Can a Single Guy Fall for a Married Woman?

[berryblitz]

^ i am doing my job as a married woman.  Yes, for those na nangungulit ng s*x, i guess they are trying their best na baka pumayag ako kasi may pailan ilang matibay.  Kahit i don't reply.  Or tawagin ko pa syang iho or anak, malakas ang fighting spirit.  But that's another story.

My point is, the married woman might not give any initiative or sign na she likes the guy.  But still guys do try their luck with the married woman.  Baka sakali.

[aquacharly]

Eh what about my situation? During buyer meet ups, guy buyer ask questions about the product, of course i need to answer those queations truthfully.  I do not really smile that much with a male buyer.  Syempre nag smile ren naman ako. Hindi ako nakasimangot.  I answer all questions professionally. That is part of customer service.  But after the meet up, yung iba magtetext na.  Mangungulit na. 

Well,  the query as I interpreted it was "fall" as in fall seriously in love with or get really infatuated with a married woman.  IMO, most men are hands off sa married woman, unless nga bigyan ng encouragement. 

Your situation, como you are marketing something -- may mga (can't be helped) men who misjudge or try to take advantage.    Alam mo naman, they try to get away with it. .  It isn't that you are encouraging them, but ganon sila ka bilib hahaha sa sarili irresistible sila or ganon sila ka undiscerning you are just professionally friendly. 

I too get your kind of unsolicited attention. So sa meetings, lagi na ko nag bibitbit ng male  engineer employee.  Pag double meaning/may innuendo statement -- kunwari I didn't hear or hindi ko getz.   IMO, it's a cultural macho thing some men try to get away with. Haynako, lalo na pag ka deal mo government -- susko. 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Can a single guy fall for a married woman? Why?

doesn't this happen all the time, you naive girl. 

[berryblitz]

^^ government employee?  Bakit?  Government or private employee, or business man, parepareho lang sila lalaki.  What's with them?  Now ko lang nalaman ito ah. Pero teka, yung malakas na loob na government employees na sabi mo, good looking ba? Or talagang malalakas lang ang bilib sa sarili?

[ryan22]

yes. naniniwala ako dito.

[little_princess]

My former boss did, she had 4 kids from her first marriage and it was annulled. She re-married to a man her age, her childhood buddy. They have been happily married for 5 years.

[sugardrop]

^ i am doing my job as a married woman.  Yes, for those na nangungulit ng s*x, i guess they are trying their best na baka pumayag ako kasi may pailan ilang matibay.  Kahit i don't reply.  Or tawagin ko pa syang iho or anak, malakas ang fighting spirit.  But that's another story.

My point is, the married woman might not give any initiative or sign na she likes the guy.  But still guys do try their luck with the married woman.  Baka sakali.

I'm not questioning if you're doing your job as a married woman or not; I don't even know where that came from.

What I'm saying is that there might have been something you're not consciously aware of that made the guy think you could be interested in any way, shape, or form. Again, I'm not saying you are. Baka lang may na-misinterpret si guy.

Anyway, accept whatever help they offer as long as you're sure they're not expecting something else in return.

[berryblitz]

^ iniisip ko na actually kung ano ang nagawa ko at bakit ako ganun.  kasi from my point of view, sa aming mga magkakaibigan na may asawa, ako lang ata ang nahaharap sa ganitong situation.  well yes nagbago ako ng pananamit para akitin ang asawa kong manhid ata sa akin.  pero even before nung mangmang pa lang ako, nung 4th year college pa, there's something na hindi ko maipaliwanag.  aaminin ko, may mga ilang tao na nitag ako as malandi.  pero nagtataka ako kung ano ba ang ginawa, or nagawa ko.  kasi hindi ko talaga alam.  wala namang nagsasabi sa akin.  so hindi ko alam up to now.

and yes,  thanks sa forum na ito. my mind is kind of open.  kung sabi nila is friendship lang ang habol nila, well okay.  if they ask for more, then i would just tell them na no.  i won't complicate things na.

[sugardrop]

^
Best to ask those people who tagged you as malandi since only they can tell you why they thought of you that way. They saw something you and your friends didn't.

