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Sex & Relationships => We've Got Male! => Topic started by: ladysapphire on November 13, 2013, 11:21:35 am

Title: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on November 13, 2013, 11:21:35 am
can a guy can be misinterpreted by just being so nice? (example: giving pacute signals but not really making a move or making it happen)
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Post by: entwife on November 14, 2013, 01:03:56 am
^kailangan ata sa guy eh may written contract para maconsider which is which. hehe
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Post by: sacred cow on November 14, 2013, 04:52:20 am
yes, just like maraming girls din na tease
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Post by: ladysapphire on November 14, 2013, 11:17:44 am
like this guy i met in wechat, acting all pacute and compliments and subtly flirts. but acts as if he lives on my phone. doesnt initiate a meet up man lang. keeps on saying babawi din daw siya. busy and all. malapit ko nang dedmahin to. haha

can i confront him about it?
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Post by: sacred cow on November 14, 2013, 01:08:09 pm
^ uhmm no...but you can initiate to meet up if you're really curious. kung hindi pumayag then saka mo dedmahin
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Post by: Miss Charcoal on November 16, 2013, 10:05:28 pm
Ano reaction niyo kapag nililink kayo sa girls na type at di niyo type?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on November 17, 2013, 12:21:44 am
Ano reaction niyo kapag nililink kayo sa girls na type at di niyo type?

type: smile lang

di type: kapag in public: sasakyan yung pang-aasar

kapag kami lang ng barkada/tropa, magjojoke ng "walang ganyanan, may taste naman ako noh"
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Post by: junepets on November 17, 2013, 12:26:40 am
^yown! Guilty kasi kaya pa smile smile lang.. ;)
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Post by: Miss Charcoal on November 17, 2013, 12:46:34 am
type: smile lang

di type: kapag in public: sasakyan yung pang-aasar

kapag kami lang ng barkada/tropa, magjojoke ng "walang ganyanan, may taste naman ako noh"
Ayos yan ah. Thanks :)
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Post by: young_maiden on November 18, 2013, 12:51:55 am
May meaning ba pag yung guy eh ibigay username at password ng scribd account nya sa girl na hindi niya ka-close? as in siya lang yung nagbigay kahit di naman hiningi nung girl. kasi for me, ang weird lang gawin yun sa girl na di naman niya ka-close. private account yun di ba.

saka kasi si guy tapos na sa isang major subject sa law school last year. si girl ngayong sem lang niya kukunin yung same subject. nagkataon same prof sila. itong si guy binigay kay girl yung mga list of questions na tinanong ng prof sa class niya last yr para makatulong kay girl for recitations. madaming questions yun. hindi rin naman hiningi nung girl. higit sa lahat, hindi naman sila sobrang close.

may meaning kaya pag ginawa ng guy yun o talagang matulungin lang siya kahit sa mga di malapit sa kanya? thanks in advance.
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Post by: budzwhiz on November 18, 2013, 01:04:00 am
^ Just being the matulungin senior student to his junior.  Na nagpapa-pogi poins na rin. :D
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Post by: young_maiden on November 18, 2013, 01:11:41 am
^ thanks. weird lang kasi for me. may time pa sinabihan niya ako thru fb na matulog na daw ako kasi maaga pa daw pasok ko. di naman sa iniisip kong may gusto siya sa akin. it's too early to tell. ang weird lang kasi tulungan ang taong di mo naman ka-close di ba unless na lang kung mga biktima ng bagyong yolanda tulungan mo. kung ako sa kanya, di ko gagawin yun sa di naman malapit sa akin. tumutulong din ako sa mga friends ko na lower batch sa akin pero never sa hindi ko naman masyado kilala. hindi ko nga binibigay sa mga friends ko username at password ko. paano pa kaya sa mga di ko ka-close? hahaha. thanks ulit sa advice. maging thankful na lang ako sa pagiging matulungin niya.  ;)
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Post by: lesters_gal on November 18, 2013, 05:03:04 am
Im planning to give a boxer gift to this guy im dating for 6months. Ano ba mas sweet na gawin, ibigay ko in person sa kanya, or iwan ko nalang sa place niya tapos lalagyan ko nalang ng note yung gift, para pag uwi niya makikita niya.. ano yung way na guys will find it sweet?:)
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Post by: ladysapphire on November 18, 2013, 03:47:15 pm
this happens, why? no challenge ganun? or just emotionally unavailable kind of guy?

"He loves the chase; but once you respond positively, he stops calling."
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Post by: sacred cow on November 18, 2013, 10:43:09 pm
this happens, why? no challenge ganun? or just emotionally unavailable kind of guy?

"He loves the chase; but once you respond positively, he stops calling."


who knows, wechat yun...he probably has other options on rotation and you are not his priority...harsh but true
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: bliss15 on November 19, 2013, 12:38:37 am
Bakit ganun... everytime nagbrebreak in a relationship mga guy friends ko..
they are always puzzled bakit biglang unsatisfied or unhappy pala ex nila.

When I ask what they taught of their relationship ba.  Lahat sila they say they don't know. "Perfect" naman daw ang relationship nila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on November 19, 2013, 01:08:53 am
Bakit ganun... everytime nagbrebreak in a relationship mga guy friends ko..
they are always puzzled bakit biglang unsatisfied or unhappy pala ex nila.

When I ask what they taught of their relationship ba.  Lahat sila they say they don't know. "Perfect" naman daw ang relationship nila.

kasi nga maraming babae ineexpect na manghuhula ang guys, instead na sabihin kung may dinadamdam...gusto nila alam na dapat ni guy thru pakiramdaman. e hindi naman kami babae para magkaroon ng psychic abilities
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: minatay91 on November 23, 2013, 05:05:13 pm
(assuming you're taken) How often do you lie about being single and why?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on November 25, 2013, 11:00:38 am
i'm feeling peculiar on the dating scene.

men and women in their late 20's (27-30yo) nowadays, is it really acceptable that sex talk/flirting is already part of the dating scene, like say it's already in the open no matter how good the date went. i don't know how to react about this. parang naninigas na ko pag nagstart na si guy magflirt.
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Post by: graezieylicious on November 25, 2013, 01:10:46 pm
^Then know how to flirt back and play. Have fun. Maintain your cool and enjoy lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on November 25, 2013, 02:13:32 pm
^^ i know how to play and flirt naman. but kasi parang nabibilisan naman ako masyado if like say first date pa lang though yes the attraction is there. i dont know how to act on it. so ang nangyayari umiiwas ako or i reject the flirtation. hehe
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Post by: budzwhiz on November 26, 2013, 02:20:50 am
When a guy says "baka magselos bf mo" does that always mean may something para sa kanya?

My boyfriend keeps on insisting pinopormahan na daw ako, di ko pa alam. Because the guy said those things. Para sakin wala lang talaga yun and I'm 99% sure wala rin yun sa guy, he's like my kuya na and I'm sure he thinks of me as his friend's younger sister. Haha. And alam ko namang hindi ako ganon ka-manhid para di makaramdam. ;D
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Post by: minatay91 on November 26, 2013, 01:56:50 pm
ang hirap ba ng question ko? kahit sa friends niyo lang :(
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Post by: no736 on November 27, 2013, 12:10:59 am
When a guy says "baka magselos bf mo" does that always mean may something para sa kanya?

My boyfriend keeps on insisting pinopormahan na daw ako, di ko pa alam. Because the guy said those things. Para sakin wala lang talaga yun and I'm 99% sure wala rin yun sa guy, he's like my kuya na and I'm sure he thinks of me as his friend's younger sister. Haha. And alam ko namang hindi ako ganon ka-manhid para di makaramdam. ;D

ma'am palagay ko pinopormahan po kayo nung guy hehe. it's like giving a hint na he has a thing for you, however you're already taken.

kung ako merong friend na girl, and wala naman talaga akong pagtingin sa kanya, hindi ko na kailangan sabihin ng "baka magselos bf mo", dahil WALA akong bagay na gagawin na ikaseselos ng bf nya at hindi ko siguro maiicip na baka magselos si bf sa mga simpleng kwentuhan namen  ;D

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: no736 on November 27, 2013, 12:21:07 am
(assuming you're taken) How often do you lie about being single and why?

on my case, i wouldn't. because i already found the right girl.

other guys might do such because they are not serious with their current relationship and is still looking for something or someone fit for them.

dating is sorta trying out a relationship to see if the couple are fit to marriage. so 'maybe' other guys do it, as they are still on the look for that special someone that they think would fit them for forever.

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Post by: minatay91 on November 27, 2013, 09:45:57 pm
ahh.. backpocket relationship pala mr.736? parang "ikaw lang.. muna until I find the right one."

attachment but no commitment :(
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Post by: no736 on November 27, 2013, 11:36:35 pm
ahh.. backpocket relationship pala mr.736? parang "ikaw lang.. muna until I find the right one."

attachment but no commitment :(

or they just simply wanna mess around.. sad to say this is happening. other guys have their own reasons i wouldn't know.

not my kind of thing though.
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Post by: budzwhiz on November 28, 2013, 04:48:10 am
Thanks no736, I asked na din sa guy na kakilala ko, and he said the same thing. haha. ;D

Question: Do you wear briefs (not boxers) OR is it okay for you guys to wear briefs lang around your sisters?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on November 28, 2013, 08:27:09 am

Question: Do you wear briefs (not boxers) OR is it okay for you guys to wear briefs lang around your sisters?

Nope I don't wear briefs, I don't think it's appropriate to only wear briefs around the house...boxers oo

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Post by: no736 on November 28, 2013, 11:46:38 pm
Thanks no736, I asked na din sa guy na kakilala ko, and he said the same thing. haha. ;D

Question: Do you wear briefs (not boxers) OR is it okay for you guys to wear briefs lang around your sisters?

i wear briefs when going to work, then boxers sa bahay.

and like sacred cow said, it is inappropriate to wear only briefs walking around at home with your sisters around  :o eww
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: budzwhiz on November 29, 2013, 07:28:07 am
Hahahaha! Thanks sacred cow and no736, couldn't agree with you more. Kahit naman yung kuya ko boxers oo, but briefs, no way. May pagka bonjing din pag ganun e. ;D Well, aside from being inappropriate. ::)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: junepets on December 11, 2013, 01:41:17 pm
hi guyz..

medyo tahimik dito ah..

hmmmmmm...

here's one:
would you know, from just looking at a girl... that she is good or great in bed?
;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: lesters_gal on December 12, 2013, 04:52:06 am
Dating kayo in 7months.he kept telling you na hindi sha inlove sayo. Pero nung nakikipag hiwalay ka na at gusto mo na tapusin kung anong meron kayo bakit sha umiiyak? Paki explain naman guys.
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Post by: ms_teryosa on December 12, 2013, 07:48:53 am
question for guys...
if you're dating someone and during few dates eh may nangyari agad sa inyo nung girl, ntuturn off ba agad kayo like you see her as easy to get or some kind of b**** or dumadating din naman sa point na tingin nyo pwede rin naman sila seryosohin?
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Post by: ijj2k on December 12, 2013, 10:09:29 am
May question po ako ...

May anak kami ni guy, 2 years na kami pero hindi pa kasal ...
I met his family already and naging close ko naman halos lahat ... pinsan, tita, tito, lola, mommy, kapatid nya ...

Pero lately bakit si guy parang bigla nalang parang dedma, parang cold sa akin, kahit sa anak namin parang ok lang siya na hindi nya nakakamusta (magkahiwalay kami bahay), bihira kami magusap ... ni hindi makaalala mangamusta man lang kung buhay pa kami ng anak nya although nagsusustento naman at hindi naman mahirap hingan ng panggatas ng anak niya ...

Nagdududa na ako kung anong nangyayari, gusto ko siya kausapin pero where should I start? I tried talking to him before pero parang distant siya at parang umiiwas sa kung ano maitanong ko. Hindi ako war freak guys, hindi rin naman ako palengkera, kaso I just need to know how to ask the right questions sana sa case namin na ito. Yung tipong kahit derecho kong itanong kung ayaw niya na ba sa relasyon namin or napapagod siya .. OR WORSE baka may iba na siya :(

Nasi-stress na po kasi ako sa kanya ... ayoko naman na pangunahan siya and conclude na meron na ngang iba. Alam ko rin na madami siyang isipin at dami siya problema, pero sino bang wala??? Hindi naman ata right reason un or enough reason na basta ka nalang manlalamig tapos iiwan mong nakabitin sa ere yung tao ... :(

Pls pls help, especially sa mga guys. bakit may ibang lalaki na ganito? ... hindi ko alam gagawin ko e. Need all your advice po. TIA!
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Post by: Naughty^GuRu on December 12, 2013, 11:45:34 am
would you know, from just looking at a girl... that she is good or great in bed?
;)
In reality, wala namang good or bad na girl in bed. as long as the girl is willing to try things then Good siya, if not, then she's Boring.

To answer your question, No! wala sa looks yun, minsan the most innocent looking girl ang mas Hot, Wild, and good in Bed. I met this UA&P chick before, innocent face and classy kumilos, pero pag dating sa bed she's very dirty, she's cursing and talking dirty in tagalog

Dating kayo in 7months.he kept telling you na hindi sha inlove sayo. Pero nung nakikipag hiwalay ka na at gusto mo na tapusin kung anong meron kayo bakit sha umiiyak? Paki explain naman guys.
7 months is no joke, baka nanghihinayang din siya sa time and emotions na nainvest niyo sa isa't isa. I can't tell if inlove siya sayo or not, pero kung sinasabi niyang NO, totoo man or hindi then tama lang to end it. 7 months kayong dating then hindi pa siya inlove sayo or dinedeny niya na inlove siya sayo. para lang kayong naglolokohan or parang niloloko ka lang niya. wait, are you sure na Dating nga kayo and not just a casual hangout buddy? 7 months of dating without commitment, hindi mo pa sinasagot or hindi pa siya nagtatanong? baka naman hindi talaga siya nanliligaw, hence, hindi siya inlove sayo

question for guys...
if you're dating someone and during few dates eh may nangyari agad sa inyo nung girl, ntuturn off ba agad kayo like you see her as easy to get or some kind of b**** or dumadating din naman sa point na tingin nyo pwede rin naman sila seryosohin?

case to case basis I think. pero my take on this personally: yeah i'll find the girl cheap and might not pursue her na as a GF. kung nakukuha ko naman ng free yung sex without commitment then bakit pa kita i-gigirlfriend? unless the guy is really into you. and hindi mo masisisi yung guy kung mag isip or magtanong siya kung nagawa mo na yun before sa iba mong ka-date

May question po ako ...

May anak kami ni guy, 2 years na kami pero hindi pa kasal ...
I met his family already and naging close ko naman halos lahat ... pinsan, tita, tito, lola, mommy, kapatid nya ...

Pero lately bakit si guy parang bigla nalang parang dedma, parang cold sa akin, kahit sa anak namin parang ok lang siya na hindi nya nakakamusta (magkahiwalay kami bahay), bihira kami magusap ... ni hindi makaalala mangamusta man lang kung buhay pa kami ng anak nya although nagsusustento naman at hindi naman mahirap hingan ng panggatas ng anak niya ...

Nagdududa na ako kung anong nangyayari, gusto ko siya kausapin pero where should I start? I tried talking to him before pero parang distant siya at parang umiiwas sa kung ano maitanong ko. Hindi ako war freak guys, hindi rin naman ako palengkera, kaso I just need to know how to ask the right questions sana sa case namin na ito. Yung tipong kahit derecho kong itanong kung ayaw niya na ba sa relasyon namin or napapagod siya .. OR WORSE baka may iba na siya :(

Nasi-stress na po kasi ako sa kanya ... ayoko naman na pangunahan siya and conclude na meron na ngang iba. Alam ko rin na madami siyang isipin at dami siya problema, pero sino bang wala??? Hindi naman ata right reason un or enough reason na basta ka nalang manlalamig tapos iiwan mong nakabitin sa ere yung tao ... :(

Pls pls help, especially sa mga guys. bakit may ibang lalaki na ganito? ... hindi ko alam gagawin ko e. Need all your advice po. TIA!

gano na katagal yung 'lately' na hindi niya pagpaparamdan? baka he is going through something. since in a relationship naman kayo, pwede mo naman siya kumustahin and ask what's going on with him. ask him if he is going through something and offer him help. we guys have a tendency kasi na solohin ang problema. don't over think and conclude na may something fishy siyang ginagawa. for now, the best thing you can do is kausapin mo siya. pag sinabi niyang he is well and wala namang problem, saka mo siya tanungin kung anong plano niya or plano niyo, tell him how you feel. be honest
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 12, 2013, 12:08:56 pm
question for guys...
if you're dating someone and during few dates eh may nangyari agad sa inyo nung girl, ntuturn off ba agad kayo like you see her as easy to get or some kind of b**** or dumadating din naman sa point na tingin nyo pwede rin naman sila seryosohin?

nope, I don't see her as easy to get or whatever. it just tells me she's interested and that I'm not wasting my time being with her kesa naman sa pa hard to get at ayaw mag put out
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Post by: lesters_gal on December 12, 2013, 02:14:30 pm
Bro naughty guru yes we're dating.  Sabi niya he really really likes me pero yun nga hindi daw sha inlove, never daw sha nainlove sa kahit na kaninong babae. I don't know if it's true. I asked him kung ano kami, ang sagot niya lagi sa akin is he's happy with me, and contented but yun nga hindi daw sha inlove. At he wants to stay single because hindi daw niya alam kung kaya niya maibigay yung responsibility. Sinabi ko rin sa kanya na mahal ko sha, pero we can't go on that way forever, mahirap ang walang title sa isang relasyon. Is it possible ba sa mga guys in 35 years of your life never kayo na inlove?oh well baka hindi lang ako talaga ako yung girl for him
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Post by: Naughty^GuRu on December 12, 2013, 03:06:29 pm
@lesters_gal: impossible na never pa siya nainlove, baka nafeel na niya yun before or nafefeel na niya sayo yun ngayon pero hindi lang niya alam na love na pala yun. baka hindi lang niya alam kung ano ang definition of being inlove. yes, mahirap yung situation niyo right now kasi technically hindi naman kayo in a relationship. may agreement ba kayo na exclusive lang kayo for each other? playing safe si guy, ang tagal niyo nang dating and openly sinasabi mo sa kanya na you love him pero siya wala lang. to be honest, baka ang tingin sayo ni guy eh meantime girl ka lang. maybe he is waiting for his 'ideal girl'. hindi ko sinasabi na leave him and end yung set up niyo ah, kasi i might be wrong. pero ang advice ko lang, huwag mo paikutin yung mundo mo sa kanya. huwag kang umasa para hindi madisappoint kung in the end i-drop ka niya
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Post by: lesters_gal on December 12, 2013, 04:08:24 pm
Wala kami agreement na exclusive dating kami. We said our goodbyes na yesterday, super iyak siya, but he didn't ask me to stay.... :( So i guess hindi talaga ako kawalan sa kanya.. hindi ko na kasi kaya. I did everything for him pero wala parin, nakakapagod, hindi mo alam where you stand.  Last night he kept texting me na magkita daw kami uli next week for the last time para ibigay yung gift niya sa akin for christmas pero hindi na ako nagreply.  P.S. madali lang ba sa isang guy na umiyak? I don't know if his tears are geniune or crocodile tears lang.
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Post by: jonielle on December 12, 2013, 04:54:03 pm
mahirap sa guy magpangap umiyak pwera na lang kung artista sya.
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Post by: lesters_gal on December 12, 2013, 06:00:34 pm
^Baka nga artista sha. Ang galing umiyak nung boylet ko kahapon. Lol! Naawa ako sa kanya pero mas naawa ako sa sarili ko.
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Post by: ijj2k on December 12, 2013, 06:55:38 pm

gano na katagal yung 'lately' na hindi niya pagpaparamdan? baka he is going through something. since in a relationship naman kayo, pwede mo naman siya kumustahin and ask what's going on with him. ask him if he is going through something and offer him help. we guys have a tendency kasi na solohin ang problema. don't over think and conclude na may something fishy siyang ginagawa. for now, the best thing you can do is kausapin mo siya. pag sinabi niyang he is well and wala namang problem, saka mo siya tanungin kung anong plano niya or plano niyo, tell him how you feel. be honest
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Thank you ... nalinawan po ng konti. Sana lang he'll open up para at least hindi naman ako nangangapa ang hindi naman kami parehong nanghuhula sa nararamdaman ng isa't isa. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on December 14, 2013, 04:29:24 am
Question, what could be reasons behind a guy's "sudden" treatment of a girl?

I know this guy at work and we are not really close friends. He has a girlfriend. He is also not the type who approaches me and all. And recently, whenever he sees me, he makes it a point to say hi or ask something (not personal). One time, he even sat next to me to ask a question and when his GF arrived, he left.

AND I DON'T THINK HE "LIKES" ME BECAUSE MAN, HIS GF IS PRETTY AND I AM NOT.

So I am just curious what could be going on in this guy's mind or guys' minds in general.

thanks!
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Post by: Naughty^GuRu on December 14, 2013, 11:21:09 am
Thank you ... nalinawan po ng konti. Sana lang he'll open up para at least hindi naman ako nangangapa ang hindi naman kami parehong nanghuhula sa nararamdaman ng isa't isa. :)
yung mga unlabelled relationship works in guys favor, kasi parang kayo pero hindi. which means, para siyang may GF pero walang responsibility. he can go out and meet other girls without feeling guilty, and he can dump you any time makahanap siya ng someone more interesting. i suggest you go out with other guys din, para hindi ka naka focus sa kanya.

Question, what could be reasons behind a guy's "sudden" treatment of a girl?

I know this guy at work and we are not really close friends. He has a girlfriend. He is also not the type who approaches me and all. And recently, whenever he sees me, he makes it a point to say hi or ask something (not personal). One time, he even sat next to me to ask a question and when his GF arrived, he left.

AND I DON'T THINK HE "LIKES" ME BECAUSE MAN, HIS GF IS PRETTY AND I AM NOT.

So I am just curious what could be going on in this guy's mind or guys' minds in general.

thanks!
why are you bothered sa kung anong iniisip niya? do you like the guy? Again girls, bakit kayo nagfofocus or bakit niyo iniisip yung things na wala kayong control, i mean why do you have to analyze yung actions ng guy and ano yung iniisip niya? maybe he is just trying to be friendly or sige you could say maybe he likes you, and so what? gusto ka man niya or not, does it matter?

what does it mean when a guy said gusto nya anakan ang isang babae? kamanyakan lang ba yun?
i guess nijojoke ka ni guy nung sinabi niya ito? eto yung mga jokes to see kung kakagat yung girl eh, may mga girls kasi na sumasakay sa ganitong jokes that lead to another things. yes, manyak joke ito.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: lawrencelourdes on December 16, 2013, 12:17:40 am
just wanted to ask your opinion about this. hoping that someone can enlighten me on this matter...

for about three months, i had a difficult time adjusting and moving on from a break-up. just last week, the guy you've been with for almost 5 years asked you back. i know i've prayed for this moment...for us to be together again. i even dreamt of him every night during those three months that's why tis was so hard for me to forget him. we've been together again for a week but i know deep inside, i'm not happy. i know i waited for this but now there's doubt. i'm the one in doubt if i really would like to go one with this relationship as i no longer know how to talk to him without him thinking that tis an argument. How can I encourage him to have a talk? we got back together but he didn't want to talk about what happened during the past. he said that things will be different this time but how will you know it if you guys didn't get to talk about your differences? another problem is, he does not know how to handle his finances properly. he will ask me to purchase things through the use of my credit card and pay on installment basis. if he doesn't get to pay because of other financial obligations for the certain month, i have do so. i'm afraid that we will just be going back to where we started then drift off again.  :'(
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Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on December 16, 2013, 03:06:33 pm
just wanted to ask your opinion about this. hoping that someone can enlighten me on this matter...

for about three months, i had a difficult time adjusting and moving on from a break-up. just last week, the guy you've been with for almost 5 years asked you back. i know i've prayed for this moment...for us to be together again. i even dreamt of him every night during those three months that's why tis was so hard for me to forget him. we've been together again for a week but i know deep inside, i'm not happy. i know i waited for this but now there's doubt. i'm the one in doubt if i really would like to go one with this relationship as i no longer know how to talk to him without him thinking that tis an argument. How can I encourage him to have a talk? we got back together but he didn't want to talk about what happened during the past. he said that things will be different this time but how will you know it if you guys didn't get to talk about your differences? another problem is, he does not know how to handle his finances properly. he will ask me to purchase things through the use of my credit card and pay on installment basis. if he doesn't get to pay because of other financial obligations for the certain month, i have do so. i'm afraid that we will just be going back to where we started then drift off again.  :'(

^ My oh my! I kind of stopped focusing on what else you wrote after you said that 'deep inside, I'm not happy'... People go into relationships to have someone to share happiness with (in general). Of course, there will be bad times, but if you just got back together and sakit na sa ulo again, time to re-think your latest decision. Even if it was something you supposedly dreamed and prayed for.. it's not a guarantee na yun yung for you. Perhaps, you are simply given a choice to take it or refuse it. Refusal to talk about the past - If this matters to you; meaning you want to talk about it and he doesn't, then looks like you are not in the same page. Bottom line is, if di ka happy, not worth being with that guy.

Think of this scenario.. there are men in your life that you have such huge crushes on and you think, if ito naging BF ko, magigiging perfect ang life ko.. Pero in reality, well, it's not as exciting as you think it would be. I am not saying that this is always the case, but when it does end up like this, kind of sad huh? Best of luck!!!
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Post by: ijj2k on December 17, 2013, 10:02:04 pm
yung mga unlabelled relationship works in guys favor, kasi parang kayo pero hindi. which means, para siyang may GF pero walang responsibility. he can go out and meet other girls without feeling guilty, and he can dump you any time makahanap siya ng someone more interesting. i suggest you go out with other guys din, para hindi ka naka focus sa kanya.


... I am not too sure if I should be doing this ... May anak kaming 1 year old e... and that makes it all the more difficult for me, I guess. :(
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Post by: Girltalker2 on December 18, 2013, 09:50:12 pm

... I am not too sure if I should be doing this ... May anak kaming 1 year old e... and that makes it all the more difficult for me, I guess. :(

What makes it difficult to go out kung may anak ka na?  walang mag-aalaga ng anak mo? 
Most likely you still feel obligated to him samantalang sya eh walang pakialam. That's not fair to you. Pero kung hahayaan mo ang situation to reign over what you/your baby needs (love and attention), you will definitely be trapped in misery.  Trapped = walang katakasan.

This is the problem with most guys. They don't talk, they are immature beings who cannot even verbalize on what they want. Aanak anak or mag-g-gf tapos ni hindi maka kumpleto ng sentence kung ano ang gusto nya mangyari.

Biglang maglalaho or magiging distant pero walang sasabihin. Parang mga ewan.

Kung bigla lang syang bumitiw or nanlamig, before you talk to him, know your position.  Kung sinabi nyang ayaw na nya, alamin mo ang reaction mo at propose mo pag-agreehan ninyo kasi may anak na kayo.  Pag sinabi nya gusto pa nya, alamin mo rin ano ang dapat mo sabihin o i-demand kung magiging kayo at kung hindi nya ito kaya, be ready rin to plan B. However, if you have tried to talk to him kaso he is evading. Aba, itext mo nalang, sabihin mo, ayaw ko na sa relationship natin, if that is what you call it.  Gusto mo muna makapag isa but you are keeping your doors open para sa anak mo, pero never na magiging kayo.

 


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Berynice on December 19, 2013, 04:19:12 pm
Hi guys, was thinking if you guys found out that the girl you like has a family history of like autism, allergies, skin asthma? OR will you ever like girls kung may ganun man sila?
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Post by: sacred cow on December 22, 2013, 08:54:20 am
Hi guys, was thinking if you guys found out that the girl you like has a family history of like autism, allergies, skin asthma? OR will you ever like girls kung may ganun man sila?

bakit naman hindi? it's not like we're gonna marry her na kaagad...like pa lang naman diba?
as long as she's not the one with autism or weird allergies, then it's all good
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Post by: minatay91 on December 22, 2013, 03:20:16 pm
Quote
Hi guys, was thinking if you guys found out that the girl you like has a family history of like autism, allergies, skin asthma? OR will you ever like girls kung may ganun man sila?

as someone with allergies and skin asthma., I find your question amusing. lolz
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on December 22, 2013, 06:13:08 pm
How do you guys get the assurance that it's just you and nobody else?
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Post by: minatay91 on December 22, 2013, 06:44:54 pm
^ secondeddd guys please answer
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 22, 2013, 08:58:58 pm
How do you guys get the assurance that it's just you and nobody else?

trust and gut feel din lang, and siguro the way she interacts with you...I mean kapag alam mong nasa 'yo full attention niya when you're together at hindi kung sino sino kausap/katext sa phone
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on December 22, 2013, 09:02:53 pm
^
Aray. Kaya naman pala nag-tantrums. Thanks for answering.

Also, would it be alright to show him the text messages received when you're together or would it be too much? Or only when he asks?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 22, 2013, 09:43:02 pm
^
Aray. Kaya naman pala nag-tantrums. Thanks for answering.

Also, would it be alright to show him the text messages received when you're together or would it be too much? Or only when he asks?

I think it would be too much to show him the texts, siguro better if refrain from checking your phone too much na lang or check it when he's busy doing something else or kapag nag-cr. basta huwag yung habang naguusap kayo tapos maya't maya nagtetext ka. it's just rude and show low interest level
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Post by: sugardrop on December 22, 2013, 09:55:15 pm
^
Hindi naman maya't maya ako nagtetext. I usually ignore them when we're together. Magkasunod lang na call and text with a bad move on my part when I switched my phone off. Thanks for answering. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on December 25, 2013, 01:39:44 am
Ilan months na kayo dating/ officially together bago niyo pinakilala si serious gf/ex gf/ wife?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: no736 on December 27, 2013, 11:35:36 pm
Ilan months na kayo dating/ officially together bago niyo pinakilala si serious gf/ex gf/ wife?

ako mga 5 months official kame ng now wife ko, then pinakilala ko na siya sa family. but that was years ago hehe.. not sure how kids do it these days  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ayami on December 29, 2013, 03:27:15 am
On hurting women physically, I have questions:

Assuming that the dude is: not on drugs, not drunk, but (perhaps) lacks sleep and is stressed, what other reasons would make you "snap" or lose your control (then resorting to physical violence)?

Is it okay to hurt your gf/wife if you find her very mean (to teach her a lesson, maybe)? I haven't seen my dad hit my mom and she was a nasty nagger (not really sure though may times na wala pala ako sa house). Just wondering if stress is enough reason for hurting. Or case to case ba ito.

And also, is a guy hurting a girl physically gay? Haha. Lagi kasing sinasabi, pag pumatol sa babae, bading. :P
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 29, 2013, 04:55:43 am
I don't think there's ever a reason to justify a man resorting to physical violence to his wife/gf. Kahit sabihin pang stress/galit yan dapat hindi pinapatulan ng lalake ang babae, mas mabuti pang i-withhold na lang ni lalake ang attention niya at iignore si babae...

hindi bading as in gay ang guys na nananakit ng babae, bading as in duwag ang ibig sabihin nun kasi hindi naman makakalaban ang babae ng patas sa lalake (unless she's into boxing or MMA) pero hindi pa rin dapat saktan ng lalake ang babae
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: xxcheiyexx on December 30, 2013, 08:23:52 pm
Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. :( of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening.. :(
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Post by: Girltalker2 on December 30, 2013, 09:07:21 pm
I don't think there's ever a reason to justify a man resorting to physical violence to his wife/gf. Kahit sabihin pang stress/galit yan dapat hindi pinapatulan ng lalake ang babae, mas mabuti pang i-withhold na lang ni lalake ang attention niya at iignore si babae...

hindi bading as in gay ang guys na nananakit ng babae, bading as in duwag ang ibig sabihin nun kasi hindi naman makakalaban ang babae ng patas sa lalake (unless she's into boxing or MMA) pero hindi pa rin dapat saktan ng lalake ang babae

what if babae na nambubugbog?  should the guy fight back?



Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. :( of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening.. :(

Wala lang, maraming possible reasons:
1.  naubusan ng load
2.  nawala ang phone kaya nawala lahat ng contacts nya
3.  (huwag naman sana) natigok?
4.  may nakita na syang ibang mas interesting na text mate
5.  narealize nya na wala kayong future together kasi you are in Manila at sya ay nasa Davao
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on December 30, 2013, 11:14:59 pm
bakit naiintimidate ang isang lalaki sa isang babae?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 30, 2013, 11:58:48 pm
what if babae na nambubugbog?  should the guy fight back?


just defend himself and not strike back, he can easily overpower the girl and make her stop unless mas malaki yung girl sakanya at sobrang payat niya....hahaha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on December 31, 2013, 12:08:16 am
Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. :( of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening.. :(

I had an ex na ganyan from years ago. Bigla nag-disappear ng walang hi, hello, babay, goodbye. It went on for a month and a half til naging "wala lang" na sa akin. Then bigla nag-text after going mia, nangangamusta, apologizing for his going houdini on me. I listened to the explanation na he was searching for himself muna kaya he went *poof* and wanted to become a better man then asked if we can get back together. Since I've moved on, I no longer bothered getting back together with him. Prior to that, may lapses talaga sa text which never bothered me at that time.

But madami din possible reasons like what one sis here has stated:

- Nawalan ng load
- Nagkasakit
- Super busy lang with something
- Emergency na nakakataranta na hindi mo na maiisip mag-text ng mga taong hindi talaga concerned sa emergency
- Nag-"sleeping beauty" mode and tulog for a whole day
- Out of town and walang dalang charger
- Nawala yung phone
- Not sure about you and busy with other options
- Or simply wants "space"

Tama din yung isang sis na wag atat mag-reply pag nag-text na. Make him wonder too like he made you. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on December 31, 2013, 12:13:28 am
On hurting women physically, I have questions:

Assuming that the dude is: not on drugs, not drunk, but (perhaps) lacks sleep and is stressed, what other reasons would make you "snap" or lose your control (then resorting to physical violence)?

Is it okay to hurt your gf/wife if you find her very mean (to teach her a lesson, maybe)? I haven't seen my dad hit my mom and she was a nasty nagger (not really sure though may times na wala pala ako sa house). Just wondering if stress is enough reason for hurting. Or case to case ba ito.

And also, is a guy hurting a girl physically gay? Haha. Lagi kasing sinasabi, pag pumatol sa babae, bading. :P

I'll be talking from experience here. Some factors can be the guy having a really bad temper, too controlling, too obsessive, too possessive, too seloso. But neither of these can justify hitting a woman. Kahit na the girl is strong enough to do boxing and mma, iba pa din ang strength ng man over a woman unless ikaw ay movie and tv character na super kick @ss.

There are other ways to teach a woman a lesson, hitting isn't one of those unless they are into "domestic discipline".

Bakla kasi sa hindi kasing level ng lakas nya ang pinapatulan. Kung gusto ng suntukan, sa lalake din sya makipagsuntukan, hindi sa babae na mas mahina. I'm not saying women are the weaker sex, though, it's just that physically, men are generally stronger.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 31, 2013, 12:15:15 am
Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. :( of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening.. :(

possible reasons:

a) he wants to give you the gift of missing him
b) wants to see if you would text him first
c) tinamad na itext ka kasi inisip niyang wala naman siyang mapapala

So instead of not texting him and wondering what happened, just text him a "hey [textspeak!]'s up?" or a "happy new year" and see what happens, kapag hindi nagreply...then delete his number, easy diba? you obviously like him anyway, why act pakipot...kapag nagtext, magreply ka din at huwag na maginarte
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on December 31, 2013, 12:19:18 am
^
Tama.

Naalala ko nga si boyps before we started dating, he purposely doesn't text me on some days kasi nagpapa-miss daw sya. Di raw effective kaya nagtext na din.
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Post by: xxcheiyexx on December 31, 2013, 01:41:30 pm
He texted me last night, "Musta? Busy? :)" I replied this morning kasi tulog na ako when he texted. Just told him good morning and that i slept early last night, di rin sya nagreply. I reply to him naman when he texts and I think he feels na I like him too since i tell him i miss him naman. I understand if he's busy, I dont expect na we text all day long. nakakapanibago lang suddenly I dont wake up with a good morning text from him (which i reply to naman 90% of the time) and he stopped reminding me to eat on time tuwing lunch and dinner. :(
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Post by: tamera_lorraine on December 31, 2013, 02:49:20 pm
^ sis relax.

baka busy lang siya antayin mo lang huwag masyadong ipakita sa guy na super gusto mo siya...:)

hindi pa naman kayo di ba? just enjoy the flow muna.. :)


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on December 31, 2013, 04:36:24 pm
bakit naiintimidate ang isang lalaki sa isang babae?
madami reason, pag mukhang hi maintenance intimidating yan
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on December 31, 2013, 06:59:44 pm
bakit naiintimidate ang isang lalaki sa isang babae?

here's my opinion

a) guy finds girl too pretty, masyado nag-aanalyze ng gagawin/sasabihin at ayaw mareject

b) guy places girl on a pedestal and thinks that she's too good for him (e.g. higher income, comes from a higher social class, girl is smarter or better at something). naiinsecure si guy kasi iniisip niya na higher value sa kanya si girl

c) guniguni lang ni girl na naiintimidate si guy, pero sa totoo guy doesn't even find the girl attractive. jina justify na lang ni girl (usually swangit or fat) na intimidated ang guys sa kanya kaya hindi sakanya makalapit. pero yung girl pala etong may gusto kay guy, eh since guy doesn't want anything to do with girl...iniiwasan niya na lang ito or hindi titingnan sa mata

usually it's either A or C kadalasan, however when I hear a girl who complains na intimidated sakanya ang guys, iniisip ko na kaagad na it's C until proven otherwise :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: xxcheiyexx on December 31, 2013, 08:48:42 pm
^ sis relax.

baka busy lang siya antayin mo lang huwag masyadong ipakita sa guy na super gusto mo siya...:)

hindi pa naman kayo di ba? just enjoy the flow muna.. :)

Well sis, i don't think he's busy. Haha he was on facebook eh. Nanibago lang siguro ako talaga from his daily texts to nothing. I guess nasanay lang ako.. Anyway, he'll be back in Manila for a week a few days from now and he can't avoid me kasi we have to work together. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on January 01, 2014, 07:33:45 pm
^ plain and simple, he wants to get laid
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Post by: sugardrop on January 01, 2014, 10:37:39 pm
^
Men can sweet talk sh*t and do things that are sweet just to get laid, sis. And okay lang with his wife? Are they in an open marriage?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on January 01, 2014, 11:24:06 pm
Tama sis sugar.

