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Title: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: pinkmoscato on February 07, 2017, 02:46:35 pm
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http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php?topic=293439.640

Sis AkoSiBella, he's not worth it. It's a man's choice to be faithful, anyway.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 07, 2017, 02:57:38 am
Guys i need your advice,  im on my vacation here in abroad..  yesterday i checked my husband's FB and na discover ko sumali siya sa isang group of walkers..  if you dont know kung ano un walkers na tinatawag un yun mga online dealings then pag nag kasundockayo sa deal mag memeet-up kayo for Sex babayaran ka it depends sa kasunduan niyo..

Shocks ano ibigsabihin nun? Bakit kaya sumali husband ko dun for what reason??  I checked his messenger too pero wala naman ako nakita may ka chat siya but FB has secret conversation so wala din use if lagi ko checked yun messenger niya gusto ko siya mahuli kung may ginagawa siya di maganda but how???..  ayoko pa siya confront about dun  i need a substantial evidence para magalit ako or actionan ko. TIA 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on March 07, 2017, 03:19:52 am
It's not rocket science. Do the math. Kelangan pa bang i-memorize yan? What substantial evidence pa ba kelangan? Que me ginawa na sya or wala pa, the motive is already there.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on March 07, 2017, 06:10:51 am
^tama ka dyan. Sa akin din sapat ng dahilan na magalit ako knowing na sumali or member sya ng walkers site/group for what di ba?  hindi ko na hihintayin may gawin pa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 07, 2017, 08:32:39 am
What if sumaki lang siya dahil wala lang?! Mahirap makipag talo sa husband ko .. gusto ko kasi may proof ako.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on March 07, 2017, 11:00:19 am
^ As a guy, at dala na rin ng conversations with friends et al, I could say na some join and visit those groups out of curiosity. Wala lang, tingin tingin lang. It differs from person to person, pero yung iba na nag join dun wala naman talaga balak mag try dun. But then, I'm not saying na it's all safe and calm. Since andun sya sa site na yun, marami pa rin temptations and what if he's bored and maisipan nya bigla? But hindi rin ganun kadali yun. Kasi kahit yung mga walkers dun may verification methods sila at most likely nag cater sila sa mga regular customers lang nila. Mahirap if biglaan lang at kung kelan lang magustuhan ni hubby. And take note, mas maraming way pa para gumawa sya ng kalokohan na hindi maiiwanan ng evidence. If you only knew, mas madaling mag visit ng websites na ganyan ang kalakaran kesa sa FB pa. Or worse, mas madali pumunta ng brothel para sa ganun.

All I'm saying is wag masyado mag panic. You could discuss this with him calmly na sabihin mo na nakita ko na you join this group. Joining that group doesn't mean na sasali sya sa activities dun. Tell him how you feel. Sabihin mo lang na alam mo yung pag join nya, magdadalawang isip na yun for sure if mag proceed pa sya if may binabalak nga. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on March 07, 2017, 12:41:46 pm
Sabihin mo curb curiosity.
Porn o kahit ano na walang personal interaction ay OK lang. Pero yung mga pwede ka chat at makita personally, at accessible sa inyo ay hindi pwede kasi andiyan temptation.
Sabihin mo din trabaho niyo pareho protect marriage niyo.

Pero sis, OK ba kayo? Di nagaway at walang sexual frustration?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: fastlove on March 07, 2017, 12:55:54 pm
Guys i need your advice,  im on my vacation here in abroad..  yesterday i checked my husband's FB and na discover ko sumali siya sa isang group of walkers..  if you dont know kung ano un walkers na tinatawag un yun mga online dealings then pag nag kasundockayo sa deal mag memeet-up kayo for Sex babayaran ka it depends sa kasunduan niyo..
Sundan mo lang  thread... at mga post nya..
tapos  mag   na meet  up  sila  ask mo   yung   girl.. if  na   tuloy
magpang gap ka lang ng  walker ..  sabihin nag verify ka..
if  legit  sya.

saka  mo  husgahan  asawa..   and if  natuloy  sabay  HIV test narin.. kayo  pareho..





Shocks ano ibigsabihin nun? Bakit kaya sumali husband ko dun for what reason?? 

I checked his messenger too pero wala naman ako nakita may ka chat siya but FB has secret conversation so wala din use if lagi ko checked yun messenger niya gusto ko siya mahuli kung may ginagawa siya di maganda but how???..  ayoko pa siya confront about dun  i need a substantial evidence para magalit ako or actionan ko. TIA 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 07, 2017, 02:10:21 pm
Reply to all:
di naman kami nag aaway pero madami siya di sinasabi saken like pag doll-out niya ng money na 10k. Mga plans nila ng mga friends niya sa motor at car kung saan man sila pupunta. About sa sex life namin well i admit hindi ganon ka happy it takes month/s na walang "Do" 

Nakita ko wala post asawa ko sa group of walkers march 2 siya nag joined kasi nakita ko sa activity log niya puro search niya ganon..
Plano ko na din gumawa ng fake fb then magpanggap na walker then saka ko siya i memessage.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on March 07, 2017, 03:52:40 pm
^ That is just wrong. Ikaw ang gagawa ng something para ma prove na may chance magloko ang asawa mo? I don't know, maybe it's just me, pero parang analogous sya sa gusto mo i prove na nananakit ang asawa mo kaya ipoprovoke mo na saktan ka.

Like what I've said, mas ok na pagusapan nyo yan. Tell him na you are not comfortable with that.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on March 07, 2017, 03:55:10 pm
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Plano ko na din gumawa ng fake fb then magpanggap na walker then saka ko siya i memessage.

Recipe for disaster ito sis, ending nyan ikaw pa ang masisisi and majajudge as freak if ginawa mo yan. Also, ask yourself, if gawin mo yan, ready ka bang malaman lahat ng katotohanan? If ever man na nag-aavail nga si husband mo ng ganung services, handa ba ang loob mong malaman yun lahat?

Meron akong kakilala kasi na ganyan, tinextmate yung husband para hulihin. Eh kumagat yung lalaki, hanggang sa naging 'girlfriend' nya yung textmate nya which is the wife. So wala naman silang naresolve kasi ending hindi pa rin nya maconfront yung husband nya right away. Nung nagkaron ng confrontation, sinabihan pa syang baliw ng husband nya kasi nga bakit kelangan magpanggap ng ganun. Ewan ko lang, for me, it will only make matters worse and lalo lang sasama ang tingin sayo ng asawa mo.

Kung sa history ng pagsasama nyo eh maayos naman kausap si husband mo, I suggest as early as now kausapin mo na sya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 07, 2017, 05:27:30 pm
Sige di na ako gagawa ng fake account.. magaling kasi makipag discussion feeling niya lagi siya tama. Malulusutan niya yon magaling mag dahilan. Minsan nahuli ko pa siya may ka chat siya kababata niya babae nasa italy okay lang saken pero un girl kung ano ano sinasabi sa asawa ko. To the point ito namang asawa ko mag kiss and tell nagalit talaga ako sakanya. Di ako mag tataka if may ka chat siya nililihim na lang niya kasi mga friends niya bilang sa kamay ang loyal. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on March 07, 2017, 06:28:11 pm
di naman kami nag aaway pero madami siya di sinasabi saken like pag doll-out niya ng money na 10k. Mga plans nila ng mga friends niya sa motor at car kung saan man sila pupunta. About sa sex life namin well i admit hindi ganon ka happy it takes month/s na walang "Do" 

Sis, tip ko sayo diyan mo ibuhos ang lahat ng enerhiya mo -- improve relationship.

- Hanapin mo yung root cause at yung mga pangyayari noon sa tagal ng pagsasama niyo bakit nagsimula siyang hindi magsabi sayo ng tungkol sa pera at lakad niya.
- Tapos bakit walang Do anyare? Ganyan ba talaga kayo noon pa o may mga pagbabago?

Hanapin mo mga sagot sa mga isyu niyo. Imbis na planuhin mo yung mga bagay na pwede magkadownward spiral ang relasyon niyo, dun ka sa positibo. Dun ka sa may control ka -- sarili mo.
Be the best wife you can be. Pag nagloko pa din siya eh di siraulo mister mo. At least alam mo sa sarili mo, wala kang maling ginawa o gagawin.

Minsan nahuli ko pa siya may ka chat siya kababata niya babae nasa italy okay lang saken pero un girl kung ano ano sinasabi sa asawa ko. To the point ito namang asawa ko mag kiss and tell nagalit talaga ako sakanya. Di ako mag tataka if may ka chat siya nililihim na lang niya kasi mga friends niya bilang sa kamay ang loyal. 

Ginagawa yan ng lalaki pag di niya makausap partner niya. Isali mo na sis -- improve communication.

Kailangan mo alamin bakit tingin ng mister mo di ka open. Hanap kayo ng solusyon at sabihin mo tulungan niyo isa't isa na gawin yung solusyon na yun. Kailangan committed kayo pareho.

Kung di naintindihan ng mister mo bakit hindi dapat kiss and tell at bakit hindi pwede ang ganyang klaseng pagkakaibigan sa ibang babae, bigyan mo ng sandamakmak na article tungkol sa emotional infidelity, how to protect your marriage, etc. etc.

Pero sis, do not confront ah gawin mo in a calm/loving manner. O kaya, iayon mo sa relationship dynamics niyo. Mister mo yan, alam mo dapat paano pinaka-ok na paraan na ayusin problema niyo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on March 08, 2017, 01:36:56 am
What if sumaki lang siya dahil wala lang?! Mahirap makipag talo sa husband ko .. gusto ko kasi may proof ako.

Ang temptation, ang affair, walang nagsimula sa full blown affair. Lahat yan nagsimula sa something that seems innocent. The next thing you know he is already having an affair. At pag tinanong mo kung bakit nya ginawa, I am sure the answer is, "I don't know!". Talk to him, and he should be remorseful about it. Ang taong gusto umiwas sa gulo, iiwas sa kahit anong temptation. But he is putting himself in there. If you don't do anything about it, then just be ready to buy a crapload of facial tissue.

ETA: I asked a 26-year old white Canadian guy about this. And he flatly said that it's not okay.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 08, 2017, 05:17:50 am
Thank you sa mga mag reply,. Alam ko na gagawin ko. Mas preferred ko personal kami mag usap but im here abroad. Super sakit ng ulo ko sa totoo lang i cant sleep well. But naka handa na ako incase na imessage ko siya about it.  At parang alam ko na isasagot niya pag sinita ko siya.. which is "wala lang" tama kayo ..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 09, 2017, 04:51:39 pm
Update. Nag usap na kami ang dahilan niya curious lang siya at wala daw siyang ginagawang masama.  Di daw masama mag join dun nagbabasa lang daw siya dahil sa naaliw lang daw siya. At  dumi daw ng isip ko. Pinakita niya saken  ang logs ng phone niya since feb up to now..  naiinis siya ginagawa ko  daw big deal at siya pa ang galit..

Naiinis ako..sa totoo lang di talaga papatalo sa dahilan ang asawa ko haha first honor sa lahat haha kainis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on March 09, 2017, 05:35:50 pm
Curiosity killed the cat.

Sinabi mo ba ano ang nararamdaman mo dahil sa pagiging curious siya at pang aliw na yan?
Tinanong mo ba ano mararamdaman niya kung ikaw naman ay macurious at ma-aliw sa ganyan?

Di nakakagulat yang reaksyon ni mister.. Hanggang hindi naaayos ang mga isyu, hindi talaga iintindihin ni mister (at hindi siya mageeffort na intindihin) ang side mo.

Update. Nag usap na kami ang dahilan niya curious lang siya at wala daw siyang ginagawang masama.  Di daw masama mag join dun nagbabasa lang daw siya dahil sa naaliw lang daw siya. At  dumi daw ng isip ko. Pinakita niya saken  ang logs ng phone niya since feb up to now..  naiinis siya ginagawa ko  daw big deal at siya pa ang galit..

Naiinis ako..sa totoo lang di talaga papatalo sa dahilan ang asawa ko haha first honor sa lahat haha kainis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 09, 2017, 05:47:39 pm
^ tinanong ko din sakanya yun. Siya pa galit at sabi ni wala daw siya ginagawa masama.  feeling niya tama at walang masama sa ginawa niya. Sabi ko ang layo ko tapos makakaita ako na naka joined sa group ng walkers. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on March 09, 2017, 11:29:33 pm
^Ask him if you sign up on a dating site, pwede rin ba yun? Curious ka rin kamo. Tengene, sya pa me ganang magalit.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: JDizon on March 09, 2017, 11:52:49 pm
You are just there for vacation right? Kapag balik mo why dont you talk to your husband about your worries and problem regarding his fb account. I meqn why would he even join a walkers group if he has no intention of getting their service right? So i suggest better to talk to him and tell him that he has to take out the walker group. He should take it out.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on March 10, 2017, 01:14:05 am
well sabi niya wala na daw siya sa group of walkers then I checked again his fb wala na nga.  Tinulugan lang ako at unseen pa din mga message ko sakanya..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on March 27, 2017, 03:17:47 pm
^ It's possible, pero pwedeng hindi din. If yung pagkalasing nya na nagsusuka na sya at nag pass out na, I would say na possible di nya na maalala yun. Pero yung hindi naman sya umabot sa ganung level ng kalasingan, based on my experience, naaalala nya pa yun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on March 27, 2017, 04:27:16 pm
^^May naalala yun sis ayaw lang umamin sa takot na magreklamo kayo 😂.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on March 27, 2017, 08:10:09 pm
Hi! tanong ko lang.. Possible bang walang naalala ang isang lalake pag lasing?
I have this guy friend. Nag inuman kasi kami (3 girls + 1 guy). Then nung tulugan na, this guy went to my bed. I ignored him kaya after ilang minutes umalis din siya. Same din daw with my friend. ganun din daw ngyare. Tapos nung umaga, sabi ni guy, wala daw siya maalala sa sobrang lasing?
Is this possible? ang creepy lang tuloy at ang awkward.   >:(

in general, for people getting drunk, yung iba talaga di na makaalala ng mga nangyari.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hushush on March 27, 2017, 08:49:19 pm
^yes po ganyan talaga mga lalaki pag nalalasing..😀nung bday ko nung college pa ako naghost ako ng house party then syempre puro mga kaklase ko mga bisita ko.then may isa ako kaklase na di daw sya umiinom (ako din naman hindi umiinom at hindi talaga ako umiinom til now hehe 😊) e ang napili ko ipainom ay vodka kasi mukhang sosi tignan hehe..natawa mga kaklase ko anglupet ko daw...syempre wala ako idea dun kasi hindi naman ako umiinom..e di pinainom nila si kaklase na di umiinom..naparami ata inom..maya maya nagbago na behavior..nagagalit daw sya sakin..sabi ko bakit?ano ba nagawa ko sa kanya..then kung ano ano na sinasabi..so sabi nila lasing na daw..maya maya sumuka! As in panay suka..gumagapang while sumusuka..nakakatawa yun scene na yun di ko talaga makalimutan..nakakatawa na nakakabwisit kasi sinukahan nya ang buong sala.lahat ng sulok! 😬 inis na inis ako kasi hindi sya makayang ilabas ng mga kaklase ko kasi puro lasing na din!hinayaan na lang tumumba sa sahig..then later on may nag-effort at pinagtulungan na din ilabas..nung muwi na yung iba pero yun iba ngpalipas asa house til madaling-araw..walang gusto tumulong sakin maglinis!inaantok na daw sila!  sangkaterba ang nilinis kong suka! pati hugasin..kaya sabi ko never na talaga ako maghohost ng partey lalo na kung may inuman! 😤 Then kinabukasan natauhan na si classmate..nagtataka sya bakit mabaho damit nya..kinuwento namin yun mga nangyari..tawa sila ng tawa..ako galit na galit..sabi nya wala sya naaalala..baka daw ginu-goodtime namin sya..pinakita namin pix nya sa digicam ko na nakahandusay sa sahig..nagsorry sya sakin.oks lang kako.kasalanan ko din naman..malay ko bang malakas pala ang amats ng vodka hehe..😈
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on March 28, 2017, 09:19:23 am
^^Yung friend mo sis hushhush believable na walang maalala, nagpass out na siya. Pero yung friend ni ember_sky parang hindi believable na walang maalala, naisip pa niya talagang sumubok sa ibang girl nung di siya pinagbigyan ng isa. Sabi ng bf ko, bro and guy friends ko masarap makipagsex pagmedyo may tama, nakaka-add ng libido ang alak pero iba yung may tama sa lasing na lasing. Pag daw super lasing ang guy at may nangyari sa kanila ni girl sure daw sila pinagsamantalahan ni girl si guy 😂.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hushush on March 28, 2017, 11:11:06 am
^oo nga no pedeng excuse lang nya na lasing sya..kaya maraming nangyayaring di maganda kapag may inuman..kaya sa mga sis dyan na mga dalaga pa o kahit may asawa na at hilig uminom..ingat ingat kayo..meron nga dito sa FN na artice about it.na yun girl nirape sa tent nya..kasi sobrang lasing, nag-pass out..paggising dun lang nya nakita nakapatong yung guy sa kanya..kawawa naman..kasi hindi nya kinompronta man lang yun guy o di man lang nagdemanda..after many years lang nya inamin na na-rape sya..hays..ayoko mangyari sa anak kong babae yun kaya lagi ko sya papaalalahanan paglaki nya..bantay-sarado ako sa kanya hehe..no to liquor!kung ang nanay hindi umiinom, hindi din iinom ang mga anak..nanay ko kasi never uminom kaya di din ako umiinom pati ate ko... 😊
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on March 28, 2017, 02:01:49 pm
True sis ingat lang din and piliin ang makakasama sa mga ganyang inuman or mas mainam wag na makipag-inuman.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on March 29, 2017, 12:56:50 pm
Yes this happens. And it happen to me. Twice or thrice.

College days: inuman sa boarding house. Habang nasa kalagitnaan nakatulog na ako. Di ko alam kung paano ako nakapunta ng kama mo. Tapos makikitabi sana yung isang friend na girl. Then sinabihan ko raw na rereypin ko sya.

2Nd time: new year's eve. Inuman sa bahay namin. Tapos nagising na lang ako nung umaga nasa sala ako ng bahay namin. Pero nakapunta pa raw ako sa dalawa pang inuman.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 01, 2017, 08:52:55 am

1) Pag may mistress or other woman ang guy, di ba sila nahihiya pag nalaman ng ibang Tao? Or parang may kilig factor na feeling nila it is a symbol of success at habulin sila ng mga babae?

Para kasing mga walanghiya most guys there in pinas. Kahit mga congressmen, kapal ng mga Mukha at di Nahiya pag may mga kabit sila.


2) So if you're a guy, and there's a girl na available for you (young, sexy, model, Virgin) para patulan mo but no strings attached, and no one will ever know. You just have to spend your time, wala din gastos. Papatulan nyo ba?
(I expect 100% of the guys will say yes but I may be wrong)
If not, why not?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on April 03, 2017, 11:35:22 am
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1) Pag may mistress or other woman ang guy, di ba sila nahihiya pag nalaman ng ibang Tao? Or parang may kilig factor na feeling nila it is a symbol of success at habulin sila ng mga babae?

Para kasing mga walanghiya most guys there in pinas. Kahit mga congressmen, kapal ng mga Mukha at di Nahiya pag may mga kabit sila.

Why most guys there in Pinas?  May statistics na ba? Or baka naman mostly yung mga kilala natin mostly ay ganun kaya yan ang perception? But then, ganun din naman sa ibang bansa. Worst kapag napunta sa ibang part ng India, or even Middle East, kapag na rape ang girls, kasalanan pa ng girls. But I agree, karamihan sa politicians dito t@rant@do.


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2) So if you're a guy, and there's a girl na available for you (young, sexy, model, Virgin) para patulan mo but no strings attached, and no one will ever know. You just have to spend your time, wala din gastos. Papatulan nyo ba?
(I expect 100% of the guys will say yes but I may be wrong)
If not, why not?

If nasa isang room sila, 90% yes. Kahit sinong lalake yan, kahit Pari pa yan or kung sinong santo. The other 10% siguro may ibang reason.  Yan ang weakness ng mga lalake. Kailangan ma-realized ng lahat yan na hindi ganun kalakas ang lalake para pigilan ang temptations pag anjan na sa sitwasyon. Given na yan. What men should do is, umiwas sa ganyang sitwasyon kasi nga, hindi nya kaya labanan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: astarte on April 03, 2017, 06:13:49 pm
question: if the girl got separated na from her husband and yung reason ay gay / bi pala kasi si ex-husband, what goes around in a straight guy's mind? in case naman na you like the girl, ano yung mga possible na itanong or icheck mo sa kanya before you decide to pursue her? basta ano yung naiisip mo?  :-[ :-X :-\ ???
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on April 03, 2017, 06:43:11 pm
^ Never knew someone na may ganyang experience. Kaya I'm not so sure.

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what goes around in a straight guy's mind? i

Siguro iisipin kung ano ang meron between girl and the guy bakit hindi nalaman ni girl yung situation ni guy kahit nung bf/gf stages pa lang nila.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: geraldita03 on April 04, 2017, 04:50:55 pm
pwede po ba magtanong? my ex-boyfriend chatted me last Sunday after 3 months of breaking up. 6 years din kami. we broke up last Dec 2016 at nung Sunday siya nag chat. Ano po ba yung usually iniisip ng lalaki pag ganun? why did he message me?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on April 04, 2017, 10:26:28 pm
^Tanungin mo kung bakit? Anong reason bakit ka nya kinakausap ulit?

Bakit tayong mga Pinoy hirap maging straightforward?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 05, 2017, 05:25:57 am
^^For casual hookup/fubu/fwb. Tanungin mo siya sis, ex mo lang makakapagbigay ng tumpak na sagot sa tanong mo
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on April 05, 2017, 07:37:22 am
pwede po ba magtanong? my ex-boyfriend chatted me last Sunday after 3 months of breaking up. 6 years din kami. we broke up last Dec 2016 at nung Sunday siya nag chat. Ano po ba yung usually iniisip ng lalaki pag ganun? why did he message me?

either narealize niyang mali siya at gusto niyang makipagbalikan

or

he just wants to hook up
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: HAYLEELOVE on April 05, 2017, 04:18:58 pm
Question!
I don't know if there is an existing thread about this. Anyway, this is the most perennial question na siguro about men in general. What is/are the most significant quality/s that you consider in looking for a wife. How exactly do you mean by "material-wife" qualities? Thanks!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on April 05, 2017, 08:37:14 pm
pwede po ba magtanong? my ex-boyfriend chatted me last Sunday after 3 months of breaking up. 6 years din kami. we broke up last Dec 2016 at nung Sunday siya nag chat. Ano po ba yung usually iniisip ng lalaki pag ganun? why did he message me?

this had happened to me a few times before in the past, dati i would make a big deal out of it, think of all the possible "happy ending" at bakit niya ako minessage. think about it all the time, made it bother me, stress me, etc. thankfully i've matured enough not to make a mountain out of a little mole hill. he texted me, that's all there was to it. nothing more, nothing less. we even went out or went on a date a few times. but the thing that really counts is that the dude didn't ask me to marry him (lol), didn't pledge his whole life to my service, didn't as me to be the mother of his future children, or on a more serious note, to get back together. so i should stop wasting brain space for him then. not worth it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: ArfMeow0101 on April 27, 2017, 12:42:28 am
May naging guy friend ako na super close kami dati tas things happened kaya nagaway kami. Yung common friend namin na lagi naming kasama pag lumalabas kami ni guy friend, nagsabi sakin na tinext sya ni guy friend nagyayaya lumabas. eh di inasar ko na baka sila na yung close. sabi ni common friend kaya daw sya niyayaya nun kasi gusto akong isama nun, hindi lang makapagtext sakin diretso. Dati kasi ganun pag nagyayayaan kami. Tas the other day, sabi nya kay common friend "kamusta yung kaibigan mo? (referring to me) birthday nya nung isang araw ah." Naguguluhan ako sa kanya kasi pag nagkakasalubong kami, hindi naman kami nagpapansinan. ni hindi sya nagpaparamdam sakin. Ano kaya yan?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 27, 2017, 01:12:02 pm
^baka gusto niyang maging magkaibigan kayo uli pero nahihiya siya lumapit
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: blushberry on April 29, 2017, 06:32:25 pm
I just have to ask

How come a husband would cheat on his wife for almost a year with several women, meron pang may condo, take note hipon silang mga girls tapos pag nakipaghiwalay si wife ayaw makipaghiwalay ng husband.  I don't get this?  Ang reason for the condo, to save on money because the girl priced herself quite high?  What's up with that?

For almost a year, hindi man lang na guilty o natakot sa consequences at umabot ng ganun  katagal?  Tapos the girls don't even do anything special... No swallowing, no effort... Choosy narin pala ngayon mga paid girls.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 30, 2017, 01:01:56 pm
^Baka gusto iconfirm pagiging macho nila lol. May mga guys kasi na proud na proud kapag naikkwento sa ibang boys na may sideline sila bukod pa sa misis nila. Minsan nga maski di na totoo kinikwento pa nila na may chicks sila or naka-sex nila sk ganito or ganyan. Ayaw makipaghiwalay sa misis kasi security blanket nila ang asawa nila. Iwan man sila ni other girl andyan si misis bilang reserba.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 01, 2017, 10:19:06 pm
^^Because some men are just plain jerk....PERIOD!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: undecided2 on May 10, 2017, 02:21:44 pm
Question: pag ang guy ba nag sorry na hindi umiiyak it means hindi sila sincere sa sorry nila?
Thank you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on May 12, 2017, 08:45:29 pm
Sa gawa mo makikita kung sincere ang tao at di lang ito sa lalaki.. Ano ba pagbabago niya matapos magsorry?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Ms. Undecided on May 26, 2017, 01:58:14 pm
Hi, ask lang ako ng opinions from our boys here or kahit sa mga sissies. May bf ako o ex? Err?well, 3 yrs and 6 mos na dapat kami this coming 29 but sh*t happens last March na naging dahilan ng labuan namin. About kasi sa girl close friend niya na kinomfort niya habang ako eh iyak ng iyak. Moving on, for the month of April and May up until my birthday (May 15) we tried to fix things but still didn?t work. Araw-araw kami nag-aaway and so we decided to end it na last May 21. For the past days ako yung nangungulit na text ng text at chat ng chat sa kanya. Nagagalit siya sakin, sabi niya paano daw niya malalaman yung halaga ko kung habol ako ng habol sa kanya. Gusto daw niya siya kusang babalik kapag narealize na daw niya worth ko. So, nung May 23, I texted him ng mahabang message, saying sorry and thank you and so on. Di siya nagreply. Kinaumagahan, nag-chat siya ?Good morning babe ko. Iloveyou mahal na mahal na mahal kita? The usual message na sinesend niya before every morning ganun. Nagulat ako, kasi balak ko na talagang di magparamdam nun. I asked him what was his intention kasi di pa nga ako umuusad tas magbaback to zero na naman ako. Sabi ko pinaglalaruan niya nararamdaman ko. Sabi niya, bigla nalang daw niya na-chat yun. Then puro na siya sorry so di na ko nagreply. Ayoko mag-assume pero parang he?s monitoring kung what time ako natutulog, baka kasi nagkakataon lang. Kinabukasan, bale kahapon lang yun. No text, no chat kaming dalawa. Nung gabi niya, I was about to sleep, nagtetxt siya, nagtanong lang naman ng not so serious thing. So after nun, nag goodnight na siya, with the usual message na sinesend niya nung kami pa. This morning, nagchat ulit siya. I helped him kasi to recover his FB account na nadisable, dunno why. So, narecover ko naman. He said thank you. Then nung papasok na siya sa work, nag iloveyou na naman siya :( Ngayong lunch wala na. Online siya pero hindi na ulit siya nagchat. Di ko rin naman siya minemessage. Sabi ng pinsan niya, hayaan ko na daw muna. Baka daw talaga need muna niya maging malaya. Nasakal ko kasi siya before. Then yung fb niya parang ako pa yung may ari kasi ako yung laging nag oopen kaya panay change password niya. 4 days palang naman kami di nagkikita. 4 days ko na di na oopen fb niya, iniisip ko baka may iba na siyang pinopormahan pero kanina nung inopen ko (Kasi nga diba tinulungan ko siya to recover his account kaya nmaopen ko) wala naman akong nakita. Tamang hinala lang talaga ako. Yung mga ka-chat niya dun puro yung sa hachi buy & sell lang. What are your POV regarding this :( Parang kami na parang hindi :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on May 26, 2017, 02:26:08 pm
^Hindi na kayo since you ended your relationship formally and let it stay that way unless gusto mo ng Fwb or Fubu relationship. Di naman porke sinabihan ka ng i love you mag-assume ka na ok at nagkabalikan na kayo. Hindi pa nagsisink-in sa kanya na hiwalay na kayo kasi you are still around and all over him. Magpabebe ka naman ng konti and pahirapan mo naman siya please. Kaya ka niloloko ng paulit-ulit kasi napakadali ka niyang paikutin. Yaan mo na yan. Be thankful kasi nakita mo ugali agad ng di pa kayo nakakasal. Lakad ka pasulong at wag ng lilingon. Sayang time mo sa ganyang lalake.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 26, 2017, 10:15:52 pm
He's playing with your feelings. It's better to stay away for the meantime. Magulo kasi if you both insist to be together.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 26, 2017, 10:32:58 pm
^ I agree. Parang mechanical lang yung I love u nyan. Just for the sake. Because if he really loves you, mags set iyan ng time to talk through ano naging problem nyo and how to avoid this sa future. That is, kung may future pa kayo.

Then, if those I love u's really mean anything, usually may kasunod... what are u doing... what's going on in your life,... what are u thinking... eh wala eh. So obviously, the interest isn't there anymore. It seems he is just hanging on there at wala pa syang ibang malalandian. Tsaka sa nakikita ko sa inyo, wala na kayong interest sa isa't isa. Yung superficial lang na status. But as to the depth of your relationship, parang di ko makita sa kwento mo. Or depends din how your conversations went.

I think you're really better off in moving on. Kasi you're single naman. You're free. If you find another partner, may point of comparison ka. You would know how you should be treated, and how you want to be treated. At di ganyan. If bumalik sya na totoong sincere (up to you to discern din), tsaka mo nalang I-consider. But just texting I love u doesn't mean bumabalik sya. It's just so convenient, anyone can do it in a second.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: geraldita03 on May 27, 2017, 09:08:40 am
Nagkabalikan kami ng ex ko after 5 months na nag break kami. Nakatulong din yung break up namin kasi madami kaming na-realize at makakatulong yun s new relationship namin. First boyfriend ko siya at magse-7 years na kami. Third girlfriend niya ako. Nung naghiwalay kami, di naman dahil s third party. Kaya we talked about us nung nagkita kami and we decided na magkabalikan and work things our between us. Sa part ko naman, I need to have more patience and understading kasi med student siya and he'll be super busy na. I know I'm not his priority pa kasi anjan pa studies niya. And I understand naman. He's not my priority also kasi I'm building my career pa. We don't have to control each other's activities, just have the trust for each other and proper communication is a must. And also honesty matters in a relationship. Magtiwala lang kami sa isa't isa at positivity lang. Huwag puro drama.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on May 27, 2017, 09:40:38 am
Ms. Undecided, share ko lang to:

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If you don't know how he feels about you, then you know how he feels about you. You just don't want to admit it.

Sana maka move on ka na. Once you're in a healthy relationship, matatawa ka na lang bakit nagtiis ka sa ganyan. Sana maka move on ka na as soon as possible, kasi I'm guessing at your vulnerable state right now kung yayain ka nya magpakasal eh papayag ka. Tapos eventually magpopost ka na about cheating husband or unhappy marriage. Naku sana talaga maka move on ka na!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Ms. Undecided on May 27, 2017, 01:49:25 pm
Thank you sa lahat :( Siguro nga until now di pa nagsi-sink in sakin na wala na talaga. Nakabitin parin ako hanggang ngayon, umaasa pa rin ako :( Naisip ko rin naman yun, paano kung kakasiksik ko ng sarili ko sa kanya siya nga makatuluyan ko pero maging mala impyerno naman buhay ko, ayoko :( Gusto ko na mag heal :( alam ko sobrang mahaba pa yung panahon bago ako makalimot but hopefully wag abutin ng years :(  3rd bf ko na siya pero ngayon lang nangyari sakin 'to :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on June 12, 2017, 12:29:37 am
Hi guytalkers! :)
Question. I'm in a relationship with a man who's married. when we were still friends/acquaintance, of course we have shared lots of personal stories with each other and I can say that he was a certified playboy and naughty guy "before". I know that I am not the only girl he dated or at least showed his affection while he's still in a relationship.  But now, I guess sobrang nagbago sya and I really can see and feel his sincerity and love for me. He has done lots of sacrifices just to retain the relationship. Just want to know if the cliche will always be true, "a cheater will always be a cheater" ? :(
or is it possible na nagbago talaga say and nakahanap ng katapat nya? :(
TIA! ;)
 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 12, 2017, 11:59:40 am

^ sorry maki comment lang. it's obvious na super nabola ka nya. You may not see it now, but you will eventually see it. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on June 12, 2017, 01:59:57 pm
I know that I am not the only girl he dated or at least showed his affection while he's still in a relationship.
Sis you mean habang nilalandi ka niya "in a relationship" din siya sa ibang girl/sila pa ng misis niya? If that's the case wag ka maniwala dyan. Totoo yung sinasabi ni sis Girltalker2, nabola ka. Flavor of the month ka lang niyan. Pagnakahanap ng bagong flavor yan yun naman ang pagbubuhusan niya ng "affection while he's still in a relationship" WITH YOU.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: badw33d on June 12, 2017, 09:09:23 pm
^^^ he could be true, or again playing. meet the parents or the family? :-D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on June 12, 2017, 10:15:21 pm
I stopped reading at "having a relationship with a married man".

Seriously?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on June 12, 2017, 11:51:02 pm
Hi, we've been together for 4 yrs now, and I never encountered naman any cheating problem sa kanya since then.
I mean he dated other girl/s before pero hindi pa kami nun but with his wife pa.
I'm just afraid na baka maulit sakin yung kay wife :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: badw33d on June 13, 2017, 08:07:38 pm
yeah... that's a 50/50 thing.

if he's a playboy, he'll always be one.   ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on June 14, 2017, 03:26:00 am
^^I'm just wondering bakit after 4yrs saka ka pa natakot? Saka mo pa naisip na baka gawin sayo yung ginawa sa wife? Di ba dapat bago kayo nagrelasyon naisip mo yun? Why question his sincerity after 4yrs of being together? Ikaw lang makakasagot kung nagbago na nga bf mo, kung sinasabi mo na 4yrs na kayo at may duda ka pa malamang hindi pa nga yan nagbabago kasi hindi ka pa secured e
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on June 15, 2017, 12:38:06 am
^ I know :(
I feel secured naman sa kanya. I don't know lang if kapag tumagal na akmi and magkaron ng sawa factor (which is inevitable), baka maulit.

Anyway, I think he's happy naman with me and I know na he knows naman that he's receiving the love the he wants to receive from me, enough not to look for other girls :)

thanks! :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drinveilside on June 15, 2017, 03:34:39 am
hi aprilgal26,

Honestly its a mystery when guys cheat sometimes even if you are doing everything right we still somehow bite the apple when its there even the best of us would fall for it without knowing we actually committed the mistake.

I also believe that there is a saying that once a cheater always a cheater, however in a relationship that's not always the case i think it depends on how the guy loves you. if they love you enough they wont do it again.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: leelee_ on June 15, 2017, 07:56:27 am
Hi guytalkers! :)
Question. I'm in a relationship with a man who's married. when we were still friends/acquaintance, of course we have shared lots of personal stories with each other and I can say that he was a certified playboy and naughty guy "before". I know that I am not the only girl he dated or at least showed his affection while he's still in a relationship.  But now, I guess sobrang nagbago sya and I really can see and feel his sincerity and love for me. He has done lots of sacrifices just to retain the relationship. Just want to know if the cliche will always be true, "a cheater will always be a cheater" ? :(
or is it possible na nagbago talaga say and nakahanap ng katapat nya? :(
TIA! ;)
 

Hi. Question lang po... Your 'boyfriend' is still married and living with his wife?
Sobrang nagbago sya? How? :D
Sorry honey... but I think this is messy. It ain't gonna be your happy ending, sweetheart.

Run. Far away. While you still can. ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on June 15, 2017, 09:00:15 pm
Hi. Question lang po... Your 'boyfriend' is still married and living with his wife?
Sobrang nagbago sya? How? :D
Sorry honey... but I think this is messy. It ain't gonna be your happy ending, sweetheart.

Run. Far away. While you still can. ;)

hello leelee_

He is now separated with the wife, but not legally. It's just that I got afraid of his history as a cheater :(
I don't know why just now, maybe because I got sot attached and fell inlove with my man so much? more than I felt for him before :(
kaya siguro medyo bigla akong kinabahn bigla
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: orangetabby on June 15, 2017, 10:45:27 pm
Totoo ba na naiintimidate ang mga guys? If yes, how and why?
 :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: NeilRudecat on June 16, 2017, 08:56:19 am
Hi AprilGal26,

You're in a relationship with someone who has been playing around with women.

Ano ba ang nagugustuhan sa lalaking ni hindi marunong makipagrelasyon, walang paggalang sa pagkatao ng kaniyang kapwa, walang respeto sa mga babae?

So mage-expect ka na tatratuhin ka niyang tao...na may damdamin?

Sana hindi na pinapatulan ang mga lalaking ganiyan.

Sana makahanap ka ng lalaki na may history na pagiging honest at faithful.   You deserve to be truly loved.  Mahalin mo naman ang sarili mo.  Don't become the new toy of this player.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: badw33d on June 17, 2017, 01:36:41 pm
Totoo ba na naiintimidate ang mga guys? If yes, how and why?
 :D

Yes. I believe everybody does.

how and why? depends.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on June 17, 2017, 06:12:31 pm
^I agree. Sabi ng guy friends ko naiintimidate sila kapag sobrang ganda ng girl or kapag matalino or mas mayaman/stable compared sa kanila. Feeling nila basted na agad sila kapag pinormahan nila or wala silang pag-asa.

Pansin ko yung mga friends ko na successful careerwomen sila yung walang lovelife kasi may standards na sila e. Dapat kapantay or higit sa kanila ang guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: NeilRudecat on June 17, 2017, 07:18:31 pm
^Ang mga lalaking yan ang may problema sa kanilang self esteem.  Minsan meron ngang agressive pero ipu-put down naman ang babae.

Ako, I am so attracted with women who are assertive and sophisticated.  I love the interaction and exchange of ideas.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 17, 2017, 09:49:14 pm

Honestly its a mystery when guys cheat sometimes even if you are doing everything right we still somehow bite the apple when its there even the best of us would fall for it without knowing we actually committed the mistake.


I think this is just for people who act like animals and don't have self control. Iyan ang problem sa mga lalaki, they don't have self awareness, they let their d*ck rule their minds, parang aso/hayop di marunong gumamit ng utak or manindigan ano ang tama na dapat gawin.


i think it depends on how the guy loves you. if they love you enough they wont do it again.


If the guy loves you, he will NEVER do such a thing.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on June 21, 2017, 01:55:55 am
What if sa inyo nangyari ito? What do you think is the right thing to do?

Dahil maloko kayo nakabuntis kayo ng girl na may isang anak at married na sa iba. Yung husband niya malayo at hindi makauwi kaya naisipan niyang mag boyfriend na ulit. Pero never sila nawalan ng communication dahil nagpapadala ng pera ang asawa niya sa kanya. Nagkataon na seryoso siya sa relasyon niyo. Inaayawan niya ang asawa niya para bumuo kayo ng pamilya. Her husband is still trying to reach out. Pero shinashut off na niya. Ayaw na daw niya dun.

I know someone na nasa ganitong situation. Na parang di niya alam kung pano niya lulusutan dahil hindi naman talaga niya planong tumagal dun sa girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on June 21, 2017, 02:53:50 am
^Buti nga sa kanya! He knows what he was getting into. Siguro kung [textspeak!]-anong mga pambobola ginawa dun sa girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 21, 2017, 08:51:16 am
^^ well, the law is still on his side. The girl is in a deeper sh*t.

Pareho naman sila ng girl na manloloko. Both of them did this to their lives so I guess they just have to bear the consequences.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on June 21, 2017, 10:45:07 am
Well si girl naman even before pa ng kakilala ko may ibang naging boyfriend pa siya.

Very controlling ang girl ngayon.  Maybe she feels na iiwan din siya. Although hindi naman iiwanan ni guy ang responsibilities niya dun sa baby nila. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on June 27, 2017, 01:07:02 pm
Well si girl naman even before pa ng kakilala ko may ibang naging boyfriend pa siya.

Very controlling ang girl ngayon.  Maybe she feels na iiwan din siya. Although hindi naman iiwanan ni guy ang responsibilities niya dun sa baby nila.

Buti nga sa kanya. May asawa na nga pumapapel pa kasi sya. If ever man hindi nya anak talaga yun, malay natin kung sa iba, sana magdusa pa din ang kilala mong lalake dahil sa pinasok nyang kalokohan. Deserve nya kung magkanda leche leche ang buhay nya dahil sa mga nangyayari.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on June 27, 2017, 10:57:07 pm
Nagdudusa naman na siya. Hirap na hirap na siya sa pinasok niya. Siya kasi sumasalo ng lahat ng gastos ngayon dahil walang work si girl. Si girl naman plano na daw magwork since nanganak na. Wish ko lang magbago na ng ugali yun. Siya na nga yung may bahong tinatago siya pa yung matapang. Masyadong makapal ang mukha. Hindi marunong mahiya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on June 28, 2017, 02:09:25 pm
^ Parehas lang. In the end, we always get what we deserve. Kawawa din naman yung asawa nya na nag work abroad na inahas din ni lalake. So fair lang kung magdusa din si lalake.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on June 28, 2017, 05:40:03 pm
^ Siguro may mga bagay lang talaga na dapat mangyari. Ganun siguro ang dapat talaga mangyari. Nadiagnose kasi ng cancer yun si girl. Hindi siya nagreach out sa husband. Ang tumutulong sa kanya ay yung guy na nakabuntis sa kanya. Yun ang naging sandalan niya. Hindi din siya inaalagaan ng pamilya niya. Yun din daw ang rason kung bakit hindi agad nahiwalayan ni guy si girl. Kasi hindi naman daw siya talaga seryoso dun kaso nadiagnose ng cancer. Nakokonsensya daw siya na iwanan basta basta kung kelan may cancer. Yun lang ang pangit kasi may nangyayari pa rin sa kanila. Parehong ma L. Si girl aminado din na sa ma L siya. L first before anything else. 😂
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on June 29, 2017, 01:56:20 pm
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. Kasi hindi naman daw siya talaga seryoso dun kaso nadiagnose ng cancer.

Maganda ang motive ni guy, pero nauwi sa ganun. Imagine, ok sana ang lahat kung di nag ganun. In other words, nanloko sa asawa. Parehas sila may fault. And I must say, nangyari na ang nangyari. Nagkamali na si guy, pero yung pagiging lalake nya ay ma define kung kaya nya panindigan ang consequences ng actions nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on June 29, 2017, 05:53:11 pm
Pinapanindigan naman niya yung consequences. Kung sa baby lang, walang problema dahil hindi niya pababayaan yung responsibility niya dun. Wala lang talaga siyang plano na maging pamilya sila. Dahil wala naman talaga siyang plano dun sa girl. At lalo din siguro magiging komplikado ang sitwasyon kung paninindigan niya yung pamilya sa isang kasal na babae na niloko ang asawa at inaayawan ang asawa para sa kabit niya. Kawawa lang din yung baby dahil wala siyang kalalakhang buong pamilya. Pero hindi naman yun isolated case diba. Marami namang lumaki sa ganung environment na napalaki pa rin ng maayos. Ang pangit rin naman na lalaki siya sa set up na kasal ang nanay niya sa iba pero ang kasa-kasama ibang lalaki.

Sabi ko nga eh, yung pagpirma nilang dalawa sa birth certificate ng baby. They are already admitting na nagcommit sila ng adultery. Mukhang may kaya pa naman yung asawa nung babae.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on June 30, 2017, 10:36:07 am
^ He is learning from his mistakes. If wala naman kasi pala sya planong seryosohin, bakit lumandi pa sya? O palagay natin na kinati lang sya,  bakit sa may asawa pa? Palagay natin na wala na syang magawa, pinatulan na nya, eh bakit di pa gumamit ng contraceptives? Madaming lapses akong nakikita sa judgment ni guy and he is paying for the consequences of his actions. He is learning from his mistakes kaya like what I've said, he deserves kung nahihirapan man sya. Pero, hindi yan maitatama kung lalo nyang tatakbuhan ang responsibilities nya dahil mas magbubunga lang lalo ng mas malalaking consequences yan. Wala sya magagawa dyan. Linisin nya ang kalat na ginawa nya. Kung kapit tuko na sa kanya yung nanay nung anak, eh wala na sya magagawa sya rin naman nagbigay ng dahilan kung bakit nagkaganun yun. In the end, wala syang ibang masisisi kundi sarili nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on June 30, 2017, 02:30:02 pm
Pareho lang naman sila ng girl ang may lapses sa judgement. Parehon lang silang g**o. Kay girl din naman mismo nanggaling na di masarap pag may condom. At sa kanya din nanggaling na kaya sila nagkasundo dahil pareho silang malibog. It takes two to tango daw diba. Both parties may malaking pagkakamali. Kaya siguro ganun kagulo sitwasyon nila. Nakakaloka! Sabi nga diba, simple lang naman sana ang buhay kung ika'y matino.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on June 30, 2017, 04:00:38 pm
^ Yes parehas sila. Kaya wag mag inarte si guy na naipit sya ni babae, dahil may kinalaman din sya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on July 12, 2017, 10:36:17 pm
Just want to know your thoughts on this. I found out my live in partner (we have a 1 yr old son) that he had or has been going to massage spas with extra service and has an account both sa happy budget meal and manila tonight site. I confronted him nung may mga unusual texts siya na narereceive about sa mga spa ang my minemessage siyang mga babae and nagalit kung ano ano nirason nya sabi ko nakita ko din sa grab yung history nya and talagang nagpupunta nga dun naka pin eh sa mga spa na yun..then  umamin din siya na nagpupunta nga dun pero wala daw siyang pinapagawa nagpa handjob lang daw nagtry siya.. pero nalaman ko since 2013 pala naagpupunta na siya dun mag boyfriend girlfriend pa lang kame non.  Sobrang devastasting talaga.. would you believe na wala siyang pinapagawa dun kundi handjob? I doubt it. :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on July 14, 2017, 08:08:30 am
some people can be so lucky talaga that the people who wronged them were dealth with the very heavy hand of karma agad agad. haaay.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: ArfMeow0101 on July 20, 2017, 12:16:04 am
Anong tingin nyo sa mga tipo ng gf na tinotolerate yung pagiging possessive o wala sa lugar na akto nung bf nila?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on July 20, 2017, 01:02:16 am
Depende kung gaano ang level ng possessiveness or wala sa lugar. Kung minsan kasi tayo na nakakakita feeling natin sobra na, pero dun sa taong involve balewala lang sa kanya, yung ganung situation dedma lang ako. Buhay nila yun and siya nga na may katawan di nagrereklamo ako pa kaya na ususera lang. Pero ibang level naman yung umaabot na sa verbal, physical and mental abuse ang pagiging possessive. Pagganyan pagsasabihin ko, try to convince her na mali na yung nangyayari pero kung magstick siya sa ganung sitwasyon bahala siya. Gusto niya pakatang* e.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jaded123 on July 23, 2017, 01:31:48 am
Hi guys, i need advice.
My bf and i rarely have sex. Naiisip ko nga sayang lang yung pills ko. I tried to talk to him already siguro mga twice na, it always lead up to a fight na hindi ako makuntento and i ask for too much.

