kami ng child support.

anong nangyari dun sa SIL mo sis,? if you dont mind. umabot ba sila sa korte?

sorry sis sa late reply. Nagkaroon ng court hearing pero hindi sumipot kuya ko. after that nag issue na ng warrant para sa kanya..aside kasi from child support marami pang sinampang kaso sila mama. SIL passed away na, ang alam ko active parin warrant ng kuya ko. hindi siya mahahanap kasi wala siya dito sa Manila. PAO yung lawyer ni SIL.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: katniss on April 26, 2016, 11:00:30 am
^Kapag solo parent pwede ba sa PAO? Thanks sis!

We will also go to UP Legal Aid office kasi open to all naman daw sila. Nabasa ko sa pag-BR ko dito pwede raw dun mag-seek ng legal advice, I wonder if pwede rin dun magpagawa ng demand letter?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: momentum on April 26, 2016, 07:49:58 pm
^i'm sure puwede sis yung sa PAO kasi all the more they will undersand yung financial status mo kasi single parent ka
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: annecalei on February 27, 2017, 01:46:40 pm
Any advise naman po.

2 years ago, I think Nov 2015, I went to PAO regarding sa sustento ng anak ko kasi wala talagang paramdam si kuya.

PAO set an appointment para makapagusap and to have an agreement. We signed a document wherein the father of my daughter will give 4k per month na sustento. Ako na yung nagstate ng amount and I think 4k is reasonable amount na mabibigay nya.

Yung sustento, tumagal lang ng 1 to 4 months. Napagod na ko sa kaka followup dahil dinededma lang ako.

Due to personal reasons, nung Nov 2016 lang uli ako nakapunta ng PAO to know what to do. I told them about sa kabi kabilang out of towns at kung ano ano pang gastos nung tatay ng anak ko pero di naman nakakapagsustento.

Unfortunately, the same person who spoke with us about the support told me na wala daw ako magagawa at di ko na pwedeng pilitin yung asawa ko kung di na kayang magbigay or whatsoever. Parang lumalalabas na in favor sya dun sa isa, which I find ridiculous. Wala ding kumontra sa mga kasama nya sa office about dun sa mga sinabi nya.

Pinagpilitan ko na we had an agreement at may sign namin. The person in charge asked for the copy and just told me na kokontakin na lang uli kami pareho.

Feb 2017 na pero nganga. I did not intend to go back kasi parang non sense lang.

Ano pa kaya pwede kong gawin para maobliga asawa ko na bigyan ng financial support yung anak ko?

Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 28, 2017, 12:49:49 pm
^Wala kang magagawa sis, kalokohan lang ang batas na yan sa totoo lang. Walang pangil. Hindi mo maoobliga ang tatay na magbigay kung ayaw niya. Kapag sinabi niya na di niya kayang magsustento wala ka ng magagawa. Pwede ka magdemanda ng economic abuse pero IMO mas practical na itabi mo na lang pera mo para sa baby mo kesa magdemanda. PagpasaDiyos mo nalang siya.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: katniss on March 08, 2017, 11:13:20 am
^^hay naku yan din ang reason kung bakit hanggang ngayon ay ayaw ng nanay ko lumapit sa PAO at magdemanda sa tatay ko. kesyo baka raw di na magtrabaho at mapahiya sa opisina nila. mas nganga pa kami, wala nang makukuha kahit magkano. so mas okay pa sa kanya ngayon na magfollow-up na lang parati ng sustento sa mga kapatid ko.
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: aliyah13 on October 17, 2017, 06:48:26 pm
Hello sis! ask ko lang if ang father ng bata eh seaman and ilang years na siya hindi ngbibigay simula sumakay ng barko... puede ba mag file ng complaint and deretso sa POEA pra ma hold ang departure niya?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: bwiset12 on June 07, 2019, 08:10:05 pm
Hello! Ask ko lang, both parents nasa abroad, yung bata nasa pamilya ng babae. Yung babae may asawa na din dun sa abroad. Yung lalaki may unang pamilya na prior pa dun sa anak nila ni girl. Though dipa  sila kasal nung partner nya meron sila 2 anak na mas matanda dun sa anak nila ni girl?
Paminsan minsan naman nagbibigay yung lalaki di nga lang ganon kadalas dahil may pamilya na sya na sinusustentuhan sa pinas. Ngayon tinatakot ni girl si lalaki na kesyo ipapapulis nya dahil lately hindi nakakapagbigay para sa anak nila. Ang gusto nya pa mag effort si lalaki para madala sa ibang bansa yung bata which is nasa middle east.
Hindi naman ganun kalaki ang sweldo ng lalaki.
Posible ba na makasuhan nya dun yung lalaki sa ibang bansa?
Title: Re: Child Support Thread
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 07, 2019, 11:40:46 am
^Naawa ako sa bata hindi sa bf mo. Makadahilan naman ang bf mo para makaiwas lang sa sustento. Kung badtrip siya sa family ni girl wag niya idamay anak niya. Tuition lang ba gastosn ng bata? Hindi na ba kakain yun? Bigyan niya kasi ng regular para di manghingi yung girl. Hindi naman pala tuloy-tuloy bigay niya nagrereklamo pa siya. Mag-set siya ng amount kung magkano lang ibibigay niya. Kung ang monthly expenses ng bata ay 10k kunwari e di magpadala siya monthly ng 5k. Kung ayaw naman niya ng monthly padala e di siya sumagot ng tuition fees and books yearly ifull payment niya. Para allowance, school supplies, food, checkup etc nalang iisipin ni girl.