^^ sis di ka ba nabobother na may wife yun tao?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: pretty68 on January 01, 2014, 11:27:25 pm
@missybee. He likes you and since you are entertaining him nawiwili sya tapos ikaw naman unti unti nang nahuhulog ang loob mo sa kanya. To say it bluntly "he wants you to become his mistress" if kakagat ka. Imposible naman na payag ang wife nya sa ganitong pinaggagagawa nya di ba sa umpisa pa lang nagsinungaling na sya sayo nung sinabi nya na committed lang sya then later on you learned that he is married. If I were you sis I will steer clear of himm before it's too late.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: kaiz on January 02, 2014, 01:57:13 pm
^me sis, ok lang sakin na hindi sinusuot ang ring
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ijj2k on January 02, 2014, 03:19:12 pm
Sa mga guy talkers dito, (everyone's advice will be highly appreciated though gusto ko malaman ang mga side ng guys din)

Can you pls give me an advice (or maybe morekung paano i-aaproach yung isang lalaki na pagusapan ang isang bagay seriously without that guy feeling na para syang nako-corner? Sorry hindi ko alam paano iexplain e lol.

Kasi simula nung umuwi partner ko (he's working abroad) parang "cold" treatment sya madalas saka kung hindi ko sya kakausapin hindi rin kumikibo. Mejo ganyan nya siya dati pero parang iba talaga ngayon. I'm feeling something is not right or something is going on behind my back tapos wala akong kaalam alam. So I was thinking bago pa siya umalis ulit at bumalik sa work kakausapin ko sya or maguusap kami ng maayos about how I feel na ganyan sya towards me. Pero ayoko rin mafeel nya na parang nate-threaten siya. Yung ganun ba. Ang hirap eh kasi lalo na may anak kami. Tapos nararamdamn ko din naman na para siyang nagpipigil ng emotions na ewan.

Paano ko kaya siya mapapa-open up kung ano yung totoong nararamdaman nya sa relasyon namin? or if he has something to say tapos mas pinipili nalang niya sarilinin? He's not really vocal so hindi ko rin alam paano uumpisahan yung paguusap namin. hay gulo. hehe.

Advice naman po pls ... thank you! :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iamlili on January 03, 2014, 01:25:03 am
^ I know a LOT of guys who doesn't wear their ring, even their wife. Minsan depende din sa religion eh.

Sent you a PM sis. Baka makatulong.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: kaiz on January 03, 2014, 04:24:20 am
^^ pwede kasing masikip na sa kanya hehe.
ang totoo, depende talaga yan sa relationship ng mag asawa.

pero may officemate ako na pagkasama niya wife niya, suot niya. kapag kasama ibang girls, tinatanggal niya. one time nga galing sa date, nagka car accident si officemate, yung ring nawala! pakawawa pa siya nung nag explain sa wife paano natanggal sa finger niya yung ring. naniwala naman si wife, pero ang totoo kasi hinubad niya yun at nilagay lang sa box..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: toinks.toinks on January 03, 2014, 08:44:54 am

Btw, may nalaman akong news that, may 3rd party involve sakanila ng wife niya I think yung wife niya is may something pa with ex. at natatakot siya na pag nag pa annul sila mahahati lahat ng pundar niya plus sustento ng anak pa.
I don't know yet if it's true pa.


kung reliable yung source mo baka pwede totoo, pero mostly part na lang ng drama nya yan, para lang may reason sya na kesyo patas lang sila kuno. and if something na meron nga na ganun si wife, hindi na siguro uuwi si guy dun sa kanila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: toinks.toinks on January 03, 2014, 09:54:51 am
Hindi sakaniya galing yung drama, secret akong nangangalap ng balita para malaman estado nila ng wife niya.
Imagine kasi, kahit mag damag kaming magkasama hindi siya hinahanap eh.
Hindi ko sure kung nag sasama sila, pero I doubt talaga.

IMHO, not right sis. ask yourself kung ok lang ba talaga sayo ang ganyan sitwasyon, it's not about singsing or whatsoever since alam mo naman na may asawa na so what's the point of not wearing, pero obviously ineentertain mo pa din. not fair para sa wife nya yan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: hisana on January 03, 2014, 02:33:36 pm
^
I totally agree.

Medyo confused ako sa situation. Are you trying to be more than friends with him? Or are you just amazed by the amount of time and attention he's giving you? (Sorry, medyo mababa ang reading comprehension ko today.) If you're hoping for a more special relationship, then I'm sure you already realize, as clear as day, na mistress ang ending mo dito. If you're just wondering about his behavior towards you, then my 2 cents is that may mga guys talaga na ganyan, mahilig magpa-impress or magpasweet sa mga babae. I've encountered lots. What their real intentions are, we do not know. Though to add, a guy friend said that for a married man na mag-effort na ganyan, means he feels he has a chance. Hindi sya mag-aaksaya ng pera at panahon, sa dami nyang other obligations sa buhay like anak nya and bills and all that, over something (or someone) he thinks na wala naman syang makukuha; baka maka-score daw (his words, not mine!). Madali lang naman umiwas sa ganito. Be careful. Good luck.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on January 03, 2014, 03:18:10 pm
I agree with everyone here. I read your posts and it seems that you are already so into him. The thing here is no matter what we all say, at the end of the day, it is still up to you if you're going to heed our advice or not.

Kasi napansin ko na may reason ka lagi agad pag hindi ganun ka-positive yung reply sayo about your "relationship" with this man. You're young, you can easily get overwhelmed with all the attention he's giving you and all the fancy dates and sweet talk. Wala ka plan ma-in love? You cannot plan being or not being in love.

You are setting yourself to becoming a mistress, dyan nagsisimula yan. If you have to learn the hard way, go ahead and be blinded by all these romantic gestures. But I hope that when reality finally hits you, you know how to pick up the pieces of your life. Hindi ko sinabing maging kabit ka, what I'm saying here is kung hindi ka papipigil, just be ready for whatever emotional turbulence you might end up having because of this thing. Ang bata mo pa eh.
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Post by: missybee on January 03, 2014, 06:22:16 pm
Salamat sa lahat ng nag advice mga sissies.
I made a decision na to leave him and let go :-)
Haha life goes on, too young for this.
Thanks again! :-)
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Post by: xxcheiyexx on January 04, 2014, 10:18:02 am
How does a girl know that she's more than just a rebound?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: marbleslice on January 05, 2014, 05:08:16 pm
Girl is in a relationship (bf is working abroad)
Girl has a close guy officemate- kwentuhan over lunch/snacks sometimes (once a month or kung kelan magkayayaan) they haven't seen each other in months so decided to have dinner and coffee after work. Informed bf about this and was ok with it daw.

Close guy officemate has broken up with his gf last year.

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on January 06, 2014, 12:35:04 am
^Close buddies then f---k buddies na susunod diyan  :)
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Post by: toinks.toinks on January 06, 2014, 02:27:29 am
Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

dun naman talaga mauuwi yan. so kung lalabas kayo, then go out with the others.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on January 06, 2014, 03:38:06 am
Girl is in a relationship (bf is working abroad)
Girl has a close guy officemate- kwentuhan over lunch/snacks sometimes (once a month or kung kelan magkayayaan) they haven't seen each other in months so decided to have dinner and coffee after work. Informed bf about this and was ok with it daw.

Close guy officemate has broken up with his gf last year.

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

If you could honestly say that neither of you finds the other attractive then it could work, kung meron mang attracted better not do it kasi naghahanap ka lang ng sakit ng ulo

isipin mo 'to:

a) if he likes you and you don't like him - he'd be in the friendzone and you'd be the only one benefiting from the relationship since you get all the benefits of having a bf/male companion minus sex while he would would be robbed of the opportunity to meet a girl who actually likes him since he would be spending that time "hanging out" with you

b) you like him and he doesn't like you - not only would you be emotionally cheating on your bf since you're technically going on dates with him, but there might come a time wherein you'd want more from him (guy friend) and one drinking session might end up with you telling him you like him, which could result to sex if he's horny. strict friendship is still possible with this setup since it's easier for girls to handle being in the friendzone than guys and besides may bf ka naman.

as for your guy giving you his approval to go hang out with a close guy friend, 2 lang yan:

a) he trusts you and he's confident enough that he's the best guy for you and if ever you cheat on him, he could dump your sorry ***   in an instant because he knows that he's the prize and can get a new girl to replace you

b) he's naive enough to think that a guy and girl that hangs out a lot can just be friends, and he basically absolved you of the guilt of cheating on him since pumayag siya and ikaw na rin nagsabi,

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

which translates to:

kung may mangyari man...hindi ko na kasalanan kasi nagsabi ako - chick logic at work, women don't want to accept blame and would rather blame it on somebody else if possible
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: budzwhiz on January 06, 2014, 01:07:45 pm
I agree with the others, marbleslice. And if you really didn't think of anything sa relationship nyo, you wouldn't be asking questions in the first place. :)
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Post by: argento on January 06, 2014, 02:20:19 pm
type din kasi si male office mate kaya ganun.
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Post by: annacutie.banana on January 06, 2014, 06:00:35 pm
sorry, this is a bit off-topic but somehow related to our guytalkers.

i was thinking of creating a new topic "Guytalker appreciation thread" pero it seems I don't have enough posts to start a new thread. I just wanted to commend and thank some of our resident guytalkers for their POV and advices. Sisters, sana someone can help me and create the guytalker appreciation thread. 

Thank you!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: junepets on January 06, 2014, 08:26:41 pm
Agreed mga bro and sis... I have a guy close friend din... Hubby knows him...
Minsan pag ot si hubby.. Nag one/two for the road kami while waitingfor hubby..

Sabi nga ni bro sacred cow... Kung di naman attracted sa isa't isa... No harm done...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: FrogPrince on January 08, 2014, 05:29:40 pm
Girl is in a relationship (bf is working abroad)
Girl has a close guy officemate- kwentuhan over lunch/snacks sometimes (once a month or kung kelan magkayayaan) they haven't seen each other in months so decided to have dinner and coffee after work. Informed bf about this and was ok with it daw.

Close guy officemate has broken up with his gf last year.

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

It's highly possible that one or both of you two could develop romantic feelings for each other lalo na kung kayo lagi ang magkasama. You could be his rebound while he could give you the companionship you're not getting from your bf.

I've been in the same situation a few years ago. The girl was already engaged pero nagka-develop-an pa din kami since kami lagi ang magkasama.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on January 09, 2014, 11:48:59 am
sorry, this is a bit off-topic but somehow related to our guytalkers.

i was thinking of creating a new topic "Guytalker appreciation thread" pero it seems I don't have enough posts to start a new thread. I just wanted to commend and thank some of our resident guytalkers for their POV and advices. Sisters, sana someone can help me and create the guytalker appreciation thread. 

Thank you!

this sounds nice, would've created a thread already kaso mas appropriate na female member ang magstart
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ohcmon on January 10, 2014, 04:53:16 pm
I'm semi-dating this guy who's in an LDR. Yes, we've slept together. Will I burn in hell?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Naughty^GuRu on January 11, 2014, 12:06:06 am
I'm semi-dating this guy who's in an LDR. Yes, we've slept together. Will I burn in hell?
yes. see you there
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: budzwhiz on January 11, 2014, 09:55:37 am
^ Hahahahaha okay literaly natawa ako. ;D sawsaw lang ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: schizo_me on January 11, 2014, 08:40:06 pm
not sure kung natanong na

Makakalimutin ba talaga kayo date? example birthday, anniversary etc
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sexykha on January 11, 2014, 08:55:13 pm
Why do men cheat?
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Post by: glacy_rein on January 12, 2014, 02:28:02 am
yes. see you there

me too. hahaha! everyone else will!  8)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on January 12, 2014, 08:40:49 am
Wow... I started this thread not too long ago and it is now on the 4th thread... Haha

^^ It can be any of these options:
- Your guy is naturally a player
- You could not satisfy him enough
- Either both of you became a couple due to lust or one was in it for love while the other for lust
- You two became a couple at a young age and the guy wanted to enjoy his life more
- Sex is just the best thing in the world and he's an addict (you just could not provide his needs)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Giri on January 17, 2014, 08:31:08 am
Ano reaction niyo kapag nililink kayo sa girls na type at di niyo type?

Smile lang pareho.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on January 17, 2014, 11:54:07 am
what if magkaiba kayo ng religion?

mahirap ba para sa inyo yun guys? needs POV

thanks!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sexykha on January 17, 2014, 06:30:44 pm
why do men wants hookups? when in fact they are in a current relationship.
for fun? for thrill? for lust?

what else?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Uridessey on January 21, 2014, 10:10:05 am
I have a scenario here, I need your opinions lalo na sa boys:

Hi. I am 22 yrs old, and I have a bf who is 34, still married (but not longer staying with his wife, filing for annulment) and has a kid. So we met each other like 4 yrs ago, and up until now, we are still together. So the thing is, when we became a couple, I was not that serious about him, and I was afraid of being serious because I am afraid to get hurt again, so I'm like testing the waters. So I tested him by texting him as a friend of mine, to see if he is serious about me. I admit that I really messed up and I played with him somehow. So that became a big problem to us. Plus, I have a wandering eye then that's why I had crushes in my office, which became another problem. So he broke up with me then I realized that I do really love him and I can't live without him. So I begged for him to take me back, and he said so many hurting things to me like, if someone comes his way, he will be open for that woman; and that he can't wait for me in 5 years, and he does not love me that much.

So after months of begging and pleading, I decided to give up and focused on my work. I became close with my 2 guy officemates. Both of them admitted that they have a crush on me. Then I realized that I was starting to heal. After 5 months, he came back to me and I told him that I'm already starting to move on. But I do still love him then. We tried to work things out but there were times when he would doubt me.

So last year, 2013, I did everything for him to know how much he means to me. We went out on weekends date, which were so great. And I even helped him one weekend with his laundry, and whenever he is getting mad at me, I would buy him chocolates, coffee, or even write him an apology letter. But recently, he has changed. He was making excuses like he can't meet me after work because he is tired or he has pending jobs. And I waited for 3 hours for him, because I badly wanted to see him. Then one day he would not text me, then he would later on tell me that he was sleeping or doing some household chores because he is alone in his apartment. And last weekend, I received a text telling me that he is already home, when he did not text me where he was going. He said that because he already mentioned it to me yesterday, and because I wake up late during weekends, he did not mention it to me. Another thing is that, I told him that I still remember what he told me before that it is his dream that we become a couple, he said that he can't remember it and all he remembers is that he thought that it is only in his dreams that I will become his gf.

Then there were days when he would not text me, like when he said that he will go home to his son who is with her grandma, and that I can't call or text him because he's son will be reviewing. And I doubted that. I even asked him if he will tell me something, and he said that he has nothing to say. And I asked him why he is distant to me, like avoiding me, then he said because of what happened to us, of me having crushes with my officemates, and he finds it hard to trust me sometimes. Are my efforts not enough to let him know how much he means to me? Then yesterday we had an argument then he dropped down the phone, and I was so hurt because I could never do that to him, even when times get rough.

Pls help me. Should I give up on him since it seems like I can never have him? I am so confused. I am crying every night, thinking why he is doing this things to me now that I am very serious about him. Why did he even get back to me if he has not moved on yet? Why even made me love him again that much? It hurts.. I even made him love letters through blog, while he never gave me any. I even bought him fruits and medicines when he was sick. Is he cheating on me? I'm so confused.. Sometimes he would pick up fights telling me that I blocked him in Facebook when I did not. I just hate arguing with him for no reason. Please help me..
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Post by: minatay91 on January 21, 2014, 11:06:27 am
^ perhaps it's karma. Or you just need to move on. Just like you tested him and at that time, you were pulling the strings, he is now in control and Im sure alam niya na patay ka sa kanya. He's taking advantage of you while he still can while looking for his perfect girl.

Clearly he doesnt care so much about you and its time you do the same.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: disturbed on January 21, 2014, 08:32:52 pm
what if magkaiba kayo ng religion?

mahirap ba para sa inyo yun guys? needs POV

thanks!

..there are others syempre iba view nila sa religion..so it depends sa situation nyo yan..nagkataon medyo flexible ako pagdating sa ganyan..so it worked out for us..I converted..give and take lang..it takes sacrifice talaga..and since kaya ko naman gawin..I did it..

so pano ba ang view nyo sa religion? yung ibang guys kasi more on sila dapat sundan kaya mas prefer nila you convert, or pressure sa parents/relatives, or ayaw nya lang [textspeak!] sa religion mo or any other reasons..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: disturbed on January 21, 2014, 08:43:48 pm
@uridessey, +1 to Minatay said,

its not easy to move on now that you are hooked up again with him..but you really need to..life has much more to offer than waste your effort on a certain guy..just concentrate on other things..lilipas ulit yan..

crushes are ok..my gf have many..that is normal..sino bang walang crush? but that's it crushes lang..if you take it to another level then that is a different matter..also, when you have trust issues there is no point in rebuilding the relationship IMO..lalabas at lalabas [textspeak!] issues na yan..rebuild a relationship with someone else and learn from your mistakes na lang
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on January 22, 2014, 08:38:28 am
@Uridessey - So, after reading that long post, my answer to your problem is simple. Forget about him and move on.

Some factors?
- Age difference
- Guy has a kid and would be a problem if the kid doesn't like you
- He wants to settle down with the right person since he's 34 already
- You're still young and should have about 3-5 years before thinking of getting married
- Parents approve of this?
- You said you guys were together even though he's married, what are the chances that he will flirt with another girl when you guys become a real couple?

Here's my questions to you. Do you see him as your future husband? Do you want to be in a relationship or marry a guy who would pick fights with you, especially about trust? Would you like a guy who does not value the efforts that you show him? Do you want to be "under" him and not be treated equally? Don't you want to be happy?

Also, based on what you wrote, you seem to be an attractive girl since 2 of your officemates like you. My suggestion is to shut the door on the married guy and start entertaining other guys. Go on dates, focus on your work, or go to the gym to help you move on. Not being with this one guy should not be the end of the world for a young girl like you.

I know it's easy for me to say this because I am not in your shoes. But that's the point, you need to listen to what other people have to say because you are blinded with your "love" towards that guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on January 22, 2014, 08:57:23 am
@uridessey

you are not and just like everybody else to be treated as someone's beck and call. Loving is a 2 way street (well not for martyrs and unrequited love :p)

you already know the answer to your situation which is to give up, but as they say easier said than done right.

we do crazy things for love but in reality that's just an excuse for bad behavior. hehe yaan mo na siya sis, c'mon you're single and it's a big world out there, you are missing out a great chance to find the kind of love and pure happiness. don't get tied down by someone who is not even worth your undivided attention.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on January 26, 2014, 04:23:27 pm
..there are others syempre iba view nila sa religion..so it depends sa situation nyo yan..nagkataon medyo flexible ako pagdating sa ganyan..so it worked out for us..I converted..give and take lang..it takes sacrifice talaga..and since kaya ko naman gawin..I did it..

so pano ba ang view nyo sa religion? yung ibang guys kasi more on sila dapat sundan kaya mas prefer nila you convert, or pressure sa parents/relatives, or ayaw nya lang [textspeak!] sa religion mo or any other reasons..


@disturbed.. thanks s reply nakakita ako ng thread about sa post ko..

i need to decide na talaga mukhang mahihirapan ako sa ganitong setup..

pagusapan nalang namin ng maayos.. hopefully maging maganda ang results.. ^_^

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on January 27, 2014, 05:15:58 pm
If you guys work ~15 hrs in a day, and toxic workload talaga, what do you want to do to unwind during weekends?

I only see my boyfriend during weekends and when he comes over usually we just tambay sa bahay, and pagluluto ko sya or we eat out. I want to treat him for something sana (massage, quick road trip, etc) na hindi sya mapapagod masyado para maiba naman. Any suggestions?
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Post by: jtansanco on January 28, 2014, 11:08:00 am
^ Of course, the one that got away.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on January 29, 2014, 02:57:24 pm
bakit ang hilig nyo sa "parang kayo pero hindi" setup?  :P
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on January 29, 2014, 03:27:59 pm
^i'm not a guy pero here's my two cents: a guy only settles for "parang kayo pero hindi kayo" setup for two reasons -- he's unsure of considering that particular girl a potential partner, and the girl settles to be unlabeled.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Uridessey on January 29, 2014, 03:59:59 pm
@Uridessey - So, after reading that long post, my answer to your problem is simple. Forget about him and move on.

Some factors?
- Age difference
- Guy has a kid and would be a problem if the kid doesn't like you
- He wants to settle down with the right person since he's 34 already
- You're still young and should have about 3-5 years before thinking of getting married
- Parents approve of this?
- You said you guys were together even though he's married, what are the chances that he will flirt with another girl when you guys become a real couple?

Here's my questions to you. Do you see him as your future husband? Do you want to be in a relationship or marry a guy who would pick fights with you, especially about trust? Would you like a guy who does not value the efforts that you show him? Do you want to be "under" him and not be treated equally? Don't you want to be happy?

Also, based on what you wrote, you seem to be an attractive girl since 2 of your officemates like you. My suggestion is to shut the door on the married guy and start entertaining other guys. Go on dates, focus on your work, or go to the gym to help you move on. Not being with this one guy should not be the end of the world for a young girl like you.

I know it's easy for me to say this because I am not in your shoes. But that's the point, you need to listen to what other people have to say because you are blinded with your "love" towards that guy.

I really liked what you said here. You are right na those are the reasons why I should give up on him, and every waking day, I always think of those reasons. It's really hard when you love someone that much. And to answer your question, my parents don't know about us kasi I doubt na they will accept us. Malaman lang na 34 na sya and may anak pa. Regarding dun sa still married, di na sila magkasama, as in hiwalay na, nagfifile for annulment. He said that I did not work out for them when his wife worked abroad, and even had other man there.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on January 30, 2014, 12:51:59 am
^ I see, so the wife worked abroad and he found out she's with another guy. So, it's like you're the rebound, temporary crying shoulder, and unsure lover all at the same time. C'mon, you're better than that. Enjoy your life. IF you're really meant to be for each other, than he should wait or chase you until you're ready to be in a relationship with him or to settle down. Remember, the ball is on your hands. You're the lady. Act like a goddess that every guy would drool over and not the other way around.. Haha but I hate it when a girl like does that though. Haha ;D

bakit ang hilig nyo sa "parang kayo pero hindi" setup?  :P

Actually, I have a friend who's experiencing something like that and I'm friends with both the guy and girl. Guy doesn't mind but girl kept on ranting because she doesn't know if he's unsure of her or bla bla bla.

Based on that couple, I could say guy is still unsure about committing because he's carrier-driven and there might be one flaw that he doesn't like in the girl (and that sucks if that's the deal breaker).
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Uridessey on January 30, 2014, 10:37:22 am
@jtansanco

4 years na silang di nag uusap ng wife nya. He had a few relationships after her, so hindi ako yung naging gf nya right after masira yung marriage nila. And yeah, one of my weaknesses is adjusting for the guy. Ilang beses na kong nasaktan because of doing that haha. Di na nasanay haha..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on January 30, 2014, 10:53:12 am
^i'm not a guy pero here's my two cents: a guy only settles for "parang kayo pero hindi kayo" setup for two reasons -- he's unsure of considering that particular girl a potential partner, and the girl settles to be unlabeled.

yeah. thanks though.. Im the girl actually. I never want to label it and even ask him kasi "takot akong mawala sya as a friend." though im coping with it now since he went to US for a year now. But since he's coming back this Feb, di ko alam kung paano ang treatment ko sa kanya.
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Post by: Pink_Sugar on January 31, 2014, 09:52:25 pm
^lol. My bf don't.
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Post by: sugardrop on January 31, 2014, 10:01:02 pm
^^
He does. And usually malalaman mo naman kasi nag-iiba yung pacing and sound nya and mas bongga yung gigil factor.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on February 03, 2014, 12:34:55 pm
everything's going well between the two of you. as in way well, yung tipong alam mong onti na lang maiinlove na. then all of a sudden the guy pulls away, medyo naging unpredictable siya. though he still communicates everyday but hindi siya ganun kasweet. why?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: onilord on February 03, 2014, 01:29:32 pm
^
Pareho ba kayong sweet sa isa't isa or sya lang then ikaw naman nagpapakipot? You should appreciate the fact that na palagi ka pa rin nya minemessage/tinatawagan. Baka naman binabago lang nya yung approach nya towards you kasi iniisip nya baka nauumay ka na sa pagiging sweet nya? Or baka kasi feeling nya hindi mo yun na-aappreciate? Pwede ring baka nawawalan na sya ng gana or pagasa sa'yo? Or baka naman nago-overthink ka lang masyado? Teka, nanliligaw ba sya sayo or baka naman he just treats you as a close friend/ka-flirt (tingin ko naman hindi kasi sabi mo onti na lang maiinlove na, just don't want to assume)?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on February 03, 2014, 02:39:35 pm
^
Pareho ba kayong sweet sa isa't isa or sya lang then ikaw naman nagpapakipot? You should appreciate the fact that na palagi ka pa rin nya minemessage/tinatawagan. Baka naman binabago lang nya yung approach nya towards you kasi iniisip nya baka nauumay ka na sa pagiging sweet nya? Or baka kasi feeling nya hindi mo yun na-aappreciate? Pwede ring baka nawawalan na sya ng gana or pagasa sa'yo? Or baka naman nago-overthink ka lang masyado? Teka, nanliligaw ba sya sayo or baka naman he just treats you as a close friend/ka-flirt (tingin ko naman hindi kasi sabi mo onti na lang maiinlove na, just don't want to assume)?

yes we both are sweet to each other. and very honest about what we want to say. we don't have any labels. we're just taking it as it is. but i don't know what happened next. all i know is that he's busy with work. malabo. hehe maybe you're right overthinking lang ako. but still diba i mean weve been honest since day 1. ngayon pa ba kekeme na may pag-pull away pa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: onilord on February 03, 2014, 02:42:32 pm
ayun! honest naman pala kayo sa isa't isa.. I guess only he can answer/clear your doubts.. i suggest you go and talk to him ^^,
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on February 03, 2014, 02:48:12 pm
ayun! honest naman pala kayo sa isa't isa.. I guess only he can answer/clear your doubts.. i suggest you go and talk to him ^^,

that's the thing, i don't know where to start without looking na im assuming or something. baka i might come off strong. i suddenly feel i dont have any right to ask since he's pulling away. should i read between the lines na lang ba. or if i do ask, what's the right approach? or should i give it some time? baka kasi he just needs some down time or busy lang. and im just assuming things.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on February 04, 2014, 07:06:42 am
^ i know someone who's like this. I learned not to expect and assume on anything that we have right now. Try to make iwas muna if he's pulling away naman para malaman nya ang worth mo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Uridessey on February 04, 2014, 08:39:34 am
^this is right. Ganyan din ginawa ko dati, just to see if hahabulin nya ko or kakausapin nya ko. Expect less na lang dapat. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Giri on February 04, 2014, 10:37:22 am
when you make love to your girl, do you tell them pag malapit na kayo labasan para alam niya?

I tell it, baka mamaya maiwan pala siya sa biyahe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on February 07, 2014, 06:18:26 pm
Ano yung pinakagusto nyong baguhin saming mga babae? ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on February 08, 2014, 05:34:26 am
^ Stop playing hard to get if you like theguy and be direct in rejecting your suitor if you don't like the guy.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on February 08, 2014, 09:45:52 am
^ Stop playing hard to get if you like theguy and be direct in rejecting your suitor if you don't like the guy.  :)

Para sa akin kasi I always (baka sabihin nyo nagpaasa ako) at least give a chance to prove himself first. (Sorry, I didn't mean here for guys to do MEGA effort, to boost my ego nor to make me feel ang ganda ganda ko..)

If I like the guy, syempre hindi naman agad agad na "O sige tayo na..". We girls, have our values, options, as well as priorities din naman. Paano kung she's weighing pa if he's really worth it. Porket pa like agad ang guy, bibigay na? ;) You have prove yourself first. (Again, prove himself, hindi yun manlibre lagi or mag-effort for months and then nothing/ rejected.)

But hey that's just me. :D  :-*
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on February 09, 2014, 12:42:49 pm
^ Fair enough but some girls just like to take advantage of the scenario. Knowing that there's a guy chasing you, you enjoy the chase and start giving false hope. Some girls say they don't want to lose the "friendship" but thing is, some guys can't be friends with you because we want to be in a relationship with you in the first place. And also, this is just me. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 09, 2014, 01:11:28 pm

If I like the guy, syempre hindi naman agad agad na "O sige tayo na..". We girls, have our values, options, as well as priorities din naman. Paano kung she's weighing pa if he's really worth it. Porket pa like agad ang guy, bibigay na? ;) You have prove yourself first.

But hey that's just me. :D  :-*

so, I would believe ok din lang sa'yo if the guy dates a girl for a few months din muna tapos kapag narealize niyang she's not worth it pala (gawing gf), pwede niya ring i-reject kahit si girl umasa na or inlove na? kasi we guys have our values, options and priorities din naman, siyempre baka may mas OK pang catch...collect and collect then select sinasabi mo right?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 09, 2014, 01:15:38 pm
Ano yung pinakagusto nyong baguhin saming mga babae? ;D

yung pagiging malabo, not saying what you really mean...kailangang lagi pang i-decipher
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on February 09, 2014, 01:25:02 pm
Para sa akin kasi I always at least give a chance to prove himself first.
prove himself, you mean yung lagi ka nalilibre nung guy who likes you, chasing you  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 09, 2014, 01:37:14 pm
prove himself, you mean yung lagi ka nalilibre nung guy who likes you, chasing you  ;D

lol, or siguro yung ibig sabihin niya yung naghahabol, nagmemega EFFORT kasi ego boost yun at feeling niya ang ganda ganda niya kapag may lalakeng nagpapakatanga sa kanya kahit siya mismo hindi pa alam ang gagawin dun sa guy. it's ok, kelangan talaga dumaan ng guys dito...at least they'll know better next time not to waste their time kapag low ang interest level ng babae.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: anon on February 09, 2014, 01:42:15 pm
Ano yung pinakagusto nyong baguhin saming mga babae? ;D

Blindly believing that Prince Charming exists.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 09, 2014, 01:45:33 pm
Sa thread na to navavalidate ang "think like a man" mantra ko. Agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi ng mga guys :-) If only women think like men... Life would be wayyy less complicated
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 09, 2014, 01:48:34 pm
Sa thread na to navavalidate ang "think like a man" mantra ko. Agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi ng mga guys :-) If only women think like men... Life would be wayyy less complicated

hahaha...true, pero it would be less exciting

ok na rin na may mind games and sh*t tests, ika nga ng quote "don't wish it was easier, wish you were better" us guys should just step up our game, to get the girls we want and avoid getting played
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on February 09, 2014, 01:49:40 pm
^ Stop playing hard to get if you like theguy and be direct in rejecting your suitor if you don't like the guy.  :)

I super agree on this one. I guess some girls just really like being showered with such attention and love being chased too. If you like him, go! If you don't, then tell him straight. Save his ego from more pain. Parang it'll be easier to be rejected right away and hindi na pinaasa than be rejected after giving it so much effort.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: chichi143 on February 09, 2014, 02:02:54 pm
lol. natawa ko dun sa pa-chase na part.

i have to agree it's ego-boosting. naalala ko dati lage akong may food na libre lol.

anyways, i agree with simang. mas ok nga yun. less complicated. if we don't hit it off early, walang chemistry, ayaw ko na. also, nakakaturn off yong gustong gusto kang ligawan but doesn't even try to get to know u more.
 am i just closing the doors for this guys early? or im doing the right thing? haha

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 09, 2014, 02:09:46 pm

 am i just closing the doors for this guys early? or im doing the right thing? haha


you're doing the right thing, attraction is not a choice...d mo kailangang pilitin kung wala talga
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on February 09, 2014, 02:24:31 pm
Blindly believing that Prince Charming exists.

I blame Disney for this. I believed Prince Charming exists when I was a kid until I got my first heart break. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: anon on February 09, 2014, 02:44:47 pm
I blame Disney for this. I believed Prince Charming exists when I was a kid until I got my first heart break. :)

The old Disney sold the fantasy that women are damsels in distress who need men to save them. What a sexist BS. What's ironical is there is no story character exactly named Prince Charming!

This is why I like Pocahontas more :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on February 09, 2014, 02:48:41 pm
^
So true!

I liked Belle among all the Disney Princesses simply because she fell not for a handsome Prince Charming who came to her rescue unlike the others but she fell in love with the Beast. Added bonus na lang that the spell was broken.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 09, 2014, 03:08:51 pm
^and in Frozen when Elsa told Anna "You can't marry a man you just met". Finally something more realistic
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on February 09, 2014, 03:42:38 pm
lol. natawa ko dun sa pa-chase na part.

i have to agree it's ego-boosting. naalala ko dati lage akong may food na libre lol.
di ba masarap ang libre  ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on February 09, 2014, 07:56:02 pm
lol, or siguro yung ibig sabihin niya yung naghahabol, nagmemega EFFORT kasi ego boost yun at feeling niya ang ganda ganda niya kapag may lalakeng nagpapakatanga sa kanya kahit siya mismo hindi pa alam ang gagawin dun sa guy. it's ok, kelangan talaga dumaan ng guys dito...at least they'll know better next time not to waste their time kapag low ang interest level ng babae.

Sorry, I didn't mean this way. I guess I'm not good in explaining my side. Hindi ego boost or feeling ang ganda ganda ko. If for you guys masama magbigay ng chance then I respect you. For the record, I didn't mean that when proving yourself eh papaasahin ka ni girl/boy. :)

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on February 10, 2014, 01:25:50 am
^^ yup tama si Simang.. magandang linya nga yung sa Frozen..

and yes masarap ang lagi libre kaso nakakahiya naman if di mo pala sasagutin si guy hehe!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on February 10, 2014, 02:55:59 am
bakit ang guy bigla na lang naglalaho?

anong reason
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: entwife on February 10, 2014, 03:33:58 am
Sacred Cow, your logic about men dating multiple women so he can check sino yung worth it is a good one. I just don't think I could agree with that 100%, (maybe because the system, culture or norm dictates otherwise). Or if the two people started as friends, malalaman mo na if she is worth pursuing or not.

If you are asking for equality, what do you think of women who would do the first move. Or if babae ang manliligaw sa lalake? Would men think less of her?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: chichi143 on February 10, 2014, 04:47:42 am
naalala ko tuloy tong article na nabasa ko sa Thought Catalog...
http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2013/11/i-date-men-for-the-free-dinners-and-i-dont-feel-bad-about-it/

"There are other men who are clearly looking for something, who are interested and assume that by buying me dinner, they are making some future investment in my time and my body. They are deceived, but only in the way we all are when we date someone who doesn’t return our affections. They’ll get on with their lives, and find a girl who wants them for more than their ability to pay for a five-course meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant. I bid the both of them good luck."

just thought of sharing it...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 10, 2014, 04:54:38 am
Sacred Cow, your logic about men dating multiple women so he can check sino yung worth it is a good one. I just don't think I could agree with that 100%, (maybe because the system, culture or norm dictates otherwise). Or if the two people started as friends, malalaman mo na if she is worth pursuing or not.
agree, we men are also victims of our society's double standards. minsan din kasi total strangers nagkakilala ang tao especially ngayon na may internet and other forms of communication. hindi naman talaga malalaman ng guy din if the girl is worth pursuing unless they meet in person and go out on dates a few times or even for a few months.


If you are asking for equality, what do you think of women who would do the first move. Or if babae ang manliligaw sa lalake? Would men think less of her?

I think women who make the first move are brave, commendable and empowered. Pero kung titingnan naman kasi, gumagawa naman talaga ang girls ng first move (albeit subtle) kaya may lumalapit na lalake...sometimes a smile can do a lot na.