Outside of this, he makes time for me everyday and his quite open on every social media account he have. Sweet din naman sya. When we started dating madalas naman. Then he told me twice a week is too much then tumawad ako na once a week na lang. Pero ngayon sobrang rare na.

Honestly. This has messed up my self esteem. I feel unwanted.
Yung mga attempts ko dati, laging may dahilan, pagod, sa sabado na lang etc etc. So i stopped initiating it kasi sobrang low na yung pakiramdam ko na i have to ask for it and get rejected palagi from my own bf.
I have no plans of cheating on him pero nakakasakit din pala yung laging narreject. Kapag hinahawakan nya ako ng medyo may malisya, ayaw ko na, sinasabi ko na hindi na sanay yung katawan ko na may hawak  na ganun.

Last time we done it maybe about a month ago, naisip ko gusto ko naman din. Pero it felt bad. Hindi na ako nagwwet nor nasasarapan. I don't know how to get it back. I'm tired of asking for it kasi lagi naman akong di pinagbibigyan. Tried it last weekend dun pa ko sa kanila natulog. Wala din naman. Help guys :( i need advice.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on July 23, 2017, 07:36:45 pm
^ hmm sis this seemed to be a persistent problem of your relationship, on one of your posts here you also said na he doesn't try to satisfy you. (and that post was like a year ago pa ata)
if you're not happy about it and you're not comfortable in bed with him anymore, feeling ko ha, okay naman na you just try to cool it off or distance yourself from him. malaki din kasing part ng relationship ang sex life.
men are sensitive about matters of sexuality kasi. maybe that's why he doesn't listen at all to you? btw gano katanda na ba siya? di ba kayo close that he will snap up at you when you try to talk about it? if he cant take criticisms then it's time to reevaluate your entire relationship. it's like kasi na sa inyong 2, he feels he's the one more knowledgeable and thus siya ang masusunod and wala kang karapatan i-air out ang opinion mo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: DalagangPinay on August 07, 2017, 08:56:04 pm
Hi,

ask ko lang kung anong ibig sabihin nang "hindi daw ako mahirap mahalin" at nararamdaman daw niya yun kasi close kami sa isa't isa.
Meron kasi akong guyfriend na kawork ko at umamin na may gusto pala siya sa akin.
Medyo hindi ko na gets kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.
Hanggang ngayon palaisipan parin sa akin kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.

Anyway, NBSB ako and 25 years old.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AkosiBella on August 08, 2017, 02:36:43 am
^ type mo ba siya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on August 08, 2017, 03:28:27 pm
Declaration of love lang ibig sabihin niyan parang ineexplain lang na nagkagusto siya sayo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on August 11, 2017, 12:46:57 am
Hi,

ask ko lang kung anong ibig sabihin nang "hindi daw ako mahirap mahalin" at nararamdaman daw niya yun kasi close kami sa isa't isa.
Meron kasi akong guyfriend na kawork ko at umamin na may gusto pala siya sa akin.
Medyo hindi ko na gets kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.
Hanggang ngayon palaisipan parin sa akin kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.

Anyway, NBSB ako and 25 years old.

Male here, I suggest not to focus much on what people say, but on what they do. People can say a lot of things naman pero at the end of the day it is our actions that matter.

Just to share a story, there was a time when I really fell in love with a girl who was in a relationship. she had feelings for me pero let's just say that it wasn't enough. pero she was really confusing, kasi in some ways yung words niya eh pinapaasa niya parin ako. I explained this sa close friend ko na girl, and she told me na kung mahal ka talaga ng girl gagawin niya lahat at iiwan niya yang boyfriend niya. The reason she said that was because yung husband niya daw iniwan ang sarili niyang family kahit masakit para sa kanya, just to be with her.

So to sum it up, if gusto ka talaga ng guy then he will make an effort para makasama ka niya no matter what. Don't focus on the words too much.

And just a tip, play hard to get pero not too much! If he senses kasi na madali ka lang makuha usually this means bad news sa girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: geraldita03 on August 14, 2017, 01:44:47 pm
Hi guys, i need advice.
My bf and i rarely have sex. Naiisip ko nga sayang lang yung pills ko. I tried to talk to him already siguro mga twice na, it always lead up to a fight na hindi ako makuntento and i ask for too much.

Outside of this, he makes time for me everyday and his quite open on every social media account he have. Sweet din naman sya. When we started dating madalas naman. Then he told me twice a week is too much then tumawad ako na once a week na lang. Pero ngayon sobrang rare na.

Honestly. This has messed up my self esteem. I feel unwanted.
Yung mga attempts ko dati, laging may dahilan, pagod, sa sabado na lang etc etc. So i stopped initiating it kasi sobrang low na yung pakiramdam ko na i have to ask for it and get rejected palagi from my own bf.
I have no plans of cheating on him pero nakakasakit din pala yung laging narreject. Kapag hinahawakan nya ako ng medyo may malisya, ayaw ko na, sinasabi ko na hindi na sanay yung katawan ko na may hawak  na ganun.

Last time we done it maybe about a month ago, naisip ko gusto ko naman din. Pero it felt bad. Hindi na ako nagwwet nor nasasarapan. I don't know how to get it back. I'm tired of asking for it kasi lagi naman akong di pinagbibigyan. Tried it last weekend dun pa ko sa kanila natulog. Wala din naman. Help guys :( i need advice.

i think it's because you aren't married that's why you can't be satisfied or fulfilled after having sex. iba kasi talaga yung fulfilment if done kung kasal na kaysa hindi pa plus you'll feel the guilt afterwards din.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 14, 2017, 01:50:41 pm
Hi guys, i need advice.
My bf and i rarely have sex. Naiisip ko nga sayang lang yung pills ko. I tried to talk to him already siguro mga twice na, it always lead up to a fight na hindi ako makuntento and i ask for too much.

Outside of this, he makes time for me everyday and his quite open on every social media account he have. Sweet din naman sya. When we started dating madalas naman. Then he told me twice a week is too much then tumawad ako na once a week na lang. Pero ngayon sobrang rare na.

Honestly. This has messed up my self esteem. I feel unwanted.
Yung mga attempts ko dati, laging may dahilan, pagod, sa sabado na lang etc etc. So i stopped initiating it kasi sobrang low na yung pakiramdam ko na i have to ask for it and get rejected palagi from my own bf.


Hi Sis, Happened to me to. We usually do the deed once or twice a week pati nung before pa kame magsama. Pero kapag may times na I feel na one week na tapos wala..ni makipag kita eh ayaw nya..I tried to initiate but then I also get rejected most of the times. He said that he is tired and all.

Maybe you should see if he is watching porn or going somewhere like bars, massage parlours that offers extra. Because that's what happened to me, may kinahuhumalingan pala or na loloko na sa mga porn and extra services.

Pero baka naman nga ganyan siya talaga hinde mahilig or stress and overworked talaga.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 14, 2017, 01:52:01 pm
Posibleng sadyang hindi mahilig bf niya dahil eversince ganun naman siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drharleyquinnmd on August 15, 2017, 04:55:34 pm
Question:
Guys, will you court a single mom or will you even fall in love with her pag nagpakita siya ng motibo tas may nangyari sa inyo? Single din si guy. 10 years younger though :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on August 18, 2017, 04:32:18 pm
Question:
Guys, will you court a single mom or will you even fall in love with her pag nagpakita siya ng motibo tas may nangyari sa inyo? Single din si guy. 10 years younger though :(

There's a chance naman, although I'll admit rare sa guys yung mas gusto yung girls na older sa kanila.  Pero the fact na may nangyari sa inyo means merong attraction somehow. Whether he's willing to be in a serious relationship, we can't really say, siya lang talaga makakapagsabi.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 18, 2017, 05:01:50 pm
^Single mom ako ah pero honestly di ko liligawan or seseryosohin yung babaeng nagbibigay ng motibo. Kasi iisipin ko nasa personality na ata niya ang pagiging easy to get kasi siya pa nagbibigay ng motibo at nauwi pa sa sex. As a single mom magkaroon naman tayo ng kadalaan sa buhay. Wag bigay ng bigay ng motibo sa guy. Kasi tutuka lang mga yan dahil palay na lumalapit sa manok. Pagtinuka ka wag mo guluhin isip mo na baka liligawan or seseryosohin na ni guy. Wag paasahin ang sarili.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on August 18, 2017, 06:26:57 pm
^^ not a guy pero minsan natatanong ko din yan sa mga guy friends ko and bf. kung seseryosohin ba ang single mom. and im not saying all, but most of them, may mga checklist daw talaga and isa dun is ang milf. dont give yourself away too easily kasi may "tingin" ang mga lalaki na "easy to get" kasi nga nabuntis. and tingin nila, wild sila in a way kasi nga nabuntis agad. so be careful and siguraduhin mo muna yung motive ng lalaki. if he's serious or he just want to check some of his list. wag ka masyado magmadali na ma-inlove. and make sure he falls in love with your child as well. love is not a race kaya d mo kailangan makipag-unahan. i dont know if you will agree, pero medyo iba na din kasi ang dating if yung babaeng aggressive is single sa may anak e. pag single na aggressive, people will think na she's just liberated or wild. pero pag single mom ang aggressive, iisipin agad ng mga tao, ah kaya nabuntis. and im sure you dont want to be labelled as that. :) chill ka lang. if a guy really wants you, he will pursue you. believe me. my dad was single when he met my mom. widow with 3 children and yet it didnt stop him from pursuing her. inaayawan na sya ng mom ko ah! kasi nga status nya is single mom with 3 kids and yet my dad wanted to be with her, ngayon 6 kaming magkakapatid and hanggang ngayon magkasama parin sila and me and my other siblings all love each other. pang-inspire lang. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: luckysiete on August 18, 2017, 08:00:08 pm
Anong masasabi niyo sa lalaking nagger?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 18, 2017, 08:09:45 pm
Anong masasabi niyo sa lalaking nagger?

My dad is a big nagger. As in he nags at little things and then makes a huge deal out of them. He brings back the past and previous issues out of nowhere and will talk about it for hours. When he is mad he will nag and nag about it and even say some examples. I honestly hate it.
I guess what you should do whenever he nags is to go away for a while, like go to the mall or outside the house and do not talk back or wag na patulan just let him nag and be quiet.
Yung dad ko never nagbago eh nakuha ko na din ata yung ugali nya haha. Pero he loves us and my mom so much un lang talaga he nags a lot.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 18, 2017, 08:34:46 pm
haay! parang ang hirap hindi patulan. hehe!! Pero pag pagod na ko I do silent. Kahit konting bagay napapansin. Nakakastress sa totoo lang. Minsan naiisip ko, may sayad na ata to or kulang ka ba sa pansin sa pagmamahal? Ano ka bata? Ganun ata talaga ang personality niya na hindi ko kayang tanggapin. Buti natagalan ng mama mo yung ganong ugali ng dad mo?

Sis ganyang ganyan ang dad ko small things pinag iinit ng ulo nya then he will nag for hours about it iduduk duk nya sayo paulit ulit. hahaha...sabi ng Mom ko di daw kasi pinapansin yan ng parents kaya daw ganun haha.

Yeah sobrang pasensya ng nanay ko as in bilib na bilib ako sobra.. like what I said hinde nya pinapansin..kung baga pasok sa tenga labas sa kabila parang ganyan..saka yun nga umaalis siya ng bahay babalik nalang pag tapos na magdaldal yung Dad ko. hahaha

For me sis, as long as di ka nya sinasaktan physical and yung sinasabi nya eh hinde naman emotional blackmailing, kung never siya nagcheat sayo dahil pinakamasakit is betrayal talaga  or kung good provider siya naman talaga at maalaga eh habaan mo nalang pasensya mo at yun nga isip ka ng ways para mahandle yung ganun nya..mahirap kasi magbago yung ganyan. My dad is 70 yrs old na and still the same.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: glamorosa_09 on August 18, 2017, 09:32:11 pm
Lalaking nagger for hours at nagkakalkal ng lumang issues? Nacurious naman ako... So far dalawang type pa lang yung naencounter kong may symptom na ganyan, isang verbal abuser at isang may autism (pero adolescent yung naencounter ko). May mga high funtional people with autism naman eh. Yung adolescent, salita ng salita dahil di binalik yung ballpen na hiniram sa kanya.

Kung yun lang naman ang natatanging kakaiba sa kanila, at the rest naman ng habits and ugali are like any others, baka nagger lang talaga...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 18, 2017, 10:30:33 pm
^Single mom ako ah pero honestly di ko liligawan or seseryosohin yung babaeng nagbibigay ng motibo. Kasi iisipin ko nasa personality na ata niya ang pagiging easy to get kasi siya pa nagbibigay ng motibo at nauwi pa sa sex. As a single mom magkaroon naman tayo ng kadalaan sa buhay. Wag bigay ng bigay ng motibo sa guy. Kasi tutuka lang mga yan dahil palay na lumalapit sa manok. Pagtinuka ka wag mo guluhin isip mo na baka liligawan or seseryosohin na ni guy. Wag paasahin ang sarili.

Uy, single mom here pero hindi ako nabuntis ng hindi kasal. Virgin pa nga ako ng kinasal ako at an EARLY age of 31...LOL! I got pregnant by my husband. The marriage didn't last so I now  fall under the of single mom category. But I do understand may common belief na especially sa Pilipinas na kapag nabuntis out of wedlock ay malalandi or easy to get. But whether you're a single mom or not, wag dapat babae manliligaw sa lalake. Hindi ka talaga seseryosohin lalo sa Pilipinas.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 18, 2017, 10:58:59 pm
^True. Yan ang ibig ko sabihin na wag magbibigay ng motibo sa mga lalake kasi iisipin kaya pala naging single mom kasi easy to get. Ok lang sana na ganyan ang lifestyle kung hindi umaasa si girl na liligawan at seseryosohin siya ni guy. Pakatino din naman tayo para mahanap natin yung talagang mamahalin tayo hindi dahil nagbigay tayo ng motibo or naka-sex lang natin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on August 19, 2017, 04:14:51 pm
^^ sis kvandenhaak true sis!
Same here. Panahon natin uso ang virgin nagpapakasal. Then tsaka nagkakaanak, not the other way around.

And it took me a long long while to also accept the fate to become a single mom.

When I started dating, iyan ang nasa isip ko if may s-seryoso na guy. But the answer is yes so long as you keep your standards. Have a checklist and have those negotiable and non negotiable traits/character/bio data.

Sis drharleyquinnmd - 10 years younger palang - dapat bagsak na sayo. Pero sige granted ok si guy, but sleeping with him pero Hindi pa kayo serious with each other or di ka pa nililigawan? Wala na. Worse, you gave him all pa by making it known to him you like (love?) him. Wala, he definitely will walk away.
Minsan nga in dating, rule 101 ko eh never ever let him know that you really really like (like palang ha) him.  Parang pakipot pero show interest. I think that should be more than enough.

And yes I agree, don't ever make habol sa guy, please! You're worth more than that. Isipin mo nalang ano dapat mong gawin para di ka ikahiya ng mga anak mo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: ladystark on August 19, 2017, 10:23:21 pm
Guys, paano nyo nalalaman if may gusto sainyo yung girl?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 19, 2017, 10:57:31 pm
^Sis karamihan ng lalake feelingero lang, feeling lahat ng babae na matingin sa kanila may gusto sa kanila hahaha. Dami kong kakilala na ganyan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on August 20, 2017, 12:46:28 am
Guys, paano nyo nalalaman if may gusto sainyo yung girl?

when she laughs at my stupid and unfunny jokes.  ;D

pag parang interested siya masyado, nagsspend ng time. merong mga aggressive na girls na sinasabi na talaga nila. pero minsan we're clueless rin talaga kasi minsan girls are being nice lang talaga.

ang tanong is bakig yan ang question mo hehe
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sigh on August 22, 2017, 06:21:04 pm
Bf recently shared that he used to go to those massage parlors with extra service. I know that is in the past and we've talked about it but I'm not sure I've accepted it 100%. Now I'm worried because he'll be attending a stag party with strippers. I trust him but how do I overcome this feeling of insecurity and disgust? 😔
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 22, 2017, 06:44:27 pm
Bf recently shared that he used to go to those massage parlors with extra service. I know that is in the past and we've talked about it but I'm not sure I've accepted it 100%. Now I'm worried because he'll be attending a stag party with strippers. I trust him but how do I overcome this feeling of insecurity and disgust? 😔

Hi Sis, I just recently found out about my partner going into these massage spas with extra service. To think he has been doing it for years and I just found out nung naglive in na kame because we had a baby. True yung woman's instinct no..medyo napansin ko madalas siya magpamassage etc then I checked his grab history and confirmed the spas have extra in them.. so ayon nahuli ko. I love him but do not trust him anymore, I am just living with him mainly because of my son. And whenever he goes out I am so strict as in nagpapa picture ako asan na siya ano ginagawa nya etc. Although he said na hindi na siya babalik dun, I super doubt talaga. Ang hirap lang ng situation kasi we cannot control them. Sila talaga yung may control sa lahat ng gagawin nila and if choice nila yun wala tayong magagawa.  Siguru gawin mo nalang is ireverse psych mo like tell him you trust him that he'll not do anything that will harm your safety especially health safety dahil nakakatakot magkasakit and if hindi ka kampante siguru magpa blow by blow report ka hahaha ng ginagawa nya dun or kung san na siya naka uwi na siya pero maiirita yun for sure.
Ang pinaka huli at importante is mag pray. Mag pray ka na i clear ang mind nya from perverted thoughts and i-guide siya sa tamang decision. heheh
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on August 22, 2017, 07:22:23 pm
Bf recently shared that he used to go to those massage parlors with extra service. I know that is in the past and we've talked about it but I'm not sure I've accepted it 100%. Now I'm worried because he'll be attending a stag party with strippers. I trust him but how do I overcome this feeling of insecurity and disgust? 😔

Non-negotiable mo ba sa partner na dapat di siya nakakadiri o nagkaron ng kadiring nakaraan? Kung oo, walang makakatulong na maovercome mo yan. Rooted sa values ang non-negos at di yun basta basta napapalitan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sigh on August 22, 2017, 09:20:26 pm
^ Not really kasi I never entertained that idea. My exes didn't do that kaya medyo di ko inexpect so I don't know how to handle it. Pinayagan ko naman sya umattend nun stag party but di ko alam pano sabihin yun restrictions sana. I don't want him to think that I don't trust him.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on August 22, 2017, 09:33:00 pm
^sis pano nya nashare yang info na yan? Did it come suddenly or were you talking about somethig similar at nabanggit nya? Was he serious about it, apologetic ba, was he joking?

I would never understand people who pay for sex, but I think it's a step forward na he told you about it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on August 22, 2017, 10:42:26 pm
Me too parang hirap mag trust sa lalaking may past sa espakol experience.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 22, 2017, 11:00:29 pm
Me too parang hirap mag trust sa lalaking may past sa espakol experience.

Oo sis parang nasa sistema na nila yun. Anytime parang pag ginusto nila bumalik gagawin nila.. addictive din siya. Sabi nila for most men it is not cheating, they just go there for release and that's it for  the women's POV it is cheating and scary yung diseases na makukuha if ever.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on August 23, 2017, 12:36:51 am
i can't say anything to defend guys haha.. shut up nalang ako
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 23, 2017, 05:01:31 am
A guy I dated last year butt dialed my number today. Hindi maganda kami naghiwalay kasi I told the other girl he was also dating na sabay kami. He was really mad saying he will delete everything about me on his phone. So, how the heck did he butt dialed my number? Anyway, I sent him a text message telling him that he accidentally dialed my number and that I am in a much better and happier place. That I don't regret what I did because he deserved it and told him to not bother me anymore...lol! Nagulat ako kasi nakapag-reply pa. He said, "That's good. I am happy for you!" Whaaa...?

Anyway, what's the chances of you guys really butt dialing your ex's number? Hindi pa kasi nagyari sa akin. I mean, it will require me to unlock my phone, go to contacts and choose a specific name/number.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on August 23, 2017, 08:49:25 am
^ di ka pa niya nakakalimutan,  haha..  rare yon bigla or asidente na dial no.  mo.  Kala ko ba binura na niya ang number mo? 
Nag bakasakali lang siya sis  na  baka maging okay kayo ulit 😊
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on August 23, 2017, 09:58:32 am
Question:
Guys, will you court a single mom or will you even fall in love with her pag nagpakita siya ng motibo tas may nangyari sa inyo? Single din si guy. 10 years younger though :(

Kung gusto siya ni guy before pa may mangyari sa kanila maaari ma-fall siya. Dami kasing factors like gaano na kayo katagal magkakilala, how is he ba bago pa may mangyari - manyak manyak ba siya/gusto napaguusapan sex? Some women kasi minsan ginagamit ang sex para magustuhan sila ng lalaki which is sobrang mali and yes magmumukhang easy yung girl. 10 years younger = 30% less chance na seryoso siya.

If ikaw yung girl and gusto mong malaman intentions niya sayo stop having sex and avoid sex talks na lang, dun mo malalaman if he is real or pakboi lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 23, 2017, 10:27:40 am
^hi bro parang naghiatus ka ah

Sis makinig ka kay bro tomhansen, nung panahon na loka-loka ako siya ang counselor ko
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sigh on August 23, 2017, 10:43:38 am
Hi Sis, I just recently found out about my partner going into these massage spas with extra service. To think he has been doing it for years and I just found out nung naglive in na kame because we had a baby. True yung woman's instinct no..medyo napansin ko madalas siya magpamassage etc then I checked his grab history and confirmed the spas have extra in them.. so ayon nahuli ko. I love him but do not trust him anymore, I am just living with him mainly because of my son. And whenever he goes out I am so strict as in nagpapa picture ako asan na siya ano ginagawa nya etc. Although he said na hindi na siya babalik dun, I super doubt talaga. Ang hirap lang ng situation kasi we cannot control them. Sila talaga yung may control sa lahat ng gagawin nila and if choice nila yun wala tayong magagawa.  Siguru gawin mo nalang is ireverse psych mo like tell him you trust him that he'll not do anything that will harm your safety especially health safety dahil nakakatakot magkasakit and if hindi ka kampante siguru magpa blow by blow report ka hahaha ng ginagawa nya dun or kung san na siya naka uwi na siya pero maiirita yun for sure.
Ang pinaka huli at importante is mag pray. Mag pray ka na i clear ang mind nya from perverted thoughts and i-guide siya sa tamang decision. heheh

Thanks sis but I'm not the type kasi to demand things from the bf. Gusto ko kusa nya gagawin and if he does not feel like doing something so be it.  I agree pinag prpray ko nalang na he's really over that phase.

@simang-- I asked him kasi how he lost his virginity. Then he told me that so nag ask na ako further like how many times has he gone there and when was the last time. Mga almost a year before we met and nag explain pa sya na sinasama lang daw sya ng friends. D pa kasi nag ka gf si boyfie before me.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on August 23, 2017, 10:45:01 am
I forgot to ask.. what to do when you caught your husband/partner watching porn?
Kasi kanina madaling araw parang naaling pungatan ako when I opened my eyes nakita ko parang nanunuod siya ng porn then gumalaw ako para makarandam na nagising ako, nung pa sneak out ako ulit kunwari tulog bigla na Fafacebook na..  hayyy na sad ako bigla.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iam_me on August 23, 2017, 11:17:00 am
karamihan naman sa mga guys nag wa watch ng porn, siguro kung ayaw mo ng ganun kausapin mo na lang si hubby tungkol dun , sa kin kasi ok lang nakaka turn on , nakaka add din ng excitement sa sex life, talk to your man na lang :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: luckysiete on August 23, 2017, 03:06:48 pm
I caught my husband watching porn many times already. Nung una nagalit ako but eventually nasanay na din ako. Alam ko kasi na may pagkukulang din ako lalo na pag pagod sa work.

Ask your husband why he watches porn. Be honest to tell him your not comfortable with it. If you think may pagkukulang ka or he is not satisfy then you can work things out.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 23, 2017, 04:30:27 pm
Well I saw my partner too medyo madalas. Sabi nila eh kapag walang magawa or madameng time talagang madalas sila magrelease lalo pag bored sila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on August 24, 2017, 12:47:14 am
Alin ba yung isyu sis, nagpoporn siya mismo o yung tinatago niya sayo na nagpoporn siya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 24, 2017, 04:37:45 am
I think it's kind of normal for guys to look at porn. Kahit pastors and priests tumitingin dyan. I will  be concerned only when it becomes an addiction. When it is affecting his life in general.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: naizlabonita on August 24, 2017, 04:36:40 pm
I think it's kind of normal for guys to look at porn. Kahit pastors and priests tumitingin dyan. I will  be concerned only when it becomes an addiction. When it is affecting his life in general.
True sis when it became addiction na and when it comes to a point na mas prefer na niya ang porn kesa sa real person or sa partner nya then it is a problem.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on August 25, 2017, 07:50:38 am
im already turning 50 but i still watch porn occasionally
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iamnicolecruz88 on August 26, 2017, 01:14:06 am
I have this one guy friend (technically best friend) and most of his friends a girls. Kami mismo sa barkada siya lang ang guy.. he's adorable really.. knows how to handle himself among us, very polite.. I like him, but kinakabahan lang ako kasi mahina ang radar ko. I know he's a loner-tyow ever since, medyo nerdy din.. haaay how to know??
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on August 27, 2017, 03:51:18 pm
even if loner siya and nerdy, magpaparamdam parin naman yan or magshoshow ng concern if truly interested siya sa girl. siguro mas less compared sa mga outspoken pero still there should still be clues.

check his body language pagkasama ka niya. sometimes even the way he speaks can give you some hints. like if masyado siyang interested sa mga kwento mo, or minsan ginagaya niya na yung words mo. there are a lot of tips pero i'm not so good with these things haha. if he talks about you sa iba mong friends all the time then that can be a good sign.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 27, 2017, 04:43:06 pm
Kahit ano pang paramdam ng guy it is hard to be sure na may gusto nga sa iyo ang isang guy. Baka kasi nami-misinterpret lang ng girl ang kabaitan or pagka-gentleman ng guy. Ako hindi basta nagbibigay ng malisya sa kinikilos ng guy maski pa napapansin ng ibang tao na iba ang treatment ni guy sa akin. Mas gusto ko na sa bibig ni guy mismo manggaling at hindi sa paramdam lang. Baka ako iniisip ko type niya ako yun pala sibling-love lang napi-feel niya for me. Kaya andaming guys napagbibintangan na "pa-fall" kasi may mga girls na assuming.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iamnicolecruz88 on August 27, 2017, 05:52:30 pm
Kinakabahan kasi ako na baka sisterly love lang din ang ibibigay niya :( Sana hindi. I like him pa naman and I would like him to know.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on August 27, 2017, 09:21:28 pm
^hi bro parang naghiatus ka ah

Sis makinig ka kay bro tomhansen, nung panahon na loka-loka ako siya ang counselor ko

hahaha di naman, minsan nalalate ako sa mga threads kaya di nakakasagot pero nagbabasa pa rin ako palagi dito sa Relationships.

I have this one guy friend (technically best friend) and most of his friends a girls. Kami mismo sa barkada siya lang ang guy.. he's adorable really.. knows how to handle himself among us, very polite.. I like him, but kinakabahan lang ako kasi mahina ang radar ko. I know he's a loner-tyow ever since, medyo nerdy din.. haaay how to know??
Since bestfriend niyo naman siya idaan mo/niyo sa biro kapag magkakasama kayo - itease niyo then baka dun makakuha ka ng info kung may nililigawan siya or kung meron siyang type na girl(or wala) sa ngayon. Hopefully after nun maging open siya sa inyo about sa feelings niya (or sa feelings niya sa iyo kung meron).
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Ms. Undecided on August 29, 2017, 10:29:15 am
Ask  ko lang, paano mo malalaman kung hindi na interested sayo ang boyfriend mo? Curious lang po hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on August 29, 2017, 11:41:04 am
Ask  ko lang, paano mo malalaman kung hindi na interested sayo ang boyfriend mo? Curious lang po hehe.

madalas me alibi, walang time, busy palagi
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on August 29, 2017, 10:24:43 pm
Ask  ko lang, paano mo malalaman kung hindi na interested sayo ang boyfriend mo? Curious lang po hehe.

Hindi ba just ask him? If you are starting to feel neglected or parang nababawasan ang thoughtfulness nya, just ask him.

Style ko is talk to him and ask him straight. Just make sure you are open to hear the truth, even if it hurts. And be ready to walk out kung di na sya talaga interested.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 29, 2017, 10:39:06 pm
It's easy to tell if he is losing interest. Palaging busy at walang time to see you is one if it. Walang busy pag gusto ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on August 30, 2017, 05:33:16 am
Malalaman mo pag wala ng interest si bf kapag:
-Ikaw lang ang eeffort
-Ikaw lang lagi may time
-Daming alibi at lahat ng alibi nya justified kuno.
-konti galaw mo nakikita or puro mali lang nakikita sayo
-kung dati madalas kayo magkita baka now kung hindi mo pa awayin kita ka dadalawin
-etc.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Ms. Undecided on August 30, 2017, 11:09:02 am
I see. Interested pa pala siya sakin. hahaha. Natanong ko lang kasi may nagtanong lang din sakin :) Salamat :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drharleyquinnmd on September 07, 2017, 02:01:05 pm
Kung gusto siya ni guy before pa may mangyari sa kanila maaari ma-fall siya. Dami kasing factors like gaano na kayo katagal magkakilala, how is he ba bago pa may mangyari - manyak manyak ba siya/gusto napaguusapan sex? Some women kasi minsan ginagamit ang sex para magustuhan sila ng lalaki which is sobrang mali and yes magmumukhang easy yung girl. 10 years younger = 30% less chance na seryoso siya.

If ikaw yung girl and gusto mong malaman intentions niya sayo stop having sex and avoid sex talks na lang, dun mo malalaman if he is real or pakboi lang.

it's complicated na.  i see him with another girl from our office. kami, hanggang ngitian lang. i think he's ashamed of being seen with me coz i am a single mom. i don't know.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on September 09, 2017, 02:18:34 am
it's complicated na.  i see him with another girl from our office. kami, hanggang ngitian lang. i think he's ashamed of being seen with me coz i am a single mom. i don't know.

if he really likes you then kahit single mom ka it doesn't matter. for example i am friends with this single mom and  i even think she's super hot and very fun to be with. single moms can be very sexy you know and you'll be surprised how many men care less whether may anak na yung girl.

pero just a piece of advice, and i strongly feel that this is the correct advice (lol), I really think you should NOT exert effort para mabalik yung attention niya sayo. just focus on a being better version of yourself all the time. the more na habulin mo yan the more he'll feel in control sa situation. ika nga dun sa ad ni elen adarna, the best revenge is to be the prettiest version of yourself (something like that).

i repeat, let him be lang. mind your own business kahit mahirap. I know your situation sucks pero like i said it will worsen the situation if maramdaman niyang interested ka pa or maghahabol ka. believe me i'm a guy! he's currently in control and he knows it! don't make him feel na nanjan ka parin for him and that you still give a f*ck.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on September 09, 2017, 02:36:24 am
^Sobrang korek! And unless the guy actually professes his love to her, dapat me reserba. At least, that's what I learned in GT and from experience...lol! That way maiiwasan mo masyadong ma-attach. Bwiset kasi minsan yang mga lalake...lol!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drharleyquinnmd on September 09, 2017, 03:57:13 pm
^Sobrang korek! And unless the guy actually professes his love to her, dapat me reserba. At least, that's what I learned in GT and from experience...lol! That way maiiwasan mo masyadong ma-attach. Bwiset kasi minsan yang mga lalake...lol!

he told me ayaw nya pumasok sa relationship tas may ganung eksena with someone else. haha kainis lang. Guys paki explain why do you say na ayaw nyo pumasok sa relationship tas haharot kayo ng iba?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on September 09, 2017, 05:21:45 pm
^when guys say they don't want to be in a relationship, they usually mean they don't want to be in a relationship with you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on September 10, 2017, 06:39:10 pm
^ so on point!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on September 10, 2017, 07:52:13 pm
it's complicated na.  i see him with another girl from our office. kami, hanggang ngitian lang. i think he's ashamed of being seen with me coz i am a single mom. i don't know.

NO its not because he's ashamed because you're a single mom, sigurado he's just there for sex sa simula pa lang. And i'm sure ginagawa niya rin yan kahit sa mga hindi single moms kaya wag mong isipin na yun ang reason. Wag mo ring isipin na it's complicated because it's not, you like him he doesn't like you yun lang yun sis at gaya ng sabi nila dami pang lalaki diyan.

.. Guys paki explain why do you say na ayaw nyo pumasok sa relationship tas haharot kayo ng iba?
Para di magexpect ang babae na may mabubuong relationship kahit  may nangyayari na sa inyo. Ayaw niya sayo but if sex lang ang gusto mo pagbibigyan ka niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on September 10, 2017, 09:12:47 pm
The question is why do we make men appear like they are complex individuals when the truth is they aren't? They are simple to read, you don't even need a clue. They are telling you, right in front of our faces their real intentions by their actions. They don't need to verbalize everything. Tayo lang mga babae madadrama. We make excuses for them, we tolerate their b******t. Simple lang. If they like you, you will know and it will show!

#hugot

LOL!  😂
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on September 10, 2017, 09:21:06 pm
tama si tomhansen sis. NEVER ever be insecure because of your son/daughter. he/she is your greatest blessing in your life and no one should ever make you feel less (of a person) for being a mother.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on September 10, 2017, 09:44:34 pm
he told me ayaw nya pumasok sa relationship tas may ganung eksena with someone else. haha kainis lang. Guys paki explain why do you say na ayaw nyo pumasok sa relationship tas haharot kayo ng iba?

Kapag humaharot sa iba, it doesn't mean they want a relationship. In fact it's the opposite. Sige patuloy ang pag flirt nyan. They're enjoying their being single. Ganun lang naman. May K naman siguro sya mag enjoy at buhay nya Yun.

And he didn't promise you anything, or did he?


Wag mo ring isipin na it's complicated because it's not, you like him he doesn't like you yun lang yun sis at gaya ng sabi nila dami pang lalaki diyan.

Or puede mo rin isipin he likes you. Kaya nga nya ikaw naikama. But maybe not liking you enough to warrant him to commit himself.
But perhaps you like him more than just a fling/friend. Kaya ka na disappoint.

One of the basic lessons in relationships kasi, at least for me... always be careful, lalo na sa first few months of getting to know him. I always make sure I don't overtake his feelings for me. Or ayoko umabot sa situation na mas gusto ko sya kesa sa gusto nya ko. Let him chase you and not the other way around. Kung ayaw nya, eh di huwag. Hanap ka iba. As if naman sya nalang ba ang lalaki sa mundo?


Para di magexpect ang babae na may mabubuong relationship kahit  may nangyayari na sa inyo. Ayaw niya sayo but if sex lang ang gusto mo pagbibigyan ka niya.

Somehow aren't you thankful na iniiwasan ka na nya? At may iba na syang ginagamit?
If ikaw parin kasi ang habol nya while not wanting to commit, eh di kaya hanggang fubu nalang abot nyo?

Buti he changed agad so You can move on agad and not be stuck there with nothing.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drharleyquinnmd on September 11, 2017, 05:51:29 pm
thanks sa inyo. nagexpect lang ako masyado and binigyan ko meaning lahat ng mga ginawa nya, lahat ng pagpplano nya. wala lang pala talaga lahat. hehe ouch lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iwannabeasupermodel on September 11, 2017, 08:16:45 pm
^ that's just okay. lahat naman tayo naging t**** when it comes to dating and relationship and most especially when it comes to love (count me in! maybe asa top 5 ako ng mga nagpakatanga sa pag-ibig lels). what's important is that we move on and that we get the lessons we needed in life to find the best one there is for us. yung nakatadhana talaga sa atin, ika nga nila. i bet you've experienced na when you looked back sa mga previous relationships mo, naisip mo shunga shunga mo bakit ka nagsayang ng luha and all sa taong yun etc etc. haha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on September 11, 2017, 09:49:45 pm
What actually is muscle control? I am wondering if I can do this. I was told kasi that I am grabbing his wiener so tight pero masarap daw.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on September 11, 2017, 11:40:48 pm
^Kegels ba sis? Masarap nga daw yan hehe. Parang iniipit mo lang yung pototoy nila, para kang nagpipigil ng wiwi.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on September 12, 2017, 12:30:35 am
^I don't know what kegel is..lol! I can flex my muscle down there but I didn't know my inside can do it too. So, yun ba yon...you flex it on purpose or kusa lang sya gumaganon?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on September 12, 2017, 07:06:18 am
he told me ayaw nya pumasok sa relationship tas may ganung eksena with someone else. haha kainis lang. Guys paki explain why do you say na ayaw nyo pumasok sa relationship tas haharot kayo ng iba?

it could be kasi na he'll feel bad kung direchuhin ka niya. it's not a good feeling to reject someone dahil siyempre sino ba namang gustong makasakit ng tao. kaya nga yung iba meron pang mga "hahanapin ko lang ang sarili ko etc etc" which sounds very cringey. it's very awkward rin kaya minsan parang read between the lines nalang. personally i still think may attraction naman considering na may nangyari and stuff. pero hindi naman enough yun at times. baka walang spark talaga, i dunno. i believe na tama yung mga advice sayo ng mga tao dito and it's best to leave him alone. kung gusto ka niya talaga then susuyuin ka rin nun. kung wala then move on.

don't be ashamed na single mom ka. mahiya ka lang siguro kung pabaya kang magulang. pero if you're very responsible then that can be attractive for men, kasi at the end of the day ang guys naman gusto mapakasalan yung responsableng girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: KeyserSoze on September 12, 2017, 07:35:41 am
Bwiset kasi minsan yang mga lalake...lol!

What?? Guys are more loyal than girls noh!
















































































































































HAHA i'm joking okay. ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on September 12, 2017, 09:05:36 am
it's complicated na.  i see him with another girl from our office. kami, hanggang ngitian lang. i think he's ashamed of being seen with me coz i am a single mom. i don't know.

I'm a single mom too and there is nothing shameful about it. I had ex bf's who introduced me to their  family and alam nila na may anak nako and i'm treated like one of their own. I dated guys na sa first date pa lang sinabi ko na agad na may anak ako and they still kept asking me out sadly hindi lang talaga kame compatible or timing is not on our side. I noticed there's no difference yung treatment nila sakin kung sinabi ko na may anak ako kasi minsan hindi ko sinasabi agad just to see kung may difference ba. Wala naman same lang.

It's all in the mindset and how you carry yourself. Guys like happy, positive, easy going, no drama, no baggage, non crazy type of women. Focus on being the best version of yourself and enjoy your life now. You will notice that guys will gravitate towards kahit hindi ka naghahanap. That's what happened to me the happier i am just being with myself the more guys want to be with me. I'm in my late 30's and i don't run out of suitors. Energy and aura kasi yan it's not something you say or do. It's just the way you are.



Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: luckysiete on September 12, 2017, 04:55:35 pm
kegel exercise is also done to tighten the vagina.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drharleyquinnmd on September 12, 2017, 05:06:06 pm
It's all in the mindset and how you carry yourself. Guys like happy, positive, easy going, no drama, no baggage, non crazy type of women. Focus on being the best version of yourself and enjoy your life now. You will notice that guys will gravitate towards kahit hindi ka naghahanap. That's what happened to me the happier i am just being with myself the more guys want to be with me. I'm in my late 30's and i don't run out of suitors. Energy and aura kasi yan it's not something you say or do. It's just the way you are.

nainspire naman ako dun sis. hehe i had ex bfs din naman who accepted me for me kaso the problem was me, not them nung time namen. thanks sa mga payo :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: ArfMeow0101 on September 16, 2017, 01:59:19 am
Guys, ano usually yung naiisip nyo pag di na kayo pinapansin nung girl na dating nagpakatanga sa inyo? Yung tipong 1 month pa lang, nakamove on na agad sya sayo haha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on September 16, 2017, 08:04:32 am

^ im not a guy pero tingin ko wala lang
Most of them are oblivious naman to these things. Mababaw.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on September 17, 2017, 08:37:47 pm
^^ yes wala lang and mabuti na yun maaga siyang nakapagmove on si girl life niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on September 22, 2017, 08:12:17 am
Guys gusto ko lang malaman pov nyo. My husband give me a suprise or gift dahil suprise sya un reaction ko sa gift so so lang. Before pa nya ako ibili ng suprise ask nyo ako if gusto ko ng "item" na un. Ang sagot ko ok lang pero sabi ko hindi ko pag aaksayahan ng pera. Then ito na binili ji hubby un item. My husband though na matutuwa ako kasi ang sagot ko ok lang. Nagtataka kasi ako bakit may gift so sabi nya buksan ko lang pag open ko alam ko nag register sa face ko ang disappointment. So si hubby dahil kilala naman nya ako. Alam nya hindi ko nagustuhan so nang mag ask sya if gusto ko un suprise nya. I tell him the truth kasi no choice din naman ako nasabihin ang totoo instead na magsinungaling ako kahit na iba naman naging reaction ko. Nakita ko hurt sa face nya hindi sya kumibo ng ilang minutes tapos pumunta sya sa veranda nagpahangin then nag siesta alam ko para mawala badtrip or inis. Hindi ko muna sya inamo or anything kasi gusto ko lipas muna inis. I feel so guilty kasi after nya gumisiung un nasira nya na lagayan ko ng accessories inayos pa nya. So nun mag gabi na nag sorry na ako. Sa kanya naman ok na although sabi nya nahurt sya. Kung kayo ba ano exactly nafefeel nyo if alam nyo hindi type ng gf/wife nyo binigay nyo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 22, 2017, 08:31:34 am
gaano katagal na kayong kasal? kasi parang di ka ganun kakilala ng asawa mo at hindi niya alam ang mga gusto mong bagay
and may i ask kung ano yung item na binigay niya sayo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on September 22, 2017, 08:47:57 am
^mag more than 2 years na kami kasal. Alam naman nya hindi ko gusto un hindi ko alam kung ano naisipan nya at binili pa rin nya. Actually concert ticket ni Katy Perry. We used to watch concert before but I realized na hindi na practical na manood ng concret lalo na sobrang mahal. Since last concert na nawatch namin sinabihan ko sya na last watch na namin un. Lalo ngayon may pinagiipunan kami.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 22, 2017, 09:11:34 am
mapapansin naman namin kung di gusto ng gf/wife namin yung binigay
kung gamit/damit siyempre di namin makikitang suot niya yun
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on September 22, 2017, 03:51:21 pm
Pag hindi type, di na uulit. Wala nang surprise in the future.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on September 22, 2017, 10:45:17 pm
^ di Kaya partly he likes to watch concerts? And syempre ikaw ang gusto nyang kasama

Minsan may mga things na hilig nila but para satin not worth paggastusan. Hayaan mo nalang this time and I think the best you could do is still go kasi mukhang gusto nya pumunta. Wala ka naman siguro balak ibenta yung tickets di ba?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on September 22, 2017, 11:16:16 pm
@lonely dad so anong nasaisip ng guy kapag alam mo hindi gusto ng wife mo ang binigay mo?

@shinies ang hilig pa naman sa suprises ni hubby.

@girltalker2 hindi na namin magagamit ang ticket kasi pinarefund na nya. Sabi nya kasi reward daw nya ang concert ticket for me kasi masaya with us ni baby and nakikita nya effort ko sa pag aasikaso sa kanilang mag ama. I feel so guilty nag iisip ako ngayon ng pambawi.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 23, 2017, 08:11:56 am
siyempre masama loob kasi sayang lang
halimbawa na lang kung damit tapos di mo nakikita sinusuot ano maiisip mo kung baligtarin natin?  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on September 23, 2017, 01:04:27 pm
^sabagay tama ka dyan. Babawi na lang ako.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 23, 2017, 01:11:08 pm
^sabagay tama ka dyan. Babawi na lang ako.

bibili ka rin ng concert ticket tapos bigay mo sa kanya?  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on September 24, 2017, 08:21:54 pm
^buti na lang madali bumawi sa asawa ko ipagluto ko lang sya na may kasama masahe at lambing ok na sya dun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 25, 2017, 10:13:34 am
^buti na lang madali bumawi sa asawa ko ipagluto ko lang sya na may kasama masahe at lambing ok na sya dun.

madali naman talaga kami suyuin eh  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on September 25, 2017, 12:09:57 pm
^Totoo yan. Basta mahal ka ng guy napakadali nilang suyuin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 25, 2017, 12:15:16 pm
^Totoo yan. Basta mahal ka ng guy napakadali nilang suyuin.

ang problema mapride masyado eh  :'(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on September 25, 2017, 01:33:09 pm
^Haha baka naman kasi si guy talaga ang mali kaya waiting din si girl na mageffort si guy. Lumalaki ulo ng lalake kapag laging si girl ang nagpapakumbaba.

I'm planning to give my bf a personalized pillow. Yung may pic ko haha. Sorry ha ambabaw talaga ng bf ko. Anything na may marka ko gusto niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lonely_dad on September 25, 2017, 01:52:19 pm
^ayos yun at least yakap niya lagi yung unan kahit di kayo magkasama  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on October 02, 2017, 06:50:54 am
^nope not normal sis.

My bf likes all my posts kahit yung mga pinaka walang kwenta. Madalas siya ang pinaka first sa like at laging may comments at love emojie pag selfie ang posts ko. we don?t have the ?in a relationship? status sa fb. We just never got around to changing it but it doesn?t affect the quality of our relationship.

Regarding like ng post ng workmate ok lang yun kasi ka work niya naman yun. Syempre lagi niya nakikita so parang nakikisama lang siya unless you think may malisya. I have ex officemates na guys na lagi nag la-like, minsan love emojie pa and madalas may comment na ?dyosa?, ?pinusuan ko na? mga ganun pero wala lang mga happily married guys na sila.

For me focus on the quality of your relationship in real life not the one you have virtually. Kasi kung solid and stable kayo in real life you don?t have to worry about anything else.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on October 02, 2017, 05:01:26 pm
Importante din ang virtual life ngayon (pwera na lang kung walang socmed accounts yung tao). Pwedeng petty yan para sa iba pero andiyan din yung issue na nag-iiba persona ng partner online.

Kung parte talaga ng activity ni BF ang maglike ng posts, dapat mas madaming like kay GF niya. Red flag yang mas nageeffort siya sa iba kesa GF niya.
Di naman pwede na sa virtual life niya, si workmate ang i-special treatment niya. Tapos supposedly kay GF special IRL lang. Kelangan consistent special si GF online at IRL ::)

bea31, sis mukhang madaming ibang problema.. Dapat magusap kayo ng masinsinan ni BF at ilatag niyo ano ba talaga mga issues niyo.
Maginternalize ka din kasi sabi mo kahit ex mo ganyan trato sayo..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 08, 2017, 04:43:08 pm
Is it normal na hindi malike ni boyfie post or pic ng gf? Pero sa workmate niyang girl, emoji reaction pa ang like at halos lahat ng post ng girl may reaction?

