Author Topic: Friends with Benefits (Read 16820 times)

sweet_maldita · « **Reply #20 on:** February 15, 2020, 11:30:44 pm »

^natawa ko sa part na alam mo kung kelan sila fertile at yung monthly period nila. Swerte mo sir kasi regular ang monthly period nila, mahirap kasi pag irregular isa sa kanila.

Ni isa ba sa kanila hindi ka na-inlove? Parang ang hirap kasi na makipag-do ng ilang beses tapos walang feelings na nadevelop ng isa sa kanila.

Samin, mga ilang weeks namin bago napag-usapan about sa nangyari samin. Gusto ko minsan iopen yung topic na yung pero nakakahiya naman. Minsan gusto ko sya ayain magpunta uli dun pero di ko alam pano sasabihin. Nagulat na lang ako last week nun sinabi nia na "parang nakakamiss mag-ano..haha". So dun na nagstart yung conversation namin about sa nangyari sa amin. Hindi lang kami natutuloy kasi busy sa work and wala kasama yung anak ko. (single mom here)

vanitygirl · « **Reply #21 on:** February 17, 2020, 10:30:29 pm »

12 years ago, I was in a FwB relationship with a man I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. No strings attached. Who wouldn't want that? No heartache. No drama.

I met him through a common friend. We used to hangout at my place. Just the two of us. Whenever I need him and whenever he needs me. Great, right?

We both knew we love each other. We used to tell that to ourselves. However, we also knew that it was not good for the both of us.

I guess the thought of having someone around without putting your heart in danger makes it easier for us to stay in that kind of relationship.

Until I met this guy, who helped me see my worth. He made me realized that I should not settle for less. I risked everything about us by telling him about my crazy relationship. I thought it would make him leave, but he loved me even more. I stopped communicating with my FUBU (as they cal it) and moved to another place. Though I still think about him sometimes, I am pretty much happy with my beau now. I guess you just really have to meet the right one.

ultraman · « **Reply #22 on:** February 19, 2020, 07:12:49 am »

Check also your heart. Seems like you are in a rebound.
Emotionally you are not ready if your are still thinking of him. This is the risk of FUBU and then fall!

Sometimes we just convince ourselves with "the one" but our heart is not telling it.

Quote from: vanitygirl on February 17, 2020, 10:30:29 pm

12 years ago, I was in a FwB relationship with a man I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. No strings attached. Who wouldn't want that? No heartache. No drama.

I met him through a common friend. We used to hangout at my place. Just the two of us. Whenever I need him and whenever he needs me. Great, right?

We both knew we love each other. We used to tell that to ourselves. However, we also knew that it was not good for the both of us.

I guess the thought of having someone around without putting your heart in danger makes it easier for us to stay in that kind of relationship.

Until I met this guy, who helped me see my worth. He made me realized that I should not settle for less. I risked everything about us by telling him about my crazy relationship. I thought it would make him leave, but he loved me even more. I stopped communicating with my FUBU (as they cal it) and moved to another place. Though I still think about him sometimes, I am pretty much happy with my beau now. I guess you just really have to meet the right one.

Lurker_Man · « **Reply #23 on:** February 22, 2020, 04:52:04 pm »

Quote from: itsmechariz on February 05, 2020, 12:05:11 am

Hi. Anyone here na merong ka FwB? How was it? 😂

me 8 years ago kinda fwb na fubu na rin siguro

sweet_maldita · « **Reply #24 on:** February 23, 2020, 09:53:33 pm »

May mga questions lang po ako.

1. meron ba sainyo na may partner naman tlaga pero meron pa rin ka-fwb/fubu?
2. nag iilove you din ba kayo everytime na nagsesex kayo?

ultraman · « **Reply #25 on:** February 26, 2020, 07:36:49 am »

Quote from: sweet_maldita on February 23, 2020, 09:53:33 pm

May mga questions lang po ako.

1. meron ba sainyo na may partner naman tlaga pero meron pa rin ka-fwb/fubu?
2. nag iilove you din ba kayo everytime na nagsesex kayo?

Me. Guy here.
1. Yes. I don't know may nagyayaya sa akin di naman ako wafu.
2. Hindi ako na inlove sa lahat. Pero may isa na minahal ako sa simula pa lang. Akala ko FUBU lang but I fell in love... Di talaga sya FUBU for me. Matagal kaming friends and we've been thru tough times together in life and at work. Na-late lang sya sa buhay ko. Ako lahat naka-una sa kanya

. Sad but I need to let her go. Yan nga yung 1st month pa lang ng BF nya still contacts me kahit iwas na ako and when I decided to meet her for catch up, we did it (sex) sya pa nagyaya and she said she never gave it to her bf and no plan yet to give it to him and she still loves me.

