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Title: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 05, 2020, 12:05:11 am
Hi. Anyone here na merong ka FwB? How was it? 😂
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: Half_Lifer26 on February 09, 2020, 08:13:49 pm
I haven't tried it but I wanna know as well how is it??  :D
How do you start out??
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 09, 2020, 08:39:38 pm
Idk. Its just started. Haha kababata kami. Haha
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 09, 2020, 08:47:33 pm
A common friend..Pero nagkakausap na kami (not about s*x).  Naging close, naging kumportable sa isa't isa hanggang sa ayon na napag-usapan na namin yung topic na  yun.

T'was my first time. Akala ko magkakailanganan na after nun. Akala ko hindi na kami maguusap after nun but I was wrong. Okay pa rin kami ngayon. HIndi naman namin pinaguusapan yung ginawa namin pero nagpaparamdam sya na gusto nya uli.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 10, 2020, 01:25:32 am
In my case, nauulit pa rin namin til now. Haha
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 10, 2020, 03:45:55 am
natatawa ako kasi kakasagot ko lang sa thread na to tapos bigla namin napagusapan yung about sa nangyari samin. Medyo awkward lang hehe.. Tinanong nya ako kung alam ko daw naman ba kung ano kelangan nya.. so sabi ko oo from the start alam ko. Pero ayaw daw nya magsalita ng tapos.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 10, 2020, 09:01:26 am
Hahaha ako nga once na magpm sya alam ko na yun e. Pag nagpm sya matic magseset na kami ng time at date kung kelan kami hahhaahaha at place pala. We?ve in this fwb set up since 2011 then na stop nun 2013 kasi nagka official bf ako. Then naulit ng 2018 then nastop ulit kasi nagwork ako abroad. Then this 2020 eto na naman. Ewan ko ba hehe di ko talaga alam kung bakit kami attracted when it comes to sex. Pero never naman naging kami. Hahaha
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: alice_alice on February 10, 2020, 10:09:59 am
meron ako neto kaso nawawalan na ako ng gana kasi naman naiinlove na si koya.  ::)
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 10, 2020, 01:05:09 pm
Bakit in a relationship ka ba while with your fwb? Haha
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: Half_Lifer26 on February 10, 2020, 07:18:18 pm
Idk. Its just started. Haha kababata kami. Haha
I see.. Hmm.. Siguro mas madali kapag may childhood friend ka.. Haha.. I don't have any childhood friend kaya siguro mahirap humanap ng ka fwb..  :'(
Hmm.. So it means nasa abroad ka ngayon pero may ka fwb ka pa din??
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 10, 2020, 08:17:29 pm
meron ako neto kaso nawawalan na ako ng gana kasi naman naiinlove na si koya.  ::)

Samin dalawa, mukang ako ang naiinlove sa kanya.  :( I'm trying to control my feeling. mahirap na baka di pala nya ko willling saluhin kawawa naman ako sa part na yun. :'(
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 10, 2020, 09:48:03 pm
Pinas ako now for a vacation. Babalik pa rin abroad. Pahinga lang konte. Hehe
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on February 10, 2020, 09:50:17 pm
Samin dalawa, mukang ako ang naiinlove sa kanya.  :( I'm trying to control my feeling. mahirap na baka di pala nya ko willling saluhin kawawa naman ako sa part na yun. :'(

Yes that part ang pinaka mahirap sa fwb. No emotional attachment jan. Kumbaga tibayan ng loob. Hahaha
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 10, 2020, 11:35:50 pm
Yes that part ang pinaka mahirap sa fwb. No emotional attachment jan. Kumbaga tibayan ng loob. Hahaha