For me hindi ito normal. Dyan sa mga simpleng pa-like-like na yan at comments nagsisimula or nagkakaalaman ng current fling ng partner. Mababaw na basis siguro sa iba pero subok na yan. Kung ila-like niya yung iba bakit yung sa iyo di niya magawa na i-like? Sa bf ko nga ni-set pa niya ng "see first" ang mga post ko para di niya ma-missed.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: momlory on October 09, 2017, 04:54:08 pm
question po. May 2 akong friend yung isa nasa 8 years in a relationship nasa early 30s na sila ngayon pero hindi pa rin nag propropose yung lalake.

Another friend of mine 12 years na sila  early 30s age pero same din hindi pa rin nagpropose yung lalake. Sooner si guy nalaman niya na nakipagflirt sa iba. Sa ngayon hanging ang relationship nila for 2 years na. Pero siya pa rin daw pinili ng guy.

Bakit po may mga lalake na kahit nasa right age and with money naman to settle pero bakit hindi pa rin nasa isip na magpropose or ikasal?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on October 10, 2017, 08:02:08 am
^wala naman kasi iyan sa tagal ng relationship sis. Ever heard of people na months pa lang magka kilala kinasal na? Hindi kasi batayan ang years na pinag samahan. What is the quality of their relationship? Happy ba sila?

Most men kasi they have to be motivated to take action. And the girls have to state what they want. If they want marriage they should say it.

Age and financial status is not the only reason for guys to think about marriage. Are they ready emotionally, mentally, psychologically? I know a lot of guys na 40?s and 50?s na nag aasawa kasi dun pa lang nila na feel na ready na sila. And kung sino yung partner nila that time yun na ang papakasalan nila given na ok rin yung girl.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: momlory on October 10, 2017, 08:44:05 am
ok sis ako naman iniisip ko baka hindi pa rin kasi sila sure sa girl?
 Or maybe hindi pa rin sila handa physically, emotionally or kung anong reasons.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on October 23, 2017, 10:33:40 am
^ Possible na hindi sila sure sa girl... pero pinakamalaking factor jan is hindi pa sila sure sa sarili nila. Hindi sila sure if kaya ba nila mamuhay ng committed at ng may mga responsibilites and obligations.  May mga guys na kahit kakakkilala pa lang eh magpapakasal na, yun ay dahil sure sila sa gagawin nila at kung ano man ang hantungan ay paninindigan nila, except lang siguro sa case na happy go lucky at hindi alam ang meaning ng kasal kaya nagpakasal agad agad.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on October 24, 2017, 04:14:34 am
^relate ako dyan sa basta ready ang guy kahit pa bago lang kayo pakakasalan ka.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: annhalay on October 26, 2017, 09:31:32 pm
Question to guys!

This guy  said to me "its feels weird not talking to you all day" tapos one time we were talking tapos may nasabi ako that got he agreed to it and said "minsan gusto kitang pakasalan" in a joking tone.   is he dropping some hint that he likes me?? or overreact lang ako kasi im starting to like him? haha



BACKSTORY:
I have this officemate na cool, kalog din, kabiruan and  almost everyday halos kami lang magkausap kasi kami yung team sa tasks sa office namin. We dont talk much about our dating life kahit always kami naguusap but sure I know he is single naman.  at times  nagsmall talk naman kami about dating lang he would share na he'll go on a date or may ime-meet tapos he will ask me kung maganda daw yung girl iistalkin namin sa FB or instagram. At times he'll ask me if may dinedate din daw ba ako tapos gusto niya makita yung picture but I dont want to share so much to him. medyo weird lang kasi parang may onting spark na sa side ko pero syempre ayoko naman na masyadong mahalata lalo pa sa kanya baka magkaroon kami ng ilangan factor sa office at lalong nakakahiya if he finds out.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iamnicolecruz88 on October 27, 2017, 12:06:32 am
Nagpaparamdam na yang si guy sis. Mga pa simple na style. Tryin to reacg your radar. This stage is what I like about guys. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on October 27, 2017, 10:47:50 am
^^just to be sure, judge him by what he does not what he says. Kung sa mga actions niya he is showing that he likes you then he does. Guys says things in the moment then forgets all about it later. So huwag ka agad mag fall sa mga words lang.

And guys go hard for the girls they like. As in manliligaw or magpapa ramdam yan di nila kaya itago yung feelings nila. So if he is sending mixed signals then it?s probably that he enjoys your company and that?s just it. Observe mo pa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 27, 2017, 08:55:49 pm
^For me lang if he truly likes you sasabihin niya in a formal way, ibabakuran ka kasi baka maunahan pa ng ibang guys na handa manligaw ng formal. Hindi tulad niya puro pa-joke or parinig lang. Yung mga pa-joke na ganyang ?testing the waters? lang  yan, kung bibigay ka jackpot kung hindi naman atleast walang ego na nasaktan kasi indirect naman paramdam niya na type ka. Wag ka masyado padadala sa mga ganyang banat. Diyan madalas nagsisimula ang ?akala ko kami na e.? Assumera pa naman ang mga babae.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 27, 2017, 10:42:33 pm

^ I agree.

One of the lessons I learned nga - kahit na magsabi pa sya formally that he is interested, if his actions are not consistent and leaves room for doubt, then trust the doubt part muna hanggang sure ka.

Secondly, I always try to guard my feelings. Meaning ayoko ma fall sa kanya more than he does. Especially at this stage. I won't allow my feelings to just develop like that. It's just me. Kasi nasaktan nako before kaya ayaw ko mangyari.
But I hear the other people saying, na di ka lubos nagmahal if you always control your feelings. Ako naman darating tayo dyan. For now, getting to know palang... bf palang... ayoko ibuhos lahat unless I know he is willing to give up everything for me. Kung ganun, then ako din. Para naman patas labanan.
So my second point here is - too early in the relationship to fall. Don't allow to fall deeply if it is not serious pa. but some women ok lang kasi nga it's a risk naman talaga that they're willing to take.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on October 27, 2017, 11:40:16 pm
^Agree. It's quite hard to guard your feelings lalo na yung stage na pinakikilig ka. Guys will do everything at this stage to win you. Then kapag nakuha ka na, they will start to lose that interest if they aren't that into you. Ganyan ang mga lalake. Guarding your emotion is vital, not easy but doable.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: JessicaJones on October 28, 2017, 08:39:15 am
 I'm a happily married person. Then a guy at the office started flirting with me. I know he's married din and he knows I'm married. We even talk about our kids minsan. Suddenly he starts asking me out, which of course I'd say no. Pero nag-uusap pa din kame and he will still sometimes flirt. Question to guys, pano niyo pinipili kung kanino kayo magfflirt? Do you really just like the girl or pag tingin niyo sasakyan kayo? I talk to a lot of guys in the office since most of them are guys. I don't think that I treat him any different. I'm just wondering if I may be sending signals that I'm not aware of? Or trip lang niya talaga?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 28, 2017, 10:58:48 am
Question to guys, pano niyo pinipili kung kanino kayo magfflirt? Do you really just like the girl or pag tingin niyo sasakyan kayo?


Im a girl ha, pero I will answer. Guys can just correct me if I'm wrong.

Pag type ka, like ka, baka makaisa, sige lang. especially sa mga malalandi na guy.

Sa mga Super malandi na guys naman, parang kahit Sino ata puede na, papatulan nila. Hahaha

But I don't quite get your questions bakit kelangan mo pa malaman ang motive nitong lalaki na ito unless you're interested patulan.



I talk to a lot of guys in the office since most of them are guys. I don't think that I treat him any different. I'm just wondering if I may be sending signals that I'm not aware of? Or trip lang niya talaga?

But that's the point. He flirts with you na nga eh and asks you out. And the fact that you still talk to him, can make him think na ok lang pala sayo landiin ka. So for me, tingin ko  Tutal he has nothing to lose naman eh, Kung patulan mo sya eh di ok. If not, wala din naman mawawala sa kanya.


Guys pursuing married women - tingin ko what motivates them is the slim chance na maghahabol Yung girl since you're married din naman. Tapos tendency if magka fallout kayo, quiet ka lang din at he knows your secret so ayaw mo ipagsabi din nya.

When a married guy asks you out, it is for me a sign of disrespect to his Wife and to me. Anong akala nya sakin easy to get? Papayag sumama sa kanya? Anong akala nya sa Wife nya, tang*? Kapal din ng mukha nya.

Yes initially it's flattering but actually bwiset sya.

Secondly, all the more you should be insulted if a married guy asks you out or flirts with you, knowing you are very much married. Di Lang Wife nya, ikaw ang binabastos, pati hubby mo and your family.

Question ko Lang is why do you still give due attention to this jerk? 

Sakin I usually treat men equally din, in arms length. Especially at work. Not much kwento unless we are in a group. Once a married guy also asked me out. Since we were friends (at least I thought), I ignored him. And from then on, never ko na sya kinausap since we were in different companies narin. So lost touch na. And he knows wala sya sa lugar, kaya di na umulit.

Para sakin, Bastos ang colleague mo. He deserves to be ignored and treated like a jerk din. Not equally like other men colleagues.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on October 28, 2017, 01:48:03 pm
Blatant bastusan when you're both married and still flirts with you. She doesn't respect you at all.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on October 28, 2017, 02:52:11 pm
Agree ako dyan bastos ang ganyan klase ng lalaki kung ako magagalit ako at never ko sya kakausapin unless about sa work.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: JessicaJones on October 29, 2017, 01:12:53 am
Girls thanks for your opinion. But like I said I'm just wondering if I maybe sending signals that i'm not aware of. Medyo naive ako when it comes to this stuff. Normal na kwentuhan lang kame before. We even talk About our kids, work and stuff. Actually I just realize na baka he may have been flirting na pala before when he literally ask me out. Siguro medyo nagkakahint ako before pero di ko iniisip na ganon kase I know he knows I'm married. Parang tagal ko na siya kilala, though di kame close, then all of a sudden ganon. I just thought na if guys would cheat, dun na sa single. My next question is, since girls mga sumagot, do you tell your hubby/bf about this?        V
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on November 05, 2017, 09:51:19 am
Depende yan sa pagkakakilala mo sa hubby mo kung paano sya mg rereact sa ganyan pero ako ever since open ako kay hubby kaya for sure sasabihin ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on November 05, 2017, 10:34:03 am
I just thought na if guys would cheat, dun na sa single. My next question is, since girls mga sumagot, do you tell your hubby/bf about this?       

I think if a guys is married and intends to stay that way sa married din siya papatol para walang mag demand na iwan ang asawa. Siguro kaya ka ganyan is because you are flattered by the attention or the thought that someone is asking you out.

You can mention it to your husband i don?t see why not.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 05, 2017, 12:23:55 pm
Girls thanks for your opinion. But like I said I'm just wondering if I maybe sending signals that i'm not aware of.


Ganun nanga. You're not aware but it implies something.
The mere fact na kinakausap mo pa sya ng maayos despite him binabastos ka na, he would likely take it as 'okay lang sayo' at baka makaisa sya.



Actually I just realize na baka he may have been flirting na pala before when he literally ask me out.


Yes and since tuloy kwentuhan at di ka pumapalag. Mukhang okay lang sayo ang flirting nya.




My next question is, since girls mga sumagot, do you tell your hubby/bf about this?       

Yes. My ex siguro Hindi kasi I will manage it on my own kasi palaaway yun. I remember nung mag bf palang kami and may classmate ako ganyan. Pumunta ba naman sa school holding a baseball bat!

My current partner oo. Kasi mas level headed sya. Like one time may married colleague ako who asked me out. I found it very odd Kaya ako na mismo umiwas. Then I told my current partner. And what I did about it. Case closed, no issue.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on November 14, 2017, 11:22:08 pm
Siguro dapat tignan mo din ano ba yung mga "stuff" na pinaguusapan mo sa ibang lalaki bukod kay mister. Kahit parepareho trato mo sa kanila, kung may personal na topic diyan, baka yun iniisip nung malanding office mate mo na senyales para pormahan ka niya.

Tama, kung "friendly" ka pa rin sa kanya kahit na ganyan at nilalandi ka niya, senyales na ok lang sayo ginagawa niya.

Sasabihin ko sa mister ko yan. Kasabay nun pagtigil ng panglalandi nung isa > keep it professional no personal talks whatsoever.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: MayVerona on December 01, 2017, 12:23:11 pm
pag usapan mo sis wag mo gawan ng proof na ginagawa nya yun kasi masasaktan ka lang iclarify mo baket sya sumali doon
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on December 03, 2017, 11:34:44 pm
^just leave him alone sis. Sabi nga men are like rubber bands they pull away then come back. Kung wala siyang paramdam magpaka busy ka doing other things. Kung gusto ka niya he will contact you again. If he?s not that into you then he will competely disappear.

Kasi kahit naman araw araw or minu-minuto mo siya text kung ayaw niya mag reply wala ka naman magagawa diba? So better wait for him to initiate contact that way you know he is open to talking. Baka nga gusto niya lang mapag isa so let him be.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on December 05, 2017, 08:50:36 am
^^ Sis give him time, mukhang kailan lang naman nangyari ito and you know naman meron siyang pinagdadaanan and right now that's his priority. But if 2-3 weeks hindi ka pa rin niya kinakausap then thats a sign na wala talaga siyang balak maging close sayo. MAYBE naging ganon lang kayo dahil tinulungan mo siya financially.

I know the feeling kapag feeling mo ikaw ang nagiging shoulder to cry on ng crush mo and secretly hoping na ma-fall siya sayo but sis most of the time baliktad ang nangyayari. Believe me i'm sure he knows crush mo siya and if gusto ka rin niya gagawa yun ng paraan once matapos na pinagdadaanan niya. Sis, stop mo na communication and if kontakin ka niya asking for financial help pag-isipan mo nang mabuti.

You did your part na as a friend ok na yun. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: junepets on December 06, 2017, 04:59:18 pm
what to do when u told a guy to stop bugging you.
you blocked his no..
but then he bought another sim..
again blocked..
then bought again..
nakaka 5 block na ata..
may bagong sim na naman..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on December 06, 2017, 07:34:57 pm
^Change your sim/number
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on December 07, 2017, 02:10:03 am
^^ file police report
If may work Yung guy, file a complaint to their HR para matablan naman sya ng hiya for harassing you
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drinveilside on December 13, 2017, 05:25:41 am
Girls thanks for your opinion. But like I said I'm just wondering if I maybe sending signals that i'm not aware of. Medyo naive ako when it comes to this stuff. Normal na kwentuhan lang kame before. We even talk About our kids, work and stuff. Actually I just realize na baka he may have been flirting na pala before when he literally ask me out. Siguro medyo nagkakahint ako before pero di ko iniisip na ganon kase I know he knows I'm married. Parang tagal ko na siya kilala, though di kame close, then all of a sudden ganon. I just thought na if guys would cheat, dun na sa single. My next question is, since girls mga sumagot, do you tell your hubby/bf about this?        V


ayan am a guy and i will give you a guys POV .  Since kausap ka na ng guy and he showed signs of hooking up with you its possible that you have given him a wrong signal you may have said you look good today or something like that..

My suggestion is better not tell your hubby about this and stop talking to the guy and just be civil about it.

I hope am wrong but if you cant end having conversation with him then tell your husband about it. para sya ang pumigil sayo to talk to this guy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: minatay91 on December 18, 2017, 05:15:02 pm
What's the best gift you have ever received from a girl? And why was it the best gift ever?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shelicious on December 25, 2017, 10:51:51 am

Guy asked  one of his girl tropa na yayain si another girl (bale former hs classmates silang 3), chill chill lang sa resto bar kahit na may gf na si guy.

Kung kayo si guy, bakit nyo kelangan yayain si another girl at ipadaan pa sa ibang tao? Bakit hindi nalang nya yayain si gf instead of another girl?

Sa FB, hindi mutual friends ng gf ni guy yung mga katropa nya nung hs. She added few of his bf's friends but until now, di pa nila sya inaadd and one of those tropa even blocked her.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: ansanach on February 27, 2018, 10:58:43 pm
I am a bit confused about something and would like some insights. Maybe a third party can offer some objectivity.

5 days ago, I posted on a personal ad site. It was not a regular posting where I wrioe what I was looking for. I wrote a fantasy story. Some guys messaged me. There was one guy I ended up meeting and his actions confused me.

We exchanged short emails and he seemed to have a very positive energy, complimenting me on my post and asking me if I wanted it to become a reality.

Me: What's a guy like you doing in a site like this?
Him: Uhm, maybe to fulfill someone's fantasy?

He asked me to watch a movie with him on the weekend and chatted a bit more about our backgrounds, to "hang out".

2 days ago, I met him after his meeting. We went to buy tickets and paid our own way. We chatted for some time because we booked the last full show.

We talked about sex, what we both liked, our experiences. He asked me if I wanted to fool around in the movie theatre.

He asked me to kiss him in the dark, which I did. It was wet. He put his hand between my thighs. I tightened my thighs around his hand. I slid my hand to feel his crotch. He was hard. He asked me if I wanted to lick it later. Then I unbuttoned his shorts with one hand and rubbed his ****. That was really nice. I whispered dirty things in his ear. He licked my bare shoulder and caressed my skin, lay his head on my shoulder.

Then he stopped. I slid my hand in a second time, asking if I should continue. He was breathing hard and I could smell his scent. I assumed he was sweating. He said to do it later. So I took my hand out. There was no more touching.

After the movie, we went out of the mall and he called a business contact. Then we got into his car. During a stop light, he turned to me and told me to come closer. Then he kissed me. That happened one more time. I also kept talking to him about sexual innuendos. I talked about how my ex liked getting a blowjob while driving. He did mention earlier that he also experienced that but now he was saying that he actually found it difficult to concentrate while driving.

We went to McDonald's to eat. He told me he didn't feel like getting a blowjob anymore.

Then he took me home. I thought he wanted to kiss me, so I cupped his face in my hands but his mouth was motionless.

After I got home, I sent him a message. I don't know why I didn't wait for him to message first. I think I felt I had to ask him but all of this didn't dawn on me until then.

Me: Thank you for your time tonight. I really enjoyed it!
Him: Good night! I appreciate you giving your time for this and I had fun with our conversation :) Happy week ahead!
Me: May I ask why you didn't want to go through with what we started?
Him: Something didn't feel right. I'm sorry if it's like that.
Me: No worries. I wanted to do it and you seemed to enjoy it in the movie theatre. So It was just a tad surprising. I hope I didn't turn you off or anything. You could always tell me what's in your mind without fear of offending me. If you think this isn't gonna work out, it's fine so I'll know where I'll stand.
Him: Thanks for being open. Yeah. I just felt this wouldn't work out. I don't want it to happen where we do it then I'll leave. I wasn't 100% into it.
Me: Alright then! If you don't mind telling me why? Then I'll leave you be.
Him: Apologirs [sic] for leading you on. Have a nice day!

Maybe I was naive, I expected too much. Or maybe he wasn't very forthcoming about his intentions? Please give me your thoughts. Thank you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on March 02, 2018, 12:17:43 pm
... After the movie, we went out of the mall and he called a business contact. Then we got into his car. ....
Nagpaalam muna sa asawa na mala-late pero di pinayagan..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: geraldita03 on March 02, 2018, 07:08:43 pm
Is it normal for guys to check on other girls in social media? hindi naman daw mini-message or chat or ni-like ang posts.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on March 02, 2018, 07:36:42 pm
I would say it's natural to us guys... Parang katulad lang yan nung tumitingin kami sa sexy na dumaan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: charizardmommy on March 04, 2018, 02:39:33 pm
Hi not totally about relationships but mejo related, anong mga pampagwapo tips kay mister? Like skin care routine or vitamins na nakakablooming panglalaki. 12 years kasi age gap namin ni mister, and me natural na baby face ako so mas mukha talaga akong bata pa than i actually am. Ayoko lang na naooffeend siya pag may nakakakita samin at mag siside comment na sobrang bata ng misis mo. So far sunblock lang pinapagamit ko sa kanya. Any suggestions, pogi people of ftalk? :P
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drinveilside on March 06, 2018, 03:57:21 am
I am a bit confused about something and would like some insights. Maybe a third party can offer some objectivity.

5 days ago, I posted on a personal ad site. It was not a regular posting where I wrioe what I was looking for. I wrote a fantasy story. Some guys messaged me. There was one guy I ended up meeting and his actions confused me.

We exchanged short emails and he seemed to have a very positive energy, complimenting me on my post and asking me if I wanted it to become a reality.

Me: What's a guy like you doing in a site like this?
Him: Uhm, maybe to fulfill someone's fantasy?

He asked me to watch a movie with him on the weekend and chatted a bit more about our backgrounds, to "hang out".

2 days ago, I met him after his meeting. We went to buy tickets and paid our own way. We chatted for some time because we booked the last full show.

We talked about sex, what we both liked, our experiences. He asked me if I wanted to fool around in the movie theatre.

He asked me to kiss him in the dark, which I did. It was wet. He put his hand between my thighs. I tightened my thighs around his hand. I slid my hand to feel his crotch. He was hard. He asked me if I wanted to lick it later. Then I unbuttoned his shorts with one hand and rubbed his ****. That was really nice. I whispered dirty things in his ear. He licked my bare shoulder and caressed my skin, lay his head on my shoulder.

Then he stopped. I slid my hand in a second time, asking if I should continue. He was breathing hard and I could smell his scent. I assumed he was sweating. He said to do it later. So I took my hand out. There was no more touching.

After the movie, we went out of the mall and he called a business contact. Then we got into his car. During a stop light, he turned to me and told me to come closer. Then he kissed me. That happened one more time. I also kept talking to him about sexual innuendos. I talked about how my ex liked getting a blowjob while driving. He did mention earlier that he also experienced that but now he was saying that he actually found it difficult to concentrate while driving.

We went to McDonald's to eat. He told me he didn't feel like getting a blowjob anymore.

Then he took me home. I thought he wanted to kiss me, so I cupped his face in my hands but his mouth was motionless.

After I got home, I sent him a message. I don't know why I didn't wait for him to message first. I think I felt I had to ask him but all of this didn't dawn on me until then.

Me: Thank you for your time tonight. I really enjoyed it!
Him: Good night! I appreciate you giving your time for this and I had fun with our conversation :) Happy week ahead!
Me: May I ask why you didn't want to go through with what we started?
Him: Something didn't feel right. I'm sorry if it's like that.
Me: No worries. I wanted to do it and you seemed to enjoy it in the movie theatre. So It was just a tad surprising. I hope I didn't turn you off or anything. You could always tell me what's in your mind without fear of offending me. If you think this isn't gonna work out, it's fine so I'll know where I'll stand.
Him: Thanks for being open. Yeah. I just felt this wouldn't work out. I don't want it to happen where we do it then I'll leave. I wasn't 100% into it.
Me: Alright then! If you don't mind telling me why? Then I'll leave you be.
Him: Apologirs [sic] for leading you on. Have a nice day!

Maybe I was naive, I expected too much. Or maybe he wasn't very forthcoming about his intentions? Please give me your thoughts. Thank you.

other poster might be correct the guy might be married and afraid that there might be strings attached after or it might be hard for him to get out ...

another concern is maybe he isnt that physically/sexually  attracted to you

or paminta sya :D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on March 06, 2018, 10:39:50 am
Is it normal for guys to check on other girls in social media? hindi naman daw mini-message or chat or ni-like ang posts.

depende sa guy but for me i dont do it kasi parang cheating na rin yun sa pakiramdam ko..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 07, 2018, 01:21:45 am
Hi not totally about relationships but mejo related, anong mga pampagwapo tips kay mister? Like skin care routine or vitamins na nakakablooming panglalaki. 12 years kasi age gap namin ni mister, and me natural na baby face ako so mas mukha talaga akong bata pa than i actually am. Ayoko lang na naooffeend siya pag may nakakakita samin at mag siside comment na sobrang bata ng misis mo. So far sunblock lang pinapagamit ko sa kanya. Any suggestions, pogi people of ftalk? :P

Exercise, keeping fit and healthy diet.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on March 07, 2018, 08:54:12 am
Hi not totally about relationships but mejo related, anong mga pampagwapo tips kay mister? Like skin care routine or vitamins na nakakablooming panglalaki. 12 years kasi age gap namin ni mister, and me natural na baby face ako so mas mukha talaga akong bata pa than i actually am. Ayoko lang na naooffeend siya pag may nakakakita samin at mag siside comment na sobrang bata ng misis mo. So far sunblock lang pinapagamit ko sa kanya. Any suggestions, pogi people of ftalk? :P

Parang tingin ko mahirap ito. Guys don?t really care much about their looks lalo na yung mga married na. You can give suggestions like bilhan mo siya ng moisturizer but i don?t think he will care to use it. They are not really conscious about their looks. I have never met a real guy na vain. Usually ma cover lang yung basics sa hygene nila ok na. Pati sa clothing deadma rin unless siguro binata pa and he needs to attract women pero pag in a relationship lalo na sa marriage nagigng lazy na talaga sila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on March 07, 2018, 09:16:11 am
Deer antler lang katapat nyan.. LOL! 😄
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on March 07, 2018, 09:22:05 am
^ ayan na ulit ang sungay... Hahaha
 
Re sa tanong, personally, ako di masyadong nag-aayos ng sarili. Basta malinis at mabango ako ayos na. Masmukha rin akong matanda sa wife ko though she's older by a year.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 07, 2018, 01:24:53 pm
^ I think for me pina ka important is keeping healthy. Kasi if malaki tyan nya, or mataas cholesterol or Hirap maglakad/takbo, paano nyo Ma enjoy activities together, travel together or sex di ba?

So the improvement of looks and personality will just follow naturally.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on March 07, 2018, 03:18:41 pm
^ good point...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on March 12, 2018, 07:18:24 am
Can guys be in a long-term relationship (like, 5+ years na) and still be waiting for "the one"?

I have a guy friend kasi who is in a relationship with a girl for about 7 years already and recently I found out that he is unhappy with her but still chose to be with her because "it's okay I am waiting for the right woman". I was shocked.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on March 12, 2018, 07:46:35 am
^A woman may fake an orgasm but men can fake a whole relationship!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 12, 2018, 01:53:25 pm
Can guys be in a long-term relationship (like, 5+ years na) and still be waiting for "the one"?

I have a guy friend kasi who is in a relationship with a girl for about 7 years already and recently I found out that he is unhappy with her but still chose to be with her because "it's okay I am waiting for the right woman". I was shocked.

Di ba iyan naman ang gawa talaga ng mga guys? Kung Sino convenient at available, papatulan. That?s why for me, as bf/gf, it?s very important to always assess the relationship.
If something is wrong, Pag usapan para smooth ang relationship.

^ para naman sakin mahirap ifake ang isang bagay if the girl is wise enough to sense na he is not into her. Malalaman mo naman if he suddenly gets cold and just ?there? for the sake. Bilang babae, ikaw na mismo dapat mag end ng ganyan relationship especially if you?re not treated right.
For men naman, mahirap magpanggap if they?re not interested in you na. If they?re not interested, nasa iba lagi attention nyan, he won?t be able to fake it in a long while.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: momlory on March 13, 2018, 11:30:30 am
I have friend na may bf ng 12++ years na sila since highschool. Dumating ang time na 30++ na sila and yung girl is ready na to settle. In terms of money wala naman silang problem. Alam din ni guy na ready na si girl pero kasi yung guy hindi pa.

So yung girl nasa waiting game lang since mahal niya si guy no pressure. Nagabroad si guy and I don't know why so suddenly nakahanap si guy ng the "one" na ibang girl.

In the end pinili ni guy si longterm gf niya at pinangako sa kanya na siya ang pipiliiin.

Waiting game pa rin si longterm girl and steady pa rin sila ni guy. 2 years sila ganito sila ni longtime gf. Pero one day umuwi si guy at  bigla niya sinabi kay long time gf na ikakasal na siya dun sa the "one" na ibang girl.

Sobrang lungkot ng long term gf and hindi niya na alam kung ano nangyari. So I guess possible talaga na may guy na may longterm gf pero hindi pa nagsesettle kasi naghihintay pa ng the "one"

Pero ang tanong how would you know na ikaw ang the one?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on March 13, 2018, 03:19:59 pm
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Can guys be in a long-term relationship (like, 5+ years na) and still be waiting for "the one"?

Yes, similar din sa reason ng mga girls who stay in a long term relationship pero umaasang may prince charming pang dadating to change everything.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 13, 2018, 04:07:37 pm

Pero ang tanong how would you know na ikaw ang the one?

Mahirap nga malaman...

Kaya payo ko sa daughter ko balang araw is just to meet and mingle. Huwag agad magbf if possible. And if magbf, huwag lang Isa then iisipin na ikakasal eventually.
If you mingle well, meet and date different guys, you would probably know yung difference ng treatment sayo at intention ng lalaki, if he is just leading you on or may balak talaga sya pakasalan ka.

Minsan nasa harap nanga natin na obvious na pero most girls decide to look the other way kasi mahal nga and gusto nila maikasal sa guy.

A couple of my girl friends nangyari iyan. Si friend A, left her bf taga UK. Kasi after 2 years into the relationship, she realised na walang plans yung guy and just enjoying the time. Eh sya ready na sya to settle down. Malungkot (she spent her holidays with me and my kids at that time), but now she is happy na with another partner who is willing to commit and be married to her.

Si friend B, same din nangyari. But the difference is, the same guy. Just as she is moving on with her life kasi nga she is not willing to wait, this guy cannot stand to lose her. Yung initial na intent na ?I want to take my time?, biglang nauwi sa proposal. They are of age na kasi, girl is 32 and guy is 40.

Lesson is have a life kahit pa malungkot na mawala sayo Yung mahal mo. Kung ready ka na at sya hindi pa, Hindi mo naman puede ipilit. Kaya you just have to find the right one/match for you.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: NeilRudecat on March 13, 2018, 05:38:33 pm
How would you know na ikaw o siya na ang the one?

Ito ang binabasa ko recently sa favorite book ko na "Intimate Relationships" by Rowland S. Miller, Seventh Edition (2015)

Una, dapat alam natin kung love nga ba talaga at kung ito ba ang type ng love na nagla-last.

Maraming uri ng love.

May mga ginawa nang pag-aaral tulad ng Triangular Theory of Love.

Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg, 1987)
http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love/

Short Answer: Ang totoong love ay high sa tatlong components (1) Intimacy, (2)Passion at (3) Commitment

Types of Love | Intimacy || Passion || Commitment
Non-love | Low| Low| Low
Liking/friendship | High| Low| Low
Infatuation | Low| High| Low
Empty love | Low| Low| High
Romantic love | High| High| Low
Companionate love | High| Low| High
Fatuous love | Low| High| High
CONSUMMATE LOVE | HIGH| HIGH| HIGH

The Triangular Theory of Love
https://sciencebasedlife.wordpress.com/2012/05/18/the-triangular-theory-of-love/

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Triangular Theory of Love

The triangular theory of love holds that love can be understood in terms of three components that together can be viewed as forming the vertices of a triangle.  The triangle is used as a metaphor, rather than as a strict geometric model.  These three components are intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment. Each component manifests a different aspect of love.

            Intimacy.   Intimacy refers to feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships.  It thus includes within its purview those feelings that give rise, essentially, to the experience of warmth in a loving relationship.

            Passion.  Passion refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and related phenomena in loving relationships.  The passion component includes within its purview those sources of motivational and other forms of arousal that lead to the experience of passion in a loving relationship.

            Decision/commitment.  Decision/commitment refers, in the short-term, to the decision that one loves a certain other, and in the long-term, to one's commitment to maintain that love.  These two aspects of the decision/commitment component do not necessarily go together, in that one can decide to love someone without being committed to the love in the long-term, or one can be committed to a relationship without acknowledging that one loves the other person in the relationship.

The three components of love interact with each other:  For example, greater intimacy may lead to greater passion or commitment, just as greater commitment may lead to greater intimacy, or with lesser likelihood, greater passion.  In general, then, the components are separable, but interactive with each other.  Although all three components are important parts of loving relationships, their importance may differ from one relationship to another, or over time within a given relationship.  Indeed, different kinds of love can be generated by limiting cases of different combinations of the components.

            The three components of love generate eight possible kinds of love when considered in combination. It is important to realize that these kinds of love are, in fact, limiting cases:  No relationship is likely to be a pure case of any of them.

            Nonlove refers simply to the absence of all three components of love.  Liking results when one experiences only the intimacy component of love in the absence of the passion and decision/commitment components.  Infatuated love results from the experiencing of the passion component in the absence of the other components of love.  Empty love emanates from the decision that one loves another and is committed to that love in the absence of both the intimacy and passion components of love.  Romantic love derives from a combination of the intimacy and passion components.  Companionate love derives from a combination of the intimacy and decision/commitment components of love.  Fatuous love results from the combination of the passion and decision/commitment components in the absence of the intimacy component.  Consummate, or complete love, results from the full combination of all three components.

            The geometry of the "love triangle" depends upon two factors:  amount of love and balance of love.  Differences in amounts of love are represented by differing areas of the love triangle:  The greater the amount of love, the greater the area of the triangle.  Differences in balances of the three kinds of love are represented by differing shapes of triangles.  For example, balanced love (roughly equal amounts of each component) is represented by an equilateral triangle. 

            Love does not involve only a single triangle.  Rather, it involves a great number of triangles, only some of which are of major theoretical and practical interest.  For example, it is possible to contrast real versus ideal triangles.  One has not only a triangle representing his or her love for the other, but also a triangle representing an ideal other for that relationship. Finally, it is important to distinguish between triangles of feelings and triangles of action.

Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg, 1987)
http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love/


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In the sake of completeness, each permutation has an accompanying description.

Nonlove ?refers simply to the absence of all three components of love. Nonlove characterizes the large majority of our personal relationships, which are simply casual interactions.?

Liking/friendship is ?used here in a nontrivial sense. Rather, it refers to the set of feelings one experiences in relationships that can truly be characterized as friendship. One feels closeness, bondedness, and warmth toward the other, without feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment.?

Infatuated love: ?Infatuation results from the experiencing of passionate arousal in the absence of intimacy and decision/commitment?like Tennov?s limerance .? Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses? relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating ?how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship?[but] the beginning rather than the end.?

Romantic love ?derives from a combination of the intimate and passionate components of love?romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but are also bonded emotionally?- bonded both intimately and passionately, but without sustaining commitment.

Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. ?This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present? but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.

Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage ? ?fatuous in the sense that a commitment is made on the basis of passion without the stabilizing influence of intimate involvement.?

Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the ?perfect couple.? According to Sternberg, these couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they cannot imagine themselves happier over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other. However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. ?Without expression,? he warns, ?even the greatest of loves can die.? Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

The diligent thing to do, as you are all budding psychologists I?m sure, is to create a list of all the people you know and categorize them on the basis of the type of love you have with them.

Do these conceptions of love fit your relationship? Do you agree with Sternberg? Maybe you will realize your love is more full (or sadly less full) than you expected.

Predicting Love
While we are on the subject, we might as well outline a bit more about the psychological study of love.

Contrary to many of our fantasies about how love begins (stranger?s eyes meet across a crowded room and it?s love at first sight), the main predictors of love are much more mundane than many of us think.

The largest predictors of who will be in a relationship are familiarity, similarity, and proximity. Psychologists have found that how familiar you are with a person predicts whether or not you will enter into a relationship with that person. That is to say, it is very unlikely that you will end up dating a complete stranger.

Similarity is also a major factor in predicting who will end up together. Interestingly, much of the psychological research on this factor has found that the old adage ?opposites attract? is largely untrue. When you share similar values, interests, philosophies, etc., you are more likely to enter into a relationship with that person.

Lastly, and most surprisingly, proximity predicts who will end up together. For example, studies have been done on college campuses where you can predict who will end up in a relationship together by actually measuring the distance between dorm rooms. The closer you are to someone in distance (you are in class together, you go to the same laundry mat, you live on the same block, etc.), the more likely you are to enter into a relationship with them.

Perhaps this is why are fantasies are so appealing. Psychologically, little agrees with the hot and heavy ?stranger across the room? story. But hey, I?d rather live in the reality of love than lament over an unlikely fantasy.

The Triangular Theory of Love
https://sciencebasedlife.wordpress.com/2012/05/18/the-triangular-theory-of-love/
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on March 17, 2018, 03:47:50 pm
GUYS, paano namin (girls) malalaman na nilalandi niyo kami?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Kiara027 on March 18, 2018, 01:08:35 am
^ nice question. clueless din ako sa ganyan. :p
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on March 18, 2018, 02:32:45 pm
^^based sa experience ko, if i have doubts na nilalandi ako ng guy, that means hindi nya ako nilalandi. Kasi if a guy is flirting it will be very obvious and hindi kelangan iquestion. Lols. But let's wait sa sagot ng my guytalkers here
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on March 18, 2018, 06:07:00 pm
^^based sa experience ko, if i have doubts na nilalandi ako ng guy, that means hindi nya ako nilalandi. Kasi if a guy is flirting it will be very obvious and hindi kelangan iquestion. Lols. But let's wait sa sagot ng my guytalkers here

Naisip ko din ito pero what if may "restrictions" like work/office set-up or graduate school (professor-student)? Di ba mas magiging subtle si guy else magkaka chismis? haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on March 18, 2018, 08:23:22 pm
^kung may restrictions then most likely the guy will not flirt or make landi for fear of losing his job or be scandalized.

I suggest just wait kung lapitan ka ng guy that is when you will know he likes you. Pag hindi ka nilapitan or kinakausap or  very formal towards you then that is your clue na professional relationship lang ang pwede with him.

If a guy likes you he will be very obvious about it hindi sila kagaya natin. We have mastered the art of playing hard to get. They are hunters so sanay sila to go after who they want. Wala sa vocabulary nila ang pakipot. Kaya when i doubt the guy is probably not into you. He will come to you if he wants to no second guessing it.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on March 19, 2018, 11:36:34 am
Ang hirap naman ng tanong... Di ko rin masagot. Anong klaseng landi ba yan?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: argento on March 19, 2018, 08:19:39 pm
^kung may restrictions then most likely the guy will not flirt or make landi for fear of losing his job or be scandalized.

pag type: game makipagflirt
hindi type: sexual harrasment    :)

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If a guy likes you he will be very obvious

not really.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: NeilRudecat on March 20, 2018, 10:52:39 am
Maraming guys na flirting lang...para maka-score.   Mga pa-fall hehe.

Basically, kailangan lang natin maging conscious at sensitive sa non-verbal communication:  Sa galaw ng mata, sa kilos, sa content ng sinasabi.  Ang lalaking seryoso at totoong interested sa buong pagkatao mo (at hindi lang sa pagka-babae mo at sexual advantages or benefits)...ay magiging consistent.  Sa pakikinig niya sa sinasabi mo...naka-lean forward siya sa iyo at naka-focus sa pakikinig sa iyo.  Gusto nyang malaman at lahat sa iyo, lalo na ang pamilya at mga kaibigan mo.

Aliw mag-observe ng non-verbal communication.  Minsan mauupo lang ako sa food court ng isang mall titingin lang sa paligid.  Kitang-kita ang mga guys na flirting lang hahaha.



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Flirting

A great example of nonverbal communication?and the misunderstandings that can result from it?is the way people behave when they intentionally want to attract attention and to communicate their interest in others. If a woman wishes to be approached in a college bar, she's likely to look around the room, move to the music, and run her fingers through her hair (Cunningham & Barbee, 2008). But women don't like to be approached by men who haven't already caught their eye, so men need to get women to notice them. Taking up a lot of space, having an open posture, and touching other men (but not being touched in return) are all signs of high status that make a man stand out in a group. And men who behave this way?and who are frequently glancing around to see who's looking their way?are more likely to share a moment of eye contact with a woman that leads to some conversation (Renninger et al., 2004).

Then, if they begin to flirt, both men and women tend to smile more, move closer, gaze longer, and touch their partners more often than they do when they are less eager to stimulate others? interest (Moore, 2010). Their speech is more animated, involving more laughter and fewer silences, and their voices sound warmer. And coupled with these signals of interest and immediacy may be particular expressions such as a head cant, pouting mouth, and coy look that are fairly unique (Canterberry et al., 2011). Together, these enticing actions clearly signal one's desire for continued interaction with a new partner.

Behavior that is merely flirtatious differs from behavior that is straightforwardly seductive. Actions that are intended to convey sexual interest involve even more eye contact, smiling, and touching, more intimate paralanguage, and smaller interpersonal distances than friendly flirtatiousness does (Koeppel et al., 1993). But the distinction is often lost on men, who tend to misread women's signals more often than women misunderstand men's meanings. Men often see sexual overtones in the friendly behavior they receive from women, and women who intend their actions to be fun, frivolous, and festive (but nothing more) run a constant risk of being misunderstood. On the other hand, women who are sending sexual signals may be misunderstood, too, being thought to be merely friendly. Guys make both kinds of mistakes (Farris et al., 2008) because they're just not as good at reading others, on average, as women are (Brody & Hall, 2010). C'est la vie.

Source: (https://www.homeworkmarket.com/files/chapter5-3231243.docx)
Intimate Relationships by Rowland S. Miller, 2015

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on March 20, 2018, 08:42:53 pm
Ang hirap naman ng tanong... Di ko rin masagot. Anong klaseng landi ba yan?

Halimbawa, meeting sa school work/office. After ng meeting, you stayed sa table pero lahat umalis na. Tapos after a few seconds bumalik si guy para makipag-joke sayo. Ganun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: powaqa on March 25, 2018, 12:57:53 pm
Hi, men of FN.. Just want to know your thoughts.. I met a guy online and we've been chatting for 2 and a half months. Everyday chat to which lasts for hours - 4 hours and more. Andami naming pinag-usapan, we even shared about past relationships, current woes and issues, minsan mga bagay na we only shared with a couple of people. He even took the time to tell me about his business like kung anong ginagawa nya at kung anong mga balak nya in the future na gawin sa business nya. Anyway, he's American, multiracial but he identifies as black. Then one day, siguro dahil sa very comfortable na ako sa kanya may nasabi ako where I meant for it as a joke but he took it personally. He was offended even thinking na I meant to hurt him. I explained that I did not intend to hurt him and that I was unaware dun sa real meaning of the slang terms I used. At that moment narealize ko na na-fall ako sa kanya. I told him about my feelings but he hasn't replied yet. It's been 2 days na.. I want to know how does one usually feel or think or react knowing that a girl fell for them?
Another thing, kung nasaktan man ang ego or nakantsawan kayo sa bagay na sensitive kayo, is that enough reason to just cut someone out of your life?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on March 25, 2018, 07:19:55 pm
^ I?m not a guy, but usually sa pagkakaalam ko they run away if they?re not serious. Meaning if Di sila seryoso, then you told him you are falling for him, tendency iiwas iyan.

Kaya for me, sa getting to know you stage palang, I make sure I don?t fall for him first, and If ever I start liking him na, never ko aaminin. Kung masabi ko man, casual lang na tipong, I enjoyed your company. Yun lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: powaqa on March 25, 2018, 09:19:23 pm
^ I?m not a guy, but usually sa pagkakaalam ko they run away if they?re not serious. Meaning if Di sila seryoso, then you told him you are falling for him, tendency iiwas iyan.

Napaisip din ako at one point kung talagang seryoso sya.. may mga kwento sya na sensitive or confidential tipong 2 or 3 people lang daw nakakaalam plus nagshare din sya insider knowledge about his business including photos minsan nasabi din nya paano yung processo nung mga ginagawa nya like sharing yung mga convos with freelancers na hinahire nya. I know he's honest because the things he said about himself checked out when I did my in-depth research (you know what I mean lol) even the sequences of these checks out.. skeptic ako sa first few weeks but then everyday na kadalasan 6-8 hrs chatting tapos ang hahaba ng mga messages nya na feeling ko nagbabasa ako ng nobela lol..

^
Kaya for me, sa getting to know you stage palang, I make sure I don?t fall for him first, and If ever I start liking him na, never ko aaminin. Kung masabi ko man, casual lang na tipong, I enjoyed your company. Yun lang.

I guess that was my mistake I didn't guard my feelings.. or may mga qualities lang talaga sya na gusto ko kaya it was easy to fall for him.. But it's a lesson learned and thanks for the tip!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on March 25, 2018, 10:03:00 pm
^^ if 2 days pa lang give him time pa para mag-isip isip kasi hindi lang yung nasabi mong slang word kung hindi pati feelings niya for you ang pinagiisipan niya. Siguro give him 3 more days pa saka ka magmessage ulit kapag wala pa ring reply wag mo na lang kulitin, ibig lang sabihin di ka niya ganun kagusto. If mahalaga para sa kanya yung 2 1/2months na pinagsamahan niyo magrereply yan, kung hindi ibig sabihin hindi..

Wag kang magagalit ha pero maaari din kasing hindi ka niya type maging gf at naghihintay na lang siya ng reason para "mag-exit" sa friendship niyo. Matagal na kayong nag-uusap ano bang gut feel mo sa kanya kapag naguusap kayo, halata bang type ka niya? malambing ba?

Re:Ego, if mature na yung tao hindi dapat yun reason para i cut off mo na yung taong nakasakit sayo lalo mababaw lang dahilan. Accept that nobody's perfect, lahat nagkakamali masaktan man ego niya o hindi..
 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on March 26, 2018, 06:28:33 am
Did you call him Nigger or Negro? That's a really offensive. I once was chatting with a white American and I joked about him being from Trumpland. He took it very seriously and became a different person. He became hostile and threatened me. Masyado silang passionate about politics and even families nahahati because of their political views. You have to be political correct dealing with them especially some that are overboard.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: otra_vez on March 26, 2018, 08:36:30 am
powaqa: do you guys live apart from each other? i mean, are you in the philippines and he's in the us?

agree with kvandenhaak. you really need to be careful with the jokes. aside from the possible offense that the jokes can cause, it's also that he possibly viewed that as being overly familiar. when you are established friends, you can get away with a lot of things. but someone that he only knew for 2 months and online, that's not really a comfortable situation yet.

you also have to think of it from his point of view: he has not met you and if you are in a long distance thing here, i hate to say it but most likely, he's not looking for this to develop into anything serious. americans tend to be more pragmatic. i'll give you an example: i have a friend who was relentlessly pursued by someone for a few months then they started dating, only to have him dump her when he realized how many freeways it took to get to her place. things like that happen. i can not tell you how many potential romances eventually die from logistical reasons.

to top it all off, admitting that you have fallen for him possibly pushed him farther away. because from his perspective (mine too, to be perfectly honest)-- it is too fast to say you've fallen in love with someone you haven't even met yet and it's only been 2 months. i think that's it for him. you're not likely to hear from him again.

overall, just chalk it up to lesson learned. next time, try to invest your time on people who you have a much better chance of actually meeting in person.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: powaqa on March 27, 2018, 03:38:11 pm
@kvandenhaak - lol di naman yung n word.

@kvandenhaak, @TomHansen, @otra_vez - Thank you all for your opinions. I appreciate outside-the-box insights, helps me understand things.

I haven't fully processed my feelings yet actually - I fell for him yes but why despite his many issues di pa ako masyado nagreflect dun. ATM I'm busying myself with work kasi ayoko muna maramdaman yung sobrang pangmimiss and sadness.

He has very strong opinions on current issues. There are things he shared with me na hindi daw nya basta basta nasasabi sa mga friends nya or he can't even post on socmed dahil nga dun sa pwedeng samahan ng loob pag differing opinions. He has issues with his parents and friends. Anlalim ng galit nya sa dad nya dahil may mga ginawa yung dad nya kaya bumagsak yung business nya at hindi rin sya pinakitaan ng pagmamahal. Galit din sya sa nanay nya dahil enabler daw sya. He cut ties with some of his friends kasi hindi sila nagkakasundo sa isa pang business na pinatayo nila at tsaka toxic daw yung iba.  Siguro yun yung isang reason kung bakit naging too familiar ako, I felt too comfortable kasi may mga sinasabi sya na if it was me talking I would only tell my bestfriend. Kwinento nya pati tungkol sa mga ex nya who cheated on him mala J Springer.

