... Me sakit si kung sino mang poncio pilato dun. pati pamasahe nila pauwi, ipapaproblema sa akin. they take advantage of our decency. parang wala kang puso kung di mo sila patutuluyin ng magdamag dahil di mo sila binigyan ng pamasahe pauwi. tama! they drain you dry because you're decent. i got to a point na parang, sige! magpakagago na lang ako kasi punong puno na ako sa katulong! pero matindi ang magandang asal na tinuro ng magulang ko sa akin kaya di ko pa din magawa...
Sis i understand your frustration, they bleed you dry and prey on your sense of decency. You would hear every possible sob story, yes lahat ng poncio pilato na pwede magkasakit... napansin ko rin yung ugali na they always play the "victim" card, victim sila ng poverty so lagi silang dehado na hindi sila makaka-angat sa buhay kasi mahirap nga raw sila, ito lang maabot nila so aasa sila sa yo, i wish i could change that mindset pero tendency they capitalize on that "victim behavior" paulit ulit, opportunistic na talaga
my yaya started with a 2,500 salary when my son was 8 months old, 7 years later and she has been very loyal, mabait, masipag (but not without flaws and quirks) her salary is now 5,000 + 1,000 transportation fare allowance. I told her hanggang dito na lang kaya ko ipasweldo, ceiling na. She has philhealth, Christmas and birthday bonus and stay-out siya, she has weekends off. She gets goodies from us, pasalubongs from trips and good condition hand-me-downs like clothes, toys, shoes of my son. She gets to take home ulam and toiletries supplies kung may sobra. We have been nothing but kind to her throughout the years. Yung CAs ang constant problem ko with her, lately I'm thinking of giving up on her because she has constantly been absent once a week, late for work and panay ang CA for various reasons (na ospital si ganito, lilipat sila ng bahay kailangan ng downpayment, papadala sa nanay sa province, etc).
Umabot na sa point I can't purchase anything of large value for our home or shop for personal things for myself, otherwise she will see this as a sign of "may pera si ate, try ko maka-bale" like clockwork it happens, di ko naman pinagdadamot yung money, I give her CA when I can spare it and i constantly tell her, you are making more than average compared to your counterparts, i was at least hoping may maipon ka for yourself, pero wala... lagi na lang ubos pera ng yaya and lagi na lang masakit katawan niya (in fairness to her she is as old as my mother) so I only expect her to clean at her own pace (we live in a small 2 bedroom apartment kaya stay-out siya). I try to think about the Pros and Cons of keeping her... like we adore her, matagal na siya sa amin, she defends my sons from bullies at school, may initiative siya, take-charge na babae, marunong ng good manners and etiquette (pag dating sa house matters and guests matters), listo naman- so yun na siguro ang upside with her. Its true its hard to find good help. I grew up in a household na walang maids, so she is my first yaya and kasambahay, she has been a long, eye-opening, learning experience for me.