Parang bf pa rin treat nya for me but I decided to let her go. She still contacts me every now and then and 3 months now with her BF but I decided to go no contact. I'm letting my heart heal too... I know this is the right thing to do...

PasimplengNaughty · « **Reply #26 on:** March 16, 2020, 02:42:49 am »

Uhmmn, none for now but I prefer a stranger as long as safe siya. I prefer knowing the person along the way or maybe during the deed?? haha..guy here.

NeilRudecat · « **Reply #27 on:** March 20, 2020, 07:10:31 am »

"^natawa ko sa part na"
PInapaniwala lang tayo tungkol sa pagiging irregegular na yan...para mabentahan tayo ng pills at condom. Kung malalaman lang natin o mapapag-aralan ang fertility cycle, mas magiging malaya at empowered tayo about our sexual expressions.

"Ni isa ba sa kanila hindi ka na-inlove?"
For me, real love takes time. Pero alam ko na nade-develop na ang feelings ko dun sa co-ed na nakikipagkita sa akin 1-2 times a month from May to Nov. 2018 ...para mag-check-in kami at gawin ang tinatawag namin na "secret Life" namin together. Smart siya at naniniwala ako na magiging successful siya sa studies niya at makakakuha ng magandang trabaho. I am already gainfully employed full-time. Willing ako na hintayin siya. Yun nga lang, young pa talaga siya. Magulo pa ang isip kaya ayun, nang pinilit ng isang manliligaw na maging sila, naging sila na. Nakipag-live in na siya.

"Samin, mga ilang weeks"
I think maraming tao, lalo na sa mga lalaki, ang hindi comfortable about their sexuality ang talking about sex. Ako, okay sa akin yun, na napapag-usapan. Yung may intimate conversations ...secret na kayo lang dalawa nakakaalam :-)

Quote from: sweet_maldita on February 15, 2020, 11:30:44 pm

^natawa ko sa part na alam mo kung kelan sila fertile at yung monthly period nila. Swerte mo sir kasi regular ang monthly period nila, mahirap kasi pag irregular isa sa kanila.

Ni isa ba sa kanila hindi ka na-inlove? Parang ang hirap kasi na makipag-do ng ilang beses tapos walang feelings na nadevelop ng isa sa kanila.

Samin, mga ilang weeks namin bago napag-usapan about sa nangyari samin. Gusto ko minsan iopen yung topic na yung pero nakakahiya naman. Minsan gusto ko sya ayain magpunta uli dun pero di ko alam pano sasabihin. Nagulat na lang ako last week nun sinabi nia na "parang nakakamiss mag-ano..haha". So dun na nagstart yung conversation namin about sa nangyari sa amin. Hindi lang kami natutuloy kasi busy sa work and wala kasama yung anak ko. (single mom here)

NeilRudecat · « **Reply #28 on:** March 20, 2020, 10:15:19 am »

1. meron ba sainyo na may partner naman tlaga pero meron pa rin ka-fwb/fubu?

Tinapos ko na yung sa amin ng partner ko dahil sa pagsisinungaling at panloloko niya. Para sa akin, pinakamahalaga sa lahat ang pagiging tapat at totoo. Tinuro ko yun sa mga naka-"date" ko. Kaya nung naging honest sa akin at sinabing may nanliligaw na o may boyfriend na, nakapag-usap kami at nakapagdesisyon ...stop na. Ayoko na makipag-sex kahit na gusto pa ng girl na nakaka-date ko. Mataas na ang risk nun sa HIV o ibang STD.

2. nag iilove you din ba kayo everytime na nagsesex kayo?

Oo, yung mga later na ...kapag mas comfortable na. Ako gusto ko na may love at passion, kahit na sa moment lang na iyon.

itsmechariz · « **Reply #29 on:** March 26, 2020, 10:05:26 am »

Fwb tas my partner.
Yes meron 🤓

NeilRudecat · « **Reply #30 on:** April 04, 2020, 03:41:16 am »

I refer to them as dates, because for me, they are more than just friends, but not yet exclusively dating ...not yet steady dates.

I've had four dates back in 2018. I was honest and open to them about me dating others, that seeing each of them almost always involve sex, and so they can decide if they would still be interested in me or not. It was fine for the three of them. The fourth one, a single mom, objected to it but continued to see me.

I hope I wouldn't be misunderstood or judged here. I am very much capable of committing myself to a monogamous and faithful relationship. I have done that for years. However, that was not enough, I guess. It was not enough to also bring out the sincerity and truth from my ex.

Today, I feel like I could express love and affection to more than one person. There's now a label for that - Polyamory. It's non-monogamous, but it is very much founded in real love, respect and honesty.