Sabi nya he can't be in a relationship with someone who lives close kasi it won't work out with him spending too much time at work. There were statements minsan sya na parang looking forward to meet one day in the future.. like "....(blah blah blah)..when we meet"

Anyway, mukhang di pa naman nya ako dinedelete sa skype contacts nya kasi kita ko pa status nya..
But then I'm not hoping that much and if he does contact me again I'm not too sure kung gusto ko rin ituloy.. Will have some self - reflection one of these days..


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iam_me on March 31, 2018, 04:27:59 pm
need ur POV guys, ano reason nyong mga guys bakit nag unfriend at mam blocked kayo Ng ex nyo SA fb ok naman breakup .
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 01, 2018, 04:57:35 am
^Di ako guy pero mga reasons na alam ko:
1. Ayaw ni current gf na friends pa din si bf and ex-gf or may update pa via socmed. Baka kasi magkaroon ng spark uli lol.
2. Si ex-bf ayaw niya na makakita ng pageemo ni gf or papansin moves like ex-gf posting emo quotes, single quotes, pagpopost ng mga nakabikini na photos, feeling happy etc.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on April 01, 2018, 05:29:32 am
^Or if he's the one having difficulty moving on, he'd rather not see her at all even in social media.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 01, 2018, 05:47:06 am
^Tama para maka-move on din agad
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 01, 2018, 08:30:41 am
need ur POV guys, ano reason nyong mga guys bakit nag unfriend at mam blocked kayo Ng ex nyo SA fb ok naman breakup .

1. Same here, Tingin ko ayaw ng current gf friends parin kayo

2. May pinopirmahan na ayaw nya makita nung girl mga past pics nyo together
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Kiara027 on April 01, 2018, 09:50:39 pm
need ur POV guys, ano reason nyong mga guys bakit nag unfriend at mam blocked kayo Ng ex nyo SA fb ok naman breakup .

OR

si current GF talaga nag unfriend and block sayo. I did that before.  ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: argento on April 02, 2018, 08:57:16 pm
ano reason nyong mga guys bakit nag unfriend at mam blocked kayo Ng ex nyo SA fb

mas ok kasi kung  hindi na makipag friends sa ex. and its the right thing to do.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shinies on April 03, 2018, 06:01:11 pm
mas ok kasi kung  hindi na makipag friends sa ex. and its the right thing to do.

Gusto ko to! Karamihan nagsasabi na pwede naman daw maging friends ang magex. At may pinagsamahan daw kasi.

Sino dito totoo friend lang ang ex? Walang kahit ano?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: itsmeangel on April 08, 2018, 01:57:01 am
I have a question... actually madami na din nagssabi sakin and nagaadvice sakin regarding this. sa start ng dating diba, don?t show too much interest agad daw.. in the aspect of texting/calling/videocall or whatever ang tanong ko. Last guy I dated sinabihan ako ng ?easy? dahil daw mabilis ako magreply, mahaba magreply, and pag inaya mag call G agad.. I just wanna know, so dapat ba if guys text me wag ko replyan? if guys want to call me wag? and if yes, may right frame of time ba ang pagrreply? Lol like text ako today bukas na magreply? And pag tatawagan ako wag na ko makipagusap? Hahaha. Any suggestions?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 08, 2018, 08:03:47 am
^Dont make yourself too available. Pakipot ka ng konti. With my current bf nung hindi pa kami, pagnagpm or call siya di ko agad sinasagot. Sasagutin ko lang kapag wala na akong gagawin, so most likely kapag nagpapaantok na ako. Kaya madalas nakakatulugan ko nalang din pagrereply sa kanya. Kaya pagnagreply na ako siya ang G na G kasi matagal siyang naghihintay.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on April 08, 2018, 10:01:50 am
I have a question... actually madami na din nagssabi sakin and nagaadvice sakin regarding this. sa start ng dating diba, don?t show too much interest agad daw.. in the aspect of texting/calling/videocall or whatever ang tanong ko. Last guy I dated sinabihan ako ng ?easy? dahil daw mabilis ako magreply, mahaba magreply, and pag inaya mag call G agad.. I just wanna know, so dapat ba if guys text me wag ko replyan? if guys want to call me wag? and if yes, may right frame of time ba ang pagrreply? Lol like text ako today bukas na magreply? And pag tatawagan ako wag na ko makipagusap? Hahaha. Any suggestions?

I don't understand why we girls have to play hard to get...lol! Pareho tayo, pag nag-text I reply right away at mahaba rin ako mag-text. But sometimes, we have to so I agree, don't make yourself too available. Refrain from initiating text as much as possible especially in the beginning. But don't make it too obvious though that you are nagpapakipot. Minsan reply ka agad and sometimes, ipagpabukas mo na unless it's really urgent.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 08, 2018, 11:16:58 am
Kasi kapag di nagpakipot maski konti iisipin ?easy? tulad na din ng sabi ng nagtanong. Kaya konting pakipot lang din kasi baka isipin di interested. Wag lang yung gigil na gigil na pagmessage agad magrereply. Ang sabi nga ng guy friend ko dyan ?halatang gutom sa lalake?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on April 08, 2018, 11:36:41 am
^Ang harsh naman to say gutom sa lalake... LOL! 😁 Like in my case, I reply like I normally would with friends and family. But I guess that's the rule of the game. Girls are expected to keep it together. With my current guy, I don't text unless he doesn't kahit isang buwan pa yan.. LOL! 😁
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 08, 2018, 12:30:54 pm
^True. Napaka-harsh pero what to expect madalang ang lalake na sensitive.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sacred cow on April 08, 2018, 03:23:29 pm
meron naman kasing sakto lang, hindi naman to the point na kapag hindi nagparamdam si guy, hindi ka na rin magpaparamdam. Guys don't want it din if the girl keeps on playing games, simple lang ang lalake...kung ang pinapakita ng girl is hindi interested, then he would look for a girl that is more interested.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: itsmeangel on April 08, 2018, 03:35:58 pm
Thanks for your inputs, I have yet to master the art of pakipot pero konti lang haha! I agree harsh nga yung dating pero galing na rin sa mga guys yan so I guess yun talaga ang tingin nila if di ka magpakipot ng konti :))
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on April 08, 2018, 06:52:50 pm
I don?t see any reason not to be yourself when it comes to texting.
Sakin I reply when I reply. Kasi if I don?t, I would definitely forget to reply!

Pero pagdating sa words and action, yes siguro pakipot ako. Tipong I won?t say I really really like him etc but I will tell him I enjoyed our date this evening. Period. Short and simple. He gets the message.

Then Pag dates naman, no akbayan coz we are just friends. I make that clear. I also date others, so hindi lang sa kanya ang attention ko. But I go out with him because I?m interested to get to know him and see what he has to offer and at the same time for him to know me and assess if he really likes me as he initially thought. I don?t like kissing as well. But if he is cute, maybe beso beso after date to appreciate his efforts 😁

Most importantly, I assess myself. Ayoko Super like ko sya then like lang nya ko. Sino ba sya. And this situation will make you look easy if you start liking him more. So be careful not to fall too easily.

meron naman kasing sakto lang, hindi naman to the point na kapag hindi nagparamdam si guy, hindi ka na rin magpaparamdam.

Ito depende. May 1 Guy I dated he said he would call again but he didn?t. So deadma. Since I?m not that into him, potential 2nd date lang, so nvm.

But when I like a guy, then Di nagparamdam, minsan pa simple ako ba how are you? Tapos fwd/comment on some news or common friend we have etc. But if dead Ma sya, dito nako magstop. Point is, I keep conversations open if I am interested but I don?t show too much interest if I don?t get the response I want.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on April 08, 2018, 08:53:05 pm
Di ko rin gets bakit need mag pakipot ako straight ako kausap kung sasabihan ako ng easy idrodrop ko na un guy mas gusto pala nya nagsasayang muna ng oras or pahard to get. para sa akin un mga easy to get un sex agad unang meet pa lang or kahit wala pang relationship with the guy. Kahit marami ako nakadate si ex at kay husband lang ako bumigay.

So dapat pala pag nag message sya di mo agad replyan? Parang ewan lang kung may time ka magreply bakit di mo rereply? Naku ayaw ko ng ganyan lalaki daming cheche bureche sa buhay.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on April 08, 2018, 10:06:14 pm
^Eh sa Pinoy culture kasi ganyan...lol! Pag mga foreigners, they are more open minded. Some of them likes the idea of girls initiating. But it boils down to how you play hard to get. I personally don't play hard to get, sayang sa oras...lol! But I don't meet right away with guys. Let's talk and know each other muna. So, usually the guy initiates the talk in the early stage of dating. By the time I agree to meet, I'm pretty decided that I already like the guy. If we meet and the connection is strong then to heck with pagpapakipot. During the relationship, pwede pa rin namang magpakipot. It just boils down to how interested the guy in you. Pag di ka type, he won't try to connect. Pag gusto ka, he will.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on April 08, 2018, 10:32:30 pm
^yap kaya feeling ko di swak ang personality ko sa mga pinoy or nakadate ko before na pinoy, completely opposite thinking sa kanila. Surely di lahat ng pinoy ganun nagkataon lang ganyan pinoy ang mga nakadate ko before besides foreigner talaga ang gusto ko sila un mas madali ko nakakausap about sa point of view ko sa buhay.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 08, 2018, 11:43:18 pm
True sis iba culture ng foreigner. Ang Pinoy mahilig sa delaying tactics hanggang sa relationship naiconnect ang pagdedelay. Personaly ako kapag nagpaparamdam or ligaw pa lang tamad-tamaran ako magreply. Pero di ako ang type na nagpapatagal ng ligawan ng taon. With my latest bf 1 month or 1.5mos lang ata na ligawan kasi evemtually mas makilala mo siya kapag nagkarelasyon kayo. Saka sa edad pa ba namin magpapakipot pa ako, susko ah. Pero first few months namin tamad-tamaran pa din ako magreply and madalas nakakatulugan ko siya sa call pero matyaga talaga siya, medyo takot pa kasi ako na super mag-invest ng feelings niyan lol.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on April 09, 2018, 12:32:50 am
^OA naman kasi yung isang taon na ligawan...lol! I think sa isang buwan naman alam mo na sa sarili if you like the guy or you are willing to give him a chance. Unfair din sa guy to string him along kung wala namang aasaan. That's where I don't understand the pagpapakipot culture. Para lang ba hindi masabihang easy to get? Etong mga lalake talaga minsan parang hindi napapansin na 2018 na. And I agree, you will only know the guy better if you are in a relationship. Guys generally always put their best foot forward when wooing a girl. And like I said, you can still play hard to get kahit kayo na.

Anyways, back to question of our sister. There's something called balance naman. Wag sobrang pakipot, wag rin sobrang atat...lol!

And with that saying, ang tanong ko sa mga guys. Alin ba talaga gusto nyo, yung pakipot or yung straight forward? Isa lang piliin nyo. You can't have your cake and eat it too! Ang dami nyong demands sa mga babae pero kakaliwain nyo lang naman in the end. Sus, don't me!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on April 09, 2018, 12:43:55 am
Agree ako dyan sa mas makikilala mo kapah karelation mo na unless ang gusto mo talaga pang matagalan munang friendship. Basta ako type at may qualities ako nakita na gusto ko talaga di ko na patatagalin pa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lalee888 on April 09, 2018, 03:07:54 am
I share the same viewpoint as sis shadow angel -- if it doesn't work for me, bye bye. When I was dating, I knew what I wanted and i was not going to waste time.

I also agree that courtship/friendship is not the same as relationship. But the reverse is also true -- the length of time you court/date does not necessarily determine the strength/success of a marriage.

To your point sis about "pakipot" and not being easy.. all I can say is these things are all signs/symptoms that we gauge others' based on our personal standard of desirability. In general men and women both like confidence in their partners. Someone sure of themselves (not insecure) and have a focus in life. Usually a sign of this is someone with a passion in life, and usually busy working toward that passion. When they are "busy" with that, they are not so caught up with trying to find a mate. So when they constantly reply to a suitor -- it looks cute and not desperate. It looks as though "wow this super busy girl replies to me so quickly, despite being busy, she must really like me, I'm flattered"

If someone doesn't exude confidence, or security, we can smell that, it's a psychological thing. So we sorta sense that in our interactions with them.

At the same time sis, just be yourself. If a guy told you that, I can only guess he already thinks less of you and if I were you, drop him. If I guy truly likes you, he will find the things you do during the early part of  dating CUTE. Your constant texting? He'd think it is cute and adorable. Him thinking you're too eager means he sees that as a sign of weakness on your part, which could be an early manifestation of what failed couples experience -- contempt for another.

Be yourself sis. And be with someone who appreciates the best version of yourself, and doesn't mind the worst version of yourself.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on April 09, 2018, 10:03:38 am
Basta ako type at may qualities ako nakita na gusto ko talaga di ko na patatagalin pa.
True sis. Dapat physically attracted ako sa kanya at may something kami in common, kapag ganyan pak na yan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: glamorosa_09 on April 09, 2018, 02:15:09 pm
Quote from: itsmeangel
I have a question... actually madami na din nagssabi sakin and nagaadvice sakin regarding this. sa start ng dating diba, don?t show too much interest agad daw.. in the aspect of texting/calling/videocall or whatever ang tanong ko. Last guy I dated sinabihan ako ng ?easy? dahil daw mabilis ako magreply, mahaba magreply, and pag inaya mag call G agad.. I just wanna know, so dapat ba if guys text me wag ko replyan? if guys want to call me wag? and if yes, may right frame of time ba ang pagrreply? Lol like text ako today bukas na magreply? And pag tatawagan ako wag na ko makipagusap? Hahaha. Any suggestions?

In relation to what sis lalee said...

I guess... issue na nung guy na yun na sinabihan kang easy ka... paano kung personality mo ang mabilis at mahaba mag-reply... I have a girl friend na ganun... mapa ako or si hubby ang kausap nya ganun sya magreply... Be real na lang, kung hindi ka tanggap, eh di hindi ka tanggap.

Challenge lang ang daldal ng dating, ang hubby ko kasi na-ooverwhelm sa friend ko.  Tanggap naman sya ng husband nyang madaldal sya... although minsan pag may pinapaedit yung friend ko sa husband nya, sasabihin ng husband na "pwedeng maging straight to the point yung message mo?'
 
pero anong meron sa ganung pag-rereply mo? personality mo ba yun o dahil ataters ka? Kung personality mo yun, magpakatotoo ka na lang, hindi ka naman siguro irereject dahil lang ang dami mo sinasabi. And if he does, he's not for you. Some personality naman will get attracted sa madaldal.

Kung atat ka naman, I agree to just strike a balance, enough to let him know you're interested para may hope naman sya. If you have a strong liking of the person, for me, enough nang huwag mong ilantad. Kunwari nagmessage sya, nagtatatalon ka sa tuwa, pero yung reply mo, cool lang. Tapos pag kayo na, saka mo sunggaban. More of self-control which is different from pag-papakipot, na kunwari ayaw pero gusto.
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Post by: argento on April 10, 2018, 09:09:08 pm
I have yet to master the art of pakipot

wag ka na magpakipot hindi na uso yan. men dont like pakipots mga paasa lang yan.
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Post by: Apple1230 on April 10, 2018, 11:17:29 pm
I have a question... actually madami na din nagssabi sakin and nagaadvice sakin regarding this. sa start ng dating diba, don?t show too much interest agad daw.. in the aspect of texting/calling/videocall or whatever ang tanong ko. Last guy I dated sinabihan ako ng ?easy? dahil daw mabilis ako magreply, mahaba magreply, and pag inaya mag call G agad.. I just wanna know, so dapat ba if guys text me wag ko replyan? if guys want to call me wag? and if yes, may right frame of time ba ang pagrreply? Lol like text ako today bukas na magreply? And pag tatawagan ako wag na ko makipagusap? Hahaha. Any suggestions?

well sa tingin ko it's not about how quick you reply or G agad sa call. guys like girls who have a lot going for them ayaw nila yung parang naka tunganga ka lang kaya pag tumawag or nag text reply agad. kahit hindi ka ganon yun ang perception nila.

pag nag text wait a few minutes lalo na kung busy ka, and sa conversation they can sense kung ano ba mga pinag gagawa mo sa buhay mo. kung productive ba or time wasters lang. balance lang dapat don't be too eager and don't be too out of reach either. just do your own thing and make the man feel he is welcome sa buhay mo pero hindi siya ang center. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: ashonlush on April 10, 2018, 11:16:49 pm
Paano malaman na bitter sa iyo ang guy? Or should i say di pa totally naka move on sayo?
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Post by: adrianne1 on April 11, 2018, 11:40:18 am
^ Hindi pa nakakamove-on si guy when he keeps texting or calling even after you've broken up.

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Post by: crazycoolchic19 on April 19, 2018, 06:26:25 pm
hi may question ako bat may mga guys na kaka kasal lang 6 months palang  nakikipag flirt na sila?and worst is di sila natatakot kahit kapitbahay nila nilalandi nya na married na din at kilala sya ng  husband.bakit gusto nila ng mga complications sa buhay ?:D
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Post by: argento on April 21, 2018, 01:04:36 pm
^madali daw kasi hulihin ang manok pag nakatali na  ;D
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 21, 2018, 01:35:20 pm
^^ Baka nature ni guy ang maging flirt. Or super hot nung kapitbahay nila.
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Post by: Girltalker2 on April 21, 2018, 02:15:35 pm
hi may question ako bat may mga guys na kaka kasal lang 6 months palang  nakikipag flirt na sila?and worst is di sila natatakot kahit kapitbahay nila nilalandi nya na married na din at kilala sya ng  husband.bakit gusto nila ng mga complications sa buhay ?:D

Baka maka-isa
Ego booster din
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 21, 2018, 02:06:16 pm
^agree ako sayo...
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Post by: mysterioza_me on April 22, 2018, 05:04:03 pm
Naghahanap ng excitement si guy. Yung may kaba feeling na baka mahuli yun yung mas exciting.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: quirkhy on April 23, 2018, 08:10:52 am
ask ko lang po,bakit ganun yung ibang guy ayaw umamin ng totoo,like obvious na may mali sa relationship like cold na sa babae,pero pag tinatanong naman ng girl kung masaya pa ba yung guy sa relationship ang sagot oo daw at mahal pa nya yung girl...bakit ayaw na lang maging honest kung ayaw na ba or break na para di na nagsasayangan ng oras tsk.
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 23, 2018, 08:33:37 am
^^ agree ako sayo ms. mysteriosa. Naghahanap ng thrill at nagpapataas ng ego kapag nakascore.

^ siguro ayaw nung lalaki manggaling sa kanila ang break up. Ayaw lumabas sa kwento na siya ang nang-iwan.
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Post by: mysterioza_me on April 23, 2018, 12:07:02 pm
Gusto sa girl manggaling ang breakup para guilt-free
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 23, 2018, 01:50:25 pm
^ nadali mo kapatid!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: quirkhy on April 23, 2018, 05:56:52 pm
gusto yung babae ang makipagbreak? ilang beses na nagtry yung babae na humiwalay pero pinipigilan nung guy..at sinasabing mahal nya yung girl...pero kahit ganun cold pa din yung guy pagtapos,nahihirapan din yung girl kasi love pa din nya yung guy kaya tinatanong lagi nya yung guy kung masaya pa ba sya..pero puro oo naman ang sagot ng guy.tsk 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on April 24, 2018, 11:14:39 am
^sis baka abnormal na yung guy. O kaya may ibang nilalandi yung guy kaya cold sya kay girl.
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Post by: simang on April 24, 2018, 12:27:13 pm
^^Nasabi na nila yung most probable reason and most likely yun na nga yun. So ang suggestion ko sayo is to NOT depend your breakup on the guy. If you want to break up, the do it regardless kung anong gusto nung lalaki.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on April 24, 2018, 12:33:03 pm
^ may tama ka sis. Kung sa tingin mo taken for granted ka naman at di mo maramdaman yung guy better let go of the relationship.
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Post by: crazycoolchic19 on April 25, 2018, 10:11:05 am
^^ agree ako sayo ms. mysteriosa. Naghahanap ng thrill at nagpapataas ng ego kapag nakascore.


ang ass**** ng guy sinisiraan nya wifey nya, abnoy daw at dry sa sexy time, Turn off ako
di ko na kinausap alam ko naman gusto nya haha, cute lang kase sya, pero kakaturn off ..so pag pumatol ka sa ganun. ikakalat nya ko,haha
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 25, 2018, 10:40:41 am
^ wrong move sya sa pagdiskarte sayo. Kiss and tell pa yata.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on April 27, 2018, 07:55:43 pm
gusto yung babae ang makipagbreak? ilang beses na nagtry yung babae na humiwalay pero pinipigilan nung guy..at sinasabing mahal nya yung girl...pero kahit ganun cold pa din yung guy pagtapos,nahihirapan din yung girl kasi love pa din nya yung guy kaya tinatanong lagi nya yung guy kung masaya pa ba sya..pero puro oo naman ang sagot ng guy.tsk

How long have they been together?

Yun nga, some guys can stay in a relationship they are not happy, some just waiting for the next one.
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Post by: quirkhy on April 29, 2018, 04:16:36 pm
hindi na pala happy bakit need pa magsinungaling at sasabihin na masaya pa? mas mahirap intindihin minsan ang mga lalake......mga inabot naman ng 4 months 1/2 yung relationship.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on May 01, 2018, 04:57:01 pm
I have a question for guys here.

Why would a guy casually mention his gf in a conversation with a girl?

I am attracted to this guy who has a gf. And we were talking about stuff when his phone lit up and he casually said, "girlfriend" he looked at it for a second but we continued talking.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hushush on May 01, 2018, 09:07:23 pm
^Baka naman proud lang sya or excited pag may nare-receive syang message from his gf.. Big deal talaga yun sa part mo kasi nga attracted ka sa kanya..pwede din nase-sense nya na like mo sya kaya he's making random mentions to remind girls around him and including himself na taken na sya at di na pedeng lumandi o makipaglandian sa iba..😊
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 01, 2018, 09:52:09 pm
^^I think you are overanalyzing it. You're probably thinking maybe may feelings din for you and just making you jealous. Just don't go there.
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Post by: oshiawase on May 01, 2018, 10:57:55 pm
^ Thanks for that!

But actually, my worry is that he thinks I am hitting on him too obviously that's why he had to mention his GF.

I don't think he has feelings for me though.

Hppy crush lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 02, 2018, 12:46:19 am
ask ko lang po,bakit ganun yung ibang guy ayaw umamin ng totoo,like obvious na may mali sa relationship like cold na sa babae,pero pag tinatanong naman ng girl kung masaya pa ba yung guy sa relationship ang sagot oo daw at mahal pa nya yung girl...bakit ayaw na lang maging honest kung ayaw na ba or break na para di na nagsasayangan ng oras tsk.

Minsan, or maybe more often na these days, may guys na Hirap maintindihan sarili nila, Kung ano gusto nila or ayaw. Hirap sila icomprehend ang nararamdaman nila, moreso Mas lalong Hirap sila iverbalize what they?re feeling. Parang kulang ang wires ng feelings nila at brain.

kung ikaw ang girl, Good suggestion nga na iwan na iyang guy na iyan. Let him grow up or find someone na ka level nya para lahat happy.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: momlory on May 03, 2018, 09:11:56 am
^Ito rin ang nangyari sa friend ko. Sobrang paasa ng bf niya. Nalaman niya na may ibang babae umaaligid sa bf niya. Nagpromise sa kanya yung bf na siya pa rin ang pipiliin at etc wala sila relation ng girl.

Turns out meron pala. Long distance sila ng friend ko so wala idea friend ko na one day ikakasal na pala yung lalake doon sa girl na yun. Ending heart broken friend ko sana hindi nalang siya naghintay years din..   

Kung naging honest lang sana si guy na magsabi hindi na sana siya hinintay ng friend ko at umasa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on May 03, 2018, 08:06:55 pm
^ Bakit kaya may ganyang tendency ang ibang guys? They know deep inside they already love someone else and yet they still stay in the relationship, making both of them miserable.

Why not just set both of you free?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: dismembered on May 04, 2018, 11:38:40 am
^ Some men are just a**hole. 2 things come in mind kung ayaw nya pa iwan ang current nya kahit may kinikita syang iba.
1. Sure sya na kay current sya at sya ang mahal nya at si "iba" ay ginagamit nya lang, you know why.
2. Walang balls. Hindi sigurado sa decision nya at takot magkamali at tumayo sa consequences ng choices nya. Kaya pilit pa rin naglalaro sa pagitan ng dalawang panig.
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Post by: Ms. Undecided on May 04, 2018, 11:39:36 am
^ Agree, lalo sa 2nd reason. Ayaw bitawan yung current kasi natatakot siya na pagsisihan niya if ever hindi mag-work yung isa. You know, sigurista, may reserba.
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Post by: futboler_dati on May 04, 2018, 12:25:55 pm
^^ natumbok mo!!!
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Post by: littlekinselle on May 06, 2018, 12:48:48 pm
Ang hubby ko nabasa ang  msg ko sa messenger rants ko against sa MIL at kapatid niya mga babae. Ka chat ko un mama ko that time at may mga msg na diniya magugutohan about sakanya. di niya hilig magbasa ng phone biglaan talaga. Patay malisya ako na di ko napansin nag babasa na siya.. #soorynotsorry ako kasi totoo naman.

Weird lang inaantay ko siya sitabin ako pero tahimik lang siya at pag kinausap ko mukang okay naman. Pero un nga bigla siya natahimik. Pero pansin ko di din siya nakatulog.  Inaantay kaya niya ako una umaway or kumausap sakanya?.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on May 07, 2018, 05:01:58 pm
Yung mga issues nyo with the in-laws dapat kayong dalawa ang nag-uusap tungkol dyan.

Tungkol sa question mo, alam mo naman ang mga lalaki madalas kinikimkim na lang sa sarili ang problema. Baka kaya di nya ino-open up sayo...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on May 09, 2018, 10:46:38 am
I wrote a letter to him.. sinabi ko dun if ready na siya makipag heart to heart talk saken im always ready. Sabi niya lang saken after niya mabasa saka na lang kami mag usap.
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Post by: Apple1230 on May 09, 2018, 11:19:18 am
^baka nasaktan talaga hubby mo sis kasi mother niya yun e. Iba ang bond ng guys sa mother nila lalo na kung yung hubby mo is the type na close talaga sa nanay niya.

Guys hate confrontations and fights so i think he would rather ignore it than deal with it. Baka nagapalamig lang din muna siya. Let him be for now. Kahit naman sayo gawin kung may sinasabi hubby mo na masama about your mother magagalit at ma hurt ka rin for sure. 
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Post by: futboler_dati on May 09, 2018, 07:53:34 pm
^ agree ako.

Kung may issue talaga sa In-laws dapat ang kausapin monyung partner mo. Mas sila kasi ang nakakaintindi sa culture nila sa family.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on May 16, 2018, 02:26:44 am
Bakit ba madalas magsawa ang mga lalaki? Ngayon ko lang nalaman after 5 months since my ex and I broke up, pinagsabay pala kami ng current gf nya ngayon hehe. Broken hearted pala ito si girl yung ex nya dati na ngayon ay gf nya ulit (may anak sila) pero mukha naman silang happy ngayon. Bago pa lang yung relationship namin, akala ko ako lang yun naman pala dalawa kaming pinagsabay! Bakit nga ba pag medyo mahirap na yug relasyon merong mga lalaki basta na lang umaalis, worst may kapalit kagad. At ang galing mag tago, ni hindi ko man lang naramdaman, na nagccheat na pala sakin. Pero honestly, nung nalaman ko na pinagsabay nga kami I feel vindicated, yun yung tanong sa isip ko na hindi ko malaman ang sagot. Ngayon alam ko na, na hindi talaga dapat iniiyakan yung mga taong ganon ang ugali.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 16, 2018, 03:27:07 am
I asked him if he thinks I need to lose weight. He refused to answer even if I said I really want to know what he thinks and whatever it is, I will take it fine. Bakit ang hirap sagutin yan for guys?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on May 16, 2018, 07:42:51 pm
Dalawa lang sa tingin ko.

1. Okay sa kanya kung ano man ang shape mo. He's in love with the shape of you.

2. Ayaw ka nya maoffend.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 16, 2018, 10:18:45 pm
^Sinagot din naman later when I insisted. Just don't understand kung bakit ayaw sagutin agad the first time I asked. Loaded question daw and he refused to answer...lol!
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Post by: argento on May 17, 2018, 02:33:12 am
Bakit ba madalas magsawa ang mga lalaki?

may mga babae kasing nakakasawa.
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Post by: Kiara027 on May 17, 2018, 10:10:22 am
^ anong factors para mapunta ang babae sa  "nakakasawa" state??
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Post by: Shadow Angel on May 17, 2018, 12:10:30 pm
Pwede paki elaborate kung anong klaseng sawa?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on May 17, 2018, 04:00:39 pm
Hi Guys! :)
What's your stand regarding dating a Girl who had a broken marriage (separated but not legally) and has a daughter/son?
Once ba na nalaman nyo na ganyan, back off agad? :)
TIA!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on May 18, 2018, 12:39:08 pm
^Wow! Ang swerte naman ng gf mo sayo! Pero I think she must be an amazing woman why you love and respect her that much. ☺
More powers to your relationship! ☺
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 19, 2018, 04:42:58 am
Bakit may mga guys na pag nagpapa-cute ka, minsan dine-deadma ka pero deadmahin mo, saka magpapa-cute?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on May 25, 2018, 05:05:39 pm
Back in college, i dated a girl na may anak na. Wala naman problema sa akin yun.
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Post by: minatay91 on May 25, 2018, 05:32:19 pm
Bakit may mga guys na pag nagpapa-cute ka, minsan dine-deadma ka pero deadmahin mo, saka magpapa-cute?
My ugly truth is:
Thinking if I was a guy, I'd enjoy the female attention, but I don't necessarily like her seriously. haha.
I remember making pa.cute to a guy, wala lang. Doesn't mean I want him agad. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 25, 2018, 10:29:41 pm
^I probably should made it more specific...lol! If you're already in a relationship at you're texting tapos biglang hindi sasagot. Tapos pag  hindi ka nagti-text saka ka naman kukulitin.
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Post by: Apple1230 on May 26, 2018, 01:41:01 am
^Hi sis. Sa amin kasi we don?t leave each other hanging. If we are texting at may kailangan na gawin nagsasabi kame. Pag naman super busy at hindi na naka reply mid conversation we just reply later on explaining why kame nawala. We both do that to show respect and that we are not taking each other for granted.

Regarding naman sa mangungulit pag hindi mo tine-text, baka bored lang siya at wala siya magawa or na mi-miss ka niya. He is being playful.

My partner is always busy with work during the day and at night super tired na siya so i don?t initiate any contact. Siya na lang mag contact sakin pag free siya at kung may sasabihin. Ako naman i message him only pag importante lang. It works for us kasi any message he gets from me excited siya mag reply at dina-drag niya ayaw niya pa matapos daming follow up questions.  Ako din may kilig factor pa din when he message me kasi hindi siya yung parang obligasyon or duty sa amin. Every couple is different. What works for us might not work for most people.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 26, 2018, 02:28:23 am
^Being an @$$ kamo...lol!  Ours is not too serious so that's the difference. Pwedeng bored din. Pero, one year na kasi kami this June na nagbobolahan. I am wondering why he isn't moving on? He is definitely not ugly and I am 10 years older. Nakakawala kasi ng momentum.
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Post by: minatay91 on May 26, 2018, 06:12:39 am
^I probably should made it more specific...lol! If you're already in a relationship at you're texting tapos biglang hindi sasagot. Tapos pag  hindi ka nagti-text saka ka naman kukulitin.

Ours is not too serious so that's the difference. Pwedeng bored din. Pero, one year na kasi kami this June na nagbobolahan. I am wondering why he isn't moving on? He is definitely not ugly and I am 10 years older. Nakakawala kasi ng momentum.

Because you're convenient at the time? Haha
I remember I'd only reply to kulit guys when convenient. And if I'm bored, or want to rant about something, I might chat them.. because I don't want to complain to the ones I love, you know? I'd rather spread the nega vibes to people I don't care about. Anyway, they'll deal with it.

I kinda have a lot of questions - sorry if I put them  too bluntly..but-
Anyway, why does it matter na 1 year na kayo nagbobolahan (oddly specific too? tracking the time)? Is there a meaning you're looking for na you want us to tell you? Why do you want to know? Do you want to know if he likes you that way? Are you interested in him (defending as "he's definitely not ugly") and you feel like you're out of his league ("I am 10 years older" << why did you need to specify this?)

Honestly?

Do you like this guy but see all the "stop" signs?

Anyway, I'm on the red pill right now, not necessarily like this. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on May 26, 2018, 10:14:34 am
^Being an @$$ kamo...lol!  Ours is not too serious so that's the difference. Pwedeng bored din. Pero, one year na kasi kami this June na nagbobolahan. I am wondering why he isn't moving on? He is definitely not ugly and I am 10 years older. Nakakawala kasi ng momentum.

Ah sis, yun naman, hindi kasi serious so he is just acting the part. Baka bored na sa conversation or may gagawin na siya and he thinks ok lang na gawin niya yun sayo. Pero for me hindi ako maiinis or magagalit sa kanya or hindi ko iisipin na bastos siya sakin kasi hindi naman serious yung relationship. Don?t be offended but when you signed up for this kind of set up expect this kind of treatment din.

If he keeps coming back or is not going away or not moving on it?s because you are convenient. Anytime he texts you alam niya mag re reply ka. Anytime he wants to see you may available time ka for him. Maybe not right away but you are always there. Guys are lazy by nature. Unless there is a motivation to move forward they won?t do it. If he is enjoying the status quo why change it. if you like things the way they are then good. If you want something more then tell him after all 1year na kayo. May feelings na diyan kahit paano unless nga na ok lang sayo ang ganyan.
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Post by: kvan on May 26, 2018, 01:45:51 pm
^My only condition is walang ibang involved. I guess that's the nature of the beast, sabi nga nila. Actually, tinanong ko na rin naman sa kanya kung bakit di iba lapitan nya. Di ako sinagot...lol! I am 100% sure, merong mga mag-e-entertain sa kanya na kasing age nya at magaganda. Kasi ako aminadong hindi maganda. Pero sinagot naman nya yung tanong ko kung ano nagustuhan nya sa akin. Anyways, I told him magnahap na lang sya ng ibang kausap kung hindi rin naman sya sasagot. Feeling ko kasi he enjoys it pag tinatarayan ko. Tawa pa ng tawa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on May 26, 2018, 02:15:18 pm
Guys, here's the situation:

Drinking game. Penalty, kiss the person to the left. Ang taya, si guy na in a relationship. To his left, si single cute girl.

Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 27, 2018, 12:09:07 pm
^ in the first place, games like these are for singles.
Hindi na dapat sya sumasali sa ganyan unless he is still not serious with his gf.
For me it may not be cheating but it?s obviously flirting and no respect for his gf and his relationship with his gf.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on May 28, 2018, 11:27:12 am
Guys!! eto BF ng SIL ko idiney siya sa harapan ng family ni Guy. to think nag lilive-in na sila and nabuntis na nga siya yun lang na di natuloy pregnancy kasi may problema sa immune system si SIL..
ayaw niya hiwalayan yun BF niya.. bakit ba ganon may ibang lalaki ang tapang ng loob na mag deny ?? kahit matagal na sila.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: argento on May 29, 2018, 01:08:27 am
Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?

ganito ba yung usapan?  puwede kahit saan? ok yan ah. siyempre not cheating  :D

i guess ikaw yung girl.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on May 29, 2018, 01:31:22 am
^^sila pa rin ng bf nya? Kung ako hiwalayan ko agad I can't not take that kind of humiliation, kung hindi naman ako mistress bakit ako ikakahiya ipakilala. Grabe naman may ganyan pa lang lalaki.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on May 29, 2018, 02:04:38 am
Because you're convenient at the time? Haha
I remember I'd only reply to kulit guys when convenient. And if I'm bored, or want to rant about something, I might chat them.. because I don't want to complain to the ones I love, you know? I'd rather spread the nega vibes to people I don't care about.
I almost forgot to reply to your post. Busy kasi pag weekend...lol!
Anyways, I don't rant to anyone na hindi ko gusto kausap. There's no point. But okay, point taken.
I kinda have a lot of questions - sorry if I put them  too bluntly..but-
Anyway, why does it matter na 1 year na kayo nagbobolahan (oddly specific too? tracking the time)?
Because it's been a year. Actually, there are two other guys. Yung isa almost two years ko na kakilala. I am thinking after a year of telling them they should just find girls their age instead of wasting their time on me, they will finally stop. But it's true though that when they text, I text back at nakikipagkwentuhan.
Is there a meaning you're looking for na you want us to tell you? Why do you want to know?
 

Because I want to know.
Do you want to know if he likes you that way?
I want to know the reason.
Are you interested in him (defending as "he's definitely not ugly") and you feel like you're out of his league ("I am 10 years older" << why did you need to specify this?)
I have been seeing the first guy for almost a year. Siguro naman hindi sya nandidiri sa akin...lol! The other two, have been texting me 2 years and 1 year. They are 19 and 20 years younger. One of the two have been asking me to hang out but I said I am not really available. Why do I need to specify? Because I want to be specific. Magtatanong na rin lang di ba?
Honestly?

Do you like this guy but see all the "stop" signs?
I like the first guy. The other two, I like them as friends. I treat them as younger brothers now, actually.

Anyways, at my age, I have very limited experience with a lot of aspects of romantic relationship. One of the young dudes even told me one time, para daw akong teen-ager kung magtanong minsan...lol!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kiteh on May 29, 2018, 10:13:22 am
Hi guys, how do you feel about a gilr na na De virgnized nyo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Sheddar9 on May 29, 2018, 11:06:05 am
Hi guys, how do you feel about a gilr na na De virgnized nyo?

Happy! Because sex is fun!
 
But seriously i would think i'm very special to her because of all the guys out there sakin siya pumayag and somehow i will feel macho and handsome!!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on May 30, 2018, 10:31:41 am
Guys, here's the situation:

Drinking game. Penalty, kiss the person to the left. Ang taya, si guy na in a relationship. To his left, si single cute girl.

Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?
No.. unang una hindi ako sasali sa ganyang laro especially kung in a relationship ako. At kahit pa on the spot sinabi yung penalty I have the best excuse na huwag gawin which is "I'm in a relationship..".. That's cheating para sakin.

... bakit ba ganon may ibang lalaki ang tapang ng loob na mag deny ?? kahit matagal na sila.
dahil may mga babaeng tatanga tangang hinahayaan yung bf nila na ideny sila..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lalee888 on May 31, 2018, 03:39:36 am
^Spot on!

Regarding the kissing game: it's not a gendered issue. The issue is that someone who is already committed put themselves in a compromising position. If you respect your commitments, you won't put yourself in any compromising situation (in this case, skip the game and just observe/enjoy from the sidelines). You can still be social and have fun without doing something that will hurt your significant other.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on May 31, 2018, 07:30:02 am
Guys, here's the situation:

Drinking game. Penalty, kiss the person to the left. Ang taya, si guy na in a relationship. To his left, si single cute girl.

Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?

Not cheating considering I can kiss her anywhere. I can take her hand and kiss her there.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on May 31, 2018, 06:39:46 pm
Guys, here's the situation:

Drinking game. Penalty, kiss the person to the left. Ang taya, si guy na in a relationship. To his left, si single cute girl.

Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?

Tsaka naisip ko pala...
ganyan na ba generation ngayon or conservative lang ako?
I don?t like to join these games pala kahit single ako. Nor do I want my daughter joining such games!
No way!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: oshiawase on June 06, 2018, 07:36:42 pm
Why do engaged guys still refer to their fiancee (for one year already) as "girlfriend"?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on June 08, 2018, 03:51:12 am
^ "Hi everyone, this is ______, girlfriend ko" is easier than saying "Hi everyone, this is ______, fiancee ko". Since Tagalog is the main language in the PH, "fiancee" sounds kind of foreign and "girlfriend" is considered a common term so men use it more often.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on June 08, 2018, 10:36:59 am
^^I don't think I ever referred to my then-fiancee (now husband) as fiancee in person back then, we were engaged for 1.5 years. It just doesn't sound natural to me I guess. I would write about him as my fiancee here, but in person I don't remember calling him that. I've always referred to him or introduced him to others as my boyfriend or partner.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: roxykarlo on June 08, 2018, 05:21:43 pm
hi, i just want to ask how to know if a guy is interested in a girl who is married and the husband is barkada ng guy? it all started kasi when my son is having his 8th birthday party and i invited the barkada of my hubby which is also the ninong of my son. we have met twice pa lang talaga and when he attended my son's bday party, 3rd time kong nakita siya. by the way, my husband is an OFW since, 5years na. so okay ang party, kinabukasan, xempre i thanked all those who came to the party through online messages and texts. when i messaged him, that was where it all started. nag memessage kami til 12mn but it's pure and clean messages, nagpapahanap siya sa akin ng magiging girlfriend niya because he is sill single and 40 na  so quite old na. after sometime, mga 3days of messaging, i stopped messaging him kasi i dunno -- iba yung nararmdaman ko, feeling ko ako yung hassle sa kanya kasi kulang na lang magpaalam siya sa akin kung saan siya pupunta. so until now, di rin siya nag memessage. pero online siya. sa tingin nyo, anong nangyayari sa kanya? LOL. naguguluhan ako. by the way i love my husband and he knows that, ako lang nag stop communicating sa kanya kasi parang may mali eh. sana ma gets nyo ako. need advice from guys here. ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 08, 2018, 09:22:00 pm
^ not a guy, but I?d say you did the right thing.
You shouldn?t be texting that much with the opposite sex unless you?re looking for a bf.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: argento on June 08, 2018, 11:21:37 pm
iba yung nararmdaman ko

may gusto ka sa kanya.

tingin nyo, anong nangyayari sa kanya? LOL. naguguluhan ako.

namimiss mo siya kaya naguguluhan ka.  sooner or later magmemessage ka rin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on June 09, 2018, 11:27:01 am
^^^ Yup may mali nga, medyo late ka nang bumitaw sa conversations niyo pero ok na rin tinigil mo, good job!. :)

Tama din na di ka kumagat sa "hanap mo naman ako ng gf" style ng mga lalaki kasi ibig sabihin magkakaroon kayo ng constant communication which is a big no no lalo na sa isang married na babae. Dont worry sis mawawala din yan siguro natuwa ka lang kasi may bago kang nakausap and wag mo nang isipin kung ano man ang nangyayari sa kanya, try not to be curious sa kanya, unfollow mo sa fb para di mo makita posts niya sa feed mo..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on June 12, 2018, 10:42:44 pm
^^^tama sila STOP as in totally stop communication with the guy. Sana di ka matukso na imessage pa ulit sya or replyan.

I will not do anything na alam ko macocompromise ang relationship ko with my husband kahit walang malisya or what. Ayaw ko ng ganyan na may magpapagulo pa sa isip ko or madivert ang attention ko other than my husband.

Just want to share lang may friend si hubby na feeling close sa akin hindi ako comfortable lalo na pagsinasabihan nya ako napakaswerte ng asawa ko dahil sa akin feeling ko may ibang meaning kaya sinabihan ko si hubby na hanggat maari wag invite sa bahay na kami lang better to invite him sa labas na sila lang. Si hubby naman sa kawork nya kapag nagmemessage sa kanya hindi nya nirereplyan ang katwiran nya ayaw nya makipagclose sa kawork other than work related mas gusto nya mga friends nya outside work.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on June 12, 2018, 10:53:08 pm
^Insulting sa akin yang ganyang style. Alam ng taken tapos lalapit pa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on June 13, 2018, 12:33:44 am
^ agree sis. Kabastusan Di ba? Wala nang respect sayo, wala pang respect sa relationship mo with your partner/husband. Worse, hubby?s Friend pa daw!
It?s an insult kasi anong akala nya or anong tingin nya sayo, easy to get?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: roxykarlo on June 14, 2018, 06:29:46 pm
hello. thanks to all. yes, tama kayo lahat. i never spoke or communicated to him again. i also blocked him on all my accounts. and alam ko i did the right thing because in the 1st place i am married. thank you guys!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on June 14, 2018, 07:52:30 pm
Why are some guys afraid of commitment?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on June 14, 2018, 08:10:07 pm
My ex fiance called off our wedding one month before the supposedly wedding date. Yung reason nya sa kin was that he was not ready for a commitment yet. One year kaming nagprepare for the wedding then suddenly bigla siyang natakot to get married? Any insight on this guys? 😢
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: RoadrunnerXCX on June 18, 2018, 11:26:23 pm
Time not  love makes the men commit. He is not ready to commit but it doesn't mean he didn't love you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on June 19, 2018, 10:33:15 am
hi sis @moonandstars, felt sad about your story. Anyway, I think better na he told you about that and became really honest this early instead of being tied sa kanya all your life tapos bigla na lang nyang mafifeel na hindi pa sya ready. I felt the same way before, but the difference lang is, we were married na when I realized that hindi pa pala ako ready and not super inloved with the guy ( I am not saying na he is not into you kaya sya nagbackout). I mean, we all have different reasons and realizations in making decisions. So yun, we separated din after less than 2 years of marriage. Kamusta kayo? Kayo pa din ba after?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on June 19, 2018, 02:13:02 pm
@moonandstars, sorry sa nangyari pero tingin ko mabuti na yan kesa kinasal kayo. Malamang merong ibang babae yan, hindi man karelasyon pero natipuhan. Nagpropose siya sayo dahil mahal ka niya at gusto ka niyang makasama nung time na yun at hindi basta basta magbabago yung dahil lang sa hindi siya ready sa commitment...

Move on sis, swerte mo hindi kayo kinasal bago siya magkaganyan kung hindi mas mabigat na problema pa ibibigay niya sa iyo.. Someday you'll find someone na ready makipagcommit sayo at hindi titingin sa ibang babae. Enjoy being single muna. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on June 21, 2018, 11:38:36 am
@moonandstars


Bigyan kita free legal advice. Hihi. You could file a civil case for damages dahil sa ginawa niya. Wala siya criminal and civil liability sa pakikipaghiwalay sayo pero pwede mo siya ihabla ng civil case para macompel siya bayaran mga nagastos sa preparations ng wedding nyo. Allowed ng batas iyan. Meron supreme court case na hinabla ng bride si groom dahil umatras si groom sa kasal at gusto ni bride mabayaran siya ng danyos. Panalo siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on June 22, 2018, 07:46:24 am
^Sis di pa naman ata sila break ni fiance, hindi lang muna ata itutuloy ang kasal for now dahil sa wedding jitters ni groom-to-be pero baka matutuloy din ang kasal some other time. Baka mahilot pa sa diplomasya ang usapang pera hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: chinablue on June 23, 2018, 03:21:57 pm
^parang nabasa ko sa kabilang thread sis na may third party involved kaya cancelled ang wedding.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on June 23, 2018, 10:51:04 pm
^Oo nga sis e. Nauna ko nakapagcomment dito sa thread na to bago ko nabasa sa kabila na may third party palang involved. Akala ko talaga postponed lang dahil sa wedding jitters ni groom-to-be. Nakakaloka. Yan ang tanong paano nagagawa ni guy na itapon yung ilang taon na pinagsamahan para sa bagong kakilala lang?! Lalo na kung naka-plano na kasal.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: lalee888 on June 24, 2018, 10:24:01 pm
Sis @moonandstars -- I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. You dodged a bullet though. Mahirap matali Lalo na walang divorce.