Mukang ayaw nya na magkaron ng jowa kasi sakit lang daw sa  ulo at nag-eenjoy sya pagiging single.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: bad.det on February 10, 2020, 11:47:26 pm
Dyan din kami nag start ng partner ko now. Bestfriend ko siya sa work. Nagbreak kami sa kanya kanyang mga gf/bf naging fwb then nabuntis ako  :-\
He chose to stay, ako in love na ako. Pero I don't think siya din. LOL
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 11, 2020, 12:07:36 am
Good thing for you sis, atleast pinanagutan ka at naging kayo. Sana kami din..hahaha
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: ultraman on February 11, 2020, 06:51:26 am
guy here...kami dati... turns out ako inlove with her.... nagkaroon sya ng new bf... 1st month pa lang nila we still do it. not sure if I'm relegated to fwb... :(

She's in love with me she said but I leave her alone. I respect her new relationship... She still tries to communicate but I think I'm done. It's hard.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: bad.det on February 11, 2020, 12:22:25 pm
Aww parang ang hirap naman niyan. Gusto nyo isa't isa pero nag bf siya? Complicated masyado.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: conventionalbutrude on February 11, 2020, 04:51:30 pm
Hi Guy talker here recently late last year i had FWB with my former classmate back in high school. thru social media we have communications recently at first slightly shy type pa sa mga conversations then to make an interesting topic we talk about s*x exp. So may things i found out to her  like many experiences she had. to make the story short i invited her to an event (overnight) then  that's it..and happened again last December and hopefully this coming next month if my event ulit  :P :P
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: NeilRudecat on February 14, 2020, 11:04:41 am
Hi,

Dalawa na lang sila ngayon.  Isang single lady na na-meet ko online at nag-start kami in Aug. 2017 at single mom na HS Batchmate ko na nagsimula naman April 2018. 

Noong 2018 kasi, apat sila.  Nadagdagan ng  dalawa na NBSB at walang kahit anong experience (first timers): isang college co-ed beginning May 2018 at isang young employee na una kong na-meet in June 2018.  Nagkakilala kami through Facebook.  By the end of 2018, nagka-BF na itong dalawa, at kahit gusto pa na makipagkita at ituloy pa namin, umayaw na ako.

Honest and open ako sa kanila na may iba ako.  Choice naman nila na ako lang ang ka-partner.  Dumating din sa point na nag-open up ang bawat isa sa tatlo sa kanila ng feelings at kagustuhan na maging BF ako.  Tinutulungan ko each of them na i-process namin ang feelings na yun.  Para kasi sa akin, real love takes time.  Baka maging magulo o complicated lang kung papasok sa isang relasyon na hindi pa naman talaga handa.  Marami ang nagkakamali na nasa level pa lang ng attraction, infatuation o possession obsession eh ina-assume na real love na.

Hindi namin tinawag na Friends with Benefits.  Kay single lady, she called it "Private Time" and lately, "Ride."  We would see each other about once a month.  These recent months, I just visit her condo unit where she lives alone, at lately, nagpupunta na ako ng 4 am so she can have her early morning "Ride" before each of us go to work.  With the single mom, I learned about "CI or Check In."  It came to a point na she would ask for us to meet up to twice na in a week.  Ang gastos ko sa check-in, grabe.  The college co-ed and I called ours "Secret Life".  Magyayaya siya na magkita kami around 1-2 times in a month.  The young employee works and lives outside of Metro Manila, so once every 1-2 months lang ako nakakapunta sa lugar nila.

Kapag tinatanong ako kung ano ang tawag sa amin, I would say we are "Dating" and that makes us more than friends and nearly in a relationship.

We enjoy having sex to the fullest.  I never wore a condom at minsan nire-request pa na sa loob ako mag-release.  Walang nabubuntis dahil kabisado ko ang fertile and non-fertile days ng bawat isa sa kanila.  May record ako ng menstruation periods nila at intercourse days namin.  Kaya ko naman kahit quick computation.

HIndi nagbabago ang respect ko sa kanila.  For me, it's an extended learning experience of getting to know women and the beauty of the gender.

Sila ang nagyayaya.  Ako, naiisip ko lagi na parang hindi respectful ang mag-lure o mang-seduce ng babae o ako na lalaki ang magayaya mag-sex (sexual soliciation).

