Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[iamABreal]

Question
pag nagcheat ba dati ang guy sa dati nyang partner posible nya din yun gawin sa partner nya ngayon?

[jtansanco]

^ Of course, it's definitely possible. If he has done it before, then he can do it again when he wants to.

@ohiawase/young maiden - Enjoy niyo nalang yung special treatment! Just don't show the guy that you like him if you're not sure if he likes you. You will not like what will happen if you do. Let the guy tell you he likes you. If he's torpe, then he should learn to be more confident. Is he willing to give you up to other men? You're the prize that every man should go after. Not the other way around (why the hell am I saying this when I'm a guy... Haha)

[pinkmallowpie]

you finally got the number of this girl you like. but when you started texting, wala kang kilig na naramdaman. what does it mean?

[oshiawase]

^ hello, thank you sa replies!!! So basically, I should not show him that I like him too much? But I'm afraid that if I treat him as an ordinary friend, supposing he does like me even a little, that "like" will disappear. But I get your point, guys! I, too, don't want to look pathetic! He is too busy with his life to even send a single message or anything. Game plan ko now is to look good everyday, have a positive attitude, focus on my work, my other friends...

[oshiawase]

you finally got the number of this girl you like. but when you started texting, wala kang kilig na naramdaman. what does it mean?

Hello, i'm a girl but here's my 2 cents. Kaya ka hindi kinikilig kasi baka may certain expectations ka na hindi niya na-meet based sa text messages niya. Inaasahan mo bang cheesy siya sa'yo tapos hindi naman pala? And sa akin, 'di naman talaga dapat basehan ang text messages. There are people who express themselves better in person than in text... when you see her next time and you feel kilig pa din, alam na.

[jtansanco]

^^ You're happy with the feeling that you have now, right? It's an obvious yes (because you asked the question earlier). Now, if you show him that you like him, it's either he likes you too or he doesn't. So, if he likes you, let's fast forward to happily ever after. BUT, if he doesn't like you, you'll have the worst feeling of your life. Chances are 50/50. You want to gamble your current state of happiness just to show that you like him? It's up to you, girl.

you finally got the number of this girl you like. but when you started texting, wala kang kilig na naramdaman. what does it mean?

Okay, I'm a guy. I got the number of a girl I like but I don't feel any kilig factor. If that was me, it's probably because she:
1 - Doesn't text properly (bkt gn2 [textspeak!] mgtxt?)
2 - Doesn't share common interests
3 - Takes too long to reply
4 - Replies without asking questions about me? (It's all about her, her, and Kris Aquino)
5 - No sense to talk to
6 - Etc.

[oshiawase]

@jtansanco, if you were me, would you gamble?

[argento]

1 - Doesn't text properly (bkt gn2 [textspeak!] mgtxt?)
2 - Doesn't share common interests
3 - Takes too long to reply
4 - Replies without asking questions about me? (It's all about her, her, and Kris Aquino)
5 - No sense to talk to
6 - Etc.

Agree, lalo na yung magtetext lang pag tinext mo isang tanong isang sagot pa. Kahit maganda pa yung girl waste of time lang.

[jtansanco]

@jtansanco, if you were me, would you gamble?

Judging as myself. If I were you, I "know" that I will lose the gamble but I will still do it. Again, it's up to you. If you enjoy what's happening at the moment, then cherish it while you still can. Because once you make a wrong move, the kilig you feel now will turn into many sleepless nights if it goes the wrong way. But if not, then what? If you like him and he likes you, does that mean kayo na? Wala man lang flirting or courtship? Ang corny naman. Haha joke.

You can decide your own path. Don't let someone decide it for you. That's the beauty of life.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

Question
pag nagcheat ba dati ang guy sa dati nyang partner posible nya din yun gawin sa partner nya ngayon?

Definitely possible, but it doesn't mean that a person who cheated will forever and ever be a cheater. People can change. In the same way, people with no history of cheating will possibly cheat in the long run. Bottom line, it always boils down to decision making.

[Girltalker2]

^^ You're happy with the feeling that you have now, right? It's an obvious yes (because you asked the question earlier). Now, if you show him that you like him, it's either he likes you too or he doesn't. So, if he likes you, let's fast forward to happily ever after.

Not necessarily happily ever after.  You see, you cannot be fixated na magiging BF mo na ang taong like mo at like ka nya. What if kapag magkasama na kayo, walang chemistry?  Turn off kasi wrong grammar or bad breath?    Masama ugali?  etc etc

What if you like him more than he likes you?  or Kapag "medyo" like ka lang nya, puede ka nyang gawing GF momentarily. Tendency the guy can eventually get bored and move on especially kung alam nyang nag-aantay ka lang for him. 