No words can comfort you right now because of the heartache. Remember that this too shall pass and what does not kill you can only make you much stronger. Clich? but true.

Do what you need to do to heal yourself, allow yourself to mourn and be sad, to discover yourself better, and then later to be open to possibilities.

Big hugs and praying for positive light and love going your way!!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: chinablue on June 25, 2018, 04:56:49 pm
naalala ko tuloy yung friend ko. 4 years na sila ng ex niya and nagpaplan na din ng kasal. my friend has a well-paying job abroad but she resigned to be with the guy. one day, nagulat na lang kami na break na sila. and ayun, may third party din na involved. nambabae na si guy while sila pa ng friend ko. tsk tsk. siguro totoo din talaga yung woman's intuition noh. kasi when we met the guy for the first time, mabigat yung feeling at hindi kami comfortable sa kanya. anyway, it's painful but there's always a silver lining in every hardships and problems we encounter. isipin mo sis na mas ok na ngayon ito nangyari kesa magcheat siya kung kelan mag asawa na kayo at meron ng mga anak. God saved you from him and is reserving you for someone better. I hope you're coping sis. Virtual hug to you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: littlekinselle on June 25, 2018, 05:12:58 pm
@moonandstars hug sis!  be thankful kasi mas maganda na di natuloy kasal niyo kysa kinasal na kayo saka niya sinabi yun. may kakilala ako ganyan  after nila ikasal in less than 3 months lang hiwalay na sila agad. reason may ibang lalaki si girl sa ibang  bansa.  kaya ang ginawa ni guy nag pa annulled talaga sila yun ang babae ang gumastos.

ngayon un guy friend ko na un kasal na at happy naman siya :) mas nakatagpo siya ng mas talaga mag mamahal sakanya..
sa una lang daw yan masakit, wala salitang move on sa broken hearted need mo lang tanggapin ang situation mo.. eventually masasanay ka din ng wala siya.. wag muna balikan un guy na yan worth it para pinag lalaban. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: applexkiss on July 03, 2018, 03:07:34 am
Hi po! I'm newbie po.
Ask ko lang po kung ano ibig sabihin pag si guy, blinock ka sa messenger pero hindi ka iblinock sa mismong facebook. Paano ba i-decode yun sa isang guy?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on July 03, 2018, 06:47:31 am
^it means he doesn?t want to talk to  you, he doesn?t want to get a private message from you. I did that to  a guy. Ang kulit kulit kasi message ng message  sakin so i blocked him sa messenger. Fb friends pa din kame kasi high school schoolmate ko naman siya we have a hundred plus common friends. Only for that reason kaya hindi ko siya dinelete. 
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Post by: mysterioza_me on July 03, 2018, 07:09:26 am
^True. Hahaha! I did that to a friend na aya ng aya sa akin sumali sa networking. Blocked siya sa messenger pero fb friends pa din kami.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: applexkiss on July 03, 2018, 12:06:24 pm
^
^^ Grabe po hindi naman ako istorbo sa kanya. Haha Actually po dati syang dumidiskarte sakin kaso never sya nagkachance.
Nung nagchat ako sa kanya nung isang araw, nagthank you sya sa akin, then same day block nya ko sa messenger.
Pero sa fb I can still view his profile, kahit magcomment at magpost sa timeline nya. Haha. Bakit di na lang nya nilubos. Dagdag number sa list? char po.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on July 03, 2018, 07:02:25 pm
^Ako tingin ko it's either napindot nya lang or girlfriend nya yung nagblock. :D I don't think any guy would take their time to block to send mixed signals. Lol. Unless the gf asked him to do so, or accidentally napindot nya lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on July 03, 2018, 07:34:03 pm
^
^^ Grabe po hindi naman ako istorbo sa kanya. Haha Actually po dati syang dumidiskarte sakin kaso never sya nagkachance.
Nung nagchat ako sa kanya nung isang araw, nagthank you sya sa akin, then same day block nya ko sa messenger.
Pero sa fb I can still view his profile, kahit magcomment at magpost sa timeline nya. Haha. Bakit di na lang nya nilubos. Dagdag number sa list? char po.

for me the reason na blinock ka nya sa messenger nya is ayaw nya madagdadagan yung pain na naranasan nya nun time na sabi mo dumiskrte sya sayo then hindi naman nagkaron ng chance na maging kayo. siguro ikaw ang pers lab nya. blinock ka nya simply na hurt sya sayo but at the same time kaya fb friends pa rin kayo dahil he wanted to keep updated pa din sa mga pangyayari sa buhay mo thru pagsilip silip sa fb page mo.

ayaw ka nya kausap dahil may galit sya pero gusto nya palagi ka nakikita. hehe!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on July 03, 2018, 08:34:03 pm
Unless the gf asked him to do so,

This is very likely

But then may time nga na nagtataka ako yung friend ko Di ako nireply-an. Then hinahanap ko message nya sa Viber, at Di ko mahanap. Yun pala I accidentally blocked her. It happens. 😄
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: applexkiss on July 04, 2018, 04:55:17 am
@simang parang imposible na napindot nya lang sis hehe kasi kelangan mo pa talaga diba puntahan yung profile nung tao na un sa messenger, para iclick yung Block button.

Send mixed signals? For what? Like what po?

Iniisip ko din, if gf nya nag utos (if meron man), why block lang sa messenger? Kung ako un dapat UNFRIEND na or matik BLOCKED na. Haha!

@three8one
hahaha pain talaga? hindi po ako ang first love nya. May exes na rin yun pero that was a decade ago pa. Nung immature pa sya (as if di pa mature eh) Haha!

Feeling ko nga yung last day na ng pagchat namin, huling paalam na nya yun. Hehe. Nabanggit nya din na happy sya sa kung ano na achieve ko. Biruin mo yun? Akala ko nga naka unfollow na siya since then, pero nakikita parin pala nya  yung mga posts ko sa timeline nya. But he never "liked" it, hindi katulad noon nung OK pa kami (though wala naman talagang kami lol).

@Girltalker
Baka naman sis nairita ka lang sa kanya before kaya mo nablocked accidentally. char!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 05, 2018, 11:59:36 pm
Thank you sa advices. Right now, I?m trying to move on with my life. Slowly rebuilding myself and believing that everything happens for a reason.
Ang dami kong question as to why this happened pero I think in time I will better understand this. The guy confessed that he got afraid of commitment, turned out my hangups sya from his childhood. Coming from a broken family. Not only that, but he also hired a therapist that offers extra service. Yung girl na yun I think yung parang naging escape nya to get out of the situation. He admitted na nagkita sila nung girl several times. They went out on dates. He enjoyed daw the company of the girl. But they?re not doing any sexual acts. Sobrang traumatic experience for me. Nagdecide na din ako not to push through with the wedding. Then ngayon, i found out na sila na nung girl. Masakit but I know the situation could have been worst if we pushed through with the wedding.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on July 06, 2018, 09:44:39 am
Nako Ate hayaan mo sila. Look at them, owning how cheap they are, mga walang delikadesa. Ganda ganda mo teh, move on then rumampa ka.

Huuugs for you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 06, 2018, 10:21:30 am
Nako Ate hayaan mo sila. Look at them, owning how cheap they are, mga walang delikadesa. Ganda ganda mo teh, move on then rumampa ka.

Huuugs for you.
Yes true sis. Sobrang cheap i know. 😞
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on July 06, 2018, 03:04:09 pm
^ cut mo na communications niyo ha. Wag ka nang maging curious sa mga nangyayari  sa buhay niya. wag kang magreply sa texts, block his number. Block social media accnts, unfollow his family, if nahihirapan ka try mo munang mag-open ng accnts mo for a month.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 06, 2018, 05:13:28 pm
That?s what I?ve been trying to do. Pero sometimes I still get tempted to look at their accounts and just end up hurting myself. It has been 3 months. Up to now still a part of me can believe na pinagpalit ako sa prostitute. Sobrang lala.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Gabby11 on July 10, 2018, 11:00:23 am
Guys, issue ba sa inyo kung may stretchmarks??? ano anong body issues nyo sa babae?? hahaha curious lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on July 10, 2018, 02:33:40 pm
^hahahahahaha, nice! hintayin natin answer nila  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on July 10, 2018, 07:23:25 pm
Ako din, issue ba sa mga inyong guys halimbawa nakikipag jerjer on broad daylight tapos maitim ang singit nung girl?

Bigla kong naalala kasi tong friend ko na worried. She's getting married next month and nagwoworry daw sya sa honeymoon pag magdo-do na sila, maitim daw kasi singit nya lol.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kutitapkiss on July 10, 2018, 08:33:31 pm
i'm not  a guy, pero my past bfs, wala naman nakapansin ng stretchmarks ko. i think mas nagmamatter sa kanila talaga if they find you sexy or not. my singit is not maitim pero mejo discolored and yep, napansin nila yun hehe tho it didn't matter naman in the end, as long as malinis ka and you don't smell down there.

ok sorry na sa kaepalan ko, girltalker here hahaha pasok mga bro! lol
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on July 10, 2018, 10:26:22 pm
Guys, issue ba sa inyo kung may stretchmarks??? ano anong body issues nyo sa babae?? hahaha curious lang.

No, di siya issue kasi sino ba namang babae gusto magkastretch mark hehe. Para siyang battle scar di siya nakakahiya nakakaproud pa nga dapat. Kababawan lang kung mag-inarte ang lalaki pagdating sa stretchmarks kasi kung dun pa lang magiinarte na sila pano pa kaya kapag nagkawrinkles na. Ang mahalaga lang is malinis, at hindi burara yung babae(at lalake) sa hygiene niya.. Body issue, siguro kapag masyadong maraming/malalaking tattoo yung babae..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on July 10, 2018, 10:27:32 pm
Guys, issue ba sa inyo kung may stretchmarks??? ano anong body issues nyo sa babae?? hahaha curious lang.

My own experience. They don't even notice yung mga kinaka-insecure-an ng mga babae. They find you sexy in a lot of different ways. Wag lang tayo masyadong pabaya. Still strive to be pleasant to look at, practice good hygiene...you know, the basics.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on July 11, 2018, 05:55:37 am
^Same with my boyfie haha. May weird fetish pa nga yun e. Gusto niya may konting smell down there, kasi mas nakaka-L daw para sa kanya.
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Post by: kvan on July 11, 2018, 06:23:06 am
^I remember yung BF ng co-worker ko dati. Mas type daw hindi naghuhugas kasi daw lasang balut...lol! Naloka ako kasi I was in my 20s at neneng nene pa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on July 11, 2018, 08:22:51 am
^Haha grabe yung lasang balut. Ako ayaw ko ng di ako nagwash, nakakailang. Di feeling confident e. Pero minsan pinagbibigyan ko siya or papaamoy ko muna bago ako magwash. Nakakagana daw hahaha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on July 11, 2018, 09:05:01 am
i'm not  a guy, pero my past bfs, wala naman nakapansin ng stretchmarks ko. i think mas nagmamatter sa kanila talaga if they find you sexy or not. my singit is not maitim pero mejo discolored and yep, napansin nila yun hehe tho it didn't matter naman in the end, as long as malinis ka and you don't smell down there.

ok sorry na sa kaepalan ko, girltalker here hahaha pasok mga bro! lol

Oh, I see TY sa reply haha.

Makes sense, napapansin nga nila, but don't mind siguro.
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Post by: Kiara027 on July 11, 2018, 09:47:53 am
^Haha grabe yung lasang balut. Ako ayaw ko ng di ako nagwash, nakakailang. Di feeling confident e. Pero minsan pinagbibigyan ko siya or papaamoy ko muna bago ako magwash. Nakakagana daw hahaha.

Baka iniisip na lang nya balut kinakain nya.  ;D ;D ;D

Not a guy here pero sa experience ko, yung X ko di naman pinansin stretchmarks ko nun. Hindi din naman maitim ang kili kili at singit ko, well hindi parang tulad sa mga artista, pero carry lang din, di naman nya pinansin. Baka siguro for them, mahalaga malinis.  ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 12, 2018, 08:52:00 am
So exactly 3 months na since we cancelled the wedding. I am trying not to dwell in the past anymore. I tried tinder. And agreed to meet with one of the guys there. We had some drinks. I enjoyed talking to him. I shared to him my story. Not so serious talk naman with some humor pa din. By the end of the night, he asked me if I have kissed a guy on a first date. Sabi ko no. Haha. Im not really ready for it. I think Im ready na for fling fling lang pero not that fast na kiss agad and Im not into hookups din. NOw yung question ko is should I wait for the guy to ask me out again or ok lang ba to ask him out parang friendly date lang naman.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 12, 2018, 09:05:54 am
And since he was medyo flirty flirty and touchy does that mean that he was expecting to have sex? So parang if I?ll ask him out that would mean something like Im leading him on?
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Post by: kvan on July 12, 2018, 09:19:04 am
My concern is that you are still in a very vulnerable stage. Rebound relationship might not exactly be the best option. Depende sa personality mo din. Sabi ng co-worker ko, the best way to get over a guy is to get under another...lol! But that's not for everyone. Assess mo rin sarili mo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on July 12, 2018, 10:48:41 am
@moonandstars, sorry sis pero most of the guys sa tinder sex/fubu lang ang habol gaya nung nameet mo na yes he is goody goody sa umpisa pero at the end of the night lumabas din ang kulay. Kung flirty at touchy siya kailangan mo lalong mag-ingat sa kanya veteran yan at sigurado gawain niya rin yan sa iba. Ingatan mo ang sarili mo at hindi lahat ng willing makinig sayo ay sincere, some have other motives gaya niyan.. Hayaan mo na lang siya if magmessage uli sa iyo magswipe swipe ka na lang ulit para may mameet ka pang iba. :) And sa second question mo - YES at YES!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on July 12, 2018, 03:22:17 pm
@moonandstars kung nakwento mo sa guy then he knows that you are not ready for something serious. Kung ok lang sayo na fling lang and may sex involved then go for it. But do not expect much. Let him contact you first that way you are sure that he is really interested.

I think he is flirty and touchy that night coz he is hoping to get lucky and just being in the moment. He has nothing to lose with you kasi alam niya you are not yet ready to get serious anyway. Now if you ask him out he will expect that you are ok with having casual sex. Sa guys there are no such thing as a friendly date when he has been flirting and touching you all night.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on July 12, 2018, 04:53:14 pm
Hi sis! :)
Been in that same exact situation that you're going through  ;D When me and my bf broke up, naisip ko din talaga na makipag-flirt agad. Para kasing it's easier to move on kapag meron kang kaharutan :D
So, I joined this dating site I discovered here, haha
I met a guy na ganyan din. Super touchy din nya and at the end of the night, he tried his luck if he can take me home (food lang?), hahaha
I said, no.
What's sad about dating sites is, sobrang bilis ng mga pangyayari. Kachat mo ngayon, then after 2 to 3 days, wala na. Ang pinakamatagal ko, 2 weeks na kachat, but I'm not saying that you can't find real love there. I'm saying, dating sites can really be a big help when moving on  :) Just enjoy your freedom for now, pero wag kang papadala agad agad  :)
just like one of our sisses just mentioned, men or that guy has an idea that you're vulnerable right now and he might take advantage of that.
You just gone through something really really painful, sabi ko after my experience, I will be wiser this time pero not to the point that I'm depriving myself from things that could make me happy.
Good luck sayo sis!
Hayaan mo na na sya ang unang mag-reach out sayo, ok? :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 12, 2018, 10:02:53 pm
Thanks sa advice guys. Yes tama kayo lahat. Ngayon sobrang vulnerable talaga ako. Onting attention lang kilig na agad. Haha. Kaya extra careful din ako. At least nakahanap lang din ako ng distraction to get my mind off my ex. Di ko na sya masyadong naiisip dahil sa mga kachat ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on July 13, 2018, 09:37:46 am
^na try ko din yan dati sis, after a break up nag try ako online sa una nakaka aliw and makakalimutan mo ex mo pero temporary lang. kasi pag nag fail yung mga ka online mo you can't help but compare them to your ex. How he made you feel.

Best talaga is to get strong from within. Focus on yourself. Get to know yourself all over again. Maybe it's not yet your time to get married kasi may mga kailangan ka pa gawin.

Get better. Magpa beauty ka, magpa sexy, magpayaman, mag travel etc. if you feel good about yourself quality guys will be attracted to you. Don't get me wrong maybe you are already those things but believe me meron pa talaga tayo kailangan improve. Maybe not physically baka emotionally or spiritually. Anything. Good luck sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on July 13, 2018, 03:19:50 pm
Yes I agree with you sis. Right now, ang daming nagbago sa buhay ko after the incident. I applied for a new job. I?ve been wanting to quit my job since before pa. Been in the same job for 10 years. Ngayon Finally I found the courage to shift career. So far naman im adjusting here and nageenjoy ako cause I get to learn new things. I?ve also been traveling the past few months. Trying out new things like boxing and yoga. Ngayon medyo nakakagetover na ako from what happened. And sana magtuloy tuloy na. I know God has a special plan for me.  😊
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on July 14, 2018, 08:35:50 am
NOw yung question ko is should I wait for the guy to ask me out again or ok lang ba to ask him out parang friendly date lang naman.

I think you should wait.
Pero medyo conservative kasi ako and I believe ladies should never ever ask. You can hint, but not ask. Especially sa stage na getting to know palang naman.

Tsaka by all means, meet other people din. Maraming lalaki naman. And have some criteria. If flirty and touchy sa first date palang, di ba dapat bagsak na iyan?



Get better. Magpa beauty ka, magpa sexy, magpayaman, mag travel etc. if you feel good about yourself quality guys will be attracted to you. Don't get me wrong maybe you are already those things but believe me meron pa talaga tayo kailangan improve. Maybe not physically baka emotionally or spiritually. Anything. Good luck sis.

I like this. My favourite advice for the day. If need be, take a course, pick up a fruitful hobby. And yes, yoga and boxing definitely can help! Continue mo lang. if ayaw mo na later, ok lang, dami pa iba things to try!

Not only may distraction, Di ka nagsasayang ng oras sa twitter or internet. And most important of it all, this is the best revenge - mag emerge ka as the best version of yourself. Prove to yourself na you?re better off talaga without him.

Quality guys will eventually come. And make sure whoever mapili mo, should be an upgrade from your ex.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 06, 2018, 02:55:21 pm
Question lang sa guys.  Di ko maintindihan,puro tingin lang. walang salita. Then pag tumingin naman sa kanya, tingin din lang. Tapos, sasama loob nya kapag di natingnan. Been like this for 3 yrs, sa isang church. we just see each other 1 or 2x a month.  nainis ako, di ko na tiningnan. then this month, meron na siyang sinamang girl.  at for all he cares, niyakap nya talaga. Ang weird kc, di naman nagsasabi. Is it final na he has gotten this girl na? Everyone knows, bago lang sya. and a lot of people knew he was trying to get to me. Waala kasing nagsasabi sa kin pero may nagpaparinig.  Decided na siguro sya sa girl for him to bring one after 3 yrs?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 06, 2018, 03:23:35 pm
^Like mo ba si guy kaya parang bothered ka sa actions niya? Kasi kung hindi mo naman siya like dedmahin mo na lang kung anong gingawa niya at kung anuman ang ibinubulong or parinig sa iyo ng iba.

Territorial ang lalake kung gusto ka niyan gumawa na ng paraan yan para makalapit sayo, imagine 3yrs tapos wala man lang linaw na action na ginawa. Nagawa nga niyang makalapit sa ibang girl so bakit sa iyo hindi kung talagang type ka niya?!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 06, 2018, 10:58:10 pm
to mysterioza -- oo, may feelings ako. as in,dami aligid, pero sya lang talaga. weird. pero it's real.

parang nasisisi ko sarili ko. maybe i was not friendly to him at all.  sobrang naiilang ako. sa kanya lang. sa iba hindi.   Like Im blaming myself.
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Post by: kutitapkiss on August 07, 2018, 12:31:44 am
^^ the guy has a LIP and he?s flirty with you acting sweet like a bf and all? Girl, alam na. I don?t think you?re confused, you?re just in denial. But by all means, YES go and ask him. For the sake of your sanity. Ask him kung ano ba kayo, and bat sha sweet. Benefit of the doubt baka nature nya lang yun. But yeah most likely not, baka sadyang malandi lang talaga sha.

^ well sis, ang labo nung puro tingin lang. So hindi nag effort at all si guy, tama? Pero you know na gusto ka nya and gusto mo din sha all along... ayun nga lang walang nag initiate. Alam ko yang mga ganyang galawan ng lalake e. Ipagkakalat sa lahat na gusto ka nya, hahayaan nyang makarating sayo, pero he won?t do anything. Usually, nag aantay yan sila. Either for you to 1. Tell the common friends na gusto mo din sha, or 2. For you to make the first move. Err. Girl, don?t blame yourself. Para sa akin, yung mga ganung lalaki, not worth it. Lol. They simply got no balls. Hindi sa nagpapaka dalagang pilipina ko, im not. Pero ayok ng ganung galawan. Again, walang balls. Or di ka lang talaga super gusto. Cos i agree with sis @mysterioza_me, mga lalake highly territorial. Pag sobrang gusto ka talaga nila, babakuran ka nyan, or at least gagawa naman ng move kahit papano. So yep. Dami pang lalaki jan girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 07, 2018, 01:53:34 am
^Ganyan nga. Naghihintay si guy na si girl unang magbigay ng motibo. May guys kasi na takot mabasted so aalamin muna kung may pag-asa siya bago didiskarte LOL.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 07, 2018, 05:42:02 am
i think he was too gentle to me siguro dahil we meet sa church.  he attempted several times, yung try to be near and then i will move away.  nahihiya ako sa kanya.  sa kanya lang ako lumalayo.  napagod siguro.

if he has shown that public display, that means wala na.  and he has decided to take that course - yung girl na?

grabe, now ko lang naramadaman yung ganito.  It's usually the guys who couldn't get over me.   ang sakit sobra.   ngayon lang ako umiyak ng husto.  it's been 4 days, hard to sleep. hirapan ako kumain.  i couldn't get it off my mind yung nakita kong hug nya girl while walking under the rain.

Is it worth to ask someone close to him?   o baka mapahiya lang ako?   

aminin ko Im still hoping one month lang lumipas when he waited for me, unfortunately, I left.  Di ko kasi alam na he'll wait to talk to me.  When I saw him last wk, galit sya sa kin.  Dahil lang wala ako?  Kaya ayun, napuno na siguro and finally decided to find someone else.

 Im still hoping kasi for 4 years, walang iba.  Suddenly biglang may girl, 1 month lang.  binigay nya kaya totally yung heart and decision nya dun sa girl?   wala na agad yung 4 yrs na ligaw tingin?  (sorry, napakaconservative ko. )     naghanap sya agad dahil galit sya?

bakit ako hanging on?  dahil in a dream, God told me I will get married to him. it was years ago...

thank you sa pagtyaga to read my mesg...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 07, 2018, 07:51:10 am
@shiny: Guys sometimes has this insecurities. Pareho ba kayo ng social status? Kung mas nakakaangat ka then he is intimidated. Now if he tried to be near to you tapos ikaw ang lumalayo then girl, it's your fault. Kasi kahit ako ang maging lalake, why would I waste my time kung wala namang pag-asa? Nagtyaga pa nga sya ng 3 years. That's three years wasted for him. Maghanap ka na lang ng iba. It's too late!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 07, 2018, 07:57:17 am
Muntik na Kitang Minahal

May sikreto akong sasabihin sa 'yo
Mayroong nangyaring hindi mo alam
Ito'y isang lihim itinagong kay tagal
Muntik na kitang minahal
'Di ko noon nakayang ipadama sa 'yo
Ang nararamdaman ng pusong ito
At hanggang ngayon ay naaalala pa
Muntik na kitang minahal

REFRAIN:
Ngayon ay aaminin ko na
Na sana nga ay tayong dalawa
Bawat tanong mo'y iniwasan ko
Akala ang pag-ibig mo'y 'di totoo
'Di ko alam kung ano ang nangyari
Damdamin ko sa 'yo'y hindi ko masabi
Hanggang ang puso mo'y mapagod
Sa paghihintay kay tagal
Saka ko lang naisip muntik na kitang minahal

'Di ko noon nakayang ipadama sa 'yo
Ang nararamdaman ng pusong ito
At hanggang ngayon ay naaalala pa
Muntik na kitang minahal

REFRAIN:
Ngayon ay aaminin ko na
Na sana nga'y tayong dalawa
Bawat tanong mo'y iniwasan ko
Akala ang pag-ibig mo'y 'di totoo
'Di ko alam kung ano ang nangyari
Damdamin ko sa 'yo'y hindi ko nasabi
Hanggang ang puso mo'y mapagod
Sa paghihintay kay tagal
Saka ko lang naisip
Muntik na kitang minahal
Hanggang ang puso mo'y mapagod
Sa paghihintay kay tagal
Saka ko lang naisip
Muntik na kitang minahal

****Wala lang. Gusto ko lang kumanta.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 07, 2018, 08:48:00 am
:-(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 07, 2018, 08:50:03 am
he's actually rich. Im not.  Pero he seemed to admire that I am from tech background may brains kahit pano...  Yup, sayang. Thing is, di muntik e... mahal ko sya.  now ko narealize, how much. he's gone, i guess.

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Post by: Bridgette* on August 07, 2018, 09:09:52 am
:-(

Tsk tsk, that's why regrets is your biggest enemy at the end of the day. So while you're on the process, do your part! We never give up easily on what we want, right. But maybe it's too late.

Kaya kung ako sayo, mag move on ka na Ate  ;) Saka if it is God's will for you to have him, everything will work together for good, isn't it?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 07, 2018, 09:24:55 am
yes, my fault. yung iniponn nyang lakas ng loob, naubos.  maybe the girl can give what i didn't.    I rest it to God's hands
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 07, 2018, 10:37:41 am
^No. Not totally your fault. If gustong-gusto ka niya gagawa siya ng mas malinaw na way para i-express ang sarili niya at hindi puro paramdam at tingin lang. Mas easy nga for him na gumawa ng way para makalapit sayo since same church kayo. Most likely may common friends kayo na pwedeng hingan niya ng tulong para maintroduce kayo ng formal. Pero sa 3yrs wala siyang malinaw na action. Pwedeng assuming ka lang na gusto ka niya base sa actions niya. Alam mo naman tayong girls may ugaling ganyan.
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Post by: kutitapkiss on August 07, 2018, 11:26:26 am
^^ i agree with you completely.

^ sadly, may mga lalakeng ganyan. malandi talaga. may partner na, gusto pa may kalandian on the side. go ahead and ask him. para hindi ka na nagtatanong what is... mas mahirap yang ganyan sis. yes masakit pero right now nasasaktan ka rin naman. same lang.

i think he was too gentle to me siguro dahil we meet sa church.  he attempted several times, yung try to be near and then i will move away.  nahihiya ako sa kanya.  sa kanya lang ako lumalayo.  napagod siguro.

if he has shown that public display, that means wala na.  and he has decided to take that course - yung girl na?

grabe, now ko lang naramadaman yung ganito.  It's usually the guys who couldn't get over me.   ang sakit sobra.   ngayon lang ako umiyak ng husto.  it's been 4 days, hard to sleep. hirapan ako kumain.  i couldn't get it off my mind yung nakita kong hug nya girl while walking under the rain.

Is it worth to ask someone close to him?   o baka mapahiya lang ako?   

aminin ko Im still hoping one month lang lumipas when he waited for me, unfortunately, I left.  Di ko kasi alam na he'll wait to talk to me.  When I saw him last wk, galit sya sa kin.  Dahil lang wala ako?  Kaya ayun, napuno na siguro and finally decided to find someone else.

 Im still hoping kasi for 4 years, walang iba.  Suddenly biglang may girl, 1 month lang.  binigay nya kaya totally yung heart and decision nya dun sa girl?   wala na agad yung 4 yrs na ligaw tingin?  (sorry, napakaconservative ko. )     naghanap sya agad dahil galit sya?

bakit ako hanging on?  dahil in a dream, God told me I will get married to him. it was years ago...

thank you sa pagtyaga to read my mesg...

what do you mean lalapit sayo? as in tatabi lang ganun? walang hi? kasi if that's the case then no, he's not being gentle. kapos na kapos sa effort at balls. and daming paraan sis. facebook, ig, twitter, kung hirap sha kausapin ka sa personal, pwedeng dun muna sana sha magumpisa? kung nabasa mo yung previous message ko, feeling ko talaga ganun yung gusto nya mangyari. i think you're making excuses for him. why are you being so hard on yourself? i've seen a lot of guys in action, isa lang ang masasabi ko. kung gustong gusto ka talaga, gagawin lahat and will exhaust all the options just to reach out and talk to you. pag ganyang nakikiramdam lang, meh.

asan na ba yung mga guytalker haha i'd love to hear their thoughts on this lol.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on August 07, 2018, 11:32:02 am
^^ Ikaw kasi marupok ka. Don't let yourself be taken for granted. Why don't you ask him and see for yourself para di ka nagkakaganyan? Kung ayaw mo magtanong, then don't act like that because it implies na okay lang sayo na ganyan LANG ang status nyo. Sweet sweet sya and all tapos ikaw aasa naman. Kairita yang mga ganyang lalaki, gustong namamangka sa dalawang ilog. Sarap lunurin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on August 07, 2018, 08:09:25 pm
^ walang balls din yung lalaki kasi.
Natural wala kayong label at May live in partner sya.

He is just using you. Yes Puede naman magdrama na nahihirapan sya. At the end of the day, Yung lip nya ang Kinikilalang partner at ikaw ang dakilang kabit or 3rd party.

To hell with them, just move on and learn from this lesson. Madali naman iwasan if sa umpisa palang, guarded ka na. Don?t allow your feelings to develop to an assh&le. You will definitely end up broken hearted.

@shiny, sorry sis but I find your story sobrang Oa. Nagtitinginan lang kayo, in love na agad? Parang you are just imagining things. Parang movie lang ang peg. For god?s sakes, you don?t even know the guy, how is he like, what?s his personality. Then iiyakan mo na?

Is it worth to ask someone close to him?   o baka mapahiya lang ako?   


Malamang mapapahiya ka lang. para sakin, kahit anong gawin mo, if gusto ka nya, he will pursue you. Ano ba naman Yung tawagan ka, mag hi sayo. Kahit pa tutukan mo iyan ng baril, he will call you if may gusto sya sayo.
Siguro feeling Lang nya he was initially interested to get to know you. Eh iwas ka ng iwas, so he finally got to know someone who is more straightforward at walang arte. Baka yun ang type nya.
Just move on and have some self respect. Di purkit tinititigan ka ng guy eh patay na patay na sya sayo or mag imagine ka na sya na Prince Charming mo. And payag ka ba sa label na ?nakuha lang sa tingin??  Titigan ka lang, payag ka na maging gf?

Sorry medyo off, pero feeling ko talaga oa. But that?s just my opinion. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 07, 2018, 08:29:25 pm
@Gabby11: May live-in-partner? What's to be confused about that?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 07, 2018, 09:28:04 pm
he actually asked 2 persons to be introduced. hay...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on August 07, 2018, 09:35:27 pm
^ how old are you?
Baka kasi high school palang kayo, kaya ka nagkakaganyan?
Kaya ganun din sya?

He asked 2 people to introduce him to you? Eh bakit Di sya mag approach sayo?  Kung gusto ka talaga nya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shiny on August 08, 2018, 02:38:33 am
above 30s, maybe both cowards
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 08, 2018, 03:24:09 am
^Girl sa age ninyo na yan hindi coward si Guy kundi sadyang hindi ka niya type kaya hindi siya nag-da-moves (Sorry for being blunt)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: otra_vez on August 08, 2018, 05:53:13 am
@shiny: Wag mo isipin masyado. If he likes you enough, he will go to you. If not, kebs di ba. Wag yang nasistress ka agad eh wala pa naman nangyayari. Also, where are you getting your info? Baka naman people are just buttering you up for nothing. Minsan people do that eh, kainis ano. But yun nga, don't think about it. Enjoy your single status, girl. There's plenty of time for all that landian someday, when it happens. Sa ngayon, pasarap ka muna.

@Gabby: Nasabi na nila lahat but seriously, wtf, he has a partner already. Ikaw na lumayo since obviously wala sa tamang pagiisip yang lalaking yan. He's feeding his ego with your misguided affection. Ginagamit ka lang nyan so ngayon pa lang, save yourself more pain and shame at cut ties na. He doesn't respect you, obviously.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on August 08, 2018, 08:13:31 am
above 30s, maybe both cowards

Naku sis do not make excuses for this guy. If he likes you he is coming for you. He will pursue you no  matter what. I have turned guys down, told them upfront na hindi kame pwede and still makulit pa rin. I asked why, kasi gusto daw nila ako. And also don't blame yourself for not doing anything. Wala ka naman talaga dapat gawin.

He was suppose to be the one to approach you, initiate the conversation, get your number and ask you out. Guys are hunters and if he really likes you he is going for it. Maybe he was a little interested, he was looking at you and you were looking back. Pero hindi nag escalate yun. Now you see him with someone else. No big deal, hindi naman naging kayo, ni hindi nga kayo nag usap. All of this is just in your head. Snap out of it and live your best life.

Go out there and meet new people. Meet guys that actually wants to talks to you and asks you out. Don't long and cry for this guy who didn't even have the guts to say hi to you. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 08, 2018, 08:27:14 am
^Agree. Agree.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on August 08, 2018, 09:21:53 am
Lakas maka teenager.

Akala mo lang siguro meron something sa inyo pero baka ang totoo wala naman talaga.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on August 08, 2018, 09:50:51 am
^True. Nag-assume lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on August 08, 2018, 11:38:07 am
^utak din gamitin sis huwag lang puro puso. Ilagay mo na lang sarili mo sa lip niya. Kung ikaw yung girl. The guy gets the best of both worlds. He goes home to a family and pag wala siya dun he gets you na parang gf bf treatment. Ang swerte niya diba ang selfish at the same time.

Sorry to say this but you lack self love. Kasi if you really love yourself you will do better than this. You will not be in that situation. He knows it and he is playing with your weakness. Wala ka din respect sa sarili mo. Wala ka din respect sa relationship ng ibang tao.

Get better and be stronger emotionally. Learn to love yourself and give to you what you truly deserve. Yan ang dapat mong gawin hindi yung itanong sa taong may partner na to define your relationship. Nyek diba. Stop watching too many telenovelas and dramas. This will not end well for you and you know it. 



Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on August 08, 2018, 10:27:46 pm
^^Wag gawin valid reason na dahil may problema un magpartner ok lang na may sumingit ala Liz Uy. Kung talaga ayaw nya sa partner nya hiwalayan muna bago makipag landian sayo.

LIP at mag asawa para sa akin iisa lang yan or dahil kasi dito valid or legally may K ang kapartner. Plus may anak sa kanya si guy so anong tawag sayo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on August 09, 2018, 12:15:20 am
@kvan: his actions, attention and all. He always tells na, mas gusto nyang ako ang kasama at kausap nya. Hindi nya kayang iwan lip and kid kasi yung responsibilities nya sa kanila, di nya kayang abandonahin na lang bigla.

Of course yun ang sasabihin nya! Alangan namang sabihin nya yung totoo? Anyways, technically you are a mistress so it really boils down to what you want to do with your life.  Either gusto mo ng tahimik or magulo. We can't decide for you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: otra_vez on August 09, 2018, 01:56:07 am
@Gabby: Forever litanya yan ng cheaters. Of course, he's frustrated with his partner. Never mind all the sacrifices, all the love, the life his partner has given him.  This fleeting moment of frustration is mas matimbang for him now especially now that he has found a confidant, an ally in you. Tandaan mo, that feeling of "everything feels so right!", that's how the two of them started too, which is why he goes home to her, not you. So never assume na what you have now is special. Hindi, it's so unspecial nga eh kaya he feels he can treat you like a side dish.

Ika nga ng iba, mahalin mo sarili mo. Wag magpakadesperada. Sayang ang time sa mga BS relationships and pseudo-relationships when you can instead cultivate a more meaningful relationship with yourself and the people who truly love & cherish you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on August 09, 2018, 08:00:40 am
above 30s, maybe both cowards
Nasabi na lahat ng mga sis dito, stop making excuses for him na lang. Huwag mo ring bigyang pansin yung dream mo na magiging kayo, panaginip lang yun doesn't mean kailangang mangyayari or mangyayari - heck napanaginipan ko dati na kami ni angel locsin. Kung talagang gusto ka niya gumawa na sana siya ng paraan higit pa sa mga ginawa niya. If talagang gusto ka niya hindi siya papayag na sa church ka lang niya makikita. If talagang sincere at special ka for him special din ang gagawin niya para mapalapit sa iyo.

I'm sorry to hear na nahihirapan ka ngayon pero lilipas din yan since after a few weeks once tumigil na kakaisip mo sa kanya at sa what ifs. Right now respect their relationship na lang. Accept na may gf na siya, na may special person na siya sa buhay niya, someone na nageffort siya enough para mapasagot yung girl - something na di niya ginawa sayo dahil di ganun kabigat feelings niya for you.

 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on August 09, 2018, 08:14:23 am
..
Thanks mga sis sa mga advices. Alam ko naman, sakin din magsimula dapat na lumayo, I jsut do not have the strength to do it. :(
Mahirap dahil palagi mo siyang kasama or nakikita. Katrabaho mo ba? Maliban sa magresign dumistansya na lang talaga magagawa mo. Humanap ka na ibang group of friends, umiwas ka sa chances na magkakasama or magkikita kayo. Mahirap sa simula dahil nakasanayan mo na pero yun lang ang way ang sanayin mo naman ang sarili mo na wala siya. Respect mo sarili mo sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on August 09, 2018, 09:22:52 am
^^ Pero ang nagdala talaga eh yung pagdyowa mo kay Angel Locsin. Lodi. hahahaha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: deliciossa on October 05, 2018, 12:06:41 pm
so question. sa tanda kong ito (mid 30s), di ko alam kung etong si new guy friend eh interested ba o hindi. usually casual lang naman usapan, how are you and what not. medyo nagulat ako one day since bago pa lang naman kami magkakilala, bigla akong inambush with a question na, "so, are you married?" with several follow-up questions since sabi ko hindi naman ako married, tinanong ako kung boyfriend daw ba meron, fiance, etc. kaloka.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: AprilGal26 on October 05, 2018, 03:49:25 pm
I think that's beyond pagiging polite and pakikisama. Meaning, interested sya sayo (not a guy tho).
I won't try to make a conversation long kung I find someone not interesting. I think humanap ng tsempo yan para makausap ka ng ganyan. I mean, he actually been wanting to ask you those questions pero dinaan na lang muna sa kamustahan.

Where were you guys nung tinanong ka nya? or just through message lang?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on October 05, 2018, 08:51:14 pm
^^ lol feeling close ba na nakukuha ka nang tanungin ng ganyan? Baka yun ang way niya para makipagclose sa isang tao, pakwela ba yung delivery niya sa pagtatanong? Still ang panget ng paraan niya and hopefully di niya na ulitin yung ganung way ng pakikipag-usap, hindi naman kayo close hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: deliciossa on October 06, 2018, 12:33:03 am
I think that's beyond pagiging polite and pakikisama. Meaning, interested sya sayo (not a guy tho).
I won't try to make a conversation long kung I find someone not interesting. I think humanap ng tsempo yan para makausap ka ng ganyan. I mean, he actually been wanting to ask you those questions pero dinaan na lang muna sa kamustahan.

Where were you guys nung tinanong ka nya? or just through message lang?

Personal yun, not through message. We were with other people that time, tapos nung naiwan kami dalawa, which is very rare na kami lang dalawa, biglang ayan nga, ambush. Tapos nung pagbalik nung kasama namin change topic sya ulit.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: amethyst028 on October 06, 2018, 10:06:42 am
^baka intertested siya sayo, but it is best not to assume or expect. Just let it be. Go with the flow ka na lang. kung type ka niya and may plano siya sayo he will do all the work. So just sit back and watch kung ano mga moves niya if meron man.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: marcee7 on October 12, 2018, 06:05:22 pm
Hi guys,  how do you feel kapag nagagalet/pinagbabawalan kayo ng asawa or g.f mag -inom kasama barkada?

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on October 12, 2018, 07:45:28 pm
^bakit ka nagagalit pag uminom siya kasama ang barkada niya? Can you give us a valid reason?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: el presidente on October 12, 2018, 10:17:23 pm
ako kung gusto ko talaga ang girl gagawa ako ng paraan para ma contact ang girl..... by all means.
kung d makuha sa tingin eh di lapitan natin
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kutitapkiss on October 14, 2018, 11:25:48 pm
^^ kung bago pa naging kayo, eh umiinom na talaga sha, mahirap baguhin yan.kelan ba nagstart?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: el presidente on October 16, 2018, 02:02:49 am
tanong ko lang anong ibig sabihin pag sinabi ng girl sa iyo na  " Things end people change and u know what life goes on."
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on October 16, 2018, 07:33:05 am
^it means she is done with you. Na naka move on na siya. Sorry harsh pero yun na talaga yun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 18, 2018, 04:20:47 pm
Guys need your help huhu First time I've hooked up with with this guy this Monday,though he texted the next day he's kinda cold though I mean after we exchanged few messages I told him I had fun last night he didn't reply,kinda pulled away bakit ba ganun? Before we slept together we uagreed no strings attached though it just confuses me cause he used to text good morning last week then was cuddling ,smiling and kissing me after doing the deed. He still replies though and text sometimes but it's kinda different. Will I see him again ba? or ganun talaga kayo guys after sex u lay low? Then come back?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 18, 2018, 09:10:28 pm
^Nagkasundo naman kayo na no strings attached kaya bakit may confusion? Kung anuman yung nangyari sa 4 corners ng room hanggang dun lang yun base sa kasunduan ninyo. So di ka dapat mag-expect na paglabas ng room sweet-sweetan pa din. Magparamdam din yan pag need niya uli ng magpapainit sa kama.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on October 18, 2018, 09:55:07 pm
^^bakit nga naman macoconfuse if may usapan kayo na no string attached. If ever sweet sya after the deed parang natural naman un i mean its a human thing pero outside the bed back to reality na di kayo kaya no demands dapat. No expectations. Mukha from the start emotionally involve ka na di lang physical. Mukha di ka ready for fubu.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 19, 2018, 02:24:24 am
^^bakit nga naman macoconfuse if may usapan kayo na no string attached. If ever sweet sya after the deed parang natural naman un i mean its a human thing pero outside the bed back to reality na di kayo kaya no demands dapat. No expectations. Mukha from the start emotionally involve ka na di lang physical. Mukha di ka ready for fubu.


I guess I was used to him texting me before we decided to do it lol then suddenly after that hindi na masyado nag text. Now I'm telling myself no emotions dapat,slight na dala ako. Haay ano ba ito pinasukan ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 19, 2018, 02:34:41 am
^Nagkasundo naman kayo na no strings attached kaya bakit may confusion? Kung anuman yung nangyari sa 4 corners ng room hanggang dun lang yun base sa kasunduan ninyo. So di ka dapat mag-expect na paglabas ng room sweet-sweetan pa din. Magparamdam din yan pag need niya uli ng magpapainit sa kama.

Slight na paranoid parang hindi na siya masyado nagtext he said gusto niya maging exclusive daw na fubu kami don't know if he meant that nahiya naman ako mag ask if he's really sure. So I'll have to wait nalang now don't want to be clingy kasi. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on October 19, 2018, 03:20:47 am
^anong terms ng exclusive fubu? Meaning sya lang dapat kafubu if yes how sure of you naman na sya ikaw lang din ang kafubu. Kapag ganyan guy di talaga pang serious type kaya hinay hinay baka lalong mafall.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 19, 2018, 07:47:45 am
Maniwala ka naman sa exclusive fubu. Hindi naman lahat, pero may mga guys na in a relationship na nga tumitikim ng iba e ano pa kung fubu lang. Wag mo pag-aksayahan ng space sa isip mo yan, pang-uuto lang yung exclusive fubu.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on October 19, 2018, 09:33:15 am
oo wag kang maniwala sa exclusive fubu na yan, maybe exclusive ka sa kanya pero siya malabo sa asal niya pa lang ngayon classic fucboy na. Alam mo na pinasukan mo sis kung di ka ok sa sitwasyon niyo ngayon labasan mo agad ikaw rin kawawa pagtagal lalo nadala ka na agad. Niligawan ka lang niya para maging fubu hindi para maging friend or gf and im sure marami pa yang nilalanding iba.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 19, 2018, 10:01:52 am
^anong terms ng exclusive fubu? Meaning sya lang dapat kafubu if yes how sure of you naman na sya ikaw lang din ang kafubu. Kapag ganyan guy di talaga pang serious type kaya hinay hinay baka lalong mafall.
Sabi kasi niya sis if ever magkasundo kami he wants us to be exclusive fubu, yan rin doubt ko lol like how sure am I na ako lang? hmmmmm may pahatid hatid pa sa amin after we hang out. Kaya the next time nung nag hang out kami hindi na ako nagpahatid.


Maniwala ka naman sa exclusive fubu. Hindi naman lahat, pero may mga guys na in a relationship na nga tumitikim ng iba e ano pa kung fubu lang. Wag mo pag-aksayahan ng space sa isip mo yan, pang-uuto lang yung exclusive fubu.
  Yan rin isip ko nag d- doubt ako talaga sis.

 
oo wag kang maniwala sa exclusive fubu na yan, maybe exclusive ka sa kanya pero siya malabo sa asal niya pa lang ngayon classic fucboy na. Alam mo na pinasukan mo sis kung di ka ok sa sitwasyon niyo ngayon labasan mo agad ikaw rin kawawa pagtagal lalo nadala ka na agad. Niligawan ka lang niya para maging fubu hindi para maging friend or gf and im sure marami pa yang nilalanding iba.

 Haha so classic f@ck boi pala style niya?!  may pahatid hatid pa nga sa bahay at kiss sa forehead lol and I was like WTF? bakit may ganito hahaha. I  just have to think it's just physical lang and it's all about sex he wants. Nakakinis kasi itong mga pa sweet gestures and I don't even do that to him.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 19, 2018, 12:24:08 pm
^Lalake na mismo nagsabi na galawang f@ckboiii yun kaya maniwala ka na. Wag ka papatol sa fubu setup if madali ka ma-fall sa simpleng gestures lang. Talo ka dyan sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 19, 2018, 12:57:27 pm
^Lalake na mismo nagsabi na galawang f@ckboiii yun kaya maniwala ka na. Wag ka papatol sa fubu setup if madali ka ma-fall sa simpleng gestures lang. Talo ka dyan sis.


Oo nga sis Thanks :-) hindi dpat bigyan ng meaning any gesture enjoy the $*$ lang and huwag ma fall.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on October 19, 2018, 02:14:57 pm
^medyo hindi ko gets sis. Why did you agree sa no strings attached thing but deep inside you want more. Nabasa ko kasi post mo dun sa isang thread na parang you felt used. The guy did not use you, he was clear with what he wanted and what he is there for. Ikaw lang yung nagbigay ng more meaning or you had expectations beyond what is the reality.

Charge it to experience na lang and do not feel bad about it. Minsan kasi tayong mga girls meron tayong image in our head sa gusto natin mangyari that we fail to see a situation for what it really  is then we get disappointed later on. Or minsan malinaw na sinasabi ng guy pero hindi tayo nakiknig tapos magagalit tayo sa kanila at feeling natin niloko tayo.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 19, 2018, 05:04:12 pm
^medyo hindi ko gets sis. Why did you agree sa no strings attached thing but deep inside you want more. Nabasa ko kasi post mo dun sa isang thread na parang you felt used. The guy did not use you, he was clear with what he wanted and what he is there for. Ikaw lang yung nagbigay ng more meaning or you had expectations beyond what is the reality.