Usually nagsisimula sa kwentuhan na nauuwi sa usapang sex.  With three of them, sex chat muna.

Before these four, may mga one-night-stands lang.  Umayaw na pagkatapos ng isang pagkikita.

Mas marami ang hindi natutuloy.  Ina-advice ko kasi lagi na sana huwag muna subukan ang sex habang hindi pa married at sana sa asawa lang.  I love women in a general sense.  Ayoko nang may napapariwara, na may nabubuntis o nahahawa ng HIV/AIDS Virus, iba pang STD ...at nasisira ang buhay.  I am continuing to undertand the intense sexual urge and do my best to help in comprehending it.

Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 15, 2020, 11:30:44 pm
^natawa ko sa part na alam mo kung kelan sila fertile at yung monthly period nila. Swerte mo sir kasi regular ang monthly period nila, mahirap kasi pag irregular isa sa kanila.

Ni isa ba sa kanila hindi ka na-inlove? Parang ang hirap kasi na makipag-do ng ilang beses tapos walang feelings na nadevelop ng isa sa kanila.

Samin, mga ilang weeks namin bago napag-usapan about sa nangyari samin. Gusto ko minsan iopen yung topic na yung pero nakakahiya naman. Minsan gusto ko sya ayain magpunta uli dun pero di ko alam pano sasabihin. Nagulat na lang ako last week nun sinabi nia na "parang nakakamiss mag-ano..haha". So dun na nagstart yung conversation namin about sa nangyari sa amin. Hindi lang kami natutuloy kasi busy sa work and wala kasama yung anak ko. (single mom here)

Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: vanitygirl on February 17, 2020, 10:30:29 pm
12 years ago, I was in a FwB relationship with a man I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. No strings attached. Who wouldn't want that? No heartache. No drama.

I met him through a common friend. We used to hangout at my place. Just the two of us. Whenever I need him and whenever he needs me. Great, right?

We both knew we love each other. We used to tell that to ourselves. However, we also knew  that it was not good for the both of us.

I guess the thought of having someone around without putting your heart in danger makes it easier for us to stay in that kind of relationship.

Until I met this guy, who helped me see my worth. He made me realized that I should not settle for less. I risked everything about us by telling him about my crazy relationship. I thought it would make him leave, but he loved me even more. I stopped communicating with my FUBU (as they cal it) and moved to another place. Though I still think about him sometimes, I am pretty much happy with my beau now.  I guess you just really have to meet the right one. :)
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: ultraman on February 19, 2020, 07:12:49 am
Check also your heart. Seems like you are in a rebound.
Emotionally you are not ready if your are still thinking of him. This is the risk of FUBU and then fall!

Sometimes we just convince ourselves with "the one" but our heart is not telling it.

12 years ago, I was in a FwB relationship with a man I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. No strings attached. Who wouldn't want that? No heartache. No drama.

I met him through a common friend. We used to hangout at my place. Just the two of us. Whenever I need him and whenever he needs me. Great, right?

We both knew we love each other. We used to tell that to ourselves. However, we also knew  that it was not good for the both of us.

I guess the thought of having someone around without putting your heart in danger makes it easier for us to stay in that kind of relationship.

Until I met this guy, who helped me see my worth. He made me realized that I should not settle for less. I risked everything about us by telling him about my crazy relationship. I thought it would make him leave, but he loved me even more. I stopped communicating with my FUBU (as they cal it) and moved to another place. Though I still think about him sometimes, I am pretty much happy with my beau now.  I guess you just really have to meet the right one. :)
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: Lurker_Man on February 22, 2020, 04:52:04 pm
Hi. Anyone here na merong ka FwB? How was it? 😂

me 8 years ago kinda fwb na fubu na rin siguro
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: sweet_maldita on February 23, 2020, 09:53:33 pm
May mga questions lang po ako.