@jtansanco, if you were me, would you gamble?

Sorry, di ako si jtansaco. 

Pero girl, if I were you, hindi ko igagamble. Kasi what's the point of letting him know?  Para lang madagdagan ang ego nya?  Para ikaw ang hahabol at ikaw ang manliligaw?  Do you want that?  You like him, pero how sure are you he deserves your attention?

[oshiawase]

@girltalker2, hindi naman ako magcoconfess sa kaniya. Ang balak ko, more of mag"papansin" sa kaniya but not in an annoying way. It's more of, self-improvement. Kialangan maaliwalas ako everyday and all para pag nakita niya ako (and di ko alam kung kailan yun since different department kami), mapansin naman niya ako....tama ba balak ko??

[jtansanco]

^^ BOW 

@girltalker2, hindi naman ako magcoconfess sa kaniya. Ang balak ko, more of mag"papansin" sa kaniya but not in an annoying way. It's more of, self-improvement. Kialangan maaliwalas ako everyday and all para pag nakita niya ako (and di ko alam kung kailan yun since different department kami), mapansin naman niya ako....tama ba balak ko??

I think you're more fixated of him "wanting" to chase you than him being your boyfriend. Yeah, just go for it. Shouldn't be a problem.

[Girltalker2]

@girltalker2, hindi naman ako magcoconfess sa kaniya. Ang balak ko, more of mag"papansin" sa kaniya but not in an annoying way. It's more of, self-improvement. Kialangan maaliwalas ako everyday and all para pag nakita niya ako (and di ko alam kung kailan yun since different department kami), mapansin naman niya ako....tama ba balak ko??

Sabi nga ni jtansaco it's your call.    Bata ka pa naman, you can afford mistakes. Kung sa itatahimik mo, kesa pag gurangers ka na tsaka mo iyan maisip. 

I always think na kailangan maaliwalas ka everyday for yourself, not for anyone else.



Heto mga guys - is it normal for a guy to ask a girl sa movie kung wala syang intentions? 

Lagi ko sinasabi na kung single ang isang girl, it is a waste of time para aksayahan ang isang tao with mixed signals.  Kaso kapag committed na ang girl, she should have no time for this mixed signals.  Ang problem lang, kung babae ka, kapag nag assume ka, sasabihin ng guy, feelingera ka naman.  Kung hindi ka naman mag assume, they will take advantage of the situation para masabi nakasama ka nya sa movies, pero in fact, wala naman meaning iyon.

Nagulat lang ako when a colleague (nothing going on talaga, as in all professional) suddenly asked let's watch a movie.  Sakin akin lang, ok ka lang?  You are married, I have a BF. It is not right to go to movies with anyone sa opposite gender.  Period.  Or masyadong ko namang binibigyan iyan ng meaning at ang mind set ko kasi makaluma pa.  Iba na ba these days?  My position currently, di ko na kinausap at natakot nako. Nanghihinayang pa naman ako sa professional relationship namin as HR director sya ng company, and kagalang galang pa naman sya supposedly.

[jtansanco]

^ To make it more awkward, my answer will be NO. If I ask a girl out for a movie, she should be my type. If not, I won't even bother asking her at all.

[oshiawase]

^true. otherwise, it'll send mixed signals talaga.

Anyway, on my end, I'm moving on. what happens, happens. thanks sa advice, guys!

[slickchick]

sisses and bros, i've been comforting this officemate since yesterday about her "problem".

her "problem" - she has been with her bf for a couple of months now (6 or 7 months), and up to now, ayaw daw magpalit ng FB status ng boyfriend nya. this issue daw has been causing them some fights and arguments.

on my end kasi, it is not really a big deal kung magpalit kami ng bf ko ng FB status, as long as we know where the relationship stands and that we trust each other enough. i am not sure if ako lang ba ang may ganitong mindset, and or sa panahon ngayon, dapat talaga up-to-date ang social media accounts natin to reflect our true relationship status. any insights?? TIA! 

P.S. sorry to ask din. baka naman kasi ako ang may outdated na mindset at may enough reason si officemate to go berserk.

[fleur_de_liz]

me as well, i dont change my status sa FB, it's not really a big deal. masyado naman immature kung dahil lang sa FB status eh magaaway na..

[oshiawase]

i agree. immature. para bang for show lang yung relationship nila. XD

[sugardrop]

I don't really care about relationship status on fb. Fighting about that, I find too trivial. There's more to a relationship than a facebook status.