Una din kasi hindi ako naniniwala sa concept ng ligaw, kasi from the word itself...nililigaw mo yung tao or you are convincing someone na magustuhan ka/piliin ka..which is why I prefer casual dating para no expectations and mas honest ang interaction. pero balik tayo sa tanong mo, if babae ang manliligaw sa lalake...ok lang naman pero siyempre hindi niya naman kelangan gawin yung mga ginagawa ng lalake sa babae, just asking him out for coffee or lunch would do just fine and they could take it from there. Depende naman sa lalake yun, if the guy would think less of the girl...then dun pa lang alam na ni girl that the guy is not worth her time, diba?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 10, 2014, 05:08:30 am
naalala ko tuloy tong article na nabasa ko sa Thought Catalog...
http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2013/11/i-date-men-for-the-free-dinners-and-i-dont-feel-bad-about-it/

"There are other men who are clearly looking for something, who are interested and assume that by buying me dinner, they are making some future investment in my time and my body. They are deceived, but only in the way we all are when we date someone who doesn’t return our affections. They’ll get on with their lives, and find a girl who wants them for more than their ability to pay for a five-course meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant. I bid the both of them good luck."

just thought of sharing it...

that's why it's really stupid for men to spend a lot na kaagad on a woman without her showing the slightest amount of interest in him. gastusan mo yung girl as a reward for being intimate with you instead of using your money to get her to sleep with you, unless you want gold diggers or to get played. I'm not saying guys shouldn't spend for the girl, but he should know that sa simula "low investment" lang muna dapat para hindi rin isipin ni girl na sinusubukan siyang suhulan nung guy to sleep with him
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on February 10, 2014, 08:54:15 am
hahaha...true, pero it would be less exciting

ok na rin na may mind games and sh*t tests, ika nga ng quote "don't wish it was easier, wish you were better" us guys should just step up our game, to get the girls we want and avoid getting played

why can't guys do this, yung straightforward sabihin sa girl na di na siya interested. this happened to me recently. then when i confronted him (confronted in such a way na i was just being honest without sounding upfront) then he acted like he didn't owe me an explanation for his pulling away s***. pero few weeks back lang we we're so close to being a couple na. so i can't say na kaming girls lang ang complicated. haha c'mon just say it diba, both saves us time and effort.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 10, 2014, 02:17:36 pm
why can't guys do this, yung straightforward sabihin sa girl na di na siya interested. this happened to me recently. then when i confronted him (confronted in such a way na i was just being honest without sounding upfront) then he acted like he didn't owe me an explanation for his pulling away s***. pero few weeks back lang we we're so close to being a couple na. so i can't say na kaming girls lang ang complicated. haha c'mon just say it diba, both saves us time and effort.

scumbag answer: naeenjoy pa yung "benefits", naeenjoy pa yung company, wala pa namang new girl...it's unfair I know, I'm actually experiencing the same thing right now...when we're apart narerealize ko na wala naman talagang spark
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on February 10, 2014, 02:51:00 pm
scumbag answer: naeenjoy pa yung "benefits", naeenjoy pa yung company, wala pa namang new girl...it's unfair I know, I'm actually experiencing the same thing right now...when we're apart narerealize ko na wala naman talagang spark

so diba di rin kayo fair guys, kaya you can't blame us as well. in doing that, nawalan din lalo ng chance ma-save if there any consolation, to save the friendship. like now, dahil sa pagiging douche ni guy, i don't want to talk to him anymore. nakakawala siya ng gana. his actions are telling a different story from the ones he's telling me weeks before about him different and upfront. all of that now are just plain BS. :) just be honest, that's all that we need for us not to be complicated. ;)

bakit ang guy bigla na lang naglalaho?

anong reason

see even sis Tamera is even questioning. haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 11, 2014, 04:50:19 am
so diba di rin kayo fair guys, kaya you can't blame us as well. in doing that, nawalan din lalo ng chance ma-save if there any consolation, to save the friendship. like now, dahil sa pagiging douche ni guy, i don't want to talk to him anymore. nakakawala siya ng gana. his actions are telling a different story from the ones he's telling me weeks before about him different and upfront. all of that now are just plain BS. :) just be honest, that's all that we need for us not to be complicated. ;)

in the first place there was no friendship din to save since you already crossed a line, wala nang balikan yun. kung naging friends man ulit kayo either there was never really anything in the first place or someone is still pining for the other.

more often than not, when a guy's totally honest, mas wala siyang mapupuntahan. kung honest talaga lahat ng lalake they would be telling a girl "you want d!ck?" each time they approach a girl they find attractive (that's from chris rock..haha)

pero I get you're point, eh bakit naman kasi kayong mga babae din paminsan...instead of telling a guy off or rejecting them kaagad, andami niyo pang sinasabing dahilan..may mga iniisip pa kayong ayaw niyo kasi maka-offend kaya you expect the guy to get a hint, tapos minsan naman gusto niyo pala tapos nagpapakipot pa kapag may ibang pinormahan si guy, maiinis kayo at sasabihing babaero or paasa si guy.

tapos kapag guy ang gumawa sainyo ng ginagawa niyo, nagtataka pa kayo...eh the guy is just speaking "womanese" kapag naglaho or di na nagpaparamdam or naging cold, it just means that HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ladysapphire on February 11, 2014, 08:20:23 am
in the first place there was no friendship din to save since you already crossed a line, wala nang balikan yun. kung naging friends man ulit kayo either there was never really anything in the first place or someone is still pining for the other.

more often than not, when a guy's totally honest, mas wala siyang mapupuntahan. kung honest talaga lahat ng lalake they would be telling a girl "you want d!ck?" each time they approach a girl they find attractive (that's from chris rock..haha)

pero I get you're point, eh bakit naman kasi kayong mga babae din paminsan...instead of telling a guy off or rejecting them kaagad, andami niyo pang sinasabing dahilan..may mga iniisip pa kayong ayaw niyo kasi maka-offend kaya you expect the guy to get a hint, tapos minsan naman gusto niyo pala tapos nagpapakipot pa kapag may ibang pinormahan si guy, maiinis kayo at sasabihing babaero or paasa si guy.

tapos kapag guy ang gumawa sainyo ng ginagawa niyo, nagtataka pa kayo...eh the guy is just speaking "womanese" kapag naglaho or di na nagpaparamdam or naging cold, it just means that HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU

but not in my case out of the 100%, im probably in the 3% population of girls who are upfront and not pakipot, i don't like BS pacute stuff. so in my case, we were very clear about how we feel about each other. he just created a scene of his own to cover up his BSssss hahaha. kung naging honest lang sana siya edi sana wala siya sa BS list ko. haha i can settle for the YOU-WANT-DICK guys than the LETS-GO-OUT-ON-A-DATE kinda guy that only wants to get into your pants.

im all bout honesty period. call me idealistic but that's just me. hehe :-)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on February 11, 2014, 12:53:36 pm
that's right. the guy must be honest too even if he's a friend, a lover or just a kith. i mean the girl must feel that the guy is worth  of her trust.

anyway want to ask for your opinion, i have fubu and informed me he wants to stop f*****g around na and yet asked me if we could still be friends and meet him up and get laid once in a while?! i got confused what does he really mean?!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on February 11, 2014, 01:57:40 pm
^ If he suddenly has the urge, you should be available whenever he's down for it. In short, he treats you as a toy, a sex doll, and just someone to release his load at. Don't be friends with him and go find a new partner. If he wants to end it, then end it.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 11, 2014, 02:08:22 pm
but not in my case out of the 100%, im probably in the 3% population of girls who are upfront and not pakipot, i don't like BS pacute stuff. so in my case, we were very clear about how we feel about each other. he just created a scene of his own to cover up his BSssss hahaha. kung naging honest lang sana siya edi sana wala siya sa BS list ko. haha i can settle for the YOU-WANT-DICK guys than the LETS-GO-OUT-ON-A-DATE kinda guy that only wants to get into your pants.

im all bout honesty period. call me idealistic but that's just me. hehe :-)

kudos to you! :) natawa ako sa 3%, parang Globe lang..3% lang daw malakas gumamit ng mobile internet :))
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on February 11, 2014, 02:29:48 pm
^ If he suddenly has the urge, you should be available whenever he's down for it. In short, he treats you as a toy, a sex doll, and just someone to release his load at. Don't be friends with him and go find a new partner. If he wants to end it, then end it.  :)

yeah, right. i don't see the reason why we should get laid if he already stop f*****g around?!
I didnt reply when he told me that. Naisip ko lang, paconsuelo de bobo nyo mga lalaki un - na i-friend zone ang isang girl that you don't really like but want to keep?

I was still thinking if I'm going to end it or not. He's worth it kasi and still want him as a fubu.   
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 11, 2014, 03:02:23 pm
that's right. the guy must be honest too even if he's a friend, a lover or just a kith. i mean the girl must feel that the guy is worth  of her trust.

bakit laging guy yung sinasabing dapat worth nung trust ng girl, it's like you're saying all girls are trustworthy from the get go and all guys are not trustworthy unless proven otherwise..haha
girls should prove that they're worth the guy's trust din naman ah


anyway want to ask for your opinion, i have fubu and informed me he wants to stop f*****g around na and yet asked me if we could still be friends and meet him up and get laid once in a while?! i got confused what does he really mean?!

he wants to end being fvck buddies with you, but still doesn't want to sever ties para may babalikan pa siya if ever kailangan niya magparaos kapag walang makitang iba
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on February 11, 2014, 03:34:32 pm
ok. i got it. i kept on asking him if he wanted to stop na nga.  but he kept on saying no im still interested in you. but anyway, he's a good friend and i learned a lot from him.so i'll keep him as a friend then
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 12, 2014, 12:14:05 am
^ yup, then all's good :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on February 12, 2014, 09:25:03 am
bakit bigla na lang naglaho si guy?

hindi na nakikipagcommunicate? anong reason?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on February 12, 2014, 03:43:00 pm
bakit bigla na lang naglaho si guy?

hindi na nakikipagcommunicate? anong reason?
Ayaw na niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on February 13, 2014, 04:07:16 am
When your guy said "sort your things first.. im tired. let's just stop this while we can. thanks..." what does that mean? is he calling it quits?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 13, 2014, 04:42:06 am
When your guy said "sort your things first.. im tired. let's just stop this while we can. thanks..." what does that mean? is he calling it quits?

^ yes. there are no subtexts...he meant what he said...literally
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on February 13, 2014, 01:30:42 pm
^ yes. there are no subtexts...he meant what he said...literally

oh i see. thanks sacred cow  :) i thought kasi pag ganun eh parang binibigyan ka lang nya ng time ayusin yung mga bagay-bagay then after doing so, ok na uli kayo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mameejhy on February 13, 2014, 03:27:53 pm
What if a single guy said these (on different occasions) to an (slightly) older married woman:

"You don't look your age, you still look young and single. Mabuti hindi ka naliligawan?"
"Papasa ka na 27yrs old (the guy is 26yrs old)"
"Ako, I prefer older women"
"They can appreciate real beauty (refers to the married woman)"

Does it mean the man likes/ is interested in the woman?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 13, 2014, 06:12:02 pm
Does it mean the man likes/ is interested in the woman? --Not a guy, pero here are my thoughts. First thing is NO, doesnt mean he's interested in the women. what he means is...

"You don't look your age, you still look young and single. Mabuti hindi ka naliligawan?"
- you dont look your age, you look young and single, buti hindi ka naliligawan.

"Papasa ka na 27yrs old (the guy is 26yrs old)"
- papasa ka na 27 years old.

"Ako, I prefer older women"
- the guy prefers older women.

"They can appreciate real beauty (refers to the married woman)"
- married women can appreciate real beauty.

That's it. Everything a man says is literal. Take it as a compliment, not as something else.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 14, 2014, 03:10:44 am
^ korek, the problem with some women is that masyado kayo nasanay na laging loaded ang phrases na sinasabi nyo that when someone says something lagi nyo hinahanapan ng other meaning, hence nagkakaroon ng confusion and unnecessary misunderstanding
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 15, 2014, 10:13:57 pm
Normal ba sa guy na punan ang di nagagawa ng isang guy sa partner nila?  I got different offers like guys na willing maging tagabitbit ng stocks ko, guys na gusto ako idate as in date lang, guys na ihahatid ako from one place to another, etc

kasi even my husband, even sa harap ko, nag ooffer sya ng service sa neighbor namin na babae like, "sana sinabi mong pupunta kabg trinoma.  Kung hindi ka ihahatid ng husband mo, ako na lang ihahatid kita."  And last valentines day,  "hindi ka naman bibigyan ng rose ng asawa mo, ako na lang magbibigay ng rose." Sabay abot ng rose dun sa same neighbor, sa harap ko ah.  Kung tatanungin nyo kung may rose ako, ako po ang bumili ng rose.  Pinabili sa akin ng husband ko, 2 pcs roses.  Then di ko alam kung kanino nya ibibigay.  I thought sa relatives nya.  The 2nd rose, well siguro wala syang ibang mapagbigyan, so binigay nya sa akin.  And i didn't accept.  I just told him na aanhin ko yun.  Pero sa totoo, ang weird ng feeling kasi ako bumili then para sa akin?

I talked to my husband about the rose that he gave to our neighbor.  Hindi dahil sa nagselos ako (weird hindi ako nagselos).  Pero natakot ako baka masira yung relationship namin with the husband of that woman.  Baka nakakalalaki yung husband ko.  Pero sabi ng husband ko, masaya pa raw yung husband ng lalaki.

is this a joke?  Medyo nalilito ako.  Eh kung normal lang pala ang ganun sa guy, mageentertain na ako ng tagabitbit ng stocks.  Sa liit kong ito, ang bigay ng 10 kilogram na stocks. Even if gawin ko pang tig 5kg of package.  Nakakapagod ren dahil sa situation ko.  kasi those guys na nag ooffer ng service na tagabitbit ng stocks ko, they promised they just want to be with me and are willing to be my personal kargador with no extra charge.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on February 16, 2014, 12:05:39 am
^ I'm answering this with the lack of sleep so I might misinterpret the question but if you're good friends with those guys, it's normal for the guys to offer help to women especially if they see that they're having a hard time. Some do it out of being a gentleman and some do it because they're trying to impress you but not to the point that they want to court you especially if they know you're married. It really depends on the guy. Since I can't see them personal, this is what I can say so far.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 16, 2014, 12:34:06 am
it's normal for guys to offer help to women (especially if they find the girl attractive). ang hindi normal yung punan yung 'di nagagawa ng partner ng babae like maghatid or magbigay ng flower tapos sasabihin niya pang  "hindi ka naman bibigyan ng rose ng asawa mo, ako na lang magbibigay ng rose." that's kinda disrespectful to you, lalo na't sa harap mo pa ginawa IMO. it's not his place to say that, lalo na't may asawa na rin siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 16, 2014, 01:25:30 am
^^ those guys offering help, they are not my close/good friends.  Some of them are my buyers (or anak or pamangkin ng buyer ko) and had saw me na may bibit na mabigat na load after out meet up.  They are asking bakit di ko kasama bf or husband ko.  So nangungulit sila to be my kargador.  I told them i don't need them.  Pero they said they like me as a friend and would like to know me better. 

^ hindi ko lang maintindihan if it's because we and that neighbor of ours are tulungan.  Sometimes the woman's husband ask/nakikisuyo sa husband ko na ihatid wife nya to buy fresh fishes. So yung guy may trust sa husband ko.   So nalilito ako sa situation.  May pagkamanhid ata ang asawa ko, or hindi lang nya naisip.  Yung situation kasi na nangyari, mild lang yan.  Hindi nga ako nagselos or nasaktan regarding him giving our neighbor a rose kasi close naman kami.  There's a more hurtful one, jokes na hindi katanggap tanggap kapag buntis ang wife/partner. 


hindi ko mawari if my husband gives me his trust that i won't fool around like being with another guy in a bed.  I am not sure if it would be okay with him if i would accept a kargador.  after all, those applying to be my kargador wants to see (not meet) my husband.  Kahit na nasa bahay raw husband ko, then ihahatid sundo nila ako from and to my house, no problem. 

Pero based on experience, i had learned that ang lalaki, hindi mag aaksaya ng panahon sa isang babae kung walang motibo kahit [textspeak!] pa iyon. Parang nag iipon sila ng plus points sa girl.   Pero with those guys not caring kung makita sila ng husband ko, medyo nalito ako.  So mali ang paniniwala ko. 

Ako lang ba ang nalilito?

By the way, my husband is not the romantic type. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on February 16, 2014, 02:55:50 am
^ may mga guys lang talaga na gentleman.

tinutulungan ka nila not because he's interested on you romantically but because mabait lang talaga sila..

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 16, 2014, 03:19:39 am
^ before nung bata bata pa ako, i was tagged by guys as manhid.  Akala ko kasi guys are just that friendly and helpful to all girls.  So nung huli, kapag may nangangamusta lagi or offering help, since i am married na, dinederetsa ko and ask them their motive.

so for those na piniga ko, and talagang wala raw silang motive, so i guess mali yung paniniwala ko.  So if there are help offered to me, just like my husband offered help to our lady neighbor, then i guess it is okay to accept such help. 

Siguro kung talagang mabigat and yung tipong mahihirapan ako bitbitin, i would consider a guy's help na. 

Thanks :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 16, 2014, 06:10:38 am
^if a guy offers help, accept it and say thank you.

And i dont know about the motive of the other guys wanting to help you, but your husband is a d [textspeak!] k. A disrespectful one at that
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 16, 2014, 12:49:02 pm
^ hindi alam kung manhid sya. There are worse scenarios.  So kakaadjust ko sa ugali nya, i kind of felt like maybe i am in an open relationship with my husband excluding the bed scenes with other guys.  My husband is a chinese from china.  I am a chinese na taga pilipinas.  Tsinay na ata tawag sa akin.  Unlike pinoys, hindi ko totally alam paano mag isip ang mga galing china.  So hindi ko alam kung normal ba sa kanila ang ganun.  Or ano ba talaga.  Kasi mga from china na nakipagsapalaran sa pilipinas go to divisoria to see those kibds of chinese), hindi talaga sila romantic. 

Thanks pala.   Medyo nalilinawan ako.  Hindi ko maintindihan kung bakit ganito situation ko.  Marami pa akong mga situatiins wherein matatawag akong malandi ng friends ko.  Lalo na at i am a chinese.  Kaya di ko alam saan ako puede magtanong.  Buti na lang dito sa forum may mga makakasagot ng questions ko.

Etong huli kasi, para naquequeation ko na sarili ko if i did something wrong kung bakit naging lapitin ng guys.  Well i change yung pananamit ko, for my husband.  I try to look good for him because of some issues i am trying to solve.  But even nung hindi pa ako nagchachange ng pananamit, may mga help and other offers na ako narereceive.  So i am sorting out the things i did while talking with the guys.

Kung mag accept ako ng taga bitbit, if magiging taga bitbit ko sya once or twice a month, hindi ba magiging abuso sa part ko? Or hindi kaya bad tignan sa mata ng iba?  taga bitbit lang naman, right?  Mangmang ako pagdating sa ganito.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ChocoCat on February 16, 2014, 05:06:50 pm
Why do guys like inserting green jokes during conversations?
Some guys, even after trying to change the topic, they will go back to making the conversation turn green.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 16, 2014, 10:22:24 pm
a) enjoy lang talaga lalake sa usapang green

b) gustong nya mag-escalate kaya sinasaksakan ng sexual innuendo convo niya with you, baka daw makalusot and he'd get to see you nekkid

judging by your question, it seems hindi mo siya type kaya hindi gumana or you're just acting naive considering na 20+ ka na
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 16, 2014, 11:27:54 pm
^haha naalala ko tuloy sabi ng isang taxi driver dati, ang babae kapag type ang lalaki kahit sunggaban mo hindi papalag; pero pag di nya type, hawakan mo lan buhok irereklamo ka na sa barangay.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: chichi143 on February 16, 2014, 11:57:31 pm
^ and i couldn't agree more on this. hahaha

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: px17 on February 17, 2014, 02:31:15 am
@berryblitz. If a guy offers you help..hayaan mo lang mag thank you ka nalang. Anyway kung may motive man siya at hindi ka interested eh siya naman yung napagod! hahaha

Most of my guy friends are maasikaso. Kapag nakikita nila kong nahihirapan sa bitbit ko kinukuwa na nila agad. Tingin ko naman kahit di mo close ang guy nasa nature na nila tumulong so minsan wag na magpakapagod mag-isip na baka may ibang motibo. and one more thing.. if you're good looking wag na magtaka.  ;D       
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 17, 2014, 11:52:34 am
ah sige.  papayag na ako ng personal kargador  :)  thanks sa inputs. 

bigla nagliwanag pag iisip ko  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: chichi143 on February 19, 2014, 01:57:54 pm
ako may tanong!

ahm. ganito kasi.
medyo stalkerish ba if imessage ko yong dentista kong crush sa fb? hahaha!

siyempre siya yong gumawa ng med cert ko sa andon full name niya... at ayon di ko natiis na tignan if may fb siya. he looks young and wala namang gf or asawa don sa timeline niya na naka-public.

though..  i have to ask pa. to be sure. lol
pero isn't that stalkerish? would that be ok?

haha gosh antagal ko na kasing single haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ChocoCat on February 19, 2014, 08:03:09 pm
a) enjoy lang talaga lalake sa usapang green

b) gustong nya mag-escalate kaya sinasaksakan ng sexual innuendo convo niya with you, baka daw makalusot and he'd get to see you nekkid

judging by your question, it seems hindi mo siya type kaya hindi gumana or you're just acting naive considering na 20+ ka na
No. I'm not acting naive. Minsan kasi alam mo yung ang sarap na ng kwentuhan nyo about wholesome things then biglang magpapasok ng green joke. I feel awkward. And not all guys do that to me. So minsan akala ko gentleman si guy tapos magjojoke about s3x, parang napapaisip tuloy ako kung yun lang ba habol nya kaya super effort sya makipagusap sakin.  ???
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: px17 on February 19, 2014, 10:32:16 pm
^kung for serious relationship habol mo sis then I think iwasan mo nalang yung guy na nagpapasok ng green joke sa usapan niyo. or just be transparent sabihin mo na agad na di ka komportable sa ganong usapan, kung iwasan ka ni guy after edi yun nga habol niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ChocoCat on February 19, 2014, 11:55:01 pm
^mukhang ganun na nga sis. nakaka disappoint lang...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jonielle on February 20, 2014, 10:51:59 am
No. I'm not acting naive. Minsan kasi alam mo yung ang sarap na ng kwentuhan nyo about wholesome things then biglang magpapasok ng green joke. I feel awkward. And not all guys do that to me. So minsan akala ko gentleman si guy tapos magjojoke about s3x, parang napapaisip tuloy ako kung yun lang ba habol nya kaya super effort sya makipagusap sakin.  ???


hindi naman porke nag green jokes si guy ayun na agad ang habol sayo, masyadong ka lang paranoid  madaam. take it as a joke. kung habol mo guy na hindi nag green joke mukang mahihirapan ka kung meron man sa panaginip lang meron nun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 20, 2014, 11:08:25 am
You girls are overanalyzing things! Green jokes are green jokes. Yun lang yun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ChocoCat on February 21, 2014, 12:50:13 am
@jonielle: Well I know a couple of guys, some are my friends who don't share any green jokes every time we talk. And I didn't meet them in my dreams. but thanks for your advice.
@simang: and that is why we have this thread. so us females can get enlightened right?
green jokes are just green jokes and then we have another saying that jokes are half meant too. but I appreciate your opinion.

I believe s3x is a very sensitive topic especially to females and so I thought maybe a s3x joke (green joke) is the men's way of making it more acceptable when it comes to conversations.
I really have no idea that is why I popped the question here.
I really appreciate the replies here regarding my question. especially sacred cow's.  :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 22, 2014, 03:53:34 pm
bakit may mga makulit na mga lalaki.  friendship lang raw ang habol.  pero bakit ang kukulit.  pag sinabi kong busy ako and "i don't like to have dinner dates with guys."  sasagutin ako ng hindi raw yun date.  pag sinabi kong busy ako and need ko alagaan baby ko kaya need ko makauwe agad from buyer meet up, sasabihin sa akin na okay lang and ihahatid na lang nila ako pauwe.

namemental block ba at nabibingi ang isip ng mga lalaki?  parang they are doing me a favor kasi sila nagdidikta na may mag didinner kami.  sila nagdidikta na okay lang late na ako umuwe at hindi ko maalagaan ang baby ko kasi ihahatid naman nila ako pauwe.

yan ba ang lalaking friendship lang ang habol.  alam na ngang may asawa ako at mga anak.

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this week i went to a western union branch.  hinuli ako asikasuhin nung lalaking staff.  then ayaw ibalik ang id ko and ayaw ako palabasin ng branch nila.  nangungulit.  gusto raw nya ako makilala kaya magdinner raw kami.  friendship lang raw habol nya.  matanda na, puti na lahat buhok siguro 50 plus years old na.  ako 35 years old.  hanggang sa hinila ko na sa kamay nya yung id ko.  and nung huli pinindot na ren nya yung button para magbukas yung pinto ng branch

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yan ba ang friendship lang ang habol.  some of them are yung mga nag aalok na maging taga bitbit ng stocks ko.

mahirap magfilter ng kung ano ba talaga ang gusto.  hindi naman kailangan mangulit to the point na parang iwan lahat ng babae yung need nya gawin para lang makipagdinner sa kanila.  ang lalakas ng loob.  hindi naman mga guwapo.

pasensya na.  wala kasi ako masabihan and wala malabasan ng sama ng loob and ng kabadtripan
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on February 26, 2014, 10:43:52 am
question po:
i have this gym-mate for so long na pero until now di ko alam name nya..madalas ko sya nakakasabay sa gym and honestly i really like him.. madalas kaming nagkakatinginan, nagkakahulihan ng tingin then pag magkakasalubong kami at nagkatinginan kami he always smile at me..im really confuse if gusto ba ako nitong guy na to? question po sa mga guytalker natin. if interested po ba kayo sa girl do you always look at her and smile at her? you think the guy likes me or di ako dapat mag-assume sa mga gestures na nakikita ko sa kanya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 26, 2014, 10:49:48 am
^ try mo makipagkilala sa kanya, if he asks you out..he likes you...if not, e di you have your answer na :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on February 26, 2014, 11:20:58 am
actually nahihiya po ako kasi cruch ko sya eh..mukhang nahahalata na nya na madalas ko sya tinitignan kasi ilang beses na kami nagkakahulihan ng tingin. baka pag nagpakilala ako baka magkailangan lang kami baka lalo akong di makapag-focus sa work out ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on February 26, 2014, 11:46:30 am
Mag hi ka lang! He'll appreciate it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on February 26, 2014, 11:49:27 am
^ ok, then mag-antay ka na lang na siya magapproach sa'yo
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on February 26, 2014, 11:55:31 am
actually nahihiya po ako kasi cruch ko sya eh..mukhang nahahalata na nya na madalas ko sya tinitignan kasi ilang beses na kami nagkakahulihan ng tingin. baka pag nagpakilala ako baka magkailangan lang kami baka lalo akong di makapag-focus sa work out ko.

The next time magkasalubong kayo and he smiles at you, say hi just like what sis simang suggested. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on February 26, 2014, 11:56:24 am
bakit may mga makulit na mga lalaki.  friendship lang raw ang habol.  pero bakit ang kukulit.  pag sinabi kong busy ako and "i don't like to have dinner dates with guys."  sasagutin ako ng hindi raw yun date.  pag sinabi kong busy ako and need ko alagaan baby ko kaya need ko makauwe agad from buyer meet up, sasabihin sa akin na okay lang and ihahatid na lang nila ako pauwe.

namemental block ba at nabibingi ang isip ng mga lalaki?  parang they are doing me a favor kasi sila nagdidikta na may mag didinner kami.  sila nagdidikta na okay lang late na ako umuwe at hindi ko maalagaan ang baby ko kasi ihahatid naman nila ako pauwe.

yan ba ang lalaking friendship lang ang habol.  alam na ngang may asawa ako at mga anak.

==================

this week i went to a western union branch.  hinuli ako asikasuhin nung lalaking staff.  then ayaw ibalik ang id ko and ayaw ako palabasin ng branch nila.  nangungulit.  gusto raw nya ako makilala kaya magdinner raw kami.  friendship lang raw habol nya.  matanda na, puti na lahat buhok siguro 50 plus years old na.  ako 35 years old.  hanggang sa hinila ko na sa kamay nya yung id ko.  and nung huli pinindot na ren nya yung button para magbukas yung pinto ng branch

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yan ba ang friendship lang ang habol.  some of them are yung mga nag aalok na maging taga bitbit ng stocks ko.

mahirap magfilter ng kung ano ba talaga ang gusto.  hindi naman kailangan mangulit to the point na parang iwan lahat ng babae yung need nya gawin para lang makipagdinner sa kanila.  ang lalakas ng loob.  hindi naman mga guwapo.

pasensya na.  wala kasi ako masabihan and wala malabasan ng sama ng loob and ng kabadtripan

One word: IGNORE :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on February 27, 2014, 09:01:41 am
good thing happened yesterday.. lumabas kasi ko ng gym para magpahangin konti then lumabas din sya.so dalawa lang kaming nasa labas but of course hindi ko naman sya kinakausap dahil nga di naman kami magkakilala, he then initiated the conversation: he asked me if matagal na ko nag-ggym dun kasi hindi nya raw ako nakikita dati then biglang he asked for my name, i gave him my name but didnt care to ask his name kasi nahihiya talaga ako, it was him who gave his name to me. then he start asking me some of my infos like taga saan ako, ano work ko and kung san ako nagwowork.

then before i left he called me and say bye.

^ ok, then mag-antay ka na lang na siya magapproach sa'yo

ayan sya na unang nag-approach.. so do you guys think he likes me?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jan888 on February 27, 2014, 09:19:17 am
^am sure he is interested to know you!  ..unless he is an agent, trying to reach his quota..  but that is most unlikely..        so hopefully, things turn out great for you!  good luck! :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on February 27, 2014, 10:16:50 am
naku thank you po.. sana nga he's inetrested in me. minsan kasi mahirap basahin ang mga guys.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: berryblitz on February 27, 2014, 11:43:47 am
@fleur_de_liz  good luck mam :)

@sugardrop  yes :)  "ignore" is a very powerful word and it works!  although may mga ilan na makukulit.  yung iba kasi, i can't just ignore kasi buyers ko sila.  pero it takes time before they totally absorb that i am not into them.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 03, 2014, 10:07:29 am
may mga guys ba talaga na hindi agad kinukuha yung # ng girl? yung gym mate ko kasi he already asked my name, he asked me if im single and yung ibang info ko like where do i work, what's my work, where i graduated in college, anong course ko, ano madalas kong ginagawa pag off ko, etc.. pero sa dami dami na ng nalaman nya sa'kin never naman nya hiningi # ko or even FB accoutn ko.
if that's the case ba does it mean na he doesn't like me or he's not interested with me? kasi diba usual guys once na nabigyan na sila kausapin yung girl na type nila then definitely they will ask na agad for the girl's #?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on March 03, 2014, 11:28:35 am
baka he wanted to take it slow. he wants to know if magclick kayo ng interest and the like. usually ganun ang mga guys then saka nila kukunin number mo
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 03, 2014, 12:29:21 pm
^^ ako I ask a girl's phone number after niya pumayag sa date invitation ko or kapag naramdaman kong mataas ang possibility na it would lead to somewhere, otherwise I don't get her number, sayang lang sa space sa phone ko
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Naughty^GuRu on March 03, 2014, 12:41:45 pm
@fleur_de_liz : why don't you ask for his number instead? tell him para sabay kayo pumunta ng gym or kung anong excuses just to get his number  ;D kapag hindi niya binigay or may slight hesitation, maybe he's not that into you. or taken na siya  ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 03, 2014, 12:48:58 pm
^^ ako I ask a girl's phone number after niya pumayag sa date invitation ko or kapag naramdaman kong mataas ang possibility na it would lead to somewhere, otherwise I don't get her number, sayang lang sa space sa phone ko

so kahit type na type mo yung girl pero you dont feel any possibility that it will lead to something eh hindi mo talaga kukunin yung # nya?

ow will you know that things might liead to something?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 03, 2014, 01:03:24 pm
so kahit type na type mo yung girl pero you dont feel any possibility that it will lead to something eh hindi mo talaga kukunin yung # nya?

yup, experience has shown that it leads to nothing and would only make my value lower in her eyes kasi she would see me just like all the guys na may gusto sa kanya, I wouldn't want her to have that validation just so it would add up to her already inflated ego.

ow will you know that things might liead to something?

when the girl actually shows blatant interest e.g. making out with me
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 03, 2014, 01:09:13 pm
yeah.. you got the point.. coming from a guy's POV..tama nga naman.. so hindi naman pala lahat ng guys eh will get the girl's # immediately.. karamihan kasi ng guys ganun ang ginagawa, # agad agad
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 03, 2014, 01:16:24 pm
^ karamihan kasi ng guys akala kapag nakuha mo na ang number, sure ball nang may mapapala sila

eh andali dali kumuha ng number ng babae, a girl can even give a guy her number without any intention of replying or even give you a fake one. ang importante is kung paano mo nakuha yung number ni girl, yung quality nung interaction at nabuild mong rapport na kaya niya binigay number niya para makapagkita kayo at a later time to date/fvck or whatever

getting a girl's number is never the goal (unless you're looking for a textmate or business contact), it should only be a tool to be used in setting up date logistics

tsaka tingnan mo rin, whether he was conscious or not, the fact that he didn't get your number pa got your hamster spinning and raised your interest level in him kasi hindi nga siya tulad ng karamihan sa guys na nilagay mo sa friendzone by immediately getting your number just after giving him a bit of your attention.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 03, 2014, 01:27:58 pm
yeah, right,, thanks sacred cow.. medyo na-enlighten na ko..  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on March 03, 2014, 09:01:35 pm
^sis, wag masyado magisip... If he likes you, you will know. You won't have to assume anything. You won't be confused because he'll clearly show you that he does like you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 04, 2014, 07:19:22 am
tama ka sis simang. dont over analyzed and was mag-assume para di masaktan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on March 04, 2014, 02:49:56 pm
^ karamihan kasi ng guys akala kapag nakuha mo na ang number, sure ball nang may mapapala sila

eh andali dali kumuha ng number ng babae, a girl can even give a guy her number without any intention of replying or even give you a fake one. ang importante is kung paano mo nakuha yung number ni girl, yung quality nung interaction at nabuild mong rapport na kaya niya binigay number niya para makapagkita kayo at a later time to date/fvck or whatever

getting a girl's number is never the goal (unless you're looking for a textmate or business contact), it should only be a tool to be used in setting up date logistics

tsaka tingnan mo rin, whether he was conscious or not, the fact that he didn't get your number pa got your hamster spinning and raised your interest level in him kasi hindi nga siya tulad ng karamihan sa guys na nilagay mo sa friendzone by immediately getting your number just after giving him a bit of your attention.

i agree with you. meron isang guy friend na we're texting and emailing na pero wala eh. though the funny moment i had with him is when he texted me this -"u even know my full name and email ad and yet u didnt add me up on your fb account?"  grabe, nasabi ko na lang - "if i am not a friend, i really wont add you up on my personal fb. hahaha" though nainis ako sa kanya that time. sobrang kapal eh he thought i was that into him na. hahaha..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on March 04, 2014, 04:17:04 pm
Mas naaakit ba talaga ang mga lalake sa mga babaeng interested kesa dun sa mga interesting lang?  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 04, 2014, 06:29:48 pm
^ not necessarily, kung interested nga si girl pero di naman siya trip ni guy or doesn't find her interesting..wala rin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 04, 2014, 06:33:05 pm
@louise1

ahaha...kaya nga guys shouldn't be so assuming talaga. it's always the girl's actions and not her words ang dapat paniwalaan
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 04, 2014, 09:46:32 pm
so dapat ba ipakita ng girls na interested sila kay guy? hindi ba turn off kay guy yun, like girls are the one who's making papansin?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 04, 2014, 09:49:04 pm
^ saktong pakitang interest lang/landi. wag yung try hard na papansin. it's more effective than making pakipot
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on March 04, 2014, 10:00:38 pm
^^
Show some interest but never to the point that it will freak the guy out and send him running towards the opposite direction. ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on March 04, 2014, 11:49:06 pm
^ saktong pakitang interest lang/landi. wag yung try hard na papansin. it's more effective than making pakipot

How? Sorry medyo t**** pagdating sa ganyan  ;D Simpleng usap? pasimpleng sulyap? ang hirap naman magpakita ng interest sa guy na type mo kasi syempre baka mareject ka ng bongga and that hurts ha?

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 05, 2014, 12:27:49 am
^ kapag nakasalubong say 'hi' or smile, talk to him, make conversation

oo masakit mareject, pero tandaan rejection is better than regret. mas ok na yun kesa naman sa makita mo siya with another girl who could've been you just because mas marunong makipagflirt si girl, diba?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on March 05, 2014, 12:50:34 am
^
Sabagay, may point ka dyan sacred cow  :) makapagpractice na nga ng mga tamang landi moves! sana lang umubra haha  ;D

Considered bang off limits si girl pag ex sya ng kabarkada mo? Nagkakapatawaran ba kayong mga lalake pag may tumalo sa inyo? (e.g. rocky na yung relationship, biglang eksena si friend kay gf bilang shoulder to cry on then later on nabaling na yung attention and admiration ni gf kay friend and ikaw, si bf, wala man lang kaalam alam sa mga nangyayari.)

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 05, 2014, 01:15:19 am
^ siyempre foul yun, sa dami dami nang babae kelangan ex pa talaga ng kaibigan mo...sobrang disrespectful naman nun. some guys are ok with it, pero usually kung close talaga NO NO yun..unless willing si guy ipagpalit yung samahan niya with his friend for the girl. It also says a lot about the guy's character, ewan ko na lang sa babae if she wants to be with an "ahas"
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on March 05, 2014, 01:26:34 am
^
Ouch bro. Past is past haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 05, 2014, 07:24:18 am
How? Sorry medyo t**** pagdating sa ganyan  ;D Simpleng usap? pasimpleng sulyap? ang hirap naman magpakita ng interest sa guy na type mo kasi syempre baka mareject ka ng bongga and that hurts ha?

Yup ganun lang yun. Smile, eye contact.  Dress well.  :D  Kapag andyan sya, sadyain mo kunwari dadaan ka sa part nya to get something coffee or what.  Then make a conversation. Ganun lang.

so dapat ba ipakita ng girls na interested sila kay guy? hindi ba turn off kay guy yun, like girls are the one who's making papansin?

On the contrary, hindi naman yung lagi kang nakatingin ko naka text sa kanya.  Kapag kinausap ka, go lang.  Kapag hindi, mag HI ka lang.  Kahit nasayo na ang cel# nya, huwag ka text ng text.  Kapag nagtext sya, huwag ka agad sasagot.  Mag antay ka ng konti mga isang oras kahit atat na atat ka na sumagot haha   ;D 

may mga guys ba talaga na hindi agad kinukuha yung # ng girl? yung gym mate ko kasi he already asked my name, he asked me if im single and yung ibang info ko like where do i work, what's my work, where i graduated in college, anong course ko, ano madalas kong ginagawa pag off ko, etc.. pero sa dami dami na ng nalaman nya sa'kin never naman nya hiningi # ko or even FB accoutn ko.
if that's the case ba does it mean na he doesn't like me or he's not interested with me? kasi diba usual guys once na nabigyan na sila kausapin yung girl na type nila then definitely they will ask na agad for the girl's #?


