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To Return or Not Return?
« on: February 09, 2018, 01:22:12 pm »
I have a friend kasi who just broke up with her bf. Hindi siya makadecide kung isaaauli ba ang mga gifts ni bf or hindi. Ang sa akin naman kung yun yung paraan para makamove-on siya why not. Pero ok naman kung ayaw niya talaga. I know someone na ginagamit pa rin yung mga binigay ng ex niya. Kayo ba nga sis, anong ginawa niyo sa mga gamit na binigay ng mga ex niyo?

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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #1 on: February 09, 2018, 05:17:25 pm »
^isosoli ko lahat ng binigay niya, mas ok na yun para madali mag move on at saka para iwas kalat na din. 

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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #2 on: February 09, 2018, 08:09:04 pm »
Kung tipong mga jewelry, singsing or cellphone. Yes, ibalik. Pag mga letters naman at picture sunugin haha! Yes, nakakatulong yan sa pag move on kasi wala kang makikitang bagay nakakapag alala sa kaniya.
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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2018, 08:38:47 pm »
Eh pag toothbrush at deodorant! HAHAHA!

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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #4 on: February 09, 2018, 08:51:18 pm »
Sa experience ko, wala akong sinoli. Yung mga pwede kong idispose, tinapon ko lahat. The rest na functional pa, I kept and used them. Yung everyday work purse ko nun galing sa ex ko, di ko binalik kasi ginagamit ko naman, siguro it took another 2 years bago ko pinalitan yun kasi bumili na ko ng bagong bag. Then may binigay rin syang kumot saken, di ko na alam kun nasan pero ang alam ko nakatago lang yun sa mga blankets sa bahay ng parents ko.

Pero dun sa times na ginagamit ko yung mga bigay nya, di ko naman sya masyadong naalala, haha. Basta in my head, gamit ko yun, binigay ko yun saken kaya akin yun. Haha. I didn't see the point of giving it back. Feeling ko kasi napakadramatic naman kung isosoli ko pa. tsaka isa pa di na rin kami nagusap so wala na talagang sense kung magsolian pa.

Pero syempre ang ultimate tip siguro is to do what you think will help you move on.
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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #5 on: February 10, 2018, 01:39:05 am »
Huwag, sayang....it might be painful right now but there will come a time when you will look at those things and just reminisce and have funny memories. Magiging kwento mo nalang sa mga anak mo, ?Eto galing kay (ex?s name). But we broke up because blah blah...? sabay insert ng love advice at words of wisdom. 😄



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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #6 on: February 10, 2018, 12:10:29 pm »
3 mos na kami hiwalay ng ex ko. at first, gusto ko ibalik kasi nga naman diba nakakairita kapag nakikita ko hahaha pero ayaw niya, bigay daw niya yun nung okay pa kami bakit daw need isoli. So una, ipinatabi ko sa mama ko, yung hindi ko makikita tas ngayon naka-display na siya ulit. Tama naman na may happy memories kami dun so I kept them :) Yung mga damit, sinusuot ko parin :) Depende naman sa tao kung saan siya kumportable. Well, I suggest, tago mo muna tas pag tumagal, tingnan mo na ulit kapag masakit parin para sayo siguro dapat na i dispose, kung wala ka naman naramdaman after seeing those things eh baka pwede mo na gamitin ulit :)
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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #7 on: February 12, 2018, 02:36:52 pm »
sobrang immature ng balikan ng gamit. itapon mo kung ayaw mo makita. and wala din naman gagawin dyan ex mo. i think yung "solian" ng gamit is way lang naman talaga ng babae para makita pa uli yung lalaki e. mga pa-last goodbye drama.