1. meron ba sainyo na may partner naman tlaga pero meron pa rin ka-fwb/fubu?
2. nag iilove you din ba kayo everytime na nagsesex kayo?
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: ultraman on February 26, 2020, 07:36:49 am
May mga questions lang po ako.

1. meron ba sainyo na may partner naman tlaga pero meron pa rin ka-fwb/fubu?
2. nag iilove you din ba kayo everytime na nagsesex kayo?

Me. Guy here.
1. Yes. I don't know may nagyayaya sa akin di naman ako wafu.
2. Hindi ako na inlove sa lahat. Pero may isa na minahal ako sa simula pa lang. Akala ko FUBU lang but I fell in love... Di talaga sya FUBU for me. Matagal kaming friends and we've been thru tough times together in life and at work. Na-late lang sya sa buhay ko. Ako lahat naka-una sa kanya :(.  Sad but I need to let her go. Yan nga yung 1st month pa lang ng BF nya still contacts me kahit iwas na ako and when I decided to meet her for catch up, we did it (sex) sya pa nagyaya and she said she never gave it to her bf and no plan yet to give it to him and she still loves me. :'( Parang bf pa rin treat nya for me but I decided to let her go. She still contacts me every now and then and 3 months now with her BF but I decided to go no contact. I'm letting my heart heal too... I know this is the right thing to do...
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: PasimplengNaughty on March 16, 2020, 02:42:49 am
Uhmmn, none for now but I prefer a stranger as long as safe siya. I prefer knowing the person along the way or maybe during the deed?? haha..guy here.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: NeilRudecat on March 20, 2020, 07:10:31 am
"^natawa ko sa part na"
PInapaniwala lang tayo tungkol sa pagiging irregegular na yan...para mabentahan tayo ng pills at condom.  Kung malalaman lang natin o mapapag-aralan ang fertility cycle, mas magiging malaya at empowered tayo about our sexual expressions.

"Ni isa ba sa kanila hindi ka na-inlove?"
For me, real love takes time.  Pero alam ko na nade-develop na ang feelings ko dun sa co-ed na nakikipagkita sa akin 1-2 times a month from May to Nov. 2018 ...para mag-check-in kami at gawin ang tinatawag namin na "secret Life" namin together.  Smart siya at naniniwala ako na magiging successful siya sa studies niya at makakakuha ng magandang trabaho.  I am already gainfully employed full-time.  Willing ako na hintayin siya.  Yun nga lang, young pa talaga siya.  Magulo pa ang isip kaya ayun, nang pinilit ng isang manliligaw na maging sila, naging sila na.  Nakipag-live in na siya.

"Samin, mga ilang weeks"
I think maraming tao, lalo na sa mga lalaki, ang hindi comfortable about their sexuality ang talking about sex.  Ako, okay sa akin yun, na napapag-usapan.  Yung may intimate conversations ...secret na kayo lang dalawa nakakaalam :-)

^natawa ko sa part na alam mo kung kelan sila fertile at yung monthly period nila. Swerte mo sir kasi regular ang monthly period nila, mahirap kasi pag irregular isa sa kanila.

Ni isa ba sa kanila hindi ka na-inlove? Parang ang hirap kasi na makipag-do ng ilang beses tapos walang feelings na nadevelop ng isa sa kanila.

Samin, mga ilang weeks namin bago napag-usapan about sa nangyari samin. Gusto ko minsan iopen yung topic na yung pero nakakahiya naman. Minsan gusto ko sya ayain magpunta uli dun pero di ko alam pano sasabihin. Nagulat na lang ako last week nun sinabi nia na "parang nakakamiss mag-ano..haha". So dun na nagstart yung conversation namin about sa nangyari sa amin. Hindi lang kami natutuloy kasi busy sa work and wala kasama yung anak ko. (single mom here)
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: NeilRudecat on March 20, 2020, 10:15:19 am
1. meron ba sainyo na may partner naman tlaga pero meron pa rin ka-fwb/fubu?