Sis, sure ka hindi sya bakla?  kasi marami akong guys na nakikita sa gym na bakla eh hehe  ;D
Puedeng baka may asawa narin at nakikipaglandian lang sayo.  ::)  Maraming ganyan.
Contrary to what others have suggested, I wouldn't ask for his number. Hahanap nalang ako ng ibang crush na mas desedido akong makilala.
Just keep your options open at kung hindi nya hingin number mo, meron pa naman ibang guys.



Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 05, 2014, 08:18:59 am
@Girltalker2, yeah right.. i will try my best to be close to him..  medyo nahihiya kasi talaga ko sa kanya pag pinapansin nya ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on March 05, 2014, 11:33:18 am
How? Sorry medyo t**** pagdating sa ganyan  ;D Simpleng usap? pasimpleng sulyap? ang hirap naman magpakita ng interest sa guy na type mo kasi syempre baka mareject ka ng bongga and that hurts ha?
takot din pala kayong mareject. eh sa min pangkaraniwan na yan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 05, 2014, 11:51:50 am
takot din pala kayong mareject. eh sa min pangkaraniwan na yan.

oo naman..sino ba gusto ma-reject.. mas masakit nga sa'min yun kasi too emotional ang mga girl. eh ang mga boys pag na-reject na then shift to next target na yang mga yan while girls naman nagbubuhos talaga ng sobrang emotion sa isang guy kaya pag nareject na, end of the world na yun.. lolz
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 05, 2014, 11:56:33 am

Kapag nagtext sya, huwag ka agad sasagot.  Mag antay ka ng konti mga isang oras kahit atat na atat ka na sumagot haha   ;D 


this could also make the guy think that the girl has low interest level in him, kung marami siyang sabay2 na katext...lugi ka kung gagawin mo 'to. mag-aantayan lang kayo at magpapatagalan sa pagreply, medyo stupid na tactic IMO
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on March 05, 2014, 11:59:46 am
I dont see the point of hiya if you like the guy. I guess if you're comfortable with yourself talking to a guy you like is just like talking to a guy friend. Stop playing games. And stop over thinking things!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 05, 2014, 01:17:30 pm
ang hirap intindihin ng guys. hehe
pero tama naman, minsan kelangan talaga magpakita ng interest sa guy to let them know you like them..
if gusto ka naman ni guy then kahit ano pa gawin ng girl still he'll stick to her
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on March 05, 2014, 01:39:52 pm
@louise1

ahaha...kaya nga guys shouldn't be so assuming talaga. it's always the girl's actions and not her words ang dapat paniwalaan

Ouch! girl's actions talaga? hahaha... i guess dapat magtugma ang words and deeds.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on March 05, 2014, 01:42:43 pm
@ Argento

Oo naman! nakakadegrade pag narereject kami ng guys no. Iba ang girls kahit simpleng crush lang. mas yung feelings kaya pag nareject, ouch talaga. kayong mga lalake, dami nyong choices eh samantalang kami pag nagustuhan namin kayo eh kayo at kayo lang rin ang nakikita namin.

@ Girltalker2

Thanks sis. I'll try to do that. Shy type kasi kaya ang hirap gumawa ng move  :)

@Simang

Well, thats it eh. Di naman kasi lahat ganun kaconfident to approach the guy that he likes eh mananatya pa yan. One can't help but overthink kasi ganun talaga ang mga girls. asa dna na ata natin yun diba? kaya nga buti may ganitong klaseng thread para maliwanagan tayo ng mga guytalkers.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 05, 2014, 01:51:06 pm
agree with you Prinsesa Mumela
may mga girls talaga na hindi kayang magpakita ng interest sa guys..

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 05, 2014, 03:31:18 pm
this could also make the guy think that the girl has low interest level in him, kung marami siyang sabay2 na katext...lugi ka kung gagawin mo 'to. mag-aantayan lang kayo at magpapatagalan sa pagreply, medyo stupid na tactic IMO

Sino nagsabi na kelangan sya lang ka text mo.  Kaya nga ang payo ko din ay maghanap ng iba, huwag lang iisa.  Baka may asawa na iyan or babaero, di mas lalong tepok ka.

Tsaka kung marami syang kasabay na text, may ambisyon ka pang makipag compete?  Eh di hanap ka ng iba na sayo lang ang attention. 

I dont see the point of hiya if you like the guy. I guess if you're comfortable with yourself talking to a guy you like is just like talking to a guy friend. Stop playing games. And stop over thinking things!

I guess this comes with age and experience. Kapag di kasi sanay, madalas mahiya.  Kahit naman mga lalaki, natotorpe kaya di rin maka complete ng sentence kapag nagsasalita.


^^^ Agree that guys shouldn't be assuming.  Pero this is so true para sa mga babae. Hinding hindi puede mag assume.  Isa iyan sa Dating 101 na rules.  Never assume. Kahit pa hingin ang number mo, kahit pa lagi kayo magkasama, kahit pa laging ka text, minsan nga kahit magsabi pa ng kung ano ano, hindi ka puede mag assume, unless proven na hindi sya sinungaling, nagsasabi ng totoo at nagprofess na mahal ka talaga nya. Tandaan, maraming bolero at sinungaling na lalaki, especially mga Pinoy.

agree with you Prinsesa Mumela
may mga girls talaga na hindi kayang magpakita ng interest sa guys..

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.

Exactly kaya I really do not recommend being out there professing your "likeness" with a guy.  Rule of the game - huwag sisiryosohin unless sure ka na serious sya sayo. Otherwise ikaw ang lugi.  Nabanggit mo narin na emotional ang mga girls dinidibdib lahat.  Kaya nga importante not to do that.  Not to put all your attention to one man unless sure ka sa commitment nya sa yo, unless BF mo na sya. 

Just play it by the guys' game.  Ganun din naman sila, may shortlist. Bakit hindi mo rin gawin yun. Magshortlist ka ng mga guys you want to get to know.  Then start your conversations of getting to know them etc. I am sure, out of your shortlist, may taken na, so tanggal na sa listahan.  Tapos baka meron turn off wrong grammar sa English haha. etc etc.  So the longer your list, the better, para ang attention mo hindi lang sa iisa, tapos madali lang din magtanggal kasi nga may iba ka pang options.





Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on March 05, 2014, 03:36:36 pm
^i have to agree, if a guy treats you like an option among many others, treat him like an option as well
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 06, 2014, 12:32:09 am

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.

so gusto niyo kami palang guys lang lagi ang nag-iisip kung gusto ba kami or hindi, isn't that unfair? eh nasa DNA din naming guys na maging dense, tapos kapag hindi na kayo pinursue kasi akala hindi kayo interested saka kayo mag-iiyak at maghahabol or magtatanong dito sa GT.

Meron ngang tinatawag na Brad Pitt Rule (or kung sino man na crush ni gurlaloo), The BP rule says that if Brad Pitt had invited her, would she have gone- women say yes if they like you and no if they don't. And as men, you want a woman who acts interested in you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 06, 2014, 12:44:26 am
Sino nagsabi na kelangan sya lang ka text mo.  Kaya nga ang payo ko din ay maghanap ng iba, huwag lang iisa.  Baka may asawa na iyan or babaero, di mas lalong tepok ka.


so pa 1 hr 1 hr ka magrereply sa bawat katext mo, para lang magpakipot, too much hassle. sabihin nating 5 'yan na nanlalandi sa'yo thru text, tapos magrereply ka after 30-1 hr per message...masyado naman atang obvious yun, masyado effort mag backtrack sa pinaguusapan with each guy
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on March 06, 2014, 01:44:44 am
minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.
its up to you kung magpapa take advantage ka sa guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on March 06, 2014, 11:08:15 am
Yeah.. nsa girls nga kung they will allow guys to take advantage with them.. im just trying to say na.most guys kasi they do take advantage pag alam nilang type nga sila ng girl. Minsan kahit di nila type si.girl still they take advantage.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on March 06, 2014, 12:01:55 pm
^
It's like getting a free toy with your happy meal.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ysa.belle on March 06, 2014, 02:08:38 pm
if hindi mo na love ang girl, pupuntahan mo pa ba araw araw?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on March 12, 2014, 10:50:30 am
^ Of course not. Us guys don't want to waste our time and money for someone we "don't" love anymore..  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on March 12, 2014, 12:14:01 pm
if hindi mo na love ang girl, pupuntahan mo pa ba araw araw?
for sex yes.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: queenteaser on March 12, 2014, 12:25:48 pm
Pls help me to understand this.

My bf broke up with me two weeks ago. As in, wala na. Kasi nag usap naman kami may closure so ako super nagpaka busy para makalimot and all that. I changed my number. I deleted all our pics. I did everything para makalimot.  Maka move on. Like every day is a STRUGGLE. Ganon kahirap. Yesterday when I checked my mailbox nakita ko yung e.mail nya saying "Thank you for teaching me what love is... God Bless." Nung nabasa ko parang hindi ko alam bakit ako nawala sa sarili. Akala ko im coping up na. Sooooo many questions, bakit kaya sya nag-email? Anong purpose nya? Nang eechos lang ba sya? nakarealize ba sya? Or PINAPASAKITAN lang nya ko? Gusto ko lang maliwanagan BAKIT sya ganon. Hindi ko nalang sinagot, but I ADMIT, naapektuhan ako.  :'(

Ano kayang iniisip ng mga lalaking ganito? TIA sa mga sasagot.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on March 12, 2014, 02:18:34 pm
Pls help me to understand this.

My bf broke up with me two weeks ago. As in, wala na. Kasi nag usap naman kami may closure so ako super nagpaka busy para makalimot and all that. I changed my number. I deleted all our pics. I did everything para makalimot.  Maka move on. Like every day is a STRUGGLE. Ganon kahirap. Yesterday when I checked my mailbox nakita ko yung e.mail nya saying "Thank you for teaching me what love is... God Bless." Nung nabasa ko parang hindi ko alam bakit ako nawala sa sarili. Akala ko im coping up na. Sooooo many questions, bakit kaya sya nag-email? Anong purpose nya? Nang eechos lang ba sya? nakarealize ba sya? Or PINAPASAKITAN lang nya ko? Gusto ko lang maliwanagan BAKIT sya ganon. Hindi ko nalang sinagot, but I ADMIT, naapektuhan ako.  :'(

Ano kayang iniisip ng mga lalaking ganito? TIA sa mga sasagot.

bakit sya nag-email?
hmmm...
-he just wanted check if you're okay after the break up and thankful for all the memories you had together. pafriendly effect lang nya. been there na kasi.

just ignore it and move on. it wont be an easy phase but im sure you'll get there.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on March 12, 2014, 02:26:07 pm
^^i did not get what you meant by "nakarealize ba sya"

Obviously you're still healing. His email will mean something if you give it meaning. Whatever his reason is for sending you that message should not be your focus. Give yourself more time to heal. For all you know, wala lang naman talaga yung email na yun. He just wanted to say thank you and that's it. Don't stress about it. You'll be fine. :-)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jan888 on March 12, 2014, 02:37:00 pm
^maybe sis queenteaser meant if her ex realized he made a mistake of breaking up with her?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on March 12, 2014, 02:45:02 pm
^ohh i see.

Sis if you think he's asking you back.. He's not. He said thank you, take it na lang as it is.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on March 12, 2014, 03:21:10 pm
Pls help me to understand this.

My bf broke up with me two weeks ago. As in, wala na. Kasi nag usap naman kami may closure so ako super nagpaka busy para makalimot and all that. I changed my number. I deleted all our pics. I did everything para makalimot.  Maka move on. Like every day is a STRUGGLE. Ganon kahirap. Yesterday when I checked my mailbox nakita ko yung e.mail nya saying "Thank you for teaching me what love is... God Bless." Nung nabasa ko parang hindi ko alam bakit ako nawala sa sarili. Akala ko im coping up na. Sooooo many questions, bakit kaya sya nag-email? Anong purpose nya? Nang eechos lang ba sya? nakarealize ba sya? Or PINAPASAKITAN lang nya ko? Gusto ko lang maliwanagan BAKIT sya ganon. Hindi ko nalang sinagot, but I ADMIT, naapektuhan ako.  :'(

Ano kayang iniisip ng mga lalaking ganito? TIA sa mga sasagot.

Don't add insult to injury. He thanked you and that's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Continue moving on with your life. Whatever it is you're doing to move on, keep doing it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: queenteaser on March 12, 2014, 05:44:15 pm
Don't add insult to injury. He thanked you and that's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Continue moving on with your life. Whatever it is you're doing to move on, keep doing it.

^thanks sa mga sumagot. naging hyper na naman utak ko kakaisip. sana hindi na maulit. wala nadin naman akong balak sumagot sa e.mail. ayoko nalang makarinig ng kahit ano from him.  :'(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on March 14, 2014, 09:01:12 pm
Mababaw lang tong question ko guys: Anong mas appealing sa inyo? Girl na naka red lipstick or naka pink lipstick or nude lipstick?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mc21 on March 15, 2014, 10:07:02 am
Mababaw lang tong question ko guys: Anong mas appealing sa inyo? Girl na naka red lipstick or naka pink lipstick or nude lipstick?


....For me, its red
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: driver on March 15, 2014, 10:26:25 pm

....For me, its red

pink for me.. medyo pacute ng konti..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on March 15, 2014, 11:41:37 pm
Baka depende kung bagay yung red or pink. Mamaya kasi, hindi pala bagay yung shade of red or pink na suot nya. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on March 16, 2014, 02:14:06 am
^pwede din. Hahaha!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on March 16, 2014, 01:23:58 pm
Mababaw lang tong question ko guys: Anong mas appealing sa inyo? Girl na naka red lipstick or naka pink lipstick or nude lipstick?

Red lipstick for class, elegance, and beauty.
Pink lipstick for the girl next door effect; the cute girl
Nude lipstick for... "just another girl I see everyday".  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: girlalou on March 16, 2014, 10:31:01 pm
Help! Friends kami since 2011. We thru bbm and akala ko magiging kami pero hindi. Sa 3 years , hindi kami nawalan ng com. We normally send sms or fb messages just to hi ,hello, and good morning. Recently , i asked him bakit hindi cia nag fall sa akin. He said maybe because we seldom see each other. Does it make sense na we manage to keep the communication pero all this time wala lang sa kanya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on March 17, 2014, 03:28:05 am
^ Yes, guys need to be with the girl physically. Girls get attracted by the guy's personality while guys get attracted by the girl's looks. That's just how it is. Another reason is that even though you two get along so much through the internet or texting, but the moment he actually saw you, you are not actually his type and that could be the reason why he didn't fall for you. Guys want a physical girlfriend, not a virtual girlfriend. I think the same goes for women.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sexykha on March 17, 2014, 07:17:27 pm
guys - how do you want to be seduced by your girl? :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on March 17, 2014, 09:40:45 pm
^ Here's a simple answer. A woman's "touch" can go a long way.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: 11bernadette28 on March 18, 2014, 04:26:53 am
Need some help Girls:

I've been in a relationship for almost 6years, syempre madami ng Ups and Downs nun tska nag cheat na din si boyfie sa akin pero everything is worth fighting for naman. Nasa right age na kame pareho boyfie is 30 yrs old me naman is 28 yrs old. Nakakainggit kasi most of our friends is married na, pag my mga get together kami pupuntahan hindi mo maalis na mga friends mo na mag tanong "Kelan nyo balak magpakasal" db? Minsan nahihiya ako pag yan ang tanong nila sa akin kasi hindi ko naman masagot yan kasi nga hindi naman ako yung lalaki db. Ang palaging sinasagot ni boyfie is not at this time since naeenjoy naman daw namen kung ano kame ngayon at ano meron kame ngayon. 2 weeks ago sinabi ni boyfie sa akin na yung reason bakit ganon daw palagi sagot nya He said: hindi kasi ako futuristic na tao Ayaw ko pag-usapan yung future kasi mamaya hindi naman mangyari mamaya umasa lang ako sa wala, since wala nga daw sya trabaho at asa pa din sa parents nya. I asked him kung may ipon sya at may work sya my balak ba sya na pakasalan ako ngayon he replied: YES Meron! Alam ko naman na mahirap lumagay sa tahimik lalo na kung walang ipon db pero my point is kung talagang gusto mo db my paraan naman db tsaka at gagawa at gagawa ka ng paraan.

Ang gulo kasi para sa akin kasi parang matagal-tagal pa akong maghihintay. O baka mamaya wala naman pala akong hinihintay.

2nd: Having a Baby Issue

Nung Saturday natanong ko sya pano kung hindi ko sya magbigyan ng baby (kasi mataba nga ako my PCOS din ako) kung open ba sya sa adaption. Kung iiwan ba nya ako kung sakali. He replied: Ano ka ba nag iisang lalaki ako sa amin kya hindi ako okay for adaption, pero hindi nya nasagot kung iiwan nya dahil lang dun sa reason na yun. Sabay sabi sa akin na alam mo naman na ayaw ko mag isip ng future db. (Tahimik na lang ulet ako) Naalala ko kasi yung ginawa ng Elem Classmate ko xGf 5yrs sila pero iniwan nya kasi hindi sya mabigyan ng anak take note payat naman daw yung xGF nya. Natatakot lang ako sa mga ganitong pangyayari.


Advice please.

Thank you,
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Post by: jtansanco on March 18, 2014, 08:24:26 am
^ Having no work and relying on his parents' money is FRUSTRATING. Even if he loves you so much, the fact that he has no work and is not yet financially stable at his age is so stressful for him. That burden is just too much for a guy. I can't blame him if he can't answer you because you wanted to adopt someone since I think every guy's dream is to have his own family and kid someday. With how you explained it, I can't blame him if he's not yet ready to marry you even though he loves you.
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Post by: zarazan on March 19, 2014, 04:41:19 pm
to sis @11bernadette28.  Regarding the marriage thing, its kind of alarming na at the age of 30, medyo di parin niya iniisip ang future. It may not mean he doesn't love you, pero pwedeng may doubts pa siya sayo. For me kasi, when a guy is 100% sure, gumagawa na ng paraan yan.  Question lang, do you guys talk about marriage - lightly. I mean kahit nung medyo bata pa kayo, has he ever said na you're the girl he wants to spend his life with? Kahit pampakilig lang

On the issue naman about the baby. Nakakatakot ito. I know a lot of stories kung saan iniwan ng lalaki ang girl kasi hindi mabigyan ng anak. Most guys kasi pag pinakasalan na ang babae, ibig sabihin gusto na niya gumawa ng pamilya. Kaya madalas dami rin nagpapakasal ng hindi naman masyado love diba? Pero pag nabigyan ng anak, ibang happiness and fulfillment kasi sa kanila yun. So, sometimes di natin sila masisi. In the end, we can only hope and pray na love conquers everything.
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Post by: jtansanco on March 19, 2014, 11:29:10 pm
^ I came from an all-boys school and we never talked about marriage. Even at my age, 26, we RARELY talk about marriage... The only times we try and talk about is when one of the guys is already planning to propose. Other than that, we don't talk about it.
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Post by: jtansanco on March 19, 2014, 11:42:58 pm

I just want to ask,uso na ba talaga ngayon pag naginvite si guy to meet up eh sex pala yun..? We were schoolmates kasi nung hs. Nakita ko ulit sya sa birthday party ng friend ko then konting usap, and naging friends kami sa fb, exchange number..then madalas sya makipag text sakin but im not interested na rin,because yung text nya parang nagiinvite to have some good time...hes cute pa naman ...,kaya diko sinasagot mga text nya,, then he text me he wanted to see me kahit saglit lang. So pumunta ako just for quick usap and makita sya.lagi nya sinasabi crush nya ko since noong HS pa, parang palasak. Na ngayon  yan salitang yan kase crush kita nung hs pa ::D nagulat ako he kissed me, embrace me,hold my hand...parang hello ganun kabilis...tsaka nagyaya sya somewhere na agad.nawalan nako  ng interest.

Guys do think about sex on the first meeting in SOME CASES. Yan yung mga tipong meet through online/chat and etc. But since you're saying you already knew each other, that's just wrong.. From my point of view, sobrang bastos ginawa niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: 11bernadette28 on March 20, 2014, 02:32:15 am
^ Having no work and relying on his parents' money is FRUSTRATING. Even if he loves you so much, the fact that he has no work and is not yet financially stable at his age is so stressful for him. That burden is just too much for a guy. I can't blame him if he can't answer you because you wanted to adopt someone since I think every guy's dream is to have his own family and kid someday. With how you explained it, I can't blame him if he's not yet ready to marry you even though he loves you.

@jtansanco Ayon na nga din iniisip ko hindi pa siya ready sa lahat. Pero one time nung nag away kami that was last year kaya daw sya nakikipag usap sa ibang babae watsoever kasi daw wala pa naman daw syang ring na pinanghahawakan. Minsan na iisip ko hindi nga siguro ako ang babae for him. Ewan hindi ko alam pero maybe hindi pa nga sya sure sa akin.


to sis @11bernadette28.  Regarding the marriage thing, its kind of alarming na at the age of 30, medyo di parin niya iniisip ang future. It may not mean he doesn't love you, pero pwedeng may doubts pa siya sayo. For me kasi, when a guy is 100% sure, gumagawa na ng paraan yan.  Question lang, do you guys talk about marriage - lightly. I mean kahit nung medyo bata pa kayo, has he ever said na you're the girl he wants to spend his life with? Kahit pampakilig lang
 

Na pag usapan naman sya like gusto na bukod kami sa family nya, gusto nya beach wedding, yung recent ayaw nya ng civil wedding gusto nya church wedding. Pamapakilig, nag post sya sa fb to say thank you sa ginawa ko surprise nung V-day he said "Thank you so sa Love of myLife", tapos one time dun sa Pick-Up Line Time namin he said "ikaw ang mahal ko sa buhay".  Yeah your right if sure sayo ang guy gagawa at gagawa sya ng paraan. Pero ewan masakit pero alam mo naman tayong mga babae martir o baka ako lang ang martir. Parang gusto ko na lang minsan na magising isang araw na ako na mismo ang gigive-up sa kanya.  :'(
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Post by: zarazan on March 20, 2014, 08:45:19 am
@jtansanco what I mean is, when you have a girlfriend, do you talk about "marriage" to them. Kahit joke time lang or light talk lang.  Like do you every say to that person "ikaw na" or "ilan anak gusto" kind of talks and such.
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Post by: jtansanco on March 20, 2014, 12:53:49 pm
^ Can't really answer that question since I haven't had a girlfriend before. I have lived in a fairy tale story before where my first will be my last. But since i'm at the right age, looks like the first will be my last nga. Haha. Anyway, yeah, I'd do that. While still getting to know the girl, I always ask them what age they want to get married and how many kids do they want. Doon palang, I'd know if we're on the same page. At the end of the day, what's the purpose of having a girlfriend/boyfriend? - It's to be their husband/wife. Again, that's just my opinion. Guys tell me before na maghanap daw ako ng girlfriend for playtime or para ma-experience ko man lang but that's just not me. Each guy has their own point of view. What I suggest is to look for a guy who has a stable job or is financially stable. Because the next step for that type of guy is to either travel the world and be happy on his own or to find a girl to start his own family.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: zarazan on March 21, 2014, 08:58:57 am
@jtansanco  wow, how often do you hear a guy say they want their first girl to be their last. Breath of fresh air. You sound like a keeper.

Anyway, question for the guys. This may be shallow pero curious lang. Whenever you guys are crushing on a girl. Crush lang ah, not "love love" material. And you happen to see the girl one day sobrang looking haggard. Do you guys get turned off? Or once "nagandahan" na, thats all you see. What if biglang nagpa-short hair tas it not super bagay. Nawawala ba yung crush? 

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Post by: sacred cow on March 21, 2014, 12:04:07 pm

Anyway, question for the guys. This may be shallow pero curious lang. Whenever you guys are crushing on a girl. Crush lang ah, not "love love" material. And you happen to see the girl one day sobrang looking haggard. Do you guys get turned off? Or once "nagandahan" na, thats all you see. What if biglang nagpa-short hair tas it not super bagay. Nawawala ba yung crush? 


I don't get turned off naman just because she looks haggard one day, every one has his/her off days, doesn't take away anything from the person. Perfect is boring anyway.

Regarding the nagpa-short hair tapos 'di masyadong bagay, siguro depende kung gaano ko ka-crush yung girl, like may officemate ako na type na type ko nung una...I like long straight hair on petite girls kasi tapos biglang nagpagupit and hindi gaano bagay, medyo nabawasan yung pagka-crush ko
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on March 21, 2014, 12:31:04 pm
Si guy madaming friends na girls pero straight siya. Platonic friends lang niya ang mga yun. Ano po kaya mga signs na interested na siya romantically sa isa sa mga friends niyang girls? Thanks. :)
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Post by: jtansanco on March 21, 2014, 12:52:17 pm
^ That's easy. Who is the girl na lagi niya tinitignan? The girl who he talks to or talks about? The girl na pinapansin niya lagi? Some guys will try to impress the girl they like even without purposely doing it. It will be so obvious if a guy likes a girl. =)

@jtansanco  wow, how often do you hear a guy say they want their first girl to be their last. Breath of fresh air. You sound like a keeper.

Anyway, question for the guys. This may be shallow pero curious lang. Whenever you guys are crushing on a girl. Crush lang ah, not "love love" material. And you happen to see the girl one day sobrang looking haggard. Do you guys get turned off? Or once "nagandahan" na, thats all you see. What if biglang nagpa-short hair tas it not super bagay. Nawawala ba yung crush?

You're right.. Sounds lang. No girl will ever know if I am one or not. Haha

For me, I want to differentiate. Girls will always be at their "hottest" appearance so I'm really interested to see how you look like at your worst. For the hair, I think the answer is yes. I was crushing on a girl kasi bagay sa kanya yung curls. But then, she made it straight so parang di ako nasanay sa look and di ko na naging type.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 21, 2014, 12:55:23 pm
Si guy madaming friends na girls pero straight siya. Platonic friends lang niya ang mga yun. Ano po kaya mga signs na interested na siya romantically sa isa sa mga friends niyang girls? Thanks. :)

Simple, the one he asks out on a date na one on one
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 21, 2014, 01:58:34 pm
^ Can't really answer that question since I haven't had a girlfriend before. I have lived in a fairy tale story before where my first will be my last. But since i'm at the right age, looks like the first will be my last nga. Haha. Anyway, yeah, I'd do that.

Bro as a fellow girltalker, just because you think that you're on the right age to get married doesn't mean that you'd have to marry the first girl that decided to be your gf. Baby steps lang muna pre, work on yourself first, then get a girlfriend..wag mo muna isipin that she should be your future wife na kasi maprepressure ka lang, magiging sobrang choosy ka at prone to mess up

While still getting to know the girl, I always ask them what age they want to get married and how many kids do they want. Doon palang, I'd know if we're on the same page.

Now isn't this kinda creepy, hindi mo pa nga gf tapos tinatanong mo na kung anong age nila gusto magpakasal at ilang anak gusto nila. I'd like to ask, ilan dun sa mga girls na para sa'yo same page kayo based on their answers ang naka-date mo pa ulit? (assumming that "getting to know" means you went out with her)


At the end of the day, what's the purpose of having a girlfriend/boyfriend? - It's to be their husband/wife. Again, that's just my opinion. Guys tell me before na maghanap daw ako ng girlfriend for playtime or para ma-experience ko man lang but that's just not me. Each guy has their own point of view.

The purpose of having a girlfriend/boyfriend is to know what you want in a life partner, if that person satisfies your "non-negotiables" on what you want in someone then you marry him/her. Pero siyempre hindi mo nga makikilala ng mabuti ang isang tao, until you have been in a relationship with him/her for a significant amount of time. You friends mean well when they said that you need to gain experience from dating first. Kasi worst case ang mangyayari niyan is you'd end up with a girl who has rode the c0ck carousel (had lots of boyfriends/fubus), decided that she wants a decent/naive guy to settle with na kasi she's getting old na and her looks are already starting to fade or marry your first gf tapos you'll realize na hindi pala kayo compatible tapos maghihiwalay lang kayo.

Just like in buying anything, hindi lang dapat isa ang vendor...do some sampling muna or i-test drive muna kung sa kotse, mahirap yung mag-aasawa ka tapos malalaman mong hindi pala kayo compatible sexually then someone would cheat kasi hindi satisfied. Well that's my opinion, sabi mo nga iba iba tayo ng point of view

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Post by: jtansanco on March 22, 2014, 01:11:39 am
^ I ask when she wants to get married and how many kids she wants because I want to know her plans for the future. I didn't say that I will ask her that question on the first date. Once we have known each other more, then that's the time I will ask her on her plans for the future. I like to be direct to the point. I have learned not to waste my money and time. What is her dream career? Does she want a family in the future? What's her timeline to achieve those things? Questions like that. How many girls are on the same page? Close to none. Why? Probably because I meet the wrong types of girls because most of them like to live the yolo lifestyle and probably there's a difference in status.

Yeah, I know. If ever I get a girlfriend, I'll definitely want to live-in with her first to have an idea how we are together. I'm not really that big into the whole marriage thing. As long as I feel that "I'm the right person for the right person for me", then we can talk marriage after. I guess the way of thinking depends on the culture you're accustomed to. And yes, I admit that I am really choosy which is why I have been single for the longest time but that's a decision I have made because I refuse to settle for anyone less than what I think, I deserve. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on March 22, 2014, 04:03:44 pm
^ now that sounds better :) I'm all for not settling for anything less but you also need to consider that once you meet the girl who passes your standards, she probably also won't settle for less, just make sure you also have something to bring to the table (wealth doesn't count, since a woman of such value could get that anywhere)

what if one of her "non-negotiables" would include a man who already knows how to handle a relationship (she doesn't want someone who doesn't have actual experience on how relationships work) then just from that you would already be at a disadvantage.

anyway, I'm offering a toast to all guytalkers..may we all get the girl that we believe we deserve and not settle for anything less :)

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on March 22, 2014, 09:36:12 pm
salamat sacred cow and jtsanco


anyway, bagong question, pag ang guy ba nagjoke sa isang girl na nagseselos na siya kasi madaming friends si girl na lalaki, half-meant ba o pwedeng joke lang talaga? :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on March 23, 2014, 02:03:02 am
^ Jokes are half-meant. He is probably saying it to you in an indirect way to avoid a potential altercation.

^^ Then I'll consider that kind of girl immature. Haha. It's like she is trying to get to know a guy based on experience while I try to get to know a girl through her background and goals - contradicting styles. =P As for bringing something to the table, wealth is one thing (financial security - a guy's confidence do change dramatically once this is achieved) but the other half is more of the personality, mannerism, values, and how you were brought up. Live-in na muna para walang problema. =)

 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on March 29, 2014, 10:56:03 pm
tanong lang..

sabi ng isang guy friend ko "mahirap daw talaga sabihin sa taong minahal mo dati na wala ka ng nararamdaman.

in short why mahirap makipagbreak sa isang girl?  eh if di ka naman na happy why mo pa patatagalin di ba?

why nga ba?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on March 30, 2014, 12:20:47 pm
^ Sometimes, we care about the girl's feelings. Girls are more sensitive than guys (normally) so we can't really try and breakup with you and tell you we don't love you anymore if we see that you "love" us.
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Post by: sacred cow on March 30, 2014, 11:16:10 pm
tanong lang..

sabi ng isang guy friend ko "mahirap daw talaga sabihin sa taong minahal mo dati na wala ka ng nararamdaman.

in short why mahirap makipagbreak sa isang girl?  eh if di ka naman na happy why mo pa patatagalin di ba?

why nga ba?

maybe kasi may napapala pa siya like sex and wala pa siyang nahahanap na papalit to fulfill that need
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ohcmon on March 31, 2014, 09:06:35 am
I've been seeing this guy for like a month na. We were super okay, nakilala niya na rin parents ko, etc. As in parang papunta na kami sa relationship.

The weekend before the last, though, nag inom kaming dalawa. Ang ending, may nangyari. He started acting weird last week, text pa rin naman pero parang distant na siya and he doesn't give me as much time as he did before the deed.

Friday night, hindi ako nakatiis, I confronted him if his being distant has something to do with us sleeping together so soon. Oo daw, malaking impact, kasi siya daw he usually waits a year or so before may something, kaya sobrang bothered daw siya dahil ang bilis ng nangyari sa'min. He says he's scared dahil masyado daw mabilis.

Saturday, 'di siya nagtext, pero nakainom ako Saturday night so I kind of drunk texted him. Ang haba ng sinabi ko, like bakit parang kasalanan ko pa na may nangyari samin when we both wanted it etc. Sabi ko pa parang naoffend ako sa sinabi niya the other night dahil kulang na lang diretsahin niya ko na ang l_ndi ko. Sa dami ng sinabi ko, ang reply niya lang "Hindi ko sinabing mal_ndi ka". Di na rin nagtext kahapon.

Now that I think about it, he did say something about his being conservative. Like he'll see me after office wearing a skirt and he would jokingly say di daw niya gusto kita legs ng kasama niya, tapos we never held hands nor kissed until that night na may nangyari sa'min.

I should probably back off na, noh?
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Post by: jtansanco on March 31, 2014, 12:36:08 pm
^ After reading your post, only one thing came to my mind. How old is he? In my opinion, he's acting immature. I wouldn't say to back off yet but his level of maturity is below yours based on how you described it. It's up to you but I suggest not to be the one to "chase" him. If he doesn't text you, then let him be. You're still open to mingle with other people. And yeah, 1 month is kind of too fast from dating, meeting the family, then doing the deed. Give him time to think about things and I have a feeling he'll "make paramdam" to you.
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Post by: sacred cow on March 31, 2014, 01:19:20 pm
I've been seeing this guy for like a month na. We were super okay, nakilala niya na rin parents ko, etc. As in parang papunta na kami sa relationship.

The weekend before the last, though, nag inom kaming dalawa. Ang ending, may nangyari. He started acting weird last week, text pa rin naman pero parang distant na siya and he doesn't give me as much time as he did before the deed.

Friday night, hindi ako nakatiis, I confronted him if his being distant has something to do with us sleeping together so soon. Oo daw, malaking impact, kasi siya daw he usually waits a year or so before may something, kaya sobrang bothered daw siya dahil ang bilis ng nangyari sa'min. He says he's scared dahil masyado daw mabilis.

Saturday, 'di siya nagtext, pero nakainom ako Saturday night so I kind of drunk texted him. Ang haba ng sinabi ko, like bakit parang kasalanan ko pa na may nangyari samin when we both wanted it etc. Sabi ko pa parang naoffend ako sa sinabi niya the other night dahil kulang na lang diretsahin niya ko na ang l_ndi ko. Sa dami ng sinabi ko, ang reply niya lang "Hindi ko sinabing mal_ndi ka". Di na rin nagtext kahapon.

Now that I think about it, he did say something about his being conservative. Like he'll see me after office wearing a skirt and he would jokingly say di daw niya gusto kita legs ng kasama niya, tapos we never held hands nor kissed until that night na may nangyari sa'min.

I should probably back off na, noh?

yup back off na, unfortunately may mga guys lang talagang nawawalan ng interest sa girl after having sex. I'm not saying mali yung ginawa niyo nor am I saying mali ka kasi bumigay ka kaagad, kasi hindi naman talaga. I guess ok na rin na 1 month pa lang ang lumilipas, at least hindi pa ganun katagal yung time na invest mo, the fact that he became like that just because of what happened, just shows kung anong klaseng guy sya, for me you dodged a bullet :)
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Post by: louise1 on March 31, 2014, 06:43:00 pm


eh papaano if di naman sila nagsex nung guy after the first meeting and the second and the third hanggang hj and finger lang? ano ibig sabihin nun? i hope he wont read this. hahaha
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Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on March 31, 2014, 07:19:07 pm
I was chatting with my friend about dating and all that, see all this time i  am under the assumption that as long as you're a doctor, your market value is way way up there. She told me that is true, but only for men. But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on March 31, 2014, 07:22:24 pm
I was chatting with my friend about dating and all that, see all this time i  am under the assumption that as long as you're a doctor, your market value is way way up there. She told me that is true, but only for men. But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

no, i dont think so.

i have a friend who's a nurse and has a doctor gf. their work status quo wasn't an issue at all.
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Post by: anon on March 31, 2014, 07:50:55 pm
yup back off na, unfortunately may mga guys lang talagang nawawalan ng interest sa girl after having sex. I'm not saying mali yung ginawa niyo nor am I saying mali ka kasi bumigay ka kaagad, kasi hindi naman talaga. I guess ok na rin na 1 month pa lang ang lumilipas, at least hindi pa ganun katagal yung time na invest mo, the fact that he became like that just because of what happened, just shows kung anong klaseng guy sya, for me you dodged a bullet :)

+1


eh papaano if di naman sila nagsex nung guy after the first meeting and the second and the third hanggang hj and finger lang? ano ibig sabihin nun? i hope he wont read this. hahaha

the guy might still want to go all the way with the girl. nabitin ata e
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Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on March 31, 2014, 07:55:28 pm
no, i dont think so.

i have a friend who's a nurse and has a doctor gf. their work status quo wasn't an issue at all.

but they're not childhood sweethearts/sweethearts during highschool/college?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: anon on March 31, 2014, 08:16:25 pm
If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P


Most guys (especially insecure ones) would be intimated; a few will find it a non-issue.
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Post by: sacred cow on March 31, 2014, 10:14:36 pm
But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

No, most of us don't care about status and career when it comes to women (except guys with low self-esteem). When a woman thinks she's superior to us because of her career and acts bitchy, bossy, and condescending, that's when we have a problem.

