They started out as best friends a few years back, but now Kristine Hermosa and Oyo Boy Sotto are enjoying their first months as a married couple. Having both been in rocky relationships that influenced their views on romance, it took some time for Oyo to express his feelings for Kristine and even longer for her to admit she felt the same.
The two have come a long way since then. Now the lovebirds are confident about their feelings, and they’re excited to embark on a new chapter in the relationship (plus, they’re expecting a baby!). They candidly recount their love story and dish relationship advice in the June 2011 issue of Good Housekeeping Magazine! Read on for five tips from this lovely couple.
1. RESPECT EACH OTHER.
Kristine and Oyo believe that respect is vital in making a relationship work. “Naalala ko nung engaged na kami, sabi ng pastor, ‘Kailangan respetuhin mo kung sino si Tin. Kailangan mo isipin ‘yung pinagdaanan niya, kahit nung bata pa siya (I remember, when we got engaged, the pastor said, ‘You have to respect Tin’s identity. You have to think of what she’s gone through, even when she was younger),’” Oyo shares.
2. PRACTICE SELFLESSNESS.
When you’re in a relationship, you have to stop thinking of just yourself and start considering how your decisions affect your partner. Kristine says, “Medyo kailangang ibaba pride mo. Kahit mahirap, kahit feel mo hindi mo kasalanan. Kumbaga magiging selfless ka. Hindi mo kailangang isipin sarili mo palagi. (You have to let go of your pride a bit. Even if it’s hard, even if you feel like it’s not your fault. You become selfless. You don’t have to think of yourself all the time.)”
3. BE PATIENT.
Every relationship is a never-ending process that constantly changes and surprises you. This means that in order to make it work, you both have to put in a lot of effort. “Kailangan mahaba ang pasensya mo (You have to be patient),” Kristine explains. “Di pwedeng bigla ka na lang gi-give up. Di pwedeng basta mo na lang sabihin, ‘Ayoko na talaga.’ (You can’t suddenly give up. You can’t just say, ‘I really don’t want to do this anymore.’)”
4. STRENGTHEN YOUR FAITH.
“Siyempre si God dapat andiyan sa buhay niyo. Sa pinagdaanan ni Tin at ako—‘yung mga past relationships namin—ang hirap eh (Of course, God should always be in your lives. Looking at what Tin and I have gone through—our past relationships—it’s hard),” Oyo says. “Pero ngayon, sa buhay ng mag-asawa, kailangan mo eh. Kasi ang daling umayaw eh. Lalo na pag may away. Ang daling sabihing, ‘Bahala ka, maghiwalay na tayo.’ Pero kung gagawin niyong sentro si God, walang imposible. (But now, when you’re married, you need it because it’s so easy to say no—especially when you fight. It’s easy to say, ‘I don’t care, let’s split up.’ But if you make God the center of your lives, nothing is impossible.)”
5. REMEMBER THAT LOVE IS ALSO A DECISION.
Oyo Boy shares advice he got from his pastor back when he was confused about his feelings for Kristine. The pastor said, “Decision dapat yung pagmamahal mo for her. Huwag mo lang i-base sa nararamdaman mo, kasi mas marami ka pang hindi nakikitang maganda diyan, and I’m sure mas marami pang hindi nakikitang maganda si Tin sa’yo (Loving her should be a decision. Don’t just base it on your feelings because there are so many negative things you haven’t discovered about her yet, and I’m sure it’s the same for Tin when it comes to you). But, when you’ve decided to love the person, love will conquer all.”
To learn more about Kristine and Oyo, grab the June 2011 issue of Good Housekeeping, out on stands now!
Also in this issue:
- Easy Baon Ideas
- 30+ Tips for Newlyweds
- What’s the best kind of high school for your kid?
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