kung ayaw niyo na sa binigay sa inyo, itapon niyo. pero kung gusto nyo gamitin, wag niyo itapon. and kung wala naman na din sa inyo yung guy, the "item" will just be an item. i still have the watch my ex gave me. wala naman ako attachment. i dont intend to return the things my bf gave me kung mag break man kami. itatabi ko lang siguro then pag ok na, i will use it again. sayang din naman.
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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #8 on: February 13, 2018, 12:07:34 pm »
I know someone who still uses yung mga binigay and pinatago ng ex niya. Mamahalin kasing mga sunglasses and watches yun so alangan naman itapon niya. Kahit nga yung pinatago sa kanyang mga gamit di na niya sinauli eh and super post pa siya sa FB niya using it and insunuating it is hers ( pag ako yun sobrang hiya ko na). So I guess, nasa tao din yan kung talaga bang gusto niya ibalik or hindi. Ako naman hindi ko na rin binalik yung camera na binigay ng ex ko. Pero siguro kapag pinatago lang gagawa ako ng paraan na isauli yun. Hindi naman bigay eh. I mean kapal naman ng mukha kong gamitin yung di bigay. Yung mga gifts hayaan mo na. Sayo na yun eh. Or like what the other Gtalkers mentioned, itapon mo kung gusto mo.
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« Reply #9 on: February 13, 2018, 01:56:11 pm »
Couple shirts yung mostly naiwan saken ng X ko, so yung iba pinamigay ko sa mga pinsan ko, kahit gawin nilang pambahay ok lang. May extra battery and lens ng camera na naiwan saken, sinama ko sa binenta ko nung binenta ko yung camera ko.

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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #10 on: February 13, 2018, 05:44:13 pm »
^^ ako din sis, yung mga couple shirts namin, ginagamit ko pa hahaha (Dalawa yun) Even the Casio watch that her mom gave, I?m still wearing it.
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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #11 on: February 14, 2018, 03:23:51 am »
sobrang immature ng balikan ng gamit. itapon mo kung ayaw mo makita. and wala din naman gagawin dyan ex mo. i think yung "solian" ng gamit is way lang naman talaga ng babae para makita pa uli yung lalaki e.

I don?t see it that way. IMO, may paraan naman para isauli without meeting like ipabigay mo through a common friend (though of course, meeting the ex to return the gifts is not immature naman). I have a friend na sinauli yung engagement ring- una sa lahat masydong mahal and she thought it would be unfair kung ikekeep niya yun. Some women like a clean slate before they move on.

Yung iba naman talaga ginagamit pa. Ako pinamigay ko yung mga naiwang gamit niya like shirts. However, kung mamahalin siguro ipapasauli ko through a friend. But the gifts, I kept it. Binigay naman sa akin kaya ok lang.

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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #12 on: February 14, 2018, 08:51:55 am »
for me if those are gifts then no need to return. pero kung pinahiram sayo ask him if he wants them back. my ex lent me some shirt, sweaters even an umbrella. when we broke up i asked him if he wanted them back pwede ko ipa LBC na lang. he forgot about it and asked me what stuff?

ako naman may mga naiwan pa sa place niya pero hindi ko na kinuha. medyo expensive rin na gamit but i told him to throw it away. although amicable naman ang break up namin my pride is telling me not get them back baka isipin pa niya i'm using it as an excuse get back together.

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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #13 on: February 14, 2018, 11:02:32 am »
^^ engagement ring should always be returned pag hindi natuloy ang kasal. it's not a gift, its a symbol na magpapakasal kayo so kung hindi natuloy, it should always be returned. courtesy to the guy na di mo na itutuloy yung kasal and for breaking his heart. yung iba nga lang nag rerecycle ng engagement gift daw. (nabasa ko sa ibang thread) LOL
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Re: To Return or Not Return?
« Reply #14 on: September 11, 2018, 10:11:23 pm »
Kapag binigay na sa iyo, you have no reason to return it. It's called a gift.

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« Reply #15 on: August 25, 2022, 09:56:19 am »
Pagkatapos ng paghihiwalay, venge io itatapon ko lahat ng souvenirs gaya ng teddy bear o damit,... smash karts I think wala na silang meaning na dapat itago.

 

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