If you're affectionate, attractive, and don't give a guy a hard time about things, you should do fine, no matter how high or low status your career. It's your personality that defines you, not your career.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: entwife on March 31, 2014, 10:32:41 pm
hmm,.. I know a lot of female consultants that are still single. Naging joke na nga na kahit sino na lang na may SSS, pwede na eh,. Haha. Maybe the ratio of these women to men is 10:1
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 01, 2014, 01:02:39 am

eh papaano if di naman sila nagsex nung guy after the first meeting and the second and the third hanggang hj and finger lang? ano ibig sabihin nun? i hope he wont read this. hahaha

^ What's the point? Remember girls, the ultimate goal of a man is to put his thing between your legs. As long as you don't give that to him, he'll continue to chase you. But once he does, that means he has "conquered" you already and the chase is over and he's going for a new victim. That's how a player thinks. If you're into fubu, then enjoy. Now, if you want to have a relationship with him, don't f*ck or do adult activities for at least 6 months after being bf/gf. Let's see if he'll stay with you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on April 01, 2014, 02:26:01 am
^ What's the point? Remember girls, the ultimate goal of a man is to put his thing between your legs. As long as you don't give that to him, he'll continue to chase you.

Nope, guys who know better don't chase...they replace. amateurs lang ang naghahabol ng matagal nang walang napapala (assuming sex nga lang ang habol).
If a guy really likes you it doesn't matter if you have sex with him within a few days or after 6 months, as long as it's consensual. It would just be disappointing for a guy to know that a girl is holding off sex just because she is testing him, not to mention that it is immature and childish.

it's also stupid to espouse holding off getting intimate just so a guy would "chase" you. why play stupid mind games? Wouldn't it be worse to find out after a long time of him chasing you na sex lang pala ang habol niya?

But once he does, that means he has "conquered" you already and the chase is over and he's going for a new victim. That's how a player thinks. If you're into fubu, then enjoy.

just because a guy knows how to get laid, doesn't automatically mean that he's a player. Your definition of a player is someone who fools/manipulates a girl into bed (e.g. with the promise of a relationship), guys who really know "game" knows how to manage the girl's expectations and are honest with their intentions at walang lokohan na nangyayari, both are on the same page and both are left satisfied after the deed.
 
Now, if you want to have a relationship with him, don't f*ck or do adult activities for at least 6 months after being bf/gf. Let's see if he'll stay with you.

this sounds like it was taken from "The Rules" guidebook, really a poor manual on how to manipulate men.
A girl who doesn't have sex or does adult activities with you is NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, we may be in the Philippines and this is a conservative country...but let's not delude ourselves, girls want to do adult activities just like guys. Not escalating with a girl physically is a one way ticket to the friendzone.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on April 01, 2014, 02:53:56 am
^i was smiling while reading your replies, sacred cow. It felt like i was reading my male version's journal haha

Here's what I think: a guy whether a boyfriend material or just a player thinks about getting laid. Kahit pa seryoso si guy in making a relationship work, he still thinks of sleeping with the girl he's with. That's guy's nature. The difference is, the non player one knows how to make himself worthy of the sex. And probably understands that the sex is not just a reward for being a boyfriend material but is something that is shared intimately. So kahit pa gano kabait ang manliligaw mo, he will think of sex with you, and will want to have sex with you.

If a guy is a player and wants solely sex from the girl will leave once nakuha na nya yun. Whether it's after a day, a week, 6 months or a year.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on April 01, 2014, 03:33:52 am
^ hahaha..ditto! except on the last part, some don't leave agad after getting what they want...some keep coming back for more :))
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on April 01, 2014, 03:55:09 am
Most guys (especially insecure ones) would be intimated; a few will find it a non-issue.
No, most of us don't care about status and career when it comes to women (except guys with low self-esteem). When a woman thinks she's superior to us because of her career and acts bitchy, bossy, and condescending, that's when we have a problem.

If you're affectionate, attractive, and don't give a guy a hard time about things, you should do fine, no matter how high or low status your career. It's your personality that defines you, not your career.


It's the filipino men's way daw to feel intimidated.
If that's not an issue then yaay! Chos!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 01, 2014, 10:33:59 am
Nope, guys who know better don't chase...they replace. amateurs lang ang naghahabol ng matagal nang walang napapala (assuming sex nga lang ang habol).
If a guy really likes you it doesn't matter if you have sex with him within a few days or after 6 months, as long as it's consensual. It would just be disappointing for a guy to know that a girl is holding off sex just because she is testing him, not to mention that it is immature and childish.

it's also stupid to espouse holding off getting intimate just so a guy would "chase" you. why play stupid mind games? Wouldn't it be worse to find out after a long time of him chasing you na sex lang pala ang habol niya?

just because a guy knows how to get laid, doesn't automatically mean that he's a player. Your definition of a player is someone who fools/manipulates a girl into bed (e.g. with the promise of a relationship), guys who really know "game" knows how to manage the girl's expectations and are honest with their intentions at walang lokohan na nangyayari, both are on the same page and both are left satisfied after the deed.
 
this sounds like it was taken from "The Rules" guidebook, really a poor manual on how to manipulate men.
A girl who doesn't have sex or does adult activities with you is NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, we may be in the Philippines and this is a conservative country...but let's not delude ourselves, girls want to do adult activities just like guys. Not escalating with a girl physically is a one way ticket to the friendzone.

And the Filipino mentality? Bash someone trying to give his own opinion on questions of others. Like I said, I give my own opinion based on how I know, observe, and experience things in my surroundings. It's not my fault I grew up different than you so my mindset is unlike yours. I'm not like you; I'm not like any men out there; I'm just someone answering the questions of these girls because I was the one who created this thread in the first place.

Now, let's go back to the topic. You give your own opinion on the women's questions and stop telling me what to answer because we're two different entities. I'm not here to tell women what they wanna here. I'm not here to tell men what SHOULD be said. I'm just saying things the way I see it after living in the Phlippines, Taiwan, Japan, and the US.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jan888 on April 01, 2014, 11:19:16 am
^like!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on April 01, 2014, 01:11:34 pm
but they're not childhood sweethearts/sweethearts during highschool/college?

no, they aren't. They just met through a friend. the girl is living here in manila while the guy is from pangasinan. things are working out for them. even if the guy is now studying in australia and the girl is still here in Manila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on April 01, 2014, 02:26:14 pm
If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.
Papatol ka ba sa college grad na ordinary employee lang?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 01, 2014, 11:31:00 pm
I was chatting with my friend about dating and all that, see all this time i  am under the assumption that as long as you're a doctor, your market value is way way up there. She told me that is true, but only for men. But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

Back then, yes. Now, maybe not.

Key points:
- You might be "smarter" because you're a doctor.
- Your salary is higher than the guy who wants to date you. (He might think that bringing you to a normal restaurant is not your thing because you might prefer a fine dining experience because you're "richer")

Going back to my own answer. If i'm earning P20k/month, I'll be intimidated and will not even think of dating you. But if i'm earning P120k/month, I will ask you out for a date regardless of your profession. It's the "status" thing.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 02, 2014, 11:09:20 am
here's the story:
i just got my bf 2 weeks ago. so very fresh pa yung relationship namin. the guy had his relationship with this girl for 7 years and the girl is known na by his family sa province. they broke up since the relationship naman is very rocky na talaga and when i came to the guy's life naman eh wala na sila, kaso parang 1 week pa lang silang nagbreak ni girl nung pumasok ako sa buhay ni guy. actually matagal naman na kami magkakilala ni guy (sila pa ni girl magkakilala na kami pero i really dont know na may gusto na pala sa akin si guy kahit nung sila pa nung girl) then nung nag-break nga sila the guy admitted na matagal na nya akong gusto, he asked if he can court me and i told him na wag muna in respect nga sa nangyari din sa relationship nila ni girl. masyado pa kasing fresh na kakabreak lang nila then after a week this guy nga eh manliligaw na sa'kin. i told him to try experiencing singlehood muna but the guy is very persistent. kahit tinataguan ko na sya still he make all his effort para ipakita sa'kin na gusto nya talaga ko. in short, sinagot ko sya after 2 weeks ng panliligaw nya. then napag-usapan namin na uuwi daw sya sa province nila on July and gusto nya daw ako isama doon so i agree naman para ma-meet ko rin sana yung mga relatives nya, then yesterday when we're plannign about the travel na pauwi sa kanila he then told me this " i was thinking na wag muna kitang isama sa province kasi baka sabihin nila ang bilis naman ng pangyayari, na nakahanap agad ako ng kapalit ni (name ni ex gf) pasensya na ha? ayoko lang kasi na hindi maganda yung maging dating ng pagpapakilala ko sa'yo sa kanila, hope you understand"

honestly medyo na-hurt ako pero hindi na lang ako kumibo.

tama ba yung decision nya na wag muna ko ipakilala sa relatives nya? or is it his reason lang at ayaw nya lang talaga akong ipakilala talaga sa mga relatives nya? does it mean na hindi sya ganun ka-seryoso sa'kin?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 02, 2014, 11:19:01 am
"Meet the parents or family" needs perfect timing. And he has a point. Hindi din impossible na maisip ng family/relatives nya na you're the reason why nag-break sila ng 7-yr gf nya and other stuff. Yun lang kasi the excitement it gave you na uy, ipapakilala na nya ako then biglang wag muna. Be patient, dear. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 02, 2014, 11:23:53 am
it hurts me lang din kasi he was the one with that idea tapos biglang babawiin. yes i was excited naman talaga to meet his rellies kaso parang hurting lang kasi biglang babawiin na sana inisip nya muna yun mga ganung bagay bago nya ko niyaya sa province nila..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 02, 2014, 11:29:16 am
^
He probably wants you to really meet his family but realized it was too early.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 02, 2014, 11:35:15 am
^^ Give it time. You're the one who said that everything was too fast. I definitely think it's for the best that you don't meet his parents/relatives at this stage of your relationship. Meeting them might give them a negative perception about you. They "might" think that you're the reason why he broke up with his ex or you're just a rebound or something like that even though it may not be true. I'm sure he'll make it up to you one way or the other. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 02, 2014, 11:43:17 am
sana nga that's the real reason.. im just thinking lang na bakit ganun bigla nyang binawi. hay naku, i know it's too immature of me pero it really hurts me when he said that wag na lang daw muna nya ko ipakilala sa parents nya. wel,, i think this is not the right time pa nga. even sa ate nya na malapit lang yung bahay sa amin hindi nya pa ko pinapakilala kasi sabi nya not now pa daw baka daw kasi hindi maging maganda yung dating sa ate nya dahil alam nga ng ate nya nakaka break pa lang nila ng ex nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 02, 2014, 11:47:53 am
Yun naman pala eh. Quit overthinking then. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 02, 2014, 11:55:56 am
thanks sugardrop.. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on April 02, 2014, 12:20:59 pm
i told him to try experiencing singlehood muna but the guy is very persistent. kahit tinataguan ko na sya still he make all his effort para ipakita sa'kin na gusto nya talaga ko. in short, sinagot ko sya after 2 weeks ng panliligaw nya.

Natuwa/natawa ako dito. Overly persistent -- for two weeks.

Anyway, yeah, what they said. People say things impulsively and wala naman rule na touch move when it comes to planning to meet the parents. Your bf is CLEARLY telling you the reasons why he doesnt want you to meet the family at this time, i don't understand why you're confused
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 02, 2014, 01:46:23 pm
siguro nga kasi naka-set na sa isip ko an i'll meet his parties and biglang bawi kaya naisip ko lang baka hindi sya seryoso sa'kin kaya ayaw nya muna ko ipakilala sa kanila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on April 03, 2014, 08:25:39 pm
I was chatting with my friend about dating and all that, see all this time i  am under the assumption that as long as you're a doctor, your market value is way way up there. She told me that is true, but only for men. But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

Depende sayo yan sis :) if you portray na di ka mareach or untouchable or high maintenance ka siguro nga. Pero if friendly ka syempre hindi naman siguro. But yeah, sa male doctors kasi usually hindi mahirap mas madami na swoon na girlaloos including moi haha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 04, 2014, 04:44:29 pm
sana nga that's the real reason.. im just thinking lang na bakit ganun bigla nyang binawi. hay naku, i know it's too immature of me pero it really hurts me when he said that wag na lang daw muna nya ko ipakilala sa parents nya. wel,, i think this is not the right time pa nga. even sa ate nya na malapit lang yung bahay sa amin hindi nya pa ko pinapakilala kasi sabi nya not now pa daw baka daw kasi hindi maging maganda yung dating sa ate nya dahil alam nga ng ate nya nakaka break pa lang nila ng ex nya.

sis, just playing the devil's advocate.  nap-praning ka ba kung bakit bigla nagbago isip nya?

you know your guy well siguro by now. pero kung ako sayo, mag usap kayo mabuti about his maturity.  I am not too comfy with his outlook in life, at least with the limited stories you have shared.

how can a guy be looking around habang may GF sya?  then 2 weeks lang nga, kayo na?  how sure are you na he is not looking around kung kayo na? 

then bigla nalang sya magsasama ng GF sa province, mag oovernight sa kanila?  after having a 7-yr relationship break up, he is in bed na agad with another girl?  ano yun?

sorry, medyo nakakadoubt lang ang personality ng BF mo. pero outsider lang naman ako. ikaw ang dapat mas nakakakilala sa kanya.


I was chatting with my friend about dating and all that, see all this time i  am under the assumption that as long as you're a doctor, your market value is way way up there. She told me that is true, but only for men. But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? :( chos  :P

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.


Sis, I think in general, men's market value as they age is higher than women.  I am talking about professionals lang ha.

Tsaka hindi naman siguro PHD holders, baka masters puede rin? Or Licensed engineer?  Anyone na professional should be Ok. Kaya answer ko to your question (kahit babae ako) - 4/5 year course, puede syang pumatol sa isang lady doctor.

But ang question ko is - don't you sift through them as well?  Say may nagka interest sayo na driver (no offense meant), papatulan mo ba?  Hindi naman di ba?  Kasi hindi nga kayo magkalevel, and I am not just talking about money.  I am talking about your thoughts, dreams and aspirations.  Paano kayo mag uusap, ano pag uusapan ninyo kung hindi kayo maka relate sa isa't isa.

I believe hindi nagiging doctor ang isang doctor kung hindi sya matalino. So kahit papano ang pagpili mo rin ng partners ay limited.  Kelangan meron din something between his ears.  Hindi puro porma lang. 
Secondly, napansin ko sa Pinoy guys (heto na naman ako, sorry, opinion ko lang po) are generally insecure, or may pagka inferioirty complex as compared to foreigners.  So effectively, mas madali sila maintimidate.  But you should not feel sorry.  Because these are the types of men na hindi mo rin makakasundo kasi walang guts to reach out to you.  Eventually, you wouldn't want din an insecure partner di ba?  Kunwari nasa party kayo tapos ni hindi sya maka complete ng sentence at nahihiya at ikaw lang nakikimingle.




Sorry, I have a couple more comments on the posts in the recent week.  Hindi kasi ina-allow ng mods na separate posts. So kelangan ko pag-isahin resulting to extra long posts. Just bear with me.

yup back off na, unfortunately may mga guys lang talagang nawawalan ng interest sa girl after having sex. I'm not saying mali yung ginawa niyo nor am I saying mali ka kasi bumigay ka kaagad, kasi hindi naman talaga. I guess ok na rin na 1 month pa lang ang lumilipas, at least hindi pa ganun katagal yung time na invest mo, the fact that he became like that just because of what happened, just shows kung anong klaseng guy sya, for me you dodged a bullet :)

@ohcmon, charge it to experience nalang. Next time, siguro you can be more discerning.  There is actually a checklist to determine it a guy is worthy of your attention, whether he is someone you would want to be intimate with or not.  Kung hindi pumasa, I would rather postpone the intimacy until you are sure.  Hindi purkit nameet ang parents mo, you can sleep with him na. 

I agree with sacred cow's post na maraming lalaki sex lang ang habol. Mga *ssholes kasi.  or puede din malamang natakot ang guy mo sa commitment. Or baka hindi ka nya nagustuhan sa bed at isang batayan yun for him to linger around. Pero kung sa tingin nya hanggang kama ka lang, buti narin umalis na sya.

Nagagawa ko na atang She said He said itong thread, but I guess ok lang naman siguro. So sis ohcmon, next time lapitan ka ng same guy, at nagpasweet.  Siguro you know na what to do. Kahit may feelings ka sa isang guy, you really need to know the guy's ulterior motive. Sadly sa nangyari, to put it bluntly, you were just used.  At hindi mo malalaman agad ang motive ng guy by prolonging the intimacy period or by just asking him to meet your family. You have to do your research, his personality, is he for keeps, is he for long term material etc etc (iresearch mo yung checklist if you should sleep with him or not)... before engaging into something very sexual.



tanong lang..

sabi ng isang guy friend ko "mahirap daw talaga sabihin sa taong minahal mo dati na wala ka ng nararamdaman.

in short why mahirap makipagbreak sa isang girl?  eh if di ka naman na happy why mo pa patatagalin di ba?

why nga ba?

Ito ang hindi ko maintindihan sa mga guys, especially sa Pinoy. Ang hirap magsabi ng totoo kasi they are afraid to hurt your feelings.  And yet gagawa ng kalokohan behind your back, mags-scout for other girls tapos kung naipit na sila talaga, tsaka magsasabi.  Ang feeling ko dito is selfish.  Kung wala na talaga silang nararamdaman, one should say - AYOKO NA.  Then move on, tsaka makipagdate or landian sa ibang babae.  Hindi yung hindi pa kayo nagkaron ng "breakup talk", nakikipagharutan na sa ibang babae.  This makes their position VERY SAFE.  Kasi kung ireject man sila ng new prospect nila, may GF pa sila na puedeng makasama or utusan.  Pero kung inaccept sila ng bagong prospect, dun sila lalabas na shining armor na ipaglalaban ang NEW LOVE kuno.

so @ tamera_lorraine, to answer your question bakit mahirap makipagbreak? kasi mga duwag iyang mga ganyang klaseng lalaki. una, they cannot face and tell the truth. Gusto nila laging nasa safe side.  Tapos pa lingon lingon sa ibang baba, para kung may nahanap na silang prospect na mataas ang likelihood na magiging potential GF nila, tsaka nila ib-break yung girl. Kung baka kung dumating na yung bagong inaantay nila, puede na nila itapon yung reserba.

For girls naman who get ditched in these types of situation, magpasalamat nalang kayo na you do not end up with a guy like that.  Kasi most likely, pag kasal na kayo, malamang gagawin din nya iyan, but hindi na nya kayo madidispatcha nang madali kasi walang divorce. So ang mangyayari he will end up with flings or mistresses.


^ What's the point? Remember girls, the ultimate goal of a man is to put his thing between your legs. As long as you don't give that to him, he'll continue to chase you. But once he does, that means he has "conquered" you already and the chase is over and he's going for a new victim. That's how a player thinks. If you're into fubu, then enjoy. Now, if you want to have a relationship with him, don't f*ck or do adult activities for at least 6 months after being bf/gf. Let's see if he'll stay with you.

@jtansanco, you are just referring to player's ultimate goal.

If you want a relationship with a player, don't do it for 6 months. He will definitely leave. Because it is simply impossible to have a serious and TRUE relationship with a player.  Kaya nga player eh, you will just be played and fooled.



^ hahaha..ditto! except on the last part, some don't leave agad after getting what they want...some keep coming back for more :))

Exactly.  Kaya worried ako kay @ohcmon if ever the *sshole comes back.  Kasi iyang mga ganyang klaseng lalaki, kung walang ibang mahanap, ikaw ang pupuntiryahin and will make you believe that you are "in a relationship" na walang commitment. Hanggang sa forever kayong ganyan na hindi umuusad. Yun pala, he is just hanging in there kasi naghahanap pa ng ibang options or ng ibang kakagat.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on April 05, 2014, 07:34:24 pm
^most of guys naman talaga ganyan hindi kayang ibreak agad ang gf nila.

tama ka duwag talaga mga ganyang lalaki..

gusto kase nila may reserba sila palagi..

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 05, 2014, 07:50:34 pm

^ sorry to bring it up, pero ito yung naisip ko pala when sis fleur posted her issue. pero syempre I think too early pa to conclude anything kasi limited lang ang story na post nya dito.

In any case, when I started dating again, ayoko talaga nang rebound ako or something to the effect na "in a rocky relationship" sya.  Di ba obvious na pambobola iyon?  Kahit pa ang mga married men, kung lapitan ka, sasabihin na tipong bungangera daw ang asawa or may issue blah blah blah. Point ko is makipaghiwalay ka muna, tsaka ka na makipagdate.

Pero most often sa pinoy society, nagkakaron muna ng fling or kabit or someone of interest with a high likelihood na maging GF/BF before makipaghiwalay.  Ewan ko ba.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on April 05, 2014, 08:38:54 pm
Papatol ka ba sa college grad na ordinary employee lang?

possible, if there's something exemptional about hiim.  :P
cause i am exemptional. chos!  ;D
i'm joking around :P

@sis girltalker2
yes yung nga sis sabi ng friend ko, filipino men will feel intimidated. and yes, tumaas din ang aking standards sa kalalakihan dahil medyo mahirap maging doctor, daming pasakit huhu.  hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on April 06, 2014, 12:26:08 am
Will a guy say he wants to marry a girl or lets get married na is that something serious? Lol my boyfriend minsan will blurt this at times :) and i just hug him and sabi sige bukas! ;) just thinking maybe he is kuntento na in some ways?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 06, 2014, 03:04:49 am
^ I can't say that he is serious but it's a good thing. He wants to see how you will react to his "joke". Remember, jokes are half-meant so somewhere in his mind, he's really thinking about settling down at one point in his life. Hintayin mo nalang yung ROCK. Hahaha ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 06, 2014, 08:24:33 am

^^ nice answer din. if it is asked through a joke, sakin ang sagot ko ay joke din.  If it is always a joke, I would not take it seriously unless direchuhin nya at totohanan nya.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on April 06, 2014, 10:33:23 am
^^ hindi siya joke eh pero hindi naman yun seryosong seryoso na parang magpropopose na. Its like pag kunwari idle time bigla na lang babanat ng ganun hehe. But yeah, maybe its a good thing din siguro at least siya nagoopen ng ganun mga bagay haha.

^yeah sis

feeling ko awkward pag ako nag open tapos di pala siya game sa ganun bagay tama ba ako? And at the same time, we are young pa naman. Young pa naman ang 24 at 22 no? Haha
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Post by: Girltalker2 on April 06, 2014, 05:07:23 pm

^ oo, super young pa iyan!  Naku sis, some things I have learned from my experience (sana makinig ka as you are young enough to be my daughter!),

- huwag mag BF/GF nang maaga
- huwag mag asawa ng maaga (ideally for me, the girl should be on her late 20s at the earliest), and the guy should at least be in his 30s.

pero IMO lang naman iyan based sa nakita ko at na observe ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on April 06, 2014, 05:14:32 pm
^ baby steps pa din naman kami sis :) hmm, naisip ko tuloy super baby padin siya sa akin haha. Sis, ano mapapayo mo sa amin? Haha
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Post by: sugardrop on April 06, 2014, 05:20:25 pm
^
At your age, sister, 3 words + 2 more : take it slow + enjoy singlehood
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: dawnperiwinkle on April 07, 2014, 03:55:58 am
Hi guys, i just need your point of view.
I'm turning 30 this year.  I have many guy friends but never had a boyfriend. In one way or another, yung mga nagiging close ko na guy at some point in time naman I feel that na may mutual attraction pero di tumatama yung timing. Yun bang nagpaparamdam sila pero wala lang sa akin yun ako tapos kung kailan nalagay na ako sa friendzone dun naman ako naffall. kaya in the end, walang nangyayari. friends only nalang.  since past na naman yun, i do ask them and halos lahat sila same ang sinasabi sa akin. I'm smart, fun to be with, sexy, pretty, good housekeeper, career oriented, caring. therefore, I'm too good to be true daw. they get attracted to me pero once they got to know me more na, they would realize na super bait ko rin and they can't afford to feel guilty kung masaktan nila ako in case di magwork out yung relationship kaya they would rather be friends with me so they can keep me forever.  panu ba to, should I avoid being too nice? this is already my nature and my personality. so di ko alam kung being nice ba e isang malaking diperensya. prefer ba ng guys yung may pagkabitchy? how do I avoid getting into friend zone?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 07, 2014, 08:31:39 am
Sis, ano mapapayo mo sa amin? Haha

Naku, ang dami!  Sa dami, I think magbasa ka nalang ng GT and I am sure marami kang mapupulot about reality.

Pero yun nga na namention ko, if I could turn back the time, I would rather not marry my first BF.  If ever kami, there should be a time na naghiwalay kami, I got to know other guys, tapos naging kami ulit.  Puede pa yun. 

Tapos as a mom of 2 kids, pinapaalala ko sa kanila na do not marry early.  Hindi lang love ang importante, at kelangan ng evaluation ng sarili mo, ng guy/girl you are with and at ng relationship ninyo.  Remember ang number ngayon ng successful marriages ay napakababa compared to the total number of marriages. Kelangan may conscious effort sa couple to understand ano pinapasok nila. 

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Post by: VainDoll on April 07, 2014, 07:22:43 pm
^ yeah hopefully umabot kami dun haha!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 09, 2014, 02:03:03 am
Hi guys, i just need your point of view.
I'm turning 30 this year.  I have many guy friends but never had a boyfriend. In one way or another, yung mga nagiging close ko na guy at some point in time naman I feel that na may mutual attraction pero di tumatama yung timing. Yun bang nagpaparamdam sila pero wala lang sa akin yun ako tapos kung kailan nalagay na ako sa friendzone dun naman ako naffall. kaya in the end, walang nangyayari. friends only nalang.  since past na naman yun, i do ask them and halos lahat sila same ang sinasabi sa akin. I'm smart, fun to be with, sexy, pretty, good housekeeper, career oriented, caring. therefore, I'm too good to be true daw. they get attracted to me pero once they got to know me more na, they would realize na super bait ko rin and they can't afford to feel guilty kung masaktan nila ako in case di magwork out yung relationship kaya they would rather be friends with me so they can keep me forever.  panu ba to, should I avoid being too nice? this is already my nature and my personality. so di ko alam kung being nice ba e isang malaking diperensya. prefer ba ng guys yung may pagkabitchy? how do I avoid getting into friend zone?

I honestly can't find an answer to this question. A "perfect" girl being friendzoned by a guy. If it's in your nature to be nice, then never change it. Maybe, your standards are high? Are you picky? Describe your ideal guy - physically. What's your background? Do you think there's a difference in status with the guys you're attracted to?

You can PM me if you don't want to disclose your info to everyone. I'm just trying to understand your situation. Hope that helps.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 09, 2014, 07:08:04 am
Hi guys, i just need your point of view.
I'm turning 30 this year.  I have many guy friends but never had a boyfriend. In one way or another, yung mga nagiging close ko na guy at some point in time naman I feel that na may mutual attraction pero di tumatama yung timing. Yun bang nagpaparamdam sila pero wala lang sa akin yun ako tapos kung kailan nalagay na ako sa friendzone dun naman ako naffall. kaya in the end, walang nangyayari. friends only nalang.  since past na naman yun, i do ask them and halos lahat sila same ang sinasabi sa akin. I'm smart, fun to be with, sexy, pretty, good housekeeper, career oriented, caring. therefore, I'm too good to be true daw. they get attracted to me pero once they got to know me more na, they would realize na super bait ko rin and they can't afford to feel guilty kung masaktan nila ako in case di magwork out yung relationship kaya they would rather be friends with me so they can keep me forever.  panu ba to, should I avoid being too nice? this is already my nature and my personality. so di ko alam kung being nice ba e isang malaking diperensya. prefer ba ng guys yung may pagkabitchy? how do I avoid getting into friend zone?

I think your dilemma is you start off with your guy friends to be "friends" first. Yung sabi mo nga, "walang lang" sayo. Then pag palagi mo kasama, doon na nad-develop, and for them hindi narin nag-p-progress to the next level.

IMO, sa Pinas, kapag HS/college, mas ganito ang set up when meeting people from the opposite gender.  Pero once nagw-work na, pansin ko nags-start is magbabarkada, then nad-develop, etc.  Mostly at least.  Correct me if I am wrong, but this is my impression and this is what I think how it  was during my time.  Pero minsan parang mas ok to make people know YOU ARE AVAILABLE. Hindi yung you are available as a friend lang.  And you can make this known by DATING.  Blind date, pakilala na date.  Hindi yung start kayo sa kabarkada, magkakayayaan, or laging nakabuntot yung guy without saying his intentions at maraming  awkward moments na di mo alam how to open the topic na anong ginagawa ninyo nanonood ng sine na kayong dalawa lang (ie gusto kaya nya ko, gusto ko kaya sya, puede kaya maging kami, etc).

Anyway, back to making yourself available.  Kung feeling mo 30yo ka na, and you want to have a family and look for the right guy, it is about time to announce that you are available.  Start off by telling your friends and guy friends kung may ipapakilala sayo or ipapa-date sayo.  Then kapag meron, you start the relationship as a date-friend, hindi friend-friend.  From there, you know both of you are available, both of you are looking, so at least nasa sa inyo na kung may ma feel kayong chemistry, compatibility at kung ok ang personality ninyo sa isa't isa.  If it does not work out, then tsaka mo gawin syang friend-friend.  :D

Good luck!






 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on April 09, 2014, 07:31:08 am
i do ask them and halos lahat sila same ang sinasabi sa akin. I'm smart, fun to be with, sexy, pretty, good housekeeper, career oriented, caring. therefore, I'm too good to be true daw. they get attracted to me pero once they got to know me more na, they would realize na super bait ko rin and they can't afford to feel guilty kung masaktan nila ako in case di magwork out yung relationship kaya they would rather be friends with me so they can keep me forever.

sorry, they're not into you...kasi kung attracted talaga sila sa'yo that way tapos nakita nilang may opportunity to at the very least hook up with you, then they'd grab it and not say those stuff na sounds like pampalubag loob lang to reject you. rarely does a guy put a girl he finds hot/attractive in the friendzone unless there's something about her na talagang nakakaturn off or siguro because of familiarity kasi laging kasama (e.g. gf ng isang katropa), pero even so minsan may tinatalo pa rin kaya nagaaway or inaantay magbreak at popormahan

sa aming guys, it's either they we like you or not...kahit naging tropa na at lahat kung talagang gusto...go pa rin.

this is the same when girls tell a guy that he's such a nice guy and he deserves better.

suggestion ko, magmake over ka (porma, suot, pasexy kung mataba, facial...the whole pagpapaganda), try to be more assertive and make effort to go to social events wherein there's a chance to meet lots of new people. try mo ring tumambay sa bookstores, coffeshops or wherever na sa tingin mo merong guys na tulad ng gusto mo. kung may makakita sayong guy na trip ka, he'd come over and talk to you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: dawnperiwinkle on April 09, 2014, 09:42:52 am

suggestion ko, magmake over ka (porma, suot, pasexy kung mataba, facial...the whole pagpapaganda), try to be more assertive and make effort to go to social events wherein there's a chance to meet lots of new people. try mo ring tumambay sa bookstores, coffeshops or wherever na sa tingin mo merong guys na tulad ng gusto mo. kung may makakita sayong guy na trip ka, he'd come over and talk to you.

hi sacred cow, thanks for your reply. maybe you're right that they might find me attractive but not to the point na ippursue nila or bringing a relationship to a higher level.
sa make over naman kasi, i don't think I still need it since lagi naman akong voted as best dressed sa workplace ko.  ;D
yung assertiveness, baka din yun yung kulang. di kasi ako showy pag type ko yung guy. i don't make a move. kung nagpaparamdam yung guy pero he doesn't say anything, i don't assume. para sa akin kasi for as long as hindi magtapat yung guy, they won't hear anything from me rin. mali ba to?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: dawnperiwinkle on April 09, 2014, 09:51:54 am
Anyway, back to making yourself available.  Kung feeling mo 30yo ka na, and you want to have a family and look for the right guy, it is about time to announce that you are available.  Start off by telling your friends and guy friends kung may ipapakilala sayo or ipapa-date sayo.  Then kapag meron, you start the relationship as a date-friend, hindi friend-friend.  From there, you know both of you are available, both of you are looking, so at least nasa sa inyo na kung may ma feel kayong chemistry, compatibility at kung ok ang personality ninyo sa isa't isa.  If it does not work out, then tsaka mo gawin syang friend-friend.  :D

Good luck!


Hi sis, thanks! maybe there are relationships nga na better not start as buddies. pag too familiar na kasi kayo sa isa't isa parang awkward na to bring to a higher level.
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Post by: simang on April 09, 2014, 11:05:28 am
Sis dawnperiwinkle, i had the same experience back in hs, some guy friends confessed to me na they liked me back in hs but were so intimated kaya hindi nanligaw (i was top of the batch, student council officer, part of the debate team, choir president, etc) so takot and hesitant sila mag approach saken. I was very tahimik though so they saw me as suplada. Even my teachers told me i look suplada though of course my very close friends would say otherwise.

When i started working i was the youngest sa office, dun ako mas naging lapitin ng lalake, then i learned to flirt back, so i guess they kind of felt reciprocated so may mga nanligaw (though may bf ako nung time na yun)

Siguro one thing to consider is your mindset. If you believe you're intimidating, then you will come off as intimidating. Magkaiba ang malakas ang dating sa intimidating. Ako i learned to be more friendly and "assertive" if you may, sabi nga ng girl friends ko bigla daw ako natuto lumandi, not landi sexually but my aura became more approachable.

And i have to agree with sacred cow, if a guy likes you, a guy likes you. If he's hesitant about it, then he doesn't like you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: dawnperiwinkle on April 09, 2014, 11:50:36 am
Sis dawnperiwinkle, i had the same experience back in hs, some guy friends confessed to me na they liked me back in hs but were so intimated kaya hindi nanligaw (i was top of the batch, student council officer, part of the debate team, choir president, etc) so takot and hesitant sila mag approach saken. I was very tahimik though so they saw me as suplada. Even my teachers told me i look suplada though of course my very close friends would say otherwise.

When i started working i was the youngest sa office, dun ako mas naging lapitin ng lalake, then i learned to flirt back, so i guess they kind of felt reciprocated so may mga nanligaw (though may bf ako nung time na yun)

Siguro one thing to consider is your mindset. If you believe you're intimidating, then you will come off as intimidating. Magkaiba ang malakas ang dating sa intimidating. Ako i learned to be more friendly and "assertive" if you may, sabi nga ng girl friends ko bigla daw ako natuto lumandi, not landi sexually but my aura became more approachable.

And i have to agree with sacred cow, if a guy likes you, a guy likes you. If he's hesitant about it, then he doesn't like you.

thanks sis simang. yun nga e. hindi ako marunong to flirt back. feeling ko isang malaking kasalanan yun. hahaha. kaya tuloy [textspeak!] rin mas napperceive akong sister or kabarkada than a girlfriend material. or maybe hindi rin ganon ka strong yung pagka like ko sa kanila kaya i don't make effort to win them over. or vice versa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on April 09, 2014, 01:47:22 pm
^ try going clubbing to work on your flirting skills, kapag comfortable ka na magflirt...do it elsewhere. hindi 'yon kasalanan lol, mas malaking kasalanan kung sasayangin mo ang kabataan mo and not to experience these things :)

kapag may nakilala ka at gusto mong guy, don't take the friends route kung iba naman talaga ang agenda mo. an honest guy-girl dating stage that failed because they were honest that they're not compatible is better than two friends pretending to be just friends but really want more from each other.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on April 09, 2014, 03:04:42 pm
^ try going clubbing to work on your flirting skills, kapag comfortable ka na magflirt...do it elsewhere. hindi 'yon kasalanan lol, mas malaking kasalanan kung sasayangin mo ang kabataan mo and not to experience these things :)

kapag may nakilala ka at gusto mong guy, don't take the friends route kung iba naman talaga ang agenda mo. an honest guy-girl dating stage that failed because they were honest that they're not compatible is better than two friends pretending to be just friends but really want more from each other.

saludo ako sa last sentence mo, sacred cow. hehe. sobrang agree ako.

anyway, ikwento ko lang ang situation ko sa mga guytalkers. pwede din syempre sumagot mga girltalkers.

may friend ako na guy na laging inaasar sa akin ng mga friends namin. we belong to one barkada. matagal na sila magfriends. ako yung newcomer sa barkada namin. bagay daw kami. nagsimula kami as friends lang talaga. eh napansin ng mga friends namin na may chemistry daw kami so inasar na kaming 2.

sinasakyan at tinatawanan lang namin yung asaran sa amin.

itong si guy naman di ko alam kung type ako o hindi. as much as possible ayaw ko mag assume hanggat wala siyang sinasabi. pero kasi minsan nagpapakita siya ng mga vague signals.

hiningi niya number ko sa harap ng mga friends namin. syempre asaran na naman sila

nung nagkasakit siya, sa akin siya nagpasama sa clinic. nagtaka lang ako bakit ako. eh ang dami-dami niyang friends. yung mga friends namin since 1st yr niya pa naging close. samantalang ako eh naging friend niya lang last semester.

nung nag inuman kaming magbabarkada, nalasing ako. pinipigilan na niya ako that time dahil lasing na ako pero di ako nakinig. nung nalasing ako, siya pa ang naghatid sa akin sa dorm. yung mga friends namin as usual inasar kami. hindi daw gentleman yung guy na yun sa kanila. 1st time daw naging gentleman sa akin. although ayaw ko naman isipin na may meaning yun. iniisip ko na lang na kaya niya ako hinatid kasi magkalapit lang dorms namin.

may ball sa school namin. siya, ako at yung mga friends ko nasa iisang table lang. may isa pa akong barkada na puro boys at ako yung girl na nasa malayong table. tinext ako nung isa kong guy friend from the other barkada na magpicture taking daw kami sa isang photobooth. so umalis ako sa table ko ng di nagpapaalam sa mga friends ko including itong si guy na love team ko. hahaha.

pagbalik ko sa table namin, itong si love team tinanong ako kung saan ako galing. sabi ko nag picture taking lang with my guy friends. tapos sabi niya kung saan-saan na lang daw ako pumupunta. nagseselos na daw siya. di ko alam kung joke ba yun o seryoso. kung joke man, di ko alam kung joke lang talaga o half-meant joke.

later on, sumayaw kaming magbabarkada. itong mga friends namin tinutulak siya papunta sa akin. magsayaw daw kami. ayun kinuha niya kamay ko at sinayaw ako. sinayaw niya ako 3 times. wala na siya ibang sinayaw kundi ako. pero yung 3 times na yun puro pilit lang from our friends. di siya yung kusang nagyaya sa akin.

twice na niya din ako niyaya sa canteen ng school namin para kumain. pero di niya libre. KKB kami. hehe.

it makes me wonder. gusto niya kaya ako o hindi? o baka sobrang matured lang niya kaya nasasakyan niya yung mga pang-aasar sa amin? tulad nga ng sabi ko kanina, ayaw ko mag assume. saka agree ako sa mga posts nyo dito na pag gusto daw ng lalaki ang isang babae, gagawa siya ng way para umamin dun sa babae.

minsan gusto ko na siya layuan. nahihiya na kasi ako. 1st time niya kasi maranasan ang asarin siya sa babae. itong si guy single since birth at never pa nanligaw ng girl. pero kasi ok kami as friends. sobrang magkasundo. ayaw ko naman mastop friendship namin dahil lang sa asaran ng iba naming friends.

sana lang tumigil na yung asaran ng mga friends namin sa aming 2. nagkakaroon na kasi kami ng awkwardness. :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on April 09, 2014, 03:25:43 pm
^lagi kong sinasabi sa girl friends ko pag nagtatanong sila if a guy likes them or not, that if a guy likes you, you don't even have to ask. if a guy likes you, you will know, it will be obvious. unless your ego is so big that you believe all guys are into you.

so i'll say the same thing to you, if this love team guy likes you, you won't be confused. i'm assuming you're still young so just enjoy the moment, and if you think he's flirting, then flirt back. that's what i did with my current partner. he was obviously flirting with me so sinasakyan ko lang. i remember this one conversation the night my partner and i met. sabi ng commong friend namin, kaya daw nya niyayaya lumabas si now-bf is para makakilala na ng future gf. sabi ko lang, what a coincidence, i'm here to meet my future bf too. it was flirty and funny (at least for him) and it worked.

but you're right, wag mag assume unless otherwise stated. so i suggest, if he doesn't treat you like a gf, then don't treat him like your bf. go out there, meet more people.