Charge it to experience na lang and do not feel bad about it. Minsan kasi tayong mga girls meron tayong image in our head sa gusto natin mangyari that we fail to see a situation for what it really  is then we get disappointed later on. Or minsan malinaw na sinasabi ng guy pero hindi tayo nakiknig tapos magagalit tayo sa kanila at feeling natin niloko tayo.




Yun nga po sis I was confused with this gestures and  expected he would call/ text me after like he used to so parang ganun I felt a little used but yun nga I agreed with this set up. Now I tell myself huwag mag expect and enjoy na lang the ride kung ano man mangyari next.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: quirkhy on October 20, 2018, 01:00:51 am
ask ko lang po,pag po ba sinabi ng lalake sa gf nila na wala na syang mukhang maihaharap dito ay seryoso ito? example po may ginawa kasing kasalanan yung bf,pero di naman ganun kabigat pero naging dahilan ng awayan eh....seryoso po ba or sa tingin nyo nagpapasuyo lang?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on October 21, 2018, 08:43:23 am
Ano bang kasalanan niya? Kung di naman mabigat ibig sabihin nagddrama lang siya or wrong choice of words. OR ito yung way niya para magbreak na sila ng gf, na kunwari sobrang hiya niya sa babae kaya hindi na siya makikipagkita/makikipag-ayos pero ang totoo ayaw niya na lang talaga sa gf niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 21, 2018, 10:28:03 am
ask ko lang po,pag po ba sinabi ng lalake sa gf nila na wala na syang mukhang maihaharap dito ay seryoso ito? example po may ginawa kasing kasalanan yung bf,pero di naman ganun kabigat pero naging dahilan ng awayan eh....seryoso po ba or sa tingin nyo nagpapasuyo lang?
Ikaw na nagsabi hindi gaanong mabigat ang kasalanan at mukhang ready ka naman magpatawad pero nag-iinarte siya at may sinasabi pa na walang mukhang maihaharap. Most likely nagdadahilan na lang yan para makipagbreak.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 21, 2018, 07:09:55 pm
Now I tell myself huwag mag expect and enjoy na lang the ride kung ano man mangyari next.

Sis payong kapatid lang. iwasan mo na iyang lalaking iyan. Kung ako lang naman nasa position mo, lalayo ako.

You felt used. And now di ka pa nadala and you want to enjoy the ride?

From what I?ve seen, you won?t be enjoying the ride. Yes maybe feeling happy for a few minutes, Pero the more you see him, the more you will fall. The more you will be needy. The more you Want to be with him but he can just offer you sex WHEN HE NEEDS IT. Tapos you will feel used again.

Your relationship whatever you call it is bound to fail. Typical fukcboy + needy desperate girl = tragedy.
Iyan lang nakikita ko.

But then again, buhay mo naman iyan, who am I to tell you what you should do. Basta we already told you what you need to do to make your life better. Nasa sayo if you want to learn the hard way.
Good luck.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: quirkhy on October 22, 2018, 08:13:06 am
yung kasalanan na sinabi nya saken ay sinabi daw nya dun sa babaeng pinagseselosan ko yung about sa pagseselos ko....up to now di ko pa din nirereplayan yang message na sinabi nya....iniisip ko kasi alibi lang yan eh...pero tama bang di ko na lang replayan?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on October 22, 2018, 11:33:36 am
Hello sa mga matino nating guytalkers dyan at sa mga sissies na rin na tutugon sa aking tanong.

Do guys wear a ring on their ring finger for no particular reason? I mean do they just put it there for accessory? Or should I assume that when there's a ring on that finger of a man, he's married?

Ako kasi I put a ring on my ring finger as an accessory lang kahit single ako, ganon din kaya ang guys?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 22, 2018, 01:28:43 pm
^ sis pareho tayo 😁
But mine is more because it looks nicer on that finger or maluwag/masikip if I use my middle finger.

Pero imo, if for guys, more of married kaya sila nagsusuot.
Bihira or never panga ata ako nakkakita ng guy na May ring Pero di married. Minsan nga married na, di pa suot ang ring kasi not comfortable to them or Ayaw lang isuot
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on October 22, 2018, 01:39:31 pm
^^i havent encountered a straight guy who wears rings to accessorize. Hehe. I have many gay friends who do -- but usually sa pointer or pinky finger sila nagsusuot. Fashion statement nga siguro.

And true, even some married men don't like wearing their rings lalo na nga if hindi sila sanay
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on October 22, 2018, 01:43:25 pm
@ miss Bridgette

 si Josepepe daw sasagot sa tanong mo PM sent na daw... haha! \/,,

seryoso na, di po ko matino pero share ko lang insight ko since im wearing my wedding ring and bond ring (yun ba tawag dun?) at the same finger most of the time. most kasi hinuhubad ko pag nasa bahay lang ako prone kasi sa gasgas kaya not all the time im wearing my wedding ring. regarding sa tanong mo, yung ring finger is for ring naman talaga so its normal na doon talaga nilalagay yung ring ng karamihan depende na lang sa kung ano ang purpose like what you said for you its an accessory and etc. ako, kaya ko palagi sinusuot to remind me na im married makakalimutin kasi ako eh. haha! charot.. and I don't know if alam mo tong explanation na ito, nun narinig ko kasi to noon single pa ko tumatak na sa isip ko to totoo man o hindi for me it makes sense, once you get married daw kaya yung ring nilalagay sa left ring finger kasi meron daw dito malaking vein diretso sa heart. yung ring symbolize sa spouse mo and the vein serves as a tie na nagkokonek papunta sa heart mo. parang ganun... haha! ewan ko kung napaliwanag ko sayo ng maayos. sensya na inde kasi ko matalino.. matalinaw lang.  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 22, 2018, 09:39:12 pm

Yun nga po sis I was confused with this gestures and  expected he would call/ text me after like he used to so parang ganun I felt a little used but yun nga I agreed with this set up. Now I tell myself huwag mag expect and enjoy na lang the ride kung ano man mangyari next.

Dagdag ko Lang, I don?t think you will enjoy the ride.

... kung ANUMAN MANGYARI... I Guess All of us know what?s gonna happen if you don?t put a stop to it. Gagamitin ka lang naman nya again and again.

If you want to ENJOY the RIDE, sad to say sis, sya Lang Ang mag eenjoy. Siguro ikaw a few minutes hoping things will work out the way you want it. Pero sa asta nya, you will just end up used, unless ikaw mismo ang umiwas sa kanya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 23, 2018, 12:37:48 am
Dagdag ko Lang, I don?t think you will enjoy the ride.

... kung ANUMAN MANGYARI... I Guess All of us know what?s gonna happen if you don?t put a stop to it. Gagamitin ka lang naman nya again and again.

If you want to ENJOY the RIDE, sad to say sis, sya Lang Ang mag eenjoy. Siguro ikaw a few minutes hoping things will work out the way you want it. Pero sa asta nya, you will just end up used, unless ikaw mismo ang umiwas sa kanya.


Salamat sa advise mga sis Girltaker2 and sa iba  :)  baka blessing in disguise rin I haven't heard from him na for 2 days. Gusto ko ata tumawag so badly pero like hindi ko kaya yung ganun baka  ano masabi, siguro one time lang talaga habol niya may pa etchoss pa siya na exclusive  :-[  >:(  hmmmm ika nga sa kanta ni Ben and Ben na Kathang isip lol  Minsan siya'y para sa iyo
Pero minsan siya'y paasa
   lol
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 23, 2018, 07:57:01 pm
^ sis, Hindi naman sa pinapaasa kita. But I bet you, tatawag ulit iyan Pag walang mahanap na willing sumiping sa kanya for free. Then kung papayag ka ulit magpagamit, eh di naka-Isa ulit sya. Then pupusta ulit ako na iiwan ka na naman nyan sa ere na parang walang nangyari.
And the cycle goes on.
That is, Kung papayag ka ulit nagpaloko.

Iyang klase ng Guys na iyan ang dapat iwasan ng mga babae. Mahilig mang-Isa kung makakaisa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: iam_me on October 24, 2018, 08:36:55 am
may married man ba talaga na willing i give up everything para sa other woman? how can you say na totoo yung mga promises nya sa girl if ngayong nasa wife sya wala ni isa mang text si guy sa girl
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on October 25, 2018, 01:02:10 am
^^If he is giving her other fringe benefits other than sex (e.g. money, travels, gadgets and stuff), then she can enjoy the ride. Quid pro quo kumbaga. But at the current rate, she'll only get booty calls.
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Post by: Bridgette* on October 25, 2018, 08:51:31 am
^^^^^^^^

^^^^^^^

^^^^^^

Got it! Thank ya!
Good option din siguro is to ask lol. I don't assume unless otherwise stated.  ;D

may married man ba talaga na willing i give up everything para sa other woman? how can you say na totoo yung mga promises nya sa girl if ngayong nasa wife sya wala ni isa mang text si guy sa girl

Wala. At walang totoo sa mga p*tapeteng promises ng mga ganyang lalaki. Statistics say only 3% of married men leave their families for their mistresses. Leave meaning as in leave and not sumakabilang bahay lang tapos babalik din. I forgot though where I read that. I just don't get it what they see with those filthy fodder men hehe
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Post by: saqqara on October 25, 2018, 04:02:28 pm
^ sis, Hindi naman sa pinapaasa kita. But I bet you, tatawag ulit iyan Pag walang mahanap na willing sumiping sa kanya for free. Then kung papayag ka ulit magpagamit, eh di naka-Isa ulit sya. Then pupusta ulit ako na iiwan ka na naman nyan sa ere na parang walang nangyari.
And the cycle goes on.
That is, Kung papayag ka ulit nagpaloko.

Iyang klase ng Guys na iyan ang dapat iwasan ng mga babae. Mahilig mang-Isa kung makakaisa.


 That is the sad and ugly part of the fwb /fubu thing the waiting game ika nga nila. Pine pray ko na lang talaga sis.
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Post by: three8one on October 25, 2018, 04:27:37 pm
^ praying without action is nonsense..
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Post by: Apple1230 on October 25, 2018, 06:44:04 pm

 That is the sad and ugly part of the fwb /fubu thing the waiting game ika nga nila. Pine pray ko na lang talaga sis.

What waiting game i think the point of that kind of set up is no attachment. Kung kelan ma horny ulit si guy he will give you a call. But that is kung feel ka pa niya, baka he has found someone else or baka may ilan girls siya on rotation. I mean you never know coz this set up can be anything.

I think same goes for the girl as well, kung horny ka you can give him a call. But in your case better not kasi hindi ka tumutupad sa usapang no strings attach. Do not hold on to his word na exclusive fubu, kasi ikaw lang ang lugi doon. Right now nagkaka ganyan ka na isang beses pa nga lang. what more kung maging frequent baka ma inlove ka. Sa bandang huli ikaw lang ang ma hurt. Siya wala naman paki alam. The guy is obviously a typical f*ckboy better shake him out of your system. 

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 26, 2018, 07:10:58 am

 That is the sad and ugly part of the fwb /fubu thing the waiting game ika nga nila. Pine pray ko na lang talaga sis.

Praying for what?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on October 26, 2018, 02:30:57 pm
^ I think she is praying that her fukcboy take her seriously
Or someone better comes along.

1) fukcboy takes her seriously - alam natin that this is almost impossible. Mauna magunaw ang mundo for this to happen

All of us know that this is beyond your control and therefore hindi dapat umasa dito Si sis saqqara.

2) someone better comes along
Sis saqqara, please use your brains and have some respect for yourself.
Alam mo ba na mas slim ang chance that you will find someone better if you keep on seeing this guy.
Una una, you are falling for this fukcboy, therefore kahit andyan na Si mr right, di mo mapapansin kasi kay fukcboy ka lang naka focus.

Secondly, Ito Mas important. You might meet eligible single men who are willing to commit. However, if may history ka ng fwb, sinong matinong guy papatol sayo? Sorry but yes Meron naman siguro, Pero Feeling ko Mas slim ang chances mo to meet the right one if you can?t even respect yourself.

So conclusion ko talaga is if you want to meet mr right, stable financially, respectable, and someone deserving, dapat ikaw din someone respectable for him to like you and pursue you. Pero kapag willing ka maging spare tire at basura ng isang fukcboy na nilalang, then tendency is you will just attract the same guys. And the cycle won?t end.

Have some self respect and dignity, and good responsible men will come to you.

These are just my thoughts.
Guys feel free to comment if you don?t agree.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 26, 2018, 03:44:19 pm
^ praying without action is nonsense..

Promise sis pine pray ko talaga like mawala yung na feel ko you know na nag expect ako tumawag siya or what, obviously hindi na siguro, one time lang ata gusto nun.

What waiting game i think the point of that kind of set up is no attachment. Kung kelan ma horny ulit si guy he will give you a call. But that is kung feel ka pa niya, baka he has found someone else or baka may ilan girls siya on rotation. I mean you never know coz this set up can be anything.

I think same goes for the girl as well, kung horny ka you can give him a call. But in your case better not kasi hindi ka tumutupad sa usapang no strings attach. Do not hold on to his word na exclusive fubu, kasi ikaw lang ang lugi doon. Right now nagkaka ganyan ka na isang beses pa nga lang. what more kung maging frequent baka ma inlove ka. Sa bandang huli ikaw lang ang ma hurt. Siya wala naman paki alam. The guy is obviously a typical f*ckboy better shake him out of your system. 

 Yung nga sis I wanted to call him but ayoko nga baka clingy dating sa kanya, Kaya I said the waiting part is hard  :(  That's why I hate myself kasi I can't stop thinking about him pine pray ko nga lang mawala na, pasensya na nadala ako sa mga titig at kung ano pa iyun  :'(

 
Praying for what?

 Na mawala ang na feel ko na nag e expect ako tumawag siya or ano kasi wala eh. So Like one time pala gusto niya bakit may drama pa na he wants it exclusive.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on October 26, 2018, 03:47:25 pm
^^ Couldn't agree more kay sis. Korek korek.

Nakaka iniiis yang lalaki mo ang kapal. Kaya may mga ganyang lalaki eh kasi may mga babae na nagpapa take advantage. Saka hindi naman yan ang essence of sex eh hindi ba? It's supposed to be sacred. Oh well, used to be. Kaya kung fubu fubu lang din naman pala ang gusto mo, wag ka aarte na nasasaktan ka ngayon kasi ginusto mo yan, right. Hindi ka ba nandidiri sinasawsaw nya sa iba tapos isawsaw sayo? Baka mamaya may sakit pa yan. Yung mga ganyang klase sa tingin mo ba may "exclusivity"? For sure hindi lang ikaw ang ka-fubu nya. Feel na feel nya maging fishball ikaw naman feel mo maging toyo.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging you pero naiinis ako sa lalaki mo at sa sitwasyon. Sarap sipain ng fishballs nyang lalaking yun. Ikaw kasi ang dehado dito.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 26, 2018, 03:58:28 pm
^ I think she is praying that her fukcboy take her seriously
Or someone better comes along.

1) fukcboy takes her seriously - alam natin that this is almost impossible. Mauna magunaw ang mundo for this to happen

All of us know that this is beyond your control and therefore hindi dapat umasa dito Si sis saqqara.

2) someone better comes along
Sis saqqara, please use your brains and have some respect for yourself.
Alam mo ba na mas slim ang chance that you will find someone better if you keep on seeing this guy.
Una una, you are falling for this fukcboy, therefore kahit andyan na Si mr right, di mo mapapansin kasi kay fukcboy ka lang naka focus.

Secondly, Ito Mas important. You might meet eligible single men who are willing to commit. However, if may history ka ng fwb, sinong matinong guy papatol sayo? Sorry but yes Meron naman siguro, Pero Feeling ko Mas slim ang chances mo to meet the right one if you can?t even respect yourself.

So conclusion ko talaga is if you want to meet mr right, stable financially, respectable, and someone deserving, dapat ikaw din someone respectable for him to like you and pursue you. Pero kapag willing ka maging spare tire at basura ng isang fukcboy na nilalang, then tendency is you will just attract the same guys. And the cycle won?t end.

Have some self respect and dignity, and good responsible men will come to you.

These are just my thoughts.
Guys feel free to comment if you don?t agree.

Hindi naman ganun sis Girltalker2 na I pray he will take me seriously I know it won't happen. I pray na mawala itong na f-feel ko na nag expect ako he would call me or see me again. Kasi I know it would hurt me in the end and I just realized that bago lang. Salamat sa advise mga sis hindi kayo nagkulang sa pag payo


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: chinablue on October 27, 2018, 04:29:16 am
^sis can't help but comment. don't just pray, take some action too. gusto mo mawala yung ganyang feeling then do something. distract yourself. hindi mawawala yan kung sa guy lang na yan ka nakafocus. your world does not revolve around him. your happiness does not depend on whether he will call you or not. tama yung mga sisses natin dito, stay away from that guy hanggat hindi ka pa fully invested. hanap ka ng ibang pagkakaabalahan para di mo na siya maisip. travel. magpaganda ka. go out with friends. meet other people. maraming paraan sis. you deserve someone much much better sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 27, 2018, 07:49:53 am
^ I think she is praying that her fukcboy take her seriously
Or someone better comes along.

1) fukcboy takes her seriously - alam natin that this is almost impossible. Mauna magunaw ang mundo for this to happen

Hay. Tama. Kalokohan nga ang manalangin ng ganyan 🙁

Saqqara siguro better change your number para di ka umaasa na kokontak pa siya. Or i-block mo ang number niya para di ka na niya makontak. Sa ganung way di ka na aasa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 27, 2018, 11:04:33 pm
^sis can't help but comment. don't just pray, take some action too. gusto mo mawala yung ganyang feeling then do something. distract yourself. hindi mawawala yan kung sa guy lang na yan ka nakafocus. your world does not revolve around him. your happiness does not depend on whether he will call you or not. tama yung mga sisses natin dito, stay away from that guy hanggat hindi ka pa fully invested. hanap ka ng ibang pagkakaabalahan para di mo na siya maisip. travel. magpaganda ka. go out with friends. meet other people. maraming paraan sis. you deserve someone much much better sis.


Salamat sis gumagala naman ako with family lately at least dun nawawala ang na feel ko.


Hay. Tama. Kalokohan nga ang manalangin ng ganyan 🙁

Saqqara siguro better change your number para di ka umaasa na kokontak pa siya. Or i-block mo ang number niya para di ka na niya makontak. Sa ganung way di ka na aasa.


Hindi pwede e block sis marami kasi clients na tumatwag sa akin sa number na iyun. Ang hirap pero I'm trying to be okay naman po. Gumagala naman ako with family  tsaka prayers rin nga, for sure mawawala soon itong anuman na feel ko.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on October 27, 2018, 11:52:32 pm
^Number lang niya ang iba-block mo sis para he cant reach you na. All other numbers/people can still contact you.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: red_yesha on October 28, 2018, 05:59:13 am
Isa na naman pong babae ang napaasa ng isang fuc boy.
Bakit ba ito nangyayare? Kasi you let him fool you.
Mag eenjoy ka sa umpisa but at the end of the day, uuwi kang biktima, talunan at luhaan.
Kung gusto natin seryosohin tayo ng lalake, dun tayo sa matino at alam natin na mamahalin tayo at secured.
^^palayain mo na sarili mo sakanya. Avoid him.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on October 28, 2018, 01:04:09 pm
Promise sis pine pray ko talaga like mawala yung na feel ko you know na nag expect ako tumawag siya or what, obviously hindi na siguro, one time lang ata gusto nun.

guy ako po sis.

kaya nga eh, promise are meant to be broken. hehe! gawin mo rin, kasi kahit anong dasal mo, kahit I grant pa yung prayer mo na I change na yung heart mo sa nararamdaman mo about your fubu tapos yung flesh mo eh ganun pa rin ang ginagawa wala rin silbi talaga yang panalangin mo at pinagsasabi mo rito. pasensya po medjo harsh yung comment ko pero gusto ko lang talaga magising ka at makawala ka jan sa ginagawa mo ngayon.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: otra_vez on October 29, 2018, 11:40:02 am
saqqara: let me start by saying that i don't think na dehado ka. i think women should be able to enjoy sex, even if it's just a casual thing, even if it's with multiple partners. i think your problem and i think this is a common problem among women who engage in casual sex then end up all heartbroken and confused, is that you are using sex as a tool to get what you really want, which is a boyfriend. instead of sex as a fun and pleasurable activity that women have a right to enjoy , it becomes a kind of a bargaining chip.

people are not that difficult to understand. if he is not calling you, he is not spending time with you, he doesn't like you. he doesn't want you as a girlfriend. he doesn't even want you as a friend. go with their advice-- delete his number, stop romanticizing this guy. sometimes it's just a matter of stepping back and trying to see someone with as much objectivity as possible. most likely, you'll realize that you don't really know this person well enough and that he probably doesn't possess the qualities you want in a partner.

lighten up. it takes time but you will eventually move on. just be smarter next time and if you want a relationship then be honest about it. be straight and be discerning.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on October 30, 2018, 11:06:16 am
guy ako po sis.

kaya nga eh, promise are meant to be broken. hehe! gawin mo rin, kasi kahit anong dasal mo, kahit I grant pa yung prayer mo na I change na yung heart mo sa nararamdaman mo about your fubu tapos yung flesh mo eh ganun pa rin ang ginagawa wala rin silbi talaga yang panalangin mo at pinagsasabi mo rito. pasensya po medjo harsh yung comment ko pero gusto ko lang talaga magising ka at makawala ka jan sa ginagawa mo ngayon.


 Ay Sorry bro three8one
  Thanks sa advise fortunately we're not communicating po, I just have so many questions in mind lang po and doubts. Nagising na ako, and Hopefully I will move on.


saqqara: let me start by saying that i don't think na dehado ka. i think women should be able to enjoy sex, even if it's just a casual thing, even if it's with multiple partners. i think your problem and i think this is a common problem among women who engage in casual sex then end up all heartbroken and confused, is that you are using sex as a tool to get what you really want, which is a boyfriend. instead of sex as a fun and pleasurable activity that women have a right to enjoy , it becomes a kind of a bargaining chip.

people are not that difficult to understand. if he is not calling you, he is not spending time with you, he doesn't like you. he doesn't want you as a girlfriend. he doesn't even want you as a friend. go with their advice-- delete his number, stop romanticizing this guy. sometimes it's just a matter of stepping back and trying to see someone with as much objectivity as possible. most likely, you'll realize that you don't really know this person well enough and that he probably doesn't possess the qualities you want in a partner.

lighten up. it takes time but you will eventually move on. just be smarter next time and if you want a relationship then be honest about it. be straight and be discerning.

 Thanks sis otra_vez baka yun nga need ko kaya nadala ako,  ikaw ba naman ilang years walang bf may ngpa sweet or what hindi kasi ako f@&% girl kaya marupok. I know it takes time and like I always pray right now hopefully in God's time I will move on.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on October 31, 2018, 03:01:23 am
I once tried a non-serious relationship before. In my experience, even if I made it clear that as long as there's nobody else is involved then it's fine to play it by ear, it's not a guarantee that he will do it. The best thing to do is to burn the bridge. That way, it's done...it's over...there's not turning back.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on November 01, 2018, 01:09:37 pm
I once tried a non-serious relationship before. In my experience, even if I made it clear that as long as there's nobody else is involved then it's fine to play it by ear, it's not a guarantee that he will do it. The best thing to do is to burn the bridge. That way, it's done...it's over...there's not turning back.

Hopefully I will move on sis :(
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on November 08, 2018, 01:38:36 pm
I don't understand why all of a sudden bigla na lang ako binati ng ex ko. Simpleng hi lang naman pero deadma ko sya. Samantala dati halos ipagtabuyan nya ako nung nakipag break sya sakin haha. Does this mean he wants to be friends? Or wants to address na ok na wala ng hard feelings.
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Post by: three8one on November 08, 2018, 03:36:09 pm
^ yes, ibig sabihin nun okay na sa ex mo. wala ng hard feelings. pwede na kayo mag greet ng casual once magkasalubungan man kayo anywhere.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Gabby11 on November 09, 2018, 10:34:10 am
Ano ang reasons nyo Guys pag tumatanggi kayo sa pag aya ng gf/wifey nyo sa sexy time?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 09, 2018, 10:42:10 am
^Baka pagod lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on November 11, 2018, 12:44:44 pm
Quote
Ano ang reasons nyo Guys pag tumatanggi kayo sa pag aya ng gf/wifey nyo sa sexy time?

hindi na tumatayo si utoy! haha... joke lang.. di naman ako tumatanggi, sugod ng sugod!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: chinablue on November 11, 2018, 01:28:05 pm
^lol. sabi ko din sa husband ko ako pwede tumanggi pero siya hindi pwede. kase if tatanggi siya giyera na ito. haha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on November 11, 2018, 03:44:34 pm
^ pag tumanggi sya kamo, bukod sa giyera pwedeng may ibang gumawa para sa kanya. hahaha! biro lang.
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Post by: young_maiden on November 12, 2018, 08:00:35 am
^ bro, natawa ako sa hirit mo. :-D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on November 12, 2018, 10:23:05 am
Ano ang reasons nyo Guys pag tumatanggi kayo sa pag aya ng gf/wifey nyo sa sexy time?

Tinanong ko husband ko, sabi nya mostly due to physical exhaustion and puyat daw possible reasons.

di naman ako tumatanggi, sugod ng sugod!

usually naman ang lalaki kahit 'wala sa mood', konting lingering touches lang magiging ready na rin. Haha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on November 12, 2018, 12:27:38 pm
^ haha! kaya nga marupok kami sis, kaladkaring lalake. pero, pag hindi na talaga interesado ang lalake sa asawa, partner, gf, kulasisi, kabit etc.. kahit magti twerk pa kayo mga babae sa harap namin deadma na talaga.

normally din bukod sa physical exhaustion eh yung mentally exhausted na din, minsan dami iniisip na mga bagay bagay, either responsibility sa pamilya or sa trabaho.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 12, 2018, 04:49:04 pm
I need to vent this out.

I communicated again with this guy na classmate ko noong grade 4 at kapitbahay ko pa.

Nagsimula lang naman sa isang wave from him sa fb. Since then, everyday na kami magkachat. Paminsan-minsan tumatawag pa siya. Single siya, by the way. He has no gf/wife sa ngayon.

Naninibago lang ako sa guy na ito.

Lagi decent yung topics namin. We talk about everyting simula childhood dreams, family. future, etc. Pag niseenzoned ko na siya, he will find a way to begin the conversation again. every day he greets me good morning at good night. May mga times pa na tumatawag pa siya. One time nakipagvideo chat siya sa akin at hiranahan ako.

Does he like me o bored lang siya? Sa trauma ko sa mga kalalakihan, natatakot na ako magtiwala. Pakiramdam ko pag malandi o sweet si lalaki sa akin, bored lang siya. A part of me is tempted na maghanap na lang siya ng iba na pwede magpalipas-oras sa boredom niya. Buti napipigilan ko pa sarili ko.

Heto pa. Ayoko ng efforts na puro hanggang online lang pero di ko naman siya marequire na mag effort in person dahil nasa barko siya ngayon. seaman kasi siya. He assured me naman na pag-uwi niya he will do anything to prove himself at yung sincerity niya.

I appreciate him dahil may respeto siya sa akin. Sinabi ko sa kanya na ayaw ko pag-usapan ang sex at hindi ako umiinom when he asked me if I did it already at kung umiinom ako. nirespeto naman niya at hindi na niya namention ulit. After that, tuloy pa rin usapan namin. Tuwing di ako nagrereply, mangungulit siya.

I also told him na serious relationship na ang hanap ko. yung pangmatagalan na. tanggap naman niya. he said he appreciates my honesty.

On the other hand, ASSUMING na he likes me, parang di ko naman kaya ang LDR. Mas prefer ko pa rin yung bf na lagi ko makikita at makakasama. Worse, seaman pa siya. Eh di ba notorious mga seamen for being cheaters. I know hindi naman lahat pero yun na talaga reputation sa kanila eh.

I am so torn. Nag enjoy ako kasi meron na ako nakaka-usap on a regular basis, someone na interested sa nangyayari sa daily life ko. pero yun nga ayoko ng LDR kung sakali. Saka if ever he wants me to be his gf, prove naman siya sa personal at wag naman sa online lang. For some reasons, mas lamang pa rin yung mindset ko na baka bored lang siya at pinagtitripan lang ako. Baka pala marami kaming girls na kachat niya di ba.

Should I ghost him na lang or continue getting to know him?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 12, 2018, 07:22:58 pm
^ what are his plans long term?
Maging seaman forever?

Hindi naman purkit kinakausap ka nya, bf mo na sya and committed ka na sa kanya.

You can always be honest with him na you have reservations on him being a seaman kaya you are still free to date. But you like his friendship naman so ok naman kayo as friends.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 12, 2018, 07:44:12 pm
^ di ko pa natanong sis.

I know. Plano ko nga mag install ulit ng dating apps para di lang sya kausap ko.

Hirap ng uncertain eh. Di ko alam kung type ako genuinely o bored lang siya.

Naninibago lang din ako kasi nasanay na ako sa mga guys na masama ugali.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on November 12, 2018, 08:19:35 pm
^ yes wala namang masama kung mapag-isipan mo mga seaman na ganon kasi open secret naman na notorious talaga silang mambabae or manglandi ng babae.

sa mga usap niyo ba di ba niya namention kung anong plan niya sa buhay niya or kung hanggang kailan siya magbabarko? para sana may idea ka kung gaano katagal mo siyang hihintayin kung sakaling maging kayo. Dahil kung mahaba haba pa siyang magsseaman siguro mabuti pa nga ighost mo na lang siya para di na rin siya umasa. Try mo ring wag madala sa pangungulit niya para tumigil na rin hehe. At kapag dumating ang time na magtanong siya kung bakit ginghost mo siya saka mo sabihin reasons mo, na di mo kaya ang ldr which is valid naman, karamihan naman ayaw ng ldr talaga..

malay natin after a few years at single pa kayo at dito na uli siya nakabase pwede niyong ituloy itong storya niyo..

*di ko na post agad reply ko, naulit ko tuloy tanong ni Girltalker2.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Gabby11 on November 12, 2018, 08:24:25 pm
Tinanong ko husband ko, sabi nya mostly due to physical exhaustion and puyat daw possible reasons.
usually naman ang lalaki kahit 'wala sa mood', konting lingering touches lang magiging ready na rin. Haha

It was his 2nd time tumanggi. Pero pala tanggi naman ako sa kanya. Ganun pala feeling pag tinanggihan.  :-\
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 12, 2018, 08:47:14 pm
^^ tomhansen, thanks sa payo.

Di ko sure kung hanggang kailan, sabi lang nya sa july 2019 pa balik nya dito sa pilipinas. For sure, bakasyon lang yun at after a few months, babalik ulit sa pagbabarko yan.

Isang reason din yan kaya duda ako. Ang tagal pa ng july 2019 ha. So mula ngayon until july 2019, tiis muna sa chat at calls? Hindi ko kaya. Saka bakit kung kailan nasa dagat na sya saka sya nagmessage? Pwede naman nung nandito pa siya sa lupa eh.

Kung isa na naman itong guy na temporary lang ang papel sa buhay, tingin ko much better i-ghost na lang siya.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 12, 2018, 09:52:44 pm
Sis give him a chance. Malay mo yung ayaw yun ang magwork. Ako din before ayaw ko ng ldr pero eto higit 2yrs na sa ldr relationship. Just like you magkapitbahay din kami, akala ko bored lang kami. 13months kami naghintay pareho. Konting panahon nalang aantayin mo sis trust me ang bilis lang ng araw di mo namamalayan July2019 na. Ang bf ko nun nagpapadala ng flowers and chocolates via friends. Kapag magsend siya ng remittance sa Pinas isasabay niya yung pakiusap sa friends na pakibilhan ako ng flowers and chocs tapos deliver sa office. Saka ate niya nagoonline selling ng kung ano-ano lang oorderan niya ako tapos dadalhin ng ate niya sa bahay namin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 13, 2018, 07:55:13 am
^ thank you sa tips, sis. nakaka-inspire kayo. seaman din ba bf mo?

ok fine. siguro yung LDR baka mapagbigyan ko pa pero bago mangyari yun, sana naman magpakita siya ng effort sa personal. yayain  nya ako kumain sa labas. kahit kape lang. hindi naman ako high maintenance pagdating sa dates eh. kahit sa park o simpleng restaurant lang ok na sa akin.

unfortunately, yun nga hindi ko marequire ngayon dahil nasa barko siya. puro chat at tawag lang sa ngayon. saka baka marami pala kaming girls na kachat niya di ba.

heto may nameet nga akong single pero nasa malayo naman. :-(

lagi na lang may sagabal.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 13, 2018, 08:24:29 am
^Landbase bf ko. Before naging kami every 2-3yrs ang uwi niya sa Pinas. Pero hiniling ko na gawin niyang yearly kapag naging kami (non-negotiable ko yan). For me nagwork naman na ganito kasi di ko keri yung weekly na may ka-date, me time ko ang weekend saka tamad ako lumabas-labas. Pagdumarating siya nagta-travel kami and eat out. Ang taba-taba ko pag nasa Pinas siya 😂
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on November 13, 2018, 10:11:26 am
@young_maiden pwede mo naman itanong sa kanya what his intentions are para alam mo rin kung entertain mo pa ba siya or hindi na.

Sa aking 3rd date i asked my now bf kung anong plano niya sa future and intention niya sakin.
His answer is if ok kame we will get married and he will bring me sa country where he will be assigned next. Pwede daw ako dun mag work. Even his retirement tinanong ko kung saan niya balak tumira and he said he wants to live sa south of france. Many times i tried to test him and most of the time i just ignore him to see if he will reach out to me. I also show him my worst side, the ugly parts of me to see if tanggap niya ako bilang ako. I push him away one too many times kasi minsan gusto ko makasigurado na totoo siya and if i can really trust him to stay.

Regarding worries na baka hindi lang ako at may mga iba pa siyang girls, sumagi din yan sa isip ko of course. Wala akong tiwala sa kanya pero may tiwala ako sa sarili ko, kahit maghalughog siya sa buong pilipinas hindi siya makakahanap ng kagaya ko. Kung lokohin niya ako e di goodbye. Next please. I always date up so baka yung next guy mas higit pa sa kanya. Ganun ako mag isip and he knows that. I do not have to tell him coz my actions speaks volumes.

Anyway kung feeling mo ayaw mo mag waste ng time just ask him. That way you know kung itutuloy mo pa yan or hindi na. About dun sa madaming girls so be it. Depende iyan sa lalake kung papatol siya or kung talagang iyan ang nature niya. May mga lalake kasi na hindi talaga kaya ma kontento sa isa kaya dapat observe mo siya if he is the type na marupok or siya yung tipo na faithful talaga. Also ask yourself kung kaya mo ang ldr, my mga tao kasing hindi talaga pwede sa ganyan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on November 13, 2018, 12:26:13 pm
@ young maiden, wag mo takutin ang sarili mo sa mga bagay na hindi pa naman nangyayari. isa pa, kawawa naman mga mabubuting sea man kung lalahatin yung sinasabi na papalit palit ng babae. tandaan mo lahat ng di magandang pwede mong isipin sa guy na kausap mo ngayon eh pwede din nya isipin sayo kaya wag ka sobrang advance mag isip. hindi porque naloko ka ng ibang guys eh lahat na lang lolokohin ka. hindi porque naloko si ganito at si ganyan, hindi ibig sabihin applicable na din sayo. mas masarap mag isip na posibleng mag workout ang relasyon, mas nakakadagdag ng glow sa buhay yun kesa mag isip ng hindi magagandang bagay, bukod sa nakaka stress nakakapanget pa ^__________^. don't rush things kaya nga nakikipag usap sayo yung tao para makilala ka at makilala mo siya. yun ang problema sayo diba, parati ka nagmamadali, be patient dapat magaling ka sa delaying tactics attorney ka eh. hehe! enjoy mo lang muna yung moment na may nakakausap ka, may nagkicare sayo etc. pag minadali mo ang lahat baka mabilis ka magsawa, jan papasok ang boredom. enjoy enjoy lang muna kapatid, wag masyado atat. wala ka naman sigurong lakad? chos.. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 13, 2018, 01:11:58 pm
^ and ^^ thank you sa payo nyo ha,

sis apple, sige i will try to ask him. ayoko talaga ng sinasayang oras ko.

share ko lang. may time na he told me yung lovelife eh pwede makarelieve sa stress niya.

i said pwede naman basta di stressful ugali ng partner niya.

humirit siya na di naman daw stressful yung ugali ng future partner niya. nagjoke ako na sino kaya yun. then he said, "sino ba kachat ko today?"

then doon ko na sinabi na mas ma-appreciate ko kung sa personal pag-usapan mga ganyang bagay tapos may kasama pang efforts sa personal. doon na siya nag assure na pag nagkita kami in person, he will make all efforts to prove himself sa akin.

sana lang talaga sincere siya. hay. hirap ng may trust issues.

bro three8one, salamat ulit sa payo. may point ka nga naman. enjoy-enjoy na lang siguro. wala naman mawawala. saka wala naman intimacy ito. puro usap lang online. kung di man mag work, accept and move on.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 13, 2018, 10:23:57 pm

ok fine. siguro yung LDR baka mapagbigyan ko pa pero bago mangyari yun, sana naman magpakita siya ng effort sa personal. yayain  nya ako kumain sa labas. kahit kape lang. hindi naman ako high maintenance pagdating sa dates eh. kahit sa park o simpleng restaurant lang ok na sa akin.

Feeling ko naman, you cannot dictate this to him. Hayaan mo sya dumiskarte. If hanggang chat lang sya, that just means he can?t meet your standards.

Why force him kung di naman nya feel di na?

And why the need pahalagahan sya if he still can?t prove to you na he is worthy of your love and attention.

Kahit naman ikaw, Ayaw mo pinapangunahan ka di ba? If you have the intent to give a Super nice gift to a friend , Tapos before mo gawin, sabihan ka na gusto kong regalia iPhone ha. Di ba nakakawalang gana?

Same with guys, allow them to express themselves and huwag mo pangunahan. If someone better comes along, sorry nalang sya.

The other tip ba masasabi ko is don?t fall for him. Go on dates parin, look around, have some crush. Mingle.
He is not the only guy in the world, so don?t be desperate about thinking na May single guy nga, Ldr naman. Think about abundance and it?s raining men 😊



@young_maiden pwede mo naman itanong sa kanya what his intentions are para alam mo rin kung entertain mo pa ba siya or hindi na.


Sakin naman, IMO, no point in asking. Sa dami ng unknown things about him, since di mo pa nga sya lubos na kilala, you don?t need to be in a hurry. Mas mainam you stay as friends while you still check if he is good for you. Dyan lang muna sya makichat kung gusto nya, while you shop around.
Kung gusto ka talaga nya, he will tell you, he will pursue you. Even if it means him changing his job to be with you.

Wala naman nagsasabi sayo magdecide ka ngayon din, so why put the unnecessary pressure on him? Hayaan mo sya, if you see someone better, eh di so be it. If you don?t, but at the same time you feel he is not up to your standards, eh di remain as friends until he proves he is worthy of you.

Tsaka you are still at the getting to know stage, bakit Kelangan mo Tanungin sya. Most likely kinikilala ka parin naman nya, so impossible to expect him na magprofess agad ng I love you or magsabi ng kasal agad.


Regarding worries na baka hindi lang ako at may mga iba pa siyang girls, sumagi din yan sa isip ko of course.


Just like any other relationship, this is always a risk. So why worry? Important both of you ay pareho ang pananaw in terms of taking care of the relationship.


Wala akong tiwala sa kanya pero may tiwala ako sa sarili ko, kahit maghalughog siya sa buong pilipinas hindi siya makakahanap ng kagaya ko. Kung lokohin niya ako e di goodbye. Next please. I always date up so baka yung next guy mas higit pa sa kanya. Ganun ako mag isip and he knows that.

This should be your mind set. Why worry? Tutal you started off single naman. Anyone you?re getting involved with should be an asset, Pag dagdag worries lang sila, better not.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 14, 2018, 07:50:55 am
 Sis, helpful din ang payo mo. Salamat.

Tuloy ko na lang talaga kwentuhan namin sa messenger pero magiging open pa rin dapat ako in dating other guys.

Sanay naman ako na labas-pasok mga tao sa buhay ko. So if isa rin siya na biglang mawawala, so be it. Marami pang iba dyan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Apple1230 on November 14, 2018, 08:22:45 am
@Girltalker2  sa case ko he is a foreigner and he is only here for 3yrs then he will be assigned to a different country. Kung ma extend siya 1yr. Lang so i needed to know ano ba hinahanap niya and since we are going out ano ba intention niya sa akin. We talk about everything under the sun walang topic na bawal or hindi pwede pag usapan. He is very open with me i can ask him anything so yun din nagustuhan ko. Pag may doubts ako i tell him ang we talk about it kahit paikot ikot lang kame minsan matiyaga pa rin niya ako sinasagot.

Actually i am not very thrilled with the thought na isasama niya ako kasi i am set here. Maganda na ang buhay ko dito tapos mag uumpisa na naman ako sa foreign country if ever. Pero wala pa naman so di ko pa iniisip ang importante masaya kame now and that we enjoy being together. 

@young_maiden iyan nga minsan yung mahirap pag chat chat lang, low level of investment sa part ng guy kaya ang hirap malaman kung sincere siya. Siguro huwag mo na lang isipin masyado and let him do his thing. Pabayaan mo lang siya kasi ang lalake kung gusto ka mag e-effort talaga yan. Based on experience either the guy will state his intentions or i ask him para malinaw sa umpisa pa lang. wala naman masama magtanong kesa nangangapa ka or you have a wall kasi hindi ka sure baka fling lang or something.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 14, 2018, 08:56:41 am
^I somehow agree. Pwede mag-ask ng intentions pero wag masyado pakatiwala unless patunayan niya na sa gawa. Madami naman way to prove na gusto ka talaga maski nasa malayo pa siya. Hindi hadlang ang distance. Pag gusto may paraan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 14, 2018, 11:57:04 am
^ and ^^

thanks a lot. nauunahan lang ako ng fear ko na baka bored lang siya at pinagtitripan ako kaya di ko magawa ma-enjoy totally.

i tend to push people away because of past heartbreaks. iniisip ko na yun nga bored lang yung mga guys sa akin o eventually mawawala din naman so i chose to be emotionally distant. nakikinig na lang ako pero hindi na ako nag-invest ng emotions.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 14, 2018, 10:52:10 pm
^ and ^^

thanks a lot. nauunahan lang ako ng fear ko na baka bored lang siya at pinagtitripan ako kaya di ko magawa ma-enjoy totally.

i tend to push people away because of past heartbreaks. iniisip ko na yun nga bored lang yung mga guys sa akin o eventually mawawala din naman so i chose to be emotionally distant. nakikinig na lang ako pero hindi na ako nag-invest ng emotions.

Chill lang sis 😁

Though yes, possible bored sya, possible pinagt tripan ka lang. possible din na matino sya. Anything is possible and they?re beyond your control. Kaya di dapat sila Pag aksayahan ng panahon kakaisip ng what if?s.

Whether you want to enjoy to continue chatting with him - will be your decision. But sa Sabi mo nga, takot ka masaktan. Sino ba hindi?
And tama lang naman not investing emotions. Why would you allow love to get into the picture eh Wala pa naman syang sinasabi na seryosohan or if ever Meron, wala pa syang pinapakita sa gestures nya na umeffort sya.
And mind you, may Guys naman Ma effort Pero babaero din ah.

So I support you on being cautious and not investing emotions. But this doesn?t mean like he is talking to a wall. Just enjoy his company, but don?t let emotions develop. Hirap di ba? Haha

Went through this and the only way I got through with this is by multiple dating and spreading your attention to different things - sa sariling activities mo, your girl friends, hobbies, other male friends din.

Pano naman sya Ma motivate magmake ng move if you?re too distant? But at the same time if too close ka naman emotionally, ikaw dehado. So dapat tamang balance lang. huwag sya Lang ang focus mo, at least for now.

Sakin bago ko naging bf, I met his friends, colleagues. Kilala din nya isang colleague ko. So kahit papano May background check about his current life or recent life. Before I fully trusted him at naging kami.

Sabi ng iba, be spontaneous. Just trust him since you like him. Bahala na later. Otherwise di mo Ma enjoy Ma inlove at kiligin.
Sagot ko dyan - I?m not a teenager anymore but I guarantee you, I can still fall in love with all the kilig and anticipation.
I can still fall in love with the right guy, without being betrayed.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on November 15, 2018, 05:33:41 pm
^ Thanks a lot, sis. :-)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: HAYLEELOVE on November 26, 2018, 12:39:47 am
A week ago I borrowed my husband?s usb (recently married kami and just bought a condo, so naglilipat kami ng gamit). I saw he still has pictures of his ex. I never really minded it kasi I thought this was saved way before they separated (the ex cheated on him and they broke up 2013). However, I noticed that the files were transferred May 2018 lang and was created Nov 2016. So recently lang nagalaw yung files.

I am torn apart kasi as a wife, I felt like he was keeping memories from his previous relationship. I know, hindi na mabubura yung nakaraan nila pero I just don?t understand why would he bothers to save it considering he hated the way she cheated on him. And the files includes A LOT of selfies nung ex. I told him about it and he was really surprised. He told me he will erase it and said sorry a couple of times. When I ask him why does he still keep souvenirs from his ex, and if he still loves her, he replied ?Wala na yun.? So ako sabi ko kung wala na yun bakit mo sinave yung pictures niya? Hindi siya nakasagot. It?s been a week na since I confronted him about it, and I let it passed na lang.  However, there are times nacucurious ako as to why he still kept those pictures and even modified it (makikita kasi sa history ng files kung kelan namodify ito) even this year. Ako kasi when my ex and I broke, I erased everything that reminded of him up to the last message he sent me on my email.
Does he still have feelings with his ex or is my husband just a sentimental fool?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 26, 2018, 01:02:44 am
^Baka sentimental lang sis. Trust me, hindi siya ang nag-iisang lalake na nagtago ng photos ng ex niya. Yan din reklamo ng mga girl friends ko sa bf nila. Pero bilang respeto sayo since mag-asawa na kayo sana idelete niya na nga.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on November 26, 2018, 09:33:12 am
^^ sis yung folder ba ng mga pics is halo halo with other subjects or puro pics lang talaga ng ex niya? baka kasi nagback-up lang siya ng files from old phone/usb and alam mo naman mga lalaki di mahilig mag-organise di na iisa isahin mga files para magdelete. Or maybe he was saving it lang as a remembrance ng past niya not necessarily ng girl lang, something he can look back to pagtanda at wala siyang intention na saktan ka.

ang mahalaga is napagusapan niyo at nagsorry na siya, dun niya lang siguro narealized na mali for you ang ginawa niya nung naconfront mo siya and this will also serve as a lesson for him na.. :) 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: HAYLEELOVE on November 26, 2018, 11:44:09 am
The main folder have sub-folders inside. One folder named ?Bebe?  (I bet this is his endearment to her) contained all of their selfies together as well as selfies of the ex. Most of the pictures were downloaded from FB. The other sub-folders contain mix pictures of his ex and him as well as a little bit of their barkada on it. So it was mainly handpicked plus organized and not randomly copied.