[berryblitz]

^

before when about 23 years old pa lang ako, yung isa (or more?) is inggit.  crush nya kasi yung kadepartment ko sa group of companies.  computer department kami.  programmer ako and yung guy.  the guy, every company ng group of companies meron syang pinopormahan.  ako hindi nya pinopormahan.  and inis pa nga ako sa guy na yun kasi panay porma, sinira nya yung isang program tapos sa akin nila papaayos.  and tingin nila is magaling magprogram yung guy and ako is akala nila bobo sa programming.  well yung guy pinatalsik sa company.  ako ang natirang programmer.

then there's a guy na tingin nya sa akin is malandi nung college pa lang kami.  kasi may isang higher batch na guy na dikit ng dikit sa akin.  at ako naman sa sobrang bangag ko dahil walang tulog kakagawa ng program thesis and dahil sabay ang work and studies, pinababayaan ko syang bumuntot sa akin, wag lang sya mangulit.

then yung ibang reasons, umiikot ren lang sa ganun.   baka i just talk to guys the way i talk to girls.  syempre may limit pag sa guys.  pero...   hindi ko ren mawari ano ang problem ko.


ah @sugardrop  , i guess i would ask the guys straight kung anong meron at bakit sila lumalapit sa akin.  straight from them para mafilter ko kung ano ang nagawa kong mali.  of course hindi ko sasabihin reason ko kung bakit ko gusto malaman.

[sugardrop]

^
Guys see things most women do not or see things differently.

[Emperior7]

yes, ofcourse, pero dapat alam nya na mali un..

[Paulo]

Eh what about my situation? During buyer meet ups, guy buyer ask questions about the product, of course i need to answer those queations truthfully.  I do not really smile that much with a male buyer.  Syempre nag smile ren naman ako. Hindi ako nakasimangot.  I answer all questions professionally. That is part of customer service.  But after the meet up, yung iba magtetext na.  Mangungulit na. 

I guess the more important question is .... how much is he going to buy?

Kidding.

Going back to the original Q, single guys can fall in-love with married women. In the same way that married guys can fall in-love with single women. Of course we can interchange the whole thing pitting married with married, and in the interests of equality, chicks on chicks .... the only gay relationship that's universally accepted really.

My point is, you pit a guy with a girl, married, single, "attraction" could happen. Of course again, one of them being married should be a deterrent. In most cases it is. At least it should in "civilized society". But I think somewhere along the way some men redefined Deterrent to "Obstacle" instead. We're slowly turning back into Vikings.

"^ iniisip ko na actually kung ano ang nagawa ko at bakit ako ganun.  kasi from my point of view, sa aming mga magkakaibigan na may asawa, ako lang ata ang nahaharap sa ganitong situation.  well yes nagbago ako ng pananamit para akitin ang asawa kong manhid ata sa akin.  pero even before nung mangmang pa lang ako, nung 4th year college pa, there's something na hindi ko maipaliwanag.  aaminin ko, may mga ilang tao na nitag ako as malandi.  pero nagtataka ako kung ano ba ang ginawa, or nagawa ko.  kasi hindi ko talaga alam.  wala namang nagsasabi sa akin.  so hindi ko alam up to now. "

There's such a thing as "dating". Some guys can sniff that out. In your case since you mentioned something about pananamit, it's easier I guess when all you have to do is look and be drawn in.

"i guess i would ask the guys straight kung anong meron at bakit sila lumalapit sa akin.  straight from them para mafilter ko kung ano ang nagawa kong mali.  of course hindi ko sasabihin reason ko kung bakit ko gusto malaman. "

That's probably not going to work. I mean, unless the dude is brutally frank, I don't think he'll admit "... and pera mo". ... Este, "Ang sexy mo kasi magdamit eh".

Seriously now, I suggest you ask a male friend. Someone who is close to you. Someone in the age range of your fan-guys. Someone who will tell you the truth. .... If you don't like what he says, unfriend him. Hahahaha.


In the final analysis, and this may not be a welcome Truth, .... Some Single Men prey on Married Women simply because sometimes, I works. And when it does, Man, it's easy to get rid of them because you know what? What they're doing is wrong to begin with. All you have to do is pretend you just realized that and they're off your backs.

[mc21]

..100% yes!!

[kermitdfrog]

happens all the time... 

[reachingout]

Kahit married, if she's attractive than I guess it's normal. Men are men.

[Girltalker2]

Your situation, como you are marketing something -- may mga (can't be helped) men who misjudge or try to take advantage.    Alam mo naman, they try to get away with it. .  It isn't that you are encouraging them, but ganon sila ka bilib hahaha sa sarili irresistible sila or ganon sila ka undiscerning you are just professionally friendly. 

This is not the so-called being in love. But rather, mang-isa baka makaisa.  Kahit sinong available at gullible.  Enjoy lang kasi ang peg nila, kaya kahit sino nasa harap nila na pumatol, eh di ok for them.
Ewan ko maybe it is just the skeptic in me, tingin ko sa Pinoy men in general eh kahit sino naman pinapatulan, kung sinong "puede". But at the end of the day, most likely, di naman iyan siryoso.

[cussler]

i did fell in love with a married woman. we did. it lasted for almost 2 years.

[MayVerona]

syempre lalo na mganda yung wife HAHAHA joke lang

[nylaner]

i did fell in love with a married woman. we did. it lasted for almost 2 years.

So what happened afterwards? curious though kasi umabot kayo ng 2 years