...and stop asking if this guy likes you. instead ask yourself if you like this guy. if you do, then do something about it. if not, eh di cool. friends kayo, that's it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on April 09, 2014, 04:06:26 pm
^lagi kong sinasabi sa girl friends ko pag nagtatanong sila if a guy likes them or not, that if a guy likes you, you don't even have to ask. if a guy likes you, you will know, it will be obvious. unless your ego is so big that you believe all guys are into you.

so i'll say the same thing to you, if this love team guy likes you, you won't be confused. i'm assuming you're still young so just enjoy the moment, and if you think he's flirting, then flirt back. that's what i did with my current partner. he was obviously flirting with me so sinasakyan ko lang. i remember this one conversation the night my partner and i met. sabi ng commong friend namin, kaya daw nya niyayaya lumabas si now-bf is para makakilala na ng future gf. sabi ko lang, what a coincidence, i'm here to meet my future bf too. it was flirty and funny (at least for him) and it worked.

but you're right, wag mag assume unless otherwise stated. so i suggest, if he doesn't treat you like a gf, then don't treat him like your bf. go out there, meet more people.

...and stop asking if this guy likes you. instead ask yourself if you like this guy. if you do, then do something about it. if not, eh di cool. friends kayo, that's it.

thanks, sis. when he flirts, i flirt back. open naman ako sa possibility na maging kami. why not? he is a nice guy. pero ok lang din kung hind. friends pa din kami. so i guess i'll just enjoy this friendship. sa lahat ng mga friends ko sa barkada, sa kanya lang ako nagtititwala ng sobra. i thank God i have a friend like him :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 09, 2014, 10:08:42 pm
^lagi kong sinasabi sa girl friends ko pag nagtatanong sila if a guy likes them or not, that if a guy likes you, you don't even have to ask. if a guy likes you, you will know, it will be obvious. unless your ego is so big that you believe all guys are into you.


True. 

You see a guy may like you, but not to the point of pursuing you, and maraming reasons for that.  Puedeng takot mapahiya.  Pero kung gusto ka talaga nya, he will still pursue you at di na bale mapahiya.  Another possible reason is puedeng nag aalanganin pa sya kasi puedeng maraming girls sya nagugustuhan at hindi ikaw lang. So syempre alangan naman i-pursue ka nya knowing meron pang iba na nakaka-catch ng attention nya.  Hindi pa sya ready maging exclusive to one girl. 



so i'll say the same thing to you, if this love team guy likes you, you won't be confused. i'm assuming you're still young so just enjoy the moment, and if you think he's flirting, then flirt back.


Yes, please enjoy the moment and don't get stressed over this.  Cool ka lang.

Pero I should warn you - DO NOT EXPECT.  Kung dumating, dadating rin yun.  DO NO FALL.  Fall only when you know he is sure of his feelings for you.



but you're right, wag mag assume unless otherwise stated. so i suggest, if he doesn't treat you like a gf, then don't treat him like your bf. go out there, meet more people.


I agree.  Go out with others too. Flirt with others too. You are a free girl! 
This will not only make him think really hard if he wants to pursue you, it will also divert your focus to different guys, therefore, it can prevent you from falling too hard with someone na hindi mo alam kung may totoong nararamdaman for you.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on April 09, 2014, 11:29:38 pm
^thanks sis. i'll just go with the flow. iniiwasan ko din talaga mag expect. pag nangyari yun, alam kong malaki chance na masaktan ako. i don't want to be heartbroken again.  :)
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Post by: simang on April 09, 2014, 11:31:07 pm
^do you like him? Do you want him to be your boyfriend?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on April 10, 2014, 01:26:00 am
^ Gusto ko ugali niya as a friend. Magkasundo talaga kami sa lahat. We laugh. We confide to one another. Sa kanya lang ako nagtitiwala ng sobra sa section ko. Saka dati na ako one of the boys. So di na ako nailang nung naging friends kami.

Pero yun nga open din ako sa possibility na maging kami. Mabait siya. Nandyan siya di lang sa mga panahon na masaya ako kundi sa mga panahon na malungkot ako.

Kumbaga ok lang na ligawan niya ako. Ok lang kung hindi. Tama kayo ni sis girltalker2 sa mga payo nyo. Yun na nga ginagawa ko now. Ini-enjoy ko na lang friendship namin. Nakikipagflirt din ako sa ibang mga guys. Salamat :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 10, 2014, 08:02:51 am

^ Since bata ka pa, some lesson I have learned in my love life:  Huwag mag BF nang maaga.  Sis, mukhang nag-aaral ka pa, if you can help it, huwag muna magcommit sa iisang guy.

Just enjoy your youth and your singlehood. Do not sleep with your BF, I guess easier said than done these days.  Kung noong araw nagagawa, should still be possible these days. If ever you decide to sleep with your BF, make sure you have done your research on WHY (not just because you have to or sinabi nya) and you can live with it for the rest of your life kahit hindi naging kayo.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tamera_lorraine on April 10, 2014, 08:26:26 am

Just enjoy your youth and your singlehood. Do not sleep with your BF, I guess easier said than done these days.  Kung noong araw nagagawa, should still be possible these days. If ever you decide to sleep with your BF, make sure you have done your research on WHY (not just because you have to or sinabi nya) and you can live with it for the rest of your life kahit hindi naging kayo.




Isang malaking tama... kung mahal ka talaga ng lalaki magaantay siya na maging ready ka.. :)



Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on April 10, 2014, 11:12:22 am
^ Since bata ka pa, some lesson I have learned in my love life:  Huwag mag BF nang maaga.  Sis, mukhang nag-aaral ka pa, if you can help it, huwag muna magcommit sa iisang guy.

Just enjoy your youth and your singlehood. Do not sleep with your BF, I guess easier said than done these days.  Kung noong araw nagagawa, should still be possible these days. If ever you decide to sleep with your BF, make sure you have done your research on WHY (not just because you have to or sinabi nya) and you can live with it for the rest of your life kahit hindi naging kayo.



Pareho kami nasa law school sis. Ako 5 years na single. Siya naman single since birth. Bukod sa aral, puro laro lang ng online games ang inaatupag niya. Never nga daw nagkagf o nanligaw man lang yun sabi nung mga friends namin. Pero straight siya.

Thank you sa mga payo. Huwag dapat ako mastress sa asaran ng mga friends namin. Tama nga itong ginagawa namin na sakyan ang asaran nila. Buti na lang di siya pikon. Yung ibang guys kasi asarin lang sa isang girl, nagagalit na. Hehe. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: dawnperiwinkle on April 15, 2014, 12:28:33 pm
question po. if you receive a birthday card message from your guy friend saying "I'm looking forward to be part of your future". does this mean anything?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on April 15, 2014, 04:48:44 pm
^it's never your job to decipher if it has meaning or what. It's his job to let you know if there is.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 17, 2014, 05:02:00 pm
^^ Never assume. Let the guy say it to you directly if he likes you. Just shrug it off because he's just flirting. I feel like I can relate because I've done something like this before. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: baliwsayo on April 18, 2014, 03:41:11 pm
Guys, if you already have everything, what else would your gf can give you that will make your birthday special?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 24, 2014, 03:42:01 pm
guys question.. do usually etxt your gf's ba like kung san kayo pupunta, if nakauwi na kayo, if nasa office na or anything na mga agagwin or pupuntahan nyo. is it possible ba sa mga guys na hindi man lang pinapaalam sa gf kung nasaan na sya. like magtetext lang if nakauwi an then matutulog na.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 24, 2014, 06:45:06 pm

^ Sis, hindi ako guy. pero I have been looking at your love story. Parang diskumpyado ako sa guy mo, given the limited posts you have provided.  But maybe may ibang side sya na hindi namin nababasa here.

To answer your question, generally ang guys hindi ma text. pero If they are into you, they would worry if you look for them or they would think of you kaya kahit papano ipapaalam nila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on April 24, 2014, 10:33:50 pm
guys question.. do usually etxt your gf's ba like kung san kayo pupunta, if nakauwi na kayo, if nasa office na or anything na mga agagwin or pupuntahan nyo. is it possible ba sa mga guys na hindi man lang pinapaalam sa gf kung nasaan na sya. like magtetext lang if nakauwi an then matutulog na.
Gf dapat ang nagpapaalam hindi bf.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on April 24, 2014, 10:55:51 pm
guys question.. do usually etxt your gf's ba like kung san kayo pupunta, if nakauwi na kayo, if nasa office na or anything na mga agagwin or pupuntahan nyo. is it possible ba sa mga guys na hindi man lang pinapaalam sa gf kung nasaan na sya. like magtetext lang if nakauwi an then matutulog na.

I guess depende sa tao, ako for example i dont live with my parents since i was 15, so di ako nasanay masyado na 'nagrereport' even sa partner ko, so i dont really expect him to report to me his whereabouts. if i ask, he tells me naman, and vice versa. so i guess it all depends on the person. my POV there is that texting is never a sign of loyalty/love etc etc. as long as your guy treats you right, you're probably good
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 24, 2014, 11:53:00 pm
Gf dapat ang nagpapaalam hindi bf.

Bakit obligation ng GF ipaalam pero not the guy?

if i ask, he tells me naman, and vice versa. so i guess it all depends on the person. my POV there is that texting is never a sign of loyalty/love etc etc. as long as your guy treats you right, you're probably good

But really, does one really need to ask?  Hindi naman siguro na di ba? 
Kung say may trips abroad, from when to when para maka arrange kayo ng lakad kapag nakabalik na agad ang isa.

But I do agree, sometimes it depends nga din siguro. But most importantly, either one of you should not be uneasy or hinahanap na yung partner tapos the other party naman eh dedma.






Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ann08 on April 25, 2014, 03:52:40 am
For me, kung minsan lang naman nakaka miss mag text yung guy okay lang kasi nature talaga nila
hindi mag report unless super nice at behave nila. Pero kung nadadalas yung hindi pag tetext kahit alam nyang nag woworry ka for him maybe that's the time na confront him or just tell him what you feel when he's like that.

Question, would you date or like a girl who has a low self esteem because of her imperfections? :)





Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 25, 2014, 09:32:23 am
in my case kasi hindi pala-text si bf eversince.kahti nun nanliligaw pa sya. nasanay kasi ako na 8am he'll text me na kaso yesterday 10am na di pa din nag-tetext then nalaman ko he went to the gym pala so pinagalitan ko kasi di nag-paalam sa'kin na pupunta ng gym then my reason is nasanay kasi ko na nagettext sya ng around 8am na sana naman bago sya pumunta ng gym eh nagtext muna sya sa akin na pupunta nga sya dun. then sabi nya sa'kin medyo unreasonable naman daw na dahil lang dun eh galit na galit na ko.nataon lang daw na wala syang load nun at nasa gym na sya and naisip nya na after the gym tsaka na lang sya papa-load to text me. so ako naman parang, hala, ganun ba yun? hindi man lang inisip na baka nag-aalala rin ako sa kanya..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: zarazan on April 25, 2014, 11:42:59 am
It depends kung pano kayo nagsimula. Kung sa start palang, medyo hindi na talaga matext si guy, then baka ganun lang talaga siya.  Pero pag yung habang tumatagal, dun na nagsstop yung texting, I think you can confront him about it?

Kami kasi, medyo 24/7 kami magtext eh. Ewan, siguro kasi parang bestfriend lang yung dating. I tend to text my friends the whole day too, so hindi lang siya.  Pero yung isa kong kakilala, bago lang sila matulog naguusap. Pero they seem fine naman.


I HAVE A QUESTION.

Do you guys get what ifs sa mga nambasted sa inyo? Example, nagka-gf na kayo, do you still think pano kung sinagot ka ni ganito/ganyan?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 25, 2014, 12:02:31 pm
^^
Sorry sis, but I find that kinda unreasonable din para mapagalitan like hindi lang naka-text agad. Pero like you said, nasanay ka nga na 8am eh may text ka na from him.


In our case, hindi kami pala-text like almost the whole day. May times na oo, halos buong araw kami mag-text pero may times na we'll just catch up in the evening and that's it. Hindi sya nagpapaalam like asking for permission to go but he lets me know where he's going or where he has been if he failed to let me know beforehand. And I don't confront him and I do not especially nag him kung na-late sya ng text or sabi kasi I don't want to sound too controlling, clingy, and needy. Baka masabihan pa ako na talo ko pa nanay or ex-wife nya. It's the same for me, I text just to let him know but not to ask permission.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 25, 2014, 12:11:55 pm

^^ Sis sugardrop, ito nga yung sinasabi ko regarding sa story ni sis fleur. Sis fleur, correct me if I am wrong.  You met your guy in the gym, dun kayo nag uusap at nagkakilala.  While he is making passes at you, he had a GF at that time.  Hindi kaya nag-w-worry ka now na umiikot na naman mga mata nya while he is with you?

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 25, 2014, 01:12:43 pm
^
I get your point, sis. Lemme know if I misunderstood. Possible na unconsciously or subconsciously, sis fleur is worried that he might be doing the very same thing he did with her and might be hitting on some other girl at the gym kasi that's exactly what he did sa kanya.

Possible but what happened to trust? Why not give the fellow the benefit of the doubt muna na baka nga talagang walang load and plans to text her once he's done sa gym. Like what another sis pointed out, if may sudden change after the same pattern for a long time eh maybe that's the time to ask. Nasa beginning stage pa lang sila ng relationship nila, more time to observe pa and see that pattern. Baka lang masakal kasi agad na kailangan muna mag-paalam sa lahat and baka lalong maghanap ng iba knowing na sa gym, there are lots of fish in the sea.

Edit: I have a question to sis fleur_de_liz : does he make you feel assured in your relationship? Assured in a sense na it's just you and there's no one else? Ewan ko lang pero kasi if he makes you feel assured, minsan kahit wala nang report ng whereabouts eh okay lang kasi aside sa may tiwala ka, alam mo na walang iba kahit nasaan mang lupalop sya ng Pilipinas.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on April 25, 2014, 03:11:13 pm
our relationship naman is ok, ewan ko ba bakit ako sinumpong yesterday. actually anrealize ko rin nga na hidni ko pala dapat ginawa yun eh. pero tama si girltalker isa rin sa iniisp ko is baka history repeats itself ang magign drama. hindi maaalis sa akin yun since nangyari na dati. so i guess kaya rin nag-emote ako is because of that certian reason na rin..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on April 26, 2014, 10:26:42 pm
Question...

Normal ba na a guy would ask you to go out with him for the first time tapos nung magkasama na kayo biglang sasabihin na sagot mo muna ha, i don't have cash naiwan ko pa atm? Then second time, ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha di pa kasi sahod? Third time, bago pa magkita the girl said dutch tayo ha, he said yes pero nung magkasama na ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha, dami lang prob bawi ako next time? Hahaha..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on April 26, 2014, 11:34:47 pm
^ once is enough, twice is too much hehe parang off naman sis.. Pero baka nga walang pera, pero sana wag na lang magpalibre..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on April 27, 2014, 01:03:13 am
Question...

Normal ba na a guy would ask you to go out with him for the first time tapos nung magkasama na kayo biglang sasabihin na sagot mo muna ha, i don't have cash naiwan ko pa atm? Then second time, ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha di pa kasi sahod? Third time, bago pa magkita the girl said dutch tayo ha, he said yes pero nung magkasama na ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha, dami lang prob bawi ako next time? Hahaha..

nope it's not normal. makapal lang mukha nung guy na makipagdate kung wala pala siyang pera. sana magisip na lang siya ng date na 'di kelangan gumastos
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: latte on April 27, 2014, 01:11:13 am
^^^grabe! May ganyan palang lalake! Kung sa akin yan once is enough.  I had a guy friend dati na medyo crush ko hindi naman talaga kami close pero we know each other for long na at that time, this is way back late '90's yata. Nagsabay kaming kumuha ng passport then nun kumain kami ng lunch sa KFC sabi nya kanya2 daw kmi dahil wala syang pera. Parang ako ang nahiya sa sarili ko sabi ko sa kanya ako na lang ang magbabayad, that time KFC eh 100 plus lang yata ang bill namin dalawa. Beginning then iniwasan ko na sya to the max he he he! Off talaga sa akin yung mga ganyang lalake.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on April 27, 2014, 04:00:36 am
^^^grabe! May ganyan palang lalake! Kung sa akin yan once is enough.  I had a guy friend dati na medyo crush ko hindi naman talaga kami close pero we know each other for long na at that time, this is way back late '90's yata. Nagsabay kaming kumuha ng passport then nun kumain kami ng lunch sa KFC sabi nya kanya2 daw kmi dahil wala syang pera. Parang ako ang nahiya sa sarili ko sabi ko sa kanya ako na lang ang magbabayad, that time KFC eh 100 plus lang yata ang bill namin dalawa. Beginning then iniwasan ko na sya to the max he he he! Off talaga sa akin yung mga ganyang lalake.

^ was the kfc lunch a date?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on April 27, 2014, 09:15:41 am
yeah medyo makapal nga ang mukha, i gave the benefit of the doubt na baka nga naman babawi, pero di pa rin eh, and worse nangutang pa, toinks! Hahaha.. He's a good man (i think), intelligent, may looks, kaso nakakapagduda ang intention diba? Hehe..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on April 27, 2014, 10:35:15 am
Ako ba sis jonduh? Hehe.. May work naman sya, head na nga sya sa call center na pinagtatrabahuhan nya, he was a former teacher, aspiring lawyer rin.. Kung sa babaero, yun di ko masagot, all i know is yung last relationship nya ay 2 years ago and it lasted for 4 years..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on April 27, 2014, 11:57:45 am
Oh yes sis jonduh, you're right! Taking advantage as much as he can...tsk..tsk.. na-feel ko na yun before pero di ko pinansin..haay.. I think totoo naman yung mga sinabi nya, based sa posts sa fb nya, may mga students na kinakamusta sya, friends asking kung lawyer na sya, workmates who calls him sir, ini-stalk ko kasi for awhile sa fb kasi duda nga ko sa pagkatao..hahaha..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on April 27, 2014, 03:12:11 pm
Nagsabay kaming kumuha ng passport then nun kumain kami ng lunch sa KFC sabi nya kanya2 daw kmi dahil wala syang pera.

KKB naman pala Tsaka nagkasabay lang naman kayo di naman date yun. nagpalibre ba siya sa yo? Siguro nagexpect ka na ililibre ka dahil may gusto ka. Tsaka bakit ka nagvolunteer na ikaw na magbayad eh KKB nga. Hindi ka lang nalibre na turn off ka na.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on April 27, 2014, 09:52:12 pm
^^ well maybe you two are going at as friends and not really as dates/potential partner thing
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: latte on April 29, 2014, 07:47:28 am
I know that it was not fair pero i was just honest to what i felt. Nawala ang paghanga ko sa tao na yun. Iniwasan ko sya which is wala naman masama kasi kung hindi nya naman talaga ako gusto. Pero he asked me more than once if galit ako sa kanya he he he! Syempre sabi ko hindi. Tapos yun after thrice yata of calling and texting di na sya nagtanong ulit.

I just remember now na may isa pa palang nangyari on that day kasi may problema yun birth certificate nya kaya di sya nakakuha ng passport. Galit sya and parang nag swear sya yun pala kaya din ako na turn off.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: louise1 on April 29, 2014, 10:47:52 am
yeah medyo makapal nga ang mukha, i gave the benefit of the doubt na baka nga naman babawi, pero di pa rin eh, and worse nangutang pa, toinks! Hahaha.. He's a good man (i think), intelligent, may looks, kaso nakakapagduda ang intention diba? Hehe..

I've met a guy who's like this too. at first we go dutch. Then yung mga sumunod, ako na yung nagbayad. I gave him a parker fountain pen pa nga. hahaha.. After I gave him that pen naging cold na sya. But I didnt waste my time on him. I dont text him na unless he texted me.

Oh well. i guess may mga ganun talagang lalaki na JERK and user type.
If you felt that you're being used, then stop and set boundaries and limitations.

 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on April 29, 2014, 11:16:28 am
Question...

Normal ba na a guy would ask you to go out with him for the first time tapos nung magkasama na kayo biglang sasabihin na sagot mo muna ha, i don't have cash naiwan ko pa atm? Then second time, ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha di pa kasi sahod? Third time, bago pa magkita the girl said dutch tayo ha, he said yes pero nung magkasama na ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha, dami lang prob bawi ako next time? Hahaha..

sis, buti pumayag ka pa on a 3rd date with him. bilib din ako sa tiwala mo sa kanya ah. hahaha!  :D

question lang din. if the guy is a freeloader or user-friendly and you noticed it while you are still in the dating stage (not yet officially "on"), is there a nice or not-so-mean way of ditching him on the grounds na freeloader or user-friendly sya? he can easily say kasi na maisip ka lang without him realizing na makapal na talaga mukha nya.. just curious.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 29, 2014, 01:11:09 pm
^
When I dated this guy years ago na literally freeloader, dinirecho ko sya. Kasi umuutang pambayad daw ng kuryente nila. I told him straight na maghanap sya ng trabaho at ang bata and lakas pa niya. ;D A couple of months after, he told me may work na sya and wanted to go out again. Di na ako nag-reply. Hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on April 29, 2014, 01:17:56 pm
^^ Freeloaders don't deserve a "nice" ditching. Just tell him na nakakahiya siya. Or, he's being user-friendly to enjoy the free things he can get from you since he thinks na patay na patay ka sa kanya. In my case, I always treat the girl if I like her. If not, KKB. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on April 29, 2014, 01:49:08 pm
^ thanks sa replies sis sugardrop and bro jtansanco! may point kayo. baka nga sa kapal ng face hindi makahalata unless derechahan sasabihin.  ;D ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on April 29, 2014, 08:38:09 pm
@louise, ako rin sis di ko sya tinetext, unless sya unang magtext.. kaya nga sya lagi nagyayaya..

@slickchick, hahaha..pumayag ako sis for the 3rd time kasi finally nasabi ko na we go dutch kung lalabas kami tapos sabi nya ok daw.. so all along alam ko ganon na, kaso di pa rin pala.. ang mahirap pa pag bayaran time na dun nya sasabihin na sagot ko muna kaya syempre naman pano pa ko tatanggi eh pag di ko pa binayaran eh mapapahiya rin ako let's say sa waiter ganon..buti kung pwede ibalik eh nakain na nya hahaha..  Nice question din sis ha, napaisip din ako na pano nga ba i-ditch ang mga ganon..in a nice way din sana, ayoko naman kasi na sabihin or isipin nya na mukang pera ko dahil lang hindi nya ko mailibre.. i don't need money dahil meron din ako nun haha..ang ayaw ko sayo eh mapagsamantala ka..yun gusto ko sabihin haha..

Tama naman kasi si @sacred cow, na kung walang panggastos eh di umisip nalang ng date na wala masyado gagastusin..

At umpisa pa lang sabihin na walang budget, hindi yung nilalagay ako sa on the spot at no choice situation..

@sugardrop, yung sayo sis walang work, eh ito may work kaya nakakapagtaka na walang pera.. makapal lang yata talaga mukha.. haha..

@jtansanco, kahit di nya deserve ang nice ditching eh ok pa rin siguro to be nice, atleast naging mabait at mabuti pa rin sa kanya, kunsensya na nya yun.. haha..

Kung patay na patay naman siguro ang isang girl sa isang guy na freeloader eh balewala sa girl kahit sya gumastos, no reklamo, at malamang sya pa magyaya lagi to go out..hehe..

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on April 30, 2014, 02:18:23 pm
^ my gulay sis! nakakainis naman yang ka-date mo na yan... nalagay ka pa on-the-spot. buti na lang may dala kang extra money. eh what if kulang yung dala mo, willing ba sya maghugas ng plato? hahaha! napapaisip nga ako sis ng magandang ditching dialogue na magandang sabihin sa guy na freeloader eh... baka nga kasi sa kapal ng mukha nya, ibalik pa nya sa atin na tayo lang yung mukhang pera or sobrang maisip... hahaha! :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on April 30, 2014, 09:35:00 pm
So women becomes freeloaders sa mga dates?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on April 30, 2014, 09:48:29 pm
^
Just like men, there are also women who are freeloaders. Not to be generalized, though.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on April 30, 2014, 10:09:42 pm
@slickchick, ang matindi sis yung iwan bigla at mag-isang maghugas ng pinggan hahaha! Kalurkey! Good thing I always bring extra.. Tama baka hindi tablan sa kapal at ibalik lang diba..

@argento, no naman..depende rin kasi sa arrangement..nakasanayan lang talaga na guys pay on dates specially pag guy ang nag-ask for a date, pero ngayon naman uso na rin ang dutch dating.. Ako naman kahit guy ang nag-ask I always offer to share, if tanggapin eh ok lang kung hindi naman eh ok lang din. Parang di lang talaga ok na girl lang ang gagastos unless yung girl ang nag-volunteer na sagot nya yun date..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on April 30, 2014, 11:34:50 pm
^usually men pays for the dates bihira yung hindi magbabayad. Because for us once lang di mabayaran ang date for some reason eh freeloader agad ang tawag. So the freeloader term more applies to women than men.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on April 30, 2014, 11:59:23 pm
it's more of whoever had the idea of going out, in my opinion, should pay, unless he/she made it clear na you go dutch in the first place.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 01, 2014, 06:36:04 pm
My personal take on this matter, even if it's the guy who invites me out, I would always offer to pay my share or split the bill, luckily though... I have never chanced upon a guy who would accept the offer. So, it's always the guy who pays. The only exception would be if I set ahead of time and say... let's watch this cheesy movie and I know it's not your thing, but for as long as you cooperate and watch, it's my treat.. I'll even buy you popcorn and drinks :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 01, 2014, 07:59:41 pm
Yes @argento, thrice kasi..may point si sis @jonduh, he is considered a freeloader na..

'Freeloader' applies more to women.. hindi naman siguro.. unless the girl is really taking advantage like bilmoko girl na, eh pano kung choice lang talaga ng guy na sya lagi magbayad or ayaw tumanggap ng share..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 02, 2014, 09:12:14 am
 
^usually men pays for the dates bihira yung hindi magbabayad. Because for us once lang di mabayaran ang date for some reason eh freeloader agad ang tawag. So the freeloader term more applies to women than men.

this is the reason why i prefer to go dutch especially on the first few dates. para walang masabi si guy... hahaha! sorry, may pride din ako... hahaha!   :P

it's more of whoever had the idea of going out, in my opinion, should pay, unless he/she made it clear na you go dutch in the first place.

i agree with sis simang on this, especially if the couple is on a going-steady stage. another option would be to split the bill.  :)

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on May 02, 2014, 10:30:01 am
^ It was thrice; worse, he lied. Freeloader is someone who takes as much advantage as he can with the least or preferably no cost from himself.

Sobrang type mo siguro yung guy kaya nakatatlo siya. Right.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 02, 2014, 07:29:01 pm
Hahaha ;D  Anubeyen..

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on May 02, 2014, 09:42:06 pm
Backread ka naman pag may time. Okay?

Kaw na lang magback read, may time ka pala eh
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on May 02, 2014, 09:43:05 pm
Backread ka naman pag may time. Okay?

Kaw na lang magback read, may time ka pala eh
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ann08 on May 03, 2014, 03:17:19 am
Para fair, kung na-treat ka ng meal, treat mo na naman siya later ng dessert or any token para maging fair share lang at walang masabi. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on May 03, 2014, 07:54:25 am
@ sis mischa04

Ano na nangyari? Did he ask you out again? Pumapatak ba around how much mga dates niyo?
Next time he asks you out tell him "ainaku wala pa akong pera, puro ako kasi nagbabayad sa dates natin so far. Asan na pangako mo na ikaw naman? Yung totoo na ikaw ha, hindi yung mag-oo ka ngayon tapos sabay bawi pag andyan na bill."  ;D :P
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 03, 2014, 10:02:43 am
@iwannabeasupermodel, wala na yata haha..di na kami ulit nagkakausap.. Yup he asked again pero  sinabi ko di ako pwede, busy sa work at wala akong budget, bills payment eh ako shoulder nun sa bahay..hahah,.totoo naman yung mga sinabi ko.. Akala ko nga sasabihin nya no prob at treat nya..kaso hindi eh, sige next time na lang daw pag di na daw ako busy sa work.. oh well hindi yata nakahalata na sya naman gumastos, patay malisya. Hindi ko na tinetext, pag sya naman nagtext gawa me alibi..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on May 03, 2014, 11:23:59 am
^ say it in a joking way hahahaha. but prior to those nilalandi ka naman ba niya? dumadamoobs ba? or andun lang pag kainan na?

oh well may mga ganun talagang tao. wag ka na mabitter (if bitter ka man) kasi ikaw effort mo lang din ang mawawaste tapos parang di naman niya gusto makita mo siya with his best foot forward hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 03, 2014, 11:57:07 am
Sige sis try ko mag joke hahaha.. yeah may damoobs naman, malambing and maaalahanin pa, in text or in person, saka masarap kausap..yun lang talaga ang panira sa kanya kaya na-TO ako.. At natanong ko kung normal na may ganong guy.. Di naman bitter, nanghinayang lang sis hahaha..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 03, 2014, 12:07:36 pm
Parang di naman yung pagiging freeloader ang issue dito, I think the guy is not just that into you. Aminin man ng mga guys or hindi, pag gusto nila ang babae, they want to look like superman to her. Magpapaimpress at magpapaimpress yan, nature yan ng mga lalaki eh. So if he's not making himself look good sa paningin ng girl, chances are, hindi naman nya talaga agenda ang maging boyfriend ni girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 03, 2014, 02:58:10 pm
Siguro nga sis simang... well if he's really not that into me eh di wag nya ko i-ask for a date tapos magpapalibre.. Sabihin na lang nya deretcho na hey gimik tayo libre mo ko, mas friends zone pa ang dating kung pakikipagkaibigan lang din pala  gusto nya..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 03, 2014, 03:00:11 pm
Sige sis try ko mag joke hahaha.. yeah may damoobs naman, malambing and maaalahanin pa, in text or in person, saka masarap kausap..yun lang talaga ang panira sa kanya kaya na-TO ako.. At natanong ko kung normal na may ganong guy.. Di naman bitter, nanghinayang lang sis hahaha..

Nanghihinayang ka sa inutang nya or na puede maging kayo?  lol!

Seriously, kung di man sya magbayad, tablan naman sana sya ng kahihiyan.  Next time mang invite - dapat mo talaga sabihin sa kanya na, MAY PERA KA BA PANGDATE?  AYOKO KASI NA MANLIBRE, TSAKA MARAMI KA PANG UTANG SAKIN.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 03, 2014, 03:28:00 pm
^ Mabait pa nga ang suggestion na kausapin mo pa and even give him a chance to really see what's going on by saying outright what you want to say.

BUT, if you ask me, based on the details provided... I think, it is time to put to bed the possibility na maging 'kayo'. Again, your call... Just saying that you deserve better or rather, any girl deserves better. Kasi baka matuwa ka pa rin sa kanya and suppose maging 'kayo' nga, don't tell me forever sagot mo siya? Parang not cool at all. Maraming fish in the sea sis mischa04
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 03, 2014, 03:44:21 pm
@girltalker2, pwedeng both sis? Haha..

@insanelypurpleprincess, naisip ko na rin yun sis, napakabata ko naman para maging cougar hahaha.. Try to look for another fish na lang..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 03, 2014, 04:19:30 pm
mischa04, true that. I mean, di naman kelangan na yung 'fish' sobrang daming dalang cash or credits cards, dba? At least man lang decent & man enough to be able to treat you right. Suppose he can't afford to spend so much, he has the brains to adjust your date setting so that he can treat you like a lady. Instead na dinner in a super posh hotel, eh di simple restaurant. Worst case scenario, he can go buy groceries and just prepare a home cooked meal for you both. It's all about diskarte & planning lang talaga!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on May 03, 2014, 06:25:27 pm
@insanelypurpleprincess.. exactly!  :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 04, 2014, 06:55:44 pm
Nanghihinayang ka sa inutang nya or na puede maging kayo?  lol!

Seriously, kung di man sya magbayad, tablan naman sana sya ng kahihiyan.  Next time mang invite - dapat mo talaga sabihin sa kanya na, MAY PERA KA BA PANGDATE?  AYOKO KASI NA MANLIBRE, TSAKA MARAMI KA PANG UTANG SAKIN.

hahaha! natawa ako sa suggestion ni sis Girltalker2. very straight to the point. bilib na ako sa kapal ng face ni guy kapag hindi pa nakahalata...  :D

@insane, nicely articulated! In my generation, we call them guys with GMRC

nice sis (or bro?) jonduh! GMRC = good manners and right conduct? looks like this subject has to be taught in schools again... there are a lot of people (both girls and guys) who needs schooling especially in this subject matter... hehe..  :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on May 06, 2014, 04:06:08 pm
How do i make my boyfriend notice me? whenever i wear something nice or sexy, dedma lang sya. one time, nagplunging neckline ako para lang mapansin nya or to elicit any reaction from him pero wala talaga susme.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 08, 2014, 05:35:05 am
^ Have you tried wearing mini skirt? Just continue to "show" your skin in public WITH him and he'll eventually realize you're there. ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 08, 2014, 07:47:49 am

^ Ganun ba yun?

^^ Sis, paano mo naman sya naging BF kung feeling [textspeak!] ka?  I mean kapag kulang ang attention nya sayo, you wouldn't want a guy like that to be your BF di ba?

I don't think you have to take extra efforts to get noticed.  Yes, once in a while, you may want to dress up, wear uber high heels, etc.  Pero aren't these efforts for yourself, at hindi para sa iisang tao lang na BAKA hindi ka rin mapansin? 

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 08, 2014, 12:15:40 pm
^ Nah, I was 50/50 serious and joking. I really don't know what's the actual situation. Maybe she's giving him too much attention? I guess what she can do is try to ignore his bf from time-to-time and he'll eventually realize something's wrong. There's so many ways to explain but I can't really write it all down without knowing what's happening.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 08, 2014, 08:59:04 pm
^ jtansanco: Looks like you got the time, so why don't you write it all down and let's see, you may just hit the jackpot!

@ Prinsesa Mumela: Why the sudden craving for attention?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 08, 2014, 09:16:46 pm
How do i make my boyfriend notice me? whenever i wear something nice or sexy, dedma lang sya. one time, nagplunging neckline ako para lang mapansin nya or to elicit any reaction from him pero wala talaga susme.

anong attention ba gusto mo? gusto mo ba sabihin nya verbally? or maybe baka naman yung appreciation sya is shown in a different way, let's say hotter sex or something
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 08, 2014, 10:01:06 pm
^ I certainly would rather get hotter sex as a sign of appreciation and attention as opposed to lip service. :D

@ Prinsesa Mumela: If you can provide us with more information, then it would be much better so we can accurately share our ideas on what could be happening or we could also perhaps sound off some suggestions to help you 'get the attention you need/want.'
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 08, 2014, 10:37:43 pm
^my point exactly. if i'm wearing a flattering dress my guy isn't all words. he'd be all over me and would flirt a little more than usual. and yes, the sex is always hot lol
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 09, 2014, 05:33:17 am
@purpleprincess - Nah, too busy pondering the meaning of life. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 09, 2014, 12:38:48 pm
^^ simang, *high five!* I so totally agree with you!

^ jtansanco: Yeah, yeah... I bet!!! Hope all is well!

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Prinsesa Mumela on May 09, 2014, 04:07:39 pm
@girltalker2, okay naman sya nung una, todo puri kesyo bagay sakin yung suot ko, ganda ng hair ko and the likes tas dikit ng dikit, sobrang lambing pero nung medyo tumagal na, biglang nawala eh kaya nagtataka ako hmm.

@jtsanco, i already did bro pero nada! nr lang sya. smile lang sya. ni hindi malandi yung ngiti hmp.

