“I was disrespected. I was betrayed. I was lied to. I was used. I was shamed. I was made to look so stupid,” Carla Abellana says in her statement as she finally breaks her silence on her separation from her estranged husband Tom Rodriguez.
In a lengthy YouTube statement, she painfully recounted the pain she endured for seven years at the hands of her longtime partner and fellow Kapuso star, even hinting at having experienced domestic abuse.
Her statement comes after being cornered by a netizen, who criticized her for liking Ai-Ai Delas’ cheating-related post. “Bakit? Takot ka mabasa na hypocrite ka. Wag ka magbait-baitan kasi hindi ka mabait,” accused the commenter. To which, Carla replied, “Ayaw ko lang po ng negativity."YouTube/Carla AbellanaInstagram/carlaangeline
Pushing the issue further, the netizen didn’t stop there, sharing her unsolicited advice on Carla and Tom’s separation and pointing out how the actress could’ve better handled the issue.YouTube/Carla Abellana
Provoked by the netizen's remarks, Carla finally spoke up, revealing her side of the story.
“Opo, nag-like po ako, pero yun lang po ang ginawa ko. Hindi ko na po yun inulit. Nag-like po ako pero hindi ko po ginawa ng paulit-ulit at ng matagal. Ang taong lubos na nasaktan hirap pong pigilang hindi ilabas ang galit sa anumang paraan.”
“I was disrespected. I was betrayed. I was lied to. I was used. I was shamed. I was made to look so stupid. Kung sana hanggang dun lang po makakabangon din po ako balang araw,” she stated, saying that made-up stories spread about her and her family were what made things even worse.
According to Carla, she gave nothing but love to her longtime beau. ”Wala po akong ibinigay kay Tom kundi tunay na pagmamahal, respeto, pag-aalaga, pag-aaruga, pag-unawa, pagtitiis, sangkatutak na pagpapatawad, milya-milyang pasensya, paniniwala, pagtiwala, pag-aasikaso, pag protekta, lahat lahat na.”Instagram/carlaangeline
During the duration of their seven-year relationship, she revealed that she has been repressed with her actions, for fear that Tom might do something to hurt her. “Binigay ko po buong buhay ko sa kanya. Pitong taon po akong bawal magalit, magtampo, masaktan, mabigo, malungkot, madismaya dahil hindi po pwede.
“Makakatikim po ako kahit subukan ko pong ipaliwanag sa kanya na nasasaktan niya ako at hindi po tama ang mga ginagawa niya. Paulit-ulit ko pong pinapaalala sa kanya na hindi po ako kalaban at mabuti po ang kalooban at intensyon ko.
“Pitong taon pong naipon sa loob ko lahat yun. Gustuhin at kailangan ko man pong ilabas, lubos na nakakakatakot po.”
She also shared that she even advised Tom to seek help from a therapist regarding his behavior, but the actor refused to heed her advice. Despite everything, she chose to marry him. “Tinanggap ko parin po siyang ng walang pagdududa kahit wala pong pagbabago. Hinarap ko po siya sa altar. Buong puso po akong determinadong alagaan ang pagsasama at pagmamahal namin, at panindigan ang mga sinumpaan namin sa harap ng Diyos."
She added, "Sa dami po ng binigay ko kay Tom wala na pong natira sakin. Galit, pride at ego ko siya narin po ang kumuha sakin at hinayaan ko naman pong kunin din po niya. Pinaglaban ko po siya ng lagpas pitong taon.”
In the end, Carla emphasizes that she’s not a bad person, and that everyone should be mindful of what they see online. “Hindi po ako masamang tao. Kung ano po ang nakikita, naririnig at nababasa ninyo online ay kakarampot lang po ng hindi po ninyo nakikita, naririnig at nababasa kapag wala pong kahit anong camerang naka-record.”
“Hindi po ako masamang tao tulad ng sinasabi, nararamdaman, naririnig at nakikita po ninyo online, sa TV, etc. Pinalaki po ako ng nanay at lola ko na marunong rumespeto, umunawa, magmahal, magpatawad, magpasalamat, magpakumbaba, at higit sa lahat may takot po siya Diyos.”
Read her full statement below: Instagram/carlaangeline
This story originally appeared on Cosmo.ph.
* Minor edits have been made by the Female Network editors.