I believe that we all deserve to be fully informed so that we can make empowered decisions to love and commit ourselves to one or more persons

Here's an article about Polyamory:

I Have Two Boyfriends?And They Know About Each Other!
https://www.cosmo.ph/relationships/polyamory-real-people-relationships-a613-20190416-lfrm3

charliedeenfun · « **Reply #31 on:** April 10, 2020, 08:47:55 am »

Will try this recently, so exciting now.

MSkfran03 · « **Reply #32 on:** April 22, 2020, 05:06:52 pm »

Well, meron ako nuon.
May Jowa nga siya eh, kaso I dont know, everytime nagkikita kami or pumupunta siya sa lugar namin, lam mo na yun.
effort din nman kasi mga bess! malayo-layo din lugar nila samin.

Ashley123456 · « **Reply #33 on:** June 09, 2020, 03:25:33 am »

Ako i have ☺️ Bestfriend with benefits. Actually manliligaw ko sya before kaso things happen hindi kami naging magjowa pero sya nakauna sakin hanggang ngayon we are still doing that. First nya din ako sa lahat.

Ashley123456 · « **Reply #34 on:** June 09, 2020, 03:33:52 am »

Sa totoo lang mahirap tong setup na to lalo na pag ka naaattach ka na. Parang di mo rin mapigilan talaga yung feelings mo. Di mo naman masabi kasi delikado at baka umiwas lang sobrang close na namin halos pagkamalan na kaming magjowa at nagkakahawig na rin daw kami pero still magbestfriend lang talaga turingan

lonely_dad · « **Reply #35 on:** January 28, 2021, 09:06:12 am »

meron akong fwb friends pa rin naman kami until now. we still meet regularly except lang last year dahil sa covid
pag nagkikita kami strictly benefits lang talaga walang emotional attachment

OliviaBlakeMER · « **Reply #36 on:** May 26, 2022, 05:15:02 am »

If you spend a lot of time on dating apps, you've probably come across this acronym FWB, which stands for "friends with benefits. Personally for me it means - I found a partner I like to make love with, and in the end I didn't find myself on a dumpster, I want a quality union with a permanent partner, so that, not to sort out every time who likes to make love. Personally, I prefer to book an escort https://www.citybutterflies.com/location/chelsea/ . I like it better that way! And it is reasonable, for a quality intimacy you need to get used to your partner, get to know his body and his desires, not everyone can get relaxed the first night and give free rein to his instincts.

AlexaAlly · « **Reply #37 on:** September 12, 2022, 09:15:53 pm »

Everyone chooses the one with whom they are most comfortable. The most important thing is to talk about the seriousness of the relationship. I was also in a difficult one for a long time. It completely ruined my mental health. Therefore, I prefer to watch https://livepornguide.com/ . Men are nothing but trouble. It is excessive stereotypical thinking perhaps. By the way, can you advise me a good psychologist? It seems to me that a consultation would also help me. I hope that shortly I will be able to get rid of the consequences of this relationship

itsjustmekaye · « **Reply #38 on:** October 12, 2022, 02:52:16 am »

Quote from: Lurker_Man on February 22, 2020, 04:52:04 pm

me 8 years ago kinda fwb na fubu na rin siguro

Hi, newbie here. Anong difference ng fwb sa fubu?

NeilRudecat · « **Reply #39 on:** October 13, 2022, 05:56:30 am »

Quote from: itsjustmekaye on October 12, 2022, 02:52:16 am

Hi, newbie here. Anong difference ng fwb sa fubu?

FWB - Yung mas kilala ninyo ang isa't-isa. May pinagsamahan, may bonding at may malasakitan. Mas madalas mag-usap sa chat at parehas ninyong ine-enjoy ang pagkikita. Pagkatapos ng private, intimate moment together, at habang pauwi sa kaniya-kaniyang bahay, tuloy ang chat at messaging.

FuBu - Malalaman mo kung ano ibig sabihin ng "objectified" kasi parang icha-chat ka lang kung nalilibugan siya. Kapag na-satisfy na ang need niya, ni hindi ka ima-message kung nakauwi ka ba ng safe.

Bago mag-pandemic, may tatlo akong FWB at isang FuBu.

Sila ang nagyayaya at laging ang purpose nun ay for having sex.

Sa tatlong FWB, ang isa ay single mom from Makati ina halos every week kami. Isang professional na may MBA at double major sa UP at may sariling condo unit sa Quexon City, mga twice a month naman with her, at Isang college student sa Caloocan na every month nagyayaya.

Yung FuBu, she's in her early 20's working in Laguna. Nagbi-biyahe pa ako, so every two months lang.

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