@insanelypurpleprincess, kasi namimiss ko yung attention na binibigay nya sakin dati  :-[ pag magkasama kami dati, he would always make me feel na ako yung pinakamaganda sa paligid, napapansin nya pag nagaayos ako, yung mga maliit na bagay lang, ganun. babaw ba? hay.

@simang, both sis kung maaari hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on May 09, 2014, 07:39:01 pm
Don't fish for attention or compliments from him. Medyo nakaka-turn off yan for a guy. No need to make papansin. It will come naturally. That may come when you least expect it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on May 10, 2014, 09:04:37 am
i agree. try to stay pretty and gorgeous because you want to feel good inside and out and because you want it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 11, 2014, 11:22:07 pm
Prinsesa Mumela, ah, I see. I won't say that it's entirely shallow to want attention from your man, but maybe, just maybe, what you expect of him is not how is able to show you that he pays attention naman. Let's say, you expect him to say it, pero for him, he doesn't say it anymore, pero he does appreciate it naman. Di naman kasi necessary na kung ano siya before eh ganun siya forever. The longer you stay together, you will realize that there will be changes. At least, he doesn't complain that you don't make an effort to fix yourself and look awesome for him. Perhaps, he has gone past appreciating your external features and has taken more time focus on how you are now as a person, inside... If it bothers you so much, you can make an effort then to make him say it or maybe you just need a change in approach. Try a new shade of lipstick or a different kind of perfume and see if it make any difference. Good luck!!!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jazzlawyer on May 13, 2014, 04:47:28 pm
Guys: do you stalk you ex gf's fb instagram or twitter account even though youre the one who initiated the break up and youre already committed? how would you feel if youve learned that the girl has already a significant other or yet got married ahead of you? just curious  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: peppermint009 on May 15, 2014, 09:19:27 am
Guys: do you stalk you ex gf's fb instagram or twitter account even though youre the one who initiated the break up and youre already committed? how would you feel if youve learned that the girl has already a significant other or yet got married ahead of you? just curious  ;D

I would if had an ex and nope, I'm not in a relationship either. I would be visiting her profile if I'm still emotionally attached meaning its either love, concern, hate et cetera pero if wala na ako pakialam sa kanya then hindi na rin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on May 15, 2014, 02:39:30 pm
Straight or curly hair?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on May 15, 2014, 03:37:54 pm
guys, do you consider being friends with your exes pa ba? as in yung tipong close like seeing them kahti you're already taken.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 17, 2014, 10:39:25 pm
Kapag ba ang girl hindi photogenic, ibig sabihin ba hindi na siya "maganda"? Ano ba mas matimbang para sa guys, maganda sa litrato o sa personal (physically)?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on May 17, 2014, 11:41:51 pm
Kapag ba ang girl hindi photogenic, ibig sabihin ba hindi na siya "maganda"? Ano ba mas matimbang para sa guys, maganda sa litrato o sa personal (physically)?

^
I'm not a guy pero here's what I think - ang makakasama naman ng lalake eh yung tao and hindi yung picture. So kung ikaw naman ang tatanungin, ano mas gusto mo - gwapo sa picture o gwapo sa totoong buhay?

It doesn't follow that a person who doesn't look good in photos doesn't look good in real life too. May nga tao lang talaga na hindi photogenic.

Pictures can be deceiving.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: kirsten10 on May 17, 2014, 11:57:20 pm
My husband cheated with his officemate, nun nahuli ko sabi lang wala na daw un they ended it up after the confrontation. That was 7 years ago na. But they are still in the same office. Walang nagresign. I asked how it ended, sabi they just stopped talking. Posible ba un? No peace of mind till now.. Long story, 2 years ago, may extra phone na nakita sa kanya and one of the few numbers there e un sa officemate nya, live number. Im not convinced its over, pero possible ba un na wala na? And would end na di na lang daw nag usap?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 18, 2014, 02:47:08 am
^ Can't say for sure but I doubt it. It's difficult to just turn off the "conversation button" especially if they work in the same office.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on May 18, 2014, 07:26:07 am
Kapag ba ang girl hindi photogenic, ibig sabihin ba hindi na siya "maganda"? Ano ba mas matimbang para sa guys, maganda sa litrato o sa personal (physically)?

May girls na hindi maganda sa pics pero maganda talaga sa personal. Syempre mas ok pag mas maganda sa personal sis. Yun iba maganda lang sa pic kasi nakafilter sabay pag sa personal medyo so so lang pala.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: kirsten10 on May 18, 2014, 11:46:51 pm
Un nga e, impossible un ganun. Lahat na lang idinahilan para di makaresign sa office na un. Thanks for your reply, sometimes we know the truth but would just need another person to tell it in your face.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: kirsten10 on May 20, 2014, 12:47:22 pm
Sexual yes. But if its just that.. Parang hindi e. Ilang instances na din un exchange of texts na may loveu miss u and sexts
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: meisaia on May 20, 2014, 02:02:59 pm
anong pakiramdam ng guys kapag tumatakas sila sa responsibility as a parent? is it really possible for them to stop feeling guilty? curious talaga ako. ???
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ann08 on May 21, 2014, 03:00:01 am
Guys, have you tried courting someone na hindi naman 'ideal girl' sa inyo or out of your 'standards' na hinahanap sa girls?

Minsan, we set standards... like in girls, niligawan ng hindi namin type but eventually we fell in love
na rin cuz nag click naman kami. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 21, 2014, 04:06:43 am
^^ Let's just some married guys, who didn't "play" when they were still single, regret or are unhappy with the situation they are at the present. I'm not sure if I'm answering the question properly but that's the answer I came up reading your post. Some of my guy friends tell me to enjoy my life as a single guy since it's different after marriage and some of them are staying married for the sake of the kid/s. Put emphasis on "some".

^ Yeah, I tried but at the end of the day, if an ideal girl comes around, I'd still prefer to court her. Let's face the facts. Men are visual predators so most guys will still go with the ones we like more. But then again, if we're happy with someone out of our standards, then it shouldn't be a problem. Guys are programmed to like women who are sometimes way above our standards.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: meisaia on May 21, 2014, 07:15:31 am
^ boss sagot ba yang isa sa tanong ko? sorry medyo nalito ako kasi medyo... hindi direct to the point ata?  :-\
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: meisaia on May 21, 2014, 07:42:20 am
sabagay hehe...

ang dami ko na kasing kilalang friends na once nalaman nilang buntis yung girl, biglang, 'ay di na pala kita mahal'. kahit na matagal na sila nung bf niya. kahit same set of friends sila at nakikita nung guy yung anak nila na dinadalaw/kinakamusta ng iba nilang friends. but the guys, kahit hi or hello or pangangamusta lang sa anak, wala.

bukod dun, nakikita ko talaga yung guys na parang masaya sa buhay nila, walang dala-dalang mabigat. posible ba talaga yung ganon? yung mangyayari yun tapos parang wala silang mafeel na remorse or guilt? or nagkukunwari lang sila?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ohcmon on May 21, 2014, 08:46:58 am
Silly question: Does haircut matter kung matytype-an niyo o hindi ang babae? ;D

I recently cut my long wavy hair to a pixie cut. I got compliments naman that it does look good on me, but some of my guy friends/colleagues say "Pero mas maganda talaga sa babae ang long hair eh".

I guess it just boils down to preference, noh?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 21, 2014, 09:37:36 am
^whatever makes you more confident is what makes your guy happy!

I also got a pixie last year, from an almost waist-length naturally wavy-curly hair. I told my bf i will be cutting my hair, he probably thought i wasn't serious about it! Di ko sinabi sa kanya when i finally did it until magkita kame, kaso when one of my girlfriends asked him "anong ginawa mo kay (insert my name here)?!!" Nagpanic sya. He called me and asked if nagpagupit nga ako. Medyo nagalit sya ng very light he thinks the long hair suits me better. Pag nakikita nya old pictures ko he'd comment "dapat kase ganito buhok mo eh (pertaining to long hair)". Siguro nasanay na din sya eventually he told me mas bagay na sa akin ang short hair kesa mahaba. He even told me wag na ko mgpahaba ng hair.

Most girls would say you look good with pixie kase aside from the look itself, girls look up to other girls who are courageous enough to do it. Sa guys kase, they don't see the courage part haha kaya they don't appreciate it that much sa simula. But again, kung keri mo naman, dun nila mas makikita na bagay sayo.

In conclusion, I have never seen a girl look bad in a pixie. :-)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 21, 2014, 12:32:12 pm
Silly question: Does haircut matter kung matytype-an niyo o hindi ang babae? ;D

I recently cut my long wavy hair to a pixie cut. I got compliments naman that it does look good on me, but some of my guy friends/colleagues say "Pero mas maganda talaga sa babae ang long hair eh".

I guess it just boils down to preference, noh?

^ Not a guy, but my guy pals usually have something to say with hair. They kind of prefer girls with long hair... They didn't say why, but I happen to be surrounded by men who love women with long hair.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on May 21, 2014, 12:54:29 pm
Silly question: Does haircut matter kung matytype-an niyo o hindi ang babae? ;D


Yes, may crush ako sa office na nagpagupit and sobrang nagiba itsura niya from being long haired. I realized na baka mas hindi ko siya mapapansin noon kung nameet ko siyang short hair na sa simula. although really pretty girls can get away with any hairstyle.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: budzwhiz on May 21, 2014, 01:09:43 pm
Mas type ng mga lalake ang long hair. Generally speaking. I know for a fact kasi witness ako jan. ;D It's just more feminine for them, or hotter even. I remember 2 years ago from (semi) long hair nagpa boy cut ako (siete?). Most of my girl friends/kakilala would say bagay ko daw, mas sophisticated tingna, etc. Pero yung mga guys, although they would say "kahit anong gupit naman bagay mo" may dagdag na "pero mas bagay mo long hair". And even those na nakilala ko palang, pag nakita nila old photos ko with long hair, sasabihin nila, "Bat ka nagpagupit!" (as if kabaliwan yung ginawa ko) Haha. My boyfie, I met him when I was still sporting my boy cut, palagi nya sinasabi noon, magpahaba ka na/gusto ko nang makita mahaba yung buhok mo. Well well, ngayong long hair na ulit ako, sya naman etong "Pagupit ka na ulit?" ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on May 21, 2014, 01:42:34 pm
my bf wants it long. pag sinasabi kong magpapagupit ako he always tell me na gawin mo na lahat sa buhok mo (dye, curl, kahit anong kulay pa daw) wag ka lang magpapaiksi. maybe because hindi rin kasi bagay sa akin ang short hair.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 21, 2014, 01:48:33 pm
my bf wants it long. pag sinasabi kong magpapagupit ako he always tell me na gawin mo na lahat sa buhok mo (dye, curl, kahit anong kulay pa daw) wag ka lang magpapaiksi. maybe because hindi rin kasi bagay sa akin ang short hair.

same with my bf.. pero dahil pasaway ako nagpagupit pa din ako. i always wanted short hair even before we got together so i still went for it. eventually he liked it na better than my long hair.

one thing i noticed though, when we're having sex, sometimes he's kind of reaching for my hair to brush it or pull it maybe or just touch it, pero awkward kase wala na sya mahawakan na hair haha

^ Not a guy, but my guy pals usually have something to say with hair. They kind of prefer girls with long hair... They didn't say why, but I happen to be surrounded by men who love women with long hair.

most guys really like it long, as naturally it's more feminine. i mean it's norm that long hair is for girls, and short ones for guys.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ARRT on May 21, 2014, 01:51:48 pm
He cheated on me twice but im still here living with him. Nilagyan ko ng tracker phone niya. Tintawagan p dn niya yung gurl. Sabi niya ayaw niya ko mawala. He needed me, sinasabi niya pag lasing siya. Perhaps im caring but boring. Wala ako sa standard niyang payat or what.. I love him.. D ko na lang pinapansin kapag tintawagan niya yung girl to go out etc. sakit lang. Tingin ko di siya titigil mambabae. Bakit kailangan nya pa ko dto.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 21, 2014, 01:56:29 pm
Silly question: Does haircut matter kung matytype-an niyo o hindi ang babae? ;D

Oooooh, I wanna answer this one. I was working in Japan and I had a crush on a co-worker. She had perm hair back then. I thought she was the prettiest girl in Japan. After a month, it went back to her original hairstyle which is shag or frat shag. It gave her a boyish look but she still looked "okay", not as pretty as what I was used to think of her. One month after, she changed her haircut to bouffant and I'm like, "What the hell is that?!" Haha. I've lost interest. ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on May 21, 2014, 02:04:41 pm
bouffant talaga? bouffant naman is too weird sa modernized world. lolz.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 21, 2014, 04:14:36 pm
Oooooh, I wanna answer this one. I was working in Japan and I had a crush on a co-worker. She had perm hair back then. I thought she was the prettiest girl in Japan. After a month, it went back to her original hairstyle which is shag or frat shag. It gave her a boyish look but she still looked "okay", not as pretty as what I was used to think of her. One month after, she changed her haircut to bouffant and I'm like, "What the hell is that?!" Haha. I've lost interest. ;D

natawa ako dito bro! hahaha! baka naman may pupuntahan lang syang 60's or retro-themed party kaya nagpaganun... hahaha!  :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 22, 2014, 06:35:07 am
That's what I thought! Japan is a whole new world. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on May 22, 2014, 07:10:28 am
Silly question: Does haircut matter kung matytype-an niyo o hindi ang babae? ;D

I recently cut my long wavy hair to a pixie cut. I got compliments naman that it does look good on me, but some of my guy friends/colleagues say "Pero mas maganda talaga sa babae ang long hair eh".

I guess it just boils down to preference, noh?

Ako mas gusto ko short hair because it makes me look much younger and less hassle. Pero whenever i tell him na gusto ko na pagupit he'll tell me na pag-isipan ko daw ng mabuting mabuti and think it over and over again. Then i think last week i was contemplating having a haircut kasi it looks lifeless and masyadong bagsak na ang sabi ba naman sa akin "bakit magkakabuhay ba pag nagpagupit ka? Pano?".  ::) ::) ::)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: hisana on May 22, 2014, 12:22:08 pm
Hairstyle, as with fashion, beauty and everything else related, is may binabagayan nga naman talaga. I know some women who look as good or even better with short hair (though admittedly not that many). They have the face and confidence to pull off this look totally -- kung pwede ko nga lang ipost ang pics nila, LOL. Syempre meron din yung mga iba na a huge part of their appeal is their long hair. I guess if you want to project femininity and sexiness, then having long hair is the easier, more obvious choice.

Just my 2 cents on the matter!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: amethyst028 on May 22, 2014, 04:11:16 pm
Ok question, so how do you move on from someone you work with everyday?

lumipat ka na lang ng work. parang ang hirap mag move on kung araw araw mo nakikita yung tao.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: VainDoll on May 22, 2014, 05:00:45 pm
^^ if stable naman work mo wag ka na lumipat. Hirap kaya humanap ng work. ;) you'll move on eventually sis! After work, go out with your friends, find time for yourself. Kaya mo yan ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 23, 2014, 12:16:18 am
if you're an atheist, would you date a girl who is the religious type?

My initial answer would have been yes but... After joining a church group and how devoted they are to God, I'd rather not.

For someone like me who does not believe in God but respects the existence of God, Buddha, Allah, or whichever god people worship, I'd rather date someone who is a bit religious but NOT really active in it. Being religious helps strengthen the bond of marriage but other than that, it feels like a cult. That's only MY opinion though.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 23, 2014, 12:18:26 am
Ok question, so how do you move on from someone you work with everyday?

That is TOUGH, especially if he/she was the one who broke up with you. Imagine, if he/she finds a gf/bf, you'll be crushed. Ask to change departments, find a new work, or get in another relationship with an officemate.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 23, 2014, 09:05:44 am
My initial answer would have been yes but... After joining a church group and how devoted they are to God, I'd rather not.

For someone like me who does not believe in God but respects the existence of God, Buddha, Allah, or whichever god people worship, I'd rather date someone who is a bit religious but NOT really active in it. Being religious helps strengthen the bond of marriage but other than that, it feels like a cult. That's only MY opinion though.

Boils down to compatibility.  Sometimes kasi I see na yung so-called atheist eh nahahawa sa pagkareligous nung partner.  Some cases lang naman.

Pero for me, since I am a Catholic, I would probably go for a devout Catholic.  Pero parang di ko kaya kung Muslim sya or another religion na devout talaga (no offense meant). Mahirap kasi magspend ng special occasions together.  Mas ideal if you can celebrate the meaning of Christmas together, weddings, and other special occasions.

 



Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on May 23, 2014, 11:20:20 am
may type na girl si guy at sinubukan nya ilibre si girl. pero nag insist sa kkb si girl. pwede bang sign yun na hindi interesado si girl kay guy?

before I took it as a sign na hindi interested, pero these days as long as sumasama sa'yo si girl and she's making out with you..I couldn't care less kahit siya pa manlibre :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Reassesiren on May 23, 2014, 02:46:05 pm
my guy friend umuwi sya from other country and sinama nya ko sa dinner at lakad nila ng family nya. hindi ko alam kung anong motibo nya. nakakatuwa lang kasi sobrang bait ng family nya sakin
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: budzwhiz on May 23, 2014, 07:07:56 pm
may type na girl si guy at sinubukan nya ilibre si girl. pero nag insist sa kkb si girl. pwede bang sign yun na hindi interesado si girl kay guy?

May mga babaeng ayaw lang talaga magpalibre, esp if it's their first time lumabas nung guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 23, 2014, 11:19:33 pm
before I took it as a sign na hindi interested, pero these days as long as sumasama sa'yo si girl and she's making out with you..I couldn't care less kahit siya pa manlibre :)

story of my life
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jazzlawyer on May 23, 2014, 11:54:19 pm
may type na girl si guy at sinubukan nya ilibre si girl. pero nag insist sa kkb si girl. pwede bang sign yun na hindi interesado si girl kay guy?

dati nung single pa ko (lol) I always insist on giving my share pag nasa date ako. Because kahit type na type ko si guy, i dont want them to think that im a freeloader. its also one way of telling them that i could t ake care of myself.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 25, 2014, 06:31:35 pm
How do guys express their feelings to a girl? Lagi bang may "texting rule" (like ka nia pag text ng text)???
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on May 25, 2014, 06:50:46 pm
^
Base it on both their verbal and non-verbal communication. Text is just one of the many ways to express that they like you or testing the waters, or that you're just one of their many options.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 25, 2014, 07:00:30 pm
^nahihirapan ako idetermine if mutual ang attraction eh. Super gentleman kasi siya sa lahat ng kaibigan niya and I think I am starting to like him more. How do I stop myself ba? feel ko ako talo dito eh kasi feel ko di naman talaga siya interested sakin. Ni hindi nga nagtetext eh :( Patulong naman!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Chinito on May 25, 2014, 08:53:58 pm
^nahihirapan ako idetermine if mutual ang attraction eh. Super gentleman kasi siya sa lahat ng kaibigan niya and I think I am starting to like him more. How do I stop myself ba? feel ko ako talo dito eh kasi feel ko di naman talaga siya interested sakin. Ni hindi nga nagtetext eh :( Patulong naman!

Hi-

You already got the answer yourself, sabi mo gentleman naman siya sa lahat ng kaibigan niya. So if you cant see any difference in his treatment to you compare to his colleagues then might as well he's just playing nice. ako din ganyan din ako sa mga friends ko but i have no intentions to court or flirt with them. but if i like the girl, i started to get weird and i had a hard time expressing my motive.
to answer your question.
first thing to look out is how does he act whenever you're around. If you smell weirdness , aloofness or sometimes hyper activity on his toes then its a good sign that he's trying to get notice or should i say trying to capture your attention.. and if you found out that he's really not interested in you; it's perfectly fine! it's not the end of the world my dear.. just go on, be yourself and don't dwell too much on it, create your own world where you can be more productive and happy, sooner you'll get notice by someone worthy and maybe someone better than him.. don't sell yourself short din live and get your standards.
stay away from negative creatures and dont ever let anyone knows that you are hopelessly attracted to him. else you'll ruin your composure and end up being a funny loser meerkat. ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 26, 2014, 11:13:31 am
^ thank you sa advice! Actually, I didn't notice that he was being nice to me in a "special" way until a common colleague of ours told me that we had sort of "spark" whenever we talk to each other. From then, I started to notice things. I'm afraid i am merely being mislead, and i am overreading things. how do I stop? i kinda know now that he's not into me. Hello, he doesn't even send a single text message when we do not meet for days. :( Do I still continue "flirting" with him? Or just treat him as an "ordinary friend"?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 26, 2014, 12:58:43 pm
^depends. Do you like the guy? Show him you're interested if you do like him. If hindi mo naman sya gusto and is just basing things on that 'spark' na ibang tao pa ang nakapansin, eh di just let it go.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on May 26, 2014, 02:08:33 pm
Question: Paano ba ipaparamdam sa guy na gusto ko siya ng hindi ako nagmumukhang easy-to-get? Possible ba yun?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 26, 2014, 02:12:59 pm
^ SAME QUESTION
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Chinito on May 26, 2014, 05:41:14 pm
Question: Paano ba ipaparamdam sa guy na gusto ko siya ng hindi ako nagmumukhang easy-to-get? Possible ba yun?

Cat and string theory.. ;)  try mong mag care in a minimal way then minsan barubalin mo. hurt his ego then praise him in some way.. get's mo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jellibean on May 26, 2014, 08:32:44 pm
what are the chances (if there's any) that a guy would break up with his girlfriend to be with another girl?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on May 26, 2014, 10:52:01 pm
@chinito

thanks. ganyan nga ginagawa ko sa isang guy na close ko. yun nga lang feeling ko iisipin niya napaka-inconsistent ko. hehe. pero mas ok na lang siguro yun kaysa isipin niya easy ako.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Chinito on May 27, 2014, 04:58:57 am
what are the chances (if there's any) that a guy would break up with his girlfriend to be with another girl?

a lot of chances and possibilities.. ;D  it is possible for him to fell out of love with you and have an instantly fatal attraction with someone with super landi power.. or he could simple get fed up with your style.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 27, 2014, 09:31:37 am
what are the chances (if there's any) that a guy would break up with his girlfriend to be with another girl?

Ummmm.... A friend of mine did that 2 months ago.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 27, 2014, 09:34:50 am
Question: Paano ba ipaparamdam sa guy na gusto ko siya ng hindi ako nagmumukhang easy-to-get? Possible ba yun?

The question is, type ka ba niya? If he likes you, no problem na yan. You can do whatever you want with him because he will keep on chasing you regardless of what you do. If he doesn't like you, please don't try.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 27, 2014, 12:33:43 pm
^pamo kung si guy ay torpe type, pano ba usually nageexpress ng "like" ang ganitong type?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 27, 2014, 01:16:48 pm
^girltalker here, but based on my experience no guy is torpe if he really liked you. He will let you know clearly in one way or another. If his being torpe is bigger than letting his feelings for you show, then he doesn't like you enough to actually make a move. One day, you will realize that if a guy really really likes you, you won't be confused. And he will swallow his katorpehan to let you know that
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 27, 2014, 01:37:52 pm
^ you have a freaking good point! so what if a birl likes a torpe guy, and the guy is being so torpe about it, what should the girl do? should she stop pursuing the guy altogether??
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on May 27, 2014, 02:15:05 pm
The question is, type ka ba niya? If he likes you, no problem na yan. You can do whatever you want with him because he will keep on chasing you regardless of what you do. If he doesn't like you, please don't try.

malabo siya eh. minsan may mga signs na type niya ako. minsan wala. i do notice some changes in his behavior. kuripot siya at mahilig magpalibre sa mga girls. yung mga girls na close niya na matataba aasarin niya na lechon, baboy o dugong. pero never niya ginawa sa akin yun. never nagkuripot at nagpalibre sa akin. kahit medyo mataba din ako, never niya ako inasar sa weight ko. sabi nga ng isang common friend namin mukhang may special treatment daw ako pagdating sa kanya.

pero mahirap pa din mag assume na type niya ako. hindi nga nagtetext o tumatawag pag di kami magkasama.

salamat sa advice. i guess di pa panahon para iparamdam sa kanya na type ko siya hanggat siya mismo malabo pa kumilos.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 27, 2014, 02:35:12 pm
^omg same situation tyo!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 27, 2014, 02:41:51 pm
a lot of chances and possibilities.. ;D  it is possible for him to fell out of love with you and have an instantly fatal attraction with someone with super landi power.. or he could simple get fed up with your style.

follow up question on this bro. in your opinion (as a guy), how should we ladies, keep the "sparks going/burning" to prevent our guys from being fatally attracted to women with super landi powers? TIA!  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 27, 2014, 03:08:59 pm
^pwede ako sumagot? Haha ako i think the best way to keep the spark is to just enjoy the moment -- avoid drama don't be praning and make him feel appreciated all the time

Another thing is to NOT change a thing about yourself. Remember, he was attracted to you for a reason. If he liked you for being carefree, be that. If he liked you for being prim, be prim. If he liked you for being smart, then be smart.

Lastly, have a life outside of the relationship. Go out with your friends, do your job well, do things that are your own.

And, be the woman minus the hormones. What I mean is, be sexy, be nurturing, be flirtatious,  be emotional, but don't be dramatic.

:)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 27, 2014, 03:36:16 pm
^ haha! thanks sis sa tips. took note of them.   ;)  follow up question lang sis. sorry to ask, when you say "avoid the drama", what does "drama" (in the context of relationships) exactly mean? eto ba yung tipong bawal umiyak kahit gigil na gigil ka na sa inis or lungkot? or is it yung being too malambing or sweet, bordering na on clingy? and how do you differentiate na being emotional and being dramatic? sorry dami tanong.. hehe! TIA!  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on May 27, 2014, 04:28:49 pm
^omg same situation tyo!

pansin ko nga sis. hehe. hay. good luck sa ating buhay pag-ibig. sana di tayo maging luhaan sa huli.

ginagawa ko advice sa akin ni chinito. cat and string theory. try mo din.

yun nga lang ayaw ko din ibigay lahat ng effort ko. di rin naman kasi ako sure kung type nga ako nung guy. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 27, 2014, 05:08:35 pm
^ haha! thanks sis sa tips. took note of them.   ;)  follow up question lang sis. sorry to ask, when you say "avoid the drama", what does "drama" (in the context of relationships) exactly mean? eto ba yung tipong bawal umiyak kahit gigil na gigil ka na sa inis or lungkot? or is it yung being too malambing or sweet, bordering na on clingy? and how do you differentiate na being emotional and being dramatic? sorry dami tanong.. hehe! TIA!  :)

how do i avoid drama.. haha i have no exact answer but i have one thing -- i choose to be happy everyday. not just within the relationship but with everything in my life in general. i think positive and happy thoughts so i feel good everytime. so a simple "he didn't text me good morning" will never ever make me feel bad.

also, what i mean by being emotional but not dramatic is that you're allowed to feel things -- happy things, sad things, crazy things, you can feel them all. but i never make a big deal out of them. simply put, i don't sweat the small stuff. you can be sad, you're entitled to feel however you feel, but if you think about being sad too much, you will be much sadder.

on being clingy -- ahhh, i hate clingy. guy hates clingy. one can be sweet and expressive and not be clingy. that's why i keep a life of my own outside the relationship. i want him to be with me, but i don't need him to be with me all the time, because hey, i have other things going on in my life. but, he being with me is very much appreciated.

so far, that's what has worked for me. true enough, after more than a year of dating, i still feel like nililigawan ako everytime, heck, mas nagiging sweet pa nga sya habang tumatagal.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Chinito on May 27, 2014, 05:16:17 pm
follow up question on this bro. in your opinion (as a guy), how should we ladies, keep the "sparks going/burning" to prevent our guys from being fatally attracted to women with super landi powers? TIA!  :)

actually simang got it figured..
it's true na madalas sa isang relationship may strong at meron din weak. the weak one always have to give in, always the one to understand, patient and delivers most of the effort.. and lastly she/he is the first one to worry about losing the relationship.. and sana hindi ikaw to. :)
Btw, regarding sa  question mo about how to keep the spark? it is subjective. depende din yan sa gravity ng love niyo sa isa't isa at sa pinagsamahan. typically some of the couples i met. they just simply do things exciting. they play, they tease, they travel a lot, they spent time together telling stories, they share dreams and plans, they fight, they laugh, they do anything most children do. in other words, it's random and spontaneous. you cannot feel the sparks if it is unnatural or unauthentic.. one must ignite it and the other should be reactive.. and sa larangan ng pag ibig it should be a never ending exploration and learning. if you do the same thing you usually do everything will stay the same. routinary is equals to boredom and boredom is equals to unsatisfactory then if not satisfied, it'll lead you to explore and look for something exciting and then you'll linger and might develop a new world.

There were times din na adjusted na masyado yung isang party kaya medyo na lihis na sya sa orig niyang personality kaya medyo nag coconflict na sa partner. if this happen, try to look back. assess yourself from then a now and see what are the qualities he like/loves about you. then maybe bringing the older you will simply bring the spark back. minsan kasi sa sobrang love natin, nababago na tayo ng partner naten in almost all aspect. try not to be weak. ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 27, 2014, 06:00:04 pm
sis simang and bro Chinito thanks soooo much for sharing your thoughts. i really appreciate it.  i almost did a copy-paste of your replies and have them printed to remember them always.  :) :) i'm about to "answer" this guy, and it will surely help to keep those pointers in mind. thanks again!  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 27, 2014, 10:41:01 pm
^ thank you sa advice! Actually, I didn't notice that he was being nice to me in a "special" way until a common colleague of ours told me that we had sort of "spark" whenever we talk to each other. From then, I started to notice things. I'm afraid i am merely being mislead, and i am overreading things. how do I stop? i kinda know now that he's not into me. Hello, he doesn't even send a single text message when we do not meet for days. :( Do I still continue "flirting" with him? Or just treat him as an "ordinary friend"?

Girl ako, pero will just comment anong gagawin ko if I am in that situation.

Just stop. Look for some other diversion and some other crush.

Flirting? No
Treat him as an ordinary friend? Yes


Question: Paano ba ipaparamdam sa guy na gusto ko siya ng hindi ako nagmumukhang easy-to-get? Possible ba yun?

Bakit mo gusto ipaalam sa guy na gusto mo sya?


follow up question on this bro. in your opinion (as a guy), how should we ladies, keep the "sparks going/burning" to prevent our guys from being fatally attracted to women with super landi powers? TIA!  :)

Ever since naniniwala ako, kahit anong acrobatics ang gawin mo, kung natapat na player ang BF mo or hindi ka sinisiryoso, nothing is gonna keep him away from other girls. 

Nasa sa lalaki iyan, kahit paligiran pa sya ng mga super landi na mga babae.  If he cares and values  your relationship, hindi sya papatol sa ibang babae - malandi man o hindi.

As for the GF, I guess just focus on building and nurturing your relationship.  Tsaka in the first place, bago mo sya naging BF, dapat talaga may chemistry/compatibility kayo, may common interests, good communication, romance, etc etc. To my mind, iyan lang ang ilan sa mga things that can keep the spark there in the relationship.









Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: young_maiden on May 27, 2014, 10:44:22 pm
^ sis, naisip ko lang kasi nakakasawa na yung lagi ako nagtatago ng feelings. tuwing may crush ako sa isang guy, laging patago. naiingit ako sa mga girls na kayang kaya umamin sa mga crushes nila. pero kasi takot din ako mareject. :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 27, 2014, 10:54:08 pm

^ Bata ka pa siguro  :)

Ya, that's how it goes usually. May 1 crush ka na lagi mong inaabangan kung dumaan, kausapin ka etc. I remember my HS days.  ;D

But seriously, when I started dating, I learned recently kasi na better NOT to let the guy know na patay na patay ka sa kanya.  If he is interested, it is enough to reciprocate na interested ka rin to get to know him. That's all. At least IMHO.

Mga lalaki kasi once alam nila may gusto ka sa kanila, especially kung hindi mo naman sya kaano ano, tendency is they can take advantage eh. Ayaw mo naman siguro ito mangyari. So for me, better not let the guy know.  Tapos minsan nangyari sakin na I liked a guy, but yung guy eh minsan nawawala wala.  We went out for a few dates.  Kaso pag ni ha ni ho wala, dyosko nakakainis pero wala naman akong magawa, di naman ako puede magalit at naka-date ko lang naman sya, di naman ako GF. Ang ginawa ko, I looked for other dates, other crushes.  Nothing serious. Para lang malibang ako. And true indeed, nawala ang attention ko sa guy nayun.  Hanggang umabot sa point sya na ang text ng text, calling me once in a while to ask me out or minsan email pa since di ko nanga sinasagot ang text nya or calls.  Hanggang sa nagka BF nako, at naiirita narin si BF nung nalaman nyang tumatawag itong guy na ito. Buti nga sa kanya. Yabang nya dati eh!

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: iamABreal on May 28, 2014, 02:44:22 am
Question :)
pag nagcheat ba dati ang guy sa dati nyang partner posible nya din yun gawin sa partner nya ngayon?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 28, 2014, 05:29:12 am
^ Of course, it's definitely possible. If he has done it before, then he can do it again when he wants to.

@ohiawase/young maiden - Enjoy niyo nalang yung special treatment! Just don't show the guy that you like him if you're not sure if he likes you. You will not like what will happen if you do. Let the guy tell you he likes you. If he's torpe, then he should learn to be more confident. Is he willing to give you up to other men? You're the prize that every man should go after. Not the other way around (why the hell am I saying this when I'm a guy... Haha)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: pinkmallowpie on May 28, 2014, 09:55:43 am
you finally got the number of this girl you like. but when you started texting, wala kang kilig na naramdaman. what does it mean?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 28, 2014, 10:08:07 am
^ hello, thank you sa replies!!! So basically, I should not show him that I like him too much? But I'm afraid that if I treat him as an ordinary friend, supposing he does like me even a little, that "like" will disappear. :( But I get your point, guys! I, too, don't want to look pathetic! He is too busy with his life to even send a single message or anything. :( Game plan ko now is to look good everyday, have a positive attitude, focus on my work, my other friends... :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 28, 2014, 10:15:39 am
you finally got the number of this girl you like. but when you started texting, wala kang kilig na naramdaman. what does it mean?

Hello, i'm a girl but here's my 2 cents. Kaya ka hindi kinikilig kasi baka may certain expectations ka na hindi niya na-meet based sa text messages niya. Inaasahan mo bang cheesy siya sa'yo tapos hindi naman pala? And sa akin, 'di naman talaga dapat basehan ang text messages. There are people who express themselves better in person than in text... :) when you see her next time and you feel kilig pa din, alam na. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 28, 2014, 11:01:26 am
^^ You're happy with the feeling that you have now, right? It's an obvious yes (because you asked the question earlier). Now, if you show him that you like him, it's either he likes you too or he doesn't. So, if he likes you, let's fast forward to happily ever after. BUT, if he doesn't like you, you'll have the worst feeling of your life. Chances are 50/50. You want to gamble your current state of happiness just to show that you like him? It's up to you, girl. 8)

you finally got the number of this girl you like. but when you started texting, wala kang kilig na naramdaman. what does it mean?

Okay, I'm a guy. I got the number of a girl I like but I don't feel any kilig factor. If that was me, it's probably because she:
1 - Doesn't text properly (bkt gn2 [textspeak!] mgtxt?)
2 - Doesn't share common interests
3 - Takes too long to reply
4 - Replies without asking questions about me? (It's all about her, her, and Kris Aquino)
5 - No sense to talk to
6 - Etc.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 28, 2014, 11:34:56 am
@jtansanco, if you were me, would you gamble?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on May 28, 2014, 12:48:53 pm
1 - Doesn't text properly (bkt gn2 [textspeak!] mgtxt?)
2 - Doesn't share common interests
3 - Takes too long to reply
4 - Replies without asking questions about me? (It's all about her, her, and Kris Aquino)
5 - No sense to talk to
6 - Etc.

Agree, lalo na yung magtetext lang pag tinext mo isang tanong isang sagot pa. Kahit maganda pa yung girl waste of time lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 28, 2014, 01:10:33 pm
@jtansanco, if you were me, would you gamble?

Judging as myself. If I were you, I "know" that I will lose the gamble but I will still do it. Again, it's up to you. If you enjoy what's happening at the moment, then cherish it while you still can. Because once you make a wrong move, the kilig you feel now will turn into many sleepless nights if it goes the wrong way. But if not, then what? If you like him and he likes you, does that mean kayo na? Wala man lang flirting or courtship? Ang corny naman. Haha joke.

You can decide your own path. Don't let someone decide it for you. That's the beauty of life. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 28, 2014, 01:58:26 pm
Question :)
pag nagcheat ba dati ang guy sa dati nyang partner posible nya din yun gawin sa partner nya ngayon?

Definitely possible, but it doesn't mean that a person who cheated will forever and ever be a cheater. People can change. In the same way, people with no history of cheating will possibly cheat in the long run. Bottom line, it always boils down to decision making.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 28, 2014, 04:07:53 pm
^^ You're happy with the feeling that you have now, right? It's an obvious yes (because you asked the question earlier). Now, if you show him that you like him, it's either he likes you too or he doesn't. So, if he likes you, let's fast forward to happily ever after.

Not necessarily happily ever after.  You see, you cannot be fixated na magiging BF mo na ang taong like mo at like ka nya. What if kapag magkasama na kayo, walang chemistry?  Turn off kasi wrong grammar or bad breath?  ;D  Masama ugali?  etc etc

What if you like him more than he likes you?  or Kapag "medyo" like ka lang nya, puede ka nyang gawing GF momentarily. Tendency the guy can eventually get bored and move on especially kung alam nyang nag-aantay ka lang for him. 


@jtansanco, if you were me, would you gamble?