His demeanor for the last few days were very far from his usual self. I see guilt in his eyes- don?t know if it stems from the fact that he kept pictures of his ex or because he still harbors feelings for her. By the way, this ex was his most serious relationship. It ended only because the girl cheated on him. He used to tell me that before, he called it quits, he had an inkling she was having an affair and so it wasn?t really that hard for him to severe the relationship- something I instantly believed when he courted me. However, seeing those pictures I might have been to naive to believe.

Furthermore, he doesn?t like taking selfies with me. As in napipilitan lang. Tapos andami nilang selfies together na sobrang sweet. So in a way nalubgkot ako- momentarily jealous siguro.

However, I?? not making any fuss about it. In fact, after we talked, I never mentioned it to him anymore. However, when I?m not busy, my mind keeps coming back from the same issue. Wondering why he made an effort to keep those photos. However, I know, this is just the curious side of me. I will eventually  move on from it. Hopefully never think about it again. I just want to know the POVs of guys here just to answer this lingering question in my head.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: tey_roch19 on November 27, 2018, 03:18:34 pm
Ano ang mas magandang gawin sa lalaking sunud sunod ang kasinungalingan? Though im fed up. Iwan nalang bigla and change my number o iwasan ko lang and keep my lines open? Suko nako makipagusap. Wala nadin naman akong paniniwalaan. I just want him to feel na hindi sya kawalan na sa akin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on November 27, 2018, 03:33:41 pm
^ kausapin mo si guy at sabihin mo ayaw mo na at wala na syang aasahan pa sayo. no need to change your number. block mo lang yung number nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 27, 2018, 07:35:12 pm
^ I don?t think it?s necessary  to talk to him. Tutal sinungaling naman sya, walang respect sa yo, there?s no point to treat him like an equal.
Bastos sya so deserve lang nya na ma dedma din.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 27, 2018, 07:50:21 pm
^Baka sentimental lang sis. Trust me, hindi siya ang nag-iisang lalake na nagtago ng photos ng ex niya. Yan din reklamo ng mga girl friends ko sa bf nila. Pero bilang respeto sayo since mag-asawa na kayo sana idelete niya na nga.

What?s wrong with these people?
It?s not normal to do that, have ex gf pics with you while you?re in a gf/bf relationship, or moreso May asawa na. If they?re not willing to let go, eh di pa dapat sila mag gf or mag asawa.

For me Pag sakin nangyari iyan, totally unacceptable. Lokohin nya lelang nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 28, 2018, 07:26:25 am
^Ay totally agree. Pagsinungaling wag ng kausapin.

Di pa naman nangyari sa akin na may nakita akong pic ng ex niya ang naging bf ko. Maski kapatid kong lalake may pics pa pala ng ex niya e, naka-album pa. Nalaman ko from my ex-bf na yung pics namin and loveletters tinatago pa niya - nakakatawa lang daw tingnan and basahin paminsan-minsan (7yrs din kami). Sana lang itinapon niya na yun.

Sa case naman ng friend ko nakita niya sa Facebook ng bf niya may mga photos pa si bf and ex-gf. Sabi ni bf idi-delete daw niya. Nung maisip ni friend na magvisit sa account ni bf di na niya nakikita yung album and post na may kinalaman kay ex-gf. Kaso lang nung minsan naiwan ata ni bf ang cp niya at inaccess ni friend ang Fb account ni bf gamit ang cp ni bf so dun nabuko ni friend na pinalitan lang pala ni bf ang privacy settings ng album and post. Naka-ONLY ME ang setting kaya pala di na nakikita ng iba at bf lang ni friend pwede makakita. 3rd time na daw yun na pinag-awayan nila kasi di naman dinidelete. Kung binura na ba after ng 3rd away nila di ko alam. Di na ako nagtanong. Pero until now sila pa din naman.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 28, 2018, 08:29:09 am
^ something is wrong with them.
Parang sarili din nila niloloko nila. If talagang ex na nila, no point keeping pics.
Just proves theirunfaithfulness to their partner.
Naawa naman ako sa friend mo.

Feeling ko these issues di naman Kelangan mag away. It?s why and the reason cannot be just nothing. But action speaks louder than words. Di lang iyang bf unfaithful, sinungaling din.

Ka I?mbyerna ganyang Bf. Di dapat tinitolerate unless you want a miserable life for yourself.rna
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: tey_roch19 on November 28, 2018, 09:48:58 am
^ I don?t think it?s necessary  to talk to him. Tutal sinungaling naman sya, walang respect sa yo, there?s no point to treat him like an equal.
Bastos sya so deserve lang nya na ma dedma din.

^thank you sis. nung nakaraang araw nag seself pity pa ako. kaso ang saya din pala ng feeling na kaya ko na dedmahin sya. tama ka. wag ng usap kailangan kong matutunan maging strong at controlin ang sarili ko na tama na talaga. di marunong rumespeto e. salamat.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on November 28, 2018, 10:27:28 am
^^Unfaithful naman talaga si guy. May iba pang issues bukod dyan sa mga photos ng ex. Pero matiyaga si girl e. Maski guy friends namin pinagsabihan na siya pero kahit anong sabi dinidepensahan niya lang. Sana nalang di na umulit si guy sa paggawa ng kababalaghan.

^Tama yan sis. Dedmahin mo lang. Pagkinausap mo pa yan di malayo na mahulog ka na naman sa kasinungalingan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on November 28, 2018, 12:38:58 pm
pag hindi mo kinausap at dinedma mo hindi ibig sabihin nun tatantanan ka na nung lalake, bf mo pa rin yun hanggat hindi kayo nag bibreak. kaya mo sya kakausapin hindi para magtino na sya kundi para ipaalam mo lang na ayaw mo na makipag communicate sya kanya. anyway, nasasayo pa rin yan, diskarte mo yan. option lang naman ito.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: tey_roch19 on November 28, 2018, 02:41:57 pm
pag hindi mo kinausap at dinedma mo hindi ibig sabihin nun tatantanan ka na nung lalake, bf mo pa rin yun hanggat hindi kayo nag bibreak. kaya mo sya kakausapin hindi para magtino na sya kundi para ipaalam mo lang na ayaw mo na makipag communicate sya kanya. anyway, nasasayo pa rin yan, diskarte mo yan. option lang naman ito.

^Thank you. Bigyan ko padin muna ng time sarili ko. Baka magsisi ako sa mga sasabihin ko sa galit ko sa kanya. Paulit ulit kasi nagsisinungaling masyado. Nakakasawa na kaya tinitiis ko. Pakiramdam nya masyado privilege sya. Thank you. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on November 28, 2018, 05:07:02 pm
RE: keeping photos of ex... meron din ako pics ng ex ko sa hard drive ko. memories ko yun e. i dont like people dictating me na idelete ko yun lalo na jowa ko lang naman. i still have my own stuff despite being in a relationship. sakin kasi pictures are just pictures unless may ginagawa sya about dun like fantasizing na sila pa or what. pero kung wala naman, let it be. nakita din ng then-bf ko yung mga pics na yun nung naiwan ko HD ko sa house nila. I think nabother sya kasi sabi nya nakita nya pero i want to give him credit for being mature na hindi nya ako inaway dahil dun. hahaha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on November 28, 2018, 06:39:18 pm
pag hindi mo kinausap at dinedma mo hindi ibig sabihin nun tatantanan ka na nung lalake, bf mo pa rin yun hanggat hindi kayo nag bibreak. kaya mo sya kakausapin hindi para magtino na sya kundi para ipaalam mo lang na ayaw mo na makipag communicate sya kanya. anyway, nasasayo pa rin yan, diskarte mo yan. option lang naman ito.


May point ka, Pero a simple text lang na g*g* ka, lokohin mo lelang mo. Wala na tayo sinungaling ka.

Lol!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: HiedraOL on November 28, 2018, 10:38:29 pm
I still have may ex photos on my harddrive college sweetheart kami.. Nakakahinayang kasi idelete It feels like I was erasing all may college memories, we also do everything together din kasi. But if my future bf feel comfortable about it (depende padin  :P
) maybe I will remove it nalang if super love ko na talaga sya  :P :-[
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: drinveilside on November 29, 2018, 08:20:33 am
The main folder have sub-folders inside. One folder named ?Bebe?  (I bet this is his endearment to her) contained all of their selfies together as well as selfies of the ex. Most of the pictures were downloaded from FB. The other sub-folders contain mix pictures of his ex and him as well as a little bit of their barkada on it. So it was mainly handpicked plus organized and not randomly copied.

His demeanor for the last few days were very far from his usual self. I see guilt in his eyes- don?t know if it stems from the fact that he kept pictures of his ex or because he still harbors feelings for her. By the way, this ex was his most serious relationship. It ended only because the girl cheated on him. He used to tell me that before, he called it quits, he had an inkling she was having an affair and so it wasn?t really that hard for him to severe the relationship- something I instantly believed when he courted me. However, seeing those pictures I might have been to naive to believe.

Furthermore, he doesn?t like taking selfies with me. As in napipilitan lang. Tapos andami nilang selfies together na sobrang sweet. So in a way nalubgkot ako- momentarily jealous siguro.

However, I?? not making any fuss about it. In fact, after we talked, I never mentioned it to him anymore. However, when I?m not busy, my mind keeps coming back from the same issue. Wondering why he made an effort to keep those photos. However, I know, this is just the curious side of me. I will eventually  move on from it. Hopefully never think about it again. I just want to know the POVs of guys here just to answer this lingering question in my head.


I look at it in a different way taking selfies and uploading them and people may see you are happy but you are not in reality ... selfies doesnt define your relationship hell my wife doesnt have a picture of me on her page and her facebook doesnt have pictures of our kids.

and atleast he doesnt do the same things to you ... now as for keeping em and as you check he is still browsing them maybe its just a reminder how painful it is .. people forgive but sometimes its hard to forget specially the pain he has been through . having you and marrying you would eventually help him heal that pain for now you just have to suck it up .

sorry dont mean to be harsh on my comments i wish you the best...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on December 04, 2018, 04:56:42 pm
Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on December 04, 2018, 10:56:13 pm
^Siguro keep him at arm's reach but don't commit.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on December 05, 2018, 07:59:18 am
Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.

Paano ka magugustuhan bilang ikaw if there?s no getting-to-know-you stage? Feeling ko lahat ng genuine relationships go through this. Nagkataon lang siguro you haven?t met the person interesting enough for you to have that patience.

And if you expect a guy to confess agad na he likes you (without really knowing you and your personality), parang malamang gamble sya na hoping magkatugma kayo ng ugali..

What?s worse is ikaw narin nagsabi before bakit Panay sex lang habol ng guys that are after you. Eh Kasi nga if you prefer Yung gusto ka agad,  regardless of your personality, most likely sex ang habol nyan.

I?m not saying naman na you wont find him yung gusto ka agad Pero sincere. Kaso Feeling ko slim ang chances. Kaya mas lalong nakaka frustrate na di mo sya mahanap.

These are just my thoughts.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: xtine_orig on December 05, 2018, 09:52:05 am
^^Apir sis.  We are both the same.  We don't want to waste time getting to know a guy via chat which means we prefer knowing the guy minus all the pacute and chat about nonsense.  We can't just reserve ourselves to a single guy without any assurance that he CAN be the one. 

But I think just try to talk to him AS a friend and not yet as a special one.  You can still enjoy his company through chat without the pacute or paasa sweetness.  But at the back of your mind, you are single and still ready to meet others.

I think if he's really the one for you, even if you don't "reserve" yourself to him, the stars will still align even when he's back from his seaman assignment.

Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on December 05, 2018, 01:19:30 pm
@kvan, thank you sa advice.

@girltalker 2: what i mean is wala akong tyaga sa getting to know you stage through chats lang. kung gusto niya ako kilalanin, dapat sa personal. yayain niya ako mag lunch, dinner o kape. kahit kanyang-kanyang bayad pa kami. basta gusto ko kaharap ko siya.

prefer ko din iyong directly sasabihin na may feelings. ayoko na pakiramdaman. ayoko yung idadaan sa jokes na hindi ko matantya kung half-meant o joke lang talaga. i hate uncertainties.

@xtine, thanks a lot. may point ka rin sa payo mo.

sa ngayon, 2 days na kami hindi nag-uusap eh. ang plano ko if mag-usap man kami ulit, siguro after a few small talks, seenzoned ko na ulit siya. ganyan ako sa mga guy friends ko eh. hindi na tulad dati na several hours kami magkachat o text.

i agree na if he is really into me, he will make a move pag-uwi niya sa July 2019. Unfortunately for him, I cannot wait that long. If single pa rin ako by that time, good for him. pwede ko siya kilalanin. if taken na ako, sorry na lang siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on December 05, 2018, 02:54:17 pm
^ I see. Kala ko naman instant relationship gusto mo. Pero I Super agree with you on getting to know on a personal level, iba kasi ang text or chat lang.

Ang Hirap lang dyan satin how often kaya puede magmeet if magkalayo office/tirahan. Dahil sa traffic, parang mahirap makarami ng date. Mas mabagal ang progression ng relationship if sya na ba o hindi pa.

During our courtship days, my current bf and I met 3-4x a week. Siguro andun narin motivation to get to know each other. And yes nagustuhan ko sa kanya yung honesty na lets get to know muna, then let?s date exclusively, etc.

Para sa guys naman na dinadaan sa pakiramdam or joke, I? Super agree na di dapat sila pinapansin. Kasi Feeling ko , if convenient, GO, if not, ok lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: glamorosa_09 on December 05, 2018, 03:00:52 pm
Sis young_maiden, good for you na alam mo ang gusto mo. I see it as a growth mula sa dating misadventures mo with pakmen.

For some straight-forward kind of women, meron talagang lalaki who will leave question marks on their heads, like "is this guy pursuing me or not?" And then meron ding lalaking who will be clear in their intentions of committing to get to know you and see if there's a possibility of relationship. I remember having experiences with both types of guys/men when I was single.

Yeah, you can wait for someone who will exert an effort to pursue you or at least get to know you. Not necessarily they will be verbal with their intentions, but their consistent actions will not leave you doubting about what it is they want. But it's up to you.

For example, with my first bf in college, lagi ako hatid and stay sa bahay namin, that was the getting to know part. With my second bf-now husband (met online), he clearly asked kung pwede ba kami every Thursday magkita, apart pa sa Sunday na simba, again getting to know part yan. May commitment na sa getting to know you.

Kahit nga siguro sa long-distance, committed getting to know is possible, it's about openness, consistency and time. Pag whenever convenient lang or optional sa side ng guy, nasa girl na lang kung trip nya magrespond or to see kung may kapupuntahan, especially if time is not an issue.

And then meron ding lalaking pabugso-bugso ang text, yet sweet magtext. Miss you, wish you were here, thinking about you, etc. LOLs. Parang nag-iiwan sila ng trails na ewan. Confusing because words and actions don't match.

Anyway, good luck and hopefully dumating na yung para sayo and sayo din xtine :)

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on December 06, 2018, 06:58:37 am
^ thanks a lot, sis. :-)

super high na yata ng walls ko when it comes to men. i am too guarded now because of so many jerks i encountered in the past.

sabi sa akin ni seaman (through chat) na pag napasagot na daw niya ako, ako na daw forever. nagjoke pa siya na manghuhula daw siya at feeling niya magiging kami next year.

hindi ko talaga dama ang sincerity dahil through online lang eh. i do not consider chats as consistent efforts. pipindot-pindot lang naman mga guys dyan.

kung sincere man siya, sorry for him. i cannot settle sa diskarteng online lang.

move to the next guy na lang ako kung may darating. :-)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: MarikitNaHiraya on December 28, 2018, 09:52:24 am
Anong naiisip nyo pag yung dati nyong nagustuhan eh nakita nyo ulit pero mas gumanda na?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on January 23, 2019, 12:58:25 pm
^ "kung free pa siya popormahan ko na talaga siya ngayon". mga tipong ganun po.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: young_maiden on January 24, 2019, 08:36:35 am
may update lang ako kay seaman.

nagkaprangkahan na kami thru messenger last weekend. napuno na ako sa pangungulit niya. kahit paulit-ulit ko na pinaramdam na di ako interesado, nandyan pa din. so tinanong ko na siya ano pakay niya at baka naman pinagtitripan lang niya ako.

he said he wanted me at sana daw kilalanin ko muna siya. wag ko daw siya i-judge. ramdam daw niya na di ako interested pero sinusubukan niya pa rin daw i-pursue ako.

i said saka na natin kilalanin isa't isa pag-uwi mo sa July 2019 dahil ayoko na puro chats lang tayo. i told him na friendship lang kaya ko offer now.

he understands naman. sabi pa niya kung pwede lang daw dalawin niya ako sa bahay, ginawa na niya. sana daw single pa rin ako pag-uwi niya. i said "we will see."
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: megansmomma on February 09, 2019, 05:01:20 am
I don't know if this is a lame question or what, just want to know as well and would really appreciate an answer.

Here's the thing, Nakipag hiwalay ako kay LIP (live in partner) for 11 years now dahil hindi ko na kinaya ang magpanggap, pagod na ang puso kong palaging sawi.. anyways, kinausap ko naman sya and sinabi ko na wala na talagang pag-asa and I am already decided to move on to another chapter of my life--which is maging single muna, wala na din po kasi akong love for him to continue the relationship..

Ang tanong ko po is, Do guys really mean what they say? such as, they will commit suicide once ma pushed yung separation? Would you really do that? I know its 2019 already but would like to take your points.

And I thank You :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on February 09, 2019, 08:22:17 am
Most of the time hindi naman, guilt trip niya lang siguro at maaaring nadala lang ng matinding pain at shock yung tao kaya niya nasabi yun, mahihimasmasan din yun kaya wag mo nang isipin. Hindi niya siguro maimagine sarili niya na wala ka, dependent ba siya sa iyo? If nagwoworry ka pa rin kausapin mo family/closefriends niya para sila na magbantay sa kanya, ipasa mo sa kanila yung burden tutal hiwalay na kayo at hindi makakatulong sa inyong dalawa kung tuloy pa rin communication niyo.

Congrats and goodluck sa bagong chapter ng life, exciting ano? :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: xxastralgunner on February 09, 2019, 08:49:29 pm
Question for the guys :)

 Anong pumipigil sa inyo to make a move if you are interested in someone?


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 10, 2019, 01:12:21 pm

Ang tanong ko po is, Do guys really mean what they say? such as, they will commit suicide once ma pushed yung separation? Would you really do that? I know its 2019 already but would like to take your points.

And I thank You :)

based sa kwento mo may tendency na tuluyan nya yung sinabi nya. ikaw ba naman ma attached ng 11 years, at halos ginagawa nyo na lahat ng Gawain ng magasawa except kasal. im sure madaming happy moments din yan, hindi lang puro hirap at pasakit. kung tama nga ang mga naiisip ko magpapakamatay nga yan..

di ko lang maintindihan, bakit ka nagpanggap and after 11 years doon mo lang narealized na hindi mo pala kaya? weird... parang , kumbaga sa isang sunog pinatay mo na ng pinatay sa kung ano man klaseng paraan na alam mo, tapos nun kumalat na ang apoy at madami ng apektado tsaka mo iiwan at sasabihin mo hindi ka pala bumbero.. just my 2 cents, di mo need mag paliwanag.  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kvan on February 10, 2019, 10:02:32 pm
Pwedeng manipulation strategy kasi usually ang nagpapakamatay di naman nagpapaalam.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 11, 2019, 03:03:05 am
Ex-bf ko sinabihan din ako na magsu-suicide siya. Sabi ko sa kanya bahala siya, malaki na siya. Feeling ko kasi that time gusto niya lang ma-guilty ako to think na siya may kasalanan bakit ako nakipaghiwalay. For me emotional blackmail lang yung pagbabanta niya. So yun, after a year kinamusta niya ako. Sabi ko sa kanya akala ko patay na siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: angeljolie on February 11, 2019, 08:26:28 am
My ex also threatened to commit suicide. As in kumuha sya ng kutsilyo at pumasok sa banyo. He was screaming he would kill himself. Sabi ko sige pero aalis na muna kami ng anak ko kasi ayoko mapagbintangan. This was in 2006 siguro. Buhay pa naman sya hanggang ngayon at nagtatago sa responsibilidad sa anak nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 11, 2019, 10:06:05 am
minsan naman kasi sign of immaturity lang yun... ayaw kayo maghiwalay... pero ang lalaki, in general, tahimik yan. di yan nagvovoice out. malamang sa alamang, pa-effect lang yung pagsasabi ng suicide. matakot kayo kapag di sya nag-sasalita. nagkikimkim. yun ang may tendency...

makikita mo yan pagkatapos magbanta ng suicide kasunod inuman... okay na yun.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 11, 2019, 11:04:53 am
Anong feeling nyo mga lalaki kapag yung ex nyo ignore na kayo? Yung tipong gusto nyo sya kausapin or batiin pero para samin patay na kayo?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 11, 2019, 11:52:42 am
kung may feelings pa at gusto makipagbalikan syempre awts yun...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on February 11, 2019, 12:51:34 pm
sobrang weird ng guy na to. di ko alam kung type ba ako o hindi. sinasabihan din ako ng mga friends nya pag kasama ko sa inuman na "oy (guy) si (ako) yung sinasabi mo na..." yung parang nilalaglag nila si guy sakin, pero si guy naman di naman ako masyado pinapansin. tapos nung uuwi na ko, nagpaalam na ko sa kanila, binulungan nya friend nya na wag muna ako pauwiin. pero di naman nya ko pinapansin or kinakausap? lol parang mahiyain masyado so di ko alam kung type ba ko o hindi.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 11, 2019, 12:52:47 pm
type ka nun. nahihiya lang sayo...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 11, 2019, 01:06:37 pm
Anong feeling nyo mga lalaki kapag yung ex nyo ignore na kayo? Yung tipong gusto nyo sya kausapin or batiin pero para samin patay na kayo?

hindi pa nakaka get over yun sa break ups nyo. may hatred pa din siya.

-----------------

sobrang weird ng guy na to. di ko alam kung type ba ako o hindi. sinasabihan din ako ng mga friends nya pag kasama ko sa inuman na "oy (guy) si (ako) yung sinasabi mo na..." yung parang nilalaglag nila si guy sakin, pero si guy naman di naman ako masyado pinapansin. tapos nung uuwi na ko, nagpaalam na ko sa kanila, binulungan nya friend nya na wag muna ako pauwiin. pero di naman nya ko pinapansin or kinakausap? lol parang mahiyain masyado so di ko alam kung type ba ko o hindi.

type ka nun.. gusto nya pasikreto lang ang pag diskarte. yung tipong kayong dalawa lang nakaka alam. malalaman na lang ng lahat kung may maganda o hindi magandang resulta ang pagdiskarte nya ng biglaan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 11, 2019, 08:12:32 pm
All of a sudden, bakit in add ng ex ko sa fb yung mga close friends ko and family kahit hindi naman sya ka close. Curious lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 11, 2019, 08:58:59 pm
Stalking ang tawag dyan.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 12, 2019, 01:01:19 pm
@ sweet21, korek si brad futboler. empre nga naman anything na nangyayari sa buhay mo na naka tag yung mga friends and family mo nakikita nya at namomonitor nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 12, 2019, 07:36:47 pm
Nagkabalikan yung friend ko at yung ex nya after being apart for many years, they have a son  around 6 yr old. May plan kaya yung bf nya na pakasalan sya, or wala? They're back together for a year na. They are living together narin. Sabi ng bf nya papakasalan daw sya pero parang wala naman plano.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 12, 2019, 08:02:18 pm
^ kung sinabi ng bf ng friend mo na papakasalan sya eh di maniwala ka lang. mahirap manghula ng isip ng ibang tao. sa huli sino ba tayo, este ikaw lang pala. haha! biro lang, para panghimasukan ang relasyon ng bf at friend mo diba? suporta na lang and lets hope na totohanin nga ni bf yung sinabi nya sa friend mo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: megansmomma on February 12, 2019, 09:47:17 pm
Update:

Actually, sorry. hindi naman the whole 11 years nagpanggap ako, i try to remember the joy times.
Ayun, meron syang ka work na ka close ko to watch over him at ang balita sakin eh after daw mag emo nakipag inuman na.. and he admitted as well na emotional blackmail yun for me to come back again. Natakot lang kasi ako, imagine suicide na yun. Anyways, thanks sa mga sumagot. :) :) :)

And yes, TomHansen it is indeed rewarding to be part of the single momma club now. Thank you :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 12, 2019, 10:22:11 pm
Keep up the good job megansmomma!!!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: megansmomma on February 13, 2019, 01:44:52 am
^Bro, sana may LIKE button haha :) Thank you  ;)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on February 14, 2019, 05:53:53 am
Question for the guys :)

 Anong pumipigil sa inyo to make a move if you are interested in someone?

Finding the right moment to talk to you. We usually make our move when there's no one or if there are only very few people around since we don't want to get embarrassed in public if things went south.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 14, 2019, 10:34:57 pm
Are there really men out there who can wait for sex that long? Like sa long term relationship, kaya ba talaga mag intay say 2 years or more. Enough reason na ba sa guy yung mag cheat, kapag hindi yun ginawa sa relationship.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on February 15, 2019, 03:56:07 am
^ Definitely. It comes with his maturity. Personally, if I really want to pursue a woman seriously, I'll hold off until she's ready. I want the first sex to be memorable and full of passion.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 15, 2019, 06:50:04 am
^ pwede naman. Meron naman dyan mature men na kaya maghintay. Yung iba nga kahit hanggang maikasal maghihintay eh.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: angeljolie on February 15, 2019, 08:08:03 am
Sorry mababaw pero eto talaga ang gusto kong malaman: napapansin ba ng mga guys kung malaki ang braso ng mga babae? LOL pero seryosong tanong ito ha.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 15, 2019, 09:50:36 am
^ for me, di ko naman napapansin. Kung napapansin ko man kasi nanggigigil ako. Pero di ko pinapansin na malaki.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on February 16, 2019, 06:02:54 am
^^ For me, yes. I see my best friend almost every week. Last year, she went back home to France for a couple of weeks. When she got back, I noticed the 'fats' on her arms and teased her about it. Obviously, she got so conscious that I felt bad afterwards. LOL. This girl is petite/fit/slim by the way. I could honestly tell she lost her muscles during that time.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 16, 2019, 08:04:09 am
kapag nakipag break na kayo ibig sabihin ba non hindi nyo na talagamahal? Also do some men regret breaking up with their gf?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 17, 2019, 01:14:06 pm
^ mostly ng men pag naunang maginitiate ng breakup may ibang babae na yan and walang regret.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 17, 2019, 03:10:08 pm
^^Sa experience ko sis nagsisisi din naman ang guy.
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1. nabigla lang sa sinabi
2. nahalina sa iba tapos narealize na ikaw pa din ang da best - wag mo ng balikan kapag ito ang reason
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on February 18, 2019, 12:25:56 pm
^ agree with #2, pero sakin ako nakipagbreak tapos after a week meron na agad syang iba, di ko pa alam, sinasabay nya pala kaming sinusuyo ni new girl. then ngayon sinasabi nya sakin na napapaisip sya if bumigay ba sya agad, buti daw ako "binaliw" ko lang siya pero di ko naman daw sya sinabay sa iba. thanks but no thanks na lang din.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 18, 2019, 04:42:28 pm
how long do you have to decide for marriage? Pansin ko kasi ang long term relationship iilan na lang ang chance na sila talaga nagkakatuluyan. Usually yung iba 2 years or less pa, nagpapakasal na. Sa mga lalaki, how long do you know kung ready na kayo magpakasal? Does it mean ba, pag lalo delay ng guy yung marriage hindi talaga sya ready.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 18, 2019, 05:19:17 pm
^ sabi nga nila, ang lalaki daw kapag gusto na magpakasal, kung sino man ang babae na nasa buhay nya, yun na yun...

pero dapat kasi di ganun. kapag nanligaw dapat kasal ang objctive.

kung matagal na masyado ang relationship, pwede naman magtanong si girl kung may plano ba si guy. kasi kung wala, kawawa naman si girl.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on February 18, 2019, 06:17:18 pm
^^timing. A guy thinks about marriage when he feels that the timing is right -- meaning tamang circumstance for both him and his partner. As unromantic as it sounds, hindi intense love ang reason ng lalaki sa pagpapakasal. It's the stable kind of love + timing.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 19, 2019, 12:37:36 pm
^ nadali mo sis...
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shengxoxo on February 20, 2019, 08:20:06 am
Need guys POV, do you really think na pag nagka baby kayo ng gf mo, siya na talaga?

If tingin mo na siya na talaga, bakit nauuna ang baby bago ang kasal?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 20, 2019, 08:31:51 am
Need guys POV, do you really think na pag nagka baby kayo ng gf mo, siya na talaga?
Hindi applicable sa lahat.

1. Andaming babae na tinakbuhan ng bf nung mabuntis
2. Andaming single moms nowadays kasi naghiwalay habang buntis si girl or habang lumalaki ang bata
3. Andaming nakasal dahil sa reason na nabuntis na si girl pero naghiwalay din

So sa mga sample sa taas hindi guaranty ang pagkakabuntis ng babae para masabi na siya na talaga ang The One.

If tingin mo na siya na talaga, bakit nauuna ang baby bago ang kasal?
Nauna na honeymoon. Yummy e.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on February 20, 2019, 10:55:26 am
^^ My answer is a big NO. That's lust over love. If I love a woman, I'll start a baby (family) with her after marriage. If baby came first, most of the time, it's an accident.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: shengxoxo on February 20, 2019, 11:22:10 am
@mysterioza_me thanks sis! napansin ko lang kasi, don't get me wrong ah...  ngayon kasi makikita mo sa FB kapag may mga gf-bf sweet posts #relationshipgoals lol , sasabihin ng friends/colleagues na "baby nalang ang kulang." Bihira mo nalang makita yung comment ngayon na "kasal nalang ang kulang." Parang Mas tinotolerate pa tuloy yung ganon.

@jtansanco I appreciate your reply bro. You really think it's a LUST?  If ako naman din si girl, mas gugustuhin ko parin talaga na kasal muna before baby. Ewan ko bakit may mga nag sesettle na girls na ganun, siguro para di na sila pakawalan ni boy? 

Pansin ko lang kasi sa batch namin, mostly talaga baby muna nauna. Merong 2 nagka baby then after a few months pinakasalan naman and that's good. Then 3 of my girl batchmates, single mom nalang ngayon. (IIlan nalang kami mga single sa girls btw lol)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 20, 2019, 04:10:13 pm
Bakit nakakatiis na hindi man lang magparamdam ang mga lalaki. Minsan 2 weeks na galit parin, tapos one liner lang ang reply. Could this mean, may iba na sila? Thank you pala sa mga replies. 😊
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on February 20, 2019, 04:20:38 pm
^ganito na lang, if a guy genuinely loves you and if healthy ang relationship nyo, hindi aabot ng 2 weeks na hindi kayo okay. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 20, 2019, 05:19:46 pm
^ agree ulit ako sayo sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 20, 2019, 06:03:46 pm
^^^ nag papabebe yung guy, gusto sya ang susuyuin. diba baliktad na ang panahon ngayon. mga babae gusto ng equality eh di ganyan na din ginagawa ng ibang lalake. (yata)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on February 20, 2019, 07:45:23 pm
^di ko magets equality na yan. Tapos lakas maka call out ng special treatment. Pero may mga lalaki talaga minsan pabebe ayaw ko ng pabebe na lalaki.

^^2 weeks over naman madalas babae ang ganyan based sa experience ang lalaki di sila basta nakakatiis pagmahalaga at mahal ka.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 21, 2019, 05:25:06 am
Hindi niya na love ang girl kung inabot ng 2 weeks na di niya kinikibo. Ang haba ng 2 weeks para makapag-isip-isip siya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: angeljolie on February 21, 2019, 08:59:30 am
Two weeks na hindi nagpaparamdam or cold doesn't necessarily mean may iba na sya. But definitely, may nararamdaman syang mas matimbang kesa sa love nya sayo at tinitimbang nya kung ano talaga ang mas matimbang. Just let him be and be ready na din to let him go. You wouldn't want him to stay dahil gusto mo lang.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 21, 2019, 09:51:32 am
2 weeks. may nagcocomfort na iba dyan. di pa naman sila. pero meron syang shoulder to cry on ngayon. may ibang nagpapasaya.

dapat naman talaga sa lahat ng pagkakataon lalaki ang manuyo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 21, 2019, 01:14:45 pm
^ yun ito nga yon... kaya natitiis ni guy kasi may iba siyang nakakausap.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on February 21, 2019, 02:15:43 pm
^ ganyan nangyari samin. un pala may iba na ka-sex nung 2nd week LOL
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 21, 2019, 02:43:30 pm
^ what you mean ma'am? sa case mo kaya natitiis ni ex di makapag sex sayo kasi may iba na ka sex? hehe..
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 21, 2019, 05:45:45 pm
^^ ang lungkot naman nun. kawalan na lang nya yun sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on February 21, 2019, 06:07:21 pm
^^magka-away kami, then medyo pakipot pa kasi ako, nung 2nd week na ng away namin, ka-sex na nya yung officemate namin HAHAHA


^hahaha! oo, tapos ngayon lumalapit na parang nagsisisi thanks but no thanks!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 22, 2019, 05:43:42 pm
^ Sabihin mo sa sa kanya "sorry! bawal ng sumawsaw ang naisawsaw na sa iba" peace!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: plumpolka on February 22, 2019, 05:45:57 pm
^ nakuha mo! hahaha
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 24, 2019, 12:43:40 pm
parang fishball... nagkasawsawan na. aruy!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 26, 2019, 10:54:40 am
^ iwas Hepa B lang brad. mahirap na.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 26, 2019, 01:12:08 pm
Pano pag sinabi ng guy ng kelangan ng time para sarili. Tapos umayaw na sa relationship? Most likely may babae na nga?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 26, 2019, 01:24:41 pm
^ para sayo po ba yang question mo o sa ibang tao?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on February 26, 2019, 01:27:28 pm
Sa ibang tao po hehe.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on February 26, 2019, 03:09:23 pm
Pano pag sinabi ng guy ng kelangan ng time para sarili. Tapos umayaw na sa relationship? Most likely may babae na nga?
Ano raw bang reason bakit kelangan niya ng time sa sarili? kadalasan kasi nasasabi yan kung may problema ang lalaki sa family or career niya and he feels guilt dahil hindi na niya nagagawa role niya as a bf. Depressed ba or overwhelmed sa mga problema yung guy nitong mga nakaraang araw?

Kung walang personal problems yung lalaki malamang nga may babae or nafell out of love lang pero hindi niya maamin sa gf.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on February 26, 2019, 04:15:45 pm
Pano pag sinabi ng guy ng kelangan ng time para sarili. Tapos umayaw na sa relationship? Most likely may babae na nga?

hindi necessary may ibang babae. baka talagang hindi ka na mahal kaya umayaw na
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Girltalker2 on February 26, 2019, 11:19:38 pm
^ parang I?ve havent heard of a guy breaking up with his gf unless

1) May big quarrel/argument
2) May third party

Parang most guys kasi can not comprehend what they?re feeling if Di na nila mahal gf nila. Na r realise lang nila Ito if someone (3rd party) comes along.

Guys can correct me siguro if I?m wrong. But this is my general impression of Pinoy men.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 26, 2019, 11:49:23 pm
^ Somehow true yan sis.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: glamorosa_09 on February 27, 2019, 02:50:09 am
Quote
Pano pag sinabi ng guy ng kelangan ng time para sarili. Tapos umayaw na sa relationship? Most likely may babae na nga?

Pwede namang "it just didn't work out, we outgrew each other..."

Anyway, pag wala pang isang buwan at may bago ng karelasyon si guy, eh alam na this. But at least, he had a decency to say that he wanted to walk out of the relationship, hindi nya pinaasa si girl. Pero kung nanatiling single, baka nga mas may ibang dahilan like di na mahal yung girl or may ibang priority si guy.

But right now, all the girl can do is speculate since the guy is not being clear and direct with his reasons. Pwede rin kasing lalaki pala gusto ni guy. Point is, si guy lang naman talaga nakakaalam ng reason nya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: preciousjulia on February 27, 2019, 12:07:11 pm
Hi guys. I have a question here baka po may makapag bigay ng additional info or anyone here na familiar dito specially mga bros natin dito. Naglilinis ako ng ref kahapon and may nakita kong medicine like na tablet. Ang name po is "CPM 100% healthy food for men". Well napa-isip ako kung kay hubby ba yun?
Napa-google ako and I found out na this not an ordinary medicine, it is a kind of drug na prohibited sa Australia at pinapa-dispose sa pharmacy due to serious health risk and should not be taken daw.

So paano to napunta sa ref namin? Kung kay hubby yun and alam nyang that's illegal bakit pakalat kalat lang sa ref namin? Plus wala talaga ko makita sa net kung para saan ba talaga yun?

Any idea po sa mga bros here considering na pang guy po yung gamot. Thanks po kung may makakasagot before ko i-ask si hubby.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hotsie_pink on February 27, 2019, 01:03:06 pm
Hi guys! Would like to know your thoughts about my friend's situation. She is getting married this coming May with a guy na hindi nagtrabaho and puro asa sa kanya. 8 years na sila. Nakakatawa pa this guy used their pomeranian  dog para yun ang pagkakitaan.  Kada rereglahin yung puppy pinapa-stud the ibebenta.

And now na ikakasal na sila mas hands on pa yung friend namen sa pag-aasikaso. Yung guy chill lang sa bahay ng kuya niya andun lang. Nakakainis kasi. I get it, mahal na mahal siya ng friend namen kaya nagbubulag bulagan siya. Panay may promises kasi tapos hindi naman nag-go-go sa mga pangako. Nag-aral siya sabe niya after nung magwowork na siya pero wala parin. Naghahanap noon tapos ngayon sabay wala na naman kaming balita. Netong nakaraan iba na naman kwento ng friend namen, nagpapagawa daw ng apartment si tito ni guy tapos si guy daw maghahandle soon the yung kita is hati si guy tsaka yung tito niya w/ we think malabo kasi from our friend's mouth mismo nanggaling malabo daw kausap. Also this tito knowing na ikakasal sila, nakuha pa manghiram ng 20k. Super labo ng future niya kay guy kaya nag-aalala kami. Kaso ano ba magagawa namen diba kaibigan lang kami, pinayuhan na namen siya lahat pero parang hindi nagregister sa utak niya.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 27, 2019, 02:19:05 pm
^ kung yan nga yung antihistamine tablet baka may or nagka allergy  yung hubby mo na hindi mo alam at yan ang ininum nya. kung hindi naman, baka po may kinalaman yan sa pagpapatagal ng stamina for sex (walang basis, galing lang sa malikot kong imahinasyon). ginagamit nya yan para siguro pag during sexy time nyo pareho kayo mag enjoy.

possible rin wala siya idea na bawal pala yan sa Australia. nasa Australia po ba kayo?

yung tanong nyo po na kung paano napunta sa ref po ninyo yun, siguro po yung hubby nyo lang makakasagot noon.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: preciousjulia on February 27, 2019, 03:13:31 pm
^ hi bro..ang galing nyo naman po. Here may isa pa kong na-search..it is an antihistamine nga daw. Sakto dun sa sinabi mo. Bina-block kasi dito sa office yung ibang site pag inopen. Nakaka-kaba lang kasi yung unang result.  And yes may allergy nga si hubby.

We're in the Philippines po. :)

And yes again, ask ko na lang si hubby kung sa kanya nga yun. Pakita ko din sa kanya yung na-search ko na may risk daw yun sa health para mai-consider namin yung ibang brand ng antihistamine if para dun nga yun.

Natawa ko. Parang ang paranoid ko yata? :D Thanks anyway!

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on February 27, 2019, 04:27:12 pm
^ hindi po ako magaling ma'am, pamilyar lang yung nabanggit mong medicine.

wag na po kayo mag worry hindi naman siguro gagawa ng action yung hubby mo na makakasama sa pamilya nyo.

always welcome po ma'am.  :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Shadow Angel on February 27, 2019, 10:53:22 pm
^^ i have a friend din na ganyan din ang sitwasyon dati hindi nakinig nagpakasal pa rin ayun after less than 5 years hiwalay na dahil sa katamaran ng lalaki ayaw talaga mag hanap ng work. Hindi makikinig si friend mo until mauntog sya sa sarili nya unless na lang dream nya ang makapag asawa ng palaasa at sya ang bubuhay forever. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on February 27, 2019, 11:32:27 pm
@hotsie

I think as a friend you did your part, ultimately nasa kanya naman ang final decision. Antayin nyo na lang na kasal na sila tapos gagawa rin sya ng account here sa GT para humingi ng payo about sa asawa nya lols. Seriously though, pag ganyan katigas ang ulo, let her learn the hard way.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 28, 2019, 12:14:33 am
^^
^ Agree agree ako diyan. Kung lahat ng payo nasabi ninyo na sa kanya hayaan ninyo na siya. Maski anong payo ninyo hindi yan makikinig. Mauuntog din yan yun nga lang baka huli na. Dami ko na narinig na ganyan na kwento na alam naman nila pagkatao ng karelasyon nila bago nila pinakasalan pero sumige pa din at ayun nagsisisi.

Mas concern ako dun sa pomeranian sa totoo lang, kawawa naman siya 😭
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hotsie_pink on February 28, 2019, 05:18:08 pm
Awang awa din kami sa mga dogs sis. Especially dun sa mother pommy.  :( Pero ayun wala naman din kaming magagawa dahil friend lang kami.

Nakakainis pa dun noon plano talaga nila sa civil tapos nung inasawr tong si friend ko ng family niya na kailan ba siya mag-aasawa, napressure ata, napunta pa tuloy sa simbahan (wala akong issue dun dahil sa simbahan din naman ako kinasal) ang siste lang kasi lakas din magpashow ng mama niya since server ng church yung mama niya. Ayun. Naiinis kami ng friend ko kasi stress na stress siya sa gastos knowing na siya lang yung totoong kumakayod. Pero yun nga, sabi ko nga, friend lang kami wala kaming magagawa. Kung mama nga nya na alam yung status ng fiance niya gora lang, may magagawa paba kami diba.  :-[
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on March 12, 2019, 01:13:01 pm
Bakit ang mga lalaki sa una sobrang ma asikaso, nag rereklamo kapag hindi mo pinapansin. Sobrang clingy sa umpisa, after a while bigla magbabago. Nature ba talaga ng mga lalaki ang ma bore, kahit sa mga mag asawa madalas ko to naririnig. Pag sawa na naghahanap na ng iba.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on March 12, 2019, 01:46:54 pm
^ i believe natural lang na stage yan sa isang relationship mapababae or lalake. Sa umpisa ang dami niyo kasing gustong gawin together, excited sa isat-isa pero pagtagal once macheck off niyo mga yun magiging normal na kayo, comfortable stage. Pwede ring nagbago siya kasi nga hindi pinapansin kapag naglalambing or cold yung gf sa ganoong love language kaya tinigil niya.

Ang hindi natural e maghanap ng iba kapag nagsawa, dahilan lang yun kapag nahuli na lol.. either fix the relationship or breakup.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on March 13, 2019, 10:59:08 am
^Agree bro Tom. It's human nature na magsawa, or maging complacent, not necessarily a guy thing. Even girls naman nagbabago rin sa course ng relationship, sa una very understanding at hindi madada, pero eventually konting kibot ng partner pinagsisimulan ng away. That's where you have to realize that relationships are not based on feelings. Being with someone and loving that person is a conscious decision you make everyday.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: jtansanco on March 14, 2019, 04:52:29 am
Bakit ang mga lalaki sa una sobrang ma asikaso, nag rereklamo kapag hindi mo pinapansin. Sobrang clingy sa umpisa, after a while bigla magbabago. Nature ba talaga ng mga lalaki ang ma bore, kahit sa mga mag asawa madalas ko to naririnig. Pag sawa na naghahanap na ng iba.

During the chase period, we'll do everything we can to get your attention since we want to get to know you, pursue you, and/or court you. We want to be the only guy in your life. This is where we build the spark and see if there's chemistry between us. But as time passes by, we also need YOU to do your part. Surprise us from time-to-time. Give us subtle compliments when we least expect it. It's a give-and-take relationship. If you only rely on us to do all of these, then some of us will get bored because we'll feel like it's a one-way relationship. We'll continue to give you the affection you're looking for as long as you do the same to us. 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: fibia on March 17, 2019, 07:03:05 pm
do u think this relationship has run its course and time to end?

my bf used to be clingy and obsessive, however, he is also a pleaser and wants to do things together with me. weve been together for almost 2 years.

we quarrel a lot for the simplest of things mainly bec of miscommunication, lack of communication.

lately theres a shift, after my birthday. he is now distant, not texting me or messaging me  since last week, and not even initiating any dates or sex. 

he is now dismissive when we discuss things, or when we argue bec he committed to do this with me then bail out last minute (he's done this many manytimes). he seems indifferent, a start contrast from how he is for the entirety of our relationship.


Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on March 17, 2019, 07:29:01 pm
^ ask your partner na magsabi na lang ng totoong nararamdaman nya, hindi yung ganyang ginagawa nya yung mga bagay na ayaw mo, maybe to pissed you at sayo mag mula ang possible breakup. iwas guilt sa part nya kung sakaling ikaw ang unang aayaw o bibitaw kahit base sa kwento mo siya naman ang may kasalanan.

sana magka ayos pa din kayo. pag usapan nyo na lang ng masinsinan yun problema at mag isip ng solusyon para sa problema.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: fibia on March 17, 2019, 08:08:24 pm
^i dont want to initiate the convo., but today i asked a sign from God if he is the right one for me, and in a few minutes meron agad sign: after going with him to church, sinamahan ko sya.   then after church may pupuntahan kami dapat then  he bailed out suddenly, it will only take 1hr of his time, suddenly he is too busy (sideline job nya-work from home na proj).  so ako gumawa ako ng bagay para sa kanya pero sya ayaw nya gumawa ng bagay para sakin.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: three8one on March 17, 2019, 08:21:42 pm
^ yun na ba yung sign? yun na ba yung ginawa mo para sa inyo? eh before ka pa ata humingi ng sign naka plano na yung lakad nyo eh.. talk to him ma'am doon lang kayo magkakaliwanagan. prayer without action is dead.

straight na tanong na din po. ano po ba gusto nyo mangyari, magkahiwalay kayo o mag kaayos kayo? kung gusto nyo magkahiwalay na kayo, we will give advice para magkahiwalay na kayo. pero kung gusto nyo mag kaayos kayo doon tayo sa mga payo na magkakaayos kayo. mahirap kasi kung walang patutunguhan yung usapan. hehe!  ;D
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: simang on March 17, 2019, 08:50:18 pm
@fibia

Bro three8one is correct, the only *healthy* way to deal with your situation is to talk to him about it. In my case, my husband is open with his feelings but I realise that he becomes more comfortable talking to me about it when I probe on how he feels and not when I ask him why he's doing this or that. Example, instead of asking your bf why is he suddenly bailing out, or why does he seem distant, open the conversation by asking him how he is. Ganun lang. Kumustahin mo lang so he doesn't feel like he's being attacked.

But if you don't want to initiate the conversation and would just want to rely on some sign to decide on how to go about your relationship, then it's your choice. That's the easier way I guess.
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Post by: jtansanco on March 21, 2019, 02:38:26 am
do u think this relationship has run its course and time to end?

my bf used to be clingy and obsessive, however, he is also a pleaser and wants to do things together with me. weve been together for almost 2 years.

we quarrel a lot for the simplest of things mainly bec of miscommunication, lack of communication.

lately theres a shift, after my birthday. he is now distant, not texting me or messaging me  since last week, and not even initiating any dates or sex. 

he is now dismissive when we discuss things, or when we argue bec he committed to do this with me then bail out last minute (he's done this many manytimes). he seems indifferent, a start contrast from how he is for the entirety of our relationship.