Tinapos ko na yung sa amin ng partner ko dahil sa pagsisinungaling at panloloko niya.  Para sa akin, pinakamahalaga sa lahat ang pagiging tapat at totoo.  Tinuro ko yun sa mga naka-"date" ko.  Kaya nung naging honest sa akin at sinabing may nanliligaw na o may boyfriend na, nakapag-usap kami at nakapagdesisyon ...stop na.  Ayoko na makipag-sex kahit na gusto pa ng girl na nakaka-date ko.  Mataas na ang risk nun sa HIV o ibang STD.

2. nag iilove you din ba kayo everytime na nagsesex kayo?

Oo, yung mga later na ...kapag mas comfortable na.  Ako gusto ko na may love at passion, kahit na sa moment lang na iyon.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: itsmechariz on March 26, 2020, 10:05:26 am
Fwb tas my partner.
Yes meron 🤓
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: NeilRudecat on April 04, 2020, 03:41:16 am
I refer to them as dates, because for me, they are more than just friends, but not yet exclusively dating ...not yet steady dates. 

I've had four dates back in 2018.  I was honest and open to them about me dating others, that seeing each of them almost always involve sex, and so they can decide if they would still be interested in me or not.  It was fine for the three of them.  The fourth one, a single mom, objected to it but continued to see me.

I hope I wouldn't be misunderstood or judged here.  I am very much capable of committing myself to a monogamous and faithful relationship.  I have done that for years.  However, that was not enough, I guess.  It was not enough to also bring out the sincerity and truth from my ex.

Today, I feel like I could express love and affection to more than one person.  There's now a label for that - Polyamory.  It's non-monogamous, but it is very much founded in real love, respect and honesty.

I believe that we all deserve to be fully informed so that we can make empowered decisions to love and commit ourselves to one or more persons

Here's an article about Polyamory:

I Have Two Boyfriends?And They Know About Each Other!
https://www.cosmo.ph/relationships/polyamory-real-people-relationships-a613-20190416-lfrm3 (https://www.cosmo.ph/relationships/polyamory-real-people-relationships-a613-20190416-lfrm3)

Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: charliedeenfun on April 10, 2020, 08:47:55 am
Will try this recently, so exciting now.  ;D
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: MSkfran03 on April 22, 2020, 05:06:52 pm
Well, meron ako nuon.
May Jowa nga siya eh, kaso I dont know, everytime nagkikita kami or pumupunta siya sa lugar namin, lam mo na yun.
effort din nman kasi mga bess! malayo-layo din lugar nila samin. ;D
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: Ashley123456 on June 09, 2020, 03:25:33 am
Ako i have ☺️ Bestfriend with benefits. Actually manliligaw ko sya before kaso things happen hindi kami naging magjowa pero sya nakauna sakin hanggang ngayon we are still doing that. First nya din ako sa lahat.
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: Ashley123456 on June 09, 2020, 03:33:52 am
Sa totoo lang mahirap tong setup na to lalo na pag ka naaattach ka na. Parang di mo rin mapigilan talaga yung feelings mo. Di mo naman masabi kasi delikado at baka umiwas lang sobrang close na namin halos pagkamalan na kaming magjowa at nagkakahawig na rin daw kami pero still magbestfriend lang talaga turingan
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: lonely_dad on January 28, 2021, 09:06:12 am
meron akong fwb friends pa rin naman kami until now. we still meet regularly except lang last year dahil sa covid
pag nagkikita kami strictly benefits lang talaga walang emotional attachment
Title: Re: Friends with Benefits
Post by: Hasloucertee on June 04, 2021, 11:12:16 pm
If you have the emotional strength to handle it, then I think it's a pretty great deal. Personally, I've never been able to hold my emotions apart, so it's not something that would work for me, but I have a lot of friends that have fun like that and I think it's awesome. I'm super thankful to have a partner and I would never change that. He just got me a harness from https://anoeses.com/uk/collections/harness last week, so he knows what I enjoy, something I think I wouldn't be able to find in a fwb.