Sorry, di ako si jtansaco.  ;D

Pero girl, if I were you, hindi ko igagamble. Kasi what's the point of letting him know?  Para lang madagdagan ang ego nya?  Para ikaw ang hahabol at ikaw ang manliligaw?  Do you want that?  You like him, pero how sure are you he deserves your attention?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 28, 2014, 08:04:55 pm
@girltalker2, hindi naman ako magcoconfess sa kaniya. Ang balak ko, more of mag"papansin" sa kaniya but not in an annoying way. It's more of, self-improvement. Kialangan maaliwalas ako everyday and all para pag nakita niya ako (and di ko alam kung kailan yun since different department kami), mapansin naman niya ako....tama ba balak ko??
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 29, 2014, 12:13:17 am
^^ BOW  ;D

@girltalker2, hindi naman ako magcoconfess sa kaniya. Ang balak ko, more of mag"papansin" sa kaniya but not in an annoying way. It's more of, self-improvement. Kialangan maaliwalas ako everyday and all para pag nakita niya ako (and di ko alam kung kailan yun since different department kami), mapansin naman niya ako....tama ba balak ko??

I think you're more fixated of him "wanting" to chase you than him being your boyfriend. Yeah, just go for it. Shouldn't be a problem.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 29, 2014, 06:54:19 am
@girltalker2, hindi naman ako magcoconfess sa kaniya. Ang balak ko, more of mag"papansin" sa kaniya but not in an annoying way. It's more of, self-improvement. Kialangan maaliwalas ako everyday and all para pag nakita niya ako (and di ko alam kung kailan yun since different department kami), mapansin naman niya ako....tama ba balak ko??

Sabi nga ni jtansaco it's your call.  ;D  Bata ka pa naman, you can afford mistakes. Kung sa itatahimik mo, kesa pag gurangers ka na tsaka mo iyan maisip.  ;D

I always think na kailangan maaliwalas ka everyday for yourself, not for anyone else.



Heto mga guys - is it normal for a guy to ask a girl sa movie kung wala syang intentions? 

Lagi ko sinasabi na kung single ang isang girl, it is a waste of time para aksayahan ang isang tao with mixed signals.  Kaso kapag committed na ang girl, she should have no time for this mixed signals.  Ang problem lang, kung babae ka, kapag nag assume ka, sasabihin ng guy, feelingera ka naman.  Kung hindi ka naman mag assume, they will take advantage of the situation para masabi nakasama ka nya sa movies, pero in fact, wala naman meaning iyon.

Nagulat lang ako when a colleague (nothing going on talaga, as in all professional) suddenly asked let's watch a movie.  Sakin akin lang, ok ka lang?  You are married, I have a BF. It is not right to go to movies with anyone sa opposite gender.  Period.  Or masyadong ko namang binibigyan iyan ng meaning at ang mind set ko kasi makaluma pa.  Iba na ba these days?  My position currently, di ko na kinausap at natakot nako. Nanghihinayang pa naman ako sa professional relationship namin as HR director sya ng company, and kagalang galang pa naman sya supposedly.










Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 29, 2014, 07:13:08 am
^ To make it more awkward, my answer will be NO. If I ask a girl out for a movie, she should be my type. If not, I won't even bother asking her at all.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 29, 2014, 10:34:13 am
^true. otherwise, it'll send mixed signals talaga.

Anyway, on my end, I'm moving on. what happens, happens. thanks sa advice, guys!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 29, 2014, 03:24:05 pm
sisses and bros, i've been comforting this officemate since yesterday about her "problem".

her "problem" - she has been with her bf for a couple of months now (6 or 7 months), and up to now, ayaw daw magpalit ng FB status ng boyfriend nya. this issue daw has been causing them some fights and arguments.

on my end kasi, it is not really a big deal kung magpalit kami ng bf ko ng FB status, as long as we know where the relationship stands and that we trust each other enough. i am not sure if ako lang ba ang may ganitong mindset, and or sa panahon ngayon, dapat talaga up-to-date ang social media accounts natin to reflect our true relationship status. any insights?? TIA!  :)

P.S. sorry to ask din. baka naman kasi ako ang may outdated na mindset at may enough reason si officemate to go berserk.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on May 29, 2014, 06:06:16 pm
me as well, i dont change my status sa FB, it's not really a big deal. masyado naman immature kung dahil lang sa FB status eh magaaway na..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on May 29, 2014, 06:37:03 pm
i agree. immature. para bang for show lang yung relationship nila. XD
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on May 29, 2014, 11:29:56 pm
I don't really care about relationship status on fb. Fighting about that, I find too trivial. There's more to a relationship than a facebook status.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 30, 2014, 01:19:51 am
If FB status is already a cause for a fight, what more if something serious happens? It's a relationship bound to fail.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 30, 2014, 01:55:55 am
If FB status is already a cause for a fight, what more if something serious happens? It's a relationship bound to fail.

ditto
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 30, 2014, 07:22:04 am


her "problem" - she has been with her bf for a couple of months now (6 or 7 months), and up to now, ayaw daw magpalit ng FB status ng boyfriend nya. this issue daw has been causing them some fights and arguments.


There could be a reason behind her requesting for this. Malamang ang dami nyang nakikita sa FB ni BF na nilalandian parin si BF. At mukhang nag eenjoy naman BF nya.  Mukhang kahit i-change ng BF nya ang status sa FB, hindi parin nya mababago ang situation. 


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on May 30, 2014, 11:54:34 am
thanks so much sa insights mga sis and bros. at least we're on the same page on this - na hindi naman big issue yung FB status.

sis girltalker, i asked officemate this morning (yes.. i'm still comforting her till now...) kung meron ba syang nakikita sa FB ni bf na kaduda-duda. she showed me her bf's FB page, and mukhang ang ikinapa-praning nya is yung fact na may mga comments kay bf nya na bakit hindi pa maghanap ng gf or wife material (the guy is is in his late 20's-early 30's, officemate is in mid-20's) and deadma lang si bf sa mga ganung comments, parang hindi daw sya dini-defend or sinasabi man lang na meron naman... wala naman ako nakita na pics ng mga girls na nakaakbay or pulupot sa bf nya. there are some pics with some female friends, pero i don't think may malisya dun kasi parang officemates lang din ng guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Berynice on May 30, 2014, 09:10:15 pm
A non-experienced girl or still V in her 28. Some says kawawa daw, but you, what would you think?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on May 30, 2014, 11:21:50 pm
^kawawa in what sense?

I was inexperienced til i was 25, never felt kawawa, i never any different anyway. Experiencing sex should be a choice. And for a virgin, i can say that the most important part of the first time is who you do it with.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 31, 2014, 06:15:16 am
A non-experienced girl or still V in her 28. Some says kawawa daw, but you, what would you think?

^ Doesn't matter. Giving your virginity to the man you will marry could probably be the best gift a girl can give to her man.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on May 31, 2014, 01:37:19 pm
^ I don't get the question...
Do I want to marry a virgin? Why not? Virgin or not, it doesn't matter.
Don't I engage in premarital sex in hopes to marry a virgin? No, I don't live in a conservative world.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on May 31, 2014, 02:17:15 pm
A non-experienced girl or still V in her 28. Some says kawawa daw, but you, what would you think?

I'll either think she's a prude or nobody wants to sleep with her
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 31, 2014, 02:31:36 pm
A non-experienced girl or still V in her 28. Some says kawawa daw, but you, what would you think?

I am thinking along the lines for my son, in case he would get married. And honestly, as a mom, it does not matter.  What matters to me though is how a girl decides when to get intimate and not yet with a guy.

Almost 2 decades ago, hindi pa uso iyan.  I was a virgin bride. Kaso it is not a guarantee of happy marriage. 

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on May 31, 2014, 11:54:53 pm
How much of a big deal is it for men to have actual dates for milestones in a relationship, e.g. having an actual monthsary / anniversary date?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 01, 2014, 12:36:03 am
I think depende 'to sa guy, in my case, hindi siya ganun ka big deal pero ako yung mas nakaka keep track samin ng milestones like kung gaano na katagal nagdadate, date kung kelan nagmeet etc. etc.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: bonita111809 on June 01, 2014, 07:22:08 am
Question :)
pag nagcheat ba dati ang guy sa dati nyang partner posible nya din yun gawin sa partner nya ngayon?

possible, but not likely. depende sa sitwasyon. my husband cheated on her ex gf with me. pero ang pinagkaiba kase nun walang sexual involvement. I went out of the affair 1 month palang kame kase I realized na may babaeng masasaktan. he chose me, and wala pang month silang naghihiwalay nung ex gf nya nagpakasal agad yung babae. turns out she cheated on him first. 5 years na kame ng hubby ko pero awa ng dyos, wala kameng nagiging problema about cheating issues. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on June 01, 2014, 11:29:49 am
How much of a big deal is it for men to have actual dates for milestones in a relationship, e.g. having an actual monthsary / anniversary date?

For most men, I don't think it's that much of a big deal as it is for most women.

We don't have a monthsarry and I don't even know when our anniv is. But sa kanya ako nagka-idea how long we've been together. And he's the one who remembers when we first met, our first date, how long he claims I made him wait to have a date with me, and heck, he even remembers my period. ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on June 01, 2014, 01:50:13 pm
^ Looks like men (as a general rule) don't mind or think about it as much. But when you come across someone who's like that... like the way your guy is... makes me think that he is indeed someone rare and special :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 02, 2014, 10:53:17 am
my bf doesnt greet me happy monthsary every month but good thing alam nya kung kelan ko sya sinagot.. so ok na ko dun..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on June 02, 2014, 10:54:11 pm
Monthsaries are nonsense   ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 02, 2014, 11:44:19 pm
For most men, I don't think it's that much of a big deal as it is for most women.

We don't have a monthsarry and I don't even know when our anniv is. But sa kanya ako nagka-idea how long we've been together. And he's the one who remembers when we first met, our first date, how long he claims I made him wait to have a date with me, and heck, he even remembers my period. ;D

so nice to hear such love stories.

he is so into you girl!   ;)



^ Looks like men (as a general rule) don't mind or think about it as much. But when you come across someone who's like that... like the way your guy is... makes me think that he is indeed someone rare and special :)

rare specie.



Monthsaries are nonsense   ;D

haha, nakakatawa naman pagkasabi mo.   

Actually, I never have celebrated any monthary in my entire life.  When I heard of it dati, nung BF/GF palang kami ng naging asawa ko, sabi ko sige next month. And then the following month, nakalimutan ko.  Then by the time naisip ko, tapos na. After several incidents na lagi kong nakakalimutan, I just dropped the whole idea.  ;D





Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 03, 2014, 10:27:42 am
for guys wala naman kasi talaga yang monthsaries na yan..mga girls lang ang masyadong clingy sa mga ganyan.. before i was like that but ngayon narealize ko those monthsaries are like for jeje's.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 03, 2014, 10:34:40 am
^^not naman for jeje's siguro, but more for teenagers who think na hindi sila aabutin ng years together kaya they had to celebrate it monthly haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 03, 2014, 12:37:09 pm
^^not naman for jeje's siguro, but more for teenagers who think na hindi sila aabutin ng years together kaya they had to celebrate it monthly haha

mas malupit to.. hehe
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 03, 2014, 12:57:13 pm
For most men, I don't think it's that much of a big deal as it is for most women.

We don't have a monthsarry and I don't even know when our anniv is. But sa kanya ako nagka-idea how long we've been together. And he's the one who remembers when we first met, our first date, how long he claims I made him wait to have a date with me, and heck, he even remembers my period. ;D

di din namin thing ang anniv, pero sya din nagpaalala saken kung kelan kame nagkakilala, and from there we called it kilalaversary haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 03, 2014, 05:10:07 pm
kami rin we dont greet each other happy monthsary pero natutuwa ako pag sinasabi nya sa akin yung mga lock code nya sa phone, locker and laptop is 0320 which is our anniv so meaning important pa rin sa kanya yung date na yun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on June 04, 2014, 08:58:09 am
^^ Natuwa naman ako sa 'kilalaversary' na yan. Ingenious!!!
^ Yikes! For as long as di naman naka broadcast sa world ang 0320, okay lang. Pero scary din kasi ang bilis lang ma figure out ng codes. I'm just so praning with security kasi.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 04, 2014, 09:17:55 am
hindi naman siguro alam ng ibang tao yun passcode nya sis.sa dami ng combination ang hirap naman malaman nyang 0320 na yan.. lol
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 04, 2014, 10:49:38 am
^keep your anonimity na lang sis kase you just broadcasted the passcode we're not sure baka may nakakakilala sayo dito or matrack ka using your ISP or something. I suggest to remove the numbers na lang for you and your bf's privacy and safety
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 04, 2014, 02:29:18 pm
it's ok sis.. sa locker key nya lang naman yun sa office.. di naman nila alam kung san sya nagwowork. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: t_r_i_s_h on June 04, 2014, 07:00:20 pm
^ sweet naman pero sis tell him to change narin malay mo meron may kilala sainyo dito heheh
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 05, 2014, 09:12:15 am
if a guy say " will you marry me" pero jokingly does he mean it? coz yesterday when im talking to my bf we were teasing at each other kasi he's out of town so i tld him i miss him na then suddenly bigla sya nagsabi na "babe, will you marry me?" then i ask him "are you serious" then he said yes then sabi ko usap na lang tayo pag balik mo ng Manila.
mahilig aksi syang magsabi ng "will yu marry me" then ako naman i always tell him na pagplanuhan natin yan, hindi basta basta yan" what do you think, serious naman kaya sya or alam nya kasing hindi ako basta basta pumapayag kaya lagi nyang sinasabi yun dahil alam nyang hindi naman ako papayag agad.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 05, 2014, 09:17:39 am
^ baka half meant, bf mo yan dapat alam mo kung kelan siya totally serious :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 05, 2014, 09:34:57 am
^^girls these days di na uubra sa kanila yung saktong will you marry me lang. Proposals nowadays may bago ng standards, pag seryosong nagsabi na lang ng "pakasal na tayo" feeling nila biro lang.

So yeah you have to talk to him about that when he comes back
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 05, 2014, 09:58:52 am
kelangan ba bongga or mega propose talaga si BF? like yung mga napapanood natin sa TV? or ok na yung while you guys are talking to each other eh bigla na lang nya sasabihin na "will you marry me"
guys, do you prepare ba on how will you propose sa mga gf's nyo or ok an yung yayain nyo na lang basta basta na pakasal na kayo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 05, 2014, 12:28:47 pm
^exactly my point, kelangan ba bongga for you to consider na seryoso sya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on June 05, 2014, 12:48:00 pm
^^ What does he know about you and your stand when it comes to proposals? Kasi if say you have set something and di pa na achiever, so malamang baka di pa serious. Pero again, things can change. It's a big leap, so this has to be clear cut talaga! In my case kasi, alam ng guy ko na I am hoping to get an engagement ring - kasi alam niya na lahat ng women in my family, for all generations na inabutan ko eh talagang may engagement ring, kaya he knows that I will make a big deal out of it!

******

Speaking of proposals, not sure also if this question has been asked before, GuyTalkers, how important is it for you to have a ring on hand when you propose to a girl?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: t_r_i_s_h on June 05, 2014, 06:27:30 pm
For me a simple proposal will do, pero syempre pag pinagplanuhan dagdag points yun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on June 06, 2014, 01:59:59 pm
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what do you think, serious naman kaya sya or alam nya kasing hindi ako basta basta pumapayag kaya lagi nyang sinasabi yun dahil alam nyang hindi naman ako papayag agad.

I think serious bf mo. Ikaw lang may ayaw.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 06, 2014, 02:23:15 pm
ganun? para kasing madalas nya sabihin sa'kin na "will you mary me" then sasabihin ko lang "yes, but we need to plan for it" then attawa na lang sya so im not sure kung he mean it ba talaga or he's not serious.

sa mga guys, is proposal important for you ba talaga? kelangan ba ipagsigawan nyo sa mga madlang people na you're proposing to your gf's?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on June 06, 2014, 07:25:53 pm
Yung bf ko din for 11 years lagi akong tinatanong pero feeling ko hindi sya serious kaya deadma lang ako, tapos sinisisi nya ako pag sinasabi kong dika naman seryoso ano? Jinojoke mo lang ako. Pero minsan napapagod na ako sa tanong nyang yan
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 06, 2014, 07:28:05 pm
^bakit di nyo pag usapan ng maayos? bakit feeling mo nagjojoke lang sya? some girls it's a joke pag walang ring, kapag hindi 'for the books'. malay mo seryoso sya. oh well you'll never know kase you think he's just kidding. whatever you're thinking, that's your reality
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on June 06, 2014, 09:02:49 pm
^sa nararamdaman ko kasi sis if talagang seryoso sya eh may mga follow up sya sa akin after nya magtanong, hindi yung pag sinabi ko na nagjojoke ka lang naman eh, tatawa lang sya tapos sasagutin nya ako ng may paninisi na wag ko daw sya sisihin na pagdating ng araw na ganub mangyari kasi di ako pumayag na pa joke din ang pagkakasabi. Lol
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on June 06, 2014, 10:39:29 pm
Hello, how do you move on from unrequited love?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 06, 2014, 11:01:00 pm
^ to get over someone, get under someone else - karen roe OTH
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jazzlawyer on June 06, 2014, 11:09:42 pm
... And he's the one who remembers when we first met, our first date, how long he claims I made him wait to have a date with me, and heck, he even remembers my period. ;D

I really think guys NEED to remember our period haha!!!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on June 07, 2014, 01:24:52 am
? kelangan ba ipagsigawan nyo sa mga madlang people na you're proposing to your gf's?

Hindi kailangan. Bakit pa ipapaalam sa iba ang proposal. Kaartehan lang yun. gusto ng attention sa ibang tao.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on June 07, 2014, 07:56:16 am
^
I agree with this. For me, it should be a very personal and intimate thing. Ayaw ko ng may kung ano anong cheverloo in public. While it would seem nice to a lot of women, what if the girl isn't ready talaga but couldn't say no because the guy might be embarrassed in public. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 07, 2014, 08:17:33 am
^apir! We're thinking of the same thing about saying no :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 07, 2014, 08:43:37 am
^bakit di nyo pag usapan ng maayos? bakit feeling mo nagjojoke lang sya? some girls it's a joke pag walang ring, kapag hindi 'for the books'. malay mo seryoso sya. oh well you'll never know kase you think he's just kidding. whatever you're thinking, that's your reality

I agree. Things like these kelangan pinag uusapan ninyo as a couple nang siryosohan.  If he would just joke around for a decade, baka wala nga syang balls to marry you.  He is just treating it as a joke para ma comfort ka.

I am wary about men like this who cannot even communicate what they want.  If they do not know what they want or cannot even communicate it with their partners, kelangan mag isip isip na ng babae.  These men seems to have a mind/communication skills of a 12 year old. Gusto mo ba ikasal sa isang taong ganyan?  Di pa nga kayo nag uumpisa, ganyan na sya. What more later in life.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on June 07, 2014, 12:53:11 pm
Yun na nga walang balls ang term or siguro kasi mas matanda ako sa kanya at ako ang laging nagdedesisyon majority sa mga pangyayari sa buhay namin. Pero maliban doon eh napaka caring, maalaga at supportive naman ang jowa ko kaso ako lagi ang may say sa lahat ng bagay... Minsan napapaisip nga rin ako.
Nung minsan sinabi ko sa kanya ang gusto kong wedding ay parang kay megan fox, yung 3 lang sila sa island, the bride groom and the priest, tapos ayoko ng prenup picture, parang nakita ko nalungkot yung mata nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 07, 2014, 01:18:30 pm
I agree. Things like these kelangan pinag uusapan ninyo as a couple nang siryosohan.  If he would just joke around for a decade, baka wala nga syang balls to marry you.  He is just treating it as a joke para ma comfort ka.

I am wary about men like this who cannot even communicate want they want.  If they do not know what they want or cannot even communicate it with their partners, kelangan mag isip isip na ng babae.  These men seems to have a mind/communication skills of a 12 year old. Gusto mo ba ikasal sa isang taong ganyan?  Di pa nga kayo nag uumpisa, ganyan na sya. What more later in life.

Yeah, communication talaga is very important.. and aside from the guy who can't communicate his actual thoughts, si sis Pink_Sugar din I think has to improve her skill on that matter. Guys normally don't talk about these things (marriage, family, etc) kase a good man will want to make sure that everything is laid down bago nila gawin yan. Even nga pagsasabi ng i love you, they're not so big at that kase it's a big thing for them. So the fact that the bf is open to these topics of conversation, then maybe he's thinking about it really. Pero kung ako nga naman si guy, at everytime magtatry ako sabihin eh babarahin ako ng nagjojoke ka lang naman, I won't feel good about it. Kaya some guys are pressured nowadays to propose with a ring and a mob and a hidden camera eh, kase nga most girls, di umuubra sa kanila yung simpleng usapan lang lalo na these days. Kaya yung iba, maybe, hindi na lang nila tinatanong ulit or inoopen ang topic pero who knows, at the back of their minds baka gusto talaga nila ng marriage with you. Again, you'll never know that unless both of you become open minded with the idea and communicate effectively.

Yun na nga walang balls ang term or siguro kasi mas matanda ako sa kanya at ako ang laging nagdedesisyon majority sa mga pangyayari sa buhay namin. Pero maliban doon eh napaka caring, maalaga at supportive naman ang jowa ko kaso ako lagi ang may say sa lahat ng bagay... Minsan napapaisip nga rin ako.
Nung minsan sinabi ko sa kanya ang gusto kong wedding ay parang kay megan fox, yung 3 lang sila sa island, the bride groom and the priest, tapos ayoko ng prenup picture, parang nakita ko nalungkot yung mata nya.

Have you even asked him ano ang dream wedding nya, or at least anong gusto nyang mangyare pag kinasal kayo? Baka nalungkot sya kase he knows he can't give you your dream wedding? Isa pa yan eh, guys get pressured to give their girls her dream wedding. Kaya takot silang magpakasal. I know you know that what's more important is the life after the ceremony, right? If I were you, I'd focus on that. Yun ang sasabihin ko sa kanya. How i want our married lives to be. The details of the wedding ceremony should not be on your worry list even.

11 years together? To be honest I don't believe in long term relationships unless sobrang bata nyo nagsimula, kase a guy who wants to marry you will at least have that feeling right away. Don't tell me na nag-iipon pa, or pinaghahandaan pa. Kung talagang nag-iipon, I think at least dapat clear sa inyo yung pinag iipunan nyo, like meron talagang naka-alot for the 'wedding', specific dapat.

Anyway, too much unsolicited advice. Must stop now. Teehee
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 07, 2014, 01:34:58 pm
^ parang may pinaghuhugutan ah...just kidding :))
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on June 07, 2014, 01:43:22 pm
^which part? haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 07, 2014, 02:30:13 pm
^ ay sorry, yung kay girltalker tinutukoy ko where she said

I am wary about men like this who cannot even communicate want they want.  If they do not know what they want or cannot even communicate it with their partners, kelangan mag isip isip na ng babae.  These men seems to have a mind/communication skills of a 12 year old.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on June 07, 2014, 03:40:39 pm
^
I think our sister is talking from experience but I somehow agree with her as communication is essential in any kind of relationship. But then again, not all men are expressive.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 07, 2014, 04:35:06 pm
i agree with sugardrop. with my bf kasi 5 months pa lang kami then last night he brought up the topic of somethign like "will you marry me?" then ako naman, "huh? are you serious" (kasi nga bago pa lang kami) 'then sabi nya "oo naman pero ikaw kasi sabi mo we need to plan about it pa so sige let's plan about it" then ayun so sabi ko baka nga nagbibiro lang kasi biglang kumabig eh.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 07, 2014, 05:52:15 pm
^ parang may pinaghuhugutan ah...just kidding :))

ako ba? haha akala ko si sis simang eh.

Di ko naman personally na experience. Pero naalala ko naman dati siryoso naman yung BF ko magpropose, 3x pa nga. Pero, as you know, the marriage did not last.  And now, I am extra careful with guys who cannot even express themselves. Wala akong oras sa kanila since hindi na naman ako bata.

It is only in my recent dating days na narealize ko sobrang importante talaga ng communication sa mag-asawa.  I think I missed on that when I was married.  My ex hubby is already not a good communicator. Moreso ako rin. Kaya sa pagpili ng mapapangasawa, mas  malaki ang chances na magiging successful ang marriage ninyo once both of you have that skill.
Communication is not only saying it effectively (note effectively such that ang dating sa partner mo is the message you want to convey) but also listening (knowing when ka magi-introduce ng topic, knowing if the topic is sensitive or not, timing, etc).

Like sa case ni sis ms_teryosa, minsan mahirap itimpla yung recent example mo na 5 months palang kayo, so parang nagugulat ka at di mo sure kung serious yung guy.  If the guy is good in communicating, somehow maaga palang nag uumpisa na sya ng mga topics about marriage. What do you think about it, etc.  Sabi nga ni sis simang, knowing what you want and what your partner wants. Swak ba?  Para pag nagsalita yung isa ng will you marry me - walang pagdudududa if he/she is serious. But sis ms_teryosa, I might be wrong din kasi ikaw lang naman makakaalam sa situation ninyo whether madalas kayo mag usap about marriage, etc.










Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 07, 2014, 09:41:06 pm
valid naman mga sinabi niyo, minsan din kaming mga guys malabo ring kausap hindi lang mga girls :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on June 08, 2014, 12:12:57 am
^
I agree with this. For me, it should be a very personal and intimate thing. Ayaw ko ng may kung ano anong cheverloo in public. While it would seem nice to a lot of women, what if the girl isn't ready talaga but couldn't say no because the guy might be embarrassed in public. :)

And I just had to comment on this one. "Been there, done that!" Minsan naman, the girl says "yes, yes, yes, I will marry you with tears in her eyes." So, it's in a public setting so there are tons of witnesses, so talk of the town. So, just in case di matuloy ang wedding (sh*t happens!) then double talk of the town. So, personally, I like intimate proposals :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: wangwang on June 08, 2014, 09:27:04 am
nakigaya lang ba ang mga pinoy sa banyaga,patungkol sa 'public proposal'?  OT
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: t_r_i_s_h on June 08, 2014, 09:33:43 am
valid naman mga sinabi niyo, minsan din kaming mga guys malabo ring kausap hindi lang mga girls :)

I so agree! hahaha there are guys na masabi lang eh yung pa-kilig lang or para kahit pano maisip mo na "oMG he really loves me" akala kasi minsan ng iba basta basta naniniwala yung babae.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on June 08, 2014, 02:35:15 pm
Nung minsan sinabi ko sa kanya ang gusto kong wedding ay parang kay megan fox, yung 3 lang sila sa island, the bride groom and the priest, tapos ayoko ng prenup picture, parang nakita ko nalungkot yung mata nya.

Malulungkot talaga yun. Maghahanap pa siya ng island eh  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on June 08, 2014, 06:14:32 pm
^hahaha!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on June 09, 2014, 09:53:48 am
nakigaya lang ba ang mga pinoy sa banyaga,patungkol sa 'public proposal'?  OT

The "power" of social media. Kung ano ang "in" or whatever the current trend is, that's what people usually follow.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ms_teryosa on June 10, 2014, 09:31:09 am
ok..tama nga naman. wag magmadali.. lol..

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on June 15, 2014, 03:14:51 pm
^ Very, very possible. Well, for me at least since having the same wavelength to sustain a conversation is very much a big thing for me!!!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on June 16, 2014, 01:45:05 am
^ That's just how men are programmed to talk to each other. Share their fantasies and stuff. At the end of the day, it's still the girl that matters. How well you take care of your stuff down there or how good it looks, bonus na lang yun. I'm sure you girls do the same when you talk about a guy when you see a "bulge" in his pants.

is it possible not to develop romantic feelings for a girl that you like and enjoy having long conversations with?

Yeah, that's possible. I may like you but it doesn't necessarily mean I will love you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: ohcmon on June 16, 2014, 10:07:13 am
I was kinda seeing this guy late last year tapos napag-usapan namin na pag umabot kami ng 6 months na steady, we'll commit. Turns out he just got out of an engagement (na hindi naman issue sa'kin) but he didn't give me an explanation whatsoevs. Tinabangan ako, so I backed off.

Last weekend, he wanted to patch things up with me dahil alam niya daw na may atraso siya sa'kin. Said ngayon lang daw siya naging ready to explain sa'kin dahil ngayon niya lang masasabi na nakamove on na talaga siya, at hindi naman daw siya mag-eeffort nang ganun after all this time kung hindi niya talaga 'ko gusto.

Can his intentions really be pure? Nagdadalawang-isip ako, tapos parang 'di ko na siya gusto. I mean, on paper he looks good, as in instructor sa UP and pursuing grad studies in Ateneo, pero parang may something off eh...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on June 16, 2014, 12:05:23 pm
^^ Don't be limited because of the "6 months to be steady" arrangements you had with him. You can always just start over with him and see how it goes. No need to commit. You can still date him but still keep your options open. If his intentions are pure, he'll be patient until you're ready.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: bonita111809 on June 17, 2014, 06:11:09 pm

seriously, ganun ba talaga sa lalaki? hahaha! just asking, kasi mukang type ako ng officemate ko.. lagi syang nagtatnong kung okay lang ako, kung kumain na ko, bakit ang putla ko, bakit ako ngiti ng ngiti yung mga ganun samantalang sa ibang girls sa work hindi sya ganun. at nafifeel ko yun na parang may something sya sa kin, hindi ako nag-aassume base lang yun sa mga observations ko at isa pa may bf na ako and alam yun ng lahat. just sharing :)

let me answer this question MissVeket kahit babae ako. hindi lahat ng lalake ganyan. may lalaking showy, meron ding mahiyain. now kung type ka ng lalake, madaling makita yun. pero ang tanong, anong pakay nya? kase pwedeng type ka nyang maka-sex lang o di kaya type ka nyang maging jowa kasi may nakita syang maganda sayo. although it's a given fact that a man would look at the physical attributes first at pwedeng down south ang unang pakay nya sayo. you have to read the signs very carefully.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 18, 2014, 01:03:16 am

seriously, ganun ba talaga sa lalaki? hahaha! just asking, kasi mukang type ako ng officemate ko.. lagi syang nagtatnong kung okay lang ako, kung kumain na ko, bakit ang putla ko, bakit ako ngiti ng ngiti yung mga ganun samantalang sa ibang girls sa work hindi sya ganun. at nafifeel ko yun na parang may something sya sa kin, hindi ako nag-aassume base lang yun sa mga observations ko at isa pa may bf na ako and alam yun ng lahat. just sharing :)

iba iba naman mga guys, how I react kapag tinutukso sa isang girl might not be the same with other guys. The only surefire way to know if a guy really likes you or at least wants to have sex with you is if he asks you to go out with him otherwise puro assumption lang pwede mong gawin
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on June 18, 2014, 03:09:23 pm
question: ano ang pinaka-ayaw nyong guys sa ugali ng girl? is it true ba na ayaw na ayaw daw talaga ng guys ang girl na nagger?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: bonita111809 on June 18, 2014, 06:38:12 pm
question: ano ang pinaka-ayaw nyong guys sa ugali ng girl? is it true ba na ayaw na ayaw daw talaga ng guys ang girl na nagger?

yep.. that is a big no no. wag din sila huhubaran ng pagkalalake. ayaw din nila ng hinihigpitan. pag naging tamang hinala naman si babae at umabot sa point na kinakalkal nya phone ni lalake, ayaw din nila nun. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on June 18, 2014, 11:42:01 pm
question: ano ang pinaka-ayaw nyong guys sa ugali ng girl? is it true ba na ayaw na ayaw daw talaga ng guys ang girl na nagger?

I hate it when you expect/assume us to know what's on your mind when something's wrong, tapos ayaw nyo pa sabihin kasi gusto niyo alam na dapat namin kung ano kasalanan namin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: amethyst028 on June 19, 2014, 08:44:57 am
i don't know kung natanong na ito.

pag type niyo yung girl do you tend to ignore her. i mean you get shy around her kaya mas kakausapin niyo yung ibang girls na hindi niyo type. and is it ok if the girl is the first one to say "hi" let's say sa office or sa class room where you see each other a lot pero hindi kayo formally magkaka kilala.

also if a pretty girl (your type) is friendly, ma chika, down to earth, accommodating, binibigyan niyo ba yun ng meaning yun? do you automatically assume na type niya kayo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: fleur_de_liz on June 19, 2014, 10:41:43 am
new thread na tayo..


http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,284445.0.html
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: insanelypurpleprincess on June 21, 2014, 09:08:45 pm
I hate it when you expect/assume us to know what's on your mind when something's wrong, tapos ayaw nyo pa sabihin kasi gusto niyo alam na dapat namin kung ano kasalanan namin.

^ I think this applies not only to men hating it about women, but also goes the other way. There are also men who expect a girl to know what is on their mind.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: happilytaken2 on July 04, 2014, 09:23:47 pm
question lang guys. my boyfriend doesn't like going to church or hear mass. he'd rather play video games. sapilitan pa pag niyaya ko siya. is this normal sa mga guys?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: simang on July 04, 2014, 09:47:35 pm
^yung mga ganyan bagay mahirap iimpose sa ibang tao. You don't just tell another to go hear mass with you if to begin with di talaga sya sanay na nagsisimba. Depende yan sa kinalakihan, nakasanayan, at beliefs and values ng isang tao.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: happilytaken2 on July 04, 2014, 09:54:05 pm
^ I suppose you're right sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: jtansanco on July 05, 2014, 09:02:41 am
question lang guys. my boyfriend doesn't like going to church or hear mass. he'd rather play video games. sapilitan pa pag niyaya ko siya. is this normal sa mga guys?

That's probably because he didn't grow up going to church. He's the same as me. My parents never brought me to church so I grew up thinking that going to church on a Sunday is a waste of time/not important. A friend of mine is so devoted that she "begged" me to go to church but I declined her request since I just do not see any benefit from it. I could say my faith/religion is my weakest attribute. That could be the same for him.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sugardrop on July 05, 2014, 11:25:54 am
Don't "sapilitan sa pagyaya" your boyfriend. Let it come from him. This might cause aways in the future. If that's not much of a big deal for you, let it go. If it is, then think.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: slickchick on July 07, 2014, 08:09:44 pm
question lang guys. my boyfriend doesn't like going to church or hear mass. he'd rather play video games. sapilitan pa pag niyaya ko siya. is this normal sa mga guys?

personally sis, i think it would be better if kusa sya sasama syo.. on his own free will..  mahirap yung pinipilit, especially when it comes to faith or religion.. it might breed resentment on his part, and he might think your imposing things on him. just my two cents worth ah..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: happilytaken2 on July 07, 2014, 08:23:29 pm
Thank you very much sissies. I stopped asking him to hear mass na.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: Pink_Sugar on July 24, 2014, 08:18:57 am
Ayaw ni boyfie ng nagger. Pero okay lang sa kanya na kalkalin ko phone nya kahit nabuko ko na may ka text sya, tinanong ko sya kung nagagalit ba sya kasi nabuksan ko cp (ito ay after ng magkabati na kami kasi sampiga talaga inabot nya sa akin), sabi nya okay lang naman na buksan ko kasi kasalanan naman daw nya kung bakit ako maduda.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: mischa04 on September 07, 2014, 02:27:17 pm
Do you guys play mind games with your girl friends? Why?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on September 08, 2014, 12:49:16 am
^ sometimes. kasi minsan may gusto kang message na iparating na mas maiintindihan ng babae kapag subtext ang gamit mo
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: sacred cow on September 10, 2014, 12:03:06 am
^ bakla na tawag dun, hindi na guy. babae lang yung ganun..hahaha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: t_r_i_s_h on September 10, 2014, 11:05:14 am
^ hahahahha oo nga or more like inarte!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: telekikay on September 18, 2014, 11:27:59 pm
question: ano ang pinaka-ayaw nyong guys sa ugali ng girl? is it true ba na ayaw na ayaw daw talaga ng guys ang girl na nagger?

gusto din namin yan. para may rason kami maglasing at umuwi ng late.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: telekikay on September 18, 2014, 11:30:54 pm
^ I think this applies not only to men hating it about women, but also goes the other way. There are also men who expect a girl to know what is on their mind.
I hate it when you expect/assume us to know what's on your mind when something's wrong, tapos ayaw nyo pa sabihin kasi gusto niyo alam na dapat namin kung ano kasalanan namin.

eto pinaka ayaw ko na sinasagot kapag tinanong ang babae kung may problema (obviously meron dahil sa behavior) ang isasagot lang eh malutong na "basta!" hindi kami si jojo acuin para manghula hehe
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tisaygirl123 on September 29, 2014, 02:51:33 pm
gusto din namin yan. para may rason kami maglasing at umuwi ng late.

Gawa gawa [textspeak!] ng dahilan and drama drama para nasa babae yung blame?
lol
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: telekikay on October 01, 2014, 01:56:19 pm
^hindi naman. para mabawasan o mawala lang yun guilt. lolz!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: tisaygirl123 on October 01, 2014, 02:22:22 pm
Agh. yun pala ang dahilan.
btw guilt saan?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: telekikay on October 01, 2014, 03:04:48 pm
^guilt of playing fire with other people, other than your partner...lolz!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on February 08, 2018, 10:07:29 pm
Hi guytalkers! How do you get guys notice you?

So I am interested in this guy but the problems are, he is 10 years older, and is my senior (hierarchy in our company). So when I talk to him I always say sir, po, opo. Not to mention I am youngest in our department.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on February 10, 2018, 10:36:42 pm
Not a guy but yeah that kinda happened to me too. Turns out, he was just trying to get over his ex/browsing for alternatives. So after I iced him off (saying I was busy etc) I found out he and another girl had become an item. There you go.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on February 12, 2018, 12:47:49 am
Hi guytalkers! How do you get guys notice you?

depende sa looks kung, ikaw ay kapansin pansin.

Everyday, mag i start day namin ng morning greeting, maghapon kame magkadaldalan, hindi kame nauubusan ng pag uusapan, til gabi, with goodnight greetings. 6 mos na kameng ganito

nakakausap pa kaya niya ka live in niya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: oshiawase on February 15, 2018, 09:06:17 pm
depende sa looks kung, ikaw ay kapansin pansin.


Anong particular look ba ang kapansin-pansin? Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)
Post by: argento on February 16, 2018, 10:18:46 pm
^yung GRO look hehe  ;D