Let him go. IF he wants you, he'll strive to get you back. It's not worth it being with someone who doesn't care about you.
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Post by: TomHansen on March 21, 2019, 07:56:44 am
@fibia, i'm sorry pero I think hindi ka na niya ganun kamahal. Maybe he was just waiting na matapos yung bday mo siya maging cold sa iyo pero ang totoo matagal na niyang gustong dumistansya. Maybe siya yung takot type na bf na instead na makipagbreak sa babae dadahan dahanin niya na lang hanggang yung babae na maginitiate ng convo at breakup. Sideline job is a weak excuse lalo kung 1hr lang naman ang itatagal ng lakad niyo sana. Kausapin mo na lang, tanungin mo kung gusto niya pa ba or hindi na, di na mahalaga kung anong reasons. Alalahanin mo kung gaano siya kacapable dati nung bago kayo, yun ang love na kaya niyang ibigay and type of love you deserve hanggang ngayon, it's supposed to be easy dahil masaya siya kapag ginagawa niya yun.

Pwede ring hindi pa siya sure dun sa bagong prospect niya kaya tinatabi ka lang niya reserba just in case hindi sila magwork or di siya sagutin.
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Post by: fibia on March 21, 2019, 11:30:19 am
Thank you everyone for your advise.
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Post by: fibia on March 22, 2019, 10:30:41 pm
@fibia, i'm sorry pero I think hindi ka na niya ganun kamahal. Maybe he was just waiting na matapos yung bday mo siya maging cold sa iyo pero ang totoo matagal na niyang gustong dumistansya. Maybe siya yung takot type na bf na instead na makipagbreak sa babae dadahan dahanin niya na lang hanggang yung babae na maginitiate ng convo at breakup. Sideline job is a weak excuse lalo kung 1hr lang naman ang itatagal ng lakad niyo sana. Kausapin mo na lang, tanungin mo kung gusto niya pa ba or hindi na, di na mahalaga kung anong reasons. Alalahanin mo kung gaano siya kacapable dati nung bago kayo, yun ang love na kaya niyang ibigay and type of love you deserve hanggang ngayon, it's supposed to be easy dahil masaya siya kapag ginagawa niya yun.

Pwede ring hindi pa siya sure dun sa bagong prospect niya kaya tinatabi ka lang niya reserba just in case hindi sila magwork or di siya sagutin.

nakakalungkot but yan din ang naiiisip ko. in reality kaya ayoko makipagusap kasi natatakot ako sa sagot nya, at may pride din ako, na ayaw kong marinig na "ayaw" na nya. wrong, pero naduduwag talaga ako. kasi madami din akong kasalanan sa kanya pero lagi syang napaka-patient at bumabalik sakin. pero ngayon parang "cold" na sya.

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Post by: applexkiss on April 21, 2019, 06:25:39 am
Your opinion about "almost relationship"?

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Post by: three8one on April 21, 2019, 12:07:44 pm
^ pwedeng paniwalaan pero huwag aasahan...
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Post by: kvan on April 21, 2019, 10:22:28 pm
It only means it wasn't a relationship so don't sweat over it.
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 22, 2019, 10:46:15 am
para lang yang MU.
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Post by: RoadrunnerXCX on April 22, 2019, 11:17:10 pm
Anong mas malala ang maging paasa o ang maging assumera? :D
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Post by: kvan on April 23, 2019, 04:38:40 am
^Paasa because of the intention.
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Post by: Bridgette* on April 23, 2019, 08:23:16 am
^^ Maging assumerang palaka ☹️😅
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Post by: futboler_dati on April 23, 2019, 08:56:41 am
^^^ hirap naman.. parang pareho lang...
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Post by: sweet21 on June 09, 2019, 10:18:51 am
Kapag ba nasa new relationship na kayo, aalisin nyo lahat ng anything na related sa ex nyo. Naiinis lang kasi ako yung ex ko kasi barkada ng kuya ko, one time pa sinundo kami ng kuya ko sa aiport kasama sya. Pumupunta parin sa bahay, pero ang pakay naman nya hindi ako obviously. Pero nakakainis lang, kasi hindi ba sya nahihiya na after nya mag cheat sakin ok lang na pumunta pa sya samin. Natanong ko lang. Para kasi walang talab ang hiya sakanya, hindi man lang makiramdam e.
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Post by: three8one on June 09, 2019, 12:05:44 pm
^ kung ex mo na yan dapat hindi ka na affected sa mga ganap nya sa buhay. although may point ka doon sa sinabi mong napaka insensitive ng ex mo na sa kabila ng pagchi cheat nya parang wala lang sa kanya na makihalubilo pa sa inyo/iyo. kiber na lang!  may bago ka na naman ka relasyon eh, yun ang pagtuunan mo ng panahon mo.  :)
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Post by: sweet21 on June 09, 2019, 12:57:43 pm
^Sya yung may bago hehe! Tama carry on na lang. Siguro meron talaga taong hindi marunong makiramdam.
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Post by: TomHansen on June 09, 2019, 07:24:31 pm
^ Well walang hiya nga tawag dun. nagcheat na nga lakas pa ng loob magpakita ano yun parang wala na lang, kapal muks lang? Isa rin yang kuya mo, bakit friends pa rin sila e niloko ka na nga nung damuho na yun? Kausapin mo kuya mo at sabihin mo na ayaw mong pumupunta ex mo sa inyo dahil niloko ka niya. Kausapin mo rin parents mo na pagsabihan kapatid mo.. Bahay mo rin yan dapat masunod ka rin sa gusto mo at matuto rin silang irespeto nararamdaman mo..
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Post by: three8one on June 10, 2019, 12:11:00 pm
^Sya yung may bago hehe!

ahh okhay? ang sweet21 mo  ::) pero ang gulo mo eh! haha... biro lang. malaking tsek ka jan na kulay tangerine! haha... keri na lang yan...
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Post by: Bridgette* on July 05, 2019, 11:03:00 am
Hi mga sis, may mga lalaki ba na inlove daw sayo pero hindi naman sweet?
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Post by: glamorosa_09 on July 05, 2019, 05:12:11 pm
What do you mean by sweet sis? You mean
1. give gifts he knows you like
2. remember many things/details about you
3. listens attentively or responsive when you share something nonsense/important/funny/stressful etc.
4. physically affectionate (affectionate touch, sit/walk close next to you, kiss,hug, etc)
5. supportive of your goals and dreams
6. seeks your company or wants to be with you
7. the feeling that he has your back/does not ghost/reliable presence
8. Appreciates/admires you

Personally, okay lang yung low in no. 1, pero importante yung 2-8 as they are signs of emotional availability. One needs to look for someone emotionally available, else it will be an empty and lonely relationship.

Big gifts, travels, fine dinings, mabola, well they are okay and indeed SWEET. But it's the priceless and small gestures that truly matter.

Was I able to answer your question? LOL
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Post by: cherrybery on July 07, 2019, 05:36:21 pm
^^ hmmm dpende sis kase may mga lalaki [textspeak!] na di showy o kya di verbal. Pero tama nga na nasa small things nya yun pinaparamdam. Ska yung proud sya syo yung pinagyayabang ka nia at pinapakilala d man sa lahat pro sa close friends nia ska sa parents nia.
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Post by: JDizon on July 09, 2019, 12:10:21 am
How come men just assumes after doing something wrong na we can all just move on and get pass everything as if nothing happened?
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Post by: simang on July 09, 2019, 09:59:09 am
Hi mga sis, may mga lalaki ba na inlove daw sayo pero hindi naman sweet?

Depende sa definition nyong dalawa ng "sweet". Pwedeng for you sweet ang ibalandra ka sa social media pero sa kanya hindi. Pwedeng for you sweet ang by the minute non stop texting pero sa kanya hindi (pwedeng mas gusto nya personal kayong nagkukwentuhan, etc).

Pero ito lang ang palagi kong advice -- if a guy loves you, you wouldn't have to ask. You will know and he will show you in more ways than one.
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Post by: three8one on July 09, 2019, 12:11:16 pm
How come men just assumes after doing something wrong na we can all just move on and get pass everything as if nothing happened?

sila yung mga tipo ng mga lalake na dahil alam nilang mahal na mahal sila ng mga partner/gf/asawa ay nagagawa na lang nilang balewalain basta basta, lalo na yung feelings ng mga babae.
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Post by: Bridgette* on July 11, 2019, 04:15:39 pm
Was I able to answer your question? LOL

^^ hmmm dpende sis kase may mga lalaki [textspeak!] na di showy o kya di verbal. Pero tama nga na nasa small things nya yun pinaparamdam. Ska yung proud sya syo yung pinagyayabang ka nia at pinapakilala d man sa lahat pro sa close friends nia ska sa parents nia.

Pero ito lang ang palagi kong advice -- if a guy loves you, you wouldn't have to ask. You will know and he will show you in more ways than one.

Oo naman, salamat mga sis!  :)
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Post by: sweet21 on July 14, 2019, 06:50:52 pm
Naiintimidate ba yung mga guys, pag ang babae mas mataas sa kanila? I mean pag mas angat in terms of social/ financial status like ok ang trabaho, pera? Yung hindi nagpapa control/under? Hehe.
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Post by: three8one on July 14, 2019, 07:04:51 pm
^ oo may mga lalakeng ganun?
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Post by: Kiara027 on July 15, 2019, 11:11:46 am
Naiintimidate ba yung mga guys, pag ang babae mas mataas sa kanila? I mean pag mas angat in terms of social/ financial status like ok ang trabaho, pera? Yung hindi nagpapa control/under? Hehe.

OO.  ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: TomHansen on July 24, 2019, 12:50:27 pm
Naiintimidate ba yung mga guys, pag ang babae mas mataas sa kanila? I mean pag mas angat in terms of social/ financial status like ok ang trabaho, pera? Yung hindi nagpapa control/under? Hehe.

Yes may mga ganung lalaki pero mali sila.. Sa panahon ngayon kahit papaano equal opportunities na pagdating sa trabaho lalo na sa mga tech jobs kaya imbes na maintimidate dapat nga matuwa pa yung lalaki kasi narereward yung talent/ability ng partner niya, hindi naman dapat competition lalo kung pagbabasehan e sahod. At hindi naman umiikot ang mundo sa iyo(sa lalaki) para maapektuhan ka sa salary ng iba/gf.. 
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Post by: saqqara on July 28, 2019, 12:18:28 am
Hi Everyone  I would like to ask ba like how would you know a 2nd date would happen? like will the guy initiate ba right away? Cause I met this guy online, before meeting him we were texting for a week mga hello and good mornings, nag lunch kana ba? , good night and anything under the sun.
 
  Anyways  that night kasi suddenly na putol moment namin (we were just talking about stuff and getting closer kasi magkatabi kami, like his arms were around na sa chair ko)  we were in a place na view ang city but na putol kasi almost 12mn na and my mom would want me to go home na so hinatid niya ako and he also texted me na he just arrived and good night.
 So sa morning rin he texted me good morning hanggang gabi.  At night time na it was around 8pm na ata  I asked him if okay lang siya kasi he doesn't say that much sa text like he used to or baka paranoid lang ako. He replied Sorry late reply kasi naglalaro pa siya siya ng M.L. ( mobile legends).   So ako sabi ko rin Ayy sorry na distract ka sa kaka text ko.  But guys I don't know why but I was kinda bothered kasi he replied after  "Bukas na lang tayo text kung hindi na ako busy" and "Good night"   I'ts not the first time naman na nag apologise siya for late
reply  kasi naglaro siya ng M.L. There was a time late siya maka reply  because of that.

 Is it just me or he finds it clingy lang ? na nag rereply ako and ask him stuff  :( :( :( :(  That day rin after kami nagkita he did not asked me if nag lunch na ba ako which he usually asks   :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(      I don't know, I'm confused.  I just had fun  kasi when we met like all the chitchat and bantering.      I even told him pa nga sayang hindi ko na picture ang city view that night when we went there sa mountain park  (It was my hint na I want to go back ) sabi naman niya may marami pa naman na chance next time.
  The day after we met he did not ask me na he wants to see me again or planned for another date, Guys will you say it right away sa naka date niyo na girl?  or give it ilang days or weeks  telling her na you want so see her again?   
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Post by: TomHansen on July 28, 2019, 10:09:57 am
He replied Sorry late reply kasi naglalaro pa siya siya ng M.L. ( mobile legends).
RUN!!! :D

Though iba iba ang lalaki i always believe na kapag gusto ka niya hindi magbabago agad agad yan especially after niyo magkita. Kung gusto ka niya ganyan din dapat siya katulad mo na eager magtext at mahilig mangumusta, clingy man o hindi normal yan sa umuusbong na relationship at kung hindi siya ganyan sayo isa lang ibig sabihin niyan sis..

Kung ako sa iyo tigilan mo na rin muna pagtetext, hayaan mong siya maginitiate ng conversation niyo sa susunod and try to focus sa ibang bagay para di ka naghihintay sa kanya. Wag kang magexpect na may susunod na date, assume na wala na. Ganito na karamihan ng lalaki, igegerald anderson ka na lang hanggang sa mawalan ka na rin ng ganang magtext.. Bantayan mo puso mo, wag mafall agad ha.
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Post by: mysterioza_me on July 28, 2019, 11:15:18 am
^^Kung feeling mo nag-iba siya (in a negative way) after ng first date ninyo wag ka ng umasa na may second date, masasaktan ka lang.
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Post by: saqqara on July 28, 2019, 12:55:35 pm
RUN!!! :D

Though iba iba ang lalaki i always believe na kapag gusto ka niya hindi magbabago agad agad yan especially after niyo magkita. Kung gusto ka niya ganyan din dapat siya katulad mo na eager magtext at mahilig mangumusta, clingy man o hindi normal yan sa umuusbong na relationship at kung hindi siya ganyan sayo isa lang ibig sabihin niyan sis..

Kung ako sa iyo tigilan mo na rin muna pagtetext, hayaan mong siya maginitiate ng conversation niyo sa susunod and try to focus sa ibang bagay para di ka naghihintay sa kanya. Wag kang magexpect na may susunod na date, assume na wala na. Ganito na karamihan ng lalaki, igegerald anderson ka na lang hanggang sa mawalan ka na rin ng ganang magtext.. Bantayan mo puso mo, wag mafall agad ha.


I was thinking too na I'll keep myself busy. Saklap lang I thought he had fun too oh well. I mean we were laughing, him giving me high five and bantering pero hindi naman yun guarantee :-(


^^Kung feeling mo nag-iba siya (in a negative way) after ng first date ninyo wag ka ng umasa na may second date, masasaktan ka lang.

 Yun nga he did not text me today :-(  I really wanted to text him so baad.  Although he texted yesterday.  I'm a bit disappointed for expecting.
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Post by: simang on July 28, 2019, 01:57:35 pm
saqqara

If a guy really enjoyed the date he would've asked you for a second one before you guys went your separate ways. Usually yan ang clear cut sign na gusto ka talaga nya
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Post by: three8one on July 28, 2019, 02:00:33 pm
@ Saqqara

kapag sa unang pagkikita at attracted agad sayo ang guy, sila ang eager magkaron ng 2nd date. at yung consistency level nila ay mas umaangat. ngayon, kapag medjo nanlamig at nag lay low na maybe hindi na meet yung expectations which is una na jan yung physical attraction..

move forward na, wag mo hayaan masayang ang oras at panahon mo sa mga taong hindi naman interesado sayo. mahirap ipilit ang isang bagay na hindi naman fit. tsaka kung sakali man, kilalanin mo muna Mabuti yung taong papapasukin mo sa buhay mo. it is worth na mag invest ka ng medjo matagal na oras sa pagkilala sa tao kung ang plano mo naman eh pang matagalan na relasyon.

na out of topic ata. haha! sori naman?.
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Post by: saqqara on July 28, 2019, 02:26:07 pm
Thanks sa mga advices niyo po mga sis and bro  :)


@ Saqqara


move forward na, wag mo hayaan masayang ang oras at panahon mo sa mga taong hindi naman interesado sayo. mahirap ipilit ang isang bagay na hindi naman fit. tsaka kung sakali man, kilalanin mo muna Mabuti yung taong papapasukin mo sa buhay mo. it is worth na mag invest ka ng medjo matagal na oras sa pagkilala sa tao kung ang plano mo naman eh pang matagalan na relasyon.

na out of topic ata. haha! sori naman?.


 Hahah okay lang po @three8one hindi naman out of topic  ;D  You're right huwag ipilit talaga. Naninibago lang siguro ako kasi after years na wala akong matinong ka date heto may nag invite at may someone na nag check on me everyday through text eh pa fall naman pala  hmppph  :-[ :-[ :-[ :(   Sa mga previous kasi pa hookup2x  lang ako, I even asked advice here last year  :D :D ;D ;D ;D  Thank God I moved on from that sh***y experience.  I just feel a little bad we're not on the same page pala  :-[.
 
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Post by: three8one on July 28, 2019, 06:43:02 pm
^ give him a chance baka nga busy lang din, malay mo naman..

pero hello! ML over you? hehe.. sabay kabig eh noh.. pag yun ang reason nya aba! marami ng t**** tangahan na babae. wag mo na dagdagan ang bilang please?! haha! joke lang.. basta, wag kang mag expect ng too much para di ka ma dissapoint ng bongga. pag lalake ang lumalapit kailangan sila ang mas ma effort kesa sa babae.

okay lang yan, matuto ka sa mga previous experienced mo at gamitin mo yun para di ka magkamali sa pag pili ng tamang lalake makakasundo mo.  :D
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Post by: amethyst028 on July 28, 2019, 07:33:35 pm

I was thinking too na I'll keep myself busy. Saklap lang I thought he had fun too oh well. I mean we were laughing, him giving me high five and bantering pero hindi naman yun guarantee :-(


 Yun nga he did not text me today :-(  I really wanted to text him so baad.  Although he texted yesterday.  I'm a bit disappointed for expecting.

Having fun on the date is just that, you are enjoying each other's company at the moment. Yung follow up it is up to the guy to pursue you. Maybe he felt an energy about you, baka you are giving off a clingy/needy vibe or that you want a relationship so bad vibes.

Actually ganyan ako dati, naka 8 na first date ata ako in 6months, it did not turn into
anything. That was the time na nag self reflect ako, and i realized na may mali sa ginagawa ko. I was not happy with myself and i am looking for a relationship hoping na yun ang pupuno sa mga kulang sa buhay ko.

I started working on myself first before i dated again. Ayun the next guy i went out with hindi na ako pinakawalan. Halfway through the date nagpapa sched na ng next. If the guy is into you there is no guessing game. Hindi mo kailangan mag wonder kung kelan siya mag te-text kasi panay ang text niyan at laging mag aaya magkita. Ikaw na ang tatanggi sa sobrang ka kulitan ng guy. He will initiate everything wala ka kailangan gawin.
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Post by: saqqara on July 28, 2019, 11:29:26 pm
^ give him a chance baka nga busy lang din, malay mo naman..

pero hello! ML over you? hehe.. sabay kabig eh noh.. pag yun ang reason nya aba! marami ng t**** tangahan na babae. wag mo na dagdagan ang bilang please?! haha! joke lang.. basta, wag kang mag expect ng too much para di ka ma dissapoint ng bongga. pag lalake ang lumalapit kailangan sila ang mas ma effort kesa sa babae.

okay lang yan, matuto ka sa mga previous experienced mo at gamitin mo yun para di ka magkamali sa pag pili ng tamang lalake makakasundo mo.  :D



I started working on myself first before i dated again. Ayun the next guy i went out with hindi na ako pinakawalan. Halfway through the date nagpapa sched na ng next. If the guy is into you there is no guessing game. Hindi mo kailangan mag wonder kung kelan siya mag te-text kasi panay ang text niyan at laging mag aaya magkita. Ikaw na ang tatanggi sa sobrang ka kulitan ng guy. He will initiate everything wala ka kailangan gawin.


Wow sis Thanks for the advice ,dami mo pala na kiss na frogs before the PRINCE . Cute naman ng story niyo yung ayaw ka pakawalan at kinukulit talaga. I hope I get to experience that.
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Post by: three8one on July 29, 2019, 01:14:20 pm
<br hehe hindi naman first time yun na late nag reply because of M.L. pero dba hmmm mas bongga naman ako kaysa sa M.L.    :-* :-* :-*   ;) :) :) hahaha    ;D ;D ;D Yes learned my lesson not to expect that much kahit nag text na siya now hehe.

Eh di miow! shami ng mingot! hahaha.. (biro lang) thanks sa pag update sa amin. hehe!

good for you, pareho pa din ba ng pakiramdam/kilig nun una mo sya naka message tsaka yung ngayon? after mo makabasa ng mga comments dito? haha!
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Post by: Kiara027 on July 29, 2019, 04:05:40 pm
<br hehe hindi naman first time yun na late nag reply because of M.L. pero dba hmmm mas bongga naman ako kaysa sa M.L.    :-* :-* :-*   ;) :) :) hahaha    ;D ;D ;D Yes learned my lesson not to expect that much kahit nag text na siya now hehe.
 

gawain din ng babae yan, pag ML over the guy, game over na. :D

pero I agree sa guys dito, usually pag sa first meet up and then before kayo maghiwalay ng landas eh nag ask kung kelan ulit kayo magkikita, then, he really likes you. if not, then, he is not that into you.

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Post by: saqqara on July 30, 2019, 05:24:02 pm
Eh di miow! shami ng mingot! hahaha.. (biro lang) thanks sa pag update sa amin. hehe!

good for you, pareho pa din ba ng pakiramdam/kilig nun una mo sya naka message tsaka yung ngayon? after mo makabasa ng mga comments dito? haha!


Hahaha parang nag doubt na ako  :-\ ;D :D   hahaha anyways I'm not forcing anything naman. Whatever will be will be.



gawain din ng babae yan, pag ML over the guy, game over na. :D

pero I agree sa guys dito, usually pag sa first meet up and then before kayo maghiwalay ng landas eh nag ask kung kelan ulit kayo magkikita, then, he really likes you. if not, then, he is not that into you.




 Maybe nga noh hmmmm  :P ??? :( :'( :'( :'( :'(  Nag tetext naman sya but he's not asking me out pa.
Maybe he's not that into me talaga. Oh well.  :(  :P
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Post by: three8one on July 30, 2019, 05:55:46 pm

Hahaha parang nag doubt na ako  :-\ ;D :D   hahaha anyways I'm not forcing anything naman. Whatever will be will be.




 Maybe nga noh hmmmm  :P ??? :( :'( :'( :'( :'(  Nag tetext naman sya but he's not asking me out pa.
Maybe he's not that into me talaga. Oh well.  :(  :P

quesera sera???  ::) haha!

basta sa bawat desisyon na gagawin mo pag isipan mo muna makailang ulit kung ano at gaano kalaki ang epekto sayo.. maging matalino ka. enjoy mo lang muna, wag ka pa pressure at mas lalong wag ka pa stress!

ikaw nga pala yung noong 2018 pa na nag share dito noh? good to know nakawala ka na dun, plus 100 like ka dahil jan.. hehe! ang galing mo... nice!
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Post by: saqqara on July 30, 2019, 06:19:17 pm
quesera sera???  ::) haha!

basta sa bawat desisyon na gagawin mo pag isipan mo muna makailang ulit kung ano at gaano kalaki ang epekto sayo.. maging matalino ka. enjoy mo lang muna, wag ka pa pressure at mas lalong wag ka pa stress!

ikaw nga pala yung noong 2018 pa na nag share dito noh? good to know nakawala ka na dun, plus 100 like ka dahil jan.. hehe! ang galing mo... nice!


Thanks bro  :) Oo ako yun hehe experience rin yun na I learned something from it na huwag agad maniwala.  ;)  Right now just letting it be  que sera seraaa  hehe. And of course prayers rin na huwag ako ma anxious agad to stuff  like this.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: sweet21 on August 28, 2019, 04:36:11 pm
Norm na ba talaga ngayon sa relationship na sex at maging pregnant muna as prerequisite for marriage. Sorry for the dumb question? Palagay ko lang wala kasi tumatagal sakin haha kasi hindi ako nakikipag sex sa mga naging bf ko. Hindi naman ako boring, pero pag dating don gusto ko kasi papakasalan ako dahil mahal ako. Most of my friends got married when they found out their pregnant, I don't want to follow their example. Pero sa mundo ngayon, parang yan na ang trend. Alam ko meron parin lalaki nakakapag intay, pero totoo pa ba ito?
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Post by: TomHansen on August 28, 2019, 06:56:44 pm
^ Norm na yung sex before marriage pero yung pregnancy as a prerequisite hindi, at for me maling reason ang pregnancy para magpakasal lalo na yung mga aksidente lang.

Kanya kanya lang yan ng paniniwala walang tama or mali, ako ok naman sa akin sex before marriage para maaga pa lang makita niyo na ng partner mo kung sexually compatible kayo. Mahirap kasi kung kasal na kayo saka niyo lang malalaman na di pala kayo compatible or may ibang issues si partner na tinatago..

Pero ok yang stand mo sweet21, wag mong ipressure ang sarili mo na makigaya sa ibang tao, if hindi ka pa ready wag mong gawin and if mahal ka talaga ng lalaki maiintindihan niya dapat kung ano ang pwede at hindi sa iyo..
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Post by: Shadow Angel on August 28, 2019, 07:21:46 pm
^^
Dapat un lalaki makikilala mo ready na or stable na para hindi matagalan ang desisyon nya if ikaw ba talaga gusto nya pakasalan. Katulad ni Nikki Gil kasal agad.
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Post by: Bridgette* on August 29, 2019, 08:54:12 am
^^^ Oo yan na yung uso pero hindi dahil uso ibig sabihin eh tama at dapat nang maki trend. You always have a choice. Let them be. The guys you were with may not really be the one that's right for you. Because if a guy is really into you, he'll pursue you no matter what the circumstance, your preferences, and your differences will be. Saka alam agad ng mga lalaki yan kung pakakasalan nila yung babae nila.
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Post by: simang on August 29, 2019, 09:42:16 am
@sweet21 the wrong person will leave your whether you have sex with them or not. Kaya wag ka mapressure na walang nagtatagal sayo just because you don't have sex with your partner. Have sex when you're ready, get married when you're ready.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Azel0725 on August 31, 2019, 03:02:02 pm
@sweet21 dun ka nlng sa guy na faithful kay God, [textspeak!] na irerespeto ka nyan kung ayaw mo ng s3x, alam mo naman na [textspeak!] [textspeak!] place kung san ka mkakahanap ng guy na ganun😊😊😊
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: NeilRudecat on November 29, 2019, 04:05:56 am
Sana manatiling matatag ka at manindigan ?mamahalin ka ng tapat totoo dahil tama ang pinapahalagahan mo.  Bihira lang ang tulad mo na may ganiyang katatagan (security, confidence).

You deserve to be desired and honored with a marriage proposal because of the values you uphold ...because you are such a rare discovery.

Norm na ba talaga ngayon sa relationship na sex at maging pregnant muna as prerequisite for marriage. Sorry for the dumb question? Palagay ko lang wala kasi tumatagal sakin haha kasi hindi ako nakikipag sex sa mga naging bf ko. Hindi naman ako boring, pero pag dating don gusto ko kasi papakasalan ako dahil mahal ako. Most of my friends got married when they found out their pregnant, I don't want to follow their example. Pero sa mundo ngayon, parang yan na ang trend. Alam ko meron parin lalaki nakakapag intay, pero totoo pa ba ito?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: leigh_iyah01 on December 07, 2019, 05:19:26 pm
Norm na ba talaga ngayon sa relationship na sex at maging pregnant muna as prerequisite for marriage. Sorry for the dumb question? Palagay ko lang wala kasi tumatagal sakin haha kasi hindi ako nakikipag sex sa mga naging bf ko. Hindi naman ako boring, pero pag dating don gusto ko kasi papakasalan ako dahil mahal ako. Most of my friends got married when they found out their pregnant, I don't want to follow their example. Pero sa mundo ngayon, parang yan na ang trend. Alam ko meron parin lalaki nakakapag intay, pero totoo pa ba ito?


Kaya mo yan girl. I salute you. And I encourage you to stay pure before marriage :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: kainis9 on December 19, 2019, 09:31:02 pm
Ano ang normally namimiss ng guys/bf sa girls/gf?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hack__you on January 07, 2020, 12:35:03 am
Ano ang normally namimiss ng guys/bf sa girls/gf?

Sex
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: missyA on January 29, 2020, 08:24:16 pm
What is the right reaction when your bf seems distant to you?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on February 01, 2020, 10:57:05 am
Ano ang normally namimiss ng guys/bf sa girls/gf?

cuddlesss
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: moonandstars on February 05, 2020, 10:23:37 am
Hello! I'd like to ask for your advice. I'm dating this guy I met from a dating app. He seems to be a nice guy. The problem is, I found out na may mutual friend kami. Close friend niya yung isang guy na nameet ko din from the dating app. Nakwento ko din sa kanya na I met his friend thru the app. Tinanong nya ko what happened, sabi ko walang spark between me and his friend. But I didnt tell him na I slept with his friend. Pero once lang. Then after the did, it's like nothing happened. Hindi din nnag push through yung relationship. Help! I feel like Im beginning to like this new guy kaso naguguilty ako na Im hiding something from him. Should I tell him? Natatakot naman ako na he might get turned off.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: mysterioza_me on February 05, 2020, 10:48:17 am
^Tell him the truth kung magtatanong siya. Pero kung di naman siya magtatanong wag mo na sabihin, parang nasa early stage pa lang naman kayo ng dating. Be careful na lang din at wag basta magtitiwala kay new guy kasi baka di mo alam next time ikaw na pulutan sa kwentuhan nilang dalawa.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on February 05, 2020, 11:01:26 am
^^ Mas mabuti huwag na lang wala rin namang maitutulong yun sa inyo kung seryoso ka talaga sa lalaki, though i'm sure at the back of his mind pwedeng may nangyari nga between you and his close friend - at sure din ako na ayaw niya talagang malaman. Ang problema na lang is paano kung yung close friend niya pala nagkwento/magkwento sa kanya. Ingatan ang puso ha, teka may nangyayari na rin ba sa inyo ni new guy?
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Post by: moonandstars on February 05, 2020, 11:38:46 am
^^ Mas mabuti huwag na lang wala rin namang maitutulong yun sa inyo kung seryoso ka talaga sa lalaki, though i'm sure at the back of his mind pwedeng may nangyari nga between you and his close friend - at sure din ako na ayaw niya talagang malaman. Ang problema na lang is paano kung yung close friend niya pala nagkwento/magkwento sa kanya. Ingatan ang puso ha, teka may nangyayari na rin ba sa inyo ni new guy?
Wala pa naman nangyayari sa min ng new guy. We've been going out on wholesome dates. He seems to be a gentleman. Nag ask siya sakin thru text kung bakit di natuloy with his friend, and nag sorry din siya for asking. Sabi lang nya baka daw kasi nagiging epal siya between me and his friend. eh sabi ko wala naman kami nung friend nya. walang spark pareho. Yung friend nya sakin and ako sa friend nya. Ayun. Nasa early stage pa nga lang kami ng dating but if ever it goes serious, di ko ba dapat yun sabihin sa kanya? Ang awkard kasi eh. Yung friend nya nirecruit ako before to be part of some sort of parang 'networking' so magkateam kami and we still see each other during meetings. Pero nothing romantic talaga. PAg naguusap kami lagi regarding the business na lang.
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Post by: mysterioza_me on February 05, 2020, 11:52:57 am
^Well kung totoong serious siya importante pa ba yun? Past is past. Wala pa naman siya sa buhay mo nun. For me lang, kung itatanong ni new guy better tell him the truth but be ready for the consequence. If hindi naman niya itatanong then I guess hindi na importante ang past sa kanya. Pero if feeling mo di ka matatahimik then it is up to you to decide kung dapat or hindi mo ba dapat sabihin. Just make sure na anuman ang result wala kang pagsisisihan.
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Post by: moonandstars on February 05, 2020, 07:08:41 pm
True sis. thanks sa advice  :) ;)
^Well kung totoong serious siya importante pa ba yun? Past is past. Wala pa naman siya sa buhay mo nun. For me lang, kung itatanong ni new guy better tell him the truth but be ready for the consequence. If hindi naman niya itatanong then I guess hindi na importante ang past sa kanya. Pero if feeling mo di ka matatahimik then it is up to you to decide kung dapat or hindi mo ba dapat sabihin. Just make sure na anuman ang result wala kang pagsisisihan.
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Post by: RoadrunnerXCX on July 25, 2020, 03:07:28 am
@moonandstars, anong dating app yan?  curious lang baka makita ko si hubs dyan LOL!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: fifi_girl on August 17, 2020, 06:39:46 am
Hi Guys! i'd like to ask for your advice.

I had a relationship with this guy for almost 6 years, we separated for 3 years, then got back together last year. We had a child together.

And then late last year, we broke up again. He said its not really working out between us. That hindi talaga kami magkasundo... only to find out that he has never moved on from what happened between us when we separated. He never forgave me for the decisions i made, which are valid naman. The decisions i made entails the future of our child. So tinanggap ko yun. Then i found out he started seeing someone else. I asked him about it, but i never got a direct confirmation from him. All he said was "gusto daw niya maging masaya sa natitirang buhay niya", he is not ill or anything. He told me over and over na pasakit at pabigat na lang daw ako sa buhay niya, and that he does not love me anymore.

And then recently, i found his newly created IG account. Nagulat ako kase it was in Public mode, and there are pics of him and this girl. I was deeply hurt, first because we got back together a year ago. And i know nung panahon na nagbalikan kami, minahal niya ako talaga. And we broke up less than 6 months ago!

Parang naisip ko, can he really fall in love with someone else that easily? I get it, he is lonely. Pero para maipagpalit niya ako ng ganun kabilis at ganun kadali?
What also annoys me is that he does not make an effort to even talk to his son. Parang mas pinipili niya that girl instead of his own flesh and blood. I am trying to move on with my son now. And its really haaaaaard.

Guys, please help! Advice pleaseeeeee!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: hack__you on August 25, 2020, 04:44:37 am
You guys broke up. that's it. move on. Hinde nya pinipili ang girl over his son, magkaiba yun. Either iniiwasan ka nya or talagang irresponsible lang sya. I will not choose any girl even my mom for my son/daughter. No point in dwelling about how fast ka pinagpalit masasaktan ka lang wala namang magbabago.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: futboler_dati on September 02, 2020, 05:26:55 pm
siguro let him be na lang. baka iba na talaga ang gusto nyang buhay.
if he can support your kid financially better.

baka it's the end na rin ng love story nyo.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on September 03, 2020, 01:46:26 pm
^^ Mas maganda siguro na ngayon wala na sa buhay niyo si ex mo kasi based sa mga previous posts mo wala naman siyang naibibigay na maganda sa buhay niyo ng anak mo - I mean kung wala naman siyang silbi bakit kailangan pang isama sa buhay niyo, hindi kailangan na anak ang ganyang klaseng father ang kailangan niya parent and for now ikaw na muna ang gumanap ng roles na yun. Him having a relationship shouldn't be an issue since you guys already broke up, wag mo nang isipin the who/what/why/how/when in their relationship kasi kahit ano naman ang sagot sakit lang naman ang makukuha mo.

I know madaling sabihin dahil wala kami sa situation mo pero I think parang chess ito yung best move mo, protect your kid and focus sa life niyo without him.
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: Bridgette* on April 30, 2021, 01:22:05 pm
Hello All! Kapag ba may misunderstanding or away kayo ng partner nyo, usually ba tumatagal yun ng 3 days to a week or red flag na pag ganon katagal? Sana po may sumagot. Salamat!
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on April 30, 2021, 03:40:03 pm
Hindi dapat, masyadong matagal ang 3 days unless sobrang bigat ang dahilan ng pinag-awayan(like cheating) na kailangang ng mahigit 3days na comtemplating sa nangyari. Kung mababaw lang dahilan at tumagal ng ganyan red flag yan sa iba dahil may ibang tao na ginagamit ang away para gumawa ng kalokohan nila
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on June 05, 2021, 05:04:33 am
 Hello may question lang ako kasi I'm confused sa actions ng bf ng bestie ko.  Me and my best friend's boyfriend work in the same building but different company.  Suddenly I received a DM from him last April. That month sila bumalik ng office  so napansin niya  wala na kami sa office  sa ground floor, Yung office pala nila  sa upper floor.  We transferred to our warehouse instead last February because of the pandemic.  I informed him that  then he asked me if hindi ba daw ako lumalabas so I told him minsan lang ako mag office , like end of the month and WFH na mostly.
 
 Anyways so we exchanged messages about how working at home and office is different suddenly he teased me na so hindi na pala ako nakaka date or na diligan kasi hindi ako lumalabas.  I'm  a single mom  pala  and for years na wala akong naging boyfriend after my son's father.    At first it was just nothing lang kasi he was always a joker but he sends me some sex videos and suddenly delete it, I find it weird kasi why would he send that to me I asked him what was that. Sabi niya  yun yung student  na  taga Davao na nag viral daw . So I tried to change the subject and  told him I haven't met my bestie na which is his GF, he replied sila din daw matagal na hindi nagkikita, So  sabi ko kailan kayo last nag meet?  He just said SECRET so after he replied I just gave a thumbs up and no  message na from him at  hindi na rin ako nag bother mag ask if may problem sila that time kasi private yun.

 Then This Sunday  lang he messaged me  telling me open na daw yung kainan near our building that we went last 2019 that time  nag treat ako sa kanilang 2  kasi post birthday celebration ko.  Minsan kasi we three go out or he'll catch up whenever me and my friend would hang out  or  me and my bestie would  end our dinner with coffee then he follows na. May one time rin  pumunta sila sa birthday ko sa bahay ,dinala niya that day  si BF kasi day off nila both. So I met him countless times na  and known him for years since they started dating in 2015.
  Suddenly he teased me mag  libre daw ako dun sa place when we last dined out before pandemic  , so sabi ko naman bakit ako mag libre?  dapat ikaw kasi mas malaki sweldo mo or hati kayo ni GF.   Then he teased me again if  ibang lalaki  daw nag ask sa akin malamang go daw ako,

 Eh sabi ko naman hindi ako mang li libre noh konting lang sweldo ko ngayon kasi hindi work everyday skeletal pa kami sa office.  Anyways until napunta yung topic namin  about food and  he needs a sugar mommy  ( I'm confused if he meant Single Mom or Sugar Mommy)   
He needs someone to  cook for him kasi mas masarap daw magluto ang sugar mommy kasi home cooked meals and masarap magdala, So I was kinda bothered na sa part na masarap magdala.  So sabi ko bakit ka pa mag hahanap eh andyan naman GF niya.   He replied SECRET     :o  ::)

  Then he asked me if Ako ba daw masarap magluto?  I answered him  kain lang alam ko eh,  then he followed it up with Ikaw Masarap ka kumain?   I thought it was just an innocent  question lang so I replied naman Oo depende sa food. Eh nag iba nag tono niya when he told me , E lilibre kita pero Ako kainin mo!  Diba masarap ka kumain?   I was taken aback sa questions nya . I told him bakit  bakit ganun tungo niya sa  akin  eh friend ako ng GF niya ? I even  asked him "Don't you find it weird you're trying to hookup with me?"   Hindi daw kasi parang exciting daw yun  And feel niya  magaling ako in bed and  performer. Magaling ka ba mag B J ? He asked me!    I was definitely shocked cause I thought he was a good guy ,never kasi siya naging bastos sa akin, sabi ko sa kanya akala ko naman good boy ka ? He didn't respond to that . Bakit kaya naging ganun siya?   
 
 He was never flirty before and was always nice and appropriate when we meet sa hallways.   I asked him if okay lang siya at  sila ng friend ko?  He told me naman the'yre cool and wala silang problema daw.   I just stopped replying to him and  I  messaged my best friend , I first asked her if okay sila ng bf niya why daw ako nag ask ng ganun?  And i told her your bf is asking me some lewd questions,  she informed me they haven't talked in 2 months na  kasi she was tired, she basically GHOSTED  him.  Wala naman daw third party pero she's tired of being the one making effort sa relationship always reaching out  and she reached her limits. I don't really know if there's more to that.   She was  shocked too when I informed her sabi niya hindi naman ganun si BF, strong  daw yun , she'll pray for him instead. Someday she'll talk to him personal  and have closure.
I also asked her if she mentioned anything about me sa BF niya she blurted pala before pero matagal na yun." Okay lang daw ako kahit walang BF kasi minsan may ka S@x naman daw ako"  :( :o   Oh it was just between me and my friend I don't know why she even bothered to tell him that? I don't know if he asked or what?     Kaya siguro  ganun tungo niya sa akin ngayon kasi nalaman niya I used to hookup before   :-[ >:( :(
 And bakit  naging ganun yung treatment niya sa akin Is it because he knew  about that?

 What bothers me is ganito ba talaga ang lalaki ? Why would he try to hookup with his GF's  best friend? Or in denial siya kasi sabi niya okay sila but to my friend wala na . Or  is this his way  to get closer  sa ex Gf niya ? Get attention?  Pride? Revenge perhaps ? Or he's  testing me? 

 I mean if he wants to talk to my friend  why can't he messaged her instead and ask her directlty ?   
  There was a time, years ago He was  so thoughtful and sweet to my friend , He asked me once for  help and  messaged  me  na samahan ko daw siya bumili ng Christmas  gift for her,  Anong  shop ba daw  sa instagram  Where he can buy  some bags for her?   I thought to myself awww how sweet naman,
  But now  It's just sad that when someone I thought who was perfect for my bestie turned out to be  someone different.    :( :(  :(
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Post by: TomHansen on June 05, 2021, 10:03:54 pm
^
He was never flirty before kasi nga sila pa ng bestfriend mo, and siguro hindi lang rin nagkaroon ng change but deep inside yan talaga ugali niya. Ok lang naman if you think highly of him before pero after nung nag-ask siya tungkol sa matagal ka nang di nadiligan malaking red flag na yun lalo di naman kayo super close friends. Tapos nagsend pa ng scandal, tin-test ka niya nung time na yun.

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I was definitely shocked cause I thought he was a good guy ,never kasi siya naging bastos sa akin, sabi ko sa kanya akala ko naman good boy ka ? He didn't respond to that . Bakit kaya naging ganun siya?   
Ganun siya dahil single na uli and i'm sure marami pa siyang kinakausap na ganyan, parang nakawala sa hawla or parang mangingisda na naghagis ng lambat hoping na may mahuhuli. Sadly he thought isa ka sa mahuhuli so good for you na umiwas ka at sinabi mo sa gf niya.

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And bakit  naging ganun yung treatment niya sa akin Is it because he knew  about that?
No, ganun lang talaga siya. Huwag mong isipin na yung past actions mo ang dahilan and besides personal mo na yun and he should still respect you katulad ng ibang tao.

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What bothers me is ganito ba talaga ang lalaki ? Why would he try to hookup with his GF's  best friend?....
May ganyang mga lalaki at ganyang mga babae, nasa personality ng tao yan hindi sa gender.

Nasa iyo na yan kung ibblock mo or retain dahil sa pinagsamahan nila ng bestfriend mo, just dont be shocked kapag paminsan minsan i-test ka niya uli.

Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on June 06, 2021, 04:09:31 pm
@TomHansen Thank you po for the  response  and insights. Sabi ng friend ko huwag muna e block and she asked me to tell her again if mag ask na naman ulit ng ganun ang guy, So far he didn't open it up but minsan he messages me nonesense stuff like sending a dot lang sa messenger and there was one time he asked me  if umu ulan ba sa place ko? eh pareho naman kami na nasa  Region 7   ::)  ::)  at hindi ganun kalayo place namin. Na turn off talaga ako sa attitude niya ever since he talked that way to me. 
Before I was so happy to hear they were dating again, he used to be my besties  highschool BF then they broke up months when she started college  (met her in college)  until they get back again after a decade. I just felt so sad for her  at na disrespect siya ng ganito, she doesn't deserve this.
She's really bothered talaga and told me bakit daw of all people ako pa?    mi-nesage ng ex bf niya?  if he wants s@x   he could've asked someone else, bakit daw bff pa niya?   :'(  :'( :( 
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on June 08, 2021, 10:53:06 pm
^ Oks sana magbago at di na niya lang ulitin. Yung mga iniisip mo tungkol sa bakit ikaw pa siguro siya lang nakakaalam nun at sabi ko nga baka hindi rin lang naman ikaw ang ginaganun niya. Honest question, nacucurious ka lang ba sa attitude niya or kahit papaano na-eenjoy mo rin sa attention niya?
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on June 10, 2021, 01:50:20 am


^ Oks sana magbago at di na niya lang ulitin.

^@TomHansen - Hindi ko alam if magbago pa kaya yun baka matagal pa or sa ibang babae na hehe,  Hindi rin alam ng friend ko paano daw e call ang attention nung ex niya.  Basta daw someday kausapin niya for closure.

Yung mga iniisip mo tungkol sa bakit ikaw pa siguro siya lang nakakaalam nun at sabi ko nga baka hindi rin lang naman ikaw ang ginaganun niya. Honest question, nacucurious ka lang ba sa attitude niya or kahit papaano na-eenjoy mo rin sa attention niya?

Yung friend ko po nag sabi nun sa akin "Bakit daw of all ako pa?" na triggered  kasi  siya eh hindi naman ako basta acquainted lang , BFF niya ako.  At agree ako na for sure hindi lang ako ang gina ganun niya eh ngayon pa ba ? na para na siyang nakawala after ilang years being in a relationship.

No!  I don't enjoy the treatment  and I'm glad na hindi na siya nag me message ng ilang days,  kasi iba po tungo niya sa akin ever since he texted me.  It seems like ang baba ng pagtingin niya  with  the way he texts.  Words like  "Tingin ko sa yo hindi ka naman  wholesome "  Made me feel bad, And when I told him I was shocked bakit ganyan yung questions niya sa akin  , he just replied Weeehhh ? That was like wow  he acted like a real Jerk  :o    :o   :o 

 Before kasi I admire them as a couple and I really thought he was the one  for my friend.
 Like I said happy ako before nung nagka balikan sila since 2015 and  after years of being separated since early 2000's. 
 But after he acted like a jerk , 360 degrees nag iba na rin tingin ko sa kanya from admiring him to hating him. he doesn't really know me that much and he's quick to judge.  Everyone deserves respect, Regardless ano pa nalaman niya sa past ko or anyone ,  May it be if I slept around, I was promiscuous , a pornstar or  what Respect lang sana.   
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: TomHansen on June 12, 2021, 09:55:06 pm
^ nacurious lang ako kasi kung ibang tao yan once landiin ng ganyan automatic block na agad e. Anyway sana di ka na lang imsg uli lalo mga ganyan. :)
Title: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
Post by: saqqara on June 16, 2021, 01:53:21 am
^@Tomhansen Don't worry hindi  ako papatol,  Akala ko kasi nung una na hack kaya hindi ko muna na block.  My friend actually asked me to block him initially  but then ilang minutes sa convo namin  sabi niya huwag muna e block baka mag message daw and I  tell her right away.  Good thing hindi na nag message yung guy sa akin.  Mas takot ako if mag balikan sila , Hopefully hindi na after what he has done to me.
Before the month would end , plan rin namin magkita ng bestie ko , hopefully we can talk.     ;) :)
Thank you for your opinion po